#also cis people need to learn that trans people don't need to know about every time you interact with a transphobe online

[doberbutts]

You mentioned in response to another ask that you don't use "transandrophobia" because the trans theory you were taught by trans women told you that "transmisogyny" covered those things and that is a total revelation to me. I've been thinking for a long time that it seemed to me that the idea of transmisogyny *does* cover transandrophobia, it just impacts trans femmes and trans mascs differently a lot of the time. But I had no idea that there has been theory/discussion that says this. I'm more used to the idea of "TMA" with the implication that only trans women are affected by transmisogyny. Is that more of a new thing and transmisogyny used to be considered as a more broad term? And would you trace that change to the same issue you're talking about with a lot of current feminism forgetting how feminism is also a "men's issue"?

Idk if I would call it "new" per say. The word trans-misogyny was coined in 2007 and did not include trans men, but the book in which it was coined did mention that language was likely needed to describe the trans man experience as well. There have been a number of different attempts, but none have really stuck.

I went to college starting in 2010, so roughly 3 years after Serrano coined the word. While in college, my school's GSA wanted LGBT elders to come and talk to all the scared freshly-minted adults who were trying to figure out this being gay thing. The woman who ran my GSA found a Trans woman who was willing to be my mentor and sponsor, she wrote my letters for me back when that was still necessary for medical transition, and we met frequently for her to teach me more or less how to be trans safely. Some things she did not know- how to bind safely, how to attach a semi-permenant packer, etc. But others she knew very well, because she herself dealt with both being seen as a man by society as well as the effects of testosterone on her body for decades before she transitioned.

Anyway. This woman was great, and is a significant portion of the reason I'm still alive to this day. And she is who taught me the word transmisogyny, and that it should really cover all trans people because all trans people experience an intersection of transphobia and misogyny. Whether that was popular theory at the time or not, that is what us young kids learned directly from the mouths of trans women at my college, which to me means that others were also learning this particular version of transfeminist theory.

Unfortunately by the time I dropped out of college in 2013/2014, online trans spaces were having stupid arguments such as "transtrenders are bad" and "neopronouns are bad" and "nonbinary people are cis people who want to feel special" and "trans men should be hunted for sport" and "trans women are incel nazis" and. Well. I went "wow this place is a cesspit and I feel like no one here has actually talked to another transgender person face to face" and then did not engage with the online community. So I don't really know how common or popular the understanding I was taught was at the time, though it certainly seems quite rare now.

(As a caveat I don't really think trans people of any gender have anything that isn't similar with each other when it comes to oppression, outside of certain bodily things that can't be helped because that's literally the thing we're transgender about, and I think we all experience very similar oppression but sometimes with a different hat)

As for what caused this particular defining to fall into obscurity? I really can't say. I don't know how popular the transfeminist theory the trans women who spoke at my GSA meetings taught us actually was in the broader world. Every once in a while I meet someone who lived through that same time who remembers that theory, which tells me it had gained at least some traction if it was being discussed in multiple parts of the country, but... that's really it. And it's pretty unpopular theory nowadays, I get people calling me a scumbag and claiming that I say transmisogyny doesn't exist just for mentioning that the theory I was taught includes trans men in the discussion.

But I don't think it's specifically the whole TMA/TME thing. I think it's a lack of understanding of what oppression and what intersectionality are, how they operate, how they work, how we define things through them. There are many people who believe that men do not experience misogyny. But, they do, that's why it's an insult to a boy to call him a girl during a moment of femininity or vulnerability, as a means of calling him weak because girls are believed to be weak. There are many people who think intersectionality turns oppression into additives, as though stacking marginalizations like dnd buffs. This also falls apart because oppression is not like quick math where you add a +5 to every roll if any part of your identity is privileged and a -7 if any part is oppressed.

I've had people get mad at me for saying that straight people experience homophobia while we also have sitting politicians that make jokes on live TV about how they'd drown their (presumably straight) children if they found out their kids were gay. For saying that GNC cis people experience transphobia when butches are getting kicked out of bathrooms and drag queens are getting jumped in bars. For reminding people that when Sikhs are killed due to being mistaken for Muslim in this country that hates Muslims over a national tragedy our Muslim population did not cause, it's still considered and called Islamophobia, because just because Americans are too stupid to tell a Sikh from a Muslim doesn't mean they weren't spurred into that hate crime by their rampant hatred of Muslims and the sight of a turban and long beard.

[inthestarsme]

Astro Notes pt. 7

These pictures are not mine! I have taken them from pinterest, the second one seems to be from "Rachel Home and Life" on Pinterest.

‼️Don't repost my Observations without consent and mentioning my page‼️

I very much respect non-binary or trans people. If i'm talking about man or woman, i'm talking about cis-men or woman i know, because often, due to societal coding/standards, there can be differences depending on the gender. But it could very much apply to you if you are non-binary or trans. Just take what resonates and leave what doesn't, as spiritual people like to say.🫶🏻

If you don't agree with my observations, please don't send any hate. They're only my personal observations that i'm posting just for fun. Especialy the specific ones can only apply to certain people. So don't take anything you read too seriously. It's not a science, just pop-astrology!😎

I'm back again! Hope y'all had a great start into the year and some beautiful or at least peaceful holidays. I'm not going to explain to much about my absence (i feel like me not posting regularely or as it works is just a thing now) and just jump right into it.

So, here we go! Ready.... Set..... Okay i'm kidding. But yes, let's go!

Moon in the 3rd house: I always need to talk to a friend about my feelings when i feel overwhelmed, sad, angry, etc. If i try dealing with it just in my head, it feels like a hurricane up there. Sometimes i like writing things down too, but i prefer talking it through and getting a second, reflective opinion and reaction. This kind of fits this placement, so maybe this could help you, if you haven't figured this out about yourself yet.

Chiron in the Solar Return-Chart: I feel like Chiron here shows you a wound that developes over the year, that you might only start seeing at the very end or in the next year.

Leo Risings: You guys really are these confident, radiant, extroverted, even loud types of people. Very social and outgoing. You "shine" and are quite populare. As i am an Aquarius rising (so my rising falls into their 7th house) i tend to attract these kinds of people (as friends and also partners/ love interests, but love interests more so sun in leo as the sun is the heart) even though you wouldn't think so because i tend to be more shy and reserved. But it really doesn't mean that is how you truly feel inside. It is one of the most prominent parts of your personality and how people know you, but you can still hold a lot of insecurities inside yourself. Also: blond hair tends to be typical for these people, also the darker blond shades. But it isn't a must, i've just noticed this. Maybe also just hair that "shines" or somehow stands out.

North Node in the 12th house: Learning how to deal with addictions and any kind of mental health problems, that could've or did get you into any kind of facility (prison, etc.) is a big and important part of your life and souls journey. You need to learn how to take care of your physical health and get a healthy routine and sorted out everyday life, so you can deal with your mental health problems, and not use drugs etc. as a way to deal with your every day life/ to run away from your everyday life/ to make your addiction, mental health struggles, etc. your everyday life and make it mess up your health. You may naturally have always been so focused on work, routines and everyday life, etc., that you always have tended to forget about your mental health and anything to do with that.

Jupiter in the 9th house: Things like religion, philosophy, higher (college) education and traveling can be a source of great happiness and success in your life. In which way really depends on other placements and if you are religious or not, etc.

Moon in the 9th house: You might really need religion or certain philosophical theories placed in your life to feel emptionaly secure and stable. They don't need to necessarily be a typical kind of religion or a academicaly accepted philosophy, but just something that exists inside yourself that fits into these categories.

Empty houses: I think a house being empty just means that in this life there isn't really a focus on this area in your life, or it tends to sort itself out naturaly through other areas in your life that are more in focus. As you have your ruling planet of the house sitting in another house and do not have anything putting more of an emphasis on this house, i think the energy of the house plays itself out through other areas in your life or are influenced by other areas. It still exists in your life, but it isn't in focuse just for itself (i know this isn't necessarily how this is interpreted in general, this is just how i see it).

Scorpio MC: I feel like, as Scorpio and Pluto have a lot to do with ego deaths, a lot of people tend to see me in a bad light and as problematic because i kind of go against their ego, because i trigger something in them they don't want to face and they are hiding with their ego. Also, I'm not necessairly the secretive type of person, but if i stay more secretive, people tend to be more interested and intrigued by me. I also get peoples attention if i present in a "shocking" way (as would many), but i like it honestly (my aquarius rising just loved being weird), and i feel like often people just silently watch me and even admire (or at least noone has ever complained or said anything negative).

I hope you enjoyed this one again. Please leave certain aspects you want me to get into in another post in the comments or just any kind of post you would like to see from me.

I wish you a wonderful year! Byee🫶🏻

#astro community #astro observations #astroblr #astrology #moon in the 3rd house #chiron #solar return #leo rising #north node in the 12th house #jupiter in the 9th house #moon in the 9th house #empty houses #scorpio midheaven

[tdicksupreme]

i'm v happy to discuss my partial & conditional male privilege as a trans guy. my frustration is that people are never asking this question in good faith.

by good faith i mean genuine curiosity and expansion of our shared understandings as people: these discussions never seem to be about how my experience can help illuminate the oppression of being a woman or what that consists of, where the line is, what our lived experiences are like. i have never seen people ask/assert "trans men have male privilege" in ways that weren't v obviously trying to give people permission to not think about us. trans men have male privilege i'd argue can be partially true, depending on contexts, but it should be pretty blatantly bad-faith that such a complex topic is treated as a settled issue.

we have male privilege, it's settled, that's it, and you never have to think about effeminate trans men, flamboyant gay trans men, the complexities of how we move through the world, what it means (in my case, for example) to be a guy who's generally seen as a guy, but has not had top or bottom surgery, has long hair, & what that means for how i get treated in different contexts.

what are we talking about? the privilege to not be seen/treated as a woman on sight? reproductive freedoms? respect in the workplace? economic security? etc.?- so many trans guys, even guys who have passed for quite some time, never experience so many of these things, and instead of having genuine curiosity about our unique experiences you want to slot us all categorically into the cis-het-white-man box so you don't need to think of us as people who can ever have power leveraged against us

people seem to have two settings, either "trans men are women and don't know what it's like to be a guy" or "trans men are cis men and never experience their own unique challenges," even though i think it's pretty obvious that we have a mixed/complicated gender experience simply by virtue of being trans

and every tguy i've ever seen say "i have male privilege all of the time" never brings up all the things he had to do to get & retain patriarchal power. having- idk, been a guy, it's so fucking disingenous to pretend like being a man doesn't involve a performance of ten thousand different choices & behaviors to make sure other guys continue seeing you as a dude. it's not just "having facial hair" or w/e, and if that's what you think then you are literally by definition a transmisogynist lmao. it's the high-and-tight haircut, the gym shirt, the workouts you did to build those arms, the ways you learned to socialize with straight-acting men so they feel comfortable, the things you don't express & feminine mannerisms you stopped using because it would get you clocked. IMO, participating in sexism is a system men participate in so they don't become targets of it.

like, insisting trans guys universally attain male privilege isn't an innocent statement, it's one that in my experience gives dudes a skewed idea of their own safety. what do you think happens when i have a scruff, deep voice, and people realize my boobs are not cis guy moobs? why do so many people think that i'm seen unilaterally as a cis straight man, rather than a mostly-man sort-of-woman you're allowed to condescend to & also physically fight?

#and it's funny because as a guy with a chest and facial hair- whether i am seen as Passing As Male or not is a moving goalpost #depending on whether or not people want to be allowed to be mad at me in a certain way #like i'm a Privileged Cis Passing Trans Guy until i talk about how you can be passing and still subject to frequent harassment & violence- #and then suddenly people's tune changes to 'oh well that's because you didn't get top surgery so technically you don't actually pass"

[miscling]

About Miscling

This is a horny blog for horny blog things. Please don't interact if you're a minor/under 18, go away, shoo. if you follow me, make sure to have some indication of your age in your bio or pinned

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i am nameless, so call me whatever you like, lin is fine if you need a name. i am a girl, toy, doll, cow, kitty, slut, and ditz. i like to talk to people and am not scary at all, so send asks and dms about anything at all as much as you like. i'll try to respond to everyone!

i am an obedient good girl, who likes being praised. i like being given tasks to do and then be praised for doing the task!

This is a hornyblog that mostly follows other horny and trans blogs. i am a trans woman who has a cunt, i am also autistic and have adhd.

i would like to get to know other poly queer trans people who are very kinky and would especially like messages/follows from them. i am a fun trans sub looking for other trans people ^^ i am mostly T4T, but cis people are fun to play with too! I am in the UK, and would desperately like to hear from any other queer trans people that are also here.

i (re)blog about edging, hypno kink, bdsm, fetishwear, tickling, masochism, petplay (i'm a kitty), hucows/lactation, monsterfucking, CNC, mindbreaking, dollification, dronification, and a lot of generally weird horny things that i'm into. i'm an exhibitionist, submissive, and easily controlled by people who make me feel safe. i'm just a dumb horny girl who is controlled by her cunt. i do not consider myself a person but a toy, i am not a person in the way a cherished item or pet is not a person.

Real people don't wish they weren't people, after all.

Also, i started collecting likes on my previous pinned, saying if i got to 100 notes I'd start sharing links to my edging audios on my blog. If i carry on, and got up to 31 on my last pinned, then this one only needs to get to... 69 (hehe nice) before i'll start doing it. You should like this post if you read it!

Tags and links:

About Miscling contains every post that's about me.

You can find pics of me in Miscling Appears. (it's okay to go on a reblogging and liking spree through them)

i make original posts under Miscling Rambles and posts about my lactation journey in Miscling Lactates

You can send me tasks with my ask tasks meme! I will take tasks from literally anyone ^^ you can see tasks I've done here! If you like or follow my blog, think about sending me a task as a little gift!

I learned to edge last year and was broken by a poll I ran to get permission to cum here then here and here. i hope to never cum again without being forced. i can't be forced to cum over the internet. i kept an edging diary for a while and my last orgasm was 1feb24.

I love to write, and I especially like to write about kink. Read bits about my play with Miscling Plays and stories I wrote with Miscling Writes.

Use my ask box liberally, anon or not. i'll answer near anything and you can use my ask meme tag and miscling answers to find questions to ask me (scroll the tag and use any meme you like, but copy in the questions or link the meme!)

I have a lovense wishlist (long distance remote vibrators)

I have an amazon wishlist (lingerie and random kink things)

I have a cashapp link (if you just want to tip me directly)

I'm trying to tag my kinks so i can find them when i want them, this is no guarantee that i'll tag things though. mommysub for posts about being a mommysub, Bind Miscling for bondage, hit me for masochism, moo for hucow things, lee mood for tickling, oh my circuits for robot/drone things, maid day for maids, tidy up tuesday for my maid day, monsterling for monsterfucking posts, hypno gif, spiral, hypno txt, and hypnaudio, for hypno play, preyling for primal play, latexcellent for rubberwear, and as i figure out others i'll add them...

I'm a slutty set of holes, a toy for others to use. Fill my mouth, cunt, and ass.

Also, I have some limits:

i have a nest partner, i won't let anything come between us

i do not like misogyny, transphobia, racism, or bigotry. This applies to kink too.

i don't like possessive language, only people i trust can own me

please don't try to make me cum or ask/tell me to

i don't really roleplay, i much like to do over pretending to do

don't call me a bitch or a puppy. i like puppy petplayers a lot, but i am a kitty petplayer.

i don't like being treated as inferior, i might be lesser, but i should still matter and be treated with care and respect

sissy blogs dni, i am a woman, do not reblog my pics to your sissy blog, i will block you if i spot you.

i am a toy for others to enjoy!

(Most tasks recieved and completed in one day: 18) (Most tasks recieved on a special occasion: 48)

ASK TASKS: OPEN

use my ask box to send me tasks to do! i'd love to entertain and perform for you all! i am a good and obedient girl, and i enjoy getting tasks to do!

choose one or more task emoji and send them to me! include instructions if you send complicated tasks

tasks can come from anyone, even anons!

i'll do tasks as soon as i can! i have to finish my work wach day before i can play. basic tasks i'll do on my own, but i'll need help for the slightly more complicated ones so they might be a little while! Mutuals can DM me with DM tasks, and if i'm available we'll play ^^

task list below the readmore

BASIC TASK LIST!

🗜️ make me wear nipple clamps for 5 minutes! 📦 make me wear 10 pegs on my cunt for 10 minutes! 🤚 make me slap my cunt 5 times! ⚡ choose a part of me and make me use my TENS unit there for 10 mins. 🪆 dolly time! for the next 30 mins make me cup my hands, stay on my tip toes, and arch my back. 😺/🐮 petplay! for the next 30mins, make me keep off my furniture and only move around on all fours. make me put on my animal ears based on which one you send! 🤖 make me a good robot and complete one thing on my to-do list! ♾️ make me get my breast cups and pump my breasts for 15 mins! 🤐 make me gag myself for half an hour! (tell me what kind of gag to use and if I have it I'll use it, otherwise I'll pick) 🧣 make me put on my collar if i'm not already wearing it! 👗 make me get undressed and be naked for the next 30 mins! ✏️ make me write what you tell me on my body where you tell me! 💖 make me draw a little heart on myself where you tell me! 😵‍💫 make me stare at a spiral for 5 minutes (send me a spiral to use) (i won't use spirals that give me bad vibes, but i'll use any i've already reblogged) 🗣️ ask me anything, name a kink or give me a topic to write about (kinky or otherwise) and make me infodump about it. 🔊 send me a post or a write something for me to record saying, and i'll post the recording. 📝 make me go add 100 words to my current WIP novel. 🫴 make me edge for 10 minutes (Send me instructions, porn, a post to edge to, or a mantra to repeat while I do it, you can use my mantra tag for ideas. i cannot do this task on thursdays) 🕳️ make me fill up a hole for 10 minutes! (Choose to plug my cunt or/and ass, i cannot do this task on thursdays) 👅 make me stick my tongue out for 10 minutes! 💋 make me go practice deepthroating for 5 mins! 🍇 make me go get a snack and a drink! ❌ make me go take a break outside for 5 mins! 😴 make me go lay down in bed for 15 mins, no screens allowed.

SLIGHTLY MORE COMPLICATED TASK LIST!

👋 i'll ask my nestie to tickle me for 5 mins! (check my toybox) 🖐️ i'll ask my nestie to slap me 10 times! choose my face or tits 🏓 i'll ask my nestie to hit me 10 times! choose my ass or thighs (check my toybox) 👣 i'll ask my nestie to put elastic bands around my feet and snap the band against my soles 10 times. (nestie enjoys doing this to me) 🫶 i'll ask my nestie to choke me and hold my breath over a 5 minute session (please do not mix with other tasks) ⛓️ i'll get myself tied up and restrained for 30 mins! 🥊 No hands! make me put on my hand mitts for 15 minutes!

DM TASKS

If we're mutuals, you can dm me and play with me in other ways. Ask me for my lovense toy control links, combine tasks into one bigger task, send me files to listen to or hypnotise me yourselves, make me wear a diaper or control my toilet use, or suggest other things to do with me that you'd like! Non-mutuals who've gotten to know me can ask to play too.

Or...

⁉️ Give me a task not listed! (You can find the contents of my toybox here for ideas) (I reserve the right to safeword, but I'm very open and obedient, so shoot your shot)

#about miscling #why are these always so lonnnggggggg #if there's one thing i know how to autistically infodump about it's ✨myself✨ #misc pinned post

[fordtato]

Gffan has done the following:

-Letting people comment transphobic stuff on his Server

-associating with a reddit mod whos known to be transphobic

-openly showing weird distaste for the Dipper being Trans headcanon (didn't he also say: "I hate the Dipper Trans Theory" to us once?)

He also believes there’s only 2 genders

Hello. So. I do not normally respond to anonymous discourse like this in my inbox as a rule (especially given this site's proclivity for seeing anon callouts weaponized against trans people and women and people of color), but I felt it was important to do this in this case, since I am publicly working on a project with ThatGFFan.

I have known GFFan for over a year now now (in an exclusively online capacity), and in that time, he has not only never misgendered me (a nonbinary trans person, someone outside the "2 genders" framework) but has also actively corrected people who have misgendered me. I have witnessed him speak against transphobia in the fandom and against transphobic content creators. The idea that he "believes there are only 2 genders" is inaccurate by every account I have of him.

As for other accusations in this ask, such as him "associating with a reddit mod who is known to be transphobic" I don't have any evidence for this presented to me, and even if I did, association in a public online space is not the same thing as sharing transphobic sentiment. There is room in any online space for a conversation about the optics of this kind of engagement, but if I had to apologize for every person I've ever engaged with civilly who I later learned was problematic in some way, I'd be here all day, and that would be an unproductive use of my time, and would not undo any harm done by that person.

Lastly, I hope ThatGFFan will not mind me saying this, but he is a young person (younger than you think, I assure you). If he has engaged with unsavory people in the past, or has indicated any kind of transphobic sentiment (neither of which I have any evidence of) it is my belief that we need to allow people to grow, especially when I have actively witnessed that growth firsthand. And in that case, I do think (and maybe I'm putting my faith in the wrong person here, so I hope this doesn't bite me one day), that he has made an active effort to learn how to do better, even if he makes mistakes in that process.

What you have done, anon, is entered my inbox with accusations against a person of color, half of which have no evidence behind them, and the other half that I personally know to be demonstrably false. Nobody who is a victim of this transphobia has come forward, at least that I saw, and if they did, that would be up to ThatGFFan to respond to - not me, a trans person unrelated and far-removed from whatever incident you are talking about (an incident that likely occurred when ThatGFFan was a minor, in any case).

I don't have a big platform. I am a small creator (much smaller than ThatGFFan), and a trans Palestinian person. Why am I being called upon to answer for a cis person's (alleged) missteps as they grow into an adult? Why am I being called upon to publicly shame and renounce a person who has shown me kindness and allyship? Is it so I can prove my dedication to the fight against transphobia? My entire blog, my entire body of work, my entire existence, has been an active fight against transphobia.

I mean, by God, all I can do is hope I'm doing the right thing here, but I vouch for him. Or I at least vouch that he is trying.

(p.s. I hope this goes without saying, but someone disliking a specific queer headcannon does not indicate one's political beliefs, and this is not going to be an accusation that I really engage with, because it sets a bad precedent. This is not a moral wrongdoing. This is an opinion you are suspicious of.)

[olderthannetfic]

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Ok, so, I'm the transsexual gay anon you're trying to vague.

First off, my ask was inspired by a reblogger from here who claimed that the reason straight men don't enjoy romance novels is because straight men are uncomfortable when women in fiction have agency. Lots of other commenters and rebloggers debunked that idiocy, but any point anon might have had about misogyny in straight men's choice of reading material was undermined when they described all straight men (a group which people like to forget includes trans men) as raging misogynists, instead of discussing a systemic issue in men's choice of reading material, or even talking about misogyny as a cultural problem. (By the way, if your response to this is to turn around and say that straight trans men don't count when you're talking about straight men as a group, the word for that is misgendering)

So, lets take your post point by point.

1.) I never said that male privilege isn't real, you're the one who made that up.

2.) it's possible to discuss systemic issues like the wage gap without pretending that trans men always have exactly the same male privilege as cis men, AND without pretending that they aren't men. You are correct to point out that privilege is not exactly identical for every single person, but ignoring that trans and gay people exist is not actually good praxis.

3.) "men don't have to take precautions against strangers of the opposite sex potentially assaulting them whereas women learn to do this from an early age" You forgot to slap "cis" on there. This is an accurate (if broad) statement about cis people. I grew up having to worry about the same exact things a cis girl worries about. The fact that I identify as a man and pass well today does not retroactively shield me from gendered violence or harassment back when everyone who saw me thought I was a teenage girl. Also, homophobic violence exists and men (cis or trans, straight or not!) who don't conform to their culture's standards of masculinity have to watch out for it, often to the same extent that women need to watch out for misogynist violence.

4.) no one asked you to pretend that cis men have it worse than trans lesbians, you made that up.

5.) Honestly, anon, the fact that you think that LGBT men like myself are insignificant and that our feelings don't matter tells me everything I need to know about you as a person (and very little about your political ideologies).

6.) you're right, it isn't about me. It's about systemic problems. Demonising an entire gender does not solve systemic problems. Transphobia and homophobia are also systemic problems, and overlap a great deal with misogyny (I've heard it argued that all three are actually the same thing directed at different people). You can't solve one while pretending the others don't matter.

7.) You're right! Trans men who don't pass are subject to the same crap that cis women are! You outright stating that their feelings about this don't matter doesn't help anyone, no, not even cis women.

6.) Acutally, "all men are scum" is radfem rhetoric, no matter if you allow trans men to be scum or try to define us out of manhood.

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[constantinoreal]

Trans men and transmasc folk deserve so much better, always the butt of the joke, on top of being always invisibilized and the medical violence and the infantilization, and a million other things.

It's already bad enough the only way people knows to affirm our gender is to joke about the negative parts of being a man or masculine. Stinky, messy, insensitive, scary, abuser, rapist-Enough!

Even other trans men do this. Openly talking about how they regressed, chose to be less, decided to be boring, etc etc. The rest of transmasc folk don't have to know about your insecurity and self-hatred, sorry to say. A jab at yourself is an jab at the rest of us; I know loving yourself is hard, but learning to not internalize the relentless microviolence everyone else constantly performs on us is also a must.

Because being a man or masculine is not inherently a negative or bad thing, and insisting it is only puts down and erodes the self-steem and self-love of every men, yes, cis included.

So progressive and queer yet so many in the community don't know how to uplift and voice themselves without always putting down another group. It's exhausting.

Do better. You don't even need to become the spokesperson for every transmasculine individual, just stop shitting on masculinity for no good reason or making the same old joke of how stinky we are. People needs to learn for real how to better support and affirm trans men and transmasculine folks.

We won't ever progress if people within the community still have it ingrained that one gender is the good one and the other gender is the bad one. It's a preconceived notion that hurt EVERYONE.

If you are a trans guy or a transmasc individual: You are worthy of love, you didn't choose to be boring or worse, being your truest self can only be positive, your masculinity is beautiful and not an inherent threat to the rest of humanity. I love you

#“it's only a joke” #its the same joke from many individuals every day for years #anyway vent i expect nobody to read #im a tired trans man tired of being put down #and tired of other trans men putting themselves down for simply being men #terfs fuck off

[kimabutch]

I genuinely don't know how I would have been able to pursue becoming a priest without transitioning first. Not just because transitioning has made me into a much more confident person with a closer relationship to God, my community, and myself, but also because the life experience has been so weirdly similar.

Telling people that you want to become a priest? Weirdly like coming out as trans. Some people are happy for you, many are confused or surprised, some are pretty uncomfortable with it, but no matter how they feel, the vast majority of people don't know how to talk to you about it. You're not just telling them what you want to do with yourself in the future, you're hinting that you've had this big, very personal change about how you think of yourself and your place in the world, but no one knows how to talk about deep gender feelings or religious feelings in polite company so we have to stick to surface chat while knowing that there's something much deeper lurking underneath.

Going to seminar? Weirdly like early transition. You're connecting with new people and cultures, you're learning a ton of stuff that makes you reevaluate your entire worldview, you're seeing the world in totally new ways. You have breakdowns constantly but when you recover, your strength to go forward is even stronger than it was. You learn to translate this deep yearning of your soul into reality, and that's fucking scary and overwhelming but every time you move forward, you realize it's worth it. Also, it's way too expensive.

Applying to become a postulant? Whooo boy, I definitely needed the practice of all the paperwork, appointments, and evaluations from transitioning to even make me a fraction of the way ready to do the same to become a priest. There are so many goddamn steps and meetings.

Anyways I'm once again grateful I'm trans. Dunno how cis people do it.

#and this isn't even starting on how realizing that I'm nonbinary was fundamentally entangled in feeling called #so much that they're not parallel experiences #they're part of the same experience #christianity #about me

[trans-axolotl]

trans community is not and never has been inherently safe for me as an intersex trans person. And i think that trans community like, really isn't inherently safe in general for many people of many marginalized identities, but what i mean by that right now is that I know that i am going to face intersexism in almost every trans space I'm in. some of it I put up with and don't say shit about it because it's not worth it, some of it I call out, and some of it is incredibly violent and leaves me traumatized. Trans community with dyadic people is not something that I can inherently count on in the way that some trans people can, and the amount of casual intersexism within trans community is honestly astounding. Some of the worst intersexist harassment I've experienced in my life was in trans community. that's not to say that cis dyadic people don't also suck; they are incredibly intersexist and I hate them too lmao. But there is something particularly difficult about experiencing intersexism in trans community, especially as transphobia is rising nationwide and I need access to safe communities and trans resources more than ever. So it hurts way fucking more when that shit happens in one of the few community spaces that I need to rely on for things like safety, housing, resources, support, all that shit. It also is really hard when you learn about our shared history and the many ways that our histories were tied together, whether by choice or not, and how even when we don't see each other as similar, oppressors do. That means that we are always going to need to figure out how to support each other. Dyadic trans people, you all have to do better about realizing that intersex people exist and are in our community, and about actively educating yourself to challenge intersexism. it's not enough to know what intersex is and to be able to recognize the intersex flag. You all need to do better about actively learning how to be an ally and to make trans spaces safer for intersex people. this means you all also need to get better at standing up to your dyadic trans friends you like more than us because let me tell you, there is a lot of popular trans people on this website who are intersexist as fuck and no one calls them out on it besides intersex people. And I'm seeing a lot of you right now are saying some fucked up shit about how it's good that transphobic bills are enabling intersex medical abuse. Also think that you all need to at some point get on the same page about the intertwined history of igm and gender affirming surgery to learn how to advocate for gender affirming surgery and talk about gender affirming surgery in a way that doesn't fuck up intersex people and minimize historical medical experimentation, but that's a conversation for another day because I don't think you all are ready to have it yet.

okay to reblog.

#personal #actuallyintersex #intersex #trans #like always a discliamer. im both trans and intersex #i am talking baout my own fucking experiences.

[mintymemesandrpshop]

Anyways, keep supporting trans muns and muses, and keep talking about your trans muses. What I've learned from tumblr's shitty moderation fiasco, is that I got results from politely emailing staff every 5-6 hours, and my rp blogs didn't get terminated 15 times that one month and its first anon hate to take transphobic mass-reporting hysterics lying down.

The terminations happened when I was publishing detailed information and headcanons regarding my (self-insert, ftm) transition. I don't believe this was a coincidence. Research HRT. Research surgeries, including the recovery processes vs final results. Look at medical sources, look at trans peoples' stories, ask questions of your own, there are plenty of social media outlets to create a whole library of information, from multiple sources. Don't let transphobia scare you. Don't let trans people scare you.

Write trans muses if you want. Getting corrected or doing it 'wrong' for a while will not kill you. Support trans muns, and also support cis muns writing trans muses! We want the correct information out there, not the propaganda, not the assumptions. Think about all of the 'risks' of needing to remake, of getting shadowbanned, of getting harassed? We need to be better than that. We are worth coming back to, and we need to look like it. Know where, and how to spend your energy and frustrations.

Community will always be better than outright hate, even if the frustration of minorities might seem like hate. Know where it's coming from. Know what you need to know to tell exclusionists that they are wrong. To tell genuine ignorant people what's not quite right. And try to keep an eye out for dogwhistles, transphobic or otherwise. Because flowery language isn't enough, you have to practice actually being nice to other people. Keep practicing.

Be willing to teach what transphobia is, what transphobic actions coming from non-transphobes are, so that the people who refuse to listen, change, or be nice don't feel enabled to be vile.

#psa #tumblr commentary #long post #transphobia mention #okay to reblog #back then I had assumed automation but in hindsight? mass reporting from right-wingers makes sense #allies are not worth losing. but they are worth teaching #listen. even if a better website comes along? don't you want to be together when it does? #also this energy extends out to any other marginalized group. not just trans people. but we need to work together #in the sense that this 'work' is fun and rping needs to be fun. make it fun!

[levmada]

Hii! Congrats on starting your transition! ❤️ I hope you don’t find this too intrusive, but I really want to know your story with realizing who you really are and taking the steps to get there? (If that makes sense) and how is testosterone treating you? Also, do you still menstruate?

I ask this with curiosity, love and support 🙂

thank youuu<3 yeah i can :)

//tw gender dysphoria. also this is extremely personal just so yk👍

i knew something was off the second i started puberty hahahahahaha(🥲). i was 9 or 10 and didn't know what being transgender was, so, to be shamelessly honest, i refused to wear panties (i even hate that word honestly) and would just go commando until my mom gave in and got me "boy shorts". aka panties with an extra inch.

i hated the idea of bra. actually it made me sick. i couldn’t fucking stand living in my own skin at that point. despite growing them at 10, i was 12 or 13 before i gave in, but it was sports bras.

however there was a very short timeframe between that and learning about being transgender, so i'd do the double sports bra trick + 38943809 layers until i got a chest binder (which i don't remember how or when😭it might've been a loan from a trans friend when i was 13ish.)

never was a fan of makeup, dresses or long hair. funnily,,,,,, the only reason i got my ears pierced when i was like 8 was so i could get out of shopping for easter dresses.

meanwhile my mom wanted my hair long, but also around 8 or 9 i chopped that bitch. i'd chew on it (anxiety) and not brush it until it was like. all in knots so it would get cut. my mom stopped gaf, but everytime i got a short cut it was the cursed pixie cut most transmascs know too well lol, so i had it in a ponytail all the time. never liked it though

there were a lot of reasons i hated my body with every inch of my being, but i did cover up and layer all the time cuz of gender dysphoria. a core memory is going on vacation to florida in summer and sitting in front of a pool wearing jeans and a fucking black jacket😭like are you kidding me

i didnt rly comprehend being transgender (or lgbtq in general really) until i was 12 or 13. growing up on the internet, it continuously shocked me at that age what problems people had with gay people / queer people in general. it was the same for being trans, but i think i labeled myself straight and cis cuz i was already a fucked up individual with fucked up problems and i didnt want any more, especially one as heavy as being trans.

but it was too agonizing not to bind my chest, and i didnt shave my legs or underarms. i did use a nickname but it wasnt gender ambiguous whatsoever and it sucked.

along the way, while i was in choir, for a performance i had to wear a dress and i tried to shave my legs and put on makeup. when i saw pictures i didnt even know who that was, but it was wrong.

that’s not me.

but it has to be.

it's not supposed to be me.

i think i was 14 going into high school when i was like: pronouns? am i gay? chop all my hair off and be a Boy? yeah, and it helped i found a friend group that was queer.

from the very beginning of that, i was a trans guy. i rly don't remember what changed that? i think mainly my gender was a work in progress so nothing was sticking (they/she, they/he, they/them, and such). i think..... my earliest name.... wassss casper? aidan? lol

i got bullied/shamed out of the first name though. this was the mid 2010s where there was a lottttt of transphobia in the trans community.

i'll explain just in case. there were basically two parties: trannies who thought you needed gender dysphoria to be trans (transmedicalists), and trannies who thought you didn't (tucutes). in the former's opinion, there were "normal" trannies who "didnt make it their whole personality". if you didn't want top and bottom surgery + hormones? if you liked dresses or anything remotely fem? — you weren't trans.

you can probably see immediately how damaging this way of thinking is. a youtuber named kalvin garrah was basically the leader of the transmeds or truscum as they'd go on to be called lol, and i watched him religiously for reasons i can’t remember. youtube was still pretty new and it was hard to find youtubers whose channels was about being trans, and kalvin was always transparent about it from what i remember.

so yeah i got it into my mind that i couldnt be a transman bc i didnt fit exactly a transmed’s idea of what being trans means. i didn’t think i wanted bottom surgery for instance, but i was also FUCKING 15?? in no position to even be thinking about that.... and i also had a trans boyfriend at this point and he wasn’t gay so . that contributed. rip.

and like i first said, i got bullied out of being named casper because other queers and even some trannies thought i was being a "transtrender" which ties into all that.

for the bulk of high school and on (like 5 years) i was pretty firmly nonbinary and went by they/them pronouns. but also, there were a lot of reasons i wasn't in touch with my body and self so i was more or less oblivious, and the gender dysphoria blended in with the general self hatred?

yeah so imagine a super realistic robot coasting through life without any higher awareness. i was (dissociating) simply Not There so much that i don't think my personal problems or me in general ever was something i was cognizant of, let alone concerned about.

so that was me from age 17 to 21. i went by it/its pronouns for a while after something bad that happened, but not much change.

it was kind of a fluke really. as far as my gender went i was like 'yeah i’m okay with this whatever' while being objectively depressed, but i was depressed for so long about it that i became used to feeling helpless. didn't give a fuck about outfits, my body, even my hygiene much, and i hated mirrors.

"""""im okay with this""" yeah ok💀

i can’t even remember why i started testosterone😭i knew a shit ton about it and being trans for several years, so it was just...? spur of the moment...?

it turned out to be so easy it seemed too good to be true, but it wasn't, and i got my T prescription. during the initial appointment i chose to give myself subcutaneous injections on the spot...? i was hesitant about this idea, but perhaps it means something that this was the perfect method for me (compared to gel or intramuscular injections for example). i started on a little higher than average dose.

then my WHOLE world flipped upside down bc even the acne and the voice cracks were incredibly gender affirming. EVERYTHING felt so good and right + i realized there are 0 feminine things i can do/be that i'm anything but uncomfy with.

(not that there can’t be for you, but my experience is extremely binary)

it was jarring to change my gender after identifying as nb for soo long. i almost thought it was because i hated myself and my body, so i was only happy that i was looking different, not that i was looking the way i needed to. i gaslit myself a couple times into thinking i wasn't seeing any changes too lol.

in the first month, my menses stopped, and a lot more changes happened fast lol, like my voice dropping, smells changing and getting stronger, and hair growing.

perhaps within the first two months my mood became majorly destabilized. i already took a lot of psychiatric medications on account of having bipolar type 1, ptsd, and a slew of anxiety disorders lol. but it was then i actually started giving a fuck about THAT, too. as it turns out, getting off some of those meds / lowering my dose made me felt 100% better (like i could actually sleep and think clearly for instance).

and testosterone is still treating me extremely well :)

i mean it when i say every single aspect of my mental health improved extremely in a short span of time. i didn't realize i didn't know what it was to be actually happy or even okay till then.

it's pretty expensive, but it's worth it. so is top surgery which i got super recently.

since starting T, i have been scouring reddit and other forums to learn from others' experiences. that's how i was so prepared for top surgery for the most part. and it felt rly odd for me to read of how some people were/are scared of regretting it, or soon after surgery feeling that way/depressed. because god i'm so happy (not that anyone is wrong for feeling the way i described). i feel so free. of course it's disabling right now, and there's pain, and blood, but that quite literally means nothing to me because my chest is right, now. i didn't underplay it when i said that it has always been the biggest/worst source of my dysphoria. if i got a chance to redo things, i'd do it the moment i turned 18 (if possible sooner).

i am currently in the process of getting my legal name changed / my sex changed on my ID. meaning i need to turn in the request lol. i've put it on hold for now so that i can heal👍

that's everything so far i think. i plan on continuing medically transitioning, prob w/ phalloplasty (meaning, tissue is taken from somewhere else on my body and creates length for a penis + urethra so i can pee while standing up lol). but that'll be when i've been on T for a year (since surgeons generally advise giving the dick a chance to grow as much as possible from T lol).

so yeah :)

#this is my experience so if it doesnt line up with you or your understanding dont come at me pls<3 #transgender #ftm #kane has mail #kore #trans man

[drdemonprince]

I've read you observed that when you're wordy you are congratulated and when other people (trans, black woman, etc) are wordy they are told they are being unnaprocheable. I think we can clearly see what are the biases at play, but i also find extremely frustrating this world of dumbing down complex topic. Granted i'm training to be a teacher so that's kind of my job, but sometimes i feel like as an autistic trans woman every NGO out there puts out pamphlets explaining the cishets NTs in a few words and i just feel a bit of anger. I spent years trying to learn and fit in this world, i don't care if an employer read a 5 page pamphlet with corporate cutesy illustrations on autism, Neurodiverrgence, or gender. I want them to fucking put effort on it, go read a book that explains things and our diversity on detail, I've had to do this all my life so i can get a semblance of functioning, NTs, cishets and other hegemons won't die if they have to put some effort on understanding us. I know i'm asking for too much, but sometimes you need to get involved in complicated things that you don't understand, I do it everyday, so if you are neurotypical and cis, please take the time because we don't have the privilige of being ignorant.

Yeah, I'm with you -- anti-intellectualism and symbolic self-congratulatory neoliberal identity based shit is a problem. But what i'm talking about is people like birlinterrupted on here being like "trans women face a unique form of oppression" and then repeatedly getting replies like WAT CAN SOMEONE SAY THIS IN ENGLISH PLEASe and shit. it's a real common microaggression ive noticed. especially among ppl who have a vested interest in not 'understanding' their own intersectionality and the privileges attendant to it. and very tied to the same anti intellectualism youre rightly concerned about i think

[azurlily]

My OCs!! Hope yall like them! If you have questions please ask!! There will be more coming in a 2nd post for the rest later!! You can request stuff for these bitches now. They're all kinda yanderes....

Scroll down to see all the characters.

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Aeris Liora

She/Her Lesbian Trans fem

She's the dark princess. She hides, normally, people don't see her out in the open. Many think it was because of her "change", (this is supposed to sound transphobic because that's in the eyes of the public) thinking that her parents are embarrassed of her.

How wrong they are. In fact both parents love their daughter, they've always wanted one. And because of that, they are more than willing to give her anything she desires. So when she begs for helps with her sex change, they are at her beck and call... When she sees a cute maid she likes, they're there.

You, a lowly servant, see her in her private gardens. At first, she's angry, afraid, scared. She starts following you, keeping tabs on you. She want to know everything about you.

When she decides to make you her royal servant. Essentially binding herself to you, she takes great steps to make you love her. Over time she finds herself begging her parents to make you her princess/partner.

Now you're in a hellscape that is her love. It can be salty, sweet, warm and loving, hard and scary. It can be so much and so little. Just remember she loves you.

Aesthetic board below

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Calypso

He/She/They Genderfluid Pansexual Asexual

They're from a world much unlike ours. She first meets you when you(a farm hand) find her asleep in some hay. He's scared when he first wakes up and so he's not all too comfortable being around you at first.

He understands some of your language. Giving him books helps him understand harder and more broken up words. It also helps them trust you more. They're a fast learner, much faster than anyone else you've seen. She helps out on the farm and adores the cows and horses the most.

You've learned he's able to change their hair length and body features. So some days there's titties, other days there's peck, some days it's just smooth skin.

After a month or two of being around you she starts getting "nicer". She finds herself watching you sleep, finds herself more and more interested in you. Until one day they mate you.

By that I mean they mark your arm. Giving you a marking that symbolizes their love for you. They're obsession starts there. They need you around them, and the few people that come by your farm...

They dont make it out.

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Keir Vesper

She/Her Lesbian Cis

She works in the mafia. Working for a very well know gang in the city, she knows many. You two met when she was out getting coffee with her boys. She tried flirting with you, but you ran away, uncomfortable. She didn't understand why and kept trying to flirt with you.

Couple weeks pass and she's there every single day. She buys the sam things and always gives extra tip. When she asks you out(on a day off) you accept. She takes you to a beautiful, lavish restaurant, you loved it and she starts taking you out more and more. You didn't know how deep her ties to the mafia were. Ehen you notice the little things she always has an excuse, always.

She isn't kind, no, she's a bitch. A hot, smug, traumatized, bitch. She adores watching and being around you, while she is scary and would hurt you.(not hard) She also spoils you, keeping you with her at all times. When you learns how deep her ties are, she kidnaps you. It's scary at first, but she's not a bad lover. She's more scared of you hating her then you'd think.

While you cant leave her, she does care and love you. Even if her love is rough and scary...

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Camilla and Cassius Malache

She/Her Bisexual Cis He/Him Bisexual Cis

The two of them are a package deal. Sugar parents, technically. You want one? You got the other. They're at the top of a crime syndicate, a gang, the mafia, what you want to call it. They're billionaires, and they think spending money on you is worth it.

You work for them at one of they're companies. It's just a front for a drug cartel, but about 70% of the people working there don't know that. They've had their eyes on your for a while. Finally they take you as their new assistant, and that's when you starts seeing the truth.

They don't hide it. If they want you, they need you to know and understand their world. They take you out, buy you things, do what you want. They will remind you what they are though. Not only your bosses, but your lovers. They're both gentle and rough, soft and sweet, but scary and dark too. They live to see you smile.

She will buy you lingerie and cute clothes. She adores making you wear things, wether you want to or not. She'll take you for dinner, and have you as dessert.

He takes you out to more interactive places. Wherever you want to go, he'll take you. Although, I'd watch my mouth if I were you. Slip ups are not tolerated.

They could do so much damage to your life. Just remember that before you go and kiss them goodnight.

#wlw #lesbian #bisexual #panseuxal #mafia #oc stuff #oc #poly mafia #poly #oc aeris #oc calypso #oc keir #oc camilla and cassius #im bad at tags #asexual #transgender #trans feminine #genderfluid #part 2 soon #princess #royalty #they're all kinda yanderes #women are hot

[astraltrickster]

I think the thing that's really interesting about the egg joke phenomenon is that...it speaks of a very SPECIFIC trans experience. Not an invalid one, but an EXTREMELY specific one. The overwhelming majority of people I see insisting on saying it are fairly gender-conforming, pretty young, mostly white, probably-more-online-than-average trans people.

Even when it's not explicitly claiming that any gender nonconformity will eventually "go all the way" - that any man who paints his nails is secretly a binary woman deep down, she/her exclusively, or that any woman who likes cars and keeps her hair short and finds her tits inconvenient is totally gonna be a binary man in 5 years - there's still the assumption that everyone who ends up playing with gender is gonna identify as A Little Bit Trans, and probably start taking hormones, and that's a neutral to good thing...

And, I can see how that SOUNDS like a progressive thing to say, when you spend a lot of time in certain online queer communities, where "trans people don't owe you perfect conformity to their actual gender" is almost as widely accepted as "the earth is fucking round", but internalized bias makes a lot of people still act like suspicion of being queer is some kind accusation of wrongdoing. I mean, hell, we're getting past the "born this way" narrative and talking more about how yes, SOME of queerness is about deep-seated identity, but SOME of it is also about pushing back against unjust social constructs, and that lowering the stakes of exploration will eventually make more people identify with queerness, and that's just a neutral statement of fact - by THAT definition, it's totally understandable where the jokes come from.

Problem is, most of the people pushing back against them AREN'T cis people insisting that "nooooo, it's MEAN to even IMAGINE that someone might be a FREAK like YOU"; they're OTHER TRANS AND NONBINARY PEOPLE pointing out how this can reinforce stereotypes that have been used against US. Who have been gatekept from actual medical transition because, just like the person you're calling totally an egg, we DIDN'T reject every single thing that brought us joy but wasn't wrapped up in the right pink or blue wrapper. Who have had their identities denied even within the community because, like, okay, but you NEED to pick a side you're closer to because we NEED to know how to pigeonhole you, on an individual level, within our theory of your societal privilege that other people constructed on a demographic-wide level and explicitly CAN'T apply the same way to every single individual ever, in large part specifically because of people who lie outside the framework-

And we cannot tell at a glance whether you mean it in that understandable sense, or the gender-policing sense that's queerphobic, misogynistic, usually even straight-up racist garbage used to demand men constantly prove themselves by aggressive repression of every emotion but rage, and gets butches attacked by terfs and their conservative Christofascist BFFs for "violating the sanctity of women's restrooms", or somewhere else on the spectrum such that CONSCIOUSLY you mean it in the understandable sense but you still have a good bit of subconscious internalized gender essentialism that you've just assigned to taste instead of body parts.

And YOU cannot tell at a glance if the "egg" you just spotted really is as cis as you think they are - they might very well be trans in the OPPOSITE direction, or some other totally different way than you're "predicting" them to be, and so you're functionally repeating the exact same "ugh, you're wearing pink, look at this faggot, man card REVOKED lmao // nooooo, you'll ALWAYS be your birth sex deep down, the fact that you don't hate EVERYTHING associated with it and can't shake that mannerism learned over a lifetime on day 1 out of the closet PROVES it" that's been thrown at us all the fucking time to deny us anything from social support to actual literal medical care.

In short, look, go ahead and make those jokes, but please do it in a constrained space where people are all known to be on the same page as you. There ARE valid reasons not to fucking want to hear people speculating openly about random strangers' private lives and deliberately misgendering them for a joke.

#internet culture #internet etiquette #serious tag #side note i hate how its ALSO impossible to differentiate at a glance between people who say ''trans and nonbinary'' #to INCLUDE nonbinary people who DON'T identify as trans #and people who say it to EXCLUDE nonbinary people who DO #i mean it in the former sense #to be 100000% clear #look im a little sick and i just saw a post about it and just ugh i hate the semantic gap #i wish we could communicate ideas telepathically

[cvntboyneedsfixed]

this is actually a rant bc tumblr is now reccomending me stuff from the landfill of the internet & i read it bc im a dumb bitch but like

terf rhetoric is literally so funny esp when they collab w/ cis gay edgelords on the internet making shit up about the scary trans mascs (including binary trans men) trying to rape gay men by deviously tricking them into having sex with a ✨ straight woman ✨

but reality (when you like, actually interact with people in real life & are part of yk, irl communities) looks more like:

straight trans mascs existing

t4t trans mascs fucking other trans mascs being the vast majority (counting myself among their number)

not to mention the absolute adoration every trans masc i know irl has for trans women & trans femmes

trans mascs being extremely cautious with cis gay men for obvious reasons

trans mascs on grindr very clearly declaring this on their account & still getting bombarded by chasers, bi men, & yes gay men too lol

tons of bi and pansexual trans people?? these ppl wanna call me a straight woman but then explain how i'm buried in both cock and pussy of all genders?? explain!!

my cis gay friends reading the nasty smut i write to help me nail all the dick on dick details i need (fun fact if you gotta improvise lube shampoo will make all your dick skin peel off <3 my bud apparently learned this the hard way lmao)

meeting my singular gay coworker for the first time and hitting up one of the local gay kink bars & comparing grindr profiles lol he is lovely

listen phallo is amazing and sexy but like not very common for obvious reasons (major surgery and healthcare is a fucking farce and etc etc)... how exactly are these mythical cis gays getting raped by deception?? did they come in eyes squeezed shut and fuck some trans mascs ass then afterwards get jumpscared by pussy?? or did they have to talk to someone they weren't attracted to for a minute or something lol...

Yes, all the men messaging me on grindr are definitely straight or pretending to be bi that's why they keep sending me videos of them sucking cock lol that tracks (like yeah I get chasers but I'm not fucking stupid it's easy to tell them apart)

"trans men are delusional thinking gay men will be attracted to them" actually we've all seen countless examples of the disgusting ways cis gay men treat women's bodies so we are very aware that that reaction is both probably & that the possibility of cis male violence is present like bruh

Also personal pet peeve is when they go on defending how gay men act disgusted by pussy & other afab body parts like yeah. You don't have to be attracted to it oooobviously, but having VISCERAL DISGUST AND HATRED towards the bodies of half the planet's population is actually not part of your sexual orientation it's still mysogyny <3

& it's ridiculous to lean into that ANYWAY because the huge majority of cis gay men i've met have been wonderful & many have been my closest friends in different periods of my life like pleaaaaase stop making them look bad it's slander at this point

anyway trans men i love you trans women i love you & we all deserve to find supportive community & love bc most people out there aren't fringe edgelords who can only generate dopamine by being cruel on the internet

[mouseratz]

also as far as hormones bc of the gender associations meaning not-cis people rarely getting them and/or that information not being widely recorded and shared......I'd say some of the little stuff is probably up for debate, at least as far as hrt. we still know it's generally safe in correct dosages sans specific conditions that could interact with them.

"does estrogen just make every kind of pain worse" id imagine for some people yes but for others it may make them feel better. It would Fucking Depend on what problems you have and how your body processes & interacts with it. so. I guess I just kind of worry that the "testosterone can help you with joint pain and fatigue and" could read as like. estrogen is The Devil Hormone and you're hurting yourself by transitioning from testosterone. which is most likely not the case (technically not impossible if you have unknown health conditions, but....anything can happen with any change y'know). it may not work out, sure, but for some people it still is going to be just fine or even Very Good. and you're not gonna know how it affects you until you've gone down that road already. kind of like how some medicines are exactly what you needed but for others it will make them super sick. the gender stuff is excellent but yeah it is technically medical treatment (just medication that has become like. extremely socially taboo and legally restricted for bigoted reasons not safety reasons). idfk I'm not a doctor so take it with a grain of salt.... but even then, some doctors don't know fucking shit about hrt because trans people are seen as an afterthought if thought of at all, or bias gets in the way of learning or knowing how to do their fucking job.

#i also dont want to equate transness to medical treatment. Its Not. #but HRT is. just like not the most serious deadly one transphobia makes it out to be #and not every trans person wants or needs hrt. #but it also follows so that i can absolutely see a world where some cis people would need HRT for medical reasons. #i mean theres already t and e treatments but usually not the 'opposite' of ur first puberty #you know what. you get it. whatever.