I’m glad you like my adhd Marella headcanon—do you have any additions on how that affects her everyday life and how Fitz helps her 👀
She likes hands on learning. So with school assignments, if she's stuck sitting down and reading a book or writing a long paper with very little creative freedom she feels super boxed in and bored to tears. So studying is not one of her strong suits.
When she has a big test coming up or books to read, Fitz will read them out loud to her and come up with niche conversational points on the topic they're reading about to keep her engaged. She'll usually be training to control her abilities and work on her combat moves as he does.
She can be forgetful when it comes to taking care of herself, a byproduct of always caring for her mother and not putting herself high up on her list of priorities, but also just general executive dysfunction.
Fitz leaves color coded sticky notes all over the place for her. Some of these have flirty little quips written on them, mixed in with a sincere "Alchemy test on Friday. Let me know if you need help studying." and "Please drink water today" (He often has to be the one to fill up her water bottle for her, or it won't happen.)
Some days he offers to come over and help with her mom so she can just take a break. Because sometimes she gets such bad task paralysis she can barely move. It's like her brain is running a loop of 'Do this. You need to do this. Get up. Get up. You'll be less anxious If you do it" and she just cannot move. He'll help her clean the house and fold the laundry she's left in a pile on her bed.
When she gets really excited about something and her brain is going a million miles a minute, her fingers will spark literally. She set a curtain on fire once because she was ranting to Fitz about how much she loves baking and creating new recipes with him.
It's happened in public a few times. Her hands sparking with excitement.
It also happens when she's really nervous/anxious. Fitz has a small burn on his hand from quickly grabbing hers to hide it when they were at school and people were whispering about her being 'talentless' Because the last thing Marella needs is to be outed as a pyrokinetic.
She felt awful about it after but he insisted it was okay, that it hardly hurt.
Marella is an external processor. The brain to mouth filter is almost non-existent. Which is part of the reason Fitz loves talking with her so much. There's no secrets. She has to talk to realize what she's really thinking and feeling, and Fitz is great at listening and stopping her from spiraling too hard
She has many hyperfixations, but often not enough time to really indulge in them. She loves to bake with Fitz, read poetry and collect oddities and trinkets from small shops in Mysterium. When she can't really get into her hyperfixations, she gets antsy. They're her outlet.
So- like your idea- he's constantly dropping little dopamine boosts any time he can. He'll tell her a cool fact about one of her trinkets, share human and elvin poetry with her and set up days where they can just bake together.
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Saw the “Chara Week” art week idea proposed a couple weeks ago and Chara Dreemurr is the only character that my executive dysfunction ridden brain can make the exception of allowing me to draw fanart of, so I decided to seize the opportunity.
I was going to try at some rendering stuff but just getting this flat-color drawing alone done took me like 3 and a half hours so I decided to call it there. But I think I did at least okay for the first finished digital art I’ve done in like, a year.
(Oh, the prompt for day 1 is “Family” in case you couldn’t tell.)
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Slowly coming to the realization that I actually do want IRL friends I can rely on, I just really don't want to put myself out there, go through the awkward stages of getting to know someone that involves hanging out, and then having to do stuff to maintain that friendship when I actually wanna be alone most of the time.
Man, being autistic and extremely introverted kinda sucks when it comes to this whole "making friends" thing.
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quick update
Hola everyone!
Just writing a thing to say I SEE all the messages that've been sent to my inbox and I'll promise I'll get round to them soon! I've been doing National Novel-Writing Month (NaNoWriMo) this year (as well as some job-huntng lolol) and it's taken up a lot of my spare mental energy. Low-key it feels like all I can do to make sure that the queue doesn't run out of submissions xD
Next month I'll get to everyone's image requests - promise! - and also to those 10K celebrations I mentioned a little while ago! (I've been cooking some stuff up behind the scenes for that milestone, don't y'all worry)
And. Yeah that's about it from me. Stay tuned, thank you for your patience, love y'all, adios <3
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Little AuDHD complaint under the readmore (skip over if you can't be bothered with the negativity because even I can't be bothered with my own feelings right now)
I've been struggling a bit this week - likely PMS which has now become a late period - but my friend is coming down this weekend. Originally we had plans for her to come down Friday but that moved to Saturday for reasons beyond her control. I've been thinking about it all week and trying my best to get the house organised and all that but it's been hard to even look after myself. Like I can't concentrate at all either so I'm just having a hard time being a functioning human. I've failed to get half as many things done as I planned but I really tried.
I was supposed to pick her up at like 11am at the train station but now she's said that another friend will be around at that time so she'll just meet me at 1pm at the location we planned to meet up with our mutual friend. And I know to most people this is totally reasonable, like why wouldn't you try and see as many friends as possible when you're not often in the area?
But it always just makes me feel like I'm just an option when this kind of thing happens? Like I'm an interchangeable friend or a box to be ticked rather than THE reason she's coming to visit. I matter so little that a last-minute spontaneous meeting with someone else takes priority.
It also messed with my plans and one thing I really struggle with is spontaneous changes in plans. I can't force people to comply with this because I'd just feel selfish but it completely throws me off, especially when I'm in this state where everything is so hard for me to keep together.
Idk man it's probably worsened by rejection sensitivity dysphoria - scratch that, it's TOTALLY worsened by that. I'm incredibly sensitive and I have to keep it in check constantly.
Even if I rationalise the situation and know there was no intent to hurt me and ofc my friend cares for me, it doesn't change the initial 'oh...' feeling of my heart sinking a little bit. Which makes me feel pathetic which makes me feel insane which makes me feel even worse about myself even though I shouldn't beat myself up over my neurological disabilities.
Just another joyful day of feeling shame when people hurt me because the hurt I feel is unintentional on their part and people don't think the way I do. Rationality only goes so far. I still feel like a very sad individual right now.
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