#am i drawing this distinction clearly enough. the point is connor notices whether he has been given a chance to do it himself or not

[detectiveconnor]

he doesn’t mind (even might appreciate) people stepping in in his defense but he also... expects there to be a beat where he can do it first. a beat of, ‘how’s Connor going to handle this’, an opportunity for him to do it himself because His Opinion Matters. connor will try to offer this to other people as well, if they are not immediately being physically hurt he will try to give them a chance to stand their own ground, but ... his voice in how he is treated does matter, the idea ‘he needs me to fix that for him’ is almost as offensive as whatever insult they’ve decided to defend 

#ingrid talks #about connor #like. ok. like. someone says 'it' and there's a beat and then his friend steps in and corrects 'he' #because connor doesn't always correct that (about himself) if he's working in his police-capacity with people he won't Usually work with #he'll correct it about others but not himself in that capacity. because it just takes a lot of time and energy #and they'll eventually correct themselves anyway bc everyone he works with Regularly (mostly) says 'he' #BUT he will always correct it if it's said about someone else or if it's said in New Jericho about anyone at all himself included #the beat is important. that blank space of 'connor is going to say something about that'. the assumption he can do it on his own #and he doesn't need their help #because he doesn't. and if they are defending him because 'connor is letting that go but i don't want to let it go' that's fine #but if it's immediate and before he has a chance to say something it's because #'i'm Such an activist i don't care connor has agency of his own' #which he finds .... less endearing #am i drawing this distinction clearly enough. the point is connor notices whether he has been given a chance to do it himself or not #and he knows it is ALWAYS well intentioned #but he notices. #i feel like almost all of his friends would give him the opportunity though #this wasn't prompted by anything i just remembered something Dry he said a few ... months ago now #i dont even remember where. i think it might have been a comment to Moon over discord. who knows #good morning tumblr! i hope you are well <3 i have work today. oh I started playing TWD! #it is good but i am bad at it LOL gamer Ingrid 3/10. i'm getting there tho #and im in it for the story. i'm always in it for the story. i love clem #i tried Apex once and had to abandon it completely because i was That Bad