#and who aren't benefitting from it

[fromtheseventhhell]

Very funny to me how Stansas present her character as being so interesting and complex because of her vulnerabilities, while simultaneously ignoring those same vulnerabilities in other characters. Dany is sold as a bridal slave and lacks agency throughout AGOT and after. Her dragons are either too young/small to utilize effectively or locked away for the majority of the story. They aren't some all-powerful trump card that protects her from harm. Arya is captured as a prisoner of war, forced to watch countless people tortured and murdered, and then essentially enslaved in Harrenhal with no way to fight back. She has an entire arc of feeling powerless, of being a "mouse", during ACOK. She doesn't have "kung-fu" or the ability to magically fight her way out of every situation, she's a young child lacking physical strength with only the most basic sword training.

Sansa isn't the only female character, she isn't the only young character, she isn't the only character who suffered, and no one is obligated to prioritize her. I'm so tired of Dany and Arya being mischaracterized and having their stories erased to prop Sansa up. "Sansa has kept her dignity" In other words, let's praise her for having a level of security that Dany and Arya don't have access to. She hasn't ever been forced to make a hard decision which of course means that she's morally superior to them. They can't even admit to themselves that her lack of action is due to her own passivity. If it doesn't fit their delusion, they erase it from the story and expect the rest of us to play along. Ask one of them what they like about her character without bringing up her being the ultimate victim, and I genuinely don't believe they'd be able to give you an answer. They belittle other characters more than they talk about her and these takes just scream insecurity/jealousy at the content and development other characters have in their POVs.

#arya stark #daenerys targaryen #anti arya bs #anti daenerys bs #asoiaf #anti sansa stans #these being comments on a video of a stansas /correcting/ a Dany stan...the jokes write themselves #/she's a break from the fantasy/ /people would be equally powerless in her situation/ like they aren't even pretending #that they don't use her as a boring every-man self-insert #okay she's subjectively /normal/...what is interesting or important about that in a fantasy novel? 😭 #Arya and Dany are so interesting because they have that complexity...vulnerability but also the strength to navigate their situations #and it isn't because they're /special/ it's because that's who they are as characters #Reducing Dany to her dragons or Arya to her combat abilities (which barely exist) is such a disservice to their arcs #but of course acknowledging that they're well-developed and empathetic doesn't square with their fantasy that #Sansa is the most pure important character who deserves everything because she suffered 🙄 #they really write entire fanfictions and then go /why don't people think like us?? 😔/ #/Sansa kept her dignity/ yeah that's why she's currently part of a plot to poison a disabled child #because she was told she'd benefit from it oh yeah she's sooooooo morally superior to Dany and Arya 😑

[squiremaximus]

Once the operation on Portland begins, children will be airlifted away from three school sites. It will result in an evacuation of possibly 10% of the children in the city, before the area is gassed and its population is liquidated.

#the walking dead #the walking dead: the ones who live #twdedit #towledit #tusercj #.gif #towl #towl spoilers #absolutely one of the most chilling scenes in the entirety of the twdu #the casual almost bored inflection of the presenter as he explains the massacre of an entire city. #i mean we've seen the aftermath of it already but there's just something so harrowing about actually seeing the frontliners prepping for it #moments like this really reminded me of just how much untapped potential there was with a CRM pov and how towl could've benefitted so much #from one. #i get why we didn't get it. but. man. one of the coolest plots in the twdu #i really hope they just aren't over i want to see more #q

[your-fave-is-christian]

I have a dumb question, and I really hope this doesn’t sound rude. What’s the logic for some of the characters? Like, if they’re the “hero” in their storyline, but they don’t seem to follow Biblical doctrine… does that even count? I’m sorry if that sounds snotty; I don’t mean to have an attitude.

No, you're fine!!

Short answer: I don't know, I'm not the one sending in the characters 😂

But really I would say there's not necessarily a consistent logic that they have to fit. That's part of the beauty of Christianity, isn't it? Anyone who repents and believes is welcome; it's not limited to any certain type of people. For the characters people are sending in here, I think there are a few categories. There are some that fit what you said, who already hold Christian morals and who one could easily headcanon as being Christian within the story. Sometimes people send in villains who they want to have redemption arcs and become Christian. Sometimes it's characters who are Christian; mostly it's characters people would like to see become Christian.

#my favorite character who i headcanon as Christian is one who generally has very Christian morals and really wants to do good #but also lies a lot. and i think in that case it's like i could see him being Christian in the story #because Christians aren't perfect and even people who don't have their whole act together can believe #I'm not justifying continuing to do wrong. I'm trying to figure out how to phrase it #i think there's some post I've seen about how even terrible characters who do terrible things can be Christian #if they're repentant i think? point being that all of us are sinners and a character doesn't have to be perfectly good to be a believer #because none of us are. and a line from a song i know 'though I'm wretched i am not faithless' about a character who #has done bad things and is struggling to reconcile his actions with God's love and forgiveness #anyway. i was saying the character i like comes across to me as an imperfect Christian but also as someone who could really benefit from #learning and growing in the faith. i want to see that character grow morally stronger and become more like Jesus!!! #it would be good for him 🤷‍♀️ #and that's kinda the point of most of the characters people send. they either seem like they could genuinely BE Christian #or are characters people think really need Christianity in their lives #sometimes it's 'this character seems Christian' and sometimes it's 'i like this character and want them to become Christian' #i think characters who don't follow Biblical doctrine fall under either imperfect and learning Christian or needs Jesus in their life #ask

[idiopathicsmile]

the thing about speaking aloud your long-held anxieties to your best friend is that sometimes you worry about burdening them but also sometimes you're like, "wow friend, you are so incredibly considerate and no matter how hard i try to match that energy, i feel like i am comparatively kind of boorish"

and your friend goes, "first of all, i have never found you to be an inconsiderate person. secondly, the thing i look for in my friendship with you, the quality you bring to my life that is special and treasured and unique, is your ability to hold a constant, ironclad grudge on my behalf, with searing intensity, until seemingly the end of time"

and it is such a tremendous relief because the thing about being ceaselessly petty towards your friends' enemies is that you don't even have to try

#yeah i'm still mad at my best friend's first boyfriend #this is a normal and healthy way to live and i will brook no argument #i do sometimes reflect on the fact that i would probably benefit from forgiving some people who aren't in my life anymore #but friend-grudges? those are golden

[cnl0400]

Man, opening Twitter and the first thing I see Is Mephistopheles discourse again... We are really going to do this everytime Mephisto appears??

#post0400 #“He's racist!” 1.- Angel/Demon/Human species aren't comparable to human races. it would be specism if anything #2.- I have some bad news about Luke. Belphegor. Solomon. Lucifer in S1... most of the cast. really... #There is no character in this work who hasn't had at least some type of prejudice against other species. justified or not #and most of the things Mephistopheles said were true. even if his anger at Lucifer is misplaced #Diavolo favors a lot of Lucifer and his brothers.. wich has been a problem since Beel almost destroyed the castle #is this Lucifer fault? not really. that's why I said Mephisto anger is misplaced. but I get where he's coming from #He was raised to protect Diavolo. of course he isn't going to question him #all he knows is that one day he was Diavolo right hand and the other day his bestie left him for the fallen angels #Diavolo is always right. no? then the problem must be the newcomers. they must be influencing him in some way #I don't dislike Lucifer or Lucifer stans but also dislike how there's always a nuanced reason on why Lucifer is being an asshole but #they don't offer the same benefit to other characters #(mostly Mephisto or Dia or Mammon... uhm...?)

[bariumsalts]

I keep thinking about a passage I read as a child in James Dobson's "Bringing up Boys" where he argues for only giving children toys stereotypical for their gender by citing a study in which girls and boys were given both trucks and a dollhouse to play with. Apparently the girls had tea parties with the trucks and the boys turned the dollhouse components into catapults. But I have found myself lately thinking- so what? Why do children have to play with toys the way adults would? What's wrong with giving girls toy trucks to play truck tea party? If the boys aren't being destructive, why not let them play besieged dollhouse? One of my favorite things about children is the unique perspective and creativity they hold: why stifle that? Why would gendered play require limiting their access to toys?

#parenting #gender #the wild part is #in my house James Dobson was the moderate voice of reason #because we also had parenting books by Debbi and Michael Pearl #who advocated for sickening child abuse and told parents it was the only way to save their child from hell #they made James Dobson look downright progressive by comparison #but anyway #let girls play with trucks and nerf guns #and let boys play with dolls and toy kitchens #let kids explore who they want to be and how they want to play #as long as they aren't endanging anybody or damaging things #let kids play! #their play isn't for the benefit of adults

[cinnamon-phrog]

Do you ever see a take in a fandom tag and you're like HNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGRAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAGHHHHHHHHH

#it was SO contradictory too ugh. and a mutual liked it! #you disrespect me. you disrespect my whole family #you call us 'stinky poopy babies' #you punched my wife. you kick mah baby you KICKed my FOCKin BABY #you ate our dog. YOU ATE OUR HOUSE #/ref #it's always the people i like too. everytime i want to find a d/ hmis artist or mutual BAM they're mean petty and even a nonce #and mean to peoples with hc's like mine. yes yes it happens in every fandom but not to the point where literally everybody sucks! #aside from my mutuals who are casually into the show you guys are boss <33 #a d/ hmis artist will tell me they don't care/ even like my hc's and i'll feel great #a couple months later and they're talking shit about it or liking posts about why people who have said hcs are somehow predatory #as if there aren't actual predators in the tags and their little supportive minions running amuck. who draw LITERAL cp of Yellow #i'm not mad anymore i've become very numbed to this. i end up losing 'friends' to the point where i don't know how to make them anymore. #'course that doesn't mean i'll stop trying though. but give benefit of the doubt and be MASSIVELY let down. #or assume the worst. be RIGHT and yet still be somehow worse for assuming. #so i'm just gonna not interact. i'll still put my s/elfship stuff in the tags though i am above guilt or shame now. Look At My Post Boy #cuz like if all these people can get away with being petty and two faced then i can get away with smooching puppets #make Love not War

[pochapal]

self assessment improvement charts are the nastiest pox god has ever inflicted on planet earth

#:) #explain to me in 5 seconds what the point of a personal development plan is or i start biting #genuinely who the hell knows what they're gonna be doing each month for the next 3 years why do i need to submit itemized calendars #aren't deadlines enough. who benefits exactly from knowing which thesis chapter i'll be writing next june #i don't even know half the stuff they're asking from me like yeah events will probably happen over the course of this phd isn't that enough #i know maybe what's happening up until march i do NOT subscribe to a longterm thinking culture #if i don't submit my work according to the hard deadlines i will die so does it really matter how i get there so long as i get there lmao #'please track your progression with your writing confidence on this 5 point scale' concepts made up by the utterly Deranged

[skydemonizark]

You know I've started thinking that maybe the idea that anyone who benefits from an oppression is an oppressor is inaccurate, and maybe even harmful. Because not everyone who benefits from an oppression even want that oppression to exist, some even actively fight against it. So calling them oppressors feels wrong somehow?

And I feel like it leads to the oppressed to gaining an "us vs them" mentality which puts people who might want to help, or who might even be suffering in the same system but in different ways, as the enemy.

Like take the patriarchy for an example. While most men might gain privilege from it it can still cause undeniable harm by forcing men to keep to this impossible standard of living, where they can't have any emotion other than pride or anger, where they can't outwardly show love or vulnerability to anyone besides maybe their SO, where they have to always be better than women or they could be viewed as a failure. None of that is good for anyones mental health. And while they might also be the ones enforcing the system, it's not because they've decided the prose are worth the cons, it's cause they're equally trapped in a system they didn't have a hand in making. Like ants trapped in a death spiral.

The real enemy isn't the individual man, or the individual person who might benefit from an oppressive system, but the system as a whole. What we need to do is work together to take down all of these systems so they can't harm anyone anymore. And I know that can be hard, and it can be scary, but sometimes doing the right thing is hard and scary but it's still worth doing.

#just a sky demons thoughts #not to mention that the people who benefit from a system aren't always the only ones upholding it #sometimes oppressed people also uphold oppressive systems for any number of reasons #oppression #social justice #activism #I don't know how to tag this :P

[nexus-nebulae]

idk if i can word my Thoughts properly rn but. i think an ideal world to live in would be one where literally anyone, even fully abled people, are able to use disability aids if they just. feel like they need it. even for simple reasons

#a world where support is so abundant it can be freely given even to those who don't necessarily need it to survive #like- my sister has mentioned it'd probably be easier to hold her kids and do work at the same time if she had a wheelchair #because she wouldn't have to put as much energy and effort into actually Holding Up her kid and it frees up her arms more #up until a very recent injury she was fully physically abled but she'd have benefited from a chair too #idk just. maybe aids aren't just meant for only one specific kind of thing. maybe they're supposed to be for anyone. #and yes the people who *need* them should be prioritised but making it widespread would benefit everyone in the long run

[bear-cubs-art-things]

I was talking with some friends on how the govt is pushing anti gay bills and how they overturned rode v wade and I realized that this country is fucked up on so many levels.

#I mean aren't we supposed to have rights??? #and as a cis woman I find anti abortion laws hella unfair #like what if I were r*ped??? I'd be forced to mother a child of some fucked up geezer!!! #AND I CANT GET RID OF THAT CHILD BC OF ANTI ABORTION LAWS??? THE GOVT FORCES ME TO LIVE WITH THAT TRAUMA??? #WHAT ABOUT WOMEN WHO DIE IF THEY GIVE BIRTH??? WHAT ABOUT THAT???? #and then the govt decides to ban pretty much all adult and gay content from all social media and spy on us #using our data for their own benefits. THATS fucked up. SUPER FUCKED UP. imagine if u were spied on #America is supposed to be a people's country. but it's not. not anymore or really anytime soon. it's fucked up. #AND I CANT HELP OUT BC IM A MINOR AND SENSITIVE INFO THIS THAT THE OTHER. It sucks >:( #ugh. America. #bear rambles #this country might as well be communist #<- (I don't mean to stir up emotions saying that. /srs /gen)

[torchickentacos]

hot take but I think that those youtubers who 'expose' alleged mental illness or medical condition fakers are doing more harm for the rhetoric surrounding mental illness-and the people who really have it-than the people supposedly faking it to begin with.

#i mean neither are good but like #what they do is set a precedent of doubt whenever someone makes (mental) illness claims #it sets a precedent of finding and uncovering people who fake it and is just very bad imo. #inevitably i think this makes life ahrder for people who experience these conditions #especially for those who myabe have it but don't check off every symptom #and have to worry about maybe being seen as a faker since they don't have the msot extreme or visible case #idk. just rambling #worth noting this usually goes for things i do not have so i cannot in detail give opinions on specific diagnoses that this trend applies t #to* #however i do stand by this opinion as of right now #at worst. fakers spread misinformation and monetize/benefit from mental illness they do not have #at worst the people who expose this set a societal and online culture revolving around finding out who's REALLY got things #and who REALLY experiences it #which just. is icky. you aren't entitled to knowing anything about anyone's medical history. #plus imo if someone goes out of their way to fake something for attention then. there's probably a mentally ill brain doing it #like ok you don't have whatever you're claiming but like. mentally well people don't fake things like that usually #is this a cold take?????? like if i'm wrong then i AM open to other opinions and i'll change mine #but my initial opinion on this is it icks me out #inabber this is a pointed message. iirc he also made amber heard jokes #which like. i think no matter what side you're on with that #maybe. don't joke about domestic abuse. or alleged abuse if that's your stance on it. #like either way that's just shitty #ANYWAYS.

[sugar--pain]

Kinda tempted to go back to identifying as aromantic but from the perspective of "I have chosen to love everyone that I have dated. I can choose to stop." but I don't know how well that would go over.

#I mean easily parts of us can identify as such just not collectively #so i guess that's why I'm saying it here #like. it's not wrong #some part of my brain has always decided that for whatever reason loving someone was in my best interest. #and only then did I develop interest Like That. #Usually we would like someone and want their attention want to be their friend and they'd develop interest #and we'd adjust to match their energy because they wanted that from us #for a while we argued amongst each other #that it wasn't valid if we didn't agree. pondering if this is ever valid #i saw people say it was popular to say that we don't choose to love #but i just don't relate to that #i know exactly how my brain works. and i can successfully convince it to love someone. and i can successfully convince it to stop. #i don't think being calculative is wrong #and honestly i think our feeling these things aren't genuine just because we can control it. it doesn't seem fair. #i'm fully capable of love. and there's nothing wrong with me deciding to love because it seems like it'd benefit us both. #and if we're already feeding each other anyway i just don't see anything wrong with accepting what's happening. #i don't like the expectations that get pulled with it. #i want to be able to independently decide what and when i want. i don't like labels. #i like that we're an anarchist but not everyone can even be on the same page about what that means #i know we left the aromantic community because they got too specific and a lot of ideas became too stiff and twisted in to reactionary #misunderstandings but how long can we keep leaving communities and cutting ourself off in to something nebulous #because of a problem that'll folllow us no matter where we go? #i think we can define ourselves any number of ways #i don't think any of them are wrong #bigger fools than i have claimed identities that were more maligned than my own #and when it's inevitable who's to say it's wrong #we're all who we are at the end of the day. these words can't contain or quantify us #they can be shortcuts but they can't define us #this is just how i live. it's about give and take #vv

[whileyoureinschoolidothisallday]

the way that I would actually be less of a functional adult without reddit

#real life with risa #save me reddit #reddit save me #it's literally the only place where I can get unsponsored educated opinions from adults #that aren't my parents who will either outright lie to me to better benefit themselves or give me wrong info

[conspiracydawg]

got around to reading nona the ninth and I think I finally have to concede that I'm just not picking up what these books are putting down. there's some cool concepts but it feels like the author is actively avoiding them most of the time. also finding the constant quips and references annoying, and not really sold on the central relationship of the series, which leaves very little for me to be happy about. I'll read alecto because I'd like to know what happens next, but I can't help but feel I'll also be relieved when it's over

#me bitching #idk I'm happy for all the folks who love these books but I'm just not seeing it #world is super cool but again the author seems to be actively avoiding showing us much about it #which like #this is not to say I prefer those books and (especially) games that have to tell you EVERYTHING those are painful #but the world is far and away the primary draw for me and the author just is not willing to immerse me in it #also okay the one genuinely mean thing I'm going to say about this series is that the mysteries suck #maybe I'm just dumb but like #part of a good mystery is looking back and seeing all the points where you totally could have figured it out #tlt just withholds vital information from you and when you get to the end you're like 'ah so that's why nothing made any fucking sense' #it's not satisfying #I'm so cranky I really wanted to like these books #this isn't a case of me not extending a book the goodwill to meet it where it is #I was more than willing to do that #but they just aren't speaking to me #but at the same time I read some reviews on goodreads and while some were negative none of them had the same problems I do #I don't want to get into drama or discourse or even really a friendly argument about the merits of these books #but I'm considering writing up something about them if only for my own benefit

[radmista]

Leave it to a self proclaimed radfem to blatantly platform a bunch of druggies who get their fix from shit grown and moved with slave labor, almost exclusively women. You and every other junkie should be shot, and so should the men who own you by peddling you their product.

Anon, I'm not even in the fucking United States, the shit I get is grown by solo individuals in their houses. Please enlighten me on how I'm specifically then supporting the slave labor of women to get fucking grass. It's also really presumptive of you to assume everyone in the thread and I use male sellers.

Leave it to an anon coward to use "druggies" and "junkies" as an insult to devalue someone. Newsflash, "junkies" are people too, and they don't deserve less humanity because they have addictions. You sound like an incredibly stable individual who totally doesn't sound like some pearl clutcher pissed that people use recreational drugs and believe its some moral failing that people use them.

Fuck all the way off. You could have idk, been productive and civilly opened a discussion on the very real danger and horror of the drug trafficking circles between the US and Mexico and how cartels own certain towns and their inhabitants in Mexico because the government turns a blind eye. But you'd rather get your rocks off screaming at women using weed that you have no idea where they're sourcing from because it's much easier to pin blame on women than the violence perpetuated by greedy men.

#and my shrooms are also individually grown by a woman who fell in love with fungi. so fuck off with your presumtpive bullshit #y'all always act like every drug is on the same level #i won't go and say weed is harmless bc thats stupid every drug has side effects and downsides #but I dont give a rats ass about the ash I'm breathing in when I'm on the floor crying from menstrual cramps that otc meds aren't touching #nor do I care about it when I'm using it to chill with friends. bc I'm capable of weighing my risk v benefit and taking responsibility 4 it #I dont even want to bother arguing how people who sometimes smoke or use shrooms aren't ''druggies'' but it doesn't fucking matter! #bc humanity and dignity shouldn't be decided on that. its so annoying. yes people with addictions debilitating their lives need help #and there are people who use drugs that aren't addicts. we're all still people in diff circumstances 🤷🏽‍♀️