#all women are valid

[waldo-n-mitchel]

Strong women, Mens problem with them?

Okay, I have a clear, concise, almost quantifiable reason most men don't like Strong Women. For now lets just say I only mean women with very muscular physiques. Why do men feel uncomfortable with them? Its perfectly simple. Insecurity. They think a woman shouldn't be stronger than them, fitter than them, more muscular than them. Now lets expand upon this. Why do men also feel insecure with very intelligent women, very successful women, very strong women across the board of types of strength. Want an example? Why do men over the age of 18 and even into their old age call women “Girls?” Because they look down on them. They think of them as weak, frail or in general below them. Don't believe me? Just look at masculinity, especially toxic masculinity. Point Made. If you agree, if you disagree, all I’m doing is positing a theory. I would love to hear your thoughts, ideas or just a comment. Thanks folks, this has been my ted talk, now I'm going to take a nap. 

#strong women #muscle women #fit woman #professional women #intelligent women #ALL WOMEN are valid #thoughts #opinions #theory

[officesuppliez]

trans rights african forest buffalo I love you

#trans rights #trans #transgender #african forest buffalo #bovine #digital art #I am a #non binary #:] #trans also falls under #genderqueer #such as #xenogender #agender #and more! #you guys are all valid #trans women #trans men #love you guys

[utilitycaster]

In all seriousness, I think one of the most obvious parallels from past campaigns to Imogen is Caleb, and while I've talked about the reductive ways people have interacted with Caleb in the past (Sad Boy hours and whatnot) it is frustrating how Imogen is so frequently denied the same complexity. Caleb was traumatized, and lonely, and nearly friendless but for one person he'd met under difficult circumstances some time before joining the larger party, but he was also (for the most part) allowed by the fandom to be exceptionally violent and brutal in combat; to be angry at all the time he had lost and at the people who'd taken advantage of him; to have possibly questionable goals; and to, at times, work against the better interests of the party in service of his own priorities. He was allowed to fall down and look ridiculous and to be immensely powerful but he was also allowed to be far more than that dichotomy. And, most importantly, and to be fair this was somewhat more hotly contested, he was allowed to claim responsibility for his actions and to exist in a space where he was both a victim of manipulation and willingly made his own choices based on that manipulation, and still be worthy of a heroic status.

Imogen is so frequently denied these opportunities and this complexity- and not by her detractors, but by her claimed fans. She's allowed to be a failgirl who falls down the stairs and she's allowed to get the HDYWTDT but she's not allowed to be the person who deliberately triggered the traps to light up the rivals during the museum heist. You can't explore how cold she is to her father or how she grants her mother undeserved leniency - that's unkind to Imogen. She's not allowed to bear partial responsibility for how people in Gelvaan treat her, even after she nearly killed several of them. She's not allowed to have powers that are a liability or that intrude upon others' privacy; it's only allowed to be explored as her pain and nothing more. Her petty and bitter asides are either made out to be badass mic drops or conveniently ignored. If she wants to explore her darker tendencies it's bad unless she's doing it with Laudna in which case it's good. Her powers have, understandably, left her with fascinating gaps in her communication skills, which is a great point to be made about psychics, but that's neglected when so many people act as if it's everyone else's responsibility to accurately interpret her. It's impossible to explore how her worldview is often very focused on herself without a strong sense of the larger picture - not even self-centered, though it can be, but often merely limited due to her own sheltered experience - because within many fandom circles, every other character's morality is judged based on how far backwards they bend to accommodate her.

#caleb widogast #imogen temult #critical role #critical role spoilers #i think there are valid reasons to say. like imogen but not caleb. but there's also a lot of not valid reasons. #anyway. i said this elsewhere but female characters are allowed to be keyleth or delilah #but nothing in between. if you fall in between you are pushed to one end or the other by people who claim they love women's wrongs #it is ngl wild to see people throw keyleth under the bus though. i thought that might be the limit but apparently not #to be fair people also managed to do similar flattening to keyleth too...very wow look at this complicated woman! she has all two emotions!

[radsplain]

"the problem is men, not trans women!"

ok but what is a man? what is it about this group of people that makes them a problem? is it the identity of 'man' that's the problem? and if all men stopped identifying as men would the problem go away?

#self-id is rotting your brains #this also reminds me of the posts i used to see like 'i hate ALL men and YES that includes trans men!!" like lmao #what the hell are y'all even on about #breaking your backs bending over backwards to validate grown ass men as 'women' #and throwing actual women (afabs) into the oppressor class to keep the “logic” consistent. how embarrassing! #gender lunacy #self-id #radsplain.txt

[hattiestgal]

Huge Women are so cool and awesome and I am blessed to live in the same world as them

#hat talks #this can be interpreted in many ways and pretty much all of them are valid #because all of them include some degree of big women

[rollercoasterwords]

yeah u can put "i hate jkr" and "fuck terfs" in ur tumblr bio but. can u listen + reflect when a trans woman criticizes hp fandom without immediately getting defensive.....

#if a trans woman says 'my firsthand experience with hp fandom is that it's transmisogynistic' #in what world is the correct response to get angry at her and demand that she reassure u that not EVERYONE is transmisogynistic in fandom.. #like either a) u have not been transmisogynistic in which case...just keep scrolling #or b) u have been transmisogynistic in which case. u should take such posts as an opportunity 2 reflect on ur own behavior #and whether or not a or b applies to u is a personal evaluation for u 2 make privately #but EVEN if u feel the post does not in any way apply 2 u. it's still good 2 reflect!!! we are all participating in a fandom #that is tied inherently 2 a virulent transmisogynist #the least we can do is be vigilant in our personal circles + spaces abt transmisogyny..... #also personally. i think trans women can say whatever they want about hp lmao #especially on their own personal tumblr blogs that u can very easily just block if it's so upsetting 2 u.... #anyway. valid critiques and criticisms of hp fandom exist + part of being in this fandom in 2023 is accepting that imho #txt

[stuckinapril]

Absolutely nothing beats getting complimented by drunk girls at a club.

#was waiting in line to a club last night & out of nowhere this girl comes up to me and my friends #and she looks at me like ‘ur so beautiful.’ and I was like omg u too!!! #and then inside two girls come up to me #and one of them is like ‘ur gorgeous. like ur stunning. i hope u know that.’ I was SPEECHLESS I love women #a third girl was like ‘wow ur curls are so pretty’ which is the one way compliment to my heart #meanwhile last night I was out w a big group of guys/girls and all the guys managed to get on my nerves at one point or another throughout #men. #i luv girls as long as I’m validated by them I’m happy #p

[bonebabbles]

average day in the tiktok warriors fandom

he's. he's literally described on the page as enjoying the feeling of making cats viciously maul each other. He gets "validation" for his feelings constantly through Gray Wing and his other sycophants kissing his ass, and still maliciously and intentionally torments them. He beats women and children for telling him no

What they want is BREEZEPELT. This describes BREEZEPELT. BREEZE. PELT.

The cat who is ACTUALLY reprimanded by authority for being angry all the time?? The one whose dad screeches at him for having basic needs?? A character who is explicitly shown to be manipulated by an evil force because they're the only ones who validate his feelings??

THAT Breezepelt?? Ringing any BELLS?

Lemmie guess. Tiktok probably doesn't like Breezepelt much because if you acknowledge that he's a child abuse victim, you can't keep woobifying Crowfeather into a sad boy. Lol.

#INCREDIBLE briainrot on tiktok #Clear Sky literally has a scene in Book 2 where all his cats gather around and validate him #During that speech where he decides to steal more land by killing more natives #Frost is one of them and then he still shoves Thunder's face into his wound so he ''knows'' why Frost needs to die #Clear Sky is CONSTANTLY getting his toes sucked and having people tell him he's the bees knees #You see he was just slaughtering indigenous people and beating women and children because he's sad :( #How dare you call him a heartless monster he's just angry :((( #(Meanwhile Clear Sky is in the background slobbering over a young woman with traits that remind him of his kid) #Re: the simple truth that people are more interested in sorrowful abusers than messy victims #Because that's what Clear Sky and Crowfeather are. And they will DESPERATELY find ways to woobify them further #so that they can keep ignoring the children they abused.

[hoolay-boobs]

“What do you mean there’s still so much biphobia in fan spaces? Bisexuals are like some of the most popular characters!”

Yeah, and they either get treated like this:

Or like this:

“Biphobia isn’t real” neither are your braincells

#bisexuals deserve better #biphobia tw #biphobia #bisexual #bisexuality #listen not to post this rancid post on bi visibility month but part of bi visibility month is venting about biphobia and that’s okay #long tags #bisexual characters are constantly branded as either gay/lesbian or straight because bisexuality is constantly branded as never good enough #yes harlivy are sometimes fetishized by men who want to get off on seeing girls smooch. yes sometimes these men are the writers of dc #no they do not make up 100% of harlivy content. no gross men drooling over harlivy doesn’t immediately make harlivy straight #harlivy have had queer female writers before. a huge portion of their fanbase are queer girls #just because they are occasionally festished doesn’t mean that they aren’t good bi rep #I see where this person is coming from but no. bc REAL BI WOMEN get festishized by men and that won’t make their sexuality any less valid #would you tell these real girls that they’re actually straight since ‘sapphicness isn’t sapphicness once it’s taken advantage of by men’? #glimmer lesbian content makes me sad bc it’s not even like interpreting harlivy or korrasami as lesbians assuming all wlw is solely lesbian #but also erasing her entire romance with bow. degrading it down to comphet and ignoring bow #like I can at least understand mistakening poison ivy for a lesbian but glimmer?? glimmer??! #biphobic #biphobic tw #bisexual hardships #korrasami #harlivy #glimbow #bi #fucking essay in the tags

[benveydraws]

i can't love you in this skin

#twittering birds never fly #saezuru tori wa habatakanai #suggestive #<- jic #interpret this as you will #there's A Lot about gender and yashiro's relationship with gender and heteronormativity especially in relation to doumeki #he asks him what type of Women he likes. they only watch m/f stuff together. “i wonder if he's gentle with women”. #the anger and disappointment when he realizes that doumeki is actually attracted to him #unless he's remembering something that happened he only fantasises about doumeki with a woman and not with himself #(same was with kageyama iirc) #except for that kiss in the elevator but that's a whole other conversation. and even then there was a woman present #he even tells kamiya that doumeki is basically straight and he's just a rare exception #yashiro's is so so desperate to push doumeki towards a “normal” life #aka not in yakuza. not with him. in a normal (straight) relationship #just. a lot of self hatred and internalized homophobia #all that being said. i think regardless of the author's intent reading yashiro as a closeted trans person is also valid #the “i could never afford myself to reflect on this and i also don't care enough about living to even bother atp” type of closet #would it contradict some of the things yashiro says? sure. but he contradicts himself all the time #am i projecting as someone who will live and die in the closet? sure #i think it's interesting that the only person who genuinely asks him about gender is ryuzaki #in the same conversation where he asks him about falling in love #and yashiro's response is basically “it wouldn't change much” and “i'm fine with what i have”. are you tho #there's a lot i can say about yashiro and aoi and yashiro and ryuzaki's girlfriend but i can't articulate it well rn so whatever #the way dumeki's lie about dating a woman affects yashiro is also interesting regardless of which interpretation you go with #which is also why i'm using post time-skip for the art. the topic keeps popping up #but yeah uh. take it as you will i just have a lot of feelings about. This #art tag

[grimstrawberry]

Rose's theory is that Light players are predisposed to it. Vriska doesn't like it very much.

#Homestuck #Vriska Serket #Rose Lalonde #VrisRose #My Art #being a lesbian with mommy issues is just wow you struggle with your relationship with feminity and you need validation #that comes from women youre trying so hard to relate to youre trying so hard to be like them #and you see that youre lying to yourself and you see that youre turning into your mom and you hate it #and you see the damage #HM #and it's completely irreparable and youre picking up all of her dangerous habits and ITS AUGAHHHAHHA #ANYWAY LESBIANS W/ MOMMY ISSUES RISE UP??

[utilitycaster]

"if one of the WOMEN made this decision she'd be LAMBASTED" we had like three months of discourse because Liam said that Orym gave a slight nod in Laudna's direction. He once had to edit a playlist because people were so nasty about him including a song about unrequited love for a woman that happened to be performed by another woman it was easier to just take it off. I have a growing gallery of screenshots of people openly calling not even the characters but the actual men of the cast assholes for some of the most banal choices, many of which are maintagged. We are currently on day 4 of debate over whether Ashton is a horrible manipulator. Again, I'd love to have a serious discussion of how real world misogyny especially in the earlier years of the show might impact who feels able to make bold and risky moves, but it's not really possible to have that when someone's bemoaning the hypothetical crucifixion of one of the women in the cast as they're actively hammering nails through one of the men.

#the youtube comments from 2015-2017 are awful but black heart purple hearts are the most toxic fans currently and it's not close #at least in tumblr and twitter spaces (reddit might still be full of misogynistic dudebros idk) #cr tag #again it's like. if you want an all female cast for an actual play that's completely valid. #why are you watching the 5 men and 3 women cast of critical role though if so.

[radsplain]

people hate lesbians. PEOPLE HATE LESBIANS!!!

#i hate hate hate hate HATE #and i don't buy that all of these ppl are only upset bc goldstar lesbians 'brag' about never having slept with a man #(they're probably not even 'bragging' and are just being projected onto) #but i genuinely think ppl are uncomfortable at the prospect of a lesbian knowing she's a lesbian from a young age #and choosing to never sleep with a man #this is obviously not to say 'late bloomer lesbians' aren't 'valid' or whatever #but the reality is most of these girlies calling themselves lesbians... are not #ESPECIALLY when i see shit going around like #'well the lesbian masterdoc said that if i'm only attracted to male CELEBRITIES it doesn't count because they're unattainable 😌' #like bestie if anything doesn't that mean you AREN'T a lesbian? #it's common for OSA women to 'let' themselves be more openly attracted to men they'll never meet irl #not being instantly attracted to men you see walking around irl is very common for OSA ppl because most know what men are like lmao #anyways tangent but goldstar lesbians get behind me #lesbian #lesbophobia #radsplain.txt

[petrichara]

See, you can critique most things, and some of those criticisms are completely legitimate. But if you’re only hating on the things teenage girls care about.. maybe you just hate teenage girls

#like I actually don’t care because you’ll listen to a man rant and rage for five minutes about Taylor Swift #and then start lauding over some sex trafficker #wild you can excuse sex trafficking but draw the line at annoying #once again #there are valid criticisms for almost everything but if you’re only focusing on one target when that criticism applies to everything else… #consider whether it’s all about hating women #and whether teen girls are the funnel for it

[poorlittleyaoyao]

Grammar/etiquette questions!

1.) When you’re talking respectfully about the Chief Cultivator in the third person rather than addressing them directly in the second person, would you say [surname]-xiandu (the way you’d say [surname]-zongzhu), or just xiandu?

2.) If addressing an unmarried but definitely adult woman who’s not granny-aged, is she -guniang or -furen or something else?

#I have no headphones and am in public so I can’t pull up a video to listen for it #7seas does this weird thing where they use the honorifics half the time and translate them into English the other half of the time #so all the possible permutations of ‘brother’ are just transliterated (valid and correct) #but all the titles of address for women get rendered in English as ‘Lady’ or ‘Madam’ #and (inexplicably) they keep using ‘uncle’ until they eventually give up and go with jiujiu and shushu midway through Vol. 2 #which like. still better than Netflix but otoh at least Netflix was consistent in its manner of badness

[lesbiansanemi]

I hate self proclaimed “queer theorists” on this stupid fucking website because 90% of their posts are like “All lesbians are terfs because gender can change which makes sexuality obsolete so that means lesbians automatically hate trans ppl <3 What about gay men you ask? No, it’s different, don’t ask me to elaborate <3 Haha I love trans women so much *insert most insane transmisogynistic take three lines down* And this is all real and true because I am a boygirl fagdyke and I said it is !!!!! Btw if you argue or point out any flaws here it’s because you’re an awful evil gate keeping exclusionist >:( Peace and love go firebomb a Walmart” and then somehow the post has 563782922992737228 reblogs of ppl agreeing

#also if you look at their blogs you can usually scroll for less than five minutes before finding something racist too #and something aphobic #I need to stop venturing into tags jfc I cannot take this stupid fucking website anymore #you’re all like ‘yayyyyy gay ppl! trans love!!!!! not lesbians tho 😡’ #and then think installing shinigami eyes is the best thing you can ever do for trans women #I hate it here #sorry tried going into some tags to try and find more ppl to follow cuz my dash has been kinda dead #and stumbled a post that was like ‘it’s perfectly valid and okay to be DISGUSTED by lesbians btw <33333’ #and I lost my mind #kaz rambles