#aroacephobia

[crypticcozycorner]

Why ace and aro activism is still needed (Cw//aphobia + one mention of transphobia which is marked so that part can be skipped)

These are all things I’ve seen said recently about ace or aro people. Many of these come from Yasmin Beniots Instagram account.

- people still believe that being aro or ace is equivalent to being a sociopath

-Still considered a medical disorder in many places

-In many places it is not legally recognized as a romantic or sexual orientation, meaning it can be harder to charge aphobia fueled hate crimes as hate crimes and conversion therapy for asexuals isn’t recognized as a form of conversion therapy

-the idea that an ace or aro person can be “fixed” by someone is still very prevalent

-ace and aro people are still called groomers (just look at some of the responses to Jaden animations coming out)

-people still believe it just straight up doesn’t exist

-religion is used to look down upon us as “our purpose in life is to get married and reproduce”

-people believe that we’re making it up because we “have no game/cant pull”

-the idea that aroallo people are predators or other things along those lines (especially towards aroallo men)

-people still believe that heteroromantic asexuals and aromantic heterosexuals are “just straight”

-people still believe that asexuality and aromantism are the same thing and erase the identities of aroallos and alloaces

-(Cw// transphobia) and one of the wildest theories I’ve seen popping up lately, which I literally can’t even put into words so I’ll just put a comment from Yasmin Benoit that an aphobe left: “After 9 years of pushing ‘affirmative care’ Stonewall needs a way of explaining young people who have no libido and cannot function sexually” or another comment which says “Frankenstein gender medicine damages or destroys sexual function. That’s why asexuality needs to be normalized 🚩”. Essentially they’re saying that transitioning ruins one’s ability to be sexual and that asexuality was an excuse made up to hide that.

People who deny the existence of aphobia are ignorant. I have had people message my mom saying she’s going to hell for supporting me. I’ve had queerphobes with speakers and microphones follow me and my friends around at pride screaming at us that we’re going to hell. I’ve had people time and time again try to erase my identity, telling me I haven’t found the right one, and other things like that. Just because the discrimination we face isn’t the same as, for example, what a lesbian may face doesn’t mean our discrimination doesn’t exist.

#aphobia #arophobia #acephobia #aroacephobia #aroace #aromantic #asexual #crypticcozy #alloace #aroallo

[weepingfireflies]

"It’s okay to ship this aroace character romantically/sexually bc some aroace ppl still enter romantic and sexual relationships!" Okay, but are you normal about aroace ppl who aren't interested in sex/romance? Who don't experience love? Who are non-partnering? Are you actually interested in portraying an aroace character, or do you just want to ship a character regardless of their identity? Answer honestly

#*not all ppl btw. I've seen some great aroace writing but. uh. I've also seen Things #amatonormativity #aroace #aroacephobia #arophobia #acephobia #fandom #shipping #my posts

[ace-bard]

Multigender gays 🤝 aroace gays

"Being gay means you're a non-women romantically or sexually attracted to other non-women :)"

#its the shallow attempt at including nonbinary ppl and aspecs that inadvertently excludes nbs and aspecs that gets me #aroacephobia #aphobia #exorsexism #transmultiphobia #tw negative

[rjalker]

I am aroace. Being ace and aro are inexplicably tied together for me.

A few years ago now I made a post about how asexuality is not pedophilic, in direct response to seeing what I thought was a trusted mutual reblog a post saying, "It's important to teach kids it's okay to be gay, but it's pedophilic to teach them about asexuals" and teaching kids about it can only help them, so they know it's okay not to want to date or kiss other people.

And ever since I made that post people have been fucking getting pissy about me using "ace" and also talking about not feeling romantic attraction.

And a few years ago I did make an addition to the post apologizing.

But you fucking know what? No, I've changed my fucking mind. I'm not going to apologize for saying ace and also meaning aro.

Literally no other fucking orientation forces people to use the split attraction model, and I'm fucking tired of people acting like being ace and aro are completely disparate things that never have anything to do with the other -.-

You use the split attraction model? Cool.

Now, honestly, shut the fuck up and stop policing how other people are allowed to talk about their experiences.

People are allowed to just say "ace" and mean someone who does not want to have sex or date, or kiss, or do anything romantic either.

No, it is not fucking aromisic or acemisic for people who are both to talk about their experiences without always using the fucking split attraction model.

I usually refer to myself as aroace - but I shouldn't fucking have to. You know why I do? Because otherwise if I just call myself ace, people will ignore my aromantcism. If I just call myself aro, they ignore my asexuality.

And that is fucking unacceptable.

I am sick and fucking tired of the aspec community acting like the split attraction model is mandatory and applies to everyone, when it's fucking optional.

Fucking shit like assuming someone who says they're ace still experiences romantic attraction unless they state otherwise is literally fucking amatanormative. Someone saying they're aro and people assuming they still experience sexual attraction unless they state otherwise is literally fucking amatantormative!

Assuming that someone who says they're "ace" or "aro" still experiences the "other" form of attraction unless they state otherwise is literally amisia, by acting like people who are ace or aro need to be fucking redeemed by experiencing other forms of attraction, and they can still be fucking "shippable" and "normal".

I'm fucking tired of it.

I'm aromantic and asexual.

I should be allowed to make a post about being ace or aro without people fucking jumping down my throat about how I'm erasing people who use the split attraction model.

No other fucking sexuality or orientation treats the split attraction model as mandatory, and it's fucking amisic as shit that people in the aspec community think it's okay to do so.

Assuming I'm still redeemable or normal and am willing to date people if I say I'm ace is amisic as fucking shit.

Assuming I'm still redeemable and normal and willing to fuck people if I say I'm aro is amisic as fucking shit.

Leave aroace people alone, and stop fucking demanding people use the split attraction model.

Shit like this is why the first question out of amisics mouths when I tell them I'm ace is "okay, but who do you date?" and why they think it's okay to erase a character's orientation so they can still ship them, because "oh it's definitely ace, but romance was never mentioned!" even when the character is explicitly just as repulsed by romance as sex.

Stop fucking forcing people to use the split attraction model. Stop fucking acting like it's okay to assume someone can still be fucking redeemed by being "normal" in other ways. I'm going to rip the next amisic I see to fucking shreds, and no, fucking ace and aro people who use the split attraction model, you are not fucking exempt!

Especially because it seems like every few years there's yet another fucking form of attraction that you're assumed to experiences unless you state otherwise. "Oh you might be aroace, but you still want a QPR, right? Oh you still experience platonic attraction, right? You still want to get platonically married, right???"

How many more fucking times do I need to say no??

#aroacemisia #amisia #aromisia #acemisia #split attraction model #I've been sick of this for years and I'm even more sick of it right now #amatanormativity #aspec #aro #ace #aromantic #asexual #aromantic asexual #SAM #split-attraction model #aphobia #arophobia #acephobia #aroacephobia #gatekeeping #Queer history #Aspec history #Ace history #Aro history #this is the post I was looking for

[numberonepartyboy]

if i see one more 'aro/ace isnt a spectrum' from non -aro/ace person im going fucking ballistic. i literally cannot w your fucking aro/acephobia im so tired

#i forgot i sxheduled it #nvm #arophobia #acephobia #aroacephobia #exclusionist must fuck off im aro and you're not welcomed here

[stinkek]

Who in their right mind tells someone they barely know to get a BF/GF? Even worse if they do it again after you told them you're not interested, or/and that you're on the aroace spectrum.

Can't really expect my compatriots to respect the second reasoning, but they could at least mind their own business.

IDEK if I've ever felt romantic feelings because what if they're just platonic but more intense? Fiction makes it look easy, but the real life stuff is confusing.

#text #single #cw acephobia #cw arophobia #cw aroacephobia #quoiromantic #aroace spectrum #asexual spectrum #aromantic spectrum

[cozymogai]

ARCflux

cw for aroacephobia near the end!

hai hello how r u, this is a tad bit random, but i wanna remind everyone that just bcuz someone's aroace doesnt mean they dont like romance or wanting the horizontal tango every now and then.

ARCflux is very much a thing. ARCflux is usually meant for asexual beings but can be used for aromantic beings as well.

ARC stands for Averse, Repulsed, or Conflicted. It's a term under the aroace spectrum for a person whose attitude towards sex or romance/sex or romance-related things can fluctuate. It can go from being completely sex or romance-repulsed to being open and happy to engage in sexual or romantic activities.

I feel like a lot of beings r very ignorant on the concept of aroace-ness and always being ""stone cold"" and ""loveless"" in derogatory ways (if that makes...any sense)

My parents don't even believe in being aroace...(my mom does kinda but it's a very stiff view.) and think it's something "everyone goes through" and "everyone is like that when they're younger" and it sucks.

idk, i just wanna let beings know this term exists. but do keep in mind it's usually used for asexual beings. (the term on pronouns.page is strictly about being asexual, but it's the same for aromantic-ness. i'm probably gonna make a flag for arcflux for aro beings.)

#cozy chatter #arcflux #aroace #aromantic #asexual #cw aroacephobia #also im not saying you have to be arcflux every queer being is their own

[islandofsages]

sure, my works arent getting attention bc i dont write romance and smut but that is a hill im willing to die on. i may die with only 3 likes on a post but goddammit those 3 likes are my pride and joy

#not writing #rambles #i swear im working on this one request #funny story i published a queerplatonic gorou x aether fic on ao3 and it got taken down for no reason 🤡 #aroacephobia at its finest #genshin impact #genshin x reader #platonic genshin x reader #queerplatonic genshin x reader

[smiling-cervidae]

*an anon hands him a note to the alastors which explains their Sexualities and what it means*

*extra note for the human one*

'Say hi to your mom for me! She seems nice.'

-> "ʜᴍ... 'ᴅᴇᴍɪʀᴏᴍᴀɴᴛɪᴄ'? 'ᴀꜱᴇxᴜᴀʟ'? ᴍʏ ᴅᴇᴀʀ, ɪ ᴀᴍ ɴᴏᴛ 'ꜱᴇᴍɪ-ʀᴏᴍᴀɴᴛɪᴄ', ɪ ᴀᴍ ꜱɪᴍᴘʟʏ ᴀ ᴄʜᴀʀᴍɪɴɢ ɢᴇɴᴛʟᴇᴍᴀɴ, ɪꜰ ɪ ᴅᴏ ꜱᴀʏ ꜱᴏ, ᴍʏꜱᴇʟꜰ! ᴀɴᴅ ɪ ᴀᴍ ɴᴏᴛ ᴀ 'ꜱᴇxᴜᴀʟ' ᴀɴʏᴛʜɪɴɢ, ɪ ᴀᴘᴏʟᴏɢɪᴢᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴅɪꜱᴀᴘᴘᴏɪɴᴛ! ɪ ʜᴀᴠᴇ ꜰᴀʀ ʙᴇᴛᴛᴇʀ ᴡᴀʏꜱ ᴏꜰ ᴏᴄᴄᴜᴘʏɪɴɢ ᴍʏ ᴛɪᴍᴇ."

ᴀʟᴀꜱᴛᴏʀ'ꜱ ꜱᴍɪʟᴇ ꜱᴇᴇᴍᴇᴅ ꜱᴛʀᴀɪɴᴇᴅ, ʙᴜᴛ ɴᴏᴛ ꜰᴏʀᴄᴇᴅ. ʜᴇ ᴡᴀꜱ ᴀᴍᴜꜱᴇᴅ, ʜᴇ ᴄᴏᴜʟᴅɴ'ᴛ ᴅᴇɴʏ ᴛʜᴀᴛ, ʙᴜᴛ ᴀʟꜱᴏ ꜱᴇᴍɪ-ᴀɴɴᴏʏᴇᴅ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ꜱᴏᴍᴇᴏɴᴇ ᴡᴀꜱ ᴛʀʏɪɴɢ ᴛᴏ ʟᴀʙᴇʟ ʜɪᴍ ꜰᴏʀ ʜɪᴍ. ᴄᴏᴜʟᴅ ʜᴇ ɴᴏᴛ ᴊᴜꜱᴛ ʟɪᴠᴇ ʜɪꜱ ᴀꜰᴛᴇʀʟɪꜰᴇ ᴅᴏɪɴɢ ᴡʜᴀᴛ ʜᴇ ᴡᴀɴᴛᴇᴅ ᴡɪᴛʜᴏᴜᴛ ʟᴀʙᴇʟꜱ?

— ★ —

ᴄʟᴇᴍᴇɴᴄᴇ ɢᴀᴠᴇ ʏᴏᴜ ᴀ ꜱᴍᴀʟʟ ꜱᴍɪʟᴇ, ʜɪꜱ ᴛᴀɪʟ ᴠɪꜱɪʙʟʏ ʙᴏᴜɴᴄɪɴɢ ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴇxᴄɪᴛᴇᴍᴇɴᴛ, ʟɪᴋᴇ ᴀ ꜱᴍᴀʟʟ ᴘᴜᴘᴘʏ ᴇᴀɢᴇʀ ᴛᴏ ɢʀᴇᴇᴛ ɪᴛꜱ ᴏᴡɴᴇʀ. ᴡʜᴀᴛ ᴀ ᴘᴏʟɪᴛᴇ ᴏɴᴇ ʜᴇ ɪꜱ.

-> "ᴛʜ-ᴛʜᴀɴᴋ ʏᴏᴜ, ᴍʏ ᴅᴇᴀʀ ɢʀᴀʏ ᴏɴᴇ...! ɪ ᴅᴏ ᴅᴇᴇᴘʟʏ ᴀᴘᴘʀᴇᴄɪᴀᴛᴇ ʏᴏᴜʀ ᴀꜱꜱɪꜱᴛᴀɴᴄᴇ!"

— ★ —

ᴀʟɪᴄᴇ ɢᴀᴠᴇ ᴀ ᴘʟᴀʏꜰᴜʟ ɢɪɢɢʟᴇ, ᴀꜱ ᴛʜᴏᴜɢʜ ꜱʜᴇ ʜᴀᴅ ᴀʟʀᴇᴀᴅʏ ᴋɴᴏᴡɴ, ᴍᴀɪɴᴛᴀɪɴɪɴɢ ʜᴇʀ ᴍɪꜱᴄʜɪᴇᴠᴏᴜꜱ ᴅᴇᴍᴇᴀɴᴏʀ ᴏꜰ ꜱᴜᴘᴇʀɪᴏʀɪᴛʏ. ʟɪᴋᴇ ᴛʜᴇ ᴘʀᴏᴘᴇʀ ʟᴀᴅʏ ꜱʜᴇ ɪꜱ, ʜᴏᴡᴇᴠᴇʀ, ꜱʜᴇ ʙᴏᴡꜱ ʜᴇʀ ʜᴇᴀᴅ ɪɴ ꜰᴀᴜx ᴛʜᴀɴᴋꜱ, ᴅᴇꜱᴘɪᴛᴇ ɴᴏᴛ ᴀᴅᴍɪᴛᴛɪɴɢ ꜱʜᴇ ᴅɪᴅɴ'ᴛ ᴋɴᴏᴡ.

-> "ᴡʜɪʟᴇ ɪ ᴅᴏ ᴛʜᴀɴᴋ ʏᴏᴜ ꜰᴏʀ ʏᴏᴜʀ ᴀᴛᴛᴇᴍᴘᴛꜱ ᴀᴛ ᴀꜱꜱɪꜱᴛɪɴɢ ᴍᴇ, ᴘᴇʀʜᴀᴘꜱ ʏᴏᴜʀ ᴀꜱꜱɪꜱᴛᴀɴᴄᴇ ᴡᴏᴜʟᴅ ʙᴇ ʙᴇᴛᴛᴇʀ ᴜꜱᴇᴅ ᴇʟꜱᴇᴡʜᴇʀᴇ. ᴀꜰᴛᴇʀ ᴀʟʟ, ɪ ᴋɴᴏᴡ ᴇxᴀᴄᴛʟʏ ᴡʜᴏ ᴀɴᴅ ᴡʜᴀᴛ ɪ ᴀᴍ, ᴀɴᴅ ᴍᴀᴋᴇ ɴᴏ ɪɴᴛᴇʀᴇꜱᴛ ɪɴ ʜɪᴅɪɴɢ ɪᴛ. ʏᴏᴜ'ʀᴇ ꜱɪᴍᴘʟʏ ᴡᴀꜱᴛɪɴɢ ʏᴏᴜʀ ᴛɪᴍᴇ ɪꜰ ʏᴏᴜ ʜᴏᴘᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴛᴇʟʟ ᴍᴇ ᴀʙᴏᴜᴛ ᴍʏꜱᴇʟꜰ, ᴅᴀʀʟɪɴɢ."

— ★ —

ᴀʟɪꜱᴛᴀɪʀ ʟᴏᴏᴋᴇᴅ ᴀᴛ ᴛʜᴇ ɴᴏᴛᴇ ᴀɴᴅ ʟᴀᴜɢʜᴇᴅ ʜᴇᴀʀᴛɪʟʏ. "ᴀʀᴏᴍᴀɴᴛɪᴄ"? "ᴀꜱᴇxᴜᴀʟ"? ᴡʜᴏᴇᴠᴇʀ ɪɴᴠᴇɴᴛᴇᴅ ꜱᴜᴄʜ ᴡᴏʀᴅꜱ?! ᴛʜᴏꜱᴇ ᴡᴇʀᴇɴ'ᴛ ʀᴇᴀʟ! ʏᴏᴜ'ʀᴇ ꜱᴜᴄʜ ᴀ ꜱɪʟʟʏ ʟɪᴛᴛʟᴇ ɢʀᴀʏ ᴄʀᴇᴀᴛᴜʀᴇ ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴏᴅᴅ ꜱᴘᴇᴄᴛᴀᴄʟᴇꜱ!

-> "ᴍʏ, ᴍʏ, ᴡʜᴀᴛ ᴄᴜʀɪᴏᴜꜱ ʟɪᴛᴛʟᴇ ᴛᴇʀᴍꜱ ʏᴏᴜ'ᴠᴇ ɪɴᴠᴇɴᴛᴇᴅ ꜰᴏʀ ʏᴏᴜʀꜱᴇʟꜰ! ʜᴏᴡᴇᴠᴇʀ, ɪ ᴀᴍ ʀᴀᴛʜᴇʀ ɴᴏʀᴍᴀʟ, ʏᴏᴜ ꜱᴇᴇ. ɪ ᴅᴏɴ'ᴛ ᴇxᴘᴇʀɪᴇɴᴄᴇ ᴛʜɪꜱ ᴍᴇɴᴛᴀʟ ɪʟʟɴᴇꜱꜱ ʏᴏᴜ ᴄᴀʟʟ ᴀɴ 'ɪᴅᴇɴᴛɪᴛʏ'."

ʜᴇ'ꜱ ᴄʟᴏꜱᴇᴛᴇᴅ, ᴀɴᴅ ʜᴀꜱ ᴀ ʟᴏᴛ ᴏꜰ ᴀᴄᴇᴘʜᴏʙɪᴀ ᴀɴᴅ ᴀʀᴏᴘʜᴏʙɪᴀ ᴄʀᴀᴍᴍᴇᴅ ᴅᴏᴡɴ ʜɪꜱ ᴛʜʀᴏᴀᴛ ʙᴇᴄᴀᴜꜱᴇ ᴏꜰ ᴛʜᴇ ᴛɪᴍᴇ ᴘᴇʀɪᴏᴅ ʜᴇ ʟɪᴠᴇꜱ ɪɴ. ʜᴏᴡᴇᴠᴇʀ, ʜᴇ ᴅᴏᴇꜱ, ᴅᴇᴇᴘ ᴅᴏᴡɴ, ᴋɴᴏᴡ ʏᴏᴜ'ʀᴇ ʀɪɢʜᴛ, ʜᴇ ꜱɪᴍᴘʟʏ ᴅᴏᴇꜱɴ'ᴛ ꜰᴇᴇʟ ᴠᴀʟɪᴅ ᴇxᴘʀᴇꜱꜱɪɴɢ ɪᴛ ᴀɴᴅ ᴛʜᴜꜱ ʜᴀꜱ ɪɴᴛᴇʀɴᴀʟɪᴢᴇᴅ ᴇᴠᴇʀʏᴛʜɪɴɢ ɴᴇɢᴀᴛɪᴠᴇ ᴛʜᴀᴛ'ꜱ ꜱᴀɪᴅ ᴀʙᴏᴜᴛ ʜɪꜱ "ɪꜱꜱᴜᴇ", ᴀꜱ ᴘᴇᴏᴘʟᴇ ꜱᴏ ᴜɴᴋɪɴᴅʟʏ ᴘᴜᴛ ɪᴛ.

-> "ʙᴜᴛ ɪ ᴅᴏ ᴛʜᴀɴᴋ ʏᴏᴜ, ᴅᴀʀʟɪɴɢ. ɪ'ʟʟ ʙᴇ ꜱᴜʀᴇ ᴛᴏ ʟᴇᴛ ᴍʏ ᴍᴏᴛʜᴇʀ ᴋɴᴏᴡ. ɪ'ᴍ ᴄᴇʀᴛᴀɪɴ ꜱʜᴇ'ʟʟ ᴀᴘᴘʀᴇᴄɪᴀᴛᴇ ɪᴛ."

#acephobia tw #arophobia tw #aroacephobia tw #internalized acephobia tw #internalized arophobia tw #internalized aroacephobia tw #bigotry tw #〔 alastor — 🦌 〕 #〔 📻 — alistair 〕 #〔 💧 — clemence 〕 #〔 🎀 — alice 〕 #『 tuning in — questions 🎙 』 #asexual #aromantic #demiromantic #heterosexual #pansexual #<- I think those are the ones I gave them lmao-

[california-112]

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#internalised aroacephobia time! #there was a thing that happened yesterday which was a bit...um. #and now im trying to write a sort of romance scene and its just. i dont know how to do this #is it me? am *i* the broken one? more at ten #the scientist speaks

[ugly-anarchist]

I've been seeing more posts that are like "alloaros are attacking aroaces just for existing in aro spaces" and like, we're not

There's nothing wrong with aroaces posting in aro tags or joining aro spaces or existing in general. There's nothing wrong with being aroace.

What's wrong is the fact that our voices are completely drowned out by aroaces. Oftentimes, intentionally. We are called the "extra piece" or "the addition". When we tag our posts as aspec, we're called out on it and said that's wrong. When we make posts specifically about our alloaro experiences they are tagged as aroace or asexual. When we find aromantic communities we have to ask the question "am I welcome here" and the answer is "no" a lot of the time. And even if we are "welcome" we are told to censor ourselves and our experiences for aroaces. When non-ace aros create spaces specifically for non-ace aros aroaces flood in and assume it's for them or call us acephobic for not wanting them there.

Many aroaces actively encourage the silencing of alloaros. Whether that be treating us as scapegoats and pointing to us and saying "accept us because at least we're not them!" or actively pushing us out of aromantic spaces, sometimes even spaces dedicated to non-ace aros.

You cannot shut us into a fucking closet and say "what alloaros?" then when we bust out and express our frustration go "CRAB IN A BARREL!!! WE'RE ALL IN THE SAME COMMUNITY!!! WHY ARE YOU ATTACKING US!?!"

We're not saying "fuck aroaces" or "aroaces cause all the problems we face" or anything like that. We're just pissed at the fact that even our own community, people we're supposed to relate to, fucking hate us.

Our bitterness and frustration at the way we've been treated isn't aroacephobia.

#aromantic #alloaro #aro #arospec #aroallo #allosexual aromantic #aromantic allosexual #aspec

[whereiswaldo]

I don’t understand why we as the queer community conflate understanding and acceptance. I’m not going to pretend to understand aroace people but I still accepted them and try to be as helpful as I can. I know a decent bit about other queer identities but I just can’t relate to having no attraction to people it’s very hard thing for me to understand. I imagine though it’s hard for some people to understand being attracted to multiple genders even though that’s my experience. That’s the reason there’s so much aroacephobia in the community I think. We don’t have to understand someones identity to respect it.

#queer community #bisexual #gay #aromantic #asexual #aroace #discourse #idk man #lesbian

[c-kiddo]

caduceus currently winning on the least sexy cr pc poll is fucking slander for real like im at my limit this is aroacephobia

#/j tone lol #but as an aroace im right #he literaly gets hit on like 2 times in the show 😭 its just onesided bc he doesnt realise and isnt interested #also beau tells him he looks hot too (she asks first if its ok tho <3 ) #did he slay in his thigh high boots for Nothing ?? ?? ?? #the dragonfly silk croptop and chaps... where they for nothing. . .. .. .. #hell on planet eatht #kiddo say

[tedthetalk]

It’s kind of comforting to know this will all blow over (like transmedicalism like aroacephobia like the anti-bi lesbian craze like every garbage reactionary gatekeeping take ever) but also dear fucking god do we need to keep doing this. Really. Do we really.

[dragynkeep]

Since Rooster Teeth did the creators of Team NDGO dirty with the fatphobia and aroacephobia and everythibg, do you know how they’re supposed to look like/be characterised/etc? Or do you know where I could find how they were originally characterised?

i think were pretty accurate to what the creative fan team wanted the girls to be visually, they hadn't mentioned any other issues besides obviously crwby telling them that one of the girls was "too fat" to be a model for their own character which. i would start throwing punches, they were so much kinder than me.

however! the girls did have a fan tumblr about the team where they posted their own headcanons about the girls, found here. they had some interesting stuff on there for them that completely conflicted with how the girls were characterized in the novels, which was really sad.

#rwby #rwde #team ndgo #ndgo #ais.txt #answered #q #rt had such balls to do this. time to chop them off

[genderqueerdykes]

Questions about sexuality - and romance alignments -a lot of labels come off like, they don't so much ascribe to a truth so much as a perception+box. But that makes it really hard to figure out what labels to use. Like; for a lot of people, aroace means zero sexual and romantic attraction - and I don't see a lot of people treating it as a spectrum. But for me, I've only ever been sexually+romantically attracted to my gf and her system - no one else. Am I aroace? And then there's demi, but I don't see that used as much. And I'm bi-oriented? Or should i just say bi? Is specifying polyamory too much? I question and doubt every label because I worry about misunderstandings and exclusionism. Mainstream definitions seem to be getting more rigid in who can use them. I was excited to discover m-spec lesbianism before I saw a lot of conversations about "men invading". The way the binary genders are viewed are also very strict. It's a bit overwhelming.

it can definitely get overwhelming at times, i get that! i'm sorry to hear it's been frustrating to research

i think the biggest thing to keep in mind is the boundaries on most identities are not quite that rigid. for a lot of people, aroace can mean 0 attraction, but for many it's used to denote that they're on the aro- and acespectrums, which includes a very wide variety of experiences. i'd also like to say demiromantic and demisexual are very popular terms, and are used very widely, i think the reason they're not seen quite as much at the current moment is because a lot of people aren't as open about it due to a lot of extremely violent aroacephobia from a few years ago. it's been hard for the aroace community to find a footing and it's unfortunate, because the experiences are varied and valid

also ignore any and all rhetoric involving "men invading" lesbian spaces, it's rad fem / t erf rhetoric and it's not worth your time. men are allowed to be in lesbian spaces, lesbians are allowed to identify with male genders, lesbians are allowed to date men, and lesbians are allowed to be attracted to multiple genders, lesbian does not have to be an exclusive identity. i am an m-spec lesbian, myself =) it has never been and will never be a bad thing to be a bisexual, polysexual, pansexual or other multisexual identity lesbian. bi lesbians have been around as long as the community has. lesbians can and do have a wide variety of experiences with sexuality, gender and attraction

things are very confusing at first, but i think eventually the bubble will burst, so to speak, in your mind and you'll have that moment where you realize it's okay if you play with the boundaries of things a little bit. queerness is at its core about pushing the boundaries of what we are societally taught to believe is the "correct" way to go about relationships, and it's okay if you don't fit 100% into a rigid textbook definition of something that can be neatly laid out on paper. you are a person with nuance, and it's okay if your labels have nuance as well

hope you're able to figure things out, identity is confusing and whenever you read about labels online, they can seem like very strict boxes you have to put yourself in. whenever you meet people who identify with these things and see how their identities present, though, those lines become a lot softer, and often times harder to see, and that's a good thing. take care of yourself, good luck in your journey

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