#and my gay men who celeb crush on men

[belphiesgirlfriend]

Obey me! Brothers music taste headcanons

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more like ramblings than headcanons tbh but i had this stuck in my head and needed to get it out, also feel free to send requests for diff headcanons!

Cw’s: none!

Little bit satirical (i over exaggerate sometimes cuz it’s funny) but pretty in character overall i thinkk

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Lucifer:

• You know this motherfucker listens to classical music and classical music only cuz he’s boring

• Okay but jokes aside i see him listening to like 30’s 40’s 50’s music especially the love songs.

• Like straight up fallout 4 soundtrack music, he’d listen to it while doing paperwork or unwinding

• He’d definitely be really prideful (no duh) about his taste in music, he’d feel all fancy and refined when he tells people

• Type of dude to be like “modern music simply can’t compare to the classics…” shut up grandpa we get it u know bach’s zodiac sign, penis size, and mothers maiden name

• Wants to be different so bad, he’d strictly listen to music from his vintage record player or some shit cause it’s the “most authentic” way to listen, fr acts like a manic pixie dream girl (he’d hit me upside the head if he heard me say that sorry luci🫶)

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Mammon:

• r&b and spanish music

•but i feel like he’d like 2000s party music from all the clubbing and casinos

• def a weekend listener and like 90’s rap

• but also like i wouldn’t be surprised if he listened to some 90s rock too

• he’d listen 2 sublime or nirvana or local h (i’m projecting on the last one)

• but anyways he’d be a #1 rihanna fan he’d blast her music in his room but then deny liking her💀make it make sense!!

• also he knows her best album is loud CAUSE HE HAS TASTE!!

• also tyler the creator i get the vibe he’d love him

• kali uchis fan too

•ALSO i feel like he had a phase where he listened to juice wrld and was like “these cheating lying females….” after he got his heart broken by a witch YOU CANG TELL ME IM WRONG😭😭 it’s okay though cause he’s embarrassed by it now

• oh childish gambino too duh forgot about him

ALSO LET ME MENTION DINERO IS LITERALLY HIS SONG ITS ACTUALLY HIS

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Levi:

• this one’s gonna be real fucking short IM SORRYYY

• he listens to anime openings and game soundtracks strictly

• that’s literally all i can think of dude

• he’d be like “i don’t have time for normie music…”

• his room is literally that old caramelldansen meme from 2019/2020

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Satan:

• this one was harder for me to pinpoint

• first instinct would be classical music but it’s canon he likes ska music too so 🤷‍♀️

• i really do feel like he’d listen to all types of music, like a true jack of all traits, if he likes it he likes it so his playlist is allllll over the place

• for some reason i get a vibe he’d really like 80s music in particular though

• the song that pops into my head is who can it be now? by men at work idk why

• maybe even older music i feel like he’d like sam cooke

• OH both him and belphie would like mazzy star and fiona apple idk why but they would

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Asmo:

• okay crucify me for this one but…mitski I JUSG FEEL LIKE HE WOULD

• but i also see him loving lady gaga a lot cuz he has taste

•omg he’d listen to old katy perry too

•but yea also probably lil nas x he’d have a celeb crush on him

• oh tyler the creator too with his gay ass, him and mammon both love him, they def have done a duet to see u again

• he’d be a barb probably defend nicki too😭

• and as much as it pains me to say it, he’d fucking listen to ayesha erotica and be like “this is so good!!!”, hed post a devilgram story with one of her songs and then get cancelled on twitter

• “I made a severe and continuous lapse of judgement…” and then did the same thing a week later

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Beel:

• type of guy when you ask him what music he listens to he goes “idk i don’t really listen to music”

• he legitimately looks up “hype playlist” on youtube to work out and that’s the extent of it

• really can’t see him being a big music guy

• if u invited him to a concert or something he’d go though for food

•he’d give you a piggy back ride so u can see better

• tbh if u were to put on music he would not care much no matter how good/bad it is

• you could walk in on him working out and literally listening 2 cbat or some shit

• HE LITERALLY IS CBAT GUY😭 he’d be like “i always use this song when i’m working out..

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Belphie:

• emo fucker

• i feel like he’d like emo/ 90s rock ( but more “rockish” than mammons 90’s rock)

• but he’d also love any more relaxing music with softer vocals

• he’d be a deftones fan I KNOW GHATS FUCKING BASIC AND UR ROLLING UR EYES BUT LISTEN

• they have the combination of 90s rock but also more soothing calming vocals, theyd literally b perfect

• and for that reason his favorite albums r koi no yokan and saturday night wrist, also their self titled,

• would call mammon a poser for his music taste “nirvana isn’t even *real* rock idiot🙄”

• but nah, also like i said in satans fiona apple and mazzy star fan

• he’d suck so bad though he’d go on twitter and be like, “if you like deftones ur a poser” (while being their number 1 fan, fucking brat) then turn off his phone and take a nap for the funny

#obey me #lucifer obey me #mammon obey me #leviathan obey me #satan obey me #asmodeus obey me #beelzebub obey me #belphegor obey me #obey me shall we date #lucifer x reader #mammon x reader #leviathan x reader #satan x reader #asmodeus x reader #beelzebub x reader #belphegor x reader #asmo x reader #beel x reader #belphie x reader #obey me belphie

[findafight]

Steve's parents were absent when he was growing up yes we know this is true and so he imprinted on Hawkeye Pierce as the only stable and reliable male role model in his life (circa 1972-1983). THIS is why he doesn't realize his bisexuality is not the standard for everyone because, in my humble queer "grew up watching MASH thinking BJ and Hawkeye are married" opinion, Hawkeye is a fruity little guy. absolute icon of a bisexual. Like obviously so many characters are Queer Icons in Mash (Klinger is Very Obvious and yes I'm in love with him and yes he was an Important Experience for baby me what about it. But also. Henry Blake I see you. Margaret Houlihan you should kiss a woman about it.) BUT Hawkeye is 1) arguably the Main Character 2) openly flirts with men/indicates he is Down To Bone if they are so inclined/implies he is Babygirl Material (??? Legitimately catches me off guard rewatching he's so obvious. Sir! This is a hospital! You have your hands inside a person's guts!) 3) was definitely in love with both Trapper and BJ (I am not taking comments about this at any time) 4) very much Cool Uncle shaped and begging to be imprinted upon by baby gays.

And while YES obviously I believe Klinger was Steve's First Celeb Crush because man's got a Type, he ain't subtle, Hawkeye was the one that ingrained that it's Totally Normal And Straight To Want To Flirt With Men into baby Steve's brain. Like of course Hawkeye was in love with BJ you just don't talk about it for some reason. He doesn't know. Gay people are because they act a certain way? Because they're only attracted to their own gender? He isn't sure and he's not thinking too hard about it. And that's his role model!! Hawkeye is the best! Sure Colonel Potter is the most Horse girl Dad Man of anyone ever, but Hawkeye is So Shaped.

So when he comes out to Robin in a totally bizarre manner ("Robin. Was. Was Mash gay?" "Steve. Babe. what are you talking about." "Like, Hawkeye and BJ? They were kinda gay right? And Hawkeye definitely said stuff that implied he liked men. I am wondering if that's a gay thing." "Steve. Usually when a man likes other men it's a gay thing." "So Mash is gay" "I have no clue. I mean. Klinger was kinda fruity, right? So... Maybe?" "Hm. Huh. Okay so like. Hawkeye liked women right?" "Yes. I do recall he was certainly interested in women" "yeah and he had that girlfriend who didn't want to marry him. But he also liked men. Is that a thing? He had that lady-ex but was also in love with BJ. I thought everyone was like that." "W-why? Why would you think that?" "Because Hawkeye did! And so do I! You know I didn't have many positive male role models in my life so I just assumed that's how Being Straight was." "Steve I love you but being attracted to anyone but someone of the opposite gender is, to me, a decidedly Not Straight thing to do." " "That's what I'm saying, rob! Mash was kinda gay, and so am I!") He speeds past queer crisis directly into "I can't believe I could have been dating boys this whole time too why didn't anyone tell me this earlier." While Robin is bewildered as to how Steve gaslight gatekeep girlbossed his way into and immediately out of the closet.

#steve harrington #robin Buckley #steddie #platonic stobin #eddie: okay so are you freaking out because i kissed you #steve: no no mash got me thru the crisis real fast im just realizing i have a type #eddie: im sorry. mash got you thru your sexuality crisis? #steve: less of a crisis and more of a 'oh shit. thats NOT straight? huh' moment #eddie:how did mash do that? steve: robin told me it wasnt straight to have crushes on men and lemme tell you.mash did not teach that lesson #mash #finda's rambles #yes i am continuing my 'steve loves Mash' agenda and you cant do anything about it. #also my 'steves first crush was Klinger' agenda. #stranger things

[serenewrap]

my oddly specific marauders modern au headcanons

if james is white (and even if he’s desi but especially if he’s any degree of white) then he’s the kind of white person who knows all of the lyrics to the childish gambino song bonfire and gets a little too into it every time it comes on (not saying the slurs of course but he just likes the song like WAYY too much)

i firmly disagree with the headcanon that sirius listens to popular music from the current day i feel like his playlists are almost exclusively pre-1990 i also know he’s incredibly annoying about it too like bro was disappointed that remus and peter already knew who david bowie was because he wanted to *introduce* them to him - he likes sufjan though because everybody likes sufjan

james and remus are only children, peter is the youngest, sirius is the oldest but people who don’t know him think he’s the youngest (it drives him crazy but regulus thinks it’s funny), mary is also the oldest, lily is the youngest, dorcas is the oldest, and marlene is a middle child (i know a lot of ppl headcanon her as the youngest but hear me out it just make sense

don’t love the headcanons about the boys having crazy high body counts i feel like they’re far too dorky but i feel like marlene is absolutely ran through (respect tho) - adding onto that i feel like she’s one of those gay ppl who always knew she was gay like didn’t struggle w coming out at all

peter is a bit of a film bro and his letterboxd is IMMACULATE - if he has a flaw it’s that he quotes pulp fiction all the time and they’re all a little sick of it,,,he and mary watch movies together because everyone else finds their in-depth shot for shot analysis annoying

if lily is a lesbian, in her comphet era her taste in celebrity men was INCREDIBLY normal and that’s what got her clocked. like yes babe, i really believe that chris evans and george clooney are your number one celeb crushes! on the other hand, mary’s taste in celeb men would have her put on a watchlist (she spent about an hour arguing with sirius about jared leto)

regulus loves fiona apple that’s it that’s the tweet james is not a fan but he’ll pretend for regulus’ sake (his music taste is shockingly basic so none of the guys ever let him have the aux)

black bros are both terrible drivers,,,james taught reg and it almost killed their relationship and sirius is just accident-prone

casanova remus as a headcanon is kinda ooc (In My Opinion obviously if you like it go crazy) but i feel like remus is one of those people who’s genuinely oblivious about being attractive like,,,he’ll be completely unaware that people are flirting with him/are interested in him,,,obviously this sends sirius to Places

dorcas is BIG into arts and crafts like one thing about her she does not play about those little projects (and remus likes them too they do them together)

#marauders #mine #the marauders era #james potter #regulus black #jegulus #otp: you’re hesitating love #remus lupin #lily evans #sirius black #peter pettigrew #marlene mckinnon #dorcas meadowes #dorlene #wolfstar #mary macdonald #otp: you are magic #otp: what point is there in living a hungry life?

[icouldntfindquiet]

I work with two men who are gay and we got on the topic of celeb crushes. They asked for my celeb crush and I was hesitant to tell them bc they roasted my work crushes (including Myles). 😭😭 They finally got me to say Van and they googled him (that was the most nerve racking thing ever) BUT they said “I see where you’re coming from” and I think that’s a good thing? They didn’t immediately question my taste. 😂🙈

#van survived lol #now i can talk about CATB with them 😁

[ask-serendipity-sky]

https://www.tumblr.com/serendipitous-sky/725316700426420224/no-i-mean-generally-even-if-they-are-no?source=share

RE-EDITED VERSION 😅

people really don't guess/think JK is gay

most QUEER armys/fans think he's at least bi, if not gay lol

hasn't shown any over interest in men except PJM tbh

so nj being his "boy crush", staring at and idolizing g dragon, iron man being his celeb crush, choosing the male lead form the k-drama 2521 when asked to choose between the two female leads, baby gay jk hopping around all giggly bc vhope (th + jh) were kissing, being nervous and giggly about meeting the skr men's football team during the world cup (when he performed 'dreamers' in qatar), flashing his abs at fanboys at ptd, saying yes to fanboys asking him out at a fansign event, getting happy when male fans call him handsome, and liking to be called hyung more than oppa mean nothing??

also even if it was just jm, demisexual is a thing anon 💀

had a gf before

that he didn't talk to for a couple hundred days lol

also when asked "if you see a really pretty girl after going to school, what will you do?" jk said "just pass her by"

or when asked "you’re asked out by a girl who you don’t like. what would you tell her without hurting her feelings?”, jk said "can i be honest? i don’t feel anything when i see you.”

also from MY OWN PERSONAL EXPERIENCE, i'm a lesbian but in elementary school (age 5 - 11) i had a "boyfriend" that i then proceeded to completely forget about/did not talk to for i don't even know how long, and he had even switched schools without me knowing/caring lol...

loves IU

jk has been asked about his "ideal type" MANY times, and it has kept changing, at some point he even seemed to be describing jm...

imo jk sees iu as his idol, like how western queers/gays are with lady gaga/britney/ariana grande (jk admires her too btw 😭)

doesn't 'look or sound' gay

this is very homophobic and weird to say anon...

"doesn't look/act/sound gay" is exactly why we have so many people not willing to except th and jk, bc they're basing if someone is "gay enough" on stereotypes of queer/gay people

also this fandom has a hard time even saying jm, someone who "fits" those stereotypes, is bisexual/queer when the man has been screaming it since forever, but especially recently during face

seems you don't pay enough attention to jk and/or queer people

Edit to add:

Good morning anon,

People who don't know want to know these things about Jk or who refuse these things by making excuses are people who are threatened by the real him.

Perhaps they are homophobic or dislike the idea of jikook happening or think Jk will someday be into them.

Just let him be.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

#skyasks #jungkook

[28whitepeonies]

My half thoughts : I mean bisexuality isnt always half-half. Sometimes, they are attracted to men mkre rather than woman etc etc. To be fair, we all thought Louis is "just" gay because he's in a long term commited relationship with Harry Styles, therefore he's only attracted to him, conventionally, a man. Being honest, some of Louis queer-coding leans into bisexuality more than homosexuality if you see it in non-Larrie lenses. Either way, seeing locals leaning over the thirst and being safe towards Louis' bisexuality is very much... how can I word this? Loving.

To be honest, I love Louis being an overall bisexual knowing almost 75% of Larries are biphobic.

Christ on a bike this ask really pissed me off, I find most of it entirely disagreeable.

Do you want to go back and read what I said? Because I promise you I did not suggest anywhere that bisexuality is ‘half-half’. I’m quite aware of the spectrum of bisexuality but I’m not sure what you difference you think that makes to what I have said already.

“We all thought Louis is “just gay” because he’s in a long term committed relationship with Harry Styles therefore he’s only attracted to him, conventionally, a man.”

Sorry, what the ever loving fuck are you on about. Who is ‘we all’? I think Louis is gay, I’ve thought it for a long time and there’s yet to be a reason for me to doubt that and that is not about what I think about his relationship with Harry.

But the idea that because someone thinks Harry and Louis are in a relationship that they also think Louis is ONLY attracted to Harry Styles is really fucked up. It’s fucked up to think that anyone in a relationship must only be attracted to their partner. It’s fucked up to think that if Louis and Harry are/were in a relationship that they could not have found other people attractive and that not have gone anywhere, or that they could not have had a relationship and had sexual partners outside of it.

I think there have been plenty of men we’ve seen Louis appear to be attracted to over the years that aren’t Harry.

I also disagree about his use of queer symbols, I can’t really think of any that I would say were specifically bisexual but if you want to come back with an example you can. Some of the key choices that have engaged with queer history as it relates to gay men for me have been his use of Polari and his choice to work with Polari and the pink triangle in the Just Like You mv. The lyrics to Home were a big thing for me back in the day, and you might remember one of the early Sugarscape interviews where Louis was asked about his first crush and he said “Emma Watson, because we went to see the first Harry Potter in Year 6 and literally all the lads fancied Hermione Granger so Hermione it’s you.” He then used Emma Watson as the answer to that celeb crush question when he got it for years.

There will be a fair amount of biphobia in fandom, there is a great deal of biphobia in the queer world and society more generally. Saying ‘I think Louis is gay’ isn’t biphobic though. I’ve talked about why I think bisexual Louis is getting more discussion time elsewhere.

#anon

[shaynetopps]

💛Smoshblr December Asks Day 3💙

Who are your top 3 favourite actors and/or top 3 celebrity crushes?

hmmmmm, my favorite actors rn are probably rachel zegler (the people's princess!), jenna ortega (been stanning since her disney days), and sarah michelle geller (she's been serving cunt since before i was born!!!)

and celebrity crushes........i could fill a book with my crushes. i'm gonna forego any internet celebs because i'd end up listing all smosh men. with that in mind, my list would be kit connor (he's SO *blushing giggling kicking my feet*), taylor zakhar perez (how is he real??), and freddie prinze jr (he was my og gay awakening)

#smoshblr december asks #wallpaper-inside-my-heart #stella #asks #i love talking about my crushes #feels like middke school but fun

[matan4il]

OK stop you guys just made me spit my drink out laughing so hard. Ok so college drop and the line are you even a parent if your kid isn't embarrassed by you.

Here is the funny thing to me. Buddie will always be iconic and sexy. Like they could be wearing shirts saying "I am gay for him" pointing at each other and the straight women will still swoon. The straight guys will wonder, am I a little gay for them, I wonder what their workout schedule is, and it must be fun being in a relationship with your best friend. The gays will just turn them into gay icons and crush on them. All the students will be the same, like Chris, your dads are cool. And our Christopher will roll his eyes and say "you know they made me watch Toy Story 3 last night and cried the whole time".

Only Christopher and the lesbians will be like every calm down about these 2!!

XD Nonnie, I am so not funny, I just sometimes say stuff that makes me laugh, not expecting anyone else to laugh as well. (I sincerely wrote all of 'first day as a los angeles firefighter' just going, "This is so dumb, no one's even gonna read this, but who cares? My dumb ass is choking with laughter...") So you don't know how delighted I am that my silly line about 'are you even a parent...' made you laugh. *hugs*

This is so true! The idea that gay men are somehow less attractive to women is the dumbest shit I've ever heard, and LBR here, it only holds true for homophobic women. Every other kind of woman attracted to men is gonna look at these handsome, young, muscular, brave firefighters and lust on. I'm just gonna point this out, because I am still disgusted by the notion that celebs, even the most gorgeous ones, must stay in the closet lest they be less marketable. TPTB underestimate the power of a good lady boner. So allow me just to take a second to applaud any actor, musician and other celeb who came out in spite of this dumbass, homophobic notion.

And now that I'm done digressing, yes to this. I studied in a class where half the kids lived on an Air Force base, and came to our school because it was the nearest one to where they lived. All of us non-AF kids looked up to the dads of the AF kids! There was NOTHING these dads could do to stop them from being cool in our very young eyes... So it wouldn't even matter what Chris would say. "They made you watch Toy Story 3? God, I wish my cool firefighter dad would watch Toy Story 3 with me!" Poor Chris would feel so misunderstood. But it's fine, it would just make him closer to the other firefam kids. THEY get him. Together they'd spend entire afternoons arguing which one of their first responder parents is the least cool. Chris almost always wins, although Harry gives him a run for his money every time he mentions how Athena still calls him on occasion her baby boy...

Thank you and have a great day! As always, my ask tag. xoxox

[phanfictioncatalogue]

Wall Sex (2) Masterlist

part one

As You Please (ao3) - worriedpeach (skeletonflowers)

Summary: In which Dan ruins the mood during sex. Except he doesn't.

Bang Me Like Those Drums (ao3) - Analphancones

Summary: Phil is the drummer of a band, but how will the lead singer, Kevin, feel when he walks in on Phil banging his younger brother Dan as hard as Phil bangs his drums?

First Night (ao3) - Spring_Haze

Summary: The couple moves to a new flat, and all they want to do is to take a shower ... together. Phil appreciates Dan's forethought at the end of a long day. Both men find the energy to enjoy each other in their new walk-in.

Give Me A Try - danfanciesphil

Summary: Dan, a bartender at ‘Habenero’, Brighton’s hottest gay club, has been obsessed with AmazingPhil, the openly gay Instagram model for a long time. In all the fantasy meet-cute scenarios Dan has imagined for he and his semi-celeb crush, none of them involved him being at work, being soaked in various liquids, or being halfway through a Saturday night hell-shift. Sometimes, life doesn’t wait around for your plans.

I Like the Flower Crown (ao3) - aby55al (abyssa1)

Summary: Pastel Dan wants punk Phil's attention so he dresses in dark clothes. Then they have sex.

Phil Lester : A Sinner (ao3) - rowan_e

Summary: He never wanted this to happen, but life isn't always what you think it'll be.

He never meant to hurt the one he loved, but Phil never ceased to surprise himself.

He fucked up. Would you ever believe that Phil Lester himself would be a sinner?

Sexercise (ao3) - elusive_eventuality

Summary: “Confession: My friend is working out and getting bigger. I can’t help but think about him topping me and pounding me looking at his new muscles.”

Stardust - echohowell

Summary: When Phil Lester sees a star fall from high up on a hilltop, he vows to do the impossible. Cross the wall and bring back the fallen star in exchange for Victoria Forester’s hand in marriage. When Phil finds the star, he is surprised to find it very much alive.Dan is a tiny bit pissed at having fallen from the sky. He’s even more pissed at the blue-eyed idiot who finds him lying on the scorched ground. Injured and with nowhere else to go, Dan agrees to accompany Phil to the wall.However, events are closing in around them. Rumours of immortality and power beyond imagining sweep the land, stirring terrible forces that are best left alone. Forces that will stop at nothing to get what they want.The shining heart of a fallen star.(Also known as the one where Dan is a star, there’s a bunch of witches who just want to devour his heart, Phil is a lovestruck fool and the moral of this tale is to always avoid Faerie Wine.)

#phanfictioncatalogue #phan #phanfic #masterlists #phanfiction #smut #sex tw #masterlist #wallsex #wallsex masterlist

[menalez]

mena im soo lonely. all of my friends basically never try to involve me in anything and are always hanging out with guys, theyre all bi but they only really ever date and talk about guys, they make me feel like im an ugly man weirdo (even though im feminine. i just don't wear makeup really)

i soo badly just want lesbian or gay friends bc i really struggle to feel understood currently. rn im a teen and im scared my loneliness will only get worse as i go into adulthood.

did you ever experience something similar and how were you able to get gay/lesbian friends? 💜

yeah ive had moments in university and school where i basically felt quite othered bc my female friends would often talk about guys and their crushes and male celebs etc and that didnt interest me so id either disconnect or (sth i did as a child) id invent stuff to try to fit in but i felt somewhat uncomfortable n different bc of it regardless. BUT i can at least tell u that finding gay & lesbian friends is not at all impossible, u meet 1 gay man or 1 lesbian and suddenly u end up meeting more n more bc they also tend to have their own gay & lesbian friends. even end up finding bi people who aren't so OSA-centric.

im not sure if it'll help u at all but. when i was in school, most of my friend group coincidentally turned out to either be gay or bi. in my female friend group: 1 turned out to be bi, 1 turned out to be a lesbian (& they were the ones i was closest to as well), and then from my male friends 2 turned out to be gay men. we didnt consciously know of each other's sexualities but i think we somehow subconsciously knew and connected w each other based on being semi-outcasts and different without knowing/admitting exactly how we are different. after school, at uni, i did go through about 2 years where most of my friends were het. i was living abroad and i noticed that in a lot of the west, ppl tend to only want to be friends w people of similar ethnic/racial/cultural backgrounds so my friends mostly ended up being muslim women (which was unusual for me lol. ik its odd since i grew up in a muslim country but most of my friends were not religious or weren't even muslim at all). i did have 1 friend, a bahraini gay man, who i knew through a woman i had a thing with. he was coincidentally going to the same uni as me. she introduced us and we became close friends. one of the muslim women i was friends with also ended up coming out to me as bi (she dated women briefly at first then ended up in relationships w men tho). there were several lesbians on radblr who lived in the same area as me and invited me into their group & bc of that i ended up having a lesbian friend group in the UK. wed go to lesbian events together which was fun! then in germany, i befriended the obviously gay guy in my german class bc i wanted to make friends in the country & he seemed cool. he introduced me to some other bi & gay people but i never rly became friends with them. my gf also introduced me to several lesbians & my aunt (an activist working for an LGBT org) also introduced me to several bisexuals, gay men & lesbians, many of whom i ended up befriending. so for me most of it was through other people, often women im dating or gay friends i have.

[uboatan]

a bit of a personal vent i guess.

I’m sure some of you know, but a few months ago, I finally accepted the fact that I am bisexual. Despite my horrific experiences with a lot of men in my lifetime, I still couldn’t deny the fact that I am attracted to them, and telling myself that it was “wrong” of me to be attracted to anyone regardless of gender wasn’t correct. I’m still trying my best to embrace the bisexual identity, but it’s still been a healing process. (Even then, I still find myself to be sexually attracted to women more above anyone else if I’m being honest.)

Anyways.

The person I like is a dude. A cis dude. I’ve been crushing on him for quite a while, and we’re slowly getting a bit closer everyday. I could elaborate more about him if I wanted to but I won’t because if I do I’m sure someone would be able to identify him immediately (he is a bit of a micro-celeb admittedly.) I’ve opened up about this crush of mine to everyone in my family, and they’ve all been very accepting, much more than I expected them to actually be.

The only person I haven’t told is my dad: Only because I fear he would use that as an opportunity to say how my attraction to women was “only a phase” and something about how I “never really was gay to begin with” and “it’s good to be with a good man who will truly care for you.” (this is why I brought up the fact that my crush is cis)

While I wouldn’t say my dad ever rejected me for being queer in some fashion, I don’t think he ever liked the idea of it. I don’t know if it’s because of plain homophobia or he wants me to live some ideal life that involves me having a husband and babies and living some stereotypical catholic-approved lifestyle (which is funny because he certainly fucking didn’t). Or maybe he just doesn’t think that it’s even possible for me to be gay in the slightest. But it’s really disheartening to think about.

Of course, if this guy and I truly ever get together I will have to tell my dad. I just hope that he will be happy for me and not be snarky about it like he always is.

#posts

[heraadora]

Biphobia and Lesbians

I don't think any bisexual woman is serious about the whole "Lesbians Oppress Bi Woman" thing. But if they are indeed serious - and think Bi/Pan Men, Aro /+ Ace Men or Gay Men are a better ally to them in comparison to your average Misandrist Lesbian- uh - they probably need help.

I think they just say this because Lesbian and Bi Woman Online are always on a cawk measuring contest and you win by making yourself look more oppressed. Lesbians win in this at the expense of living as a subhuman in Society to Queer Community

And then there's Bi woman are too bothered about that one random mean comment a Lesbian made about their Bf or Fave celeb, Anime Boy or K-pop Male Idol crush and another mean comment of a Lesbian calling them a C0ck addict to actually care about the material reality of Biphobia.

Because Heterosexuality is a privilege, regardless No matter what. Men harming Bisexual woman in a heterosexual relationship is a manifestation of Biphobia in Interpersonal Interactions. Lesbians or society is not responsible for this "Biphobia", it's Men.

If the Very Gender that I date and the Gender that makes my Bisexuality Bisexual - and then that very Gender kills me for it- directing my anger to mean minorities on the internet will be my way to deny the fact that the Gender I love - hates me. It's willful ignorance.

Specially because the "Mean" ness of these minorities are often a coping mechanism to deal with the everyday dehumanization they face. They don't have the power to harm Bi Woman. Men have it. So, I don't get the vitriol lesbians get for something that they don't even do.

And a lot people will argue that Men being Biphobic is just misogyny as Men will despise and Fetishize Queerness of Women who are dating them and will not see their Queerness having any relevance if that is threatening their Male Right over that Queer Women, i.e: Cheating.

Idrc about the way you want to describe this, I don't have issues to see this as a Unique Bigotry towards Bi woman for being Queer, aka Biphobia. All I care is the vitriol being biased towards lesbians instead of the Gender that Abuses Bi woman- MEN.

Minorities like Lesbians don't have the obligation to take the complaints of Bi woman about Biphobia seriously if they are gonna make us instead of men the villain of the story + use the systemic privileges they have regardless for liking men in order to hurt other Queer women.

And I am mentioning other Queer Women cause Bisexual woman will hurt other Bisexual woman too over a Man. Make Fun of them for dating lesbians. Etc. Maybe if Queer Women are Mean to you, Lesbians are mean to you, 90% of time the reason is you hurting them. So Cool down.

#bisexual #biphopia #lesbian #lesbophobia #lgbtq community #lgbtq #lgbtqia #radical feminism #radblr #misandry

[glittter-vamp]

joe is just a pretty boy who knows himself. my mom says my type are the pretty boys (celeb crushes and in real life) but we stan him not being afraid to wear and act how he wants - i will say that in turn it makes him more “manly” then men who won’t do simple things cause it’s “gay” or “girly” (like washing their face, not even skin care just being clean)

Heavy on the we stan him not caring about what he wears and acts! We love a man who is just himself.

#asks

[redheadbigshoes]

The anon again. Okay, I’m going to disagree that I’m being “disrespectful”. I’m absolutely entitled to my own opinion on this with being the mean lesbian. If you are all allowed to send op messages about this topic like every day I can send one too. You guys are all typing paragraphs to explain why you have crushes on men yet call yourselves lesbians. I can’t stop you the same way I can’t stop bi lesbians. I agree we can find men aesthetically attractive without our sexuality being brought up but people have mentioned straight up feelings for celeb men here. That’s obviously what I am talking about. Anyways sorry op, I am interested on your takes on this. Thanks for humoring this convo.

I’m just sorry that I don’t know which ask you sent me lol but yeah I totally agree with you.

It should’ve been obvious when we’re talking about people having crushes on men we’re talking about the ones who have feelings for those men, we’re not talking about simply finding men attractive. And there’s a difference between people who identify as lesbians who simply can look at a man and say “yeah he’s hot” to actually being pleased with imagining that man in a sexual/romantic way.

If you simply find someone physically beautiful I don’t really know why you’re describing that as a “crush”. Regardless if you’re a gay man, straight woman or man, lesbian, idk why you can’t just say you find someone beautiful. Ignoring words meanings and misusing those words will always have a negative impact, especially when you’re from a minority.

I think it’s important we have these discussions, as long as they’re healthy and respectful I don’t mind.

#stephanie answers #anon #long post

[anticomphet]

Hiii, just found your blog randomly and as a bisexual woman who is more ssa i just wanted to say that i loved your post about ssa women and mlm because i relate a lot and you put into words a lot of thoughts i have.

Like the part about exploring my attraction to men without having to put myself throught it really resonated with me because even thought i'm attracted to men, and love reading mlm erotica/porn, the idea of doing something about it doesn't usually appeal to me unless i have a drink or two (not black out drunk, just kinda buzzed i guess) because it lowers my anxiety, pulls me out of my head and more into my gut, plus i kinda get more horny lol. Another interesting thing it's that when i have celebrity crushes i never really picture myself with them?? It's weird but if i find them attractive most of the time i'm gonna search for fic about them (these men tend to be guys from bands or athletes so it's fairly easy lmao).

Anyway, it's also true that it helps me explore same sex relationships without getting too personal and uncomfortable i guess??? Because when i started reading mlm fic i already knew i liked girls too and it didn't matter to me that i was reading about two guys because i could relate whatever i was reading to me and a girl i had a crush on most of the time. Like the story would be about two guys who were best friends and my brain would inmediately go "ye, me and bestie", but it's also true that sometimes i read more sexual fics and unfortunely reading about explicit sex between two men does turn me on, especially if i really like the dynamic or if i find one of the guys attractive

So yeah, as a heavy leaning ssa woman i can confirm that mlm appeals to me because i experience sexual attraction to men but have some anxiety around it and also because it's about a same sex relationship so it kinda mirrors whatever me and that one bestie had going on, and i'm glad that other bisexual women can kinda relate because i always read about straight women wanting to be men and kinda inserting themselves as one of the guys and that was never really my experience, always seemed more voyeuristic for me with a side of mirroring my own experiences as a ssa woman

Sorry for the long rant!

aww this makes me so happy! i’m so glad you relate to that post:) and yes further confirmation that being drawn to mlm content as a woman is often connected to liking men but not enough to want to be with them yourself

i totally relate to the second and third paragraphs. i never picture myself w celeb crushes and i kind of just take myself out of the picture when i’m attracted to a famous guy, and it makes sense bc i don’t actually wanna be with them but i’m attracted to them enough to feel that attraction. and yeah omg like i’m drawn to gay content in general so seeing two guys dating in a show warms my heart and if i find one of the guys attractive it excites me to a certain extent, but seeing two women dating in a show feels so.. personal and intense and ahhhhh. so yeah watching two guys together as a wlw definitely lets you experience watching something gay without it feeling super personal

[28whitepeonies]

„I think there have been plenty of men we've seen Louis appear to be attracted to over the years that aren't Harry.“

Can you give an example of this? I don’t really know what men you are referring to here.

„I also disagree about his use of queer symbols, I can't really think of any that I would say were specifically bisexual but if you want to come back with an example you can. Some of the key choices that have engaged with queer history as it relates to gay men for me have been his use of Polari and his choice to work with Polari and the pink triangle in the Just Like You mv.“

Personally, I feel like people in this fandom put too much meaning into these things. Louis wearing a polari shirt is something that comes down to the clothing choices of his stylist. She also put kit Connor into Louis 28 jumper, recently. I definitely think there’s room and reason for debate about this but I feel like you feel too certain about this event being evidence of Louis actively using queer symbols when we don’t actually know how much say or knowledge Louis had in these clothing choices. I yet have to see evidence of him being educated about queer history or queer brands. The whole photoshoot was in collaboration with the magazine highsnobiety and not with the brand polari itself which I think is also important to mention in this context which you didn’t. I don’t mean that these circumstances belittle the significance behind the fact that Louis wore a polari shirt. I’m just bothered by how this whole event is framed in this fandom for the most part.

I watched the just like you mv and I didn’t see a pink triangle in there. You were probably talking about the miss you video. And I think this might be reasonable to take as a queer symbol. I think it’s just as reasonable to not do that. There are also blue circles in the video. What do they mean? Do they have a meaning too? I just think we sometimes attach certain meaning to certain things and take it literal when we don’t know what the directors thought behind those setting choice was. Or if Louis himself wanted to have pink triangles in there as a symbol of his queerness. We don’t know if he’s even aware of these things. If Liam puts pink triangles in his mv (which he did in the stack it up video) what do you make of that?

„The lyrics to Home were a big thing for me back in the day, and you might remember one of the early Sugarscape interviews where Louis was asked about his first crush and he said *Emma Watson, because we went to see the first Harry Potter in Year 6 and literally all the lads fancied Hermione Granger so Hermione it's you. He then used Emma Watson as the answer to that celeb crush question when he got it for years.“

I absolutely agree with all of this. To me the song home always seemed like a full confession and I don't know how anyone could read the lyrics as anything else than Igbt related. The Emma Watson comment also kind of represents the typical queer experience of young people who are in the process of self discovery, for sure. So those two events are definitely reason for me to believe that Louis is somewhere on the spectrum of the Igbt community.

What I didn't understand is why you seemed to be so railed up about the suggestion that louis might be bisexual. He absolutely might! I personally wouldn't put that out of the question because I have seen evidence of him being attracted to woman for example the footage of him and Briana in 2015 making out in a club. I also think that he was attracted to Eleanor. I know you look at these things through different lenses and I respect that. I just think there's definitely reason to believe he's attracted to more than just men. I don’t want to argue about this at all, I was just confused as to why you were getting so annoyed about the idea of it.

I’m a bit confused, I’m not annoyed by folks thinking/discussing Louis might be bisexual and I don’t think I have that impression in any of my responses. I said I read Louis as gay because I do. also said as I often say, that I could be wrong about what I think. Of course Louis could be bisexual, I just don’t think he is.

I do, however, disagree with you vehemently on the significance of Louis wearing Polari and it’s not about ‘wearing a polo shirt’. It’s got a lot to do with the caption Louis chose on this picture, ‘chavvy’ is a Polari word. Both it and the term ‘chav’ have Romani origins, but ‘chavvy’ is a Polari word which he used while wearing a T-shirt that reads Ferricadooza, another Polari word that this time comes from Italian.

Now I don’t think Louis is a moron and I don’t think he’s ignorant about queer history, but a ten second google will tell you about Polari, and I think Louis knows a lot more than that. There are class implications here too and I think it’s a way of expressing himself using a secret queer language that was often used by travelling performers and I think that’s amazing.

I was talking about the Miss You video you’re right, that was a typo on my part, I meant to stick a line in about how those two MV’s engaged with queerness with the cuttings in Just Like You.

I’m sorry if I’ve given you the impression that I think everything means something, that would be ridiculous, I think an inverted pink triangle in a music video of a man who had recently worn polari and tattooed a triangle on his body is not far fetched. In 2017 I think Louis engaged quite heavily with queer culture in a specific way.

I’m not interested in converting you to my way of thinking, you (and others) have asked what I thought and I have told you.

Probably what I find most disagreeable about your ask is that you think Louis is queer, and you know a bit about queer history but you think that fans are putting too much weight on pink triangles and polari and I obviously don’t feel the same.

#anon