#advice needed

[tumbler-polls]

Advice with Tumbler Polls

Anon said: Hi guys, this question may be a bit niche and unusual, but I really gotta ask someone. So, I'm a very anxious and socially awkward person, but there's a concert by a band I like in my town, and I decided to go. I don't have friends or family members who are into that kind of music, so I'll be there by myself. Now, the thing is, I'm a bit of a lifeless person, not visibly enthusiastic. I'm afraid I may be sorta killing the vibe with my presence. It's a small venue and I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable, questioning why I'm even there. So I keep wondering, should I go, or should I stay at home? Would you be mad if you went to a concert and there was someone sorta giving Darcy at the ball vibes?

We got a few such questions (i.e., asking for advice), so let's give it a shot. Feel free to expand on your answer in the comments / tags ⬇️

#music #concert #social anxiety #advice needed #tumblr polls #tumbler polls #submitted by anon

[ass-sassafras]

Okay, so I'm definitely asexual because I don't desire sex and I don't want to endure it for someone else's benefit even if I love them.

I also don't want someone sleeping in my bed or making decisions for my home or kissing me. I don't want to share every meal with someone or have someone around all the time talking to me and needing me to engage with them. So I think I'm definitely aromantic as well.

However, I DO like the idea of cuddling on the couch watching a show while it rains outside, going on little trips to the store together, holding hands while we walk through a carnival, sharing inside jokes and laughing on the phone together, sending memes to each other. Taking care of each other when one of us is sick. Cooking meals for each other (but not all the time and no expectations). So what the fuck do I want??? Do I just want a best friend who has their own life and hobbies without me who's also okay with physical touch but no sex or kissing? What is that? Do I try to get a friend who somehow is exactly like me so they don't try to turn it sexual or romantic?

I'm so tired of trying to figure this shit out. I need to live alone and have lots of quiet time, but I also want someone to talk to or hang out with sometimes. I don't want to feel forgotten by the world but I want to be left alone when I need it.

Someone please help me figure this out.

#asexual #aromantic #relationships #aroace #advice needed #aspec

[lvst4lifee]

KINKTOBER 10.10

kink : face sitting, untouched cumming, cum eating, subby!izzy, fem!dom summary; izzy's home from tour and all excited to taste you again.

------------------------------------------------------------

He sat on his knees trying to make his way closer to her damp cunt, she pulls him away again, hand fisted tightly in his hair.

“Lie on the bed, on your back.”

He’s never once been able to disobey an order she’s given him, so he does as she says, only pausing to slip his shoes off, still fully dressed.

He tries to make his way closer to her damp cunt, she pulls him away again, hand fisted tightly in his hair.

“Lie on the bed, on your back.”

He watches as she stands, and then slowly slides her knickers down her long, beautiful legs, and then she climbs back onto the bed and straddles his hips, carefully sliding the straps of her bra off before unhooking it. It’s a torturous striptease, because izzy knows that if he moves, if he tries to touch her, he won’t be allowed anything at all - not to touch her, make her come, or come himself.

After she’s finally free of underwear, she moves further up his body, straddling his chest, and looks down at him, pinned beneath her, and smiles. “Do you want to make me happy, izzy baby?”

He nods. “Yes.” It’s possibly the most honest thing he’s said all day, after a day of meetings and interviews. All he wants right now is to make y/n happy, however he possibly can. He’ll fuck her, if she wants, or finger her, or kiss her, or make an absolute fool of himself if it makes her happy.

“Good.” She shifts again, this time so that she’s sat only inches from his chin, and she moves so that her cunt is directly over izzy's mouth. She looks at him, waits for him to nod, and then lowers herself so that her centre is pressed against his lips. She’s warm and wet.

Izzy swallows and tentatively touches his tongue against her, and then licks a broad, wet stripe over her cunt, listening to the hitch of her breath again, the one that tells him she likes it.

“Good boy,” she praises, and he tries not to moan, but he can’t help but feel some satisfaction from it. He tries not to focus on how hard he is, on how much he wants to fuck her. This is what will make her happy, and so he focuses on that, on bringing her as much pleasure as he can with his mouth.

He knows that he’s being a little overeager while licking and sucking at where she’s most wet, occasionally flicking his tongue against the bundle of nerves that he knows is sensitive.

He hears breathing begin to grow ragged, and he’s tempted to suck hard, to press his tongue inside her and make her come, but y/n is the one in charge here, and so when she says, “slow down”, he has no choice but to obey. She wants the pleasure to last, he knows this, wants them to take their time

She strokes her fingers through his hair as he licks at her with broad strokes of his tongue, no finesse or grace or clever tricks, and she smiles down at him. “ so good .” It’s praise and admonishment all in one, and something a little pleased and sour curls in his gut. He wants to do better for her, wants to make her happy, and so he does as she directs, listening to what she says, and to the cues he’s learned to read in her body, the way she tightens her thighs round his head slightly whenever he flicks his tongue against her clit, or how she presses down against him when he pushes the tip of his tongue inside her.

“I have an idea,” she says with a smile, and he’s intrigued. Her ideas are always intriguing, if sometimes a little painful or humiliating for him, like when she tied his hands together and made him cum over and over for an hour after he came without her permission. She lifts off him, so that there are a few inches between them, enough for him to suck in a breath of air that smells like her. “Take a breath.”

He doesn’t question her, simply breathes in, and then tries not to exhale immediately as she presses back down against him, and begins to slowly and carefully grind herself against his lips. He makes a noise of surprise that sounds like a muffled moan and simply encourages y/n to grind against him even more.

With y/n grinding against him, most of her weight pressed against him, izzy begins to find it a little hard to breathe, and he realises why she told him to take a breath. He flattens his tongue and licks a broad stripe over her cunt once again, before pressing his tongue inside her, licking at her wetness, pressing in deeper, trying to see if he can reach inside her to that spot that makes her moan and clench down on him whenever he fucks her. His mind is already a little foggy, but he wants her to grind down against him even more, wants her to clench her thighs round him and make it almost impossible for him to breathe.

y/n must know what he wants, because she presses down against him, hard, cutting off his air as her thighs tighten round his head, and she bucks, carefully, against him, and then that’s when he feels her wetness spill into his mouth. She comes with his tongue inside her still, squirting all over his mouth and his lips, breathy little moans spilling from her lips as she takes her pleasure from him, using him to satisfy herself. Her fingers tangle in his hair and pull sharply on the strands, and he laps everything up that she gives him.

He can’t breathe, not really, and it feels so good. There’s a moment of panic, a frisson of fear flowing through him, before it fizzles out as he simply focuses on swallowing her cum, bringing her pleasure, making sure he worships her as she deserves. Just as he thinks he might pass out from lack of air, his vision blurring at the edges, his thoughts becoming slow and hazy, she lifts off him, and the rush of air has the most strange effect of tipping him over the edge and making him spill in his pants.

Once she’s finished taking her pleasure, she has him lick her clean, pulling at his lip so that she can see her cum on his tongue, and then she makes him swallow it all. She runs gentle fingers through his hair as he laps at her soaked cunt and damp thighs, murmuring words of praise as he does so.

As soon as he’s done, she lifts herself off him, ignoring his noise of protest, and she cups his jaw gently, pulling him in for a slightly wet and sloppy kiss.

“Well done, izzy.” It isn’t patronising or insincere, and he stretches and feels pleased that he’s managed to bring her pleasure, to make her happy.

"always such a good boy for me"

A/N:

idk if this is good or bad but idk how to start or end things so sorry😭

im still sick bro and i have been sick so many times this year. I was on new meds for stuffff a while ago and they made me sick after a while being on them like every day after i took it i couldnt eat my stomach would hurt i'd get light headed and dizzy ect so i was taken off of them and since i had been steadily on meds for that problem i wont say bc im not comfortable talking abt it i had to be taken off slowly yk yk and had really bad withdrawls that was "only gonna last for a week-two" it was two months. Every now and then i start feeling like how i did then but im on no medication anymore except for what i was given for the sickness i got but im feeling just as bad if not worse now does anyone know anything abt that and why i still get that type of stuff (and chest pains) i desperately need advice.

#izzy stradlin #kinktober #day2 #advice needed #smut #guns n roses #oneshots

[acrossthewavesoftime]

Dear fellow costumers, does anyone have tips on how to do a ca. 1800-1805-ish woman's hairstyle using medium-length hair that looks suitably 'period' and does not involve me fully committing to the bit by cutting my hair à la Titus or getting bangs (both of which would be great for the one evening I need the hairdo for, but... not so much thereafter)?

Looking for period hairdos (and people who did them) online, a lot of what I can find in terms of instructions either looks very 1810-onwards, so somewhat too late to match my gown, or is 'Bridgerton-themed' (which, to clarify, is exactly what I don't want my hair to look like, ideally).

A low bun would probably do the trick, but I'd love to know if anyone has any more original ideas, tricks, or tips. Those would be greatly appreciated!

#my first ball is approaching and while i have everything else this is still a concern #costumers #historical costuming #regency #empire #19th century #costuming #costumeblr #advice please #advice needed

[mx-jester]

so I've only recently begun my medical journey about my possible disability, and I'm hoping anyone with a better understanding of all this could give me some advise.

I don't have any professional diagnosis yet, although I've been using the term chronic pain & Fibromyalgia given that's what's most likely and what my experience has ben compared to the most. I'm set up to see a physical therapist at some point, and am able bodied. I'm still new to the world of having a disability, I never though it was abnormal.

I don't know if ill end up needing or wanting a mobility aid, the closest experience I have with them is older family members who don't like using their aids or using a pair of axillary crutches. I don't know what I can do to make my daily life at least a little better, I would like to be able to be more comfortable in life.

if anyone has any wish words for me, or any tips, or anything at all that you think i should know please do.

#text post #text only #disabilties #disability #disabled #chronic pain #chronic illness #chronically ill #chronic fatigue #fibromyalgia #fibro things #fibrolife #fibro problems #newly disabled #newly diagnosed #spoon theory #no spoons #spoonie #advice please #advice needed #advice welcome #tips #life advice

[shinjisdone]

In need of insight for Ticking Springs...

@greeknerd007 , @mitsureigen , @kame11a , @thirdblogsacharm , @sarah22447 , @blueberryhitosh1 , @written1nthest4rs , @huicitawrites , @wonderlace19 , @cronicallyonline

I am a bit at loss of how to approach the next chapters since there is one big thing and I don't know how to go on with it...

Imagine being Geppetto's niece and him wanting you to continue his 'project'. The one thing he aimed for and he makes it very clear to you how utterly important it is.

You feel sick, the world spinning as you doubt your uncle's sanity and trust more and more the longer you look at it. He demands it.

What on earth would make you agree to build a puppet that looks like your deceased cousin?

What would you think could he a good reason to he coerced to it no matter how frightened you feel? 🤔

Please comment or DM me!

#lies of p #lies of p fanfic #lies of p x reader #advice needed #fanfic advice #i am left a bit empty-headed #ticking springs

[etherealspacejelly]

ok gang very important question. i really dont like tony stark and he is. kind of an asshole so far in my fic. do i give him a redemption arc or just have him be mysteriously absent until the plot demands that he be there

#fanfic #fanfiction #advice needed #polls #tumblr poll #marvel #marvel mcu #marvel fanfiction

[rapidpunches]

Does anyone know from experience firsthand or third (like from someone you know) what a disabled person without Section 8 should do when they get evicted? Before you say friends and family, assume there are none. Where should they go or how should they start getting help before the 30 days is up and they aren't able to find a new apartment?

#advice needed #portland #oregon #signal boost after this week also ok

[blusical]

Hey Hockey fans! I wanna do a bit of research for an infopost I'm considering making. So here's a genuine question because I've been thinking about it for a while: When a player, especially one you've admired for a while, is revealed to be someone problematic (bigoted, abusive, or just a questionable history in general), how do you approach that (Especially when it comes to fanart, fanfic and just... generally posting about them?). Approaches can range from anything from ceasing about posting them (outside of occasional reblogs) or continuing to post them but adding a disclaimer. Additionally, what advice would you give to new hockey fans regarding such players? Hell, I'm actually interested in some advice as well, considering my own habit of posting problematic players (something I admittedly feel slightly conflicted about, especially as a young hockey fan who's still learning about the sport and it's culture).

Tagging for reach: @catboygretzky @hard4softthings @saucerfulofsins @sergeifyodorov @tapejob

#song:serious #research #opinions needed #advice needed #hockeyblr #hockey blog #nhl #hockey #hockey culture #problematic athletes

[butch-with-a-deep-voice]

This is sorta concerning the last post, but I've been having an internal dilemna of "am I really bi?".

With women and sapphic non-binary people it's just. Effortless? It feels natural, and attraction can be so fast and it just feels right. I watch/read romance, and it's the sapphic romance that causes yearning. When I imagine myself with a vague idea of a partner, it's sapphic. Not necessarily femme, butch, etc. But certainly sapphic. It's never men.

Like all the cis men I've been attracted are fictional, or the femmiest of femboys ala Finnster (who has come out as not really cis anyway). And IRL its realistically just been two trans men, both of whom I started relationships with when they were still identifying as butch lesbians (which lemme tell you, this internal struggle is coming with its own guilt. Was I lying to them? Can this even count as lying?) As I grow to love myself more without judgment, and listen to my gut I need validation from others less as a baseline. And I'm noticing that with that, "attraction" to men is fizzling? I'm finding myself wondering am I really bisexual, or did I just enjoy the validation? Being trans I can't really claim "comphet" or anything akin to that. But I'm stuck here.

If there are any lesbians/sapphics who started off believing they were bi and are willing to share their experiences that'd be neat and appreciated.

#maybe im overthinking it #advice needed #sapphic #wlw #lesbian #bite me #nonbinary #nblw #butch #futch #femme #queer #trans #trans lesbian #transfem #trans femme

[leiyahime]

Spinning question?

So I have this 2 ply handspun I'm semi-content with. It's already washed and thwacked, but recently I had the idea to ply it with itself again and turn it into a cable... How is the success rate? Since it's balanced now I guess plying it again as it is is a bad idea. So I was thinking about adding a little more ply-twist as in putting it on the wheel again counter-clockwise with a bit higher tension to not add too much additional twist and then turn that into a center pulled ball from which I try plying it again clockwise. I've never tried making a cable yarn and this wasn't initially planned as one so I don't expect a perfect outcome, but would this work? But I need thicker yarns for my nalbinding endeavours... I'm just insecure xD

#fibre arts #hand spinning #plying #question #advice needed #spinning wheel #spinning #yarn

[naidje]

Partner is thinking of getting a wheelchair

She's been struggling with CFS/ME and long-covid for a while now and it's gotten to the point where she's pretty much completely bed-bound. She can't even sit for very long without pain. 😭

So yeah, we're looking to maybe get a wheelchair for her so that she can regain some mobility. Get around the house easier, and go out for some fresh air once in a while, instead of just being stuck in her bedroom all the time.

We don't know that much about wheelchairs tho. We'll probably want something foldable and lightweight, but beyond that we have no clue what to look for.

So I'm wondering whether anyone has any advice, or resources they could share that we could use to orient ourselves about this stuff.

#disability #chronic illness #wheelchair #mobility aid #advice needed #help #long covid #cfs/me #chronic pain #chronic fatigue syndrome #myalgic encephalomyelitis

[dyspunktional-revan]

Mobility aid advice wanted.

________

Tl;dr: chronic pain in both legs, currently a cane user but supporting one side is not always enough, also have chronic pain in both shoulders and can’t put work on them.

________

I have chronic pain in both my knee areas, plus some other weird leg stuff.

I currently use a cane, alternating between which side currently hurts more. But sometimes they both hurt too strongly, and sometimes I even actually have to put more weight on the leg that currently hurts more because something else makes walking with more weight on the leg that currently hurts less harder.

I also have chronic pain in both of my shoulders. I can’t use the grater, for example, recently stopped cutting vegetables for food prep too because pain. So I’ve known for many years that if I ever need a wheelchair, I’ll need a powerchair, because I won’t be able to self-propel on the manual. Several months ago I had an acute illness that made my leg pain much worse, I was very barely able to walk, and the force I had to put on my shoulders at the side holding the cane gave me so much shoulder pain. For what this post is about I was thinking about forearm crutches, but realized they might put the load on the shoulders too.

#mobility aid user #cane user #chronic pain #disability #disabled #physical disability #physically disabled #dyspunktional #crippled #cripple #crip #disabled community #disability community #visible disability #visibly disabled #mobility aid #leviathan.txt #advice wanted #advice needed #food mention #disabilityposting

[voidwithtoomanygooglyeyes]

Tips for dealing with unmedicated ADHD?

Hi, I'm going into uni this year, and I need some advice on how to deal with unmedicated ADHD because it greatly impacted my last two years of high school to the point I almost didn't pass some of my classes, and is impacting my day-to-day life in negative ways.

#adhd #neurodivergent #advice needed #audhd

[ass-sassafras]

So... now that I've been single for good for a while, my armpit hair has reached epic lengths. My burning question, Tumblrinas/rinos, is how in the fuck do I find deodorant that:

- is cheap

- works well with hair

- won't make me smell like a dude

???

I'm currently using that crystal mineral deodorant because I don't like fragrances besides maybe coconut, and after doing no physical labor and working in a cold office all day, I definitely smell.

#asexual #aromantic #feminism #advice needed

[niminarii]

BEGINNER AT SEWING! HELP

Hello!! I'm a beginner at sewing, but I really want to learn. I have upcycled a few things using my sewing machine, so I have some knowledge. I think I want to become a costume designer as I'm super interested in historical fashion. I'd love to make a piece from either the 19th century or early 20th (idm what years), please leave some recommended projects for beginners!! eventually I want to make a whole ensemble <33 ALSO if anyone has advice on knowing how much fabric to buy for certain pieces and general advice on patterns and measurements it would be greatly appreciated!! I'll continue to post my progress here ^^ (im also new to tumblr so advice on that is also appreciated LOL)

#sewing #historical fashion #fashion #costume design #costume making #beginner sewing #advice needed