#and like I keep thinking about my mom and our weird relationship with our bodies and fertility

[jenna0rtega27]

I was thinking of G!p Jenna Ortega x female reader, where they think they are home alone and while having sex Jennas mom walks in on them. After they are done Jenna and reader awkwardly go down to the kitchen and Jennas mom says she hopes they used protection. Jenna goes red, looks down and her mom starts yelling about having kids and all. Thanks

Never to be done again

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Thank you for asking 18+ Jenna x F!reader Summary: Request Warning: Jenna g!p, some smut at the beginning, Unprotected sex (Thank you so much for your requests and your likes. It really motivates me to continue sharing lots of stories about our Jenna with you. I love you guys).Number of words : 1441

Part 2

Pov Jenna: “~Aaah yes~ keep it up baby. » I'm at my mother's house and my mother went to pick up Aliyah from a friend's house. And they go shopping. And the rest of my siblings aren't home. So me and my beautiful girlfriend are enjoying the peace and quiet at home.

Y/n is lying on the bed with her head on the cushions and I am on top of her. My arms are placed on the bed at both ends of Y/n's head to support myself.

I thrust into her making her moan. My favorite sound since I became a couple with this wonderful person. Y/n has her arms wrapped around my neck and pulls me closer to her. She kisses me. My tongue asks for access into her mouth and she accepts. Our tongues move in circles and I press our lips back together. I keep sinking into my lip.

We've been fucking for 30 minutes now. We managed to do 3 laps. And honestly it's weird that my mom takes so much time. But no one is going to complain about it.

Now it’s Y/n on top of me and I’m lying on the bed. Y/n sits on my thighs facing me and jumps on my cock. I put my hands on his thighs to help him move. I moaned at the sight of my penis moving in and out of her dripping pussy.

“You look so good in…”

“Jenna…” My mother comes into my room. I open my eyes wide like Y/n who immediately stops jumping on me.

“JENNA MARIE ORTEGA!” How many times have I told you not to make love in my house! »

My mother yells at me. Luckily, my bed is in front of the door, so my mom can't see my girlfriend's tits since her back is to her.

“And how many times have I told you to knock before entering my room! Now get out of my room. Let's get dressed! » I shout back.

“Fine but you better not do that again.” » said my mother, pointing at us.

My dear mother comes out of my room and closes the door. My girlfriend gets off of me and starts to get dressed and I do as she does. His silence makes me really anxious. I hope my mother didn't ruin our relationship.

“I’m really sorry about my mother. I swear I didn't know she was back. » I say as guilt invades my whole body.

Y/n looks at me and a smile appears on her face that makes me sigh in relief at not seeing her angry. She steps forward and takes my face in her hands.

“Baby, it’s no big deal. I knew this was going to happen to us one day or another. We make love all the time when we're at your parents' house. Plus I find it funny. » Y/n says as a laugh leaves her lips. I laugh with her.

" I love you my dear. I said lovingly as I wrapped my arms around his neck and scratched his head with my nails.

" I love you too. » Y/n replies with a lot of love too and wrapping her arms around my waist. I stand on tiptoes and place my lips on his. The kiss quickly becomes passionate.

“Jenna Ortega the conversation is not over, leave this room immediately. And Y/n you’re coming too! » said my mother from behind my bedroom door.

I stop the kiss and pull away from Y/n.

"Come on, let's go face the angry monster." » I say laughing at my choice of words. But Y/n doesn’t laugh. She is terrified and I can tell you that I am too. I can tell you that getting caught by your mother having sex with your girlfriend is the most embarrassing moment of my entire life. And I will remember it for the rest of my life.

We leave the bedroom and go down to the kitchen. I immediately look down when I enter the kitchen and look straight down when my mother looks at us with narrowed eyes. I know when her eyes are narrowed like that, she's angry.

I sit at the kitchen table in front of my mother. Y/n goes to sit next to me but my mother points to the chair at the end of the table without breaking the eye contact she tries to make with me but I keep my eyes looking down. Y/n does as my mother says and sits down.

“Is this the first time you’ve made love in my house?” » Natalie asks, clasping her hands together. I hold back laughter because my mother thinks she's a superb interrogator.

I shake my head and look up to pinch my nose.

“Jenna, Y/n do you realize that, DJ, Cash could have walked into your room and been traumatized. Even worse, what if one of the boys brought Mya? »

“We’re sorry, mom. But we were really careful. We waited until everyone was asleep or no one was home. »

“Yes, we’re really sorry, Natalie. It wouldn't happen again. »

I know Y/n is terrified. And I would have liked to be close to her to comfort her.

“I forgive you, but no more sex in my house understood? » My mother said, pointing at us both.

" Yes mom. » “Yes Natalie. » We both answered.

" GOOD. » My mother gets up but sits back down and looks at me.

“Did you use condoms?” » my mother asks me as she looks at me intently.

Fuck! I completely forgot the condom! We don't take condoms since Y/n is on the pill. So we never take it during our sexual relations.

Y/n and I look down in shame and I hear my mother let out a breath.

“Jenna!” Do you know what happens when someone who has a penis can do after unprotected sex!? »

I make a disgusted face as Y/n sinks back into her chair.

“But of course yes, mom, I know what it does! And Y/n takes the pill! » I then say that all I want is for this conversation to end as quickly as possible.

“But that’s not enough Jenna! Y/n could get pregnant even if she takes the pill! Should I give you a lesson on sexuality and the use of condoms? » My mother said, looking at us both.

" Mom! No! No way! » I respond quickly as I stand up. “Come on baby let’s go.” » I take Y/n's hand and she stands up.

" No no no. As a consequence of having made love in my house and without a condom, you are going to pick up Aliyah from her friend's house. »

“But weren’t you already going to get her? " I ask. And it’s only now that I’ve never seen my little sister.

“No, she was staying later after all. » My mother tells me and I start to panic. I look at Y/n with wide eyes.

“Don’t worry. I didn't hear anything so I went running. And I’m really happy I went for a run because my ears wouldn’t have liked it.” My mother says and I roll my eyes.

“Okay, I’ll go. Come on Y/n let's go. » I say before my mother intervenes.

“No, Y/n stay here. I am going to start my sexuality and condom use class. » Natalie said, taking my girlfriend's arm and leading her towards her. Y/n is as red as a tomato.

" But… "

“Don’t worry my dear, you will have time to attend my class too if you hurry. » My mother says to me without letting go of Y/n's arm and looks at me with a smirk because she knows that she always wins at this game.

I roll my eyes and look at Y/n. And she looks at me. I know she's telling me to help her. But my mother will never let her.

" Sorry. » I say on the lips. Y/n gives a smile that doesn’t meet her eyes. I know she is ashamed and would probably like to step aside.

I leave the house and head to my car. I look behind me and see Natalie waving goodbye to me and still with that shitty smirk on her face. Y/n is still as red as a tomato at the thought of my mother lecturing her on sexuality. I breathe and get in my car towards Aliyah's friend.

At least we will have learned our lesson. We will never make love in my mother's house again.

#jenna marie ortega #jenna ortega x reader #jenna ortega x fem!reader #jenna ortega smut #jenna ortega imagine #jenna ortega x fem reader #jenna ortega x y/n #g!p

[juanarc-thethird]

Follow up to I accept your proposal. Blake invites Jaune to join her in meeting her parents. It is weird but he goes there expecting to just go as a friend. However Blake surprises everyone by putting on the collar and comes out to everyone that she is his pet. She goes into the gritty details about their sex life to Jaune's embarrassment. How Kali and Ghira respond to this is up to you.

I just change it a little bit, I hope you like it.

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I Accept Your Proposal! Part 2

At a small and private coffee shop.

Blake: Thanks for coming Jane. Having you here makes me feel safe.

Jaune: No problem, but why do you need me to talk to your parents. I mean, they're your parents, I don't think they're going to be mad at you for whatever you're going to tell them.

Blake: We'll see.

Ghira: *In the distance* Are you sure this is the place?

Kali: Yes I am.

Blake: *She turns around and she sees her mom and dad* Mom, Dad, we are here!

Ghira: *Happy* Blake!

Kali: *Happy* My baby!

She runs towards her and hugs her. Her father follows behind and embraces the two women in a group hug.

Ghira: We are glad to see you dear daughter.

Kali: You look so thin, are you eating well?

Blake: *Chuckles* I'm fine mom.

Ghira: *Looks at Jaune*

Jaune: *Nervous* Hi

Ghira: Is he a friend of yours?

Blake: Oh well, he's someone important. *She blushes*

Kali: Oh~ Looks like my girl is all grown up now.

Ghira: Is he your...?

Blake: Why don't we sit down and I tell you guys everything.

They each take their seats and look forward to what Blake will say.

Blake: Okay. She takes a deep breath. He is Jaune Arc and he is my…

Jaune: *Happy* (Wait?! Is she going to say what I think she's going to say?! Is she's going to introduce me as her....)

Jaune/Blake: (..boyfriend?!)/...Master!

Ghira/Jaune: WHAT?!

Kali: Oh my!~

Ghira: Is this true! Are you her Master?!

Jaune: Wait a minute! I never agree-!

Blake: Yes he is, and I have this to prove it!

Blake opens her shirt slightly revealing a collar that has a heart plate that says property of Jaune Arc.

Blake: *Proud* See! This is proof of our love!

Kali: *Awkward* Honey, I know it's none of my business, but why?

Blake: You should have seen it seen mom. The first time we did it, it was magical. He put me on a leash and handled me like his kitten. He made me lick his big dick like a popsicle, god I love that taste~ Then he put me on all fours and gave me so hard from behind that my legs were shaking after 1 orgasms. And the body odor from him, gosh~, it's so addictive. Just smelling it turns me on so much. But best of all, after he uses me as his fuck toy, he holds me in his arms, he caresses me, gives me a lot of kisses, and he whispers to me how much he loves me. For me it is like a piece of heaven on earth.

Their parents don't say anything, they are silent. On the other side, Jaune covers his face from embarrassment and fear of what has just happened and what is going to happen. Whatever it is, it can't be a good thing.

Jaune: (Somebody kill me Please!)

Blake: So, do I have your blessing to keep seeing him?

Jaune: (Are you stupid?! They would never accept something like this!)

Kali: *Happy* But how wonderful! You found a good man. Lucky you.

Jaune: (Eh?)

Ghira: I must admit that I was somewhat surprised. But you are already an adult woman, it was a matter of time for this to happen. But I am happy that he is a man like you, Jaune. Please he takes care of my daughter.

Jaune: Yeah sure... Hold on! How can you two be okay with this?!

Ghira: *Embarrassed* Oh well… Is a funny story.

Kali: *Smiles* I handle this. Well Jaune, our relationship is not much different from yours.

Jaune: Wait. You're telling me that you and your husband are…

Kali: That's right. I am his Master and he is my big fluffy cat. *Rubs his belly*

Ghira: Honey please, we are in public.

Jaune: You are the Master!... I admit, I didn't see that coming.

Kali: A lot of people do.

Blake: So, can I have your blessing?

Kali: Of course, but with one condition.

Blake: Which is...

Kali: We want grandbabies!

Ghira: Lots of them.

Jaune: Wait, we are still young. We should focus on-

Blake: *thumbs up* You got it!

Jaune: Blake!

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[millenialfanfictionaddiction]

Being MSBY's Manager

Miss Manager is a Single Mom

MSBY x Fem! Manager (platonic relationship)

Warning: Swearing, cheating ex, pregnant reader, mention of a c-section birth, there is no romance between reader and any of the players they are just supportive kings 👏🏻

BN: Boyfriends name

A/N: This was a submission sent by @djalexandra

🏳️‍🌈 Please Like, Share, Comment to support my writing 🏳️‍🌈

I can already tell this is going to be a long one 😅

I pre-apologize

So let's get right into it

When you first started as MSBY's Manager, you were seeing your boyfriend

Everything was going great 🥰

Or so you thought-

Soon he started accusing you of spending too much time with the team

Like.... it's your job but ight bro 🤨

You were gearing up for the new season and things were busy at work

Atsumu, Bokuto and Hinata kept you late most nights at practice

Please I don't even need to say why YN, you already know 🙄

You were constantly doing laundry, filling out paperwork, going over schedules wjth Meian

Your life was hectic to say the least and about to get more insane

Your relationship with your boyfriend had been pretty stagnant for a while

But of course, you still had feelings for him and loved him

It had been about 2 months since you had found out you were pregnant 🤰

It wasn't exactly planned and you were shocked when the test came back positive

You told your boyfriend and he seems less than enthused

You thought "maybe he just needs time to adjust"

I mean they do say a "mom becomes a mother during pregnancy and a dad becomes a father after birth"

You had yet to tell the team of your news

Thankfully it worked out perfectly so you could still manage during the season, give birth during the off season and come back when the next season started

Smart planning on your part yn 😅

What wasn't planned was the discovery that you were having twins

Oop 😶

It took you a good few days to digest the news, as well as try not to freak out in front of the team

Controlling your morning sickness wasn't as easy 🙃

During a meeting, you felt a wave of sickness hit

You quickly covered your mouth and ran to the bathroom, throwing up the entire contents of your stomach

Needless to say the reactions of our boys were all over the place

"YN are you ok?- Meian asks from outside the bathroom

"If your sick YN, you should go home"- Barnes

"She's probably faking because she's suppose to help me with my sets tonight"- Atsumu

"YN please stay 6 ft away from me for the next 5-7 days"- Sakusa

"YN DONT DIE"- Bokuto and Hinata

🙄🙄 it's what you signed up for Yn you can only blame yourself

You vowed to tell the boys about your pregnancy as soon as you hit your second trimester

Unfortunately, you ended up in my headcannons YN 😎

Late after a practice, Bokuto, Atsumu and Hinata were escorting you home

Our Knights in shining armor 🥰

Actually it went more like this

"No way Bokuto! I hit way more shots than you did today!"- Hinata

"Did you see all my liners Hinata?? Maybe you blinked a few times because I definitely hit more than you today?"- Bokuto

"Do you think I should take my nails down a little YN? I mean maybe I should adjust he length? I wonder when length Tobio keeps his at?"- Atsumu, studying his nails

You sigh to yourself, exhausted and beat from the day as you go to unlock your front door

Only to find it already unlocked 👀

That's suspicious. That's weird 🤨

"YN do you think somebody broke in?"- Hinata

"You idiot! The doors not broke down!"- Atsumu

"What if they used a lock picking kit?"- Bokuto

"Yeah Atsumu!"- Hinata 😝

Unfortunately you pay no mind to their squawking as you feel your stomach drop

Your face goes pale and you feel sick as you see clothing strewn all over your floor

"Jesus Yn you should really pick up your clothes"- Atsumu says

Suddenly there is a giggling sound come from down the hall

Atsumu, Bokuto and Hinata all look at each other than at you 😬

You can't move, your body is frozen and you feel like you are going to be sick

Your ex appears in a towel with a girl on his heels

Everyone stops ✋🏻

"YN, I- I didn't know you'd be home so early"- your boyfriend says

ex... EX YN

Atsumu, Bokuto and Hinata are all too stunned to speak

Not to be rude but like someone take a picture please 📸

"BN, who is this?"- the girl says from behind him

Then the shit hits the fan 😊

"YOU FUCKING ASSHOLE"- You scream and cry as you try to turn and leave

"YN wait- please I can explain!"- your now EX boyfriend says

Atsumu, Bokuto and Hinata are making a literal date tech wall 🧱

Aone's got nothing on MSBY Hinata, Atsumu and Bokuto

"Back the fuck off"- Atsumu says shoving the inferior man back

"YN please- I'm just struggling right now. I'm not ready to be a father"- your ex says

Oop 👀

Atsumu, Bokuto and Hinata 👉🏻😃 what did he say-

"YN your pregnant??"- Hinata

At this point you are feeling literally sick and just need to get out

You are hyperventilating from all the stress and it's becoming too much

"Wait- she's your girlfriend and she pregnant??? You fucking pig!"- the other girl says stomping and grabbing her clothes

"Seriously? What a fucking night"- your stupid ex says

Atsumu' Bokuto and Hinata 👉🏻 😃 🔪whet-

"I need to go"- you say as you stand up, literally shaking and crying

"YN come on, you can stay with me"- Bokuto says as he grabs your arm to steady you

"YN what the hell? Dont you think you're making a big deal out of nothing"- you ex says looking at you, his hands in the air

Atsumu, Bokuto and Hinata 👉🏻🤨 come again???

The girl he cheated with 👉🏻 😐 I hope you dump him, you deserve better

"She's done with you. Don't come near her, don't say her name, don't even THINK about her"- Atsumu growls as he and Hinata leave, slamming the door behind them

At Bokuto's apartment, you shower and try to calm down

Bokuto lent you his shirt to sleep in until they can get you clothes

I'm so jealous Yn 🙄

After your shower, you come into the living room to see Bokuto, Atsumu, Hinata, Sakusa, Meian, Barnes, Inuoka and Thomas all sitting in the living room

You 👉🏻 🧍‍♀️🥲

It's like a wanted intervention 😅

"Hey YN, Hinata called us. Are you ok?"- Meian says

You hug yourself and go to sit down in an empty chair

"Not really. I knew the relationship wasn't going well but I never thought he'd cheat. Especially now"- you say, embarrashed

"YN we are so sorry that happened to you and we are here for you"- Barnes adds

"YN how far along are you?"- Inuoka asks

"Almost 12 weeks. I was going to tell you guys at the meeting next week"- you say

"YN you know we love you and care about you. We will always be here to support you and the baby no matter what"- Thomas adds

"Babies"- you say

Everyone 👉🏻👁👄👁 huh??

"I'm having twins"- you add

Please YN 😫 their eyes nearly buldge out of their sockets

"YN you do know Atsumu is a twin right?"- Hinata says

You 👉🏻🤨 yes???

"I'm basically a expert YN"- Atsumu 💅🏼

"Dear God please don't give us another set of Miya twins"- Sakusa, looking to the heavens

"It would be a blessing!"- Atsumu

Everyone 👉🏻 absolutely not 😐

Atsumu 👉🏻😱 offended

You smile as the tears roll down your face

Your situation isn't perfect but you know you have the boys at your back

The next few weeks go by slow and with alot of tears

You spend your days at the gym, helping the guys prepare for the season

You're ex reached out but not in a good way

He asked you when you planned to remove your items from his apartment 😠

He seemed to be taking this much better than you were

You had temporarily moved in with Bokuto until you could find a place to stay

I guarantee all these men have nice apartments with multiple bedrooms 🤚🏻

Bokuto is so excited to have you as a roommate and please he adores you YN 🥺

Your pregnancy progresses and it's finally time to find out the babies sexes

Hinata, Bokuto and Thomas convinced you not to find out at the scan because they totally wanted to do one of those balloon pop reveals in the gym 😍

So you hard two balloons made up and you were ready to go

"Istg YN you better have two girls"- Sakusa

"I want one of each!"- Hinata shouts

"They aren't even yours!"- Inuoka corrects

"YN do you care?"- Barnes asks

"Nah, I'm good with whatever!"- you say smiling

You pop the first balloon and ITS A BOY 💙

"YN you let me down"- Sakusa says

You 👉🏻 🧍‍♀️ 🪡 🎈 😐

You pop the second one and the room goes quiet 😶

Because ITS ANOTHER BOY 💙

You 👉🏻😳😳

Hinata and Bokuto 👉🏻😲😲

Meian, Barnes, Inuoka and Thomas 👉🏻 👁👄👁

"Jesus christ YN"- Sakusa 🤦‍♂️ says, walking away

Atsumu 👉🏻😳😲🥳

"OMG YN TWIN BOYS??? AHHHH WAIT UNTIL I TELL SAMU"- Atsumu says running to his phone

YN was too stunned to speak 😃

After the news of having twin boys settled in, you began to mentally plan your next move

You were working long hours at the gym, saving as much as you could for maternity leave and for supplies

The guys knew how hard you were working and were secretly planning a huge surprise for you

Around 30 weeks, you sighed as you locked the door to your office up and waddled your way down the hall

Sakusa was waiting for you, not unlike any other night

"Ready?"- he asked as you nodded

You made your way home, only you weren't headed to Bokuto's apartment 🤨

"Umm Kiyoomi- this isn't the way to Bokutos"- you question

Sakusa ignores you and pulls up to a nice apartment building

You stare at the building then back at Sakusa 👀

"Well come on"- he says opening your door

You 👉🏻🤨 umm ok....

Sakusa leads you up stairs, unlocking doors and pressing in lock codes

"Is this your new place Kiyoomi?? It's pretty fancy!"- you say, figuring this is the only explanation

You stop at a door and Sakusa turns to uou, handing you a set of keys

"Not mine YN, yours"- he says

You 👉🏻😃 whet-

You stand there, keys in your hand staring at Sakusa

You rn 👉🏻👁👄👁

"Jesus YN open the door"- he says as you look towards the door and go to unlock it

You open it to see the most beautiful apartment you've ever seen

It's brand new, fully furnished and absolutely perfect

You immediately look around and your eyes fill with tears

"Kiyoomi, I- I" you say

"Come on YN"- Sakusa says leading you around

The apartment is 3 bedrooms and absolutely perfect

Tears and streaming as Sakusa shows you everything

All your stuff is moved in and everything is perfect

"Kiyoomi, how did you-" you say say Sakusa stops at the last door

"It wasn't just me YN"- he says opening it to reveal a perfect nursery filled with 7 giant volley all players

That's it folks, that's all she wrote

Yn is crying, Bokuto and Hinata are crying, IM FUCKING CRYING 😭😭😭

"You guys- you did this all for me?"- you say, tears streaming down your face

Please you are ugly crying at this point 🤚🏻

Literally me, I'm such an ugly crier

"YN we want you and the babies to be safe and happy"- Meian says

"You work so hard for us Yn and we wanted to make sure you had everything you needed"- Barnes added

"Yeah and you can't live with Bokuto. It would be like having a third baby"- Atsumu adds

"HEY- I'll have you know I'd be a great help!"- Bokuto says huffing

At this point you are walking around the fully finished nursery and sobbing

"I- I love you guys so much"- you say, flinging yourself onto Hinata

Hinata 👉🏻🥺🥰

Please everyone is SO jealous rn

"Hey where's my hug?? I painted the nursery!"- Atsumu

"You did not! We paid for them to do it"- Inuoka adds

"Well I put that swing together"- Atsumu says

"Yeah and I had to fix it"- Sakusa says rolling his eyes

"Shut it Omi"- Atsumu yells

The guys 👉🏻😐🙄

You 👉🏻 🧍‍♀️🥺

"You needed your own space YN. So you could start like preparing or whatever"- Thomas says

"It's called Nesting"- Barnes adds

Everyone looks at him 👀

"What it's called Google guys. Istg didn't you guys do any research?"- Barnes

Everyone 👉🏻👁👄👁

You get settled in your new place as your due date approaches

Please these guys will ask you everyday if you are going into labor

"YN why are you here??"- Bokuto says deflated

You 👉🏻🤨 I work here...

"He means why aren't you in labor YN?"- Sakusa

You 👉🏻 😐

Like you really needed a reminder 🙄

Now up until this point, you've had very little contact with your ex

He's not reached out concerning your pregnancy or to even ask how you are doing

You figured he had just moved on, concerned with his own life

Until 👀 he decided to show up at the gym 🙃

Mistake?? BIG FUCKING MISTAKE

"What in the hell do you want?"- Atsumu growls

You whip your head around to see your ex standing there at the door, 4 giants looming over him

"This is a closed practice"- Meian barks as you walk over to see what is happening

"I just want to see my girlfriend"- your ex says

The fucking audacity am I right 🙄

"I'm not your girlfriend anymore, and like Shugo said, this is a closed practice so leave!"- you spit

"YN we need to talk YN, I messed up"- he says, looking at you

"Not my problem"- you say arms crossed

"YN please-" he says, begging you

"I believe YN said its not her problem"- Barnes booms as your ex stares up at our giant king 🥰

"I want to be with you YN! Please I want to be there for you and the baby"- your ex shouts

"Babies!"- Bokuto corrects as your ex winces

"You know what? If you want to talk to Yn you can talk to her lawyer first"- Inuoka says pulling out his phone and calling the teams lawyer

Perks am I right 💅🏼

"YN could you not be such a bitch"- you ex spits

Oh no he did not 😃

"Get the fuck out!"- you scream, tears falling

"Get out before we call the police"- Sakusa says as Thomas comes to hug you

Your ex leaves, swearing as you try to calm down

"YN don't worry about him ok. We are totally here for you"- Bokuto says

"What an asshole!"- Atsumu growls

"Thanks guys, I love you all so much!"- you say, giving them all hugs

A few weeks later, you are wheeled in for your c-section as the guys nervously wait

You managed to make it to post season before giving birth

You choose to go into surgery alone and the guys all respected that 🥰

Our literal queen 👸

After surgery, in recovery you fed your boys as you heard a knock

"YN- hey"- Meian says sticking his head in

You adjust the boys as the team enters

"Oh my god they look like little YN's"- Bokuto coos

"Can I hold them YN?"- Hinata says as you nod, handing him one twin

"I call the other one"- Atsumu says, bardging up to hold the other baby

Sakusa looks at you from across the room

"They look cute from here YN"- he says

You laugh and smile at all the guys fussing over your sweet babies

You are so lucky to have a team who loves and adores you YN 🥰

#haikyuu!! #haikyu! #haikyū!! #haikyu #hq msby #msby four #msby headcanons #msby scenarios #msby black jackal #msby hinata #msby sakusa #msby meian #msby atsumu #msby bokuto #msby barnes #msby thomas #msby inunaki #miya atsumu #sakusa kyoomi #hinata shoyo #bokuto kotaro #meian shugo #shion inunaki #oriver barnes #adriah thomas #haikyu! timeskip #pregnant reader #msby x female reader #msby x pregnant reader #msby x reader

[euryvices]

mlw relationships are killing some women's souls, and we need to change that

gosh, let me preface this by saying I love men. men are absolutely the cutest, when they're good to the people i love. I love men when they talk about their obscure, weird interests or they talk about their mainstream interests like baseball. I love the light in their eyes when they get excited, and that cute little hand thing they do.

genuinely, i adore men. but one man in particular has earned my ire.

i was talking to my het sister today, about love and relationships. she's been in a long term relationship for almost four years now, and she's going to get out of it soon. me, being an inexperienced (probably lesbian) kid, I ask her about men, and what it's like to be loved by one. she tells me, "oh you know, men are great, except from when you want to be loved for who you are." And she just...laughs. I don't think she even notices my heart is quite literally breaking. This is the world we're in, guys. My older sister, who drew on walls and planned her wedding before the age of ten, who knows all the words to the scooby doo theme song and eats chocolate cake with her bare hands...does not know what it's like to be loved for who she is.

I didn't understand at first.

Because lesbians, and bi women, and just women/queer people loving women in general love so desperately. we love our partners not for how they look, but for who they are. and yes, maybe im speaking from a naive place, but that doesn't change the fact that women/enbies don't view each other like men do. not to romanticise wlw relationships so terribly, but it's just so different with us. My sister tells me about the times her boyfriend, Danny, has forgotten her birthday, Dannys cheating on her, or throwing her against a wall on their anniversary - with all the caustic numbness of a trampled upon snail. She has not been loved by any of the men she has dared love.

Obviously, mlw relationships cannot be exactly like wlw relationships. But it just, hurts. It hurts that my sister, who is genuinely one of the most dynamic people i know, who is the aphrodite of small town casinos and cheap gin, who is always holding the bullet instead of biting it - is not being loved for who she is. She knows that she is being loved for being a warm body, not for the warmth her body can hold.

He, as far as I can see, was a good person. He showed up to family events with flowers for our mom and a toy for the baby...but it just goes to show you how different things can be behind closed doors. She told me, "his passive aggressive comments always stuck with me. i even started worrying about my weight!" which, if you know my sister, should be absolutely absurd. She literally looks like a model (don't tell her I said that or her head'll get so big we'd have to keep her chained to the floor). She is one of the prettiest women ever, regardless of her weight. She told me that at one point she was almost ready to starve herself. Meanwhile, this pathetic apology of biochemical reactions has had the nerve to cheat on her, laugh at her, make rude comments and still show up to every family event with a bouquet in hand.

And it's changed her.

it's not fair. So, Danny, if you're reading this by chance you sad sack of mutilated deer dick - fuck you. Fuck you for taking my passionate-about-life, kind to the druggies outside our shitty school, full of life sister - and making her someone who tiptoes around you. Someone who's given up on being herself because you've changed her.

The worst part is that it's not even an isolated event. This happens to women all over the world. So many sparks have been lost to careless hands.

To men everywhere : don't date women you don't actually love. Don't search for someone else in the girl you're dating. Don't treat her wrong, and start actively figuring out what hurts you instead of expecting her to do the emotional labour allllll the time.

And do not ever make your girl feel bad about herself. I'll be watching, and I have a bat and an angry horde of bisexual at my side.

#wlw post #wlw love #mlw #masculine #femininity #scooby doo #wedding planner #activism #feminism #fuck the patriarchy #misandry #sexism #liberal feminism #womens rights #terfs DNI #fuck transphobes #transphobes #love #lovers #relationship #longing #i love you #love quotes #self love #i love him #feeling #anger #angerme #anger issues #angercore

[cipheramnesia]

Not to be whiny, and feel free to tell me off if I am, but where did you get a "good" polycule? I used to visit a lot of queer/poly munches/meetups but always got bullied for being "the wrong kind of trans" (I'm amab nonbinary) or "too weird for us" (I'm also autistic), and most queer people I've met outside of those were not interested in keeping contact because they already had a polycule and I "wasn't worth it". Idk what to do, finding people to be with seems so easy for everyone here . . .

I don't think there's one right way to go about it, because relationships are so chaotic and personal, and polyamory makes it even more so.

For me a lot of it is like, a good polycule starts at home, with my nonbinary wife and myself being a pretty strongly committed couple, we both have a lot of the tools in the toolbox that support better relationships with new partners. Stuff like being good at talking about stuff and working together and not letting little stuff become huge deal breakers and just kind of finding ways we fit and work well as a couple and how to compromise with stuff that makes friction. We both have good grounding in accommodating each other and speaking up. Which makes it sound like more negotiation than love, but a big thing is how much love cements us.

And so you know when you meet new people you already know how to work with them and care for them and it still takes time to learn how it coalesces into the existing relationship but that main core compassion helps in the phase where everyone is feeling out one another's needs.

But there's privilege elements like, me being able bodied and my brain worms being fairly easy to cope with and having an okay employment situation and owning a house and being like at least okay looking by conventional western standards is all stuff that affects how other people see me as a partner, and it's sucky that these are factors, but I can't pretend they're not. I can function kind of as the cement holding our house together and it's not through some innate arcane poly magic, but because of social privileges built around able bodied etc etc people.

There's some dumb luck too, because frankly a lot the stuff I have is by chance more than design. We wouldn't own a house if my mom hadn't died of cancer and got a giant life insurance pay out for example. And having Your Space that can handle a partner or two makes a difference because the other thing is schedules are a damn nightmare. I have a girlfriend a only see every other month or so because we both have our own core and households and lives, and sure we don't wanna apply like hierarchy to relationships either but the time factors of partners you live with and partners you don't are substantially different. So, you know, you may find a lot of cases where it's not easy to see a partner who lives with one of their other partners. Life's just like that and I cannot stress enough how fucky schedules are in polyamory.

So like, basically take everything that's complicated about a monogamous relationship and make it more, and that's polyamory. On my end it was just a collection of factors mostly out of my control that ended up with myself and and my wife in a good place to build a polycule around ourselves and we met a bunch of people we fit well with. But it doesn't have to go that way either, maybe you just kinda date around, don't have to like settle down with a specific person or people. Or end up with a buncha queerplatonic friends together. Or something else.

I'm not super good at relationship advice, due to the mostly dumb luck stuff but for factors you can control, it's pretty much don't be a doormat about your needs, but do make sure you're accommodating what's also going to be the many, many different needs of multiple partners.

[donationwayne]

Blame Me (For Mistakes You've Made But You Can't Own) (4.5k Words)

Basically this is just a Buck sick fic. I thought it would be interesting to delve into Buck's probably complicated relationship with illness during his childhood. It made me wonder how differently his parents might have treated him and how the 118 would react to certain revelations.

Buck doesn't know about Daniel and doesn't find out about Daniel but he is mentioned briefly when it jumps to Maddie's POV.

READ THE FIC HERE (AO3)

Summary

Buck goes into work sick and the 118 take care of him. We delve into Buck's complicated relationship with illness, due to his parents own relationship with ill children. A fic where Buck is still in the dark about Daniel.

SNIPPET

“What was your mom's go-to remedy?” Bobby asks, glancing at Buck, who's been suspiciously quiet. Buck sneezes defensively—if a sneeze could be defensive or delay the incoming conversation. “I don’t think my parents really had a go-to method for dealing with illness other than pretending it wasn’t happening. I don’t remember ever going to the hospital or anything like that outside of, like, pneumonia one time as a kid. Even then, my aunt took me and signed me out until Maddie was old enough. “I was always sick as a kid,” Eddie admits sheepishly. “I can’t believe you never got sick.” “Evan was very sickly, don’t let him fool you.” Maddie replies. “Mads—” Buck really wants to stop this conversation in its tracks before it can progress any further. He was feeling so much more vulnerable than usual. “What did your parents do when you were sick?” Hen asks. “Fuzzy socks and an electric blanket—the cold months and all that, you know? Buck’s body was always healing from one injury or another, so I think it made his immune system shitty.” “Sometimes, when you talk about our parents, I’m pretty sure we had different parents. They must have been abducted by aliens or something,” Buck rolls his eyes, shifting away from his sister, who tries to press the back of her hand to his head. “Maddie took care of me until she moved out, whenever I was sick. My parents were weird about it, like I said.” “Weird how?” Chim asks suspiciously, remembering Eddie's accusations of terminal illness. “I don’t know, weird! Mom wouldn’t come anywhere near me if I was sick. I think she didn’t want to risk catching it herself.” Buck laughs to himself and shrugs a little uncertainly. “It was just easier to keep it to myself. Especially because dad would get angry when mom was upset.” “They’d get mad at you for being sick? Hen asks, bemused.

#sick buck #sick evan buckley #we hate the buckley parents #911 #911 abc #buddie fanfic #buddie #aubs writes fanfic #the 118 as family #the firefam

[notebooknonbinary]

Byler Week, Day 2: 80s Movies (Peggy Sue Got Married, 1986)

(technically a sequel to this. All you need to know is that Mike and Will can read each other's minds--and they know that they like each other.)

Mike and Will are back in the Upside Down—in Hopper’s cabin. This time, at least, they’re not alone. Outside, Joyce and Hopper are keeping watch so they can get some sleep. Unfortunately, neither one of them can. So they’re just laying beside each other, listening to the faint murmuring of the couple outside. 

“Mom and I made up last week,” Mike finally murmurs into the quiet air. He sees Will immediately turn to face him. “Yeah? How did that go?”

“She apologized for putting all the secret keeping on me—aparently Nance really reamed her on that after the fight.”

“Well, good. You deserved to be apologized to.”

Mike hides his smile in the crook of his elbow, wondering if Will can feel how giddy Mike gets when Will defends him. (The answer, he suspects, is yes.)

“Thanks,” he whispers. “Then we watched a movie that came out recently? Honestly, it was kind of stupid—Peggy Sue Was Married? Or something like that—but me and Mom both kind of hated it, so we made fun of it together.” Will snaps his fingers. “Peggy Sue Got Married? El and I watched that one, I liked it until she got back with the cheating husband at the end—”

“—that's why Mom thought it was stupid. I guess she saw that’s where it was going and felt it would have ended better if Peggy decided to go through with the divorce.” Mike is silent for a long moment. He picks at the hangnail on his thumb. “Then she started crying and said that she’s been daydreaming about divorcing my dad.” “Oh, Mike…” “She said she’s held out for our sakes, and honestly I almost picked a fight with her about it. I wish they would divorce.”

Will reaches out and grabs Mike’s hand. “Maybe my Mom can talk to her about it after this is all done with.”

"Maybe."

Mike laces their fingers together, and leans over to press the briefest of kisses to their interlocked fingers.

They’re on the precipice of being in a relationship—having confessed and kissed, and accidentally formed a powers-bond—but unwilling to take that final step of calling each other boyfriends. 

If Mike were to lose Will…

He thinks back to the night after Will’s fake body was discovered (easy with Vecna’s recent reminder), those few hours where Mike had well and truly believed Will to be dead. And the hours afterwards where he’d remained terrified of Will slipping through his fingers forever.

He tightens his grip on Will’s hand, scooching just a bit closer to him. Will obligingly curls nearer to him, twinning their free hands together.

They fall asleep like this.

-

When Mike wakes up, it’s to the kind of crusty eyes he associates with late night crying sessions. He feels off and tired and like there’s too much stuff crowding his brain. He sits up, finding himself in his basement—but it’s also wrong.

It’s not the basement of the past year (messy with so many of his family friends living in it), but nor is it the basement in the Upside Down, cold and damp, but free of Vines.

It’s the basement of four years ago. Warm, filled with toys and Will’s drawings. 

When he looks at his hands, they’re tiny and scuffed from falling off his bike last night.

Wait, no, not last night. Four years ago.

Right?

He looks to the corner to see a tiny version of El, awake and fiddling with his old Walkie-Talkie, though nothing but static is coming through. No tiny voice singing. No Will.

Worry turns to painful anxiety and fear.

No no no please no. If, somehow, the following three years were just a dream thought up by a desperate twelve year old wishing that his favorite person were still alive…Mike doesn’t know if he’ll be able to survive that. Not Will, please not Will. A hiccuping sob escapes his chest.

He’s almost certain this isn’t another one of Vecna’s tricks, because things haven’t gone funky and weird like last time. But, he’d almost rather that it is Vecna, just so he can be certain that Will is coming to get him. That Will is still…

He lets out another painful quiet cry, curling in on himself. He hears El take a breath at the noise, but he ignores her.

Then, finally, Will’s mental voice breaks through the silent screaming in his mind. I’m here Mike.

Mike lets out another sob, this time of relief. Are you safe?

He’s hit with a second hand wave of exasperated fondness. As safe as I can be. I don’t think Henry knows we’re here. 

Mike sits back and scrubs the tears from his eyes. How are we here?

Some sort of powers thing? Will guesses. Time travel is new. We didn’t even do it like Marty McFly, we had to pull a Peggy Sue.

Mike bites back a laugh. It seems topical, considering their previous conversation. No Delorean for us, I guess.

Now that he’s aware of what’s going on, his mind has untangled a little bit. Somehow Mike can feel the presence of their younger selves, sat at the back of their minds and aware. His younger self has done the mental equivalent of curling around the younger Will like a feral cat, hissing when Mike prods their way, but otherwise calmer than he would expect them to be.

But then, Mike at this age would and did suspend a lot of disbelief in his crusade to get Will back. So older selves from the future probably isn’t too much of a reach.

Speaking of getting Will back, today is the day Joyce made brief contact with Will. If I can shepard the Party to your house, Mike wonders. Do you think we’d be able to get you out early?

A pause.

Yes please.

--

When I eventually get around to posting this on Ao3 it'll be longer--it's not quite finished, and Mike keeps going off into tangents about found families lolol. But i think this is a good stopping point :)

#bylerweek2023 #Day 2: 80s Movies #byler #mike wheeler #will byers #peggy sue got married aka the movie that popularized one of my fav time travel tropes--even tho the movie itself is kind of stupid imo #and tbh fic's only tangentally related to my choice of movie in that they mental time travel and Talk Shit about said movie #also this could technically fall under soulmates day but for that day i'm just gonna post a chapter of All the Time in the World lololol #i have Not gone to bed yet. My body hurts and i was writing. gonna try and nap for a few hours until the watch party lol

[mahoushoujotechsupport]

ok episode 10 time. i ended up only putting together the head and body of the mk-ii earlier

starting off with sarius trying to bring up aerial again to the benerit group to try and get some punishment in but rajan is like lol nope.

given how we later see prospera and delling together at the end of this ep, i figure its a pretty good assumption that some time between grassley duel and now (its 2 months from what shaddiq says later), delling bring prospera on for quiet zero and he likely also help front aerial's repairs

also man vim is a fucking idiot lol. i totally forgot he says this to sarius. and then iirc all we get once we're in cour 2 is peil bringing up that jeturk suits were used at plant quetta which like yea lmao he can't be like oh btw i knew about it all beforehand

oh this little lovestruck tanuki

knowing endgame miorine, what are the chances that little lesbian was keeping count like this too

i'm glad suletta no longer sees relationships as transactional but lmao this little gay baby. just ecstatic to be of use to miorine and tend to the greenhouse while shes away

honestly cool as hell that they got this prototype all set in the last two months - likely mostly nika and belmeria's work. i have a dumb headcanon that gund-arm probably didn't really get to do much R&D in the 3 year time skip because of all the loose ends miorine's probably been dealing with from the benerit group, on top of taking care of suletta, taking care of her mother-in-law and then nika's in fucking jail lol. even then, since it's likely ojelo and nuno were the ones doing most of the work (maybe belmeria still helping?), it's still neat that they have prosthetics about to start testing rounds with petra. yeah i wrote all this just to say wow nika's so smart

this scene is so ridiculously heartwarming lol she's such a little dweeb

who knew these stupid things would become such an integral part of the story lol

also, i'm glad we didnt get the secret message inside cool-san thing everyone kept theorizing about after the break up. that just wouldnt have made any sense with what miorine was trying to do lol

gosh its so nice to be rewatching this and just KNOW somewhere within those 2 months suletta and miorine's relationship just became normalized to the earth house kids and we just see it over and over in this episode

like when has nika referred to suletta as hanamuko-san lol and she does so immediately after our tanuki is gushing about giving miorine the ugly ass keychain lol

oh yeah, shes thinking of her tanuki

in retrospect this was kind of insanely naive of miorine, wasnt it? shes lucky feng jun and guston weren't onboard with what the rest of the SAL was cooking up

lol at this "stick to your duels". my dude you literally fund proxy wars on earth. you have no moral ground to stand on

lol this episode really is so good at setting up for episode 11. just look at her happy little faces each and every single time she's felt useful

oh the fucking bracelet 😭

weird to think shaddiq's plan works out in the end and plot convenience keeps delling alive, but it pretty much ends up as his plan of trying to obtain majority shares

i hope they've just been teasing her for 2+ weeks miorine's been gone and possibly even before then

iconic tanuki shot

platonically, of course. as gal pals.

actually i think of note in this scene with elan and him planting doubt in suletta's brain is whether what he says is true or he's just making shit up as part of doubt sowing. but he's basically implying that miorine has been acting in such a way that everyone at school is talking about it and they can't believe how different she's being. and part of that is certainly true given what shaddiq's said numerous times over the last few episodes

lol this will always remain such an excellent take on the misunderstanding trope

oh yea and don't forget mom and dad

almost forgot there's a post-credits scene on this ep. i wonder what his original plan to break up the group was before the delling assassination plan fell in his lap

also imaging living in a world where BOBBU became a class traitor and actually learned from his experiences..... yea right lmfao

ok definitely not finishing the 1st cour because it's taken me forever to watch this one episode. gonna see how many episode i knock out over the weekend

#g witch #rewatch time #g witch episode 10

[bishiglomper]

I need to rant

But omfg. The niece. The niece is going to finally drive us off the deep end.

She wants to keep the baby if it belongs to current, 3 week old boyfriend.

He's got priors, went to jail for something drug related I think. And he's on the registry. Which we dont even get to know the situation because niece refuses to ask.

Now so far as a person, I dont have any bad feelings about him. He's nice and polite, he can function, he can read, unlike her fiance.. He says he can cook. Has expressed sentiments like getting niece new shoes because hers are falling apart. No sign of anger issues yet like the last 2. I think she said hes got like 2 kids out there

And i dont know what color flag this is, but he once told the niece he chopped off his beloved hair to see her reaction. He wanted her to blow up but she was just like "its your body." Then she reiterated that she expected the same respect. Like if she got a piercing he may disagree with. Shes still gonna do it.

Who knows where pregnancy stands on that line.

Oh and by the way, she still hasnt even said "i love you" back yet. But she'll have his child??

But this bitch is in no fucking means ready for a child.

She's a good caretaker, I would trust her to babysit for a few hours just fine but thats it.

For one, she neglected her rats to death.

She told me with no shame that she absolutely doesnt touch a litterbox, and that she starved her cat.

The woman doesnt even take care of herself. She barely eats and she keeps losing weight. Shes like 5"2 and in childrens jeans. And even though she kept passing out and was told ahe has super low B12, she refused too take suppliments. Even if i handed them directly to her.

If that keeps up shes just going to end up having a miscarriage or a premie with medical problems.

And i dont know what smoking weed during pregnancy does. But its worth looking into.

She does have her own apartment, but does she stay there? No. Only when she has someone over to do things together.

My sister and her son already sleep on the floor in the living room. Niece sleeps on the chaise

You think we have room to help raise a baby, even if we wanted to? Hell to the fuckin no.

Speaking if which. I can already see the dynamic that will be

She'll want us to watch the baby while she continues to work at applebees, where she'll be stuck forever now instead of getting back to college eventually. But she'll have strong weird opinions on how shes going to raise her child.

i just know shes going to be like her bff and teach her toddler to say "mommys a bitch!"

Because i was thinking if there were a smaller child around we could probably get nephew to cut it out. But nah, she would encourage it because its funny.

By the way, we're hiding this from the nephew. It was almost ww3. Sissy doesnt want him to know. And niece is offended because its her brother, he can understsnd the concept of abortion and ahw doesnt like to keep things from him.

Also not telling the aunt. Niece doesn't give a fuck and may do so out of spite

We still havent recovered that relationship enough to have dinner together. And aunt said something like "since (mom) isn't saving your souls, I'm going to have to do it"

So if she finds out, its just going to get really, really annoying. And drive more wedge between us all.

Niece asked her mom if she was gonna be mad at her if she kept it. Sissy told me she was mad either way. There will be no winning.

My mother and sister are being way super gentle and calm about it all to her. She does not deserve it. She needs to sit there like an adult and listen to our concerns before she makes a decision just because it's current boyfriend's DNA in there. She never wanted her own children. And if she wants to suddenly play adult, she needs to make some adult fucking decisions.

#rant #teenage pregnancy #family drama

[txemrn]

Hii Em 💖

I wanted to ask you for some advice for one of my stories - it’s the story where Luna gives birth to her twins. But it’s the first time ever that I write a birth story though I won’t reveal any gross/weird details 😅

But since it’s twins, do you have any tips regarding timing the contractions? I’ve went online but…umm…let’s just say I’d rather ask my friends on tumblr 😅 I don’t know I fell more comfortable to ask you 🥰

I just don’t know how to put that into the story. Do I let Meilani Luna’s ob/gyn say okay this one lasted 30 seconds of something like that? 😅 Hope it’s okay I’m asking, and it’s not a too touchy or sensitive question for you 🙈

Thanks so much in advance Em 🥰💖

Eep! Is it time for our sweet babies to arrive?! I'M SO EXCITED! And I am so honored that you'd ask me about this! I'm kind of a nerd about this stuff... 😉

But before I dive in, remember this is fanfiction! I totally understand wanting to get things right (and I think it's our responsibility to do at least some research on things before we write about them--which you are doing), plus not to mention... the actual process... IT'S SO FRIGGIN COOL! 😍 But you're also not writing a textbook, so even if it's not medically perfect, NO DOUBT it's going to be a beautiful story. So, I don't want you to worry yourself too much about what's actually correct. 😘 BUT I am here to help where I can!

*This info is for fanfic purposes ONLY and should not be used for medical help; if you are ever concerned about your health and/or pregnancy, please contact your doctor

We measure contractions from the start of one contraction to the start of the next contraction (there are a lot of contraction apps that can help with this, and it's a great distraction for nervous dads/moms/partners). Generally speaking, labor contractions (painful, rhythmic tightening of the muscles in the uterus that cause the cervix to open) are 2-3 minutes apart (we tell our first-time moms to come to the hospital when their contractions are taking their breath away, lasting for a minute, 5 minutes apart for at least an hour [5-1-1]). As labor progresses, the contractions become shorter (relatively than at the beginning of labor), but are a lot more painful.

During the actual labor process, women are left on their own to... well, labor. lol As a nurse, I am there to ensure you and your baby are safe, so I will intervene when appropriate. Doctors are usually in and out as their schedule allows (and depending on the location, they're not even in-house). A lot of patients ask, "When is so-and-so coming?" and honestly, it's when you're baby is just about to crown (but we keep them up-to-date through phone calls and secure text messages. The doctor-nurse relationship in the ER and L&D is fairly tight; tons of trust).

Because a woman can feel the pain sensation SO MUCH better than anything we see on the monitor, there really isn't a need to tell a patient how long their contractions are (THEY KNOW lol, they don't want a reminder).

I think one of the most important things the healthcare team can do for each patient is to create a calm, positive atmosphere that empowers a laboring woman. Speaking can be so distracting, so I (personally) think the only times a voice should be used is to either give vital information, or to be used softly for encouragement, like, "Uh-huh," "That's it," "You are so strong," "Feel your body relax," "You're doing great, Mama."

Just in case you're wondering... a lot of doctors are on a time crunch: get that patient delivered. The prudent doctor, however, will allow a woman to labor. First babies usually take a while (the body has never done this before) and the cervix should be changing about 0.5 cm-1 cm/hr. A cervix should only be checked to assess labor progression (I recommend every 2-3 hours or if a woman complains of needing to push).

You probably already know this, but there are three main pain management options (pharmaceuticals) for labor (here in the US): an epidural (continuous infusion of medication in the epidural space in the back), patient-controlled nitrous oxide (laughing gas) and IV Pain medication. IV pain medication should be used sparingly because the only medication that will even touch labor pains are the same medications that can cross over and make for a sleepy baby (BUT they are safe in small quantities). Laughing gas is designed to help take the edge off the pain that burns out of the system very quickly, safe for mom and baby. Moms are able to stay mobile. Epidurals are designed to get women more comfortable, more in control with labor pains, but she is now committed to staying in bed.

Twins. Oh, twins. LOL Twins are an interesting breed (literally, it's "freak" thing that happens!). Contractions are the same. The only difference between laboring a single baby and multiple babies is where you deliver. As a mom goes complete ("10 cm"), it's important she is in a room that can quickly convert into an operating room (simple solution: transfer her to an OR to push). The reasoning for this is to prepare for Baby B. Just because Baby A comes out smooth-sailing does not mean Baby B will be easy peasy. Sometimes the baby can turn. Doctors are specially trained in various maneuvers to prevent this or even correct this, but in L&D, seconds = lives. Just to prepare, it's a good idea to have your anesthesia team and OR team ready for an emergency section. Also, a doctor will highly recommend an epidural for twins (the meds for a c-section can be used through the infusion line).

Whew... Did I answer anything you were dying to know? LOL Hopefully so. But seriously, if you need me to read over anything or if you have ANY specific questions, believe me, I'm not uncomfortable talking about this stuff. I would love to help sweet Luna (and Bryce) through the birth of their babies!

Just let me know! Happy writing! 💚

#you asked #bryce x luna #let's have some babies

[marriageadviceneeded]

My marriage is at a tipping point and I don’t know what to do. Here’s our full story.

“TL;DR - My wife and I have had ups and downs for years and a couple times she has threatened to leave. Even once admitting having feelings for someone she worked with briefly. We finally hit a breaking point this week where she’s saying really wants to be done and along with that came the admission that she is infatuated with a musician, whom we’ve seen perform a couple times and she’s barely met once. But so much so that she feels a connection and she might be in love. Like love at first sight with some random guitar player dude. We have 2 kids and I have no fucking idea what to do…because I love her more than life itself.”

Here’s goes the full story…and if any of you actually read all of this, thank you. I’m about to lay it all out. This is going to be very, very, very long.

My wife and I got married very young. I’m 35, she’s 33 and we’ve been married 13 years. This is because we both grew up in a fringe sect of Christianity that is strict and weird and almost cultish. Our parents and some family are still very involved in this church. We are not. We separated from it only a couple years into our marriage and we’re both so glad we did. But it’s never been easy. 

She’s always struggled with insecurities, even though she is gorgeous. Like unbiased, she is a very beautiful woman with a beautiful face and body and personality. She is much more confident now in her 30’s, but she has struggled with body dysmorphia among other things. She has a terrible guilt complex. Her parents were pretty overbearing and she’s a middle child and there’s just a lot of complex shit. In the midst of that is she’s never trusted me to be faithful to her. I’ve never cheated, never even flirted or taken interest in someone else. But at times she has been convinced otherwise and it has been a sore spot in our marriage. Probably because of her own insecurities and that being fueled by the revealing of many adults in her life who cheated. Like both her grandfathers, her mothers relationship with her oldest sisters father who cheated on my mother in law and left. And to top it off, her finding out my dad was cheating on my mom just months before we got married. Emotional issues.

Neither one of us finished college. I was doing trade work when we got married, she was in an stale office job. She hated it and went to part time work for a bakery just as I finally got a steady desk job in the (then recovering) Mortgage industry. But I’ve had a lot of ups and down in trying to build my career. We’ve never been financially stable, not even from the start. Money issues. 

A few years into our marriage, we couldn’t even afford our cheap apartment because she was working part time. We moved in with her aging grandmother with the idea that we could be there to help as caretakers and save money for a house. Instead, we got pregnant because my wife was restless. The pressures of our upbringing meant that we were both wired to think “get married young, have kids young” and if you’re not doing either of those things you’ve messed up somehow and you’re falling behind in life. She was obviously unhappy and not settled and looking back now I think she believed a baby would cement this idea of our happy life and our bonding and growing as a family. (Now I know she probably needed to separate or divorce so she could go be her own woman and fuck up and do whatever without the pressures of being a “good Christian wife”)

So we move out with no real plan or money because we need to make room for baby and we “can’t do that with her grandma around”. I had to start working evenings to even pull off the move. We have our first child and then all that implodes as she suffers from postpartum depression and I can’t make enough money to keep us afloat on my own and we end up back at grandmas. This time it’s just us because her grandma fell and was moved to a nursing home.

Another year and her grandma passes away and the family decides to sell the house. We’re still no better off so now we move in with her parents, in their basement. It was rough. Worst of all because my in laws bought a dog after my wife moved out but she is deathly allergic and has asthma. We had to deep clean the basement and run air purifiers 24/7 and she was on special medication that she hated. Oh and we had a 2 year old at the time and my wife still only worked part time at a grocery store.

One year of that was hell but we finally moved out because I was working 2 jobs again. Spent the next 2 years on our own in an apartment finally rebuilding our lives. We got pregnant again and everything was pretty good. Still a hard time with her postpartum depression but she actually got certified as a personal trainer during pregnancy and was taking on clients at a gym and really pursuing something she was passionate about while I kept grinding the 9-5 doing mortgages.

In the midst of all that chaos there were times where she’d blow up at me. Unhappy with our circumstances, unhappy with me. Wanting a more stable life and one filled with more romance and adventure. She blamed it on us getting married too young and rushing into things and how, in the end, even though we love each other and we have a strong friendship, we’re just “not meant to be”. Usually she would spring back from this after a couple days or a week and we’d soldier on. We show a lot of affection to each other. We’re both A+ parents who are very attentive and giving to our children. We laugh a lot and flirt and get along well. I always thought when she down like that it was just her getting in her own head or hormonal or whatever. I didn’t think she really “meant it” but rather she was unloading all her pent up frustration and expectations to just vent. And of course we’d argue and yell but it would come down to me fighting for her. Apologizing, trying harder, getting better at listening and helping and wooing her but also increasing my anxiety of feeling like I had to super husband and super dad all the time and any slip might mean I’m not good enough. And I’m terrified of losing her.

Aside, she has diagnosed anxiety and depression. Her grandmother and mother and her siblings all struggle with anxiety and depression. Her oldest sister deals with bipolar depression. My kids have noticeable anxiety. Whether learned or genetic, it’s very real and effects a lot of her life and day to day. She only a couple years ago started taking medication to help but she still refuses to go to therapy. With all we’ve been through and all the trauma of our upbringing and other things, I know she needs therapy and so do I, but she just won’t pursue it.

And of course, our financial struggles have always been a constant. We’re still getting there with our story.

She doesn’t stick with the personal training thing. Instead I continue to stick with mortgages and then get a part time gig leading music at a different church we were attending. A much less strict and more-so “normal” church. Yes, I’m a musician and so is my wife but those passions have been put aside for sometime because of the need to focus on young kids and provide for our family.

So 2 years on our own in an apartment leads to moving into a house. Still leasing but we’re really making progress now. 2 kids, new house in a great community. Work still has its ups and downs but even when one door closes another opens and I’m still carving out a career path in the mortgage industry. Then COVID hit. We’re all home. My oldest is doing virtual school. I’m working from home. My wife decides to go back to school for a couple semesters and I obviously stop leading music at the church. In fact by now we’ve washed our hands of “Christianity”. That was our last shot at making religion work for us.

That means back to one income. So I’m going grocery orders on the side and so is she while also doing school. It’s not great. Before COVID I was working a lot but I got to play music and be around people we liked and we had a community and I was making good money from both jobs combined.

Now it’s COVID time and we’re isolated and picking up a side hustle to make ends meet and we’re home all the time with 2 kids. 

I remember she snapped on me around Fathers Day 2020 and again around Christmas that year. I really thought we were done for then. Thankfully early 2021 she sought help and started a mild medication which has helped. And the world started opening up more and our oldest went back to school. Stuff was getting normal again and I thought we were pressing on and going to make this work.

Summer 2021 she decides to start a business, a bakery from home. It’s been tough but it’s been good. It doesn’t align with her personal training/fitness passion but she has always loved to bake and she’s good at it and enjoys it. We spent a lot of time and energy to get it off the ground and Spring 2022 launched into our local farmers market.

Summer 2021 I also switched career paths. A local friend who I had done some side work with, wanted me to join his remodeling business. Promised it would be a role that’s more so managing projects and working as the middle man between the contractors and the designers. I ended up just doing a lot of on site stuff from demo to painting to flooring, you name it. My wife supported to move and wanted me to take the offer because we liked these people and she knew I was growing tired of a desk job. I was going to make more money and have a company truck and she thought this was a turning point for us. Me in a new field and a new role and her building a bakery business from home.

Well, June 2022, I lost that job and since then my “friends” company has lost everyone on their team except a single designer. I saw the writing on the wall shortly after joining his company and realized he sold me on a lie. A lie in regards to what work I would be doing and how healthy the company was and that he could even run a business like this.

Frustratingly, I lost that job and that same month (after 3 years) we lost our home as our landlords did not offer us the option to renew our lease. 

2 years at the apartment, 3 years at the house…I thought we were getting somewhere…instead it all came crumbling down.

I tried going back to mortgages but last year every mortgage company was bleeding people. The opportunities were scarce and the competition for every opening was fierce. I applied and interviewed but got nowhere. Didn’t land another steady position until February 2023 at an insurance company making half of what I used to pre-COVID.

But I’m getting ahead of myself. July 2022 we move in with one of my wife’s sisters. Her sister has 2 kids and a busy life. It was awkward and temporary thankfully. We kept doing the farmers market and take on another market. Thinking, if nothing else, let’s keep her business afloat and try and build something.

By September we move in with her other sister who is married but no kids and has more space but we’re further away from our city and our friends and our customers than we ever thought reasonable. 

My oldest did a year of school here. We still live here. Me, my wife, 2 kids who will both be in school full time soon, my sister in law and her husband. We’ve been living like this for almost a year. Thankfully, this sister is my wife’s favorite and they’re best friends. Hell, she’s my best friend too. We’ve known each other for 20 years and all played in a band when together when we were young emo kids lol. Living here isn’t terrible because of the company, it’s terrible because we were supposed to be building our life onward and upward. Instead we’ve come crashing down. Somehow this past year has been harder than all the lows before and I’ve been more depressed than ever. So has she.

We have still found time to be intimate. To laugh and flirt and lean on each other and grow close and fight for us and our kids and try and rebuild our lives once again. Or so I thought until about a week ago. My wife hit me with it again, she’s not happy. She wants freedom. She’s not sure we were ever meant to be.

In April this year her and I went on a day date to a nearby big city. Good food, museum, exploring the city, a little shopping, and ending the night at a small jazz concert that was in a neighboring city on our way home. 

She loved it. I thought she loved the day we had together, and maybe she did. But the music really stirred her up. It’s a quarter that plays early 1900’s Parisian style jazz. They’re incredibly talented and just cool guys. Last week she wants to go see them again at another nearby city at a small club. I thought, yeah why not. We need another date night and their music was great.

That was last Wednesday. And after we left the club, we walked around town. She was quiet and cold. Odd considering that we usually still have a strong bond and we usually laugh together and enjoy each others company. Especially a night out with no kids and good music. I thought she’d be in a great mood but she was so heavy. Quiet the whole way home.

Fathers Day weekend wasn’t terrible but it wasn’t great. She was busy baking orders and again, had dropped a bomb on me that she doesn’t see us having a future. We saw her family and mine Sunday and we put on a good face, but it’s been bad these past 6-7 days.

Yesterday, Wednesday June 21st. She wants to go out alone. She wants to go back to the club but doesn’t want a date, she needs space.

She looked so fucking hot. Confident. Didn’t even wear a bra with her cute new top I paid for earlier that day when she wanted to do some shopping. Yes, that’s a big deal for my wife who for years (and sometimes still) struggles with insecurities. Her hair looked incredible and it was something new she’s never really done before. But she was going out alone. All dressed up for “just her”. She got a desert in the area and read a book she recently bought and made her way to be club around 8:45 pm. Band plays until 10.

I know this is true because she has a guilty complex like I said and she has a hard time being dishonest. She was keeping me updated on her whereabouts because she has anxiety and we like to check in with each other often.

But she left the club maybe 10:15 and for her text I knew something was up. I met her in the car outside when she got home because she asked me to come out and talk. There she admitted that ever since April when we first saw this band, she had become infatuated with the guitar player. She follows his Instagram and his stories and believes she has a real connection with him. She feels she owes it to herself to pursue this connection even if her turns her down. She might be “in love” she said and hasn’t felt this way about anyone since she first fell for me. I think this is fucking nuts but I played it soooo cool. I was patient and calm and let her express herself and tell me her feelings.

She got all dressed up and super hot for this random dude she doesn’t even know. She swears they haven’t messaged or communicated. She wasn’t physical with him at the club. She just introduced herself and even mentioned me, her husband, because he talked to us last week when we were there and he remembered us. He was giving out cards after their performance and she took one. She also gave him her email. 

You would have thought she slept with the whole band that night. Her guilt over this was tearing her apart. Just going to see him and giving out her email was basically her giving this guy the keys to her heart. Never have I seen her like this. I don’t understand it. Weirdly, he kind of looks like me. Not even better looking or in better shape. We could be related it’s so weird. But listening to her last night, it’s like he’s her new soulmate. 

She doesn’t know what to do. Our kids are young and fragile. It seems clear she doesn’t want to be with me. She wants to pursue this guy, but she still wants to be a mom too so she’s not just up and leaving.

Meanwhile we’re living with her sister and barely keeping our heads above water while I try and build a new career and she tries to grow a small business. 

It feels like nothing is working and I don’t know how we move forward or recover from this. I want her more than anything in the entire world. I’m infatuated with her. I think she’s gorgeous and sexy and smart and funny. I think she’s a great mom and a wonderful, caring, talented person. She has baggage, so do I, but I love her endlessly and am hopelessly committed to her. She thinks I’ll find someone who will love me better, but I don’t want that.

What am I missing? What do I do? She swears she’s not testing me. She’s not trying to get me to fight for her or change something. She honestly feels this way and I don’t get it. I’m lost and I’m sad and I’m angry and I’m losing my best friend and the love of my life. 

Thanks for reading this, it’s our life story and it’s a lot. Sorry for dumping it all but I never share with anyone and I wanted to get out as much as I could and provide as much context as possible because I need help. I need wisdom, encouragement, advice, honesty. I need something cause everything is going dark.

[noro-noro-noro]

dreamed again

first bit was like I was playing w a stranger on a modded Minecraft server. no idea how any of it worked but there were weird caches that had skeleton eggs (?) like not skeleton spawn eggs but red eggs that had cursed purple skeletons in there on them. the person I was with also had several buttons labelled "oh fuck" in the overworld that wluld teleport you back to base. they were very blunt & businesslike. to the point. idk why I was there but I think I was like forced to live in there or whatever so that was also the world. most of the time I was inside trying to tend creatures.

actually this came before - I was bringing home a bag of small crabs & horseshoe crabs & also giant triops & other made up dream crustaceans. & an alien-like sea urchin made f 6 or 8 jointed segments that would extend its segments through anything slowly but surely to gain more nutrients. I got a HUGE tank and put it in my mom's living room & tried to amke them.comfy - I wasn't planning on keeping wild animals, but I needed to have them, so they light as well be in a better environment than a bucket of water. there were also several mid size dead and decaying animals I threw in for them to eat.there was also several isopods . one in particular was like a rubber duck one exceot with a white body instead and he was super interested and active. my sister wasn't scared of him

eventually the first tank was too full of water(we had no lids) and I realized the creatures might jump out so I asked my sister to help me drain water & she broke the whole thing. I tried to save everything but some of the tiny fish died while I was gettjng two new tanks setup. I threw them in for the crustaceans to eat, and eventually the second tank was devoured and eaten through by the special sea urchin that ate glass. and this happened BEFORE the Minecraft dream bc it then shifted into me taking care of mieceaft fish in our base.

scene shift & that person became wrio genshin. his story quest was now released....! and it was about helping those two researchers that hate each other but everyone thinks they're in a relationship bc they disappear to the infirmary at the same time all the time. this was a 3rd person dream where I was basically just watching the traveller as she assisted wriothy with helping the researchers as thry bickered the whole time. there was a scene where she went too far out of her way for them and got hurt and wrio came to visit her as soon as possible in the infirmiary and like grabbed her chin and leaned over very closely tp have the conversation. it seemed like she was about to be kissed & was like um !!!? 😳😳😳😳 and then the researchers peeked in and immediately started gossippibg like "and everybody says WE are in a relationship even though we hate each other and these people are RIGHT THERE doing this kind of stuff with the duke ‼️" & wrio kinda smilled & sighed & walked away to reprimand them like"do you really think spreading rumors about the Duke of the fortress of meropide, your employer, is a good idea?" & they eere like "no your grace sorry your grace see you later" & scurried off, & thr story quest ended with a cgg of rhe traveller doing that anime girl thing where thry look off to the side beet red and touch their lips where they were almost kissed, & wrio in the bg. I was like wow.they really went shippy with this one this never happens. even with ayaka and Xiao.

hm after that I had a dream I was with my sister at ?a beach resort or smth. there was a GIANT wall of makeup products including a bunch of really weird colors of eyeliner. I tested out a bright silver from a silver/orange/gold palette & actually genuinely really liked it,so I wanted to buy it without the rest of the pallette. apparently the owner of the brand was in the same town, so I told my sister I'd be back and walked over. the makeup store was also part hair salon - a girl was getting her hair died to have like a dark blue tint with kther rgb streaks in it & each streak that overlapped had like a sparkle illuminating that part, but the sparkle was dyed in..anywsy the whole place was run by a large and very friendly trans lady. I asked her directly aboit the eyeshadow I saw and also asked for a haircut since my split ends were acting up.in the dream I was also on my period & the lady said sympathetically "oh if you're on your perjod your splot ends get worse but we ca fix that!" & I was like okay.... and sat on the hairsresser chair, which was more of like a lounge chair than a normal one.

I don't remember if she actually did anything about the hair bc a lot of people I knew suddenly came inside. kt wasnow dark and raining outside. one of my studio classmates revealed that she'd lived in this shop before bc the owner kindly let her use the room upstairs for free after her landlord screwed her over. also the assistant from work showed up but younger? and I forgot her name and said it was ALMOND. so embarrassing. anyway I was just sitting in the chair for a while and texting y sister updates. when I asked again about the silver eyeliner, she revealed that they were leftovers shipped in from somewhere else & arrived here unlabeled, but she'd try to find the one I wanted for me.

eventually I went to walk home but the weather was so bad.... I was treated to another 3rdperson scene of lumine genshin impact waking up in a cozy bed in a strange room with leafy branches putsife the window and a warm sun shining through. wrio's Castle...? (even though he's only I charge of the underwater giant prison) then I woke up . I need to wash my hair but kts getting stixky again and I don't want to.

#dreams

[vsa-pieldepapel]

(Chara&frisk anon) my personal favorite is both the narrator!chara theory and the theory that they share a body, largely because Shenanigans.

But anyways just…the idea of, here we are in your body. I’m wiggling my fingers. Your fingers. But they’re ours now, huh? This isn’t my body and when I look in the mirror, it’s you! But I’m here. It’s not me, but it’s us.

And the idea of two lonely kids never having to be lonely again, frisk in charge of dodging and Chara in charge of striking, sometimes reaching a point that they are One, but often being very solidly two.

Maybe Steven universe and fusion fucked me up lol

There’s also the angst potential of Chara being there but nobody actually knows it! They reach the surface with all their friends and here is Frisk calling Toriel “Mom”. Meanwhile Asgore and Toriel are constantly reminded of Chara in Frisk’s mannerisms, and feel guilty for it. Sans knowing something is weird but not quite understanding how. God, so much potential.

Took forever to get to this one but bluh blah im here now

I also think they share a body. It’s what makes it all so complicated and any potential actual relationship impossible. Frisk feels chara as a ghost of sorts and can see them floating around and making funny comments but if they’re objective about it, chara is inside/in the soul, and they’re in the same body, even though frisk can perceive chara separately. Kinda like an imaginary friend but well, frisk didn’t make chara up

Kek I was a Steven universe fan too and the fusion parallel is actually a decent analogy. Interesting you see them as eventually “merging” time to time because their thoughts are so in line with each other since I imagine they can read each other perfectly, as one’s thoughts resounds in the other. I can see them having mental conversations all the time, as an inner monologue of sorts. Frisk learns to disguise their reactions to it pretty well with time— and I do think they settle on frisk not outing chara’s presence because it would give toriel so much distress for example, and so it remains a little unspoken secret that frisk feels very clever for keeping

Once, eons ago I had this idea of an older frisk making arrangements for alphys to somehow separate the chara aspect of the soul and place it in an artificial SOUL put into a container robot body, a la Mettaton. So basically charabot. It was nothing serious and actually rather fun

#non art #vsa answers #Ty for the food for thought charisk anon #undertale #charisk

[aj-ds529]

Dress - WLW

Secret Relationship, Confession, WLW Couple

The school's gym was crowded, yet I still feel alone. I’m surrounded by my friends, they’re laughter attempts to fill my ears, but it doesn’t go through. I look around trying to clear my head, but instead, I see her and her eyes lock with mine. All the air in my body leaves me. It’s a typical reaction, her beauty has always left me breathless, and her personality fueled the dwindling fire to become a better person.

No one knows about us. Our moments are our own. I’m out, she’s not. The perfect girl with the perfect grades. I always understood why she was scared. It was just plain obvious to me. But the way she smiles makes it all worth it. It makes me feel like she's right by my side, hand in mine.

After looking away, I fix my hair for the umpteenth time today, trying to hide the mark that's yet to go away. If my friends see, they’ll get suspicious and interrogate me. The worse part is I might just crack.

We have a few classes together, that’s how we got close. It started with English class, then math, next our language. Those were the three times I saw her and it wouldn’t be weird. The first time she was over was for a project but it never got done that day. We clicked and our lives changed forever. But now, the silence in the room, the anticipation of what’s to come, makes my hands shake. I wish the clock would go faster.

I finally zone out and time goes by just a little bit faster. I don’t take notes, I just get them from her later. It’s like a trade-off, she does the notes, I do the work. I don’t notice the bell, maybe I fell asleep again. I just hear my name and the world falls into a blur except for her. It brings me back to the time I confessed.

“ Listen, I know you probably don’t feel the same way but I can’t just be your best friend anymore. I want to be something more.”

In random places are the names of the people most special to me. My friends' names on the closet door, my siblings' names on the door frame. The day she said “I love you” back, was the day I carved her name into my bedpost.

It was almost impossible to keep her from my parents. My mom is always snooping around and my dad is the most observant person you’ll ever meet. They make a great pair when looking into their children's lives. They lived in France for a while and brought back some traditions. We’re allowed to drink small amounts of wine at dinner, our meals can be hours upon hours long. My parents trusted me too. She was always allowed to stay over when being home was too much.

One night we had too much. We’re wasted. We ended up in the bathtub, spilling the bottle of red all over us. She kisses my face like it’s the last time she’ll ever get to. It’s cute. I worry that this is temporary. But if I get burned, if I get hurt, at least it was electrifying.

Prom was the first time we were out as a couple. She was finally ready. She was stunning. She called my name from the top of the stairs and my heart stopped. She was breathtaking. I remember the time we first met. Her short hair, my hair bleached. We proved to each other that even in the worst times, we saw the best in each other. I think about the relationships I went through, the mistakes, the lies I told to hide myself. She saw the truth in me. Thank god I woke up in time.

“ My one and only, my lifeline. I woke up just in time. Now, I wake up by your side…”

My hands are shaking now. I can’t explain it. She says my name and time stops.

“ I don’t want you like a best friend.” We confessed.

“ Only bought this dress so you could take it off.” The prom was magical.

I wake up every morning, there’s an indentation in the shape of you. Our wedding band sits on my finger. It hasn’t left it spot in years. You walk in and you’re wearing a gorgeous dress.

“ I only bought this dress so you could take it off.”

#my writing #queer #lgbtqia #lesbian #taylor swift #wlw love #love #gay couple #gay panic #secret #secret relationship #hopelessly in love #hopless romantic #confession #Spotify

[redbone135]

So, this year I’ve been volunteering as crowd control during Bible Club at church Friday nights (for kids K to 6th)… and let me tell you, Red. I don’t know HOW you dealt with kids for 8 HOURS a day, 5 DAYS a week for years of your life. I mean I always respected you from the get-go but now?? After having to spend two hours with rowdy sometimes very naughty and rude little kids, I have a new found bigger respect for you being a teacher. Kudos to all of you. But especially you. You literally and seriously deserve an MVP award for what you had to put up with.

And also… Kids made me nervous before but… helping with Bible Club kinda makes me not like other people’s kids very much. Does that make me a terrible person for admitting this?🙈

And one more thing: do you have any tips for when they get rather disrespectful and start trying to shove the adults (meaning me) off the stage?

Aw, thanks! Crowd control is one of the hardest parts of teaching. At least, for me it was. It helps that I've always had a way with kids, even since I was one: my mom would get calls from school that were like, "your kid is giving lectures to the other kids at recess about some book he read... no we're not mad, we just wanted to request that he bring a different book tomorrow?" If being around kids isn't your comfort zone, they sense it like sharks smell blood and try to test their boundaries, not really to be rude but because kids are curious and they like finding where those boundaries are. Boundary testing is part of how they learn about our world.

And no, lots of people don't like kids, that's super normal. Kids are wildly unpredictable, not very rational, and incredibly self-centered - those aren't insults, it's just where their brains are in the development stage. The weird part is you thinking that it's "other people's" kids that are like that and not just kids in general. Your kids will be like that too, Abby, that's just how kids are. :)

Um, tips: consistency is key. Never make a promise or threat you can't keep, because you lose authority quick when you do that. Also, routine, kids need it. If they have a set routine with enforced expectations it leaves less time for getting in trouble or being off task.

It's hard to give specifics cause so much of authority and discipline is relationship and routine based, so it really does depend on how you feel about the kid and how they feel about you and what expectations are already set out for them. If it were me, we'd start with a talk about it not being okay to touch other people's bodies without permission - shoving is an extension of that. Walk the kid through some basic empathy - it doesn't come naturally at that age - about how they wouldn't like to be touched without permission and so they should treat the adults the same way. (Kids don't see adults as people like themselves, we are a very different category in their brain and so it sometimes needs explaining that we have the same emotions as them). Then, if that doesn't work, in my classroom, that kid would have lost stage privileges. Until I can trust them up high, they have to participate from the foot of the stage where no one is in danger of being shoved off.

But if you're just helping out, your best bet might be to go to the adult in charge and ask how they want you to handle it. Most of the time it's their classroom/space and they'd rather handle it in a way that is consistent with the rules and consequences they already have in place.

[menalez]

Omg, your mom tried to set you up?!!!!! With butch women no less?!!! Im so jealous idk if that would happene with mine 😭 recently she was ljke "oooo😉" at me about my sisters bf having a brother my age. I actually wanted to just go crazy insane bjork gif in that moment. ☹️ how dare you have men liking headcanons (?) about me. Idk whwtt would happen if she found out i was a lesbian. Like she also told me about how excited she was for me to have babies. When i was 13. :|

Also i live in gender capitol like we get taught gender identity spectrum in school and all. So thats why im not sure about there being butch women (or girls i guess bc .. im still a girl hezjnsjs) where i am and i keep feeling bad about having radfem? beliefs like is everyone going to hate me or is that just how it seems online xhxjd or. I dont know if that makes sense

I wish i could just fit in and go along w it but it feels so wrong to me, ... nopee even if i think youre cute im not going to affirm that youre not actually a woman bc your hair is short and you dont wear makeup or dresses it feels so demeaning for both of us. But then am i just making a big deal of nothing ?

Anywaays. Sending love bc peace and love on planett earth. :)

lmao since ive been out for quite some time now, my mom has gone thru the stages of grief and she reached a point where she’s accepted im a lesbian (she would try to convince me to get into a lavender marriage regardless for the sake of image but im not willing neither is my friend she keeps trying to set me up in a lavender marriage with) but she and my auntie have weird kinda homophobic beliefs on who im supposed to date. according to my mom & aunt, there has to be one “girl gay” and one “boy gay” ie one femme & one butch. they think if im gonna be dating women then they should be butch or otherwise masculine women bc it “balances” both parties of the relationship. they say im more feminine & shy & cute around butches and become more “womanly” so therefore i should be with butches 😭😭😭

SO basically yes my mom would meet butch lesbians in bahrain (they’re v recognisable in my country & have their own label too) and would immediately tell them about me and then exchange details w them. ive met 2 lesbians that way but ngl neither are my type and both have some major internalised homophobia to address. one of them was already in a relationship w a bi woman who’s going to leave her to marry a man (& just waiting until the day they must break up which was sad) and immediately started showing me her nudes (arab butches are the weirdest don’t even ask). the other one told me a fucked up story about how her bi ex left her to marry a man without telling her & when she got mad, her bi ex said “you’re just mad bc no man would want you with how you look”. a normal lesbian might’ve simply said “i don’t want men so idc” but the butch i met took it personally and married a man to prove a point. she got lucky bc he died within a few months of their marriage! he was trying to pressure her into sex and even complained to her family about it so if he didn’t die, who knows what trauma she would’ve faced…. also she told me she takes testosterone & steroids bc she’s a body builder and she has this kind of body smell that men often have (probs bc of the hormones) which were all big turn offs for me so. neither worked out.

my mom also still pressures me to have kids and has been since i was a baby 😭 but luckily she’s been overall supportive of me being a lesbian… hopefully your mom will be the same one day. heteronormativity is so annoying lol i hate how every gay person had to deal with our loved ones fantasising about us dating the opposite sex bc they assume we’d be OSA by default.

also no ur not making a big deal of nothing! it’s a big turn off for me having to pretend that a woman not being feminine means she’s not a woman. and it’s annoying having to pretend someone is my boyfriend or w/e else. i think it only becomes more of a turn off the longer you’re out too bc like damn too many of us already pretended to have boyfriends or to be interested in that stuff so being expected to do that to any capacity is just. bad feelings

#mwah anon ur still so young. you have time and don’t worry too much ur mom may be accepting too in the end!!