#and i need better hair products :

[iwritenarrativesandstuff]

I think we are in need of more appreciation for Akutagawa's fluffy hair from the manga that is tragically not that fluffy in the anime...

Floof! (+ bonus sskk because I can. also his hair is extra fluffy here)

#actually i think his hair gets progressively fluffier in the manga #the natural development of the artist's style i suppose #or maybe his character development resulted in him using better hair products??? lol idk #he saw atsushi's fluffy tiger form and needed to beat him in fluffiness too #atsushi has no idea this contest is ongoing #sorry i'm really tired still #this may also have just been an excuse to post pictures of akutagawa #bsd #bsd akutagawa #shin soukoku #sskk #storyrambles

[flustersluts]

if anyone has any tips for growing out long curly hair (3bish) without it looking shit pls let me know

#my hair has alwats been rlly short bc amab things and i always felt like growing it any longer made it RLLY frizzy #last few years ive gotten a better routine of afro combing it in the shower and finding some products that work but it still feels like it #just grows Out and Up instead of ever going down #i think partially this is bc of not waiitng enough time? #idk tho my hair grows RLLY fast and rn I'm up to abt 6 months from buzzcutting it #as in 6 months of growth #but post shower it still looks VERY short and if i mess with it it just becomes frizzy #like there's no world in which my hair looks Both long and tight curls i guess is the problem? #but idk if i need to grow it out more #i probably should right? for st least a year? #i just dk bc nobody i know has my kind of hair:((( #flustersluts

[soldier-poet-king]

Ughhhhh

Like tried to open the "hey I'm thinking abt moving out" discussion and it just. Hm

- why leave when you can save so much money living here

- implications of them being hurt because I'm leaving more because this house is slowly killing me and less because of my horrific 2.5hr daily commute

- I need to live in a community again. I can't do suburbs anymore. Even urban loneliness is better than this. At least there are people about. I can go pop into little shops. Join a club. Deadass wandering around a mall would feel less isolating than this. ANYTHING

- unspoken but present "no one in our family has moved out until they got married", ESP for the women on my mother's side, and even then they moved literally down the street and formed a weird codependent dysfunctionional situation that I can't seem to extricate myself from

- it's expensive but I am going to kill someone and then myself if I have to stay here longer. I haven't had a life since 2020. And yeah partially that's covid and even more so it's Living Here and slowly dying a bit everyday after having been free and on my own for 8 yrs

- I spent those 8 yrs putting myself back together slowly and figuring out who I wanted and needed to be and within a year of being back I came the closest to forced involuntary psychiatric hold that I've ever been and I don't think that's a coincidence. The move is not entirely to blame. But it's hard to help myself in an environment like this one. I'm going to need a whole lifetime to piece myself back together and I still don't think it'll ever sit right or be whole again

- but if I leave who'll look out for bro 3. The baby. The sensitive one. The one most similar in temperament to me. Or it'll hurt my parents feelings and what little progress they've made will backslide and everything will get worse again and maybe my dad will *** and it'll just be. My fault.

-bro 2 fucked off across the country without guilt and I wish I could just not care but unfortunately I was raised to be the therapist and carer and my whole purpose of being is to sacrifice myself for other people's comfort so what else am I supposed to do. I have to make up for myself somehow

- my parents bought a starter home with shitty jobs when they were younger than me. I'm maybe NEVER going to be able to afford property, but if I don't start "wasting" money every month on rent I'm not going to live long enough for that to BE a problem. Let alone things like investing and retirement savings. But what if I lose my job or smthn goes drastically wrong and I end up back here with my tail between my legs anyways. Idk if I could survive that again

I am so goddam tired of every decision I make being the wrong one for my family. Of none of my (significant!) accomplishments mattering because they're not the traditional milestones. No I've never had a relationship, I've never even been in a date or been kissed. I'm a weird unattractive person and that's fine because I'm particular and peculiar about relationships anyway. Even if I hate that and I'm defined by hunger and grief. No I'm not engaged or married with kids. I'm tired of me appearing years behind my peers socially because I had to spend so long recovering from wanting to die all the time that I don't feel my age or maturity level even tho I AM comptent at my job and also just good and social lying to appear friendly and normal. I'm tired of being nanny and therapist and mom and all of these horrible gendered responsibilities that I never wanted and can't escape and have shaped me and ruined me and idk what I am without them and I can't even feel resentful without guilt because isn't that what I'm FOR. What else am I for than that. That's my purpose and my Duty and Obligation and I'm weak and selfish for chafing against it. I'm not allowed to love parts of my family and culture and then hate and resent all the ones that have hurt and trapped me and will continue to do so until either I, or all of them, are dead.

All I did was hurt and/or upset both my parents which makes everything worse for everyone in this hell house and maybe that's not my fault or responsibility but it sure feels like it is, and I can't escape it regardless.

I'm so goddam tired

#franposting #just whining its. #yeah #suicide mention cw #IM FINE DW IM TAGGING TO BE SAFE FOR OTHERS #im deeply miserable but im fine. i even ate dinner AND fruit #AND made lunch for tmrw #im just. gonna go watch arcane. or read naruto. both of which will hurt me #but maybe it needs to be external rn #work tmrw. and soo many meetings bc my boss is back and i have to like. showcase that i was ok left alone for 2 weeks #and was actually productive #why am i here. whats the purpose. the reason. the goal of it all. what am i supposed to be doing #beyond simple hollow pleasures to keep me going #so i can drag myself out of bed everyday out of a sense of duty #and that i have to keep going bc maybe itll make the world even the slightest bit better than i found it #and im now allowed any easy outs #i. am once again. going to do a hair mask. literally the only emotional cure all i know other than booze. which is. bad. obvs

[theflyingfeeling]

...💇‍♀️

#so i went to the hairdresser's in september to get a trim after over a year of having NOTHING done to my hair #it was in suuuuuuuuch a poor condition but i loved how long it had gotten so i suffered through the summer #i just wasn't ready to say goodbye to my mermaid hair 🥺 #(i should've got it done in the spring but didn't because. well. life i guess lol i wasn't feeling very well maybe) #and so when i finally went to get it done i asked the hairdresser to cut only what was necessary #fair enough i went home only to notice absolutely NOTHING had happened 🙃 #i thought i could live with it until maybe later in the winter but i was getting so frustrated with how lifeless and tangled my hair was 😭 #so i booked a new appointment at a different hairdresser (a new one has just opened near me) #and aaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhh my hair looks and feels SO much more healthier now!! 😭 nearly teared up at the hairdresser's feeling my new hair 😂 #but at the same time i'm a bit 🥲 because it's quite a bit shorter now 🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲 #it's not short per se but aaaahhhh I'm having a minor identity crisis lol (no i'm not i'm just being dramatic 💅) #but it's definitely better this way. i love my hair and i'm never ever letting it get in such a terrible condition ever again 🤧 #also i'm not going back to that other place again because it wasn't the first time the same person had done barely anything to my hair 🤨 #i mean. i guess they just did what i had asked but... #with all the other hairdressers there's never been any problem when i told them to ''only take what's needed'' #i guess she was just too cautious to take TOO much of the length of my hair but gurl what's the point if you only take like 1 cm 😐 #with ''what's needed'' i obviously mean ''enough so i won't have to come back here next month'' :\ #anyway! i'm happy and keep sniffing my hair (and giving myself a headache in the process) because the products they used smell so nice 💖 #pointless ramblings hi yess i'm bored by theflyingfeeling

[tomatoluvr69]

Someone straight up stole my shampoo and conditioner from the YMCA locker room 😭😭😭

#I’m annoyed because I do NOT want to go to the storeeeeee and spend moneyyyyyyyyy #but mostly that’s just confounding behavior…it was so busy…how do you not fear the owner seeing you!? i would neverrrrr #like if you’re stealing the last dregs of some cheap grocery store hair products you probably need it more than I do but like damn. #isn’t there like a Walgreens or something near your house. #gehhrhrhdhdhososbrbekal #and it was NOT to turn it into the lost and found I went and checked 😢 #it’s better that than my phone headphones wallet and car keys slash car ig

[vulpinesaint]

engaging in the time-honored tradition of boyhood by having a fucked up and unconventional skincare routine that is not actually a skincare routine at all :)

#have to wash my face for realzies now that i'm on t. increased oil production and all that. #however i think i need to be washing it with just soap and water the cleaner gets too harsh dksfjghs #and moisturizer kinda does fuck all for me but you know what! putting straight up oil on my face puts my oil barrier back! #which i need! so. well. y'know hair oil isn't Supposed to go on my face theoretically but it's just oil + some fragrance. so. #me and the bestie (hair oil directly on my face to balance my skin back out after a shower) #my philosophy will always be the less i can do to my skin the better. and once i am on t a leeeeetle longer #i will get a more regular routine of washing face + back and my skin will balance itself out again i have faith. #just a matter of getting the spots on my forehead to clear up haha #should invest in some of those pimple patches not to heal them but to keep me from picking at it </3 #valentine notes

[comas-are-for-sleeping]

feel like a teenage girl in a drama series worried abt my frizzy (???) hair rn lmao

#look i just want my hair to be smooth and luscious #but why am i going to spend money on hair products #do i need better conditioner yeah #will i get new conditioner #or like a hair mask or whatever the fuck #no #anyway yeah my hair is either dry asf even though i haven't bleached it in a year #or greasy #so it's really fun #lion's mane ass hair #rambles #winter stfu

[orcelito]

I was so very good and finished my taxes and paid some things so I could reassure myself that I can put in my 2 weeks notice even tho I don't have a job lined up yet (I'm Working on it...)

I dont imagine it'll take me long to find Some kind of job, though it likely won't pay as much as I'm used to. But. So long as I have Something, I'll get by.

What matters most right now is getting out of this stupid fucking job bc it has been Killing Me.

#speculation nation #i dont say that lightly btw this job has been. ugh. #ill miss the mundane administrative duties. as strange as that is to say. #i like feeling productive and valued. #but it's been coming at the cost of my health and happiness #the stress would kill me by 30. and thats assuming my goddamned ankles didnt give out first. #continuing my work on the Unfuck My Life resolution. maybe after i get a new job i can try to get on adhd meds #and also Maybe do smth about my probable fibro. i would love to not be so fatigued all the time thank u #and then . going back to school. i logged into my school email for the first time in too long #i need to actually email my advisor soon. tell her whats been up. maybe that can be a goal for next week. #i also wanna get a haircut. short hair. chop it all off. new hair new job new me. #it's. it's a lot. it's really scary actually. but im working on it. im trying to get to a better place. #ive been suffocating for too long. i want so desperately for life to not feel like treading water at the threat of death. #so. we'll see. whatever happens im going to pull through.

[moonlightsmasquerade]

Trying to use cornstarch to make my dolls hair less gluey, seems to be working! Her hair strands would stick sometimes but now they're not, plus it just feels way nicer now.

#i know about goo gone i dont wanna use it #1 dont wanna buy 2 dont like the hassle of washing doll hair to get product out #ill see it it need more later but i think! its better now

[braywashed]

Hi kids, local licensed hair person here again with another FOR THE LOVE OF GOD DONT USE FUCKING HE@D AND $HOULDERS UNLESS YOU HAVE NO OTHER CHOICE BECAUSE IT IS A TERRIBLE FUCKING PRODUCT THAT DOES SO MUCH GODDAMN DAMAGE AND TRICKS YOU INTO CONTINUOUSLY USING IT AND I CAN SMELL AND FEEL IT ON YOUR HAIR FROM A MILE AWAY.

#every time i see someone in a store staring woefully at a bottle #i just want to grab it from them and throw it in the trash #it just clogs your scalp with bullshit which makes you itch more and think you have more dandruff #and GIVES you more bc its trapping oils in the CRAP #and then you go oh no a flare up better use my h&s #also dry scalp and dandruff are not the same thing and so many people unnecessarily #use medicated stuff they dont even need bc they dont know that #IF YOU HAVE A PRIMARY DOC YOU CAN SEE EASILY CHEAPLY ETC AND AFFORDABLE INSUR #ASK THEM FOR A MEDICATED SHAMPOO #it will work so much more efficiently and you wont need it so often just pair it #with a good conditioner kept off the roots bc your scalp makes its own #dont fucking use h&s unless you have no other option and if you do use it #clarify your hair the next wash and USE ANOTHER PRODUCT IN BETWEEN #OKAY TIRADE OVER THANKS #DVE FOR MEN IS ALSO A TRASH FIRE FYI

[starbuck]

one (1) day into my new haircare routine and it’s already SO much softer??????? i’m so excited!!!!! can’t imagine how soft it’s gonna get if this is how it is one day in! i’m hopeful that it’ll get a little wavy too, even tho it’s quite short since my hair is naturally a bit wavy when it’s longer.

#basically? i’m jealous of my friends whose hair is both short AND curly bc that is just a SUPER cute look!! #and my hair will never be like that… but i do hope the waves will come back #honestly anything but it sadly dryly sticking up in the consistency of straw will make me very happy!! #it’s even behaving the way i want it to!! #when was somebody gonna tell me that they make products that keep your hair in place without hardening it into a shell?????? #where has this BEEN all my life????????? #i also just ordered an additional hydrating thing that i’ve also seen recommended for occasional use #cuz my hair NEEDS IT #very much one of those situations where it’s been bad for so long that i wasn’t even recognizing the badness anymore #so now making it better is like WOW!!!!!!! #that’s actually something i have control over!!!!! who knew??????? #and it’s all super cheap stuff as well!! #minus the hydrading thing i just ordered but that’s just for every few weeks so i don’t mind paying a little more for smth that’ll last #so tldr: woohoo!! hair soft!!!!!! #will continue to update as i keep going with it!! :))

[byakuyasdarling]

Girl, every time I have my hair straightened I get perpetual agony over the fact that it probably looks better on me that way over the braids I have to do every time I go out because I will never wear my hair curly.

#causes me massive sensory issues to wear it curly — I also just cannot commit to making it look good — too expensive with too many products #if I braid it’d just hair ties and leave in conditioner. #I wish I felt comfortable with my curly hair and knew how to style it without so much effort. or frizz… #I have great hair until it’s curly. that’s it. #I also feel like it looks weird from the back rn when I braid because my roots are lighter then my natural hair colour and it might look .. #gross idek… #I might need to find a better hair style.

[imwritesometimes]

figuring out the leave in conditioner I've been using for forever has likely been drying out my curls all along has been disappointing but on the plus side since I've stopped using it my curls are looking amazing....

#I still need some kinda product or leave in to help with general frizz taming and definition #so back to the product drawing board. I have a few travel size samples en route now #but I'm so happy. I know not having to blow dry anymore since it's not 35 fckn degrees now helps too #I just wish I could find a leave in under $10 that didn't suck the moisture from my curls #and was cruelty free. obv. seems like all the pricey ones always work great for my hair but not budget ones 😕 #I'm rambling and I realize that I'm just really trying to think abt things that make me feel not awful #and my curls looking better makes me happy! took me a long time to embrace my natural hair! #erin explains it all

[horrorlesbians]

I so relate to the wanting to take kitchen scissors to my hair. I’ve definitely felt that and I’ve chopped off all my hair in the past. It’s just hair, you know? It’ll grow back, so have fun with it! I’ve also watched many YouTube tutorials on how to do fun and interesting hair styles. I was really bad at doing my hair at first, but now I can do all kinds of braids and twists and pin ups. Hair, makeup, clothes, jewelry- it’s all just art for your body. Decorate it in a way that makes you happy

i'm just mainly frustrated that my hair is at a weird length at the moment. it's long enough that my curls don't form natural ringlets anymore but it's short enough to get these weird curls where part of it is wavy and some of it is curly. hopefully the longer it grows more of my curls will fall out, i'm reluctant to cut it because it takes so fucking long to grow (and if i cut it myself my hair stylist may kill me)

#written in blood #styling isn't a problem back in michigan but i cannot straighten my hair in florida it doesn't hold #maybe i need to add more products but i hate overly hairspraying straightened hair #im trying to get better at braiding my hair but it's at a weird length where it looks odd

[hellotherepaul]

So I cut my hair short when I was 15 right

And it's gotten shaggy through various points but at some point I cut it short again

But right now I have the sides shaved for gender reasons (and bangs badly cut lmao) but the back is entirely untouched and I last shaved my head in September

And like y'all it's down to my shoulders

I can do things with my hair for the first time in almost a decade and it's so so nice oh my god like I'm getting WAY better at French braiding and I missed doing fun twists and buns

and it's green and on my terms and not trying to be what other people want it to look like that's a lot of why I cut it short in the first place that and obvious gender reasons

And now I just get the creative freedom to do what I want to my hair, except now I know how to take care of it way better

All of this to say I had to buy a real hair brush for the first time since middle school

#personal #idk i think its cool its down to my shoulders #between taking care of my hair better (and not overly straightening it) and T changing my hair texture im loving seeing my waves get more #there like its lovely and like yeah i know how to handle my weird ass hair type way better and I'm trying to learn more #so like yall if you know how to handle fine but thick hair with waves and a shit ton of buildup problems due to excema hmu #ive been using products without sulfates specifically for wavy hair and doing a lazy version of the curly girl method #using a t shirt to dry my hair #got some new products to try today and a brush and a wide toothed comb cha boi actually has hair now #and with my hair type that means oh god i need to be detangling frequently and braiding my hair before bed

[meandmyechoes]

wow that’a really good Forces of Destiny Anakin figure

alright might as well get the koto head for half the price and put together my own with better clothes  

you’re gonna look at this and tell me he has the PERFECT hair?? REALLY?? It doesn’t even have the same curve as the animated one???

prototype pic

#about to need a toys tag #sorry for going slightly insane #i knew the fabrics are gonna suck i knew the bodies are probably trash why did i fall for the first trick in the book #i mean this is really truly stupid of me I forgot it'd be a MIRACLE when the final product looks even half as good as the protoype #baby you have to remember a higher price tag does not imply better quality #*self-pity mode* alirght... just a couple more repainting projects... we can do that... #i HATE the hair being sculpted wrong but i think the face can be salvaged... #(jokes on me the hair curve was already wrong in the prototype but) #i dare not speak more for jinx