#abuse enablers

[furiousgoldfish]

people will go "I'm uncomfortable with you having any kind of bad reaction to abuse from this person, I need you to shut up and pretend you're okay about it, however I am very comfortable supporting your abuser and telling you how much compassion and admiration I think they deserve"

#victim blaming #victim shaming #child abuse #abuse apologists #abuse enablers #defending abusers #supporting abusers

[newhologram]

me being the Family Villain for refusing to be part of a system that enables abuse anymore 😈

#abuse #abuse survivor #generational trauma #abuse apologism #abuse enablers #tiktok

[nobody-cared-then-either]

Because the standard of purity is "never having a mental illness" for mental health professionals, the mental health field is rife with utter incompetence, exploitation, waste and fraud; and even human trafficking, child abuse, and sociopathic predation. Some of the worst people in existence are counselors, psychologists, and psychiatrists.

#elitists #ethics #frauds #puritans #trauma #child abuse #disability #discrimination #medical professionals #abuse of power #emotional abuse #complex ptsd #status quo #status #sycophant #fuck narcissists #incompetent professionals #incompetence #medical malpractice #abuse enablers #police state #hate crimes #professionalism #code of conduct #human trafficking #bullying #abusive parents #superiority complex #exploitation #pretentious

[level20mallow]

I want to pontificate on one of the big reasons why it is I support revenge and such: the hypocrisy and cruelty of its detractors.

The thing you have to understand about people who oppose revenge is that they only oppose it in name only. They'll happily participate in all of the same behaviors people typically associate with revenge: anger, irrationality, lashing out either non-violently or with violence (often after ranting about how it's bad). It's blatant hypocrisy and the blatant hypocrisy is the point: it means people who oppose revenge have an agenda and that agenda is often to protect abusers from consequences.

One of their ilk actually went to a thread I reblogged a while ago looking to start beef with me, because they walked into the conversation with a specific stereotype of a revenge supporter in mind and just assumed that because I support revenge, that that meant I fit that stereotype. And that quasi-bigotry is the point: it's ignorant and prejudiced, and a really huge part of the problem. Have a look:

I don't actually support the U.S. legal system in any way. I don't even support the death penalty. My stance is to do away with all of that and not only replace it with a system that is more streamlined and effective, but also respects the human right of all individuals to retaliate when they are abused or bullied or exploited, which is what revenge actually is. The schmuck who was trying to stir shit up obviously wasn't listening though. Actually they kept ranting after I called them out on that point.

See, they were flipping out because they are the kind of revenge detractor that sees revenge as an obstacle in the way of their real goal: shutting down the U.S. prison system, and that's why they are angry.

They think you, the abuse survivor, the one who has themselves been raped and tortured and beaten and whose self-esteem and identity have been completely driven into the ground for decades, throughout childhood, having committed no crime and in fact has had the abuser wield the same legal system to punish *you* for speaking out or fighting back, are nothing more than an obstacle to their political goals.

Have you ever seen the trope in media where a friend or loved one of a revenge seeker angrily confronts them when they're about to kill the main villain and the whole cause of the problem, and either screams at them, gives them a Reason Why You Suck Speech, emotionally abuses or even physically gets violent with them to force them to stop?

You ever stop to think why they do that when they know the villain is the actual problem and their actions are only making the problem worse, enabling the villain to escape, and how sometimes that character will even outright defend the villain (even a rapist or child murderer) ? This is one of the reasons why.

People who oppose revenge enable abuse and the very violence they oppose when they do this, and they don't give a fuck because for a lot of them, it's all about their political goals. They are authoritarians, the most cruel kind because of the fact that they place their zealotry above very real human lives who are negatively impacted by their actions. It's all about forcing people into their unrealistic utopia which in no way accounts for human nature or the reality of the situation abuse survivors have to deal with.

And they get so angry because they view you as a political opponent doing or supporting the causes they oppose, which have nothing to do with revenge. You are not a victim deserving of help or love or justice, you are an inconvenience and a threat that must be knocked out of the way, and that's one really big reason why opposition to revenge is nonsensical and immoral.

They claim revenge seekers will become the enemies they oppose, when it is in fact them who are becoming exactly that, and that clown who was arguing with me is a perfect example of that.

This is how these stupid fucking scumbags think

They view all violence as the same while ignoring or supporting the violence of abusers who hurt only innocent people, or even their own as they sometimes use it to stop revenge seekers while opposing all violence, they dehumanize anyone who disagrees with them by regarding them as subhuman savages in need of their political enlightenment, they don't respect your rights, and they don't care about you.

People who oppose revenge only care about themselves. People who oppose revenge actually are or become the very thing they claim to hate. People who oppose revenge hypocritically claim revenge dehumanizes the seeker while demanding that everyone view the abuser as a human and a victim regardless of their own actions or how inherently dehumanized they are through mindset or action.

People who oppose revenge are just dumbass hypocrites and you should not listen to them.

#revenge #deconstructing tropes #politics #society #abuse #hypocrisy #harming victims #enabling abuse is evil and enablers themselves are evil #abuse enablers #enablers

[the-cryptographer]

i ran low motorics for my first pt of de and imbetween all my save spamming i came to a really weird place coming into the tribunal. like, i really wanted titus and as many of his friends as possible to survive, and i was looking at a near impossible hand/eye coordination skill-check. and up until that point i had been super careful to avoid having harry do drugs anywhere where kim could see him and judge him for it, but i was falling far short of the save and the obvious thing was to snort up some speed to give myself the edge, so i did. and i felt like that was in a way the truest moment of the game.

like, i’m playing an addict. i’m going through withdrawal. my hand is shaking. my hand is shaking and i need it steady. ruining my physical and metal health in the longterm don’t matter rn, bc it’s my job to run into an impossible and impossibly violent situation and save as many people as i can, and if i can’t do that, what am i here for at all? more people are going to die unless i make this shot, and i can’t if my hand is shaking, and it’s not going to stop shaking until i get my drugs, and so the only reasonable choice to make is to take the drugs, and oh- that’s why he can’t quit! beyond all the difficulties and pain and emotional trauma of the withdrawal itself, there’s no way to keep doing this job (with an abnormally large case load according to kim) and to walk into life and death situations and not botch them, while under the strain of trying to quit. and, sure, because you won’t quit you’ll have breakdowns and go on benders and give yourself brain damage and crash your car, and they’ll dress you down and publicly humiliate you for it. but no matter how much they humiliate you, they’re also not going to give you proper medical care or lessen your case load or stop throwing you in life or death situations that require you keep using, so you can’t quit.

idk, just like... it’s very strange to me bc i keep seeing people throw out the idea that it’s a moral responsibility that Harry go sober (and beyond that a moral responsibility as the player to keep him sober) but this was honestly probably the best and most thought provoking moment in the game for me, and i feel like people are really cheating themselves out of it by getting so caught up in their personal feelings about addiction that they refuse to engage it.

#disco elysium #spoilers #idk this is something people have a lot of personal feelings about for a reason #just like... the game was def in a large part about being trapped in addiction and abusive systems #and i think the game was pretty in the real about how keeping harry sober for 6-10 days #has not saved him from the hell that enabled his addiction to begin with #and i'm not sure what you're taking away from the game without looking at that

[bonefall]

what concerning behaviors does bramble show in fatherhood? Genuine question I didnt read PO3 and I haven’t really heard anyone talking about that

I can't go and grab book quotations at the moment, hopefully I'll have time to make a big thing on this later this month (the breeze one took a couple days), but he has some odd trends.

NEVER once stands up for Breezepaw while seeing Crow openly, flagrantly abusing him, even responds to Crow's "I HOPE YOU'RE NOT STOPPING SO THESE LITTLE BASTARDS CAN REST" comment with "dont worry im not"

Completely ignores every sign that Lionpaw is being abused by Ashfur. There are several.

Quick to anger. Though he never "HITS" his children the same way Crow did to Breeze, he does a lot of "cuffing" and can be pretty mean to his kids verbally when they disappoint him.

When Hollypaw witnesses Ashfur physically abusing her brother, she tries to tell Brambleclaw and he tells her that it's fine.

During that, he launches into this big speech about how Ashfur came to butter him up, tell him how strong his son is, how good of a warrior he'll be, that beating the shit out of his teenage child was just a misunderstanding.

And then he segways into telling Hollypaw how Mature and Responsible she is, and how he needs to Rely on her to Keep Her Brothers In Line. All of this, REMEMBER, was in response to Hollypaw trying to tell her dad about her brother being abused by a teacher.

But in spite of all this, the narrative basically holds him up as the pinnacle of fatherhood. The Three are constantly thinking about how much they love him as their dad, BEST dad in the whole world, perfect amazing cool.

None of his flaws are addressed, as usual. He seems egotistical, emotional, and even sometimes oblivious to what's happening in front of him as he focuses on his OWN feelings at all times... and that's all without getting into OotS and his post-reveal behavior, which is a whole essay topic.

But I will end it off with this; the way he acts in OotS was never out-of-character. It's very consistent, actually.

#warrior cats analysis #there's a Theme with this series where they have no concept of enabling abuse. #so it's just totally ignored and left unaddressed when there IS a situation where a character could stop abuse but doesnt #or at least comment on it. but no

[melblogsgfreethruptsd]

#toxic parents #narcissism #enablers #flying monkeys #maternal narcissism #gaslighting #manipulation #emotional abuse #guilt tripping #shame

[arte072]

"Sansa bullied Arya? Oh so you think she's worse than Tywin Lannister, Gregor Clegane and Ramsay Bolton??" is such a hyperbolic, insincere and ultimately non-existent argument. Literally name one person who says this shit with any sort of sincerity, if at all lol

This is up there with "Talking about Arya's importance to the North means you think Jeyne Poole's life doesn't matter!!!" in terms of disningenous talking points.

It's only ever used to shut down any attempts at considering Arya's feelings and well-being when discussing the girls' relationship.

and no offense, but why are 🫵 YOU🫵 equating the acknowledgement of a fictional child's flaws with calling her a war criminal? why are you treating it like that?? 👀👀👀

I mean, this fandom regularly says Arya lacks morality for surviving war zones with violence. They consider her a walking tragedy whose story is about losing her humanity and becoming the ultimate killing machine. Everyday Dany gets called a N@zi Barbie for not abolishing slavery perfectly. But Sansa gets clocked as a mean girl bully in the first book and y'all fall apart at the seams at that?? C'mon now

#arya stark #and when it comes to the whole “the adults enabled it!!!” ok sure! but sansa still participated in it #especially when the adults weren't there! #sansa wasn't taught to compare her sister to a horse or victim blame arya for joffrey's abuse and mycah for his own murder #which adult is to blame for her telling arya that she'll have to bow down to her for speaking the truth about the trident incident? #septa mordane didn't teach her to say any of that shit lol #and if sansa is allowed to own her kindness wit and bravery #then she's also allowed to own her negative traits as well #it's not complicated and she's not a monster for it!

[furiousgoldfish]

society @ victims of abuse: well you don't want to be too angry and abuse them back, that would make you just as bad! why don't you focus on forgiveness and let it go and move on. If you ever try to hurt them back you'll ruin your life and the consequences will be devastating.

victims: what about the abusers? they got to hurt us for god knows how long? what are the consequences of that?

society: well you see,,,, for them its nothing.... but if YOU were to even SAY ANYTHING ...we'd call you worse than them and throw you into jail immediately. hope this helps.

#toxic society #abuse enablers #double standards #abusers vs victims #policing victims behaviour but never the abusers #victim shaming #victim blaming #being denied justice #being denied to fight back under the threat of law #but abusers are held above the law

[normalbrothers]

TOMMY: Arthur, Frances was right. Linda was here today.

#peaky blinders #tvedit #peakyblindersgifs #don't like this at all but this scene is impossible to capture in gifs #had to omit a lot of tommy's (very anxious) reactions (like the cyanide capsule for example) #but it is such an interesting insight into their relationship and one that fandom tends to miss #any kind of 'authority' tommy has over arthur is the one he grants him (out of his own desire to abdicate responsibility) #he's not the cowed oppressed mindlessly servile party in that relationship #and the hierarchy here is telling as well #arthur threatens tommy because he knows he can do that and that it will work #tommy of course makes the dubious decision of telling him about linda's whereabouts; there's certainly a culpability here in enabling #his abusive behaviour towards his wife #but here's the reason for it too: if tommy doesn't help him get linda back he'll be tommy's problem. that *is* the threat #and tommy can't even bargain with him: he has to tell him now and not later. just gets completely steamrolled lol #it's not like arthur always acts like that but it's important to understand that he can and does

[lewishamiltonstuff]

You know what's fucked up about this entire Horner situation?

They were never gonna let him go. They did the investigation just to fulfill a formality. They even set the grounds for today's announcement by already posting yesterday:

"Any statement from Red Bull GmbH is expected to reflect a thorough and fair investigation, but matters of confidentiality are likely to limit the amount of information shared publicly."

By this, they just meant that whatever bullshit we post tomorrow (translation: we're not kicking him out) it'll be fair and impartial. And if someone asks us any questions (translation: we know we'll get the backlash) we can't say anything because it's a matter of confidentiality and we can't share private information (translation: you can fuck off, we don't have anything to prove him innocent, so we'll use the confidentiality clause).

And that is exactly what they did! They posted that their investigation was "impartial" and "fair" and it contains "private information".

They had been setting the stage for this all along!! Who are they trying to fool though?

I hope she takes him to court and drags him in the mud.

#fuck him #fuck that bastard of a man. what an asshole. sleaze. douche bag. #and what the fuck even was the statement by daniel Riccardo. stop it bro. your enabler is showing way too much #sending all the love to the poor victim #i really really really hope she gets justice #christian horner #f1 #formula 1 #formula one #red bull f1 #red bull racing #red bull #anti christian horner #anti rbr #anti red bull #I SWEAR TO GOD #IF ANY REDBULL MINION COMES TO HARRAS ME FOR USING BOTH ANTI AND GENERAL REDBULL TAGS. I'LL RESORT TO VIOLENCE. #your fav team's tp is an abuser and he needs to be named and shamed. fuck your tags ok? #tw: harrasment #tw: christian horner

[uncanny-tranny]

When people talk about unsupportive parents of queer kids (whether or not they're a minor), there's sometimes this air of "would you really rather have a dead child than a queer one? There's no way you'd rather want that..."

But that's what people miss, I think. To a queerphobic parent, a queer child is a punishment. Anybody who supports their queer kid isn't punishing them, and that is just as bad. If a queer child isn't "good enough" to attone, the queerphobic parent believes, then they might as well weed them out entirely. That's why queerphobic parents might go so far as to claim to have one less child - because they are still in exhile, they are still punished. They may as well not exist entirely.

We must stop pretending that all parents have this innate feeling of wanting to protect their children no matter, and if a parent doesn't feel the need to protect and defend their child/ren, that is the fault of everybody else.

#queer #lgbt #lgbtq #queerphobia #queerphobia tw #abuse #abuse tw #that's why so many parents cry out that queer-supportive teachers are abusers... #...because those teachers aren't treating their kids like they do - they aren't mistreating them or wishing them dead #they see that as giving in - or essentially enabling because you aren't contributing to the child's misery #(just an example of the phenomenon i'm talking about)

[hatkuu]

I was reading those "Kylar gets sexually harassed by students after discovering that he has a big dick" asks, and i was thinking, what if Kylar ended up at the mercy of PC's uh..passion, instead of the usual? Students get a bit too touchy feely with Kylar because of what he's packing, and PC suddenly discover that they're A LOT more possessive and jealous than they had thought. They grab Kylar, take him back to their/his room, and RAVAGE him. They spend all night marking him and filling his hole/draining his balls by manhandling him in different positions. Maybe PC ends up feeling bad the day after, but hey, it was to send a message...

me personally i would NOT feel bad bc why was kylar letting everyone else see their dick in the first place? asking to be punished imo...

definitely shoving his face into the matress while he squeals about how he 'didn't mean to!' and that he'd 'nevernevernever do something like this to you!' a disgusting blend of snot and tears is smeared all over your sheets, ruining the cotton. if you've managed to freak kylar out enough they'll start sobbing and weakly trying to squirm out of your grip. until he realises what you intend to do, that is...

m!kylar and gen!reader utc. bottom kylar :)

"I didn't know you were a whore, Kylar." Your palm cups his cheek as the head of your cock/strap catches on his ring-tight hole. It quivers.

In anticipation or fear, you can't tell.

"N-Nuh— No! Nononono! I'm not a whore i-it was an accident!" Kylar outright sobs, fighting against your grip as he kicks his legs out beneath you in frustration. Kylar spits the title like it's sin, somethign that neither of you should ever be called. He cries loudly—loud enough for the whole of the orphanage to hear—which is just what you wanted.

Kylar hates when you press his buttons like this; making him feel like he's misbehaved or, even worse, cheated. Normally it's just offhanded teasing; a smack on the ass here or there, giving Robin a stray kiss on the cheek - those are the kind of things that rile Kylar up. But you adore pressing his buttons and making him frustrated enough that he can feel the beginnings of hatred bubbling up within his gut.

So, of course, you know just the right buttons to press.

"Awww, well you shouldn't have been sleeping around, baby!"

Kylar screams, thrashing against you enough that you begin to struggle holding him down. You'd never expect there to be so much strength in such a little body.

"No! No! You have it a-all wrong!" He howls into your sheets as the entirety of your cock breaches his tight walls. "'M not a w-whore! I-I'd never do that to you!" You groan at the feeling, shifting your hips as you try to wiggle the entirety of your cock inside of you. "Pleasepleaseplease believe me! I'd nevernevernever—"

"Shh, I'm just teasing." You lean down close to Kylar's ear, pressing a wet kiss against his cheekbone as you soothe his feral outburst. "Be a good boy and take it for me, okay?"

Kylar whines like a bitch, nodding obediently.

#hatkuuasks #kuu is feeling sadistic. can u tell? #heueheueehuueh all of my mutuals pegging the boys has had me thinking.... this ask just enabled my bad behaviour theeheheheeh #poor baby has empty balls AND an abused hole after this :) #kuuskylarposting

[slutdge]

i didnt even wanna answer this ask but im tired of being afraid to stand my ground when people say things like this. this is kinda the perfect example of what i was talking about tbh like. i made a calm post validly criticizing the psychiatric abuse i had to go through explaining how im trying to move on and heal and accept that what happened to me was wrong and this response is just "take your meds psycho 🙄" this is my exact problem w how psychiatry is practiced so harmfully. everyone who dares criticize psychiatry in any way is just crazy. putting the word "respectfully" infront of a sentence doesnt magically make this not a super rude thing to say to someone, especially a stranger. hope that helps.

#i also made a post about how i had to stop taking my meds cause it was making me more suicidal so like. doubly fuck off lol #remember that at anytime you too could be deemed ''crazy'' by psychiatrists for arbitrary reasons #and experience psychiatric abuse #im tired of yall enabling abusers. im tired of bending a knee to psychiatry dickriders out of fear #im tired of this fucking boot on my neck from people who think theyre progressive but are actually just spewing fascist rhetoric #ptsd

[birb--birb]

The more I play, the more I think people that who super dislike Astarion have never experienced a trauma before.

Like ofc you're allowed to dislike a character for any reason, but it also makes so much sense why he is how he is when you unlock his positive approval rating covos. He's a snarky stab happy fuckboy yes, but his quest for power isn't unjustified. Astarion is scared, he's terrified he'll be brought back to Cazador and tortured 5 ways to sunday, if not outright killed. The tadpole is what's keeping him safe, and he isn't going to give it up without a fight. So he thinks the only way to ensure his safety and freedom is to go full scorched earth, take as much power by any means possible no matter who it hurts. He's a spurr of the moment decion maker, of course he's not going to think it through. When your ticket to freedom after 200 years of torture is right there, you don't stop to think about the cost of it, to yourself or others.

Astarion doesn't want power so he can rule over the sword coast, he wants power to make sure no one ever can ever hurt him again. You hear something simular in folks who have experienced trauma (plz understand that I'm generalizing here, trauma is processed differently by different people no one brain is the same). Anger, grief, fear, confusion, terror all are things that can go through your mind after a traumatic event occurs. Your brain is trying to find a way to make things hurt less, so if there's a chance for revenge, or the ability to take back power, you bet your ass its gonna sound delicious to your emotionally flooded brain. This is what I think is at the core of Astarions story. That this confident, cunning, flirtatious vampire is mostly an act, it's what he's practiced and what's protected him thus far. He likely learned that showing any sort of vulnerability is a weakness that will be used against him. His grab for power is selfish yes, but not in the way it seems at the surface. But absolutely power will corrupt absolutely, which is why I say his desire is justified, but not exactly supported depending on what type of run you're doing.

Idk man I just immediately looked at this man and went "aweeh.... it's traumatized". That boi ain't got any coping skills whatsoever and I'm a sucker for characters who's confidence is just a ploy to keep you from seeing just how fucked up they actually are. Anyways each character in this damn game is written so freaking well I could write a billion essays about it everyone say thank you Larian

#i can fix him and i *will* die on this hill #thank you for coming to my ted talk #baulders gate astarion #baulders gate 3 #astarion bg3 #astarion ancunin #character analysis #im only in act 2 so my tune may change but i still stand by the fact that he wants power out of fear #im so stoked to do my durge playthrough and just enable his terrible decisions #i will cry #trauma mention #abuse mention #if i dont get a dramatic “i will never be controlled again” monologue i will simpily perish #i just think hes neat #and dont you worry i have feelings TM about karlach gale and shadowheart too #its just astarion brainrot hours #i can fix him #i can make him worse #bg3 analysis #bg3