#about queerphobia

[uncanny-tranny]

It's honestly frustrating that I've seen non-Russian queer people almost bragging about how they would be illegal in Russia, labeled an extremist or terrorist. Russian queers are in danger, their government has made it clear where it stands, and it's made this effort for the better part of a decade (even longer, perhaps). This will kill people, don't mistake this for a quirky little proclamation from a government, akin to somebody saying the sky is pink. Russian queer people were already expressing their fear, and the least we can do now is express our love for them, and advocate with them.

Russian queer people, I love you. I love you all so much. I am so sorry, I cannot begin to express the grief that I feel, and I hope that you are safe. Words cannot encapsulate how I feel as a non-Russian, and I cannot hope to comprehend how it feels to actually be in this situation.

#queer #lgbt #lgbtq #ofc this has been brewing for a long time and it has been really troubling to say the very LEAST #honestly i have seen russian queers joke about the situation which feels different. honestly it's almost admirable #i just can't find it funny to see non-Russians do it simply because the threat of prosecution or death for people is too high in my mind #it feels almost voyeuristic when non-russians joke like that to me #like i've joked about the state of (us)american queer rights when it feels too bleak but i live here #i guess when people only joke about it it tells me they don't think it's a big deal or that it won't affect queer people... #...because it won't affect them as an outsider likely #it's just shitty. all around. and it's the type of thing that i'm not sure what to do #queerphobia #queerphobia tw

[vyhonella]

redraw this scene from ofmg:

#nimona #art #ballister blackheart #nimona art #nimona fanart #ambrosius goldenloin #ballister x ambrosius #goldenheart #nimona movie #ofmd #actually if you think about it #how do nimona know how ambrosius would react when he's get stabbed #obviously bal tell them #but how does HE know #so this scene have sense okay #not only because director is allegory for queerphobia #russia is a terrorist state #just a reminder in case they k*ll me my family friends etc

[genderqueerdykes]

the reason why trannies HAVE to stick together is because at the end of the day, cis people can and will prioritize their needs over ours. i witnessed a fight that broke out at one of my local gay bars where a cis male drag queen attempted to assault one of the two transfeminine security guards because he had too much to drink and had apparently has trauma from assaulted before by a cis woman's cis male friends after being called a faggot.

... so he thought it was appropriate to try to pass this trauma on to someone more marginalized than him. i got involved and his cis female friends decided to try to tell me to back off because it "didn't involve me." i noticed the only people telling me to back off and stop protecting the two trans women security guards... were cis. all of the trans people who gathered to see what was happening jumped in to help keep those women safe, and neither of those women told us to leave, or that it didn't involve us.

of course it involved me, because i don't just stand idly by and watch cis people attack my trans sisters. it will ALWAYS involve me.

i don't care what his thought process was or what was going through his mind- there is never an excuse to pass your queer trauma on to someone else- especially when you are cis and that person is trans. events like this just go to show that queer people are still capable of queerphobia.

that guy got his ass thoroughly beat, by the way, and is permanently banned from that bar. he accomplished nothing and lost everything.

please learn from this fool and check any and all desire for queer infighting at the door and understand that we HAVE to be here for each other. trans women, men, wo/men, nonbinary people, genderqueer people, gnc people, agender people, multigender people, crossdressers, transsexuals, transvestites, every stripe of trans person HAS to have ALL of their trans siblings' backs, no matter what we identify as, because a lot of cis people really struggle to prioritize our needs or treat us as humans, really.

#about us #our writing #transmisogyny #violence tw #assault tw #misogyny #homophobia #transphobia #queerphobia

[noa-ciharu]

One of the things noone talks about about growing up as queer in extremely queer-phobic society is how it can damage your ability to connect to people on deeper/emotional level. Because friendships are all fine and dandy, but when you get too close to someone questions of who you like would inevitably come up. We live in cisnormative heteronormative society after all

And kids/teens aren't stupid, they can tell something is off. So whenever difficult questions come up you either have option to lie or tell the truth and pray 1:9 chances are in your favor and your "friend" isn't queerphobic and won't tell you to seek therapy. And even if by some miracle they aren't, they'd still avoid talking about your sexuality/gender experiences because deep down it does makes them uncomfortable. That's closest to accepted you've felt irl, so you keep quiet

At school you hear peers talking about hanging out after school; open hanging out, everyone's invited. When school bell rings you're packing stuff and going right home

#in that manner I'm sometimes envious of westerns how they talk about lgbt+ stuff so freely irl #when here i never met a young queer person #and even if there are some they're in closet with internalized queerphobia and woud never openly talk about it #understandable tho #lgbt+ #lgbt #queerphobia #aromantic #asexual #aroace #lesbian #gay #bisexuality #transgender #tagging most bc im curiosity of this is unfortunately common experience or just something that simply happend to me #regardless of my identity

[awakefor48hours]

I swear tumblr zoomers describe Korrasami's relationship like historians looking at actual gay relationships

"They were just good friends"

"Their relationship was so ambiguous"

"There was nothing too special with them"

#korrasami #i need you guys to understand #the censorship that korrasami faced #was SO MUCH DIFFERENT and aggressive #than the censorship that relationships like lumity face today #i understand that korrasami seems underwhelming #but keep in mind #their relationship being this watered down/censored #almost got the entire show completely nuked off the planet #if you are going to say some nasty shit about korrasami #(or even just the legend of korra as a whole) #do your research about the BS bryke had to face #you need to understand the misogynoir/queerphobia/bad scheduling/unclear direction/budget cuts/etc #that they had to face in order to do this #ALSO this is factually wrong #as korra and asami canonically kiss in the series

[agrebel18]

“we need more m/f friendships in media that stay platonic due to heteronormativity that’s rooted in homophobia/aphobia plus women and men can actually be good friends without romance” and “having m/f romances aren’t inherently bad especially if the people involved are fat, disabled, neurodivergent, and/or people of color because queer people aren’t the only marginalized group that need to be represented” are two statements that can and should coexist. 

#I'm a queer Latina so don't come at me with bigoted BS #but yeah it BAFFLES me when I see white gays acting as if the only good romance involves mlm or wlw #plus not all wlw or mlm pairing are good! and not all m/f pairings are bad! #and vice versa! #plus some hate for m/f pairings IS ROOTED IN BIPHOBIA AND RACISM AND FATPHOBIA OR EVEN ABLEISM #PLUS M/F PAIRINGS THAT HAVE OTHER MINORITES INVOLVED AREN'T THE ONLY ONES HATED ON! #I've seen wlw and mlm pairings that involve poc or disabled people or fat people be looked down upon as well #so shut tf up with your racism and other bigotries! #btw this isn't aimed at any specific fandom because I think every fandom can get this toxic #and no you don't have to like every pairing that involve minorites regardless of the character's genders but just don't be a bigot about it #fandom salt #queerphobia #fandom racism #ableism #fatphobia

[mondfahrt]

"Life Is Not a Competition, But I'm Winning" is a documentary by women and queer people about women and queer people in sports, specifically running.

SYNOPSIS: If history is written by the victors, where does that leave those who were never allowed to be part of the game? A collective of queer athletes enters the Olympic Stadium in Athens and sets out to honour those who were excluded from standing on the winners’ podium. They meet Amanda Reiter, a trans* marathon runner who has to struggle with the prejudices of sports organisers and Annet Negesa, a 800m runner who was urged by the international sports federations to undergo hormone-altering surgery. Together they create a radical utopia far from the rigid gender rules in competitive sports.

I had the opportunity to watch this movie and it's really really good, dealing with very heavy subjects but never letting pain and suffering overtake the story the protagonists want to tell.

#it had some parts that i didn't like as well but all in all it's just a really good movie about sexism/intersexism/transphobia/queerphobia #in sports #movie #life is not a competition but i'm winning #queer #Youtube

[hussyknee]

I just want to make one thing very clear. Black and brown people, especially Muslims right now, don't owe white people for your allyship in racial justice. Not even those who are themselves systemically marginalized in some way. Not white Jews, not white queers, not white disabled, not white working class, not white poor.

Whiteness is the most lethal kind of oppression because it built the current colonial capitalist, imperialist world order. Every white person benefits from and is complicit in its systems in some way because white supremacy is global. Whatever marginalization has white people in it can be and is easily weaponized against the mellanated. When charged with your racist, exclusionary and oppressive behaviour you hold up Black and brown people of the same marginalizations as tokens. This is the only time they are ever visible; more often than not you profit off their labour, hoard their gains, throw them under the bus and make them part of your iconography for liberal progress points once they're dead and have no inconvenient opinions about your conduct.

This is why it's very hard for Black and brown people to take accusations of bigotry towards you in good faith. We also have a duty of care towards others but more often than not it feels like you want us to do what you want while holding a knife to our necks. Even when you don't do it directly, you issue demands like "if you don't do x and y you clearly don't care about my people and deserve the worst!!!" without considering for a moment that the full brunt of that policing will always fall on Black and brown people, because punitive justice exercises itself first and foremost on the vulnerable. If your demands for allyship carry disproportionate punishment for Black and brown people should we refuse, you're just on some power trip and never needed our help in the first place. This also obfuscates the needs and disenfranchisement of Jewish, queer, poor, disabled BIPOC and Global South people, especially because, without racial justice, few of your gains will ever materialise in their lives. It's always trickle down liberation for the rest of us.

Your allyship is supposed to be the work of conscience, a recognition of injustice and a drive towards privilege equal to your own. For white people, it's an individual reparation on your part. It is not an act of kindness, or benevolence, or a transaction that must be repaid in kind. The worst of us deserve the same rights the worst of you already have. That's the meaning of equality. If you're willing to let us get fired, deported, or brutally murdered for bad behaviour, then not only were you never an ally, you were also just waiting for the opportunity to use that weapon you claim you never wanted. There is no justice in an asymmetry of power.

#white supremacy #so many white people on here crying about antisemitism trying not to say ''black people and muslims'' with their whole chest lmaooo #there's no equality of oppression here sunshine that's why we're watching Muslims and black people get genocided on an industrial scale rn #if i can stand seeing dead and bleeding Arab babies repeatedly dehumanized by people with the ukrainian flag in their bio #and still not want ukrainians to suffer the same fate or platform people who spread russian propaganda #then the rest of you can also shut the fuck up #unfortunately whiteness rarely coincides with conscience #racism #anti-blackness #antisemitism #islamophobia #queerphobia #homophobia #transphobia #ableism #classism #western imperialism #global north #colonization #racial justice #lgbtqia #knee of huss

[charlie-rulerofhell]

bbceurovision: Say hello to all our incredible Grand Finalists!

"The reason why we showed a pride flag in that scene [instead of our national flag] is very simple: Waving the German flag is a sign that only partially stands for solidarity, tolerance and acceptance, because sadly there are still way too many people in Germany who do not uphold these values — as you can see currently in our comment sections. So we rather wanted to show a flag that does advocate exactly these values, and say: This is way more important than our national borders."

- Lord of the Lost, Shop Takeover Q&A

#lord of the lost #lotl #esc #esc 2023 #yes yet another post about FLAG GATE tm #mainly because i just discovered the whole video instead of just one screenshot and found it hilarious so i had to share #also the impact of that gesture when the clip is included in a video with all the other contestants who DO show their national flags #(not that they did wrong in showing their flags although i totally agree with lotl‘s mindset of national pride being an outdated concept) #(like just cannot wrap my head around it at all but maybe that's the german in me speaking...) #also sharing again to include their beautiful statement from their q&a #what a great occasion to listen to noituLOVEr / love revolution on my way to work in a few mins #and as per usual you know the drill: the comment section under the linked twitter post is full of hate and queerphobia #so take care of yourself when clicking on the link and remember that you are loved and not alone <3

[weedle-testaburger]

I've been thinking this for a while, but I finally feel like saying it: I think people who hate on Heartstopper for being 'too soft' are out of their minds. If you claim a series which shows teenagers dealing with things like homophobic prejudice, self-harm and eating disorders, and who (in the comics and books) have sex without it being fetishised like most teen dramas, is 'too soft' because the characters get through that stuff and have happy lives and relationships, that says some really shitty things to me about your attitude to queer media.

#personal crap #heartstopper #in general 'wholesome' queer media gets such a bad rap for no reason #i could just have easily have said this about su or love simon or deadendia bc people are shitheads about those too #and it's stupid af to me bc they actually condemn queerphobia and have the characters deal with questions of their identity #if people did this with spop or toh I'd still disagree but I'd get it bc it'd be an argument of 'ignoring queerphobia is naive' #with what actually does get discoursed about it's just because edgelords decided it's 'cringey' to like #so people got embarrassed about liking it anyway and turned on it

[uncanny-tranny]

Two things can be true at once:

1. Wanting queer people to be the storytellers of queer narratives is important, and it's okay to want queer people representing many queer experiences.

2. This does not, however, mean that queer people should put themselves in danger in order to be "good representation". We are not entitled to the queerness of others, just like nobody is entitled to yours.

#lesbian #gay #bi #bisexual #trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #queerphobia #i hate the expectation that queer people *need* to become representation for the broad queer community... #...i dunno i do NOT see myself as a queer representative and i think it'd be hella creepy if i WAS seen that way. i'm legit Some Guy Always #not /necessarily/ about the recent debacle that's happened but it has sparked this discussion once again (ad infinitum)

[panopti-cunt]

"The so-called drag golden age is really a gilded age, where the runaway success of a few is made possible at the expense of the many. And if economic insecurity wasn’t enough, local performers increasingly face threats of extremist violence from the right. Even the most diehard drag fans should cast a critical eye on Drag Race and its architects, who have built an unequal drag performance economy while remaking the art of drag in the show’s own image."

"Even in the eras of “female impersonators” who toured with vaudeville productions and performed for troops in wartime, the wealth generated by drag flowed upward. But the money now fills the coffers of a single production company and a very select echelon of artists. It is undeniably true that more drag artists are active today than ever, but the exploitation of local artists has similarly increased."

"Anti-LGBTQ legislation and extremist attacks on queer people are on the rise, epitomized by the horrific violence at Club Q in Colorado. Economic insecurity only compounds this fearful atmosphere, and precarious workers and marginalized people are unfortunately bearing the brunt of queerphobic movements. In addition to confronting extremist politicians and organizations, consumers can push back against the enormous inequalities that Drag Race has created by supporting local drag collectives and unionization efforts and insisting that their favorite venues pay equitably. It’s time to put down the Drag Race tour tickets and use that money to tip your local drag performers."

#id been working on some thoughts about this but they did a much better job at it #the article is good its important #and it is true #drag race #lgbtq #queer #transphobia #homophobia #queerphobia

[thevioletcaptain]

do fandom people realize that gleefully firing off mean little zingers at the socially accepted online target of the week for clicks is functionally identical to the way high school bullies use cruelty for clout, or do they lack that level of self awareness?

#i am TIRED #i have unfollowed/blocked so many fandom people lately #because the way they sling nasty comments around as soon as they think they can get away with it #tells me everything i need to know about the kinds of people they are #like it's always obvious when someone has cruel impulses they've just been waiting for the chance to indulge without consequences #when they can pretend that they're ''punching up'' because their target is ostensibly higher up the social foodchain #but the insults/comments/meanspirited jokes are all rooted in queerphobia or racism or ableism or misogyny or classism etc #and therefore do more harm to others than to the person they're theoretically aiming at #like... i see you #(this isn't about anything current or specific btw) #(wrote this post a month or two ago and just found it in my drafts) #(but the point stands because i've definitely continued to encounter the same shit) #fandom problems #wank adjacent

[hazel2468]

“Kids are too young to learn about that stuff/ it might make them feel bad!”

My earliest memory is being told by a cop that “your kind aren’t welcome here” when my mom tried to take us to a playground. I was seven when someone called me a kike for the first time. The boy I had a crush on found out, told me he would never think a “Jew-pig” was cute, and then told me that as a “good German” he was going to put me in an oven “where you belong”. I spent all of middle and high school with kids throwing Nazi salutes at me, flicking pennies at me, drawing swastikas on my desk. When people started a rumor that I was blowing random guys in the theater, I was specifically called “Jewish whore”.

If I can deal with all of this from the age of FUCKING FOUR without it letting up for a single fucking week. If black kids can experience being called slurs, assaulted, being afraid for their lives because they know what cops do to them. If disabled kids can spend their days being called crip, spaz, being excluded from the most basic of things because no one, their peers and adults alike, cares to accommodate them. If queer kids can handle being assaulted and mocked every day, being excluded from activities because of their gender.

Then your fucking kid can handle sitting in class for a lesson or two. Learning about all  of the shit that’s been done to us in a way that is so watered down, it doesn’t even begin to cover it. Your kid can spend a day sitting in the auditorium watching “Schindler’s List” and giggling like a little fuck and imitating the Nazi salute while I sit there with the only other Jews in my grade and cry because we know this story and we have for years. Your kids can handle history lessons where they’re told that they could be Schindler. While I and kids like me know that we’re the little girl in the red jacket. Only meaningful for our shock value and pity when we die and nothing more. Only useful as a rhetorical device to inspire sympathy and tell other kids that they CAN do good, all while ignoring the fact that marginalized kids are fucking tortured at school by other kids, their teachers, and the fucking administration.

If you can’t handle your precious little baby having to learn about the Holocaust, or slavery, or racism, or the maltreatment of disabled people, or the AIDs crisis, for one day in an easy-to-swallow teaspoon of only slightly bitter medicine. Imagine being one of us.

#im pissed tonight #saw some shit about critical race theory #watched the John Oliver bit again #which is awesome by the way love him #but im just #oh my kid is too young to learn it at that age- #bitch if i and other kids like me #marginalized kids #can fucking LIVE IT from infancy #then your kid can sit and learn about it for a couple of hours #racism #abelism #antisemitism #queerphobia #slur mention

[disastergay]

sorry to break it to you guys but annoying people are allowed to be queer. you do not get to revoke somebody's access to the LGBT community just because you don't like their taste in music/clothes, the way they talk, or because you think they're a walking stereotype. hope this helps <3

#queer erasure #lgbt discourse #queerphobia #if I see one more post on my dash about cringey 'bihets' in cuffed jeans drinking oat milk I'm going feral

[bli-o]

if you ship two men together and strip one or both of them of their entire characterizations and turn them into uwu fragile yaoi baby, i’m fucking stealing something from your house!!!

feminine gay men are cool, mischaracterizing non-feminine gay men into your fetishistic stereotyped view of them and denying them their individuality is not👎👎👎

#this post is about #miles morales #from #spiderverse #lgbtq #lgbt #lgbtqia #lgbtqia+ #lgbtq+ #lgbtqplus #lgbtqa #lgbtqiia+ #gay #queer #queer issues #queer community #queer culture #lgbt community #queerphobia #gay stereotypes #gay ships #no cuz some of yall MISTREAT him i swear #i see miles shipped with another guy and he’s always the “smol must protect tiny❤️❤️” #did we watch the same film #genuinely #atsv #across the spiderverse #across the spider verse