#ally smile

[alicec-666]

Not even gonna lie, I don't like how the finale of this little turned out, but eh, at least, the audio was worth playing with :D

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#gravity falls #bill cipher #bill cipher voice #original character #my oc #ally smile #animated art #animation #artists on tumblr #artists on instagram #artists on tiktok #artists on youtube #digital art #my art #alicec 666

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[saintforan]

Craftycorn has a gay radar and she found you within it

I needed a new twitter pfp lmao

#art #artists on tumblr #digital art #digital illustration #poppy playtime #poppy playtime 3 #poppy playtime chapter 3 #smiling critters #craftycorn #shes an ally #and gay herself ofc

[mendokayalways]

rewatching neverafter and during THE stepmother scene im obsessed with the various stages of WTF from the intrepid heroes

meanwhile emily axford is in the most 'thats gnarly bro' moment of her life

#neverafter #intrepid heroes #dimension 20 #siobhan thompson #ally beardsley #lou wilson #zac oyama #brian murphy #emily axford #smile of the devil you never believed in #iykyk

[beaulesbian]

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this whole part of ylfa and the big bad wolf’s conversation from the beginning of the episode!! rollercoaster of feelings once again thanks to emily’s incredible character acting ♥

#from the storytelling point of view to ally/timothy plugging his ears not to hear the secret #to murph smiling at em lol so cute #just how emily plays ylfa!! #neverafter #neverafter spoilers #dimension 20 #long post #ylfa snorgelsson #the big bad wolf #the big bad wolf neverafter #emily axford #brennan lee mulligan #brian murphy #ally beardsley #d20 #d20 spoilers #dimension 20 spoilers #mine

[samijey]

why are they always like this.......

bonus Jey responding with some serious "i love you // i know" energy:

#sami zayn #jey uso #samijey #wwe #kevin owens #wweedit #stuff i made #he's just like me fr #don't think i need to tag the codester here #this ain't about him #he's an ally tho he'll understand #dude who responds to “i'm happy for you” with “that's true”??? go to jail with your leia/solo bs brooooo #also sami is talking about something that was traumatic to them both and my dude just looks at him fondly and cracks a smile #and if that's not love then i dunno what is #does anyone even read these why do i bother writing them #these wrestling gays have me screaming into the void i hate it here #even kevin was sick of their sh*t at that point

[knightscanfeeltoo]

Bandana Dee protecting a Waddle Dee who can't Defend Themselves...

(if only nendoroid bandee could stand without any support...)

#waddle dee wednesday #bandana dee #bandana waddle dee #waddle dee #bandee #kirby #kirby star allies #hal laboratory #nendoroid #kirby and the forgotten land #good smile company #spear #bandanawaddledee #waddledee #bandanadee #wanya #nintendo #kirby super star ultra #kirby super star #photography

[object-yaoi]

Would u do AM in any form with stickers. He hates it but actually likes the affection....

OF COURSE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

#hes so silly. smiles #allied mastercomputer #am ihnmaims #ihnmaims #objectum #os/or #i love to draw am as a MASSIVE tv screen in a fleshy room #or a fucked up obelisk #mine #asks

[jimmyspades]

#his happy handsome smile :) #james spader #alan shore #boston legal #* #going to bed early tonight bc this week is so busy love u <3 #i'm going to a concert and one of the band's songs is such an alan song to me. do you think they'll play the alan song for me... 👉👈 #do you think alan likes concerts. in that one ep he mentioned radiohead which was so crazy I can't believe he knows what music is #I think he sort of implied he'd BEEN to a radiohead show wtf... #so much of alan we don't get to see... like when he said he has season tickets to bruins games. wtf you love hockey? who are you #and james loves live music SO much I think alan would have to too. I just realized this scene he's watching a band play LMAO #for once my tags are relevant to the actual post... in a roundabout way... #anyway. i'd go to concerts with him i actually can't even imagine what he'd be like but the thought makes me wanna cry. allie bear #and hockey games. hold his hand when i'm cold sharing popcorn and soft pretzels. he probably has a jersey... he gets so into it silly guy

[allyheart707]

You're great

No YOUR great

#thank you for this Anon #not feeling to well today #so this made me smile ^-^ #ally asks #ally rants

[alicec-666]

"Unhappy campers"

Seen the new episode of HB and couldn't resist. I loved it so much! Also, human form of Barbie rocks! Not talking about cross dressing since it's already hot on its own

#helluva boss #hb spoilers #helluva boss s2 ep5 #barbie wire #hb moxxie #hb millie #cross dressing #hb fanart #original character #oc insert #ally smile #artists on instagram #artists on tumblr #digital art #my art #alicec 666

[demadogs]

gonna say it again, REAL PEOPLE CANNOT BE QUEERBAIT. QUEERBAITING IS A SHITTY WRITING TACTIC FOR FICTION. SOMEONE JUST BEING THEMSELVES IS NOT BAIT FOR ANYONE.

#god people are fucking dumb #this is about jenna ortega #if her way of coming out is just seeing a lesbian flag and smiling and pointing at herself then good for her she doesnt owe anyone anything #also like what is the bait if its a real person?? its not like queer people would stop liking her if she was straight #whereas in fiction a lot of queer people wouldnt watch a show that focuses just on a straight couple #so like HOW CAN A REAL LIFE PERSON BE QUEERBAIT??? ARE YOU FUCKING DUMB #jenna ortega #wednesday #gonna tag byler too im honestly surprised ive never seen people claim noahs baiting #and finn cuz all his characters are queer at this point #people on twitter probably do #mlvns probably do in an attempt to look like an ally #byler #i see this with taylor too god everyones chronically online

[lildreamycyclone]

By damm headcanons

Bruh :3

#smiling critters #catnap #dogday #craftycorn #picky piggy #bubba bubbaphant #hoppy hopscotch #kickinchicken #bobby bearhug #poppy playtime #straight ally #pansexual #bisexual #transgender #lesbian #headcanon #my shit

[chimera-klown]

A bunch of doodles I did for both fun and TikTok.

#gregory horror show #deltarune #paper mario #nexo knights #yume nikki #hylics #homestuck #smile for me #off game #hlvrai #kirby star allies #the upturned #a hat in time #doll eye #undertale

[laddertek]

I got into tangtho so quickly after being obsessed with decked out 2 and finding your blog was a godsend 🙏 thank you for all your work

aaaa thank you this makes me happy!! I'm so glad you're enjoying them too :D ty for dropping this ask 🤗 DO2 is such a golden age we're living in right now fr <3

#I'm so glad I started posting about them. getting to see other people love them too #and if people can find a post they can point at and go 'yes!' or just smile at then that's great 😁 #I appreciate you ty #speaking of people finding them through DO2 though. I'm kinda wanting to find and reblog or post stuff from like. the stabby streams. like #do people know about ''I would like to take this moment to defend Tango. My queen! She is innocent. Or he is innocent.'' #(''Still voted for me...Tango...My queen I accept your judgement!'') #or when etho started singing to tango 'stuck like glue me and you' from *checks notes* austin and ally?? #sidebar but that song is so them lmao if I could edit I would edit tangtho to that song #tangotek #tango tek #etho #ethoslab #tangtho #hermitcraft #decked out 2 #hermitshipping #asks

[asynca]

Anyone who’s interested in ‘Australia’s Stonewall Moment’ will be interested in reading about the ‘78ers: the first marchers in what they coined the ‘Mardi Gras’ which turned violent after police blocked them off and began to violently arrest people. 

Tonight, 45 years later, Sydney hosts World Pride 2023 and the 45th Mardi Gras parade and it’s a huge celebrated event. 

We’ve got a long way to go - but we also need to celebrate our tenacity, our survival and how far we’ve come. 

#Sydney gay and lesbian mardi gas #Australian history #australian queer history #mardi gras #I've been in the parade twice and loved it both times #absolutely electric with ONE MILLION PEOPLE lining the streets to watch #broadcast on TV #everyone was cheering and singing and dancing and I'm getting literal tears thinking about myself as a queer teenager crying alone in my bed #this was a truly coming of age moment for me #stepping out in the streets to be celebrated for who I am #I still remember looking at the smiling cheering faces of queers and allies in the crowd #and feeling so very much at home suddenly #amongst people who accepted me