#abusive behaviour

[furiousgoldfish]

You try to confront an abuser about some heinous shit they did and they'll be angry that you REMEMBERED it. Like it's your fault for forgetting to follow the secret code of "if it makes me look bad it didn't happen".

#abusers #abusive behaviour #psychological abuse #revisioning history #to edit their own social image #gross behaviour

[nothing0fnothing]

There were adults in my life who recognised that my home life was chaotic and tried to be a person or provide a space I could feel safe in.

There were other adults who recognised that my home life was chaotic and decided it would be funny to just make it worse.

I wish I could just speak to one of them right now as an adult. Tell them that I know they knew, because everyone was talking about it. They knew I was a sad kid who went home to a sad life and they thought to themselves

"you know what would be funny? If I made this pathetic little kids life a bit worse. They already don't feel safe at home, how great would it be if they got to dread coming to my class too?"

What sad fucking people.

#emotionally immature parents #vent post #toxic parents #complex trauma #parental abuse #abusive behaviour

[zoeykallus]

Hey, um, so I'm the anon who asked about the helping the teenager in the bad situation. I wanted to tell you that I'm ok! I'm not in an abusive situation, or ever was. I'm honestly shocked that you took the time to answer that 😅 and that you were so concerned, people usually aren't. But I just wanted to tell you I'm ok, and thank you for checking in. 😊💖

Very glad and relieved to read this 😅 My apologies, I just wasn't sure. Sometimes the one or other ask makes me worry for people 😅 Okay as I promised, you get your HC's 😊

The Bad Batch Headcanons - Reacting To Abuse Of A Minor (Teen)

Warnings: Angst/Hurt/Abuse/ Strong Language

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Abuse comes in many forms. It's not just, physical/ violent or sexual, there is also verbal and psychological/mental abuse. If any of you reading this may feel like being in an abusive situation, reach out to someone around you, an adult you trust. Teachers, neighbours, other none abusive familiy members or parents of friends. Ask them to help you reach out to the proper authorities, you don't have to do this alone. There are hotlines for this kind of thing too, you can find them online. There is no need to be ashamed, it's not your fault.

Summary: For a little while now, at a store near Cid's bar, they witnessed a young teen getting treated poorly, abusiv by a parent. At one day it's just to much to ignore. Here is each batcher's reaction....

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Hunter

He can sense and smell the fear and the unease of that shaky, nervous kid. Never making eye contact, always ducking the head, quiet. He doesn't like what this looks like. Hunter saw new bruises when a sleeve slipped up as the kid worked in the shop. He sighs, feeling uneasy himself. How could he help? Seeing the father, who works the counter, talking down at the kid and the kid ducking like a beaten dog is too much, Hunter snaps.

"Hey asshole!"

The man is looking at him, surprised, a little angry too, but mainly surprised.

"Is this how you treat your own child?!"

Hunter leans on the ounter, both hands down, his look so piercing it could burn holes into dura-steel.

"Next time you think about raising your hand or voice against the kid, you are dealing with me"

"This is none of your bus-"

Hunter grabs the man's collar and pulls him half across the counter.

"I made it my business, if you like it or not"

He's not making empty threats, Hunter will have an eye on the situation whenever he can, even asking Cid to get involved when he can't be around. And he will keep his promise to deal with the man.

Echo

He's angry, grinding his teeth. He thinks that piece of bantha crap shouldn't even be allowed to be around kids, let alone have any. Every time he enters this shop, he feels an uncomfortable tingle under his remaining skin. Seeing that kid, with bruises, the way the kid moves like a beaten, scared dog. It makes him very uneasy.

He didn't really plan to say it out loud at first but he does.

"What kind of person beats his own kid like that?!"

The man behind the counter, the father of the kid looks up, critically. Echo can see he weighs his chances of beating him. A part of Echo hopes he tries so he has an excuse to beat that kriffin son of a bitch up.

But he doesn't.

Later that day, Echo want's to talk to the kid alone.

"Hey kid", Echo approaches the teen who looks up at him with big eyes "If you ever need a place to retreat or need any help, come to Cid's bar. You know where that is?"

The kid nods.

"Good. Now do you see that Omicron shuttle back there on the landing station?"

Another nod.

"That's my brother's and my ship. Whenever you see it and need help, that's another place you can go to"

Echo smiles softly and adds, "Don't give up on yourself kid, it's not your fault"

Wrecker

He can't understand at all, why anyone would hurt their kids, in what way ever. Any kind of abuse is a riddle for him. Wrecker just thinks people are supposed to love their kids and he's not wrong. Whenever Wrecker is in that shop, the father sitting behind the counter, is talking down on his kid, who's doing all the work in the shop. He saw the bruises too. The first time he didn't think much of it. Kids get in troubl sometimes. But by now he knows what's going on and it makes him sad aswell as angry.

He frowns looking down on the man behind the counter.

"Feelin' strong beatin' up your own kid?"

"What?"

"You heard me", Wrecker grumbles.

The man is looking up at Wrecker, he won't pick up a fight with him, he knows that. But he wishes he would.

"Now listen you little shit! If I see any new bruises or hear about you treatin' your kid badly again, I'm coming over and the two of us will tango a little. Got that?!"

The man is not responding, just staring up at Wrecker with clenched teeth.

Wrecker looks at the kid.

"Hey kiddo, if you ever feel like gettin' out of here, go to Cid's and tell her to give you a room. Tell her Wrecker sent you, I'll pay for everything okay?"

The kid blinks, nods meekly and whispers, "Thank you, Sir"

"Nah, don't 'sir' me kid, I'm Wrecker"

Tech

Calm collected Tech may seem a little aloof sometimes, because he's constantly lost in thoughts and calculations. But he is anything but aloof. He's deeply compassionate and sympathetic.

He didn't completely miss what's going on with that kid, but the extend just hit him right now as he sees the bruises on neck and arms. Dark blue, purple and red spots. Weals in places where the child was probably beaten with a belt or similar.

Tech frowns, he's not talking to the man behind the counter, he approaches the kid right away.

"Good morning", he says, friendly with a little smile.

"Morning"

The answer is quiet and careful.

"May I ask how you got hurt?", he asks directly even if with a soft voice.

The kid looks up at the tall man, then to the father, back and forth.

"I fell"

The man in the backround says, "Yeah dumb kid has two left feet"

Tech shoots the man behind the couter a dark sideways glance. Before smiling softly at the kid again.

"Those are not wounds of a fall. You sure you don't want to tell me? Maybe I can help you"

A head shake and the kid hastily looks at the ground.

Tech sighs and walks over to the counter.

"You are beating your child, aren't you?" Tech asks.

"Even if so, what's it to you?"

"I don't like it"

"And what you gonna do about it huh?"

Tech sighs, "Getting myself into trouble I guess"

He picks a device from his belt and shocks the man behind the counter who hits the floor hard.

Tech looks at the startled kid.

"Sorry you had to see this"

Tech puts the device into the kids hand. He explains how to use and charge it.

"I can't do much else aside from offering you to come to Cid's and let me and my brother keep you safe. It's your decision. Until you decide, that device should keep your... father at a distance"

"My father will get his friends and come and get you", the kid warns.

Tech smiles, "That's okay, I'm not alone"

Crosshair

Chewing his toothpick he walks into the shop. He's not surpised to see new bruises on the kid. The man behind the counter, the father, always get's nervous when Crosshair walks in, getting super polite and friendly. Maybe it's that little something sinister that he seems to emmit, that stern, gloomy look. Always critically and quiet.

The kid doesn't dare to really look at Crosshair either. The sniper walks up to the counter, it's the first time he's speaking.

Crosshair is speaking low and snarling,"Do you wanna die an agonizing, slow death?"

The man behind the counter blinks. Looks up at the Sniper, gulping.

"No.... of course not"

"Then stop treating the kid like crap"

Crosshair's look burns into the mans face.

"Understood?"

"But-"

"Did you understand what I said?", Crosshair interrupts.

"Understood...."

Crosshair nods, bends over the counter, coming intimidatingly close.

"Good for you. If I have to hear or see you treating the kid badly again, I'm gonna take my time treating you like you deserve. Never forget that"

Ko-Fi (If you feel like giving me some coffee)

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[faerieforestcat]

I always used to think that I could find protection with my big sibling.

Whenever out "parents" screamed at me, blamed me, insulted me, whenever I fought with someone, or was just having a bad day in general and felt like shit.

I thought I could confide with my sibling and tell them my problems, how I felt and ask them their opinion. And when their answer was something apathetic or told me "not now, tell me later, it was your fault, what do you want me to do? I can't do anything, suck it up", but that time later they gave the same answer, I tried to justify it. "Maybe they're busy, maybe it's not a good time, maybe they have a good reason".

It's incredible the ability the mind has to try to justify actions and edit memories to make it seem as someone else is not a bad person, just to hold on to hope.

But it's more incredible the huge whiplash the realization gives you that you didn't only have abusive "parents", but an absent sibling. Even worse when that sibling it's the "golden child".

Growing up thinking that even if you didn't have good parents, at least you had a good big sibling, who would protect and care for you, only for it to turn out that you didn't even have that:

In the end, you were alone all this time.

#bad parenting #toxic parents #child abuse #emotional abuse #toxic people #toxicity #toxic siblings #toxic brother #family issues #abusive parents #abusive family #manipulative parents #neglectful parents #parenting issues #parenting fail #abusive behaviour #mental abuse #verbal abuse #narcissistic mother #narcissistic father #narcissistic parents #narcissistic sibling #narcissistic brother #mommy issues #daddy issues #sibling issues #brother issues #trauma #abusive sibling #abusive brother

[lgbtq-archives]

#lgbtq #older gay men #older gay #gay over 60 #mature gay men #gay community #religious guilt #religious abuse #abusive behaviour #homophobia #homophobic #religion #Youtube

[atheostic]

God fits 15 red flags for an abusive relationship (1/3)

1. Controlling your appearance

God has lots of rules regarding what you can and can’t wear. Some of the rules include: 

That you must wear tassels on the edge of your clothing (Numbers 15:38, Deuteronomy 22:12)

That you can’t wear polyester blends or other mixed fabrics (Leviticus 19:19, Deuteronomy 22:11)

That you can’t trim the edges of your beard (Leviticus 19:27)

2. Punishes animals and children cruelly and doesn’t seem to care aout their pain/distress

God killed every child on Earth as well as most animals through of one of the worst ways to die (I’ve nearly drowned before – believe you me, it is not a pleasant way to go).

God also killed children and made them suffer when he sent pestilence to the people of Egypt as one of the “miracles.” 

God also killed all the firstborn children of Egypt as punishment for someone else’s actions (Exodus 12:29-38), and he punishes people for the actions of their ancestors up to the third and fourth generation (Exodus 34:7).

3. Preventing you from using birth control or pressuring you to become pregnant when you’re not ready

God punished a man for not finishing inside his sister-in-law (because the man didn’t want to impregnate her). (Genesis 38:9-10)

Additionally, acording to several churches, using birth control is not allowed and you should have as many children as God decides you should have.

4. You feel afraid to break up with them

People fear ceasing to believe in God because they fear that they will be punished in the afterlife. They also fear deconversion because they’ve been taught to believe that life is meaningless and hollow without God.

5. Doesn’t respect your privacy

Since he is supposedly omnipresent, God is watching you all the time – when you eat, sleep, go to the bathroom, have sex, masturbate, go to work/school, everything. There is no time when he isn’t staring at you and keeping tabs on what you’re doing. In other words, he’s stalking you.

#christianity #god of abraham #god of israel #abrahamic god #abusive relationship #abusive behaviour #emotional abuse #right to privacy #birth control #family planning #bible quote #bible verse #the bible #red flags

[plexflexico]

Reporting Bigots On Twitter: Tips and Tricks!

When you report a tweet/reply for bigotry do NOT use the "add additional tweets" portion of the report.

Report the single tweet/reply accurately and once you receive a response indicating a violation has been found and action has been taken go back to the account*, and click the "view tweets" button, go to the "tweets and replies" tab and report another tweet/reply that violates the same rule as the first tweet you reported on which action was taken.

These weird bigots never have just one tweet that displays their pet bigotry. It won't be difficult.

Keep doing this with every successful report that results in a violation being found. If you get back three "We have an update on your report" replies then you'll be reporting three more tweets, separately.

Do not interact with the person you're reporting, just block. Do not discuss blocking or reporting the user. Do not publicly or via twitter DM's ask others to block or report the user. Simply do your thing and say nothing about it and if you must talk about it do it on another platform or IRL without linking back to the offending post or account.**

The user in question will usually be offered the choice of deleting the tweets in violation of TOS to gain access to their account or not deleting and remaining locked. Often they'll delete but they certainly won't stop being shitsacks or bother with deleting other, previous shitsack tweets/replies so you'll have plenty of ammo.

With enough violations of the hateful conduct policy the account may be suspended permanently.

*This works best on a desktop where you can simply highlight and search for the username.

**This will be something Twitter Safety can see and "abuse of the reporting system" may interfere in your reports being taken seriously and acted upon appropriately.

#twitter #blocking #abusive behaviour #how to report effectively

[unwelcome-ozian]

do you have any advice on how to avoid repeating abusive behaviour? i worry often about subconsiously mimicking my abusers behaviour to my loved ones. i dont want to be like them, but sometimes i find myself doing the same things, for example like asking them to explain why something ive done is hurtful since i struggle to understand sometimes. im not trying to be bad but it scares me when i think about it (ps its nice to see josha around again. i hope everything has been well with them)

I think you’re well on your way to change behaviours that are or may be abusive. Acknowledging that this is something you would like to work on and having insight into it’s something that you may do or repeat.

Sometimes when our actions or words hurt someone and they say something about this it would be nice to have understanding. Sometimes it's hard to understand and I encourage you to work towards seeing things from their perspective.

Other times taking responsibility, apologise, and working towards and not repeating the behaviour without understanding is alright.

Asking someone you’ve hurt or offended can come across as accusing, minimising, not wanting to take responsibility, and a further attack. People tend to dislike having to explain the reason something hurt their feelings unless they feel very comfortable being vulnerable in the relationship.

One thing you could try is asking someone else their thoughts on the reason what was said or done was hurtful and not ask the person involved. Getting feedback from someone outside the situation who is neutral can provide more insight.

Oz

#answers to questions #abusive behaviour #abusive behavior

[indizombie]

"We do know that there is more anti-black bias among white officers than black officers but we also know that black people and black officers have anti-black bias too. We're talking about a difference in degree," said Khalil Gibran Muhammad a professor of race and public policy at Harvard Kennedy School. The Stanford prison experiment tells us that "bad things happen in places built to do bad things", he said. "Anyone who dons the uniform is more likely on average to engage in abusive behaviour directed toward a black person."

‘Tyre Nichols: Memphis reckons with police killing by black officers’, BBC

#BBC #Tyre Nichols #United States #racism #Khalil Gibran Muhammad #Harvard Kennedy School #Stanford prison experiment #policing #abusive behaviour #African Americans

[msfbgraves]

Rewatching the Sherlock episodes I enjoy and some bits of ones I don't:

Sherlock and John make a good team, John is a good partner to Sherlock, an essential friend, but my God am I glad he is not his husband (and John would be doing fulltime husbandry on Sherlock, and he'd have to, to keep him right).

John Watson has anger issues when things get too emotional, and he gets abusive as a result.

Putting Mary through the silent treatment for months? Christ man, find a flat while you think it over. Telling her to expect random outbursts of anger whenever he feels like it? Yikes. Angry at Sherlock? He beats him. Batters him when he's down. Seeing an accurate assessment of his psyche as a personal attack, explodes into a rage. "Why is everything always my fault?" Because John Watson, you are a participant in your life. In the beginning when he felt crap and bored: "Nothing happens to me." Well then, take responsibility. Some terrible things happen to all of us but that doesn't negate that need.

But John doesn't like that. He can dish it out at Sherlock, and is right when he does, but he cannot take it.

Instead he lashes out.

And Sherlock's first instinct, no matter his strength, is to take it. Because when the chips are down he always thinks of himself as a little boy. Mummy and Daddy are forever cross with stupid Sherlock.

So he'd take it from John.

And John would dish it out.

Not often, maybe.

But.

When things got tense...

These two work better as partners in crime.

#bbc sherlock #abusive behaviour

[furiousgoldfish]

abusers will put you in a situation where you can only rely on them and then be 100% unreliable and tell you it's your fault for having to rely on them

#abusers #abusive behaviour #tactics of abuse #psychological abuse #victim blaming

[higherunlearning]

Never Go All the Ye: Don't ignore the first red flag of Misogyny.

Watch my thoughts on the downward spiral of Kanye West aka Ye into Hate, and how misogyny is a series of initial red flags most of us ignore. Don’t wait until the last straw.

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[nothing0fnothing]

So, OP uses this platform to talk shit on her own daughter, but when she realises her daughter does the same on her blog, she's big mad and wants sympathy? Kay.

I mean it wouldn't be an estranged parents forum if it wasn't a grown adult throwing a temper tantrum, insisting "I did nothing wrong" would it? In this scenario OP really wants us to believe that her 50 year old daughter who studies to be a therapist and has worked as a life coach for years just.. went no contact over 2 years ago for no reason. That her daughter going no contact was so absolutely unpredictable and unwarranted she feared her daughter was suffering delusional psychosis before she considered the possibility she might have done something wrong.

She's put here fully accusing her daughter who has nothing to gain, of lying for no reason. Or of lying to justify the No Contact that she implemented for no reason. Yeah, I'm not buying it. And if you're smart you're not either.

This faux pearl clutching "well I never" attitude is common in Karen's and estranged parents for a reason, they always want to be the victim. This "it's all lies my daughter is crazy" narrative is flimsy and transparent and its actually pathetic that she'd rather stick to it than admit she did something wrong, but here we are.

Karen here was just being so altruistic when she crossed her daughters boundaries and reached out to her on a public platform to "jog her memory". Obviously, it's been super fucking hard for her because she's having to tell everyone she knows that her daughter is mentally ill and delusional to try to save face. It's actually super unfair that nobody is falling for it because actually Karen's daughter has the nerve to be successful, educated, coherent and currently capable of working, studying and raising her family all at once. So like, clearly she's not in the throws of a psychotic episode, who could have guessed?

I do also find it super funny she adds that "FYI I'm in the US" after asking the rest of the shit mums club what she should do. She desperately wants someone to tell her to sue her daughter for defamation and I'd love to see her try.

#estranged parents #no contact #abusive behaviour #abusive parents #adult children of emotionally immature parents #toxic parents #parental abuse #estranged parents forum #dysfunctional household

[rachniqueenluxy]

What a bad start to the year--

#personal #manipulation #manipulative #apologies #apology #sorry #it means nothing #without actions #not my embroidery #but honestly #i wanna do it #so i can really cement it in my head #abuse #abusive behaviour

[tapan4evr]

True me.. Tap-1291..

Avoid people who:1. Mess with your head.2. Intentionally and repeatedly do and say things that they know upset you.3. Expect you to prioritize them but refuse to prioritize you.4. Can’t and won’t apologise sincerely.5. Act like the victim when confronted with their abusive behavior.Tap OUT..✌️

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#abusive behaviour #avoid #expectation #human behaviour #mindset #people #priority #society #tapan4evr #victim mentality

[p4radox99]

Studies show that football competitions especially cause a spike in domestic violence. It’s awful and not enough people are talking about it or even know about it. This is not an isolated phenomenon, please be safe, and look out for your loved ones!

#domestic violence #violence #abuse #football #World Cup #abusive behaviour #women