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#anxiety advice
sunrisethoughts02 · 7 months
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i used to be a pro at morning routines.
i would wake up so early; i would drink water and meditate without my phone and journal. i was even reading through self-improvement books while listening to frequencies.
and then....well, it slowly slid away. it got harder to wake up in the mornings. it got harder to take care of myself, period. taking the meds was hard. drinking water was hard. i was waking up tired and trying to do an enormous list tired and then finally doing nothing at all.
because I thought i needed to have the perfect tiktok morning routine...or nothing.
see, we think we need to make things hard for ourselves on purpose. we feel ashamed of breaking steps down into smaller, more achievable chunks; it needs to feel like a mountain worth climbing or is it even a mountain at all? but it doesn't need to be a mountain. this is your life, and it's meant to care for and serve you. you can pre-measure your morning meds the night before. you can set a glass out. you can understand the obstacles and try to give yourself footholds. sometimes to accept grace feels like weakness, because we consider weakness as a lack of 'strength.' but what if it was the strongest, bravest thing to acknowledge your self care won't look like many others, and that's okay? it is strength. it's bravery. and I'm proud of you <3
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yoursoartdeco · 1 year
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this is going to be a more serious post than my previous memes and humour, so i do apologise for that, but on the other hand, i hope to find others to relate to.
ive tried to find the perfect social media to express my hyperfixations and interests, but to not much surprise, i haven’t had much luck. instagram is boring and highly un-interactive, facebook you don’t tend to find younger people and it’s generally quite serious (imo), tik tok is extremely toxic (again, imo) and i cant think of any others.
whenever i went on tumblr, it felt more comfortable and a place where i can genuinely express my interests etc. so i decided to join, because, why not? everyone seemed chilled and funny and everyone had a great sense of humour.
i don’t know about any of you, but i tend to give up easily, when trying to make friends etc. (and yes before anyone questions, i have trouble making friends so social media is kind of my only option). and they seem to be amazing but over and done with in like, 2 days. it’s like im scared to out myself out there because i know ill be disappointed in the end.
im homeschooled, with not much of a social life, especially in real life, i struggle with anxiety on a daily occurrence, and all ive ever wanted is to find people that get me for me, you know? and every time i think ive found it, little do i know it’s over in a second.
im worried about drama, im worried that they might actually not like me as much as i like them, im worried ill give up on it, once again. and not much changes, if *anything* changes.
i don’t actually know what my goal is with this post, i don’t know what im trying to achieve. but i just hope im not alone in feeling like this constantly.
please try not to take this as a “feel sorry for me” post, because i promise it’s not. i just would love to hear other peoples sides, since i don’t usually here anyone else speak about this.
thank you for reading, if you have. i really appreciate it.
<3
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isolate · 1 year
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friendly reminder from a psych msc girl in her mid twenties: making anxiety-fuelled and ridged plans 5-10 years in advance, without the rich perspective that being 5-10 years older brings is counterproductive.
Nobody on earth has the resources to make perfect decisions on behalf of someone with 10 years more knowledge, clarity, perspective, love, and growth. No matter how old you are, the point still stands.
Im not qualified to know what being a 35 year old is like, so I’m gonna leave that up to 35 year old me, when I get there. I’m not even qualified to know what me next year is like. I’ll leave that to her.
Your job is to navigate who you are now, to grow now, to love and expand your knowledge now. Don’t be so fixated on getting to a point of clarity, because it doesn’t exist & you’ll miss being where you are now.
As humans, we must begin to find comfort and excitement and reassurance in uncertainty.
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When God is moving you toward a new consciousness, you need to recognize the winds of change at once, move with them instead of clinging to what is already gone.
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Okay anxiety and autism Tumblr, tell me what weighted/cuddling/hugging products you use for self-soothing yourself through overstimulation and/or panic/anxiety attacks.
Preferably one that works when sitting at a desk, so probably not a weighted blanket? Idk.
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k1dkh1dr · 4 months
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positivepatton · 2 years
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Random life tip!
If you always procrastinate on sending important emails, texts, etc. (for me it’s usually because I’m nervous about it, but I presume this could help regardless of the reason), start by typing up a draft in your notes!
Pretty simple, but you don’t have to stress about whether what you’re typing is perfect or not. And when you come back to it later, it’s a lot easier to pick up from a first draft then to type the whole thing out at once.
Has helped me get some important messages sent on time instead of way too late or not at all, so I wanted to share it!
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a person shared there story about techno’ content making them feel safe, it is quite a private matter so if you want to know about the story you could click the link and send some love to them 💛
and here’s technodad’s advice on anxiety!! it might help :)
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laytonesqueautistic · 2 years
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So as the new HB episode looms I once again remember my anxiety for Stolas
Doesn’t help from what we saw in the trailer, what looked like Stolas’ hand with some IV tubes really makes me worry he’s gonna be badly injured
I know Viv and Bryce said he won’t die and they have songs for him in S2 and Stolitz will be endgame but I’m still fucking terrified
Especially since a lot of people think even if Stolitz is endgame Stolas will die because of his song. Stolas is my comfort character and I don’t know if I could like the show without him.
Can anyone send me positive thoughts? Maybe some help? Please, I’ve lost sleep over this.
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big---tasty · 9 months
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i (and by extension my anxiety) are very very very intolerant to caffeine, i can feel my heart pulsing in my ears when i drink even like a sip of black tea. im wondering if it's like, safe to build up a tolerance for it because i can never get anything done due to my chronic sleepy syndrome
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inkskinned · 1 year
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there are a lot of posts out there that are positive and healthy coping mechanisms for handling the holidays. this is not one of them :)
i think there's like. going to be times in your life you will be stuck in a social situation that you cannot escape from gracefully. i do not know why the internet doesn't believe these times exist. it's not always just that your physical safety is at risk - sometimes it's legit like "i just don't currently have the energy or time to put in the effort of responding to this." sometimes it's a coworker you hate so much. sometimes it's just like, fine, you know? like you know you can handle your aunt when she's cheerily horrible, but if you actually set a boundary around her, it's going to be weeks of fallout with your father.
i don't know why people think the answer is always just "cut them out!" or "don't let them get away with that!" because ... the real world is tricky and complicated. i think kind of a lot of us have an internal "radiation poisoning" meter for certain people. like - i'm talking about the ones who are absolutely giving you gradual ick damage. like, you can handle them, but you'll be exhausted.
and yes. you absolutely should listen to your therapist and the good posts about handling others and set good boundaries and take care of yourself. prioritize peace.
HOWEVER :) ...... since im often in a situation with a Gradual Sense of Ick person i cannot just "cut out" of my life (without losing someone else precious to me) - i have sort of developed the most. maladaptive form of mischief possible. because like, if i'm going to have to listen to this shit again, i like to have a little bit of private fun with it.
now! again, i am physically safe, just mentally drained by this man. you should only do this with people you are not in danger with. which leads me to my suggestions for when your Unfortunate Acquaintance shows up and says oh everyone pay attention to me.
my favorite word is "maybe!" said as brightly and happily as possible. whenever the Horrible Person starts in on a topic you do not want to go further with, particularly if they make a claim that you know to be inaccurate, do not respond to it. you and i have both tried to actually argue with this person, and it hasn't gone well, because this person just wants the drama of an argument. however, "maybe!" gives them literally nothing to go on. it is incredibly disarming. they are used to people having some response. they know they can't prove what they're saying, and maybe! treats them like the child they are. it dismisses them in the politest way possible.
i like to say maybe! and then, in their stunned silence, immediately change the subject. this is because i have adhd and i will have something unrelated to talk about, but if you can't think of topics fast enough, i recommend just pointing to something and saying, "isn't that lovely?" because fuck you let's bring in some positivity.
by the way. that second trick - of pointing to something and stating an opinion about it? - that just works on its own, like, 70% of the time. i picked it up from teaching preschoolers. it's an intentional "redirect". it stops children crying and it also stops grown adults from finishing their explanation on why women belong in kitchens. dual wielding!
keep it silly for yourself. i absolutely do not care if people think i'm fucking stupid (it's more fun if they do) and as a result i will purposefully misunderstand things just to see how long it takes them to realize i've completely removed them from the subject at hand. when they say "women aren't funny" i get to be like. "which women." "all women." "all women in america?" "no in the world." "like the mole people? the people in the world?" "what? no. like, alive." "oh are we not counting the mole people?" "what the fuck are you talking about." "you don't believe in the mole people?"
similarly, i play a personal game called "one up me." my Evil Acquaintance literally knows this game exists (my family & friends caught onto it and now also play it) and it always fucking gets him. i don't know why. you have to be willing to be a little free-spirited on this one, though. the trick is that when they make one of those horrible little bigoted or annoying comments they are always making, you need to go one unit weirder. not more intense, mind you - just more weird. "you don't look good in that dress." "yeah, actually, my other dress was covered in squid ink due to a mishap at the soup store." "you shouldn't wear such revealing clothes." "wait, what? oh shit. sorry, your son tears off strips when no one is looking and eats them. i swear it was longer before we left the building."
the point of "one up me" is to completely upend this person's narrative. we both know this person likes setting up situations where you cannot "win" and then they really like telling other people how badly you handled it. in a usual situation, if you respond "please don't say something that rude", you're a bitch. but if you let it happen, you're letting yourself be debased. they are not usually expecting door number three: unflappably odd. because what are they going to say when they're telling everyone how badly you behaved? "she said my son eats her dresses" ".... okay?"
if you can, form an allyship with someone whomst you can tagteam with. where they can pick up on your weird "soup store" story and run with it.
the following phrase is amazing and can be deployed for any situation: "oh, be nice :) it's the holidays!" i do not know why this works as often as it does. i'll say it for the most random shit. i think this is bc most of the time these people know they're being impolite, they just like to fight.
godbless. when in doubt, remember that you could always start stealing their pens.
the whole point of this is - if you can't escape. maybe see how long you can just be. like. a horrible little menace.
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sunrisethoughts02 · 9 months
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How to tell when your cup is empty:
in the next few days, we'll be going through a series on filling your own cup in fulfilling and healthy ways, starting with journaling ideas and finally picking our own activities. but first -- how do we know when our cup is empty? it's a little different for every individual, but there's often a few things you can familiarize yourself with to understand in your own physical and emotional space.
-- what is your 'cup?' your cup is your emotional, energetic, and often physical energy. think of waking up well rested and energized for a new day! now compare that feeling to the sensation of coming home after work after a long day, complexly drained and exhausted. this is the feeling of an empty cup. you might also feel....
~ fatigue. this is the most common symptom! often when your cup is empty, you're drained by emotional and energetic events. you have very little energy to give to yourself and others, which is why self-care becomes much more difficult when we're working on empty (often this translates to the physical as well -- we crave sweet and salty things to help boost our adrenal glands and combat fatigue.) this also leads to irritability, because our energy is so drained we revert to internal and external negativity.
~ a felt weight. when my cup is empty or dangerously close, I can feel a heavy sensation centering in my chest; almost this huge emptiness. it's good to create mindfulness around these sensations, because it helps heighten awareness of warning signs.
~ worry and anxiety. you might feel as though you're being helplessly pulled in different directions, without the time or energy to finish anything. you're trying to pour from a cup you haven't replenished!
questions to ask yourself:
~ when do I often feel empty?
~ what activities drain my cup?
~ do any of my own habits help drain my cup?
~ how do I give my energy away and fill other people's cups?
~ how do I feel afterwards?
~ what's my usual habit when my cup is running low? how do I instinctually try to fix it?
~ do those habits serve me well?
in the upcoming weeks, we'll be discussing ways to fill our cups and tweak our individual habits to serve us better :)) have a lovely day, and tune in soon!
drop any questions in the askbox :))
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gaesnek · 1 year
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anyone got advice (aside from meds or therapy (already working on those)) for someone with severe medical anxiety at the point where it could be considered a disorder
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woodenpuppet · 1 year
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my anxiety at night has been coming back lately and i hate it SOMUCH
i cant sleep and then i stay awake until morning just being nausious and anxious and just miserable idk what to doooo
first i thought it only happened when i was already nausious cause thats a big anxiety trigger for me, but yesterday i was fine untill i went to sleep??? what do u want from me???
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You must live in the present, launch yourself on every wave, find your eternity in each moment. Fools stand on their island of opportunities and look toward another land. There is no other land and there is no other life to get to your final destination but this one.
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stary-night · 1 year
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So a question for those who have done therapy more, are you allowed to advocate to use a specific type of therapy that isn't standard for your diagnosis but you personally think might be helpful?
More info about my experience under the cut but basically I have GAD and am considering DBT because I've been trying various types of therapy for the last 7 months and nothing has worked.
I've been in therapy for GAD for 7ish months and over that course of time I've tried CBT, Somatic Healing, many different types of mediation, inner child work, and am now starting to do stuff with core beliefs and "spiritual" meditations. I still have anxiety attacks daily (sometimes due to the meditations - my brain hates subconscious stuff), insomnia due to anxiety, dissociation, and suicidal ideation.
I was thinking of asking my therapist about DBT, since I've read that it tends to work when literally nothing else does and I think emotional regulation would help me more than CBT (I know that my anxiety doesn't make any sense but that doesn't make me feel better) but I know it's not as standard for anxiety.
I'm also worried that maybe I just didn't try hard enough with the other coping skills, I would do them consistently for like a week or two and then they wouldn't seem to work at all, so I stopped trying some of them. Others I meant to keep up with but could never put a consistent enough schedule to practice them frequently enough to be able to use them during a panic attack or anxiety attack. I do grounding exercises consistently but they don't work when I'm having an actual anxiety attack.
All that to say, if anyone has any advice on whether or not this is a good idea or what worked well for them, please let me know.
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