#and also fuck girlboss feminism

[tricoufamily]

my brain is melting and my eyes are glazed over i cannot finish this edit take the scraps

#i was like wow cool concept! now i think i'm dying. too much writing. too much inspect element. #ok anyway i disagree w republican nancy interpretations. you don't understand she is a girlboss feminism billionaire lib who fucking sucks #and she knows the girlboss feminism is corny but she's doing it for pr #she still wants a tax cut #aaand the villareal business is hotels and resorts i've been using marriott as a reference #so biggest hotel chain in the world and they own a million brands. jacques kinda fell of the face of the earth for a while though #jacques's net worth is like 25 billion because he's also a huge investor. should they live #(no) #ts4 #this is the fall: extras

[alteredsilicone]

Randomly looked up the Sun and Moon in Latvian mythology and that's how I learned the reason we sometimes see the Moon raise not-full is because he was an unfaithful husband and the Sun chopped him up with her sword.

#hashtag girlboss feminism #i love how the Sun is this delicate lady #who walks everywhere for some reason #but also she has a fucking SWORD #i want to read more #time to read dainas #latvianposting

[dkettchen]

like, I’m not saying don’t watch “Man for a Day” (2012) (on netflix right now), I’d argue it’s important (english rly doesn’t have good words to include gnc cis ppl w their relevant direction of the trans huh uuuuhh) queer and crossdressing afab history, which we don’t get a lot of representation for, I’m just saying be prepared for what you’re going to witness

#meme #homemade memes #misandry #feminism #matriarchy #cis feminists: men think they own everything #also cis feminists: I will not let this child see its father it's MINE ALONE NOW #oh yeah for the trans cw: pregnancy for the documentary despite it having nothing to do w what it's supposedly about #other than cis women needing to reinforce gender roles and their supposed monopoly on the ability to carry children smh #yes this is my current video essay brain rot from the video I'm working on that you'll hopefully get to see within the next month(???) #but also it's one of those things where you can't unsee it once you have seen it so I just have to fucking live like this now #in full awareness of women's potential for gaslight gatekeep girlboss misandrist shittiness

[glitterock]

fwiw did you know you are on the butch list of femmes to not interact with? hehehe 🙌

bruh im assuming this is about the terf allegation but tbh if someone is stupid enough to believe a rumor with literally no evidence and for something that is very much against what i actually stand for and that was written by someone who literally said they were looking for a reason to cancel me… i don’t want them to interact with me either !

#anon #like fuck off i love and appreciate trans women and actively try to advocate for them like if u actually interacted w me you’d know that #also I DONT EVENN KNOW ABOUT RADICAL FEMINISM LIKE NOTHING #i never talk about radical feminism ever ? #my theory is that ppl hate to see a girlboss winning

[mishkakagehishka]

i love watching ur eurovision lb bc i was so uninterested until you sent me those songs and now im like "oh? what does corks have to say about these songs i cannot hear? do they live up to her standards?"

They do NAWT i cannot describe this to you. It feels so generic american pop. No offence to american pop. But eurovision is about the spectacle, the DRAMA. This is what i hear in slightly overpriced clothing stores

#also there's like i love mentioning this every esc #feminism as a theme. some countries do it so shallowly #like those typical girlboss songs #and then there's one country who actually does it with some Depth and it makes it all the more💀 #to me Czechia seemed the proper girl power song to me this time #and similarly anti-war! switzerland with the ''i don't wanna be a soldier :('' #vs our beautiful ''FUCK THAT TINY ASSHOLE WHO'S BUYING TRACTORS AND SENDING THE YOUTH TO WAR'' #asks

[myloveismineallmine]

very hot very unpopular take but. past lives winning would be more impactful for feminism than barbie winning

#barbie is just. so white girlboss feminism #like it makes some okay points...... but it doesn't cover any new ground #it was also co written by a man 🧍 #while past lives was written/directed by a first time woc director #people thinking barbie is peak feminism is. so fucking weird man.

[perenlop]

starting to not really care for “girlbossification” all that much. yes your woman is a girlboss but is she allowed to be vulnerable and complex and messy and flawed the same way your male characters are? oh, no she’s just an “action girl” who says fuck and has a physical labor type job bc women dont have those? ah ok. oh and shes also like all serious around the male characters and rolls their eyes at their antics and has to stop them from getting into mischief. like a mom. ok.

#echoed voice #to a lesser extent bc its mostly a fandom thing from what i see- ''malewife'' just bc a man parents his kids #or cooks bc those are women things. men dont do those. feminism win #woody was telling me abt netflix cowboy bebop and i only saw one clip but this is what faye felt like to me #and like. no im sorry shes perfectly capable and is a good fighter yes but like #shes pathetic also. shes a wet dog of a woman who thinks shes the most epic girlboss. it ties to her backstory #where shes like coping and compensating for not knowing who she is or where she belongs #shes sleazy and a con artist and she literally eats dog food at one point to spite her dog #and shes also really good with a rocket and a gun and likes to beat people up and is good at that. just not good at thinking things through #shes like. an actual character who goes through an arc and struggles with things but has both pros and cons to her #you cannot just go ''oh shes an epic girlboss who says fuck and uses guns you guys girls dont do that usually isnt that epic''

[soleadita]

watching my boss wholeheartedly praise the harpercollins union while knowing full fucking well that my salary is lower than the salary the union is striking in the first place…like, girl, please. do you hear yourself? what isn’t clicking?

#like i’m glad she supports the union! #we all should!!! #but babygirl. the call is indeed coming from inside the house. #yeah she's not a multibillion $ corp yeah we're not in new york but. good fucking god. #actually. she probably thinks i'm lucky to have a salary at all? which. given this in-shambles industry. is sadly true. #anyway fuck capitalism. and also? fuck white lady girlboss feminism #leo’s void thoughts

[piplupod]

love that people are making music more and regular ass people can make music and release it but goddamn so much of it is just fucking devoid of feeling or incredibly underwhelming. like they try to make it sound big and BOOM in-your-face but it just comes across as empty and shallow and feels like an empty grey room.

this is specifically about one "influencer"s music btw lol if you think it's about you it's not I promise you lmfao

#chrissy whatever her name is. she's releasing a song and hyping it up so much but imo it just kind of fucking sucks #like hashtag girlpower girlboss feminism win or whatever sure but it just. doesnt sound good #the buildup is alright but then it just fucking falls flat and i just shake my head every time we hear it lmfao it sucks man #could've been good even! but theres just not the right climax to the chorus (unless thats a verse in which case it still sucks) #like it definitely is not our music taste but man idk. it just falls flat lmfao. disappointing to hear every single time #also i'm well aware music doesn't have to be like... good or clever or deep or whatever. its fine to just have fun songs yeah absolutely #but i feel like they have to still sound good??? this one just doesnt sound good i'm sorry lmfao it's just. disappointing and underwhelming #and i just KNOWWW everyone is going to be drooling and slobbering all over it because she's somewhat popular and an attractive person #also i'm aware that different taste and different preferences and different opinions yadda yadda yadda lmfao #but i can appreciate music from every fucking corner of every genre and understand what is good or not for each thing #and this just is mediocre at best. even for its girlboss epic feminism win style of music. #anyways i'm done here lmfao back to accounting assignments bye #nine speaks

[sodacowboy]

seeing everyone shit on damsel makes me want to scream lmao

#like am I the only fucking one that liked it??? #am I the only one who’s bothered to look at it in good faith??? #like jesus fucking christ #aren’t y’all tired??? #aren’t y’all tired of being negative about EVERYTHING #have y’all TRIED to analyze things from a more positive perspective??? #even if the messaging isn’t as deep as I’ve made it out to be #ITS STILL FUN!!!! #LIKE SHUT UP!!!!! #not everything needs to make sense!!!! #not everything has to be analyzed to hell and back!!! #you’re allowed to shut off your brain and have fun with things #and also I need people to stop acting like this film is uniquely ‘bad’ #as if all action movies don’t work the exact same way #but now that it’s a woman protagonist #with a girlboss feminism overlay #it’s all of a sudden bad #like yeah okay I see how it is #uggghhhhhh #I’m not doing a good job of preventing this movie from becoming my new obsession movie

[lesbiancocksucker]

absolutely iconic of polite society to say this woman has spent her entire life being defined by her role as a woman in a society that reduces them to just mothers and maids. her life has been wasted on other people's wishes and now she's going to make it everyone else problem

#listen the #'my life was a WASTE. i want a second chance' #really got to me #also like the context of her actually having finished her studies too which is a chance not a lot of women get #like she got the better end of the deal but it was still unsatisfying and wasteful #like OH MY GOD #listen polite society's feminism is the very 'omg girlboss' vibes of hollywood feminism I find #but when the india beats hit #they fucking hit

[dangerliesbeforeyou]

god i usually love female characters that are kinda bitchy but the one in this series im watching is GRATING on my fucking nerves jfc...

#it's the way she's been written as a blatant I'm Not Like Other Woman/ Girlboss White Feminism(tm) character #and it's soooo annoying ugh... #btw what im watching is the bbc series wolf cos sacha dhawan is in it and i love him #but there are a lot of v frustrating elements in the way the characters talk to the main cop character (who's a black man) #(there's even a scene where a white guy fucking lectures him on the fact that he shouldnt undermine his female colleague like... #buddy he is a black guy in the police u dont think he gets undermined every fucking day of his life lol?!?!?) #also his gf in the first ep literally lied about her cancer having come back in order to make him feel guilty #about the fact he's still not recovered from his brother disappearing years ago i mean...... excuse me what??? #theyve also given him this 'romance' plot with another woman (who's the main one im referring to in this post) and there's just... nothing #like literally making them fuck adds NO interest in the story esp when there is 0 chemistry between them lol #esp when she spends the whole time being like 'oh i dont care about being sincere or respectful because im a Police Woman' or some shit idk #anyway... i will continue watching it cos a) the mystery element is interesting & 2) sacha is amazing #but every time she's on screen im just immediately Annoyed lol... #personal

[dracoj]

crazy shit that happened in the first two episodes of yellowjackets that no one is talking about because chekhov’s corpse got ate:

tai t-boned a car because she was so so so mad that her wife suggested therapy after they spent two hours searching for their son (who she hallucinated)

lottie’s cult is burying people alive for therapy

lottie can also identify the ingredients in her latte by smell, and she threw the whole fucking cup in the trash and it did NOT look disposable.

misty’s reddit user momence

shauna “I’m actually from homeland security” sadecki shows off her truly abysmal lying skills. first to the cop who’s investigating the murder she committed, then to her daughter by saying the first lie was for feminism but actually to protect her husband cause you know how cops are sexist and that’s the last thing anyone needs right now. #girlboss

shauna being so awful at makeup that she said “hold still” TO A CORPSE

tai took a nap and now steve is missing. RIP Steve s2 ep1 - s2 ep2

someone took a SHIT in the piss bucket 😡😡😡

#show of all time #ppl are talking about some of this. BUT NOT ENOUGH #j rambles #yellowjackets spoilers #yellowjackets #shauna shipman #taissa turner #lottie matthews

[lizzy-bonnet]

I love Jane Austen's work and I love podcasts, so naturally I follow several JA podcasts (please drop recs in the tags). I'm enjoying Live from Pemberley from Hot and Bothered, but a comment from literally the first episode of the series has been circulating in my brain since I listened to it several months ago: one of the hosts expressed surprise (and disappointment?) in the fact that when we first meet Lizzy, she is "employed in trimming a hat". This comment literally comes right after a conversation about how Austen tells us so much in the very short space of Chapter 1; without wasting any words, we know exactly who Mr. and Mrs. Bennet are (lightly toxic relationship), understand their family situation (need to marry well), meet the main driver of the first act (rich man in the neighbourhood), and understand a social dilemma (girls can't meet him if Mr. Bennet does not make the first overture). So what is Austen telling us when we meet Lizzy in the employment of trimming a hat?

We so often read a sort of modern girlboss feminism into Lizzy because she is smart and stands up for herself, but I think that's something that really gets embroidered on to the text. Lizzy trimming a bonnet is telling us several things about her:

She is frugal - new hats and bonnets are really expensive (my casual hobby is shopping for reproduction bonnets and this remains true), because the straw is braided by hand, the bonnet shape is assembled and blocked by hand, feathers have to be gathered from real (living or dead) birds, ribbons and flowers are hand-finished, the whole situation is fuck expensive. Lizzy is most likely putting new trim on a straw or wool bonnet she already owns to make it work better for this season's fashions, or a new dress, and possibly recycling trimmings from other hats. Contrast this with Lydia's spending all her pocket money on an ugly hat in Chapter 39, just so she can reduce it to parts, even though she acknowledges she'll also have to buy some extra satin too, to finish the project.

She cares about fashion - we don't get a lot of information on sartorial choices in Austen's work, and when characters are discussing fashion, it tends to be a framework for explaining something about their characters; Miss Steele's need to know how much Marianne's dresses cost (rude, crass); Mrs. Bennet's loving description of the lace on Mrs. Hurst's gown (shallow); Catherine Moreland's agonizing over what to wear to the Assembly (young, a bit flighty); Bingley wears a blue coat (has probably read The Sorrows of Young Werther, is fashionable). The fact that Lizzy is trimming a hat tells us she is fashionable, but paired with the fact that she will get a petticoat muddy in order to see her sister, and does not spend a lot of time worrying after fashion like Lydia tells us that she does not live and die on fashion.

She is creative - I've trimmed various hats and bonnets over my years of interest in historical fashion and honestly it's not easy. It's quite fiddly to get a nice ribbon edge, a ruched lining takes forever, and getting sprays of florals and feathers to be nicely shaped and all in a complementary palette is quite fussy. Getting a nice looking bonnet requires some thinking and planning. But it's also great fun! The Regency era is, in my opinion, a particularly good period for hats.

She is normal - I think Austen wants the reader to understand that Lizzy is a young woman with normal cares and concerns. She doesn't have cash for a new bonnet, she wants to look nice, she knows how to put an outfit together, she's not frivolous like her sisters, and she engages in the typical pursuits of someone who is not yet one and twenty who does not have a specific occupation.

A lot of modern readers are expecting Lizzy to be striding around the countryside unconcerned with "girly" things, or reading a clever book because we have come to think of her as proto-feminist in a way that suggests she might be a bra (corset) burner, but I think that comes from an outdated feminist lens that still wants to tell us that girly things are bad, or at least, a bit weak, and I don't see that in the text at all (I think some of this trickles over from the adaptations). Lizzy walks enthusiastically, she enjoys reading (but not to the exclusion of other employments), she dances very well and plays with mediocrity, she cares deeply about her friends and family, she has excellent manners, and dammit, she trims hats.

#jane austen #pride and prejudice #lizzy bennet #regency fashion #bonnets #characterization

[ae-neon]

Nesta Vs ACOSF, a rambling rant

TW: mentions of sexual assault and abuse

Besides the "love" story that read like a quiet descent into domestic horror, ACOSF has one element that keeps me from being able to pick it up even just to sift through for Nesta gems: sex.

Here me out, I'm not a prude and I think we could have gotten a smutty romance but...

At her core, Nesta has always been a proud and modest person.

To be clear, with pride, I mean that her sense of self - her famous steel spine - has kept her together and unbroken even during harrowing circumstances. It's vital to her. It's so ingrained in her that - given we have no other explanation - we can assume it's what shields her mind from literal magic. However, like any trait, her pride can also be a thing that comes off as negative in the wrong situations.

With modesty, she was raised to keep a certain ideology that based her value on sex, beauty, marriage etc but it's important to understand that Nesta applied those standards inwards, at herself. (Eg In acotar, she brings up Feyre and Isaac in defence of her and Tomas, in acomaf, she is mostly upset about not hearing from Feyre or being notified that Feyre has switched courts - not about Feyre sleeping with Tamlin and then Rhys)

Now, I don't think Nesta's modesty makes her better than Feyre, in fact I was happy to get the representation of two different types of views on sex

But what I didn't consider at the time was that SJM was painting this out to be a negative trait.

In retrospect it seems obvious even though Nesta has defied her narrative destiny and become a sort of icon, at the end of the day she was still supposed to be written in a negative contrast to Feyre.

It seems funny but imagine you consumed the book the way Sarah intended, the way so many in the fandom have. The old Sarah Says rule, for my long time mutuals.

For example:

The dinner in acomaf - it's obvious Nesta is upset that she hasn't heard from Feyre only to have her come through not only as a whole Fae but bringing others and endangering their entire family.

But imagine it as a one dimensional reading and suddenly the "I fuck" dialogue is a girlboss moment of feminism giving a fuck you to the strict patriarchy of the "mortal lands" let's ignore how the Fae are actually more patriarchal and the Illyrians even more so than that

So understand that Nesta's modesty is being directly contrasted with Feyre's sexual freedom. The reader - at least from sjm's perspective - is supposed to agree with Feyre and disagree with Nesta in a sort of win/lose, yes/no, black/white dichotomy.

And because sjm is consistent and boring and a self-inset author, this dynamic doesn't change even when the protagonist does.

Only now sjm and her feminism has changed from fuck-whoever-I-want girlboss to kinky-but-only-with-my-husband tradwife

So Nesta can't be prudish and cut off because 1) it's not as conducive to the breakdown of self and buildup of a dependent and abusive relationship and 2) it's not in direct contrast with Feyre's current monogamous, traditional family values character.

So Nesta starts drinking and sleeping around and it's not because we're going to explore the unraveling of the pride and modesty at the core of the character as part of her transformation or as a result of her trauma

But because it's supposed to be a bad look, degrading, it shows she's failed, it makes her a loser

All of that is already insane. And even more so when taken with the context of her assault by Tomas and the sex centred relationship she has with Cassian

Now add to that the fact that in the book, Nesta is an object of desire for 2 villains and undergoes assault and drowning AGAIN

Sjm literally gives less than 2 fucks about SA, that much is obvious even from the way she inflicts and then disregards the experience of both Feyre and Rhysand respectively. It's a tool for her, a quirky story element

But to have Nesta experience such a similar thing - especially when the experience of being Made can be read as a sort of rape allegory on its own - and all for the sake of "romance" fantasy??

Even Nesta's reading habits are sexualised, to be clear I don't think there's anything wrong with reading smut, but the scope of her intellect and reading is narrowed down when we're suddenly made to believe most of the books she reads are smut.

This is someone who likely taught herself economics and investment within months in order to not just pay off the debt, upgrade her whole family's way of life but also rebuild the family fortune. Someone who, having stopped schooling at around 14/15, did the math needed to calculate the feasibility of the evacuation of a small country.

Someone who's verbally stated life goal was to see what a woman could make of herself in the world.

Even her love of reading is used as a stepping stone for how horny she is, instead of it being a result of her deeply ingrained need for escapism

She reads smut because the only thing she has in common with Cassian and the IC is sex. Because sjm thought one of the core elements of a friendship between 2 SA survivors and a disabled woman from a culture that mutilated her for being born a woman would be their desire to fantasise about men.

All the while the male love interest treats her like garbage.

We could have had a smutty book filled with sex where each scene could have been the growth of Nesta's trust and love of Cassian through intimacy. It could have been a sexual relationship that involved and explored kink - which explored vulnerability and the negative impact of how Nesta's pride became a source of stress and strain.

It could have been an exploration about the complicated relationship with desire and oppressors that many survivors have. But it isn't.

It's hahaha horny, so RELATABLE

Even when it comes to the abusive situation Nesta grew up in, it's just hung up like decoration on the character. Not explored, let alone healed. I don't wanna hear that sjm explained or explored Nesta's abuse when we don't even get her mother or her grandmother's names

We don't get

The complexity of being a trapped and abused woman who came from a trapped and abused woman who came from a trapped and abused woman

Or the complexity of a dysfunctional family

Or even the journey of recovery from addiction and self-harming behaviour

Now, not every aspect of Nesta or any survivors lives have to boil down to how it relates to their experiences but SJM is praised for her "recovery" and so much of this book is about sex and abuse but has no depth

It could have been a less-deep, fun experience of sex and desire and kink. But no

Nesta has sex with many faceless men because sjm is condemning her as a failure. Sex is her punishment, it makes her dirty and unworthy and cheap.

Then, through her "healing", she becomes a sex doll for the right guy. Sex is her reward, it makes her hot and useful and appealing.

Sjm writes not just like a man but like a particularly talented misogynist so it's the way sex is used that really puts me off

Edit: ultimately I think the sex and romance should have interacted with and evolved her pride, modesty and past experiences, rather than those things being demolished to turn her into a sex doll

#anti acosf #anti nessian #anti sjm #acotar rant #nesta deserves better #sjm critical #nesta archeron

[mhsdatgo]

Since GOT they’ve been using rape and abuse to humble or break a woman/Girl because they aren’t the “right” kind of woman. They don’t ride a dragon or yield a sword. They don’t fight against their period typical role in life that they were born and raised in. They’re not “A guys girl” or the “I don’t have any girl friends, they’re too much drama” types who prefer the company of men to women, who would rather train with a sword and not learn embroidery. They don’t have dialogue that vaguely sounds more 21st century than Middle Ages.

These women are seen as of less value than our little dragon riding, sword and fist fighting tomboys. So they need to be taught that if you had just been more like this or more like that you wouldn’t have been brutalized and abused. The things that were done to you by other people is all your fault and you deserved it.

This show/franchise is not even in the same room as feminism.

👏👏👏 Nothing more to add anon. No lie was told.

The sad thing is, this is not what I got from the books of asoiaf at all. Women's experience was never told in juxtaposition to others. There is no humbling or brutalizing other women as a "punishment" for not being better, more rebellious, or bolder than others. The books tell stories of suffering and that's it. The way shows and fandoms decide to try and force other characters into another one's story for the sole purpose of comparing them so they prove that stanning one means having a moral high ground over another character's stans is the most idiotic thing to ever have happened among fandoms, to say the least. Especially when the two characters in question don't even know each other.

Just look at the way Sansa and Dany are treated in the fandom. Have a shot for every time Sansa in King's Landing is called a tradwife as if this wasn't a girl in middle school trying to survive they're talking about, or for every time she's called jealous of Dany. Imagine if a stranger girl with three dragons cames knocking on your door demanding that you and all of your people and their mama bend the knee to her and you are the jealous one and the villain because you just... Don't? Also, you deserve to be threatened with death when you pose a reasonable question, and you need to take it and be better and shut up. Then you're a "girls' girl" deserving of respect, etc.

We want strong female characters to think for themselves, except when that "thinking for oneself" isn't the same thing as kissing the ground the fan favourite girl walks on.

If only fandoms paid more mind to what makes a character likeable or unlikeable in their eyes BASED ON THE CHARACTER ITSELF, and not on their perspective on their faves, interacting with them would be way more fun. Books/shows like asoiaf/GOT or F&B/HotD aren't places where you just choose a character you like and that's it, she's an icon she's a legend and she is the moment. If it was, it would either be a story for kids or a hell for Mare Sues' fans. As long as you treat asoiaf characters like deities that can do no wrong and everyone else as villains in need of redemption, you should step back and read something else.

This is something that needs to be accepted even between writers and directors, btw. Just look at what F&B was turned into. Girlboss vs Girlfail. Blacks got the Girlboss, the virtuous rightful heir, good mother fine ruler, Greens' got the Girlfail, the rape enabler, the boy mom, the tradwife, you name it.

No, it doesn't matter that the latter is doing everything she can possibly do. She was a piece of shit the moment she stopped toiling behind the former because everyone is meant to be like or kneel before girlboss with dragon. Only then are your ambitions respectable. If not, fuck you, you're nothing. Everything that happens to you is your fault. I'll be in the front seats cheering for when everything you love is ripped brutally from you.

Even when your grown-up son rapes a maid. Even when girlboss with dragon threatens to put your people to the torch because you won't bend the knee.

TL;DR: There's no need to compare/stone certain female characters for being what they are instead of a completely different type. If all of them were tomboyish with swords or feminine with embroidery, it would be boring. You aren't better than anyone for having preferences. Also, learn how to blame men when they fuck up. It's great for the bowel.

#hotd #got #asoiaf #fire and blood #daenerys targaryen #sansa stark #alicent hightower #rhaenyra targaryen