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imaginefan · 5 months

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Reuniting

Landon Kirby X Fem!Reader

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Requested: Anon

Request: Would it be okay to write about going to the school and reuniting with Landon? Her and reader were close but lost contact and the 2 always had feelings for one another, which never went away. The two knew of it but couldn't do anything since they moved away lost contact etc. They're feelings were there always but landon has something with Hope but Landon knows he owes it to himself and reader to try to give it a try since they never had a chance to. /thank you !!!!

You and Landon had known each other when you were younger, you had lost contact after he changed foster homes and you didn’t know how to find him, when you were younger you thought that you were just good friends but now that you were looking at him again you were sure that there was something else, it had to be but it seemed that he was talking to Hope, you had been friends with her since she had come to the school, you were treated as an outcast because you were a werewolf-witch hybrid an outcast to most people there. Hope had been the same when she had gotten then so you grew to be each other's support.

Landon caught sight of you as he walked past the room that you were in, you seemed to be studying something and for a second he just stood there “are you just going to stand there or are you going to say hi?” You asked as you looked up at him with a small playful smile on your face. “I- You… You're like everyone else?” He asked. “I’m nothing like anyone else, a bit of an outsider like always.” You winked, it seemed that Hope hadn’t noticed that he had stopped until now, where she tracked back. “(Y/N)? You know each other?” She asked. “Yeah! We were friends when we were younger, you remember I told you about the old friend that I lost contact with because he moved foster homes?” You asked. “Oh that was Landon?” She asked. “Uh huh.” She smiled as you looked between the two of you. “Then you can help us!” She cheered. “I can?” You asked. “Yeah, Landon has a connection with everything else that has been going on these past couple of weeks so we’re trying to find out what he is.” Hope explained. “With the test?” You asked, she nodded. “Come on, we need to get started.” She ordered and you groaned before closing your books and standing, you linked your arm with Landon’s and followed Hope in the direction that she had walked off.

You watched as Landon tried a number of different tests and began to get frustrated when he didn’t seem to fall into any of the categories that they had set out. You walked over to him where he was sitting on the floor. “You know it’s not the end of the world if you're not such a weird monster from the story books.” You said softly. “It is though,” He grumbled as he picked at the grass. “Really and why is that?” You asked. “You don’t like being what you are?” He asked. “No, not really.” You answered honestly “the powers are cool but I don’t like being different.” “It can’t be that bad.” He said looking at you. “You don’t even know what I am.” You reminded him. “What are you?” He asked. “Werewolf-witch hybrid.” You answered, lifting your hand to draw the water from the grass that he had been picking at before putting it back. “The witches and the wolves don’t like you?” He asked. “And yet because I’m something I didn’t ask for I can’t leave either.” You sighed. “I never minded being different when we were younger because we were different together, you know… We were never truly alone.” You explained. “But I’ve been here since I turned 12 years old and I’ve been lonely since then. Hope has tried to help me but she has her own things to deal with things more important than my loneliness, she’s lost everyone after all.” “Well then that’s even more of a reason that I should stay.” He said softly. “Well even if you can’t stay, I’d still come see you wherever you were, you know I can use locator spells now.” You shrugged. “And you would still remember who I was because you knew me before you came here.” “No, I'll find a way to stay, for you and Raphael.” He said, you didn’t know who Raphael was but you assumed that it must have been the new kid that everyone had been talking about.

It only took a few weeks before it was decided that Landon could stay and while you were happy, he seemed to be closer to Hope though, he still hung out with you and even introduced you to Raphael who you had helped get used to pack politics and everything that was involved with it. “There you are.” Landon sat down next to you and you almost jumped out of your thoughts. “I thought you were supposed to be able to hear me from miles away.” “I can when I am concentrating on hearing you.” You answered, rolling your eyes. “Okay… So what else can you do?” He asked. “Spells, super strength, enhanced hearing and transformation.” You answered. “Into a wolf?” He asked. “Mmhm.” You hummed. “You don’t like it?” Landon asked. “I’ve never turned because I wanted to, it’s very emotion based for me, has anyone told you about magic?” You asked. “No.” He answered with a shake of his head. “Well it’s very emotion based, most spells require you to either calm yourself or lean quite heavily into one particular emotion, I’ve not been able to transform without being angry and that usually leads to a very dangerous rampage.” You explained. “So to answer your question, I’m not a fan of shifting but maybe that can change if I can figure out a way to control it.” “Well I hope that you are able to learn to control it.” He said. “Why?” You asked. “I saw Hope as a wolf when I first got here and I just wondered what you looked like, you know you're pretty… and you know you’d probably look really cool.” He explained stopping for a second when he realised what had called you. “Thanks, Landon, maybe I will be able to learn how to control it.” You smiled. “Landon come on, it’s time to train!” Hope called over, causing you both to turn to her. “Better get going.” You urged him. “Right.” He nodded.

“So are you going to ask her out or what?” Hope asked. “What?” Landon asked as he and Hope headed off to training. “You heard me.” Hope rolled her eyes as she turned to Landon, who was trying to look anywhere but her. “I heard you talking to her.” She threw him to one of the training combat staff that they had been using. “You know she talked about you before you came back, she told me that was the happiest she had been and then you were gone, that was when her magic became harder to control, her parents tried to help her or a couple of years but then she ended up killing someone and they sent her here, where we became friends.” Hope explained. “Really?” He asked. “Yeah, so how about you finish this training session and then you go and ask her out?” Hope suggested attempting to make the first strike. “She doesn’t need someone like me hanging around.” Landon knocked the hit away before striking himself. “How do you know that? Have you ever asked her?” Hope asked, dodging out of the way and hitting at his leg, he jumped out of the way. “No but she's a cool witch werewolf and I’m just me.” Landon answered. “Don’t you owe it to each other to try?” Hope asked. “You missed her while you were apart and after everything that’s happened to you both you still come back to each other like nothing has changed.” Hope used the moment he swung her staff knocking his feet out from underneath him so he fell flat on his back. “Just ask her.”

You had been sitting in your room, you were looking over past notes on some of the new spells that you were starting to learn, you hadn’t even noticed Landon until he spoke “you still eat those?” He asked, pointing to the packet next to you, you nodded and smiled. “Never stopped.” You answered. “You can come in if you want to.” “Thanks.” He said as he walked in, he sat on the edge of the bed and started fiddling with his fingers. “Is there something that you want to ask?” You asked. “Um… Well yeah.” He nodded. “Ask away.” You encouraged him. “You have to promise you won’t hate me.” He begged, you frowned but turned you full attention to him. “I promise.” “Do you want to go on a date?” He asked. “You thought that would make me hate you?” You turned your head to the side and he couldn’t help comparing you to a puppy. “A little.” He finally answered. “Well it doesn’t and in answer to your question, I would love to go on a date with you.” You said and his eyes widened as he stood from his place where he was sitting and placed a quick kiss on your lips before running out the room. Your hand moved to your lips as his head ducked back into the room, cheeks dusted red. “Next Friday?” He asked. “Next Friday.” You confirmed as he disappeared again leaving you to giggle softly and then get back to work hoping to distract yourself from the feelings swirling in your stomach.

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olderthannetfic · 1 year

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Sorry in advance for treating this like ‘Dear Abby’ but I am in need of some advice from a Queer Adult TM…

So, I have this friend who I’ve known for about ten years now. We’re seventeen right now, so let’s just say we went through allllll the phases together. We realized we were queer together, we had our first fandom experiences together (they were actually the person who introduced me to fanfic, which I’m really grateful for, because ever since it has been an integral part of my life), we were DeviantArt furry artists together circa 2016, it was a lot of embarrassing but also fun times. We are also both… and quite mentally ill and it was nice to have someone to help me through the worst bits (when I didn’t have access to therapy or meds) and how I could help them in return.

Lately (maybe over the past 2 years?) we’ve been drifting apart. I think it has a lot to do with the fact we don’t have many common interests anymore (they stopped caring about mine, and stopped sharing theirs with me), but we still do a lot together. They’re my coworker, a member of my ttrpg group, etc. etc.. Due to social anxiety they were my only friend for many years but now I have a few more, so I don’t mind not being as close to them (and I dislike putting the burden of me being reliant/clingy on them). However, they’ve recently been making it harder and harder for me to keep that friendship.

They smoke weed, get shitty stick and pokes, binge energy drinks and shoplift. I don’t have any moral issue with any of those things, but it’s concerning to me because I know they are not in the the right headspace to make those decisions about substances (and the rest). We have both struggled with mental illness, self-harm, and eating disorders. Part of the reason I drifted away from them is because they have no filter and “vent” about their problems to the point where it is very triggering to me (especially in terms of sh and ed). I don’t mind lending an ear but I also have boundaries that I put in place for myself… But yeah, even though they have access to treatment it seems not to be working, or there’s something hindering it. It really hurts to see them in such a bad place because we started out in similar places in regards to our mental health and now that I’m in a better place, they’re not.

I genuinely love and care about this person, but it’s so hard to help them when they shut down every form of help I + the rest of our mutual friends can offer. They’re very manipulative, I would like to think without meaning to, to the point where they twist my words around (for example, recently they did something extremely inappropriate and when I told them I was concerned for their well-being, they said they were sorry for making me “uncomfortable”). They’re also one of those people that plays oppression Olympics, and insists their parents are homophobic and tried to send them to conversion therapy— I know their parents very well, they are literal leftists who have pride flags in their front yard, campaign for politicians that support queer and trans rights, and attend one of the only completely gay-friendly and supporting churches in the area. But the way they talk about them causes other people to dislike them and think they’re homophobic, which they have noticed. I think it’s cruel to them, and also symptomatic of a larger problem that my friend has— they don’t seem to understand that their actions and words have consequences for other people.

I guess what I wanted to ask was: is it worth cutting this person off? I have a feeling that we were naturally grow even farther apart as we go to university, because our values are very different… They’re an anti, I’m not, they have a very surface-level views of politics and believe everything they read in Instagram infographics, I don’t. I don’t consider myself very mature, but they look very immature next to me. Besides, being around them often ends up negatively impacting me as well. However, I worry that cutting them off will makes things worse for them. I don’t want to see them get even more hurt. My confrontations haven’t been doing anything, but maybe they’ll come to their senses eventually.

I really don’t know what to do in this situation, but I’d appreciate any advice from anyone willing to offer it.

Since you're about to go off to college, I'd let the friendship naturally fade.

It's not your job to save this person, and I do think you need to get away from them since they don't seem to be making an effort. But since you're naturally drifting away anyway, I don't think having a big, dramatic friend breakup will help anything.

On another note, everyone should have a moral objection to shoplifting. Not only is it dishonest and a sign that something is fucking wrong with you to shoplift, but shoplifters directly hurt retail peons who will get their pay cut as a result of store losses.

People who do this aren't sticking it to the man. They're parasites who hurt other nobodies.

The fact that a lot of teens (American teens?) think this disgraceful behavior is normal enrages me.

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rustedskyprisms · 3 months

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I am so, so sorry for ever internalizing, believing, and parroting that “if you talk about having trouble connecting to a lot of other women, you must hate them/want male approval” mentality. But that was when I was a teenager and really heavily influenced by tumblr shit. But I’m saying I’m sorry because that’s such bullshit. You cannot simplify someone’s personal problems and experiences like that. And the idea that this always connects back to men, or wanting their approval, or that you’re just “not supportive of other women” is stupid.

And it’s funny that I held that belief when it’s a sentiment I myself can relate to. And it has nothing to do with “seeing women as a monolith”, “getting along better with men”, or whatever. So that’s what I’m saying.

But also, this shit about “a woman with no female friends is a red flag”-I genuinely think it’s very weird to say things like that if you do not know the person in question. If anyone sees women as a monolith, it’s you. To you, the only reason a woman would ever hang out with men is because she values them more, or wants their approval. Are you projecting? Yeah, there totally are women who are super annoying and hate other women; this post is obviously not about them.

Also, I don’t think you can go on about how rough gender roles are for women, and then fail to understand that, if a woman doesn’t fit those roles, really, any “acceptable” roles or ideals in society, yeah, there’s probably going to be a disconnect there.

I just hate how women get simplified. “All women have experienced this”, “all women can relate to this”. Because yeah, I cannot relate to most of those experiences, but if you say that, then you’re making shit about yourself. But you’re literally making blanket statements. Also, I just love when people imply that all women know what It’s like to have female friends they can rely on. Because….yeah. That is not everyone’s experience.

I’m just going to say it though, I think one of the reasons I got so into online spaces that were dominated by women for a while was because I wanted to fit in. There was like a weird thing there, that connects to me really struggling irl with this-I can’t articulate it right now. Maybe one day I’ll figure it out.

I feel like I’m stirring up a hornet’s nest any time I even discuss this subject. So yeah I usually don’t even say anything. And that actually bothers me because I do think it’s important to talk about this stuff. It’s not always what you think. Like I really do believe that before you jump into getting angry, or taking something like that personally, you should ask the other woman why she’s saying that/feels that way. And if you get some response like “guys are less drama/are funnier/cooler/etc”……okay yeah then that’s the type of person who is a complete idiot. If you get a very in depth, personal explanation, even if you disagree with it, I still think you should hear them out. Especially if you yourself are always going on about how women should support each other.

I don’t know, it’s just bizarre to me how so many adults cannot grasp that this stuff is complicated, and very, very heavily influenced by societal rules/expectations. I’d throw in how attractive you’re considered too, but uh, yeah I’m not touching that with a ten foot pole. This really articulates a lot though, in my experience: “There are feminist circles made up mostly of women who have never had a problem with being accepted by other women, and their ideas about how girls and women treat each other are very influential. The things is that they don’t realize that how other women treat them and how other girls treated them growing up isn’t universal. They’re unaware that they aren’t accepted just because they’re women but because they’re able to check off a number of conditions that signal to other women that they “belong.” One of the more important conditions is being able to do femininity the right way. They’re unaware that there’s a huge difference between women who can do femininity the right way and choose to subvert it for feminist reasons versus women who can’t do it the right way at all, and that difference has a huge impact on how other women treat you. A lot of these women are probably well intentioned, but that doesn’t make it okay that their viewpoints, which erase women who are marginalized in ways they aren’t, have become so mainstream.”

I have experienced this firsthand. These were almost always the exact women in these online spaces. Your experiences are not universal. Stop thinking they are and projecting that on to other people. And that’s one of the biggest reasons I left-it became very clear to me that there is a “right way” to go about or experience things to a lot of these people. I feel very out of place in a lot of feminist spaces, but I feel like you just cannot say shit like that. You must have internalized misogyny if you do, right?

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yukikorogashi · 1 year

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Remember my friends, there are always going to be a bunch of haters and naysayers out there. And even if you also receive love and support from the other side, the former just LOVES having the stronger grip over you. Love knowing that what they say and think of you, ends up affecting you way more than the love and belief that you get from others. Making you think that you have nothing... that you, are nothing.

I need to start by saying that I know I’m not one of the greatest and most talented artists/designers out there, and know that I have a long, long way to go (And yeah, I welcome that journey, and of course look forward to learning more, and to continue improving!). But more importantly... getting here has NEVER EVER BEEN EASY in the first place. I am indeed progressing and am indeed reaching those dream goals of mine, but not without tripping over more than one obstacle everyday.

I have had lots of people laughed and looked down on me over the years, all from different age groups, areas of expertise, etc. People from other occupations laughing that I wanted to work in this area, instead of studying for a “real job”. One of my own art teachers even flinging my final year project down to the ground, and nearly even stomping her foot down on it, before storming right out (She was having a bad day, but it still wasn’t right for her to personally take it out on my art at the time). People that just... never took me and my skills seriously, but still think it was perfectly okay to take advantage of me and treat me like shit (Like my first supposedly real job out of college, that I was abused at for nearly a year, and only got paid $1000, that I was told I was even lucky to receive, in the first place).

And don’t get me started on how after drawing for decades now (Ever since I was born), I’m still hardly noticed on any of my Social accounts for my art to this very day. But, you know what? That sort of thing doesn’t matter that much to me these days... especially when all the clients I have worked with up to this point, are people that I personally reach out to through emails and stuff. Granted, it took a lot of time, but I am happy to say that I have mostly (MOSTLY) grown out of my self-hating phase. Because constantly tearing myself down, especially when it comes to anything I achieve, is just not the way to go, my guys. 💦

... And also, I will say that I am really lucky that I can share anything I create with a few very, very close pals, my dear friends who are always nothing but excited and supportive of me... Besides learning to hate myself less (And love myself more), I have learned that these are the people matter so much more, the people I should be tuning my hearing aid to.

So yeah, this goes back to one of my past posts, about being KINDER TO YOURSELF. About actually seeing and accepting that you truly are PROGRESSING, no matter how slow it may seem at times. Be prouder of yourself, GDI! Why are you spitting down on yourself, for actually putting in those attempts??? For actually TRYING? You are actually working so much harder than you realise!

But yeah... I am still drawing, despite all of that. I am still doing what I do, because...

I fucking love what I do, so, so much. Despite how hard it is (AND GOD IT IS HARD, DRAWING IS HARD, LOL!), despite how much I have to deal with, up to this very day. Despite how many times I have to survive on a few pennies, during some extra though periods... And this effort and perseverance has gotten me to FINALLY work with clients in time. And I hope to work with more in due time, as I continue down this path...

Anyway, don’t stop. DON’T YOU. EVER. STOP. When it comes to doing what you love. Get back up, ALWAYS GET BACK UP, whenever those folks try to trip you over.

And make sure you start listening to the folks that are actually CHEERING YOU ON, including yourself. Swing all that LOVE in your heart for that thing like a pillow and smack those haters in the face with it, before continuing your way towards your goals!

#(I don't know if I should put this in my posi//tivity tag because I am mentioning a lot of depressing things I have gone through)#(But the main message is)#(If you love something very very much-- don't you ever give up)#(What you create adds more beauty to the world itself)#(So DON'T YOU EVER STOP)#(Where are people who just want to hate and laugh are honestly wasting their time-- especially if they arent even giving constructive fb)#// long post #❄️BECKOWSKY SPEAKING! ❄️#❄️ QUEUE ❄️

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montygatorsdiscordkitten909 · 1 year

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Sorry this is so long I had just thinking about this a lot and had to get it off my chest.

Let me make this clear, I don’t like little kids. They’re loud, they don’t understand personal space, they’re always sick, etc. Does that give me a valid reason to be an asshole to them? No the fuck it does not. I don’t care how much you hate kids, if you’re purposefully being an asshole to someone just for being younger than you and not having a level of understanding of the world around them the way you do, then I have some news for you. You’re an asshole. Kids, as annoying as they may be sometimes, are PEOPLE. Like real, living, breathing, autonomous, individuals with their own unique ways of thinking. And it is crucial that you respect that.

I was at a Halloween event several months ago where there were lots of kids, and I was not happy about the way they approached people. They were loud, obnoxious, and did not respect people’s boundaries even after you’d tell them to leave you alone. However, they were only behaving this way because their parents allowed it. The parents at this event were being negligent, whiny little pricks who would rather drink beer until midnight than parent their fucking kids. You know, like they are OBLIGATED TO DO. So naturally, I wasn’t nearly as angry at the kids more so than I was at the parents. I showed them respect and talked to them like they were adults, not making them feel like they were stupid. When I understood the only reason they acted the way they did was because of their brainless parents, it was a lot easier to talk to them without this feeling of “oh my god get me the fuck out of here right now.” I was one of the only other teens at the party who treated the little ones this way, which I do not blame the other teens there for. We are not obligated to parent your kids. But because I had shown them just a basic level of respect, I was one of (if not *the* only one) they showed respect to. One kid in particular was really fascinated with my costume and thought it was so cool that I had hand made a Funtime Foxy cosplay for the occasion. This kid that was rough-housing and intruding on everybody else, was politely calming down and just talking with me, and really seemed to enjoy it. He was talking about his different ideas for costumes he thought I would enjoy making in the future, he didn’t talk with anyone else this way. “Oh yeah and (character) would be really cool! Because all the little details in (physical characteristic) would be a nice challenge to try to recreate and it would look so cool! You could use this (material,)” etc.

My point is, you often underestimate the impact your actions and words have on people, especially those who are still learning about, and trying to get a grip on the world around them. I’m not saying you’re obligated to parent somebody else’s kid, but for the love of all things good, just be nice to them. Often when you show kids some basic respect and don’t make them feel like they’re “lesser” than you, or “stupid,” they’ll often reciprocate that respect. It pays to just use some common sense and treat people with some basic respect. You don’t have to like kids to not be a jerk to them.

People who want to be parents, you better treat your kids like they are the most precious things in the world. If you don’t light up with joy when you think of raising kids, then don’t. If you’re considering having kids make sure you are in a place where you can financially and emotionally support them and yourself perfectly well, and make sure this is absolutely what you want. Nobody’s kid should ever have to feel unwanted. That is the most crushing, painful feeling in the world. So really make sure you are going to be there for them, 100% of the way, and make them feel loved and appreciated. You might have created them, or adopted them, but that doesn’t mean you should take them for granted. They didn’t ask to be born and they don’t owe you a thing. Have kids because you love them, because they complete your family, because your world is so much brighter with them in it, because you are willing to leave this world with one or more happy people than it had before.

Parents, your kids are not an extension of you. NEVER, take them for granted. You will never understand what they are going through, ever. No matter how hard you try. You physically cannot protect them from everything. You’ll only hurt them more if you try. The best thing you can do is reassure them that you WILL be there to support them. Instead of taking away the things that bring them happiness and motivation because they got a bad grade, congratulate them for trying their best. And remind them that their grades aren’t as important as their lives. If your kid is trying their best, which in almost all cases they are, and they come home with a bad grade, that says more about the teacher’s ability to teach than it does your kid’s ability to learn. If you wanna mess your kid up forever and cut them off from their friends because of a number on their paper, then don’t you dare mourn them when you are the reason they disappear. All kids deserve parents, very few parents actually deserve kids.

Kids are people. Treat them as such, for fucks sake. Never take life for granted, no matter how old or young that life may be.

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rhaenyras · 7 months

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(cw ed/weight talk) I feel a little lost regarding my body image. I have been told I am fat my entire life, starting from middle school I was always the fat kid and even at home my parents always tried to encourage me to diet and signed me up for sports. Starting from around age 12 my dad would openly tell me I’m too fat. When I started starving myself I would pass out many times, even had a head injury from hitting my head once when I fell. Even now, I’m still considered very fat by my country’s standards (Eastern Europe), if I see my distant relatives they make comments about my weight. However. I’m starting to realise that things have changed in the “real world” with body positive movement, so I don’t know how to put this. I’m 153 cm/67 kg, which has become very normal today and I try to be aware of my privilege in the sense of body positivity community etc. But it’s like, when I try to talk about my own experiences of being fatshamed as a midsize/plus size woman I feel like I’m not being heard, especially by the people from Western communities. My tiktok comments will be flooded with comments like “how is this midsize??” “you’re not even fat” etc. And like, fat is not a bad word, I don’t mind using it to describe myself. I guess I just feel torn like no one gets it, because online the standards are too different for my own experience but in real life in Eastern Europe I still have random me yelling “fatty” when I walk down the street or saying things like “try a salad instead” from boys behind me at Mcdonalds. Idk if this makes sense, I’m not trying to compare my experience to that of unifat people or anything, I guess I just feel a little lost because irl I’m always told I’m fat but I also don’t feel like I can find comfort with these online communities

it's literally so pointless and stupid when support communities for minorities and marginalized groups gatekeep, discriminate and exclude fellow members of those very groups. like... why would you behave in the very same way you rightfully criticize the entirety of society for?? what's the point?? it's so hypocritical. im genuinely sorry you've been treated this way by fatphobic people irl and by dumb gatekeepers online. the topic of fatphobia has been tackled multiple times on this blog and, as we've been saying, fatphobia is so complex and it interacts with our lives on so many levels that when you analyze it you can't just narrow it down to trivializing shallow criteria such as "you're only a victim of fatphobia if your bmi is over this number or if you weigh precisely x kilograms". any activist who's worth their name will tell you as much. and of course, yeah, the fatphobia will be harsher and more invasive the fatter you are, because that means you're straying even further from the ethnocentric ideal of skinny white female beauty. not to mention that for very fat people there's also the issue of accessibility, since they cannot be accommodated in most places and spaces, so the systemic fatphobia becomes literally crippling in that sense as it restricts your freedom of movement. but there's a host of other shades, shapes and nuances that the social phenomenon of fatphobia can come in, of course, and they're all equally deserving of being taken seriously and analyzed in depth. without a proper and precise vision of the bigger picture behind fatphobia we are powerless to fight it and dismantle it. and you know what else? joining an online community that preaches body positivity should not be reserved exclusively to people labeled as "fat" by whichever criteria are considered appropriate at the moment. body positivity is also for disabled people and generally anyone who has a non-conforming heavily policed stigmatized body or a troubled relationship with their body image. we should be extending our support and empathy to as many people as possible out there, not restrict the realm of who we consider a victim to the very few people who look exactly like us.

#ask #anon #anonymous

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echoing-oursong · 1 year

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Jonathan was standing outside as Nancy presented her story and then when she leaves because the reporters rejected her story and started making fun of her, he tries to comfort her. Ok, well he was standing outside as Nancy stormed out but I think it can be implied that he was there when she was presenting. Like why wasn't he in the room? Again, he witnessed the rats. The reporters are more inclined to believe two people. I guess this was what they meant by Jonathan not standing up for Nancy, but again if he was in the room, he can say that the rats were acting weird and that scene was likely to play out differently. But if he went in after Nancy left, he'd be flying blind - he doesn't know exactly what the reporters said to Nancy, just that it didn't go in Nancy's favor. He can say that their treatment of her is abhorrent but he can't counter anything they said to her specifically about the rats which is why he should have been in that room! Also, he seemed more focused on comforting Nancy than confronting her bosses at least from what I remember. We also have to remember that Jonathan is not a very confrontational character at all so it's very in character for him to not confront his bosses.

okay so you submitted this a couple of times which is totally cool don’t feel bad at all. i’m just going to answer this one and then delete the two others that you sent because this will be the one that i answer (and it’s the same ask so i will go over the same things)

ngl that’s def a weird choice to have jonathan with that placement because why put him by the fire but not go in the room? like maybe if nancy had a line of wanting him to support her from the side so that she can prove herself. but still you’re right he saw the rats like why isn’t he in the room with her? yeah if he did go in after nancy left he would be flying blind because he doesn’t even know what she said in there and how she presented her story at all. and yeah he didn’t know how the reporters treated her so honestly if he did defend her by barging into the room and etc he most likely would have gotten fired.

YES EVERYTHING YOU SAID IN THOSE LAST FEW LINES

#answered asks #honeysblooms tag

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So what does being centrist/right leaning mean to you then? i know people who self describe like that who range all around… “hmm if u think about it fascism could work…” “abortion is bad because it makes women act whorish which is bad because… um. I don’t get any and think the no sex until marriage line will help me lock down a bang maid” “gay is bad because it’s caused by parasites” “xyz race is inferior let’s look at the stats” ……..and then I know people who say that over like…. Disagreeing with the trans stuff (despite leftists also disagreeing) and being against “Stalinist communism” and “government regulations” and while I usually find these people myopic and contradictory plus conveniently ignoring all the other ways to approach actual free associations of community mutual support, they aren’t… the other shit.

Thank you for clarifying your tone, as it’s hard to understand which angle people are coming at in digital conversations.

Tbh, you said a lot and I’m still trying to make sense of it all, it might also be because I’m tired, so my brain isn’t functioning at its peak. I want to do more readings on different forms of government (Marxism, Stalinism, Fascism, etc), as I honestly don’t know the philosophy and structures of each. I also want to read more philosophical feminism from de Beauvoir, Friedan, Dworkin, etc.

Just like with everyone, we all agree with different things and I really don’t want to get into the details on everything left/right that I am for/against, as it’s too much to list. If you have a specific example, I can tell you where I currently stand.

I can focus on the radfem/trans stuff since you focused on that in another ask.

Yeah I often times forget radfem is left. A lot of right-leaning influencers I tune into always dismiss any feminist narrative as unnecessary. I feel like the trans exclusionary part is sort of right because the left is very trans-inclusive. This is probably where you see some contradictions in what I’ve posted. That’s because, like with anyone, no one is fully this or that. I cherry pick from the left/right on what I feel is correct or what makes the best sense to me, with respect to my own morals and values.

Another contradiction is that I believe some men are actually trans women and that they aren’t faking it, like most trans women (or trans non-binary) people seem today. The difficult part is self-identification. I am more likely to believe a man is a trans woman from a few years ago compared to now, since everyone and their child is coming out as trans or non-binary.

Let’s say I know a trans woman and I get to know them. If they appear genuine in how they ‘feel female’ (I also have issues with that statement) then I feel more inclined to believe them. I would still want separate safe spaces for women and trans women though. I agree with the statement that trans women are not women. No amount of surgery, HRT, or ways of dress can make them a real woman. I feel they are a type of woman, since I want to believe they feel they were born the wrong sex. I have a feeling that my thoughts on this will change, as I’m starting to question, and look more into whether it’s actually possible to be ‘trapped’ in the wrong body. I agree that a trans woman doesn’t get fully treated or seen as a woman. The only instances, which falls in line with you saying “not in all areas of life”, where they would is if they pass so well people don’t know they’re trans. But yeah, as soon as someone knows they are biologically male, they won’t be treated as a real woman. I believe most people are faking when they say they treat trans women and women the same way. Sure they can easily adjust to call them she/her and maybe do ‘girl talk’, but there’s still those underlying feelings that they are different and were raised male. I still have ways to go on figuring I it where I stand. I still have more learning to to and more listening as well. I hope this helps you understand my take on my little random blog. I appreciate the ask and know that I will do research in time. I am slow to doing stuff that is genuinely good for my personal growth, as I go with the flow of what I’m in the mood to do and what I’m able to focus on.

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not adding to the post i saw bc i don’t want to get into discourse (so pls don’t discourse with this either) but i really don’t think that the chick fil a outrage can be compared to the wizard game, like i get what you’re trying to say but I don’t think it’s a fair comparison.

maybe this is me just being defensive bc chick fil a is literally one of the only restaurants in my area that i can safely eat and that doesn’t fuck up my order or take 10000 years in the drive through or cost an arm and a leg, its consistent and reliable and i literally have an eating disorder and am extremely poor, looking for alternatives is hard and costly and usually ends up with me either not eating or eating poorly, wasting money, and feeling awful about myself. like yes i’m sure i COULD find alternatives but that takes spoons and it’s a very high risk situation, and i don’t always have the energy to cook either

y’all have to understand that this isn’t just “an inconvenience” sometimes it’s literally the difference between me eating dinner or not, like something being easy for you is not the same as it being easy for everyone, and when it comes to FOOD which is necessary for survival, that’s different than when it comes to ENTERTAINMENT. yes there are alternatives to chick fil a, but accessing alternatives is not as simple as you make it sound. i try my best but I can’t always succeed. in my area there are a LOT of extremely shitty fast food places that fuck up my order and cost a lot and take 112982398 years to get bc they’re all understaffed and underpaid, so sorry that I go to the one place that’s on my way home from work that I can count on will actually make my order within 5-10 minutes

the main annoying thing to me about the game is the way that people still can’t let h*rry p*tter go, it’s a GAME. it’s also the people that are BRAGGING about playing the game that piss me off. i don’t go online and brag about eating chick fil a (unless that’s how you wanna see this post) i just feel guilty about it all the time bc of posts like that, which adds to my feelings of guilt and fear and shame that already surround eating on a daily basis for me so thanks for that ig?

and before you say it’s my job to get over it (i literally saw someone on that post say ‘i don’t care if it’s your safe food‘ like fuck you actually), you don’t know me or my life or my mental illness or my reasons for doing things. i have ARFID which is not my job to explain you can look it up if you’re curious. and yeah it’s not the same as no ethical consumption under capitalism whatever when there are alternatives, but the only reason the chick fil a thing got big was because it got out where they were sending their money. believe me there are LOTS AND LOTS of fast food organizations and companies that are directly donating to hateful places and republican politicians and christians and bigots etc. they just aren’t talked about as much.

and y’know what i’ll go ahead and say it, fast food IS accessibility for me, it’s important to have places where I can go and spend a little bit of money and get a meal that’s ready to eat without requiring me to prepare it or create dishes. where i used to live, we also had chick fil a and I never went there because we had alternatives that I could eat, that were safe and affordable. Now that I live in an area that does not have easily accessible safe affordable alternatives, I go there sometimes. and this is not a fair comparison to a video game founded on antisemitism and transphobia.

that being said maybe i’m just getting defensive bc i am betraying my community and a horrible person whatever, believe what you want about me but i’m just saying that there are aspects that you have to consider, and your experiences are not universal. Believe me, there are other things I do to support my community, I can’t fight every single battle, and just bc this one happened to get more outrage doesn’t mean that I deserve to be shamed and treated like i’m just avoiding taking accountability or doing what’s convenient for me for occasionally eating one of my safe foods in an area with surprisingly limited options for safe and affordable actual fast food for being such a touristy city. believe me i’ve tried alternatives. and i try to do Mod Pizza more often than CFA, (those are my two safe fast food options nearby), but Mod is also more expensive, requires me to get out of my car and interact with people, and also takes a lot longer. those are not always possible for me.

not that i have to defend myself or my choices to anyone, i just wanted to make this post to tell my followers (pls don’t reblog it or let it breach containment i can’t deal with that) that it’s more complicated than this black and white issue people are making it out to be. think what you want about me but i have my reasons and I don’t think it’s doing anyone any favors to shame members of the community who are poor and disabled for doing what we have to do to survive and i REALLY don’t think it’s fair to compare something like food to something like entertainment

#i'm probably gonna delete this #at least to understand why there are reasons that someone like me might go to chick fil a on occasion that go beyond #just feeling like it #and believe me i've been shamed for it irl too

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it’s funny, i was just having a series of conversations about body image that remind me of the discussions going on here.

i have a friend who recently moved into the field of dietetics (which i was fully prepared to judge her for until i heard her philosophies about the whole thing). we had a long talk about how she wants to start a practice based on the idea that health is not a size issue, that it looks different for everyone, and how she wants to help people work towards the goals of 1) eating 2) eating *enough* 3) eating *well* and 4) feeling good in their bodies, both physically and emotionally. she wants to ask her clients questions like “what would you like your body to be able to do? how would you like your body to be able to support you in the life you’re building?” and focus on making sure they feel as good as possible, first and foremost, for as long as possible. her approach would take things like food insecurity, disability, mental health, etc. into account. i was really impressed and we brainstormed a lot of language about food as a love language and how that translates to self love and self care.

i had another talk with another friend about desirability politics and body image, and how she actually prefers her body physically how it is now, even though she’s conventionally labeled “overweight” (a term which means nothing), because her clothes fit better, her skin doesn’t sag, her temperature regulation is better, and she really enjoys the way she looks, but she’s still anxious to lose weight bc she saw the way her mother was treated growing up as a fat brown woman and she’s terrified of that happening to her. she actively wants to make herself less comfortable and less healthy by losing weight bc societal fatphobia is more threatening to her than low self esteem.

that’s what that biphobia anon reminds me of. it can be really difficult to separate feelings of “i hate being x” and “i hate the way i’m treated because i’m x.” it’s really easy for those two things to feel the same, but they aren’t, anon. i swear to you they aren’t. you can love your body and still fear fatphobia more. you can love your queerness and still fear social stigma more, and i’m genuinely offering you all the love i can and the hope that someday your love becomes stronger than your fear.

because there is so much joy to be found in queerness! there is so much beauty here! and not just in our resilience and our survival- our joy is inherent, and it doesn’t only come from overcoming homophobia in society. that’s part of it, yeah, but there’s joy just in being able to look at a woman and think “god, she’s so beautiful, i want to know everything about her.” there’s joy in seeing a man smile so it lights up the whole damn room and wanting to be the reason he keeps smiling. there’s joy in being able to do both of these things at the same time! there’s joy in meeting another queer person and realizing you understand something fundamental about each other that other people don’t, that you’re connected through a culture and a way of being that makes kin out of strangers. there is beauty in the threads that tie us together, anon, and you’re tangled in those threads whether you love them or not, and if you let us, we’ll weave a net beneath you to break your fall. there is love inherent in who you are, anon, and i truly and honestly hope you learn to feel it someday.

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#like lmao if I’m going to die a lonely mentally ill lesbian might as well just speed up the process :/#if the middle is the same as the end why the hell stretch it out lol #I’m so so miserable tonight #I want to not have a broken head #I can’t emotionally or physically maintain anything the way I want to because of my stupid head #I don’t say I don’t understand or get gay people my age #and that’s true #and I know I just want people to be who they are and it’s not their fault I’m like this #but if I’m being honest this whole thing is making me so frustrated at the world and myself #I don’t LIKE most people #it’s not just an understanding thing #I just flat out don’t like them and I get uncomfortable around them or sad or frustrated #and I hate that I don’t want to be that person #and yeah I don’t treat people differently and I’m still supportive etc etc #but I hate the fact that I just don’t like most other gay people my age #makes me feel like a judgmental douche who thinks she is better then other people #which I don’t #I just don’t get them or feel comfortable and it’s like I’m having all my oddities and loneliness thrown at my face and I HATE it #I don’t want this to be my life #I don’t want to be this way #I hate how lonely I am I hate how misunderstood I feel #I just want someone who gets me and loves me and WHO I LOVE AND WANT TO BE AROUND AND AM HAPPY AROUND #god I hate this

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younger reader coming out to mcyts's? no sexuality specified cause I don't want people to feel alienated but same sex attraction definitely a part of it. thanks!

☾ MCYT's reaction to young reader coming out ☽

》 Dream 《

"Wait really? That's amazing! Thank you so much for telling me!"

Will honestly be so supportive when you came out to him and won't treat you any differently after that

If you come out to him as trans he'll first ask for your pronouns and (if you want to) have already thought of a new name

》 Sapnap 《

"That's so cool :)"

Doesn't really express his support verbally but more through actions

Will definitely start a fight if someone is being transphobic, homophobic etc.

》 George 《

"I don't really know what to say but just know i support you."

Also doesn't really know how to show his support but he's trying his best

May also not know the meaning of what you came out as so you might have to explain it to him but won't treat you any differently

》 Badboyhalo 《

"Thank you so much for trusting me enough to tell me that :D No matter what i'll always support you and never treat you differently!"

Loves to learn more about your identity/sexuality etc. and will also inform himself on his own

Really has to hold himself back from not getting violent whenever someone is not being accepting

》 Wilbur Soot 《

"Yoooo that's amazing! I'm so proud of you and thank you so much for telling me!"

Honestly so happy for you and that you trusted him enough to tell him. Will be your personal protector

"To anyone not accepting my friend for who they are, fuck you, leave my chat right now i do not want you here."

》 Jack Manifold 《

"That's great to hear! Good on you honestly!"

Will be your biggest supporter. Manifold, supporter of the gays my beloved

Makes sure to learn more about your identity, sexuality etc. to understand you better

》 Karl Jacobs 《

"Wait really!? That's great i'm so proud of you!"

It makes him so happy seeing you find out new things about your identity and no matter what will support you and is willing to learn

It honestly breaks his heart and makes him so disappointed and anrgy whenever someone is being homophobic, acephobic etc.

》 Captain Puffy 《

"I'm so happy for you! Thank you so much for telling me!"

On her supportive mom arc (honestly if she wasn't bisexual herself i feel like she would sent you cloths with a rainbow on it lmao)

May be 5'2 but will still fuck up anyones shit if they don't accept you for who you are

》 Philza Minecraft 《

"Really? That's amazing mate i'm fucking proud of you!"

Very accepting and supportive of you no matter what

Whenever someone was homophobic in you chat and he banned them he won't accept any unban requests. Dad be crafting a belt

》 Tommy 《

"That's so fucking poggers man holy shit! Good on you!"

More the type for aggressive support

I feel like he would just scream validating things at you whenever he has the chance to

If you don't want him to beat up people you need to hold him back whenever someone's being unaccepting

》 Tubbo 《

"Yooo dude that's so fricking cool man!"

I feel like he'd be supportive in his own way ("Shank whoever you want to shank bossman." -Tubbo)

Remember that time he gave Eret dating advice? Yeah he's also definitely gonna do that

》 Ranboo 《

"Wait what really? That's amazing holy cow that's so cool!"

Ranboo, protector of the queers and genderqueers my beloved so supportive of you and will show that publicly

Usually doesn't hate on anyone or at least express it but you know that when someone is being homophobic, transphobic etc. to you in real life he will not hesitate to throw hands

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Ask Answers: August 8th

Well, doing big posts all together worked for a while but lately I’ve been putting it off because it takes a long time to get them done. I think I’m gonna try switching back to answering asks whenever I can fit it in and posting them one at a time instead of waiting until I’ve filled out one of these major collections.

But for now, here’s more ask answers! Thank you for the questions and for all the kind words along with them ^^.

Hello!! I'm here to ask if its possible to get the game and its dlcs on steam and play it on android?

I’m afraid not. Steam doesn’t have Android builds on their own site and Steam is not cool with keys for other sites being given out for Steam purchases, so you don’t get the Itch version from buying on Steam.

Hello! Sorry to bother you but, I had a question, if we buy the Game on itchio do we get steam keys or would we need to purchase it twice?

You would have to buy it twice if you want it in both places, I’m sorry. To repeat myself a little, Steam doesn’t like the key trading thing. Itch may support giving keys for another site, but the reverse isn’t doable with Steam and Steam doesn’t even really want you to get a Steam key for buying somewhere else either. So we just don’t mess around with that.

hey, sorry if this is frequently asked, but is step 4 free dlc or paid for? some of your sources are contradicting each other.

It’s free! There’s a paid wedding DLC, but Step 4 itself is entirely unpaid.

Hello! I just had a quick question, for the Baxter and Derek DLC's will we be able to confess our feelings to them or let them confess to MC? or will it only be one way? (they confess to MC)

Both type of options will be available!

Hey there! I wanted to ask whether or not the Derek DLC is still on track to be released in August since on the steam discussion board it says it will be released mid 2021. I totally understand if it isn't, I'm just really looking forward to it! If you answer then ty! And keep up the amazing work :D

It’s not, aha. Unfortunately, 2021 wasn’t easier than 2020 as we hoped so things are still slower than planned. It’ll come out late 2021 or early 2022.

Hi! Firstly I just want to say that I LOVE Our Life. I have played a bit of similar games but this one instantly wins for the best one! Everything about it is amazing! I just wanted to ask if Derek would ever lose feelings for MC, like if they make the deal and then MC gets with Cove would he move on? and even if you don't, after "losing contact" would his feeling fade or would he still like MC?

If you don’t really keep in touch with him and clearly move on with your life, Derek will too and he’ll be over it. But if you are still close as best as you can be, he’ll still think the MC is special. Though, he’ll always support your relationship with someone else if that’s what’ll make you happy.

Hello! Sorry if you've answered this before but: 'How's Lee related to us? Though which momma? And does she share our player-chosen last names? Also, do you know if Noelani took Pam's last name or did it happen the other way round?

She’s related to Pamela and Pamela’s last name is the one they use, so the MC has the same last name as Lee.

Will we be able to choose which (they or he) we tend to call Qiu by more often, or will it randomly change depending on the moment?

Qiu knows which pronoun they’re comfortable with at a time and you’ll call them what they’re happy with. And it doesn’t change between lines, it takes multiple scenes or even full Steps for it to switch. So for extended periods Qiu will be totally a guy or fully agender.

Will Step 4 of OL2 have moments?

It’ll be an epilogue like it is in OL1, so it won’t have a bunch of different Moments.

Hello! Just a quick question, is Sunset bird from OL1 based on a real location? If so what's it called? I wanna visit it +_+

ps i love your games so much <3

It isn’t based on one specific town you can go to, but there are a lot of little coastal towns in Cali that have a similar vibe!

Heyaaa ( I hope you're all well ), umm… it might seem kinda stupid to ask but did Patreon members can have a key for the dlc's ( all the steps-released dlc ) even if they became a member this month or later ? (me? saying this cuz it's my case? maybe ;-;), and once again thanks for absolutely all the amazing works on all the games ! u-u

You wouldn’t get the DLCs for backing there. The Patreon is for extra bonus content/early access, rather than being a storefront to purchase the normal DLCs. Rarely we give them out as a side gift, but it hardly happens and if what you want is the DLCs it’s best to ignore the Patreon and buy keys for those directly from Itch or Steam. I’m sorry for the confusion.

Hey y'all, love what youre doing w/Terry. Trans rep outside of player customization is so rare and important to see more of so thank you so much. I do have a question and its that does he have a canon sexuality? I know Miranda was said to be straight ace but I dont believe anything was stated for Terry probably because he wasnt revealed to be a guy which changes things. Im also curious if well get answers on how long hes liked Miranda since he may have liked her in step 3 before she liked him

Terry likes women and Randy likes men! And he did like Miranda back in Step 3.

Will the Wedding Dlc release at the same time as Step 4?

They’ll come out separately with Step 4 releasing first.

I really love Our Life so much! I've spent over 20hours playing it even though I only got it a week ago! I was wondering if I could make a fangame for Our Life with a different love interest but same plot. Next-door neighbors romance, multiple steps, etc? I'll probably make it on Google Slides though-

Sure! I hope you have fun with it and I’m glad you love the game.

How does Cove feel about poly relationships?

He’s got nothing against them for the people they work for, but he’s 100% monogamous and would only be comfortable with a partner who was willing to be monogamous with him.

Idk if this has been answered before but will Step 4 include the option to advance your feelings towards Cove?

Yep, you’ll be able to determine your feelings and what your relationship is.

In step 4 will there be a chosen to say we live with Cove even as just friends?

Yeah, you can choose to live with Cove and that can be done when you’re friends.

I just played the game with the MC and Cove being best friends and omg it’s still so damn cute like the wholesomeness of it all is too much for my heart I swear ^.^ Now with that all said I was wondering can we still marry Cove? if we only love him as a friend like let’s say we’ve made deal with him similar to the one we can make with Derek because let’s real no one could compete with what the MC and Cove have even if they aren’t in love.

It’s great to hear you enjoyed the friendship story! You can live with Cove, but you can’t marry him platonically. Cove has familial affection for the MC if they’re best-est friends. He wouldn’t think to marry someone he loves like family and even grew up with as though they truly were siblings.

Are you still going to be making a DLC for XOBD? :]

Yes! We’re slowing adding voiced lines and fixing errors.

It makes me laugh that Shiloh's last name is Fields because that's what I put as my last name! So in Our Life when he talked about "Ms. Fields" picking him up I was extremely confused, lol. That dude mimics personalities so much that he stole my surname!

Oh, wow, that’s a very funny coincidence, haha.

hi !! i cant seem to be able to get the scene where mc is able to propose to cove despite being at the 'love' stage and telling him i'd want to get married, are there any other details that im missing out on? the options just dont appear at the end...

Maybe you missed telling Cove you were in love with him even if you mentioned wanting to get married or you might’ve accidentally said earlier in the game that you don’t want to progress your relationship further with Cove. We haven’t removed them, so you can get the scene again. It’s just kind of easy to miss since there’s multiple requirements. You can read a little guide in the FAQ.

wait what di you need to do to be able to propose to cove? I've been trying but haven't had much luck

You can check out the FAQ linked above!

does cove only develop a crush on the mc if the mc is also at crush/in love with him?

Technically, yes. We treat the non-romantic relationship options as truly non-romantic since we don’t want to bait and switch people. But there’s nothing wrong with headcanoning that Cove does have feelings developing for the MC even before the MC has.

Is there a way to make/allow Lee and Baxter to date?

No, they just don’t have enough time together.

We also got a group of asks related to Tamarack in OL2, but I’m afraid the way they talked about people with larger bodies made me not want to post their words, even if the person didn’t say they’re trying to be hurtful. I will separate out the core question and answer it though, so people can know that info.

Does Tamarack lose weight in later Steps?

No, she doesn’t. As for the other questions included, to be honest, I don’t have to explain/defend having romance options of different sizes. I’m sorry if you’re dealing with unhappiness that’s connected to body image, if that’s where the negative emotions are coming from, but even so I can’t meet you on that level and pretend it’s a problem that needs an answer. A girl who simply isn’t thin being a main love interest is just not an unreasonable concept. Also, Tamarack isn’t a lesbian. Yes, she can date a female MC, but that doesn’t undo her actual sexuality, so I’m not sure where that one part at the end was coming from.

I wonder... can we "fight" with Qiu over leader status? 👀

Not really, haha. No matter how cool your MC is, they’re never gonna replace Qiu for the other kids around. So you can either partner up with him, follow him too, or not be a part of all that group politics stuff.

So when I play the game, sometimes I mentally call Cove “Covie/Covey” and that made me wonder, how does Cove feel about being nicknamed? Not like Romeo/Space Cadet/etc. but like pet names relating to his actual name

It’d depend on his age, personality, and your relationship with him! When he’s younger he’d probably be embarrassed, when he was grown he’d probably be more casual or happy about it.

will you be able to date baxter in step 3 while at crush with cove (but not dating him ofc) sorry if this has been asked already. i really love baxters step 4 design btw!!

Yeah, you can be crushing on Cove and date Baxter if you weren’t already dating Cove. You just can’t be truly in love with Cove and then switch to Baxter.

I just got my friend into our life, and they adore shiloh and derek sooo will there be more of them in the second game?

I’m afraid not. But you can see plenty more of Shiloh in XOXO Droplets/XOXO Blood Droplets, haha.

I see you haven't gotten any xoxo droplets asks recently but I'm still obsessed with these boys!! I was just wondering if Nate would curse under any circumstance?

Yeah, Nate does use certain swear words (damn, hell, bastard) on very rare occasions.

Hi there! I have a question about the wedding dlc. Will we be able to plan a honeymoon during the planning stages of it or would it be something that Cove and the mc would rather plan later on? Thank you! Absolutly love the game by the way, definitely one of my favorite games!

The focus will be on the wedding day itself. The topic of the honeymoon might come up a bit, but there won’t be any choosing of the exact location and such.

Hi! I have two questions and it's completely understandable if you only answer one/neither and I'm sorry if you've already answered either before! First, is there a set year in which OL:B&A takes place (ex: Step 1 being set in 2010 & Step 2 being set in 2016, etc.) or is it simply up to interpretation? Second, have you guys thought about doing a coming-of-age game where the MC has a tough home life or upbringing? (like one of their parents is an addict, a parent being transphobic whilst the player has the option to be trans, or having friends that are influencing them to do drugs, etc.) That's all! Thanks for making beautiful games. <3

There is a set timeline!

Step 1: 2006 Step 2: 2011 Step 3: 2016 Step 4: 2021

And we don’t currently plan on making a game like that. The Our Life series exists to be a safer environment for people to play around in and if we did do a brand new series that was harsher edged it’d be something more fantastical and/or plot-driven instead of a different type of modern day slice-of-life growing up story. I’m sorry.

i don’t know if you’ve already answered this, but do you have a guess on when phase 4 will come out? as well as ol2? i’m so excited for both of them, the inclusivity in this game is amazing, you guys should be really proud of it!

Step 4 will be coming out very soon! OL2 is gonna take until 2023 to be anywhere near completion. But we might episodically release the Steps one at a time as they get done instead of waiting for three to be finished before launch like we did with the first game.

Hello, I was curious if there was an official or unofficial discord server for the game?

We do have a discord! You can join by clicking this link HERE.

how long do you plan to keep ol's patreon running?

Hopefully for at least a few more years.

Are you considering ever making merch?

Yeah, but I don’t know when it’ll happen or what exactly we’ll make, aha. It’s something we want do, just nothing is set.

hi! i just found out about your game a couple of days ago on tiktok (so sorry if you’ve already answered this question) and i was wondering if y’all are ever planning to release it on iOS?

I have no idea. It’s hard for a small group to get Apple approval and I honestly can’t say if it’ll ever happen or not. Maybe someday, though!

Hi, I love the art style of Our life and I would like to know if the artist has a Twitter? Also, could it be possible to fund more CGs for the game from him/her? So many times, I wish there was one like when the cutscene of the sunshower.

That’s nice of you to offer. He doesn’t have a Twitter, at least not one that’s public enough to be shared with me. And I’m afraid not. The issue is that the CGs take huge amounts of time rather than there not being a budget for it. He’s gotta make CGs for Step 4, the DLCs, and new character sprites, too. There isn’t space in the schedule for even more. Sorry for that.

Hi, how are you?!

Are you planning on accepting new writers or is it always the same people who write your stories??

Thanks!!

Our Life: Beginnings & Always won’t be getting new writers, but we will be hiring a new team of writers for Our Life: Now & Forever eventually!

perhaps this counts as nsfw and I'm sure it has been answered before but what does Cove prefer, chests/boobs or butts? or perhaps both :3c thank you for this wonderful game (and the patreon bonus moment, it was worth all the waiting and more ♥)

He’s a “chests of all shapes and sizes” kind of guy, haha.

i was wondering- did any of the writers actually grow up by the beach? as someone who's lived in a beach town all their life it really did feel nostalgic to play through our life 1

I was born and raised in Cali! Though, not right by the beach. We still had to make trips out, but the setting is based on my own childhood memories of small beach towns we went through.

In Derek’s upcoming DLC, will we be able to reference the pact we made as teens? (love olba and xod/xobd so much btw you’re literally amazing)

Yep, you will be able to talk about that!

Oh, sorry about the Cole being secretly L ask, then!

If you wanted context: Death Note is about this one guy who finds a notebook that kills anyone who you write the name of in there. The guy eventually develops a God Complex and starts mass killing criminals and stuff. L is the one trying to find out who is killing all these people.

Me and my sister first joked about it because I couldn't remember how to translate a word about the way Cove was sitting, so I just did the pose, and it looked a lot like how L himself sits! Then we just snowballed from there, with more and more nonsense connections.

That’s okay! Thanks for explaining. I’m sorry I didn’t know what you meant.

#our life #ask #gb patch #gb patch games

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I kinda wonder, what could bakugou do (hori write bakugou to do) to make him less popular with the "anti" crowd. Like He was a horrid child no doubt and people who try to put blame on Deku or lessen the terrible shit bakugou did aren't great. But as we don't rly see it, we have to assume bakugous behaviour wasn't stopped, we only ever saw his mum "punishing" him when he was being rude after getting kiddnapped. Nothing will excuse what bakugou did, but he has stopped? He's overall a harsh person but he's not harrassing and bullying people anymore, specifically not deku, he's trying to attone for what he did to deku and has now apologised for it. His behaviour was never viewed as justified or good in the series, he's a scary figure in middle school, we're not meant to like his behaviour, so the series itself hasn't justified his actions.

As someone who relate to both bakugou and deku more than I'd like to admit (never told someone to jump tho, that's fucked lol) so I can 100% understand not liking or even hating bakugou but as someone who's not 15 anymore, looking back I also made a lot of really shitty decisions and like bakugou have tried to make up for it, and like deku I was 'friends' with people who hurt me.

Is there anything he can do for the "antis" to just dislike him rather that be "anti"?

(I'm very sorry if you've talked about this somewhere, you can just tell me to look for it if you have, I'll continue to look for your posts on the subject)

Hey there, anon! I think I’ve spoken about this only tangentially and/or in my main Bakugo meta, which is too big for anyone sane to read. So yeah, let’s chat here!

For me personally—and that’s all I can ever do: speak personally. I think it’s important to keep in mind that there is no single solution to please the “anti” crowd. Each fan will be looking for something slightly different in Bakugo’s character, much of which might contradict what a “stan” is currently enjoying. Given how charged a character he is, I'm not sure it's possible to get the entire fandom to like him—what I’m looking for hinges on having a different reading of the story than you seem to. Meaning, I think the series does justify his behavior. Not in any overt, super obvious way like having all the characters go, “Wow, Bakugo! I sure do love how you threaten people all the time. That’s super cool and heroic!” Things are rarely that straightforward. Rather, it’s in a more subtle, but consistent manner that paints a rather conclusive picture across hundreds of chapters.

Simply put, Bakugo is continually rewarded for his actions. Or, if not outright rewarded, his actions are ignored in a way that implies silent acceptance. Characters may not always like what he does... but they're willing to let it slide because Bakugo's heroism was always treated as a given, not something he had to earn and prove.

With the ever necessary disclaimer that I’m not fully caught up yet, here’s a list of some of the things that stood out to me in the first half of the series:

Bakugo’s bullying made him the most popular kid in school.

Bakugo’s bullying was ignored by/outright supported by the teachers.

Bakugo’s bullying did not hinder him from getting into U.A., one of the most prestigious hero schools around.

Despite acting horribly throughout his time at U.A. too, this behavior was continually ignored by the teachers and other authority figures around him.

Bakugo’s struggle to realize that other people aren’t “trash” doesn’t hurt his achievements in any way. He still gets top scores, still wins the tournament, etc.

Bakugo’s behavior gets him special attention from All Might, the greatest hero and Bakugo’s personal idol.

His behavior doesn’t make others dislike him in any manner that’s taken seriously. Everybody is still willing to not just put up with Bakugo, but—in time—start treating his behavior as a quirk (no pun intended lol) that they’re secretly fond of, rather than something he should legitimately be striving to change. Kirishima is the most overt example of this.

This is compounded by his behavior constantly being framed as humorous. Much like with Mineta’s perverted actions, characters might superficially go, “No, that’s bad!” but the story never demands any significant development because then we’d lose the “joke” of Bakugo screaming in rage at the slightest inconvenience, threatening to murder someone over nothing, constantly belittling everyone around him in a “funny” manner, etc. When fans talk about development of a manga character as archetypal and extreme as Bakugo, most don’t really want to see significant change to his base personality. Because then that would result in someone who doesn’t look like the “real” Bakugo: someone nicer, more even-tempered, more mature, etc. But for those of us who were never drawn to that personality in the first place, the continued acceptance of his rude, egotistical, and violent behavior is discomforting. The easiest comparison I can draw is between this and Bakugo’s mother slapping him. That slap is meant to be another “joke”—we see it constantly in shonen anime, something "humorous" you shouldn’t take too seriously because haha, it's just an overprotective mother—but many fans do take it seriously, using it as the basis for a whole “Bakugo was abused and this explains his behavior” reading. Well, I take the “joke” of Bakugo’s threats and insults seriously, especially in a story that starts with something like telling Izuku to jump off the roof. In the same way that many fans want others to treat Bakugo’s mother as a serious topic that has had a negative influence on his development, I want the series to take Bakugo’s everyday actions seriously as a negative influence on… well, everyone around him. But it doesn’t. His base personality is grudgingly adored.

The above two points are seen most overtly in Izuku, who never wavers in his respect for Bakugo despite how Bakugo treats him. Not just prior to U.A., but during their training too. Izuku, as the protagonist, is the emotional heart of this tale, so when he talks about how inspiring Bakugo is, it encourages the reader to see his behavior as inspiring too. Rather than, as said, something that needs to change. Izuku's continued friendship with Bakugo, his adoration of him, and his acceptance of the way he's treated has severely warped how the entire story sees Bakugo's actions. After all, if #pure Izuku can see the good in Bakugo, why can't everyone else? He must not be that bad after all.

I could get into detailed analyses of all the above—like how Bakugo was the one comforted after attacking Izuku outside the dorms at night and how the messed up relationship he has with Izuku is upheld as something to nurture; how the remedial courses he had to take were made to be rather silly, thereby undermining their supposed importance to his development; how Bakugo’s kidnapping had nothing to do with his flaws, but much of the fandom uses it as a way to dismiss any appropriate consequences because, “Hasn’t he suffered enough?” etc.—but in the interest of keeping this within a readable length, I’ll leave it at that. The point is that Bakugo has always been privileged when it comes to his behavior, resulting in others either outright praising it, ignoring it, or demanding that he change a miniscule bit, which always keeps him far below the standards of both his peers and the expectations of a hero. Everyone in 1-A must learn to be even better than the good people they already are... Bakugo needs to learn that other people aren't dirt at the bottom of his shoes. It's never been a particularly impressive development when pit against the rest of the class. All of which can make something like an apology feel pretty hollow. Yes, he’s apologized and I say with all seriousness that that’s great! But how does that apology stack up against 300+ chapters of content? As Bakugo’s words highlight, he's been a really awful person up "until now": he was consumed by Izuku being ��miles ahead of [him],” he “looked down on [him]” because he didn’t have a quirk, he “didn’t want to recognize that,” he “hated that,” “grew distant,” “tried to beat you down,” “opposed you and tried to show my superiority over you,” and ends it all with, “it probably doesn’t mean anything telling you all this” before finally getting to the “I’m sorry.” This is basically a laundry list of how horrible a person Bakugo has been for the entire series, with an acknowledgement that this apology is coming really, really late. This is the moment where I could START to like Bakugo, depending on how he acts form here on out, but that pivotal moment arrived after six years of content and in the final arc of the story. It’s too late. Bakugo needed this kind of self-reflection and positive action 250+ chapters ago so he could (hopefully) grow into a better person across the story, not at the story's end. What we got instead is 322 chapters of him being a really horrible person, but the story going out of its way to excuse or even praise that behavior the majority of the time.

As a quick comparison to end on, I think what Bakugo needed was what Soo Jin got in True Beauty. You don’t need to have seen the drama to follow along. The tl;dr is that she has a lot of the core qualities of Bakugo: an all-consuming drive to win that was created due to abusive parents with high expectations, resulting in her bullying a peer to a pretty horrific extent. The difference between them is how the story frames their actions. When Soo Jin becomes the bully she loses everything. Rather than succeeding academically, her grades plummet, making it clear that this anxiety and self-doubt (things the fandom keeps insisting Bakugo is struggling with, but that rarely ever show up in the text) is actually impacting her day-to-day life. Her best friend drops her because she’s not going to support her choices. The boy she likes rejects her. She’s eventually forced to start over somewhere new - which importantly separates her from the girl she was bullying - and get some distance from her parents, resulting in the growth needed to become a healthier, happier, good person again. So when Soo Jin apologizes to the girl she hurt, it feels earned. The story continually recognized how horrific her actions were and put her into a place where she either had to change, or continue losing at everything else that was important to her. Bakugo? Bakugo doesn’t lose. Oh, he claims he does because he’s comparing himself to Izuku constantly, but that’s just him thinking in extremes. He still wins academically. Still wins many battles. Still wins at having friends. Still wins by maintaining the prestige of being a U.A. student. Still wins by getting All Might’s attention. Still wins by receiving Izuku’s respect and an agreement to maintain this rivalry that Bakugo is so obsessed with. Bakugo comes out well 99% of the time, he just thinks he's "lost" because he can't stand not being the absolute best.

For me, the story needed to have Bakugo face consequences for his behavior, not receive rewards and/or have others ignore it, and that revelation/apology needed to come way, way sooner. For me the issue is not a specific action that Horikoshi can have Bakugo do in the next chapter and them bam, I like him now. The problem is Bakugo’s entire concept, how he’s received by the entire cast, and his run across this entire series. "Entire" is the key word there. Which is why the “But he’s apologized. What more do you antis want?” reactions don’t sit well. What we wanted is a better written redemption arc across those 300+ chapters, not a single scene that’s meant to have us forget all the other problems inherent in the story. At this point it’s a far more complicated situation than, “Bakugo just needs to do X, Y, and Z and then we’re golden.” At the end of the day, Horikoshi failed to make me like him as a person and I’m pretty sure he isn’t going to change Bakugo enough to make him likable to me. Bakugo was never the sort of character I’d be inclined towards without a serious, nuanced redemption arc, but sadly, a core, crucial part of that redemption arc took six years to arrive. At this point there’s no way to change the problems in Bakugo’s writing for that huge chunk of the series and not enough time left in the series, it seems, to do the work we should have seen across the entire run. Honestly, idk if the Bakugo we'll get going forward is someone I can just dislike as opposed to being really uncomfortable with, but my money is on there being too little story left and too much investment in upholding Bakugo's base personality for that to happen. I could absolutely be proven wrong! But I think the problems are structural and needed to be better dealt with from page one, not hastily patched over in the final hour.

#BNHA #My Hero Academia #anti bakugo

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