#approach girls

[existennialmemes]

Stop. Please back up. That's not a Manic Pixie Dream Girl. That's a Feral Non Binary Autistic and they're highly aggressive towards outsiders.

#neurodivergent #trans shitposting #neurodivergent memes #actually autistic #non binary #non binary memes #manic pixie dream girl #do not approach #back away with caution

[bigfatbreak]

Hi! Does Alya really assume the worst of Mari in this particular chapter (like, quite often yes, she does, but in this case)? Or is it Marinette's interpreting it like that? P. S. Love your work!

A bit of both! Alya doesn't naturally think the worst of her, but Lila is good at manipulating her and the class into assuming Marinette is "messing up" pretty frequently, and Marinette's pessimistic attitude due to trauma means every time no one stands up for her against Lila, it just proves her own insecurities right and she considers it fact. When Alya jumped into lecture mode, it came from a genuine place of worry - but lecturing someone who already thinks you hate them won't lead to any good conclusion, just further hostilities, or putting her on the defensive.

While Marinette's feelings are valid, they're not 100% rational, but no one's proven her WRONG yet, since Lila plays the part of cuckoo so well. If Alya thought the worst of Marinette, she wouldn't have come to her for help during her argument with Lila - but as you'll see in the next update, Alya and Marinette had a blowup argument in the past that was pretty messy on both sides, leading to this cold attitude from Marinette.

#replies #marinette is certain of how everyone feels about her because no one has defended her #and she considers that evidence of them hating her instead of a more reasonable alternative: #a lot of kids are just cowards when their friends are fighting #and no one knows how to approach marinette now that shes MADE herself hard to approach #you cant blame the girl for being braced for the other shoe to drop constantly #but it means she also expects the worst out of everyone in turn.

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

The girls are plottinggggg

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#poorly drawn mdzs #mdzs #wen chao #wang lingjiao #Realizing she was supposed to have an upper lip mole was a cold slap in the face. So sorry ma'am. I won't forget again. #They are evil dumbass 4 evil dumbass and I think we are all missing out on the sheer potential of the comedy between these two. #They have way too much power and are using it for the wrong reasons - which makes them truly great villains. #And when things don't go their way they become piles of whining sludge. #Wang Lingjiao is forever fascinating to me even though we only get crumbs about her. #She's a servant girl who's greatest asset is her beauty and her attractiveness. #Meaning she's had a life being in the gaze of people with significant positions of power over her. #I can't help but read her childishness and petty tantrums as someone who has finally been given the chance to not feel powerless. #If she was a more virtuous type we might 'like' her more but honestly...I don't think she would have survived to this point. #WLJ has only known power hierarchies her whole life. Probably accused of seduction before she even understood what that meant. #I love contrasting her with mianmian because they have similar(ish) backgrounds but different approaches to moving forwards #But WLJ's story is about flying too close to the sun and mianmian's is about going too close to the water. #Like the sea mist dragging her down into complacency - all the sect powerplays are mandatory to 'go along with' if she wants to climb- #-the social ladder. Yet she is the cautionary tale (and a foil to JGY as well) she leaves before sacrificing her own morals. #Mianmian flies away with her wings only slightly plucked while those who sacrificed everything to reach for the top crash and burn.

[cardboard-queen]

telepathically asking girls at the grocery store if they’re queer and also if they think I’m queer and if they’d like to get coffee sometime

#sapphic #lesbian #wlw #gay #soph rambles #the reason lesbians can’t reproduce isn’t because it’s biologically tricky #it’s because they’re too shy to ever approach each other in public #this post goes out to the girl with the fun skirt I saw in the checkout line today #I chose the wrong line #star crossed lovers

[haunted-xander]

Sometimes I think about Urianger's role in and feelings on the Thancred-Ryne dynamic and I think watching it kills him a bit inside. For several reasons.

Like, to begin with there's the guilt he's been carrying with him since he ushered Minfilia to the first, how he effectively killed the person Thancred cared about the most in the world and who's "death" ended up causing Ryne's entire Situation. He looks at what's happening between them and can only think "I caused this" even though that's not really true. No one person is responsible for this outcome, it's a culmination of several circumstances and the consequences of them. Logically, Urianger knows this. But it doesn't matter, because his guilt is overpowering his logic.

And also, like. What Thancred is doing here, the way he's knowingly letting Ryne be and stay hurt because he literally cannot bring himself to tell her his feelings, is the exact same mistake Urianger made with Moenbryda. Of course, the circumstances are vastly different, and the potential consequences to Thancred telling Ryne the wrong things or her misinterperating it is far greater (being a matter of literal life or death), it's still the same sort of paralysis they are trapped in.

And he knows it. He sees it. But he can't say or do anything about it, he doesn't have the right to. He acknowledges the mistake, but he hasn't really improved upon it yet. He still doesn't voice his thoughts and feelings as he should. He's also non-confrontational by nature, he doesn't argue or try to change peoples minds, he probably doesn't think he has any place to.

So, he tries to help in what little ways he can. Because he doesn't want it to become Monebryda again, he doesn't want to know he stole not one but two people from Thancred. So he does what he can. He tells Ryne little tidbits about Thancred, things that help her understand him but are safe to share. Nothing too deep, nothing too personal. Just small things, things that are purely factual, because he can't afford to give her a false image of who Thancred is. He teacher her fun and interesting things, because Thancred isn't in the mindset to provide her with non-essential skills.

I like to think Urianger has brought it up with Thancred at least once, during one of his stays. But nothing would've come of it. Not really. Unlike Y'shtola, Urianger isn't pushy, he'll bring it up once or twice and when he sees this won't go anywhere, he gives up. He wants to help, but he knows that persistance only does do much, and he is not the person who has the resiliance needed to push and push until Thancred finally budges (because he won't budge, it won't help anything but to sour things further by adding aditional stress to an already strained dynamic).

And like. Urianger gets it. He gets it because he's been the same way- not saying what he should to someone he loves more than anything else because she was meant to figure her life out herself, and 'steering' her in any direction by telling her his feelings (regardless of if the 'steering' is intention or not) will go against that. He gets it. He gets it and it's all the more painful for it. He knows it can't just be fixed by acknowledging it or with encouragement, something needs to happen to break the stasis.

I think this is probably why he stayed behind while they went off to Nabaath Areng. This is the very last chance they have to say what they want to, and he can't afford to be the anchor anymore. This is about them, not him, he can't let their resolution be buffed by his presence, so he stays behind. Which was probably for the best. Ryne got nervous when Urianger said he's staying behind, probably not too excited about being alone with Thancred (well, not alone, but WoL doesn't count) so soon after she had ran away crying. But she needs to be nervous. For anything positive to come out of this Thancred and Ryne both can't afford to be too relaxed. As sad as it is, the stress is necessary for anything to happen. He knows it. Does he like it? Absolutely not, but nor does he like his other plots. At least no one dies this time if it goes right.

#urianger had an integral part in the thancred-ryne situation and i think its very important to remember that #like i think he served as a very important buffer that prevented the dynamic from becoming even more strained than it already was #but also like. ryne NEEDED to have at least someone she can be comfortable around without the stress of her circumstances souring it #urianger is uniquely suited to play that role. even with his guilt regarding minfilia he never showed anything but genuine kindness for her #it helps that she didnt know about his hand in the situation existing to begin with (as shes surprised when he tells her in ahm areang) #THATS ALSO IMPORTANT BTW. like this man had a DIRECT hand in making this happen (even if it isnt fully his fault. minfilia made her choice) #AND LIKE. the parallels between uri-moen and thancred-ryne. they both love these girls so so much but cant bring themselves to say anything #urianger has been through the pain before. he knows. but he hasnt improved much himself. what right does he have to scold thancred? #silent support is all he can give. pushing thancred would make him a hypocrite and risk making it worse. hes not suited for confrontation #y'shtola and uriangers approaches to helping both have their merits but it needs a balance #too much pushing and the dynamic just gets worse but too forgiving and nothing will ever change #and yes i know im just repeating myself but ITS IMPORTANT OK #GOD #urianger augurelt #thancred waters #ryne waters #final fantasy #final fantasy 14 #final fantasy xiv #ff14 #ffxiv #xander rambles #xander being insane about ryne #urianger actually this time but. its related to ryne so. it gets the tag

[mcnecklong]

Sanji: I am a man with STANDARDS

Zoro: I ate chocolate rice balls off the floor after they'd been stepped on

Sanji: oh no! Hes meeting all my standards!

#one piece #opla #one piece sanji #one piece zoro #zosan #listen #i know its been said probably a million times #and im reading a fic with it rn #but we all know Sanji lost his goddamned mind when he found that out #rivalry ended in SECONDS #zoro went from public enemy number one to hearing wedding bells approaching at fearful speeds #hes unsure why theyre stopping at the Baratie again #zeff is griling him about eggplants now? #the cook gets nosebleeds when he looks at him? #hes never been so well fed in his life until then #the rest of the crew is so tired of eating Zoros favorites #hes out of the loop until Sanji asks when he thinks the wedding should be #the little girl who made the rice balls is their flower girl

[pcktknife]

i liked sparkerinparadise/ @sexymandescendants ' idea so much i wanted to make my own with my personal fave sexymen lol <3

#tumblr sexyman #sexyman descendants #red guy #junkrat #ingo #dhmis #overwatch #submas #sorry theyre all girls im takin the monster high approach to it yknow #myart #it was only supposed to be carmine cause i was hit w inspiration over this denime skirt i got but like who would i be excluding my faves

[tellmelater]

in another life

#to me mrs everdeen’s name is violet idk why it just came to me #like the flower names aren’t just from their father but their mother too #peep the flowers in mr everdeen’s pocket #i always like having katniss have similar features to her mother and prim to her father more than katniss’ narrative lets on #in another life they could get by and be happy #in another life katniss is the girl who sings #in another life their father scrapes enough together to help their mother open an apothecary #in another life mr everdeen gets grey in his hair #in another life their mother is happy #in another life prim grows taller than katniss #in another life katniss still marries the boy with the bread #in another life katniss approached peeta first #in another life the games aren’t there #but neither would they be #digital art #artists on tumblr #my art #thg #the hunger games fanart #the hunger games #thg au #the hunger games au #suzanne collins #katniss everdeen #primrose everdeen #katniss mellark #mrs everdeen #mr everdeen

[cassette394]

#dracula daily #mean girls #fma:b #a national holiday approaches

[carlyraejepsans]

for real WHERE does the idea that [utdr humans] are nongendered so that "you can project on them" come from. their literal character arcs are about NOT being a blank slate to be filled in by the audience

i think i understand the assumption on some level for undertale, because there is a very intentional effort to make you identify with the "player character" in order to make your choices feel like your own (the beating heart of undertale's metanarrative lies in giving you an alternative path to violence against its enemies after all, and whether you're still willing to persue it for your own selfish reasons. YOUR agency is crucial).

of course, the cardinal plot twist of the main ending sweeps the rug from under your feet on that in every way, and frisk's individuality becomes, in turn, a tool to further UT's OTHER main theme: completionism as a form of diegetic violence within the story. replaying the game would steal frisk's life and happy ending from them for our own perverse sentimentality, emotionally forcing our hand away from the reset button.

i think their neutrality absolutely aids in that immersion. but also, there's this weird attitude by (mostly) cis fans where it being functional within the story makes it... somehow "editable" and "up to the player" as well? which is gross and shows their ass on how they approach gender neutrality in general lol.

but also like. there's plenty of neutral, non PCharacters in undertale and deltarune. even when undertale was just an earthbound fangame and the player immersion metanarrative was completely absent, toby still described frisk as a "young, androgynous person". sometimes characters are just neutral by design. it's not that hard to understand lol.

anyone who makes this argument for kris deltarune is braindead. nothing else to say about it.

#this is a very difficult topic to discuss imo because on Some level I don't completely disagree with people who make that argument for chara #in SPIRIT. if not in action. like my point still stands characters can just Be neutral. and if that level of customization had been intended #well Pokemon's been doing the ''are you a boy or a girl'' shtick for ages. no reason why that couldn't have been included as well #but i do feel that we're supposed to identify with chara within the story. not as in chara is us but as in we are chara #and i think someone playing the game without outside interferences and (wrongly) coming to the conclusion that chara IS literally #themselves in the story. and thus call them by their own name (the one they likely inputted at the start) and pronouns #will be someone who grasped undertale's metanarrative more than someone who went in already spoiled on the NM route who thinks of chara #(and on some level frisk as well) as completely separate from us with independent wills and personhoods at any time #who treats them as nonbinary. even if their approach is more ''appropriate'' to a gender neutral person #systematic error vs manually changing every measure to fit what you already think is going to be the correct result. ykwim? #of course this opens a whole new parentheses while discussing the game outside of your personal experience #because even if you DO see chara as a self insert then they are a self insert for EVERYONE. women men genderqueer people #i don't call chara ''biscia'' even though that's what i named the fallen human in my playthrough. neither do i use they because i also do #if you're describing the character/story objectively in how they are executed then you're going to talk about them neutrally #because you ain't the only sunovabitch who played the darn game sonny #so like. either way you turn it. even in the most self insert reading you'd STILL logically use they/them so ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯ git gud #answered asks

[pianokantzart]

Yes of course Princess Daisy, this is just a bit of friendly competition and you are definitely not trying to show off for anyone in particular.

#Luigi #Luaisy #Princess Daisy #mario and sonic at the olympic games #mario and sonic at the olympic games tokyo #When she first sees them approach she's like ''Luigi!... oh and Amy too!'' like girl you think you're being subtle but I see you

[batrachois]

so I’ve been in a bit of a superbat frenzy lately… so to salute the dc fandom and specifically all the fic authors I’ve stalked for the past few days…. here

#art #fanart #batman #superman #superbat #battinson #he’s the perfect baby girl Bruce wayne idk what to tell the world #also best Batman movie hands down #I’m loving the slightly chubby and definitely tan superman vibe tho I went for a more traditional approach for this one #he is still tan and slightly comfier than the og idea but idk #I’m still developing a way to draw these two #illustration #artists on tumblr #commission

[astraltrickster]

I find it genuinely fascinating and disturbing alike how the stereotype of autism, at least in many left-leaning spaces, has shifted in recent years from being a tragic, isolating white boys' disease, that tears families apart and is truly a fate worse than death for the sufferer, to a frivolous and #aesthetic white GIRLS' quirk that never has any ACTUALLY detrimental effects, not even any social difficulties, all these girls on TikTok can mask well and talk Normally and only flap cutely so what's YOUR excuse?

We spent maybe 5 figurative minutes talking about how autism mommy culture is abusively ableist in the way it simultaneously bends over backward to avoid teaching autistic kids - ESPECIALLY autistic boys - any meaningful coping skills, writing the whole concept off as just truly impossible (it's just the nature of The Autism Winning, these poor poor children are just tragically locked in their own heads, and if they're boys, well, Boys Will Be Boys, there's certainly nothing to be done for the meltdowns, stress reduction and clearer communication is a hopeless endeavor, he's just Acting Out completely arbitrarily, no I haven't actually TRIED I don't need to I Just Know), but simultaneously demands that kids learn these skills on their own because their parents just refuse to communicate with them on their own terms - then the fidget spinner trend happened, we got a whole stim toy industry, it blended with influencer and wannabe-influencer culture, and now...we just have a whole new stereotype that's no better; what it reduces in potential as eugenics propaganda, it makes up for in denial of support needs and misogynistic overtones.

In short, I fucking hate it.

#disability #serious tag #actually autistic #i mean not that there was ever significant support for autistic girls #just. on average girls get punished harder for *not* masking because no one writes it off as impossible #because Girls Are Supposed To Be People-Smart ((((((: #this is not better and i am not saying it is #but it's not as emblematic of the mindset around the older stereotype of the diagnosis y'know? #and tbh i think we should look at the differences in a way that's not about which is Worse #what's always been done to boys is like. tailor made to create disorganized attachment. it's hot and cold #whereas what's done to girls is consistently some wire mother shit #and both approaches FUCKING SUCK

[johnskleats]

got into zutara vs kat@ang discourse with a neighbor

neighbor: well the ending was good enough for ten year olds. it's not like the show was written for adults with writing degrees

me, who at age ten, watched the premiere when it happened and then rented the DVD off of Netflix later and rewatched the finale 5+ times before accepting that THAT was how it ended and there was simply no narrative explanation: it wasn't good enough for me then either

neighbor:

me:

neighbor: you must have been a weird ten year old then

#and then!! he left!! #bro apporaches me to ask me an atla question while im loading my groceries and tells me i was a weird ten year old #this is the interaction that lead to the 'katara is trains to me' post #i am incapable of being normal about this please do not approach me in the wild and then leave when challenged #zutara #yes the finale issue was the du ex rockina and the kat@ang kiss #ten year old brown girl me was devastated especially with the movie cooming out shortly after and katara being played by a white girl #i was broken okay

[andhumanslovedstories]

I fell deeper into the kpop trivia hole where I don’t watch music videos or listen to songs or learn about groups or idols, but I do mindlessly watch short after short titled things like “kpop idols who eat bagels weird (according to netizens)”. It’s all fascinating to me as someone who knows nothing about this industry. I love learning about other people’s passions. Every single interest in the world should provide me with such easy access to detailed and pointless trivia.

Anyway none of these shorts have a logical escalation from fact to fact. And to be fair, these aren’t ranking videos, these are listing videos, but the narrative arc for information I’m receiving is very avant guard. If there’s a video like “kpop idols who went viral for bad reasons and why,” this 60 second video is a ten second intro of a beautiful person dancing in clothes that make me go “hmmm. okay!” (this can be positive or derogatory) and then a series of clips that’s like “this one went viral who sneezing without covering her mouth, this one went viral for looking bored while dancing, this one went viral for saying the n-slur while wearing a shirt with hitler’s face inside a cartoon heart, this one went viral for holding her food with both hands and eating it like a little mouse.” And you’re like “sorry what was that?” and youtube is like “there’s no time, quick here’s part two of kpop crimes, it’s girl in cringy tee shirt, girl who only looks beautiful and not effervescent, guy who sexually assaulted a minor, girl who ate a hot dog in public.”

#anyway. open to kpop girl group recs #also my rapidly approaching deadline for this project is going fine

[godofsmallthings]

as somebody who initially became a swiftie because i felt so isolated from girls my age and desperately wanted to be 'normal' by relating to their interests and still doesn't really relate to taylor swift's experience of womanhood (despite loving and valuing her art/perspective about it) i despise the current trend of generalizing one monolithic piece of art or culture to be about the entire experience of 'girlhood'

#stories about girlhood NEED to be told because girlhood is just an experience of humanity #and yes there are certain experiences that unite many or most women. but i think at best approaching 'girlhood' #as one thing is isolating towards individual women and girls who don't relate to those experiences #and at worst can turn back into being reductive and misogynistic #and so often this mythologized experience of girlhood is middle class/american/white/cis/straight/etc. #vi is typing...