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yesterdaysprint · 2 months

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The Handbook of the Man of Fashion, 1847

#1847 #1840s #victorian era #etiquette #advice #victorian #historic #history #vintage #young men #young man #youth #young adults #loadstone #lodestone

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itgetsbetterproject · 4 months

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Widsom for coming out to Black or Brown elders or family! 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈

Bc sometimes their instinct to protect or "shield" us in their own way can get in the way of how we would actually be best supported.

Tips from Shannon and Anjna on our TikTok!

#it gets better #queer youth #lgbtqia #black and queer #brown and queer #coming out #coming out advice #holigays

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odinsblog · 9 months

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This resonated with me sO hard, because I’ve been here on tumblrdotcom for a good long minute now, and I’m always amazed at the absolutely drop dead gorgeous people who lament about their looks—especially women, non-white women and people who identify/present as women. These people aren’t fishing for compliments, they’ve somehow been genuinely convinced that they’re mid when they are everything but. Look, I understand that society and unrelenting, aggressive capitalistic marketing contribute to this, but please dO appreciate yourselves and what you have now. Your youth won’t last indefinitely. Eventually it will pass. Fuck the haters and enjoy whatever you have while you still can. Carpe diem. Carpe diem at every age, but especially now, today.

#advice #life #milana vayntrub #carpe diem #self love #psa #tiktok #protip #enjoy your youth while you still have it #im literally thinking of one particular blogger but i wont mention her by name bc i think i weird her out when i bring attention to her

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uncanny-tranny · 10 months

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To parents of trans kids who are scared of their kids facing transphobia:

Don't force your child out of being trans. Don't force them to detransition. This is not how your child from facing transphobia. Realistically, you are pushing them toward more dangerous situations because they will be desperate to find acceptance from anywhere they can.

I can't imagine how it feels to be a parent and worry about your child's safety or life because they are trans in this world. You have my full sympathy. While I can't speak from the experiences of a parent, I can speak from the experiences of a trans person who was once a child and why the above line of thinking is dangerous.

When I came out as trans, there was a huge proportion of time where my dad was very resistant to my transness. I couldn't understand why, but I believe part of why he was so resistant was because he was afraid somebody would assault or kill me because I am trans. That is a huge burden for him to think about. However, he went about this (valid) fear in a very destructive way.

He threatened my transition, he threatened to force me to detransition, and he threatened a lot of things. I retreated away from him, I couldn't talk to him about anything. I felt confined, unaccepted. I am lucky my friends and school were accepting, because I was vulnerable. Others haven't been lucky - so many people in that position have been taken advantage of by truly evil people.

You might think that you are protecting your child by making them appear cis, but that isn't how that plays out. Your child won't feel accepted, and chances are that if something horrific happened to them, gd-forbid, they won't come to you about that. This isn't protection, and I am sorry to say that. I am sorry that this isn't simple.

Here is how you can protect your trans child:

Make it clear you support them

Teach them self-respect, and how to listen to their gut feeling

Teach them appropriate versus inappropriate ways people can interact with them. Make sure they understand what harassment and abuse can look like - verbal, physical, and sexual

If you are still concerned for their physical safety, sign them up for self-defense classes

Leave the floor open for them to express how they are feeling and what they are thinking. Be non-judgmental when they are upset or worried

Please remember that trans people are painfully aware of the consequences of being trans in a transphobic world. Hell, one of the first trans people I learned about as a kid was killed as a result of a hate crime. We are aware of the world we live in. We have to live with that knowledge, and that is why it is imperative that you allow your trans child to express who they are and how they feel. You very well could save them by doing so.

We protect trans youth by empowering trans youth.

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our-trans-youth-experience · 8 days

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This trans youth sent his ask to me via message but has allowed me to share it incase it helps others. Thank you anon :)

Anon: "hey i was just wondering if you had any advice for me. i am a teenage transmasc (not entirely sure about my identity yet) but have been experiencing massive dysphoria around my name and chest and stuff. i cant come out to my parents as they are very transphobic and i may end up being disowned. i feel as though i am trapped in this situation of not being able to come out but unable to be happy like this. i am very sorry for the rant hope you have a good day."

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hey welcome :)

I'm also a transmasc kid in a very similar situation to yours, in fact almost identical, so I can relate.

A few things i recommend:

- If you are friends with some people at school you know will be supportive, maybe try come out to a couple of them MAKING IT VERY CLEAR THAT YOU ARE NOT OUT TO ADULTS/YOUR PARENTS. It's not much but being called a preferred name and pronouns by even only a couple of people can make a huge difference.

- If you are able to buy your own clothes or choose what you wear (I am not), I recommend using clothing to express yourself and hide your chest. Layering with thinks like jackets and flannel shirts are a great option as they hide your chest and look quite masc. Additionally, i recommend t-shirts with those big, thick plasticky printed designs on them, as they don't flex very easily hiding your chest a little. Straight cut jeans can help hide curves if you get dysphoric about that. And if all else fails, a big hoodie hides everything

- if you are not able to get a haircut and have long hair, i recommend tucking it in a hat like a beanie to give the appearance of short hair. If it is long enough, you can even flip it over and make it look like a sort of fringe.

- If you wear makeup, or are open to doing that, there are plenty of masculine makeup tutorials out there which can really help make your face appear more masc

- In terms of a binder, I assume that like for me that is not an option. However, layering sports bras can be alright for now. Just make sure to be safe with it, don't size down, and stop if it restricts your breathing at all.

DO NOT attempt to come out to your parents if doing so may put you in any danger. When you are an adult, you can leave home, transition, and be happy. It will get better, I promise <3

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kitsune-kaos · 2 years

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New glasses came in!!! ✨🥸💕

#thanks to all who helped with recommendations on which frames to choose!!!#went back into Lens Crafters to try them all on again and got the worker’s advice too #she made a good point that their round wire-frame glasses are all smaller frames #knowing I inherited a big head I took that into consideration and tried them on again and it turns out when I’d look to the side I’d look…#…right passed the lenses haha. so I decided on these ones with the wider frame ☺️ and the shape is funky and unique which I enjoy #and with the anti-reflection coating they really just blend into my face v nicely #me #selfie #gay person of youth

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emblazons · 2 months

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I would personally like to thank all the gen x and elder millennials who allowed me to be the “kid” in all of my favorite fandom spaces 15+ years ago because lord knows if I was anything like the youth in some of my newer fandoms I should have been blocked by at least 2/3 of my faves

#I think there was a whole other rule of law in fandom back when I was under 18 honestly #and honestly in my very early 20s too #because the idea of yelling at my faves for being creeps for talking to me about a video game #while encouraging me when I had a test or even giving me advice when I asked for it?#none of them talked to me about anything that I wouldn’t tell my kid sister EVER. and they reminded me to be safe too! they were great!#now tho…everyone is super suspicious of everyone while treating the internet like their diary and it’s insane #…I feel so sorry for the young ones. I really do LMAO #(grateful I was trained to both not give every single detail of my life and mental illnesses away online)#(while also not being paranoid that everyone over 18 was going to do something inappropriate)#(it’s reversed now and the youth are SO MUCH WORSE for it)#….I may have aggressively dated myself with this but LMFAO the people should know I am not that young by now #the me tag

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typewriter-worries · 1 year

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Advice, like youth, probably just wasted on the young, Mary Schmich

[ Text ID: Don't be reckless with other people's hearts. / Don't put up with people who are reckless with yours. ]

#advice like youth probably just wasted on the young #mary schmich #my upload #literature

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kyngsnake · 4 months

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At this rate Jack and I have worked so much non-canon material into Wes and Avery’s plotline that we might have to make another original setting to better utilize all the concepts we have.

#but ain’t that just how it goes #fuck around with an established universe so much that the story you made is better off in an original setting #‘how do I make this idea I had fit the fallout setting…’ make a new setting #built to accommodate that idea #my advice to the youth is to marry the person you make OC nonsense with #Sidenote tho Wes and Avery’s fnv plotline isn’t going anywhere.

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liquid-queer · 2 months

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Today, one of my friends, a great dude who is not mean to people nearly ever and if anything is more nice than half of our school, was surrounded by a group of people. His deadname was screamed at him and they kept poking him. He now has a hurt shoulder and probable bruising due to how hard they were hitting him. And why did they do this? Because he’s trans. Because he’s not Christian. Because he is an easy target. You wanna know what happened to those who did it, mind you we only know one of the four because I wasn’t there and our other two friends only recognized one of them, but guess what. THEY WEREN’T PUNISHED! NOTHING HAPPENED, THEY DIDN’T EVEN GET A “Stern talking to”! I’m livid. You wanna know what that was? Assault. Complete with physical evidence. I am going to try to take them to court. Especially if the school doesn’t do anything. That was a hate crime and he didn’t even defend himself. He couldn’t. This is Florida for trans people. This is how we allow ourselves to be treated. I will be taking the evidence of his bruises(only with his consent of course) and with any witnesses I can find. If anyone has any advice I’d appreciate it. At the least I’m getting them suspended.

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espectres · 3 months

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so tempted to add npcs. extensive ramble in the tags.

#I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN. the urge is just worse now #ofc i had to be thinking abt smthing like this at the start of my FINALS MONTH. HHHHH #but anyway this will happen. probably. eventually #Shou's lackeys have too much of an influence on him idk why but i want this fact TO SHINE AND BLIND EVERYONE #becuz im constantly screaming this kid was not raised by parents he's raised by ppl #and it's the sole reason why he's so down to earth and so aware and so human unlike his tyrant of a father #but that doesn't mean that it was all entirely good #BUT SHOU IS A GOOD KID!!!! HE HAS A GOOD HEART !!!!!! and that's all thanks to experiences and advices and all sorts of #wackey nonsense he's been thru while being a part of claw #and it wouldn't have been the same without his team who weren't really different from him #just a bunch of ppl forced into a really bad place. even if it was a choice at the start for some of them #but that doesnt mean they dont deserve a chance at change and a better life away from the nightmare called claw #god.... goddddd #its just shou & his ppl & the horrors beyond ur comprehension that they faced everyday #and after all is said and done they ALL have to deal with it. HAVE TO LiVE WITH IT. on their own. no longer together..#ショウ ; i realized that youth is grey. / headcanon.

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itgetsbetterproject · 8 months

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Back-to-school tips for LGBTQ+ youth from a QUEER TEACHER!

It's that season, y'all! 🍎✏️ So we asked queer 8th grade English teacher Sarah from Memphis, TN what tips she would share with LGBTQ+ youth going back to school:

Look for supportive adults.

Is there a teacher always sporting a pride pin? Are there safe space posters hung up in their classroom or pride flags displayed? These are strong indicators that adult will affirm and uplift your identity. If you are unsure but want to test the waters, ask an adult what their pronouns are. Judging by their response and if they return the question, something small like this can help you determine if they are a safe person.

Find a queer-affirming club(s) at your school.

Does your school have a GSA or diversity club? Consider joining to build a supportive community and form connections with people you can relate to. If your school does not have a pre-existing club, consider finding an adult advisor to help and start your own GSA. Find more tips on how to do so here: https://gsanetwork.org/resources/10-steps-for-starting-a-gsa/

Trust your gut.

If you don’t feel safe in a situation, trust your instincts. If possible, remove yourself from the environment and ask for help; know that it’s ok to not share your identity with everyone, especially if you feel they are not a safe person. Conversely, if someone does make you feel safe and loved, believe that feeling too. You are in charge of who gets to know you.

Check out YA books exploring queer identities.

An amazing way to learn more about queer experiences is to read about them. There are countless young adult novels and graphic novels that can help you better understand yourself and others. Titles like The Lesbiana’s Guide to Catholic School by Sonora Reyes, Taproot by Keezy Young, Out of Character by Jenna Miller, and Mooncakes by Wendy Xu and Suzanne Walker are all great stories to explore. For a more comprehensive list of LGBTQ+ YA books, visit https://www.nytimes.com/2023/06/15/books/review/lgbtq-ya-books-authors.html

Seek social support.

What would life be like without friends? Although you may not click with everyone at your school, you are not alone. LGBTQ+ people are everywhere, even if it’s hard to see sometimes. Find friends who support your identity or are a part of the community as well!

Remember! You have every right to be exactly who you are.

You are the only person who can define your identity. The terms you use to refer to yourself can evolve over time, or can remain the same, but as long as it feels right to you that’s perfect. Believe yourself, and do not doubt your worth. Growing up is a difficult process but remember, it gets better.

Read it on the blog itgetsbetter.org too!

#itgetsbetter #queer teacher #gay teacher #lgbtq youth #queer youth #trans youth #trans kids #back to school #back to school advice #coming out at school #lgbtq advice

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passing-the-cis-test · 2 months

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Introduction!

Hi everyone! I'd like go make a few well known points on this blog, such as its purpose, what it includes/will eventually, rules, and a little bit about myself.

Origins/About the Admin

The admin uses he/him pronouns and will use the online alias of Red.

This account was born from a conversation between a good friend of mine and I. I, a trans boy, have had to do so much digging and so much research, discreet things that transphobic parents won't approve of, and dove through so many loopholes that made my journey through gender dsyphoria and discovering my identity so much easier but so much harder at the same time.

I thought that if I used all that I had gathered and put it all on one platform, specifically focusing on that one thing alone, it would give other people out there what I didn't have. A bit of ease through what is already such a tough journey.

JUST TO CLARIFY!!:

This blog is safe for all umbrellas of queer or straight origin.

This blog is safe for everyone.

This blog is NOT trying to "convert" people. The "transgender agenda" that transphobes seem to stamp all of us with is nothing more than wanting to be ourselves and feel comfortable as who we are.

If you are uncomfortable with this? Please, feel free to leave. I never asked for transphobes here and I certainly don't want them to stay.

This blog WILL be providing tips and tricks for all the handsome young boys and demiboys, beautiful little ladies and demiladies, gorgeous genderfluids, incredible enbies, and all of you wonderful somewhere-in-betweens!

Just what are these tips and tricks?

Tips and tricks will include how to pass as what society deems feminine or masculine.

I do not judge if you know you are a boy and want to be feminine, I do not judge if you know you are a girl and want to be masculine.

This is not meant to enforce society's ideals of the gender separated stereotypes, but rather showing you what those are and helping you present when in an unsafe space or an unaccepting space.

But what about asks and messages?

Please do not be afraid to shoot me a message through my inbox! Anonymous messages are completely acceptable and I am fully willing to answer any questions I can.

Don't be afraid to ask overly specific questions either! It could be an advice box if you need it :)

No transphobic or homophobic asks will be tolerated. You will be blocked, reported, and never seen on my blog again. This goes for transphobic jokes, memes, news articles, claims, scientific reports, etc.

THIS IS NOT A VENTING BOX!! I'm sorry in advance to my loves who are struggling with their lives right now but in order to help you if you submit an ask in the ask box, I must answer publicly. If you need to vent, don't be afraid to send me a message. :) I am here for you all and will listen to you all.

The admin of this blog does cope with ADHD (attention deficient hyperactive disorder ie. brain zoomies zoomz and cannot focus well, gets off task easily) and autism (ie. help me with social cues please I do not understand neurotypical people) so if you could use any of these codes at the beginning of a message I would greatly appreciate it!

(vent) - you would like to vent [ this is a rather general one ]

(help) - you would like advice with something included in your message

(word vomit) - you would like to rant about something in a negative way, like you had a bad day and need to get it off your chest

(rant) - you would like to talk to someone about something good or positive that may have happened :) THESE CAN BE SUBMITTED VIA ASKS IF YOU'D LIKE TO! this kind of ask will be included under the tag #trans positivity and will be made public to spread some hope and joy :)

What will this blog include other than just advice?

This blog will include all sorts of things, pertaining specifically to transgender people, regardless of transition status 🙏❤

This is a source of information, an outlet, and a friend to go to if you need a little boost.

Remember that I love you all, and you are all good people. No matter what others may say to you.

(P.S. please don't be afraid to repost screenshots on pinterest or other websites, I want this to reach as many people as it can 🙏🙏 this blog is only meant to help)

#trans rights #transgender #passing the cis test #trans youth #gender identity #lgbtq #lgbtq community #presenting tips #trans tips #trans advice

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uncanny-tranny · 6 months

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I don't necessarily buy into the idea of love languages, but I think figuring out how you show your love to others can be such a great idea.

I've learned that I show love through gift-giving and creating things with my loved ones in mind. While this won't be compatible with everyone, the core of why you like expressing your love in particular ways can help you explore how to expand on how you express it.

I think this is important because I think we should strive to be adaptable and to understand ourselves as deeply as we understand the people we love. By getting to know yourself, you can how to appreciate all these qualities about you

#advice #relationships #this goes for ANY TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP #i have always expressed my love in the same way no matter who it is - because i love them #i used to buy my friend flowers when i had no classes in high school #(funnily enough i'm not a huge fan of recieving gifts myself. i would rather be giving them)#inspired because i just gave my dad a gift the other day and i felt so fulfilled and happy #i've gone so long without giving a gift that i felt morose. and now i feel rejuvenated :3 #i'm thinking about what gift i could give next #i've been talking a lot about crochet to my dad so maybe after my next project i could find something to make him #after my hoodie i wanna make this freddie fazbear beanie. i thought it was HILARIOUS #bruh i took sewing classes as a youth and i made a stuffed bear and gave it to him. and the bear has no eyes and he STILL HAS IT 😭#this bear is almost ten years old and he still has no eyes gd bless 😭💀💀

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ara-line · 1 year

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PSA for younger people here:

Be careful with posting personal information. It's very easy to find info on people these days. There are whole websites (Radaris, Spokeo, MyLife, etc.) where you can find out basically anything about someone's life. Marriage records, birth certificates, addresses, you name it. (This is especially true if your name isn't a common one). I can do it just by looking someone's name up. I can find out information about your family members' lives just by looking you up. Even if a couple is divorced, it isn't hard to find information about their ex. Especially if they have kids. That's how much I can find just from having certain information about you yourself online. This is also why I suggest looking yourself up online so you know what's out there.

So keep this in mind when you post personal information online. It is not hard to find out information about someone's life at all. As I tell my sister, if you are going to post something dumb online, at least don't use your real name and use it on an account that doesn't include a lot of personal information.

#internet safety #privacy #social media #internet #youth #advice #tips

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dearreader · 8 months

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i love the whole being a 20 year old teenage girl trend cause i relate to it in that im 24 and gave my own car and job and ability to take myself places but i had to lie to my mom and tell her i would be going to the maisie peters concert with my friend cause i live with her and i won’t be back until like 11 or something

#i literally texted my sister for advice #but i do also like the trend of woman holding onto their favorite parts of youth and refusing to stop liking things cause of their age #like yes! we still love friendship bracelets and big poofy ball gowns #just now we have careers #kelly babels

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