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enemymine2000 · 7 years

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Fandom rambles: Shipping Sterek

I just have to ramble a bit about my favorite werewolf and his abominable snowman and their relationship.

Coming from Germany, I never had any misgivings about a teen of at least 16 years (he's got his driver's license already at the beginning of season 1) coming together with a young man of 22 years.

If we still have laws against that whole teen over 14 being with someone over 18 thing, they are not enforced anymore. (Don’t feel like asking Dr. Google right now, but feel free to do it yourself.)

14 is basically considered the age teens are educated enough to make that kind of decision for themselves and therefore to give consent. Of course parents could still enforce a no-contact-rule if they feel it necessary, but that rarely happens and only becomes a matter for criminal courts, if the older party is considered to really harm the teen. Otherwise its a civil matter.

Derek Hale is a troubled young man. His life has dealt him a pretty shitty hand once he fell in love for the first time. (I explained in my previous ramble, why I don't believe in Paige being Derek's first love.) Kate used him emotionally and most likely physically at 16 years of age. As much as I believe in teens giving consent, it can only ever be informed consent when both parties are actually informed and on the same page.

So even when Derek only realized it once Kate had achieved her goal and orchestrated the Hale Fire, he had been abused by Kate. Something which defines his whole young adult life, his relationships and his sense of self.

If that would not have been enough, he loses his last truly living relative – Peter has been in a coma for 6 years, they don't really expect him to wake up anytime soon at that time, and no one knows about Cora’s survival – in a most gruesome way at practically the same place where he lost the rest of his family. A place that furthermore not only haunts his dreams, but is now again his daily waking reality.

On top of that he has to deal with a newly bitten werewolf, who is resistant to advice and refuses to truly adept to his situation and learn the rules, and his snarky, sarcastic sidekick, who brings about more trouble than he his worth, somehow is always where he shouldn't be, is the Sheriff's son and painfully human.

With a rogue alpha running around and killing people. Whom said teens want to somehow overpower, so that Scott may test out the theory that a newly turned beta can kill the alpha who turned him and become human once more. And a school mate of those teens pressing him to make him what Scott now was.

Yes, Derek was understandably more than a little irritated at the whole situation and especially that damn human, sarcastic teenage boy, who just could not leave well enough alone.

Of course Derek would threaten to rip his throat out with his teeth. Or smash his head into the steering wheel – in retribution for using him as eye candy bait for Danny. He tried nice once and was arrested for murder for it.

Stiles is a troubled young man. He's got ADHD, panic attacks and a sarcastic streak a mile wide. He is terrified of losing other people he loves after losing his mother to Frontotemporal Dementia when he was 9, and feeling at fault for that, because his mother claimed so in a hallucinatic (or something like that) attack, and his father nearly to alcoholism shortly after.

He mother-hens. That's what he does. But he does not let anyone really close to him. Always keeps secrets, even from his father or his supposed best friend. It clearly wont hurt too much if he loses people, he just kind of tolerates, right?!

That's pretty much the same deal he's got with his crush on Lydia. She is unobtainable, so she can't hurt him by losing her. He can “worship” from afar, but he doesn't believe to ever even become friends with her.

Then one night he convinces Scott to hike out into the preserve to look for half of a body and his whole world turns sideways.

There are things that go bump in the night, that can hurt anyone at anytime and somehow Scott has become one of these things. Stiles probably has noticed weird stuff around Beacon Hills before, so he has no real problem accepting the facts. It's more that he is supposed to be a silent bystander, the damsel in distress so to speak that he has a problem with.

His few people can't get hurt on his watch if he can help it. If Scott doesn't trust Derek and doesn't want him around, then Stiles will try and house-train this special werewolf. He will take this alpha-bitch down for hurting his friend. And for killing Derek's sister. Because Derek has suffered enough.

So, no, Derek and Stiles never hated each other. Stiles remembers the time around the Hale Fire, remembers two teenager who lost their parents, their sibling, their whole family. He knows the loss of a parent, he knows the pain that never goes away.

Later he discovers Derek's perceived guilt and he knows that feeling too.

No matter what other think and life throws at them, Stiles and Derek see kindred spirits. The only difference is where Derek only allows anger, Stiles is left with anxiety.

They also see the person who understands and completes. They can end each others' sentences and communicate without words after such a short time, because they share similar thought processes. One more bookish, the other more modern, but essentially the same.

Read, learn, plan, take action. Do whatever is needed. Don't look back.

Both only look back, when they feel they have failed and suffer horribly for it.

Stiles, who feels at fault for the actions of the Void. Derek who feels guilty giving information to his abusers.

That is why both spring to each other’s aid in a fight, why they try each other from enacting a plan, why they always snark and bark but don't bite. Because they know that they would do the very same thing, and worse, again and again, but want to spare the other the pain.

So, yeah, I ship Sterek because Derek and Stiles simply are a unit. Which is even canonically somewhat acknowledged in the way that Stiles has managed to replace anger as Derek's anchor. So the show pretty much states that Stiles has become a part of Derek himself.

(Though I have to wonder, how the writers explain to themselves Derek not rampaging around Beacon Hills in season 6A looking for something, because clearly he must have lost something if he suddenly can't control his shift anymore. Well, because his anchor was erased from his memory. And he must have lost it in Beacon Hills, because he remembers a lot of SNAFUs going on there, even though he is fuzzy about who started it all – since Peter was erased too.

So many questions….)

It also works a bit the other way around. Stiles is shown in season 5 to have strong responses just to the memory of Derek. Like stopping what your are in the process of doing and looking wistfully for a moment strong.

(If I have learned anything in my 37 years on this planet, that is the face someone makes who is in love when remembering his other half.)

Stiles could never be happy with Lydia or, heaven forbid, Malia.

Lydia has not suffered true changing your perspective kind of loss until the few moments of thinking Jackson gone. Yes, she lost her grandmother as a child, but was sheltered from all the horrific details and well, grandparents die eventually. Yes, she was a compassionate friend to Allison and suffered with her. But as much as someone feels for someone else, it will never be as if they are experiencing it themselves.

Lydia was free to develop any persona she wanted for any kind of situation. She mastered the craft. Maybe too well, for she will always mold herself a bit to situations and the likes of the other.

Well, as hard as Stiles crushed for her, that was a trait he explicitly called her out on and would never condone in a partner for himself.

On the other hand Lydia is way to ambitious (Fields Medal anyone) to bind herself to someone not fully committed to that goal. Her being a banshee will only hinder her, if she allows it. Now that she has control over her powers, she will never be hindered again. She is Lydia Martin after all. She is a proud survivor and will get her Fields Medal and when her friends are in danger she might use her powers. But she's not in it for the greater good of all mankind.

As far as Sheriff (his name is either John or he doesn't have one, I will fight you on that!) is concerned, Stiles is cut out for police work. As far as Stiles is concerned, he is something and wants something. So more, much more supernatural stuff for him. His spark is too damn strong to not ignite fully at some point. And he will use it. Again and again. He hates Deaton too much for his indifference and barely there help to become an emissary like him. No frontline it is – or some god-forsaken farm somewhere in Montana or wherever Derek is holed up these days.

So Stydia will never happen, because both are far too intelligent to even try such a clusterfuck. No matter what kind of retconning the show attempts right now.

Malia however does not have a fully developed human personality and probably never will. She spent about 9 years on four legs in the woods hunting rabbits and deer, of course she will never be a fully developed human personality. She barely grasps human concepts, like the child she once was and will always crave the simple ways of the wilderness, will always have the urge to dominate her surroundings and relationships, will always feel caged.

Honestly free-spirited Stiles would never manage to submit to that.

Sidenote, but related: → Please, don't give me that but season 4 and part of season 5 they were together argument.

Yes, they were. But if you just think for one moment that this relationship had been healthy and anything less than forced and both were happy, than there is something very wrong with you!

Stiles does not trust coyotes. That was literally the first thing he said, when they found coyote!Malia. It never truly changed. Especially since Malia has shown her tendencies to abandon the pack for her own goals. Again, she is coyote not wolf. She simply does not need a pack.

She manhandled an insomniac, drugged to the gills Stiles, who was in no way able to give an informed consent, in Eichen House into something physical.

After he came out of it (the drug haze and the asylum) he felt for the girl, who didn't know where she belonged anymore. And what does Stiles do with people? He mother-hens them. He cares for them.

Yes, sue him, he might even still been very much a hormonal teenage boy who kind of had liked to get laid on a regular basis. Even if it was creepy, how she always crept through her window every single night and manhandled him into being the little spoon. Damn coyote!

Though Malia claims Stiles to be her anchor, there is canonically literally no proof that she even needs one.

Yes, she needed Scott to roar her out of coyote form in the woods, but then she had pretty much lived in that form since she had been about 9 (?). She simply needed a push to remember that she even had another form.

Malia surely didn't seem to need an anchor in Eichen House and only started to show signs of it after being released and with the pack. A wild mixture of supernatural creatures under the “leadership” of a werewolf and a human, who takes care of everything.

Scott needed an anchor, everybody talked about anchors being important, Liam had anchoring issues. Well, Malia simply didn't want to feel left out or more likely thought she needed one too because everybody else thought she needed one. She choose Stiles because of getting to know him in Eichen House and him being there and basically being number one go-to guy in the whole pack. He was conveniently there and willing to help.

But whatever struggles Malia had with her shift, did not stem from her not being anchored. They stemmed from her going from being a 9 year old in the body of a coyote to suddenly having to be a 17 teen year old human woman in a world she does not understand. As soon as she got a basic grip on things she was fine again. While the one really in need of anchoring, Liam, to the best of my knowledge, still struggles.

No, Stiles never loved Malia and never will. Same as Malia never truly loved Stiles, but how could she in her situation of not even being sure about her own humanity. It was a relationship formed by circumstance and kept by happenstance, not by feeling. They broke up, both were not at least heart-broken about it and had moved on the moment Stiles left her car afterwards. ←

No, even if the show will never come around and give me what my heart desires, Sterek is the only ship that makes sense for Stiles.

A partnership built on equal footing, with unlimited trust, unconditional love and brutal honesty. Well, not to forget a hell lot of sarcasm and ganking things that go bump in the night…. *ups my SPN fandom is showing* *sorry not sorry*

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