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positivelypositive · 7 months

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🌼

if you've ever...

...helped someone out of the goodness of your heart, then know that it is just as okay for you to accept help too.

did helping someone make you think less of them? if not, then extend the same kindness to yourself.

asking for help only makes you self aware and open hearted. let yourself get the help you need, without judging yourself ✨

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that-one-lotr-orc · 7 months

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Hello codeblr, I’m looking for some advice! I have this idea I wanna make, I’m passionate about it, I got the technical skills to get it done, l but my trouble is doing the work on it!

I find it really hard to slice it up in smaller parts, know what I have to do when, and it just keeps being to big for my feeble brain to comprehend it all (even tho it ain’t that big).

How do other people do this? Anyone got advice, systems, articles on this? How do you organize your side projects?

#codeblr #asking for advice #please help

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dragons-homebrew-hoard · 5 months

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I’m curious and not able to do proper research rn, how do other combat oriented ttrpgs handle health? Both player and enemy health.

I’m trying to simplify things on the gm’s side for my ttrpg Tales from the Aether and came up with this idea and I wanna know if other ttrpgs have similar ideas or did it better

Players have a health number that is reduced through dice from enemy attacks like normal dnd/pathfinder.

Enemies have a number of hearts. Each heart is worth 10 points of damage. When a player strikes an enemy and deals damage, round to the nearest fifths place (10, 15, 20, etc) and the player deals X amount of hearts. (1, 1 and a half, 2), etc. when the enemy runs out of hearts, it dies. Healing works the same way.

My reasoning is: when I’m a player I love rolling to see how much damage I do so I wanted to keep that part of the game while alleviating the math burden for the gm so the game’s pacing doesn’t drag.

Implementation: my system would come with templates for enemies you can print/fill out online, etc that come with hearts. You fill in the hearts as the creature takes damage and erase hearts that have been healed.

What are ur thoughts? What other ttrpgs handle health like this or similarly or within the same spirit?

#tales from the Aether #ttrpg #indie ttrpg #asking for advice

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spruzu · 17 days

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Little rant about drawing/asking for advice

>So my main thing is how do i make my art look ''neater'' and stay in one style (my style).

-So i use reference photos whenever a draw a sonic character or I just copy a screenshot from a game or Tv show to practise/analyse but when i use say, a Sonic Boom photo it will always have the look of Sonic Boom and the same with Sonic prime or Frontiers. They always look similar and never in my ''own style''. I put my own style in quotations because I'm still trying to find my art style and it's starting to seem like copying/using reference photos doesn't help. However, when i use many different references from different games for sonic it never feels like MY style, i never end up liking fully there's always a part i want to change but have no clue what.

My question for that paragraph is: Do i need to experiment more? And do i need to stop using as many references?

-My second point is: I want to be a digital artist but don't have the money for it yet (hopefully in the future i'll get an ipad or drawing tablet). But, how do traditional artists make their art look like it's done more ''digital''. For example, with the shading or the colouring or the outlining.

What is the best way to improve and find MY artstyle? What's the best stationary to use, do i need to experiment with that to?

Just to add on to this, the characters are mostly Sonic, Shadow and Tails not so much Knuckles (I don't really draw Amy or Rouge). Any advice would be really appreciated even if it's small :]

#Drawing #Sonic #sth #asking for advice #advice #drawing advice #sonic the hedgehog #sonic art #sonic fanart #sonic drawing #artstyle #fanart #my fanart #my artstyle #my art #questions

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laura-the-locust · 27 days

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Ok, I know there is at least one system following me. I need advice here.

See, from what I understand, a singlet's brain works like this:

While a system's brain works like this:

But I'm pretty sure I'm more like this:

So, two questions:

1. Did I even understand/showcase it correctly? I'd love constructive feedback.

2. Does this mean I'm plural, even though the personalities are not separated? Would resources for plural people help in my situation?

Additional context:

I don't experience other people talking in my head, it's more like there are different versions of me that take over at different times, but they don't really communicate with each other. Of course, the mere thought of "different versions of me" brings such delightful (sarcasm) conundrums as "which is more representative of the person known as Laura?" Or "how can I ever have a sense of self when who I am keeps changing back and forth?"

#plural #asking for advice

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fesmanorthyra · 3 months

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Norse pagans! I need your help!

I have some questions for you. I’m writing a story where one of the main characters is Norse pagan and I’d like to include a ritual of hers in the story. The question are these:

How does a ritual go?

If you have an altar, what kinds of offering do you put on it?

What do you think I should watch out for when writing this character?

I also accept any kinds of tips and advice. Thanks for your answers in advance!

#paganism #norse paganism #ritual #writing #nature #advice #asking for advice #asking for tips #book characters #books #story writing

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mundrakan · 4 months

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Dear Mutuals. I have this one scene (under the cut). Can anyone tell me what to do with it? I am clueless, helpless, hopeless. It's... well, at least I hope it's good, but... I can't explain where to get there and how to get out again...

Also: kind of a little gift for @metalomagnetic

When Sirius walked through the door, Tom could tell he was in pain, even though the boy didn't show much, compared to most people. But Tom, like him, was used to hiding it that he saw all the small signs, the shoulders too drawn back to be comfortable, the overly precise movements and the way he looked straight ahead as if meeting someone's eyes would make him break.

Tom frowned. Jealous rage was not exactly the reaction someone should have, when another person came for their help after being cursed, much less if it was a student one was supposed to protect, but given the fact that this was Sirius Black and therefore literally the only reason the current 7th-years were even worth teaching them, Tom felt justified. “Who did this?” he asked, even before Sirius could explain why he was here.

With only the smallest sigh of relief Sirius sat down in the chair opposite his desk and shrugged, ignoring the fact that he had not been invited in the first place. “How would I know? The bastard hexed me in the back. Had Slytherin robes, though.” Despite the pain he looked cheeky, with hard, challenging eyes. “For all I know you could have orchestrated it. Hell, could have been it.”

He was not wrong, Tom had a thin enough built that he could still pass as student, if he tried, and he was not above making someone hex Sirius if only it brought him here. Which only made it more annoying that he hadn't. That someone else dared touch something he defined his, if not openly. “Why did you come then?”

“Are you kidding?” Sirius sat up straight-backed like the good pure-blood child he was. “I'm not exactly friends with the other Heads of House either, and they will come looking, when I hex the Slytherins back, once they know I have an open tab with them.”

“And I won't?” Tom chuckled, the amusement slowly replacing the rage.

“Nah.” Sirius waved it off. “You'd pretend, if someone caught wind, but that's it.” His eyes scoured the room, taking in all the little details with great care, as he was very clearly gathering ammunition.

Tom didn't begrudge it. Most Gryffindors were... stupidly good. Sirius had never even touched that terrain. He always stood with one leg firmly in Slytherin territory, keeping an eye on his enemies and even watching his friends. He knew better than not to. “So, are you going to help me or not?”

Tom left his seat, strode around the desk slowly and then turned the chair, so he could face Sirius directly. “Oh, I am.”

“At what price?” Now his face was under the same scrutiny as his room had been.

“I am a teacher, I am supposed to...”

“You are a Slytherin, and you will ask for a price.” Sirius knew him too well for comfort, and with anyone else he would have taken... measures. But he liked it, how the boy slowly spiralled along the edge of his attraction, being pulled in bit by bit by bit. It would have been a pity to destroy that.

“How about a kiss?”

Tom took solace in the fact that Sirius was close to his coming of age. This kind of dubious look just didn't belong to a child. “I haven't kissed, and I won't kiss you.”

“So...” Tom pushed down the new waves of jealousy threatening to overwhelm common sense. “How'll get the honour? What disappointing wench or irrelevant guy will have your first kiss then?” Instead of him, who deserved it, who would value it accordingly.

Sirius lips ticked into a smile, but it dissolved into a grimace right away, as he was reminded of his pains. “None of your business. So... are we done?”

“What about this?” Tom wasn't so fast to give up. “For once you come visit me when you don't need my help.”

“When?”

“Tomorrow? Office hours?”

Sirius hissed, but caught himself again fast. “Not scared that your dear Slytherins will figure out your little scheme of wooing a Gryffindor?” It was scary how much he understood with how little context.

“No. If things go my way – and they will – they'll congratulate me on my cunning.”

Sirius rolled his eyes. “If you say so. But okay. Tomorrow.”

Tom leaned in, whispering into his ear, so his breath hit the lobe. “I take your word for it.” Then he waved his wand and removed all curses and hexes present on Sirius with just one wave of his wand. “There you go.”

Sirius didn't bother to thank him, when instead he could pay up. He turned the chair just enough so he could get past Tom's arms, as he stood up. “I see you tomorrow then.”

What should have been an icy shower, made Tom almost giddy with anticipation.

#writing #asking for advice #help? please?

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purpurrock · 4 months

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Genuinely conflicted rn. Please read the whole thing /g

I'm so sure my sister has ADHD and her room is absolute shit because of it. My mom will literally threaten her, beat her, scream at her etc every single day about it but since she literally has a mental disability, it isn't helpful at all. The thing is that my mom isn't the type that tries to help and figure out the root of the problem but just reacts to the results. She isn't gonna listen to me (blah blah blah, so you think good parenting is just letting your kids do whatever they want?) And in general this girl is just,, sensory hell for me and I don't really get along with her.

I don't know what to do. I want to tell my mom that I think she, y'know, has a fucking mental disability so she can get evaluated and accommodated and maybe she'll actually be treated right. But my mom is really ableist so I don't know if it'll be safe for her. I'm undiagnosed/selfdx AuDHD but when I was her age I didn't struggle as much with keeping my room clean, even though I still got shit and continue to get shit for pretty much being disabled (my mom doesn't know I'm disabled). But as I'm typing this, my mom is literally screaming at and hitting my sister and literally said "I don't want a r*tard child" and she doesn't even know she has a fucking disability. I don't know if there's an ADHD version of ABA therapy but if there is my mom would definitely send her there. Plus, my sister is literally an afab black kid- I wouldn't be surprised if they didn't do anything. Or worse, decided to label her with some personality disorder or anxiety disorder or literally anything that isnt ADHD. Being misdiagnosed professionally can really harm someone, and my mom being the abusive ableist she is, plus the world just hating disabled people, disordered people, and black afab people... I just don't want to make her life worse, y'know? But I feel like I'm making it bad by not doing anything anyway. I don't know how to help her, and my mom doesn't listen to me anyway ("I'm the adult youre the child""you spend too much time on the Internet""you don't get to tell me what to do"). It's just that as someone with trauma from being abused for being disabled, I don't want to watch someone else who is much smaller go through the same exact thing from the same exact person. I don't know what's the best option here and I'm just asking for advice.

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paperfromtoilet · 16 days

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Dear neurodivergent people of Tumblr,

I need your advice.

I'm autistic with ADHD and I need to start earning money soon. But I know I won't make it in a typical shift 9-5 job. It would make my nervous system too overwhelmed and I would end with a severe depression (it happened back during school times). Also I'm not able to focus for that long.

Can you recommend any auadhd friendly jobs and careers? How do you earn money? How to find an autism-friendly job? Can you share any advice? Is it hard to make it in a typical office? Is it possible to enjoy your hobbies and passions even after an exhausting work day? Is the IT sector really autism-friendly?

I'm really lost and depressed. For now my family supports me financially but it won't last forever.

I appreciate any piece of advice 🌱

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k41tlyn8487 · 7 months

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How do you know if your feelings for someone are romantic or platonic?

Asking for a friend

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audhd-space · 7 months

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ASKING FOR OPINION/TIPS/SUGGESTIONS/SUPPORT:

Okay, I am planning to go back to academia for postgrad after maybe 5-6 years of leaving uni life?

How true is it when they said:

“Just be yourself when you write your personal statement!”

“the admission officer want to get to know you as a person when they are reading your application”

when writing personal statement for university application for a neurodivergent who’s planning to apply for inclusion/disability studies ?

(I’m AuDHD so I have no idea how literal I have to take these statements and whether I should take it at face value or if this is about performing acceptable amount of true self again)

I’ve read about the rank of this university and how great they are at providing support and alternative learning style, which is partly what interests me, but I still worry about being discriminated if I reveal about my disability as a part of my motivation to apply for study.

Please help!

I need opinion, suggestions, tips and support in any kindest and supportive ways you can offer now.

Thank you!

#asking for advice #disability #personal statement #academia #ableism #discrimination in academia #concerns #neurodivergent #actually autistic #autism #chronic illness #chronic pain

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aro-absol · 2 months

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Has anyone any ideas on how to come out to mildly conservative parents as aromantic?

I bought myself a pin for ASAW (I will post it soon but it'sa plain flag pin) and I wore it on my bag yesterday when having dinner with my parents and now my mom has asked for its meaning twice already.

They're not like super conservative so I don't think I'm in any danger (if that was the case, I would not have worn the pin) but they know nothing about LGBTQ+ topics and have had very little exposure to the community (my mom's hairdresser is gay. And there's a very lose acquaintance of mine who she also knows who's a trans men. But that's pretty much it. And when it comes to my dad, I'm not sure he has any queer person in his life.)

So, I think the concept of being aromantic or aspec would be entirely new to them. I honestly thought my mum wasn't this attentive with my bag, so I'd have at least a few more days to come up with a coming out plan. But she really wants to know now, so I guess I have to come up with something really quickly.

Also, I don't want to stop wearing that pin because it makes me happy.

Any help would be genuinely appreciated, really any idea would help.

#aromantic #aro #asking for advice #coming out #asaw #asaw 2024 #things I wrote in one sitting without proofreading

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bluevaractyl · 6 months

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Anyone have tips for what to eat when you don't really feel like it?

I know I'm hungry (no surprise, considering all I've eaten in the past 48 hours is four crackers, peanut butter and banana on a slice of bread, and a little bit of soup) but nothing sounds good, not even sweet or salty things, which I'm always up for. I was sick all day yesterday and I think now some part of me is reluctant to eat, anti-nausea meds or no. I'm kind of at a loss.

#blue speaks #asking for advice

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axel-ambassador · 2 months

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Yall I finally made an AO3 account what should my first fic be about

#total drama #total drama 2023 #asking for advice #first fanfic #it can be anything

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genshinemblem564 · 8 months

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FeH x Sagau Requesting Support

The next chapter will be the beginning of a war arc, progressing the FeH storyline in order to bring in new characters. I want some recommendations on who from Teyvat should be brought in to aid the Order. Please, keep your recommendations realistic and under these parameters.

1. Their job can not be too important, as they would be away for quite some time.

2. Please, no characters that have yet to be introduced in Genshin's story. I only do as well as I do because these characters are pre-established.

3. No archons. I know, a lot of you may be confused by this, but Venti and Nahida are already keeping their eyes on the reader, Ei is too important, and I don't want Zhongli revealing his identity just yet, as I believe he would do exactly that if it meant reader's survival.

4. No Fatui. They are a bit too direct, which could lead to some otherwise avoidable character deaths, and I don't feel like writing something like that at this time. I know he isn't Fatui anymore, but this does include Wanderer, as well as any others with rather bloody methods.

5. No Fontaine characters. I want to implement that into the story later. So unless they were introduced beforehand, please, no one from the nation of justice.

6. Finally, they need a reason to be there. This isn't like the zelda crossover where they're sending anyone they can spare. This is the whims of fate, or your whims in this case.

One more thing about the characters you recommend. They don't need to be combatants. They can just be there for support. So characters without visions are also on the table, if you can think of any worth mentioning. I would prefer if they had voice acted dialogue, as it is difficult to get a grasp for a character with text alone. At least, it is for me. Also, could you please recommend who they should interact with, as I'm not knowledgeable on every fire emblem character.

While a war arc is in progress, character interactions outside of the selected few will come to a halt, as the Order will not actively call for aid to avoid casualties since Breidablik can only revive contracted heroes.

Aether and Paimon will be included by default, as Aether learning of the summoner's device, phone, hopes to ask them more about his sister and/or that unknown god.

Other than that, please do leave a recommendation, and I hope you look forward to the next chapter, as the flames of war ignite.

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One more thing. How long would you say is too long to let people recommend characters for this, and how should I choose the characters selected?

#genshin impact #sagau #fire emblem heroes #feh #crossover #asking for help #asking for advice #requesting help

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scribblemew · 7 months

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YALL I GOT A GIG AS AN ILLUSTRATOR FOR A CHILDREN’S BOOK IM SO HYPED!!!!! 🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳

this is my first ever illustration job, if you guys have any tips for children’s books, lmk!!! I’m probably not gonna make much money for it, but I wanna do my best on this book regardless, especially since it’s gonna be short and doesn’t have too many pages <3

#illustration #illustration tips #children’s book #children’s books #book illustration #book illustration tips #asking for advice #give me your best art tips #i need them #thanks and have a good day :)

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