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irondadmadlads · 6 months
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Irondad Prompt #196:
TW: Ableism. It’s unintentional, but it’s still there
Happy swore he didn’t know.
He thought Peter just liked to ramble. He didn’t know Peter was info dumping about his special interest. He didn’t know it was how Peter expressed friendship.
He thought the boy was being disrespectful when he wouldn’t make eye contact. “Look at me when I’m talking to you!” Happy reminded countless times. He didn’t know how anxious it made the boy.
He thought the bot was flapping his hands to distract the driver. “Sit still, Peter!” He yelled. He didn’t realize the kid was stimming.
But then, Tony was furious. “I didn’t expect you of all people to be ableist, Hogan.”
“Ableist?” Happy repeated. “What do you mean?”
“What do I mean?” Tony repeated. “I mean you’ve been forcing Peter to mask his autism around you. That’s what I mean!”
Happy swore he didn’t know. But now he realized how much he fucked up.
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bibyebae · 5 months
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if you look into history, it may feel like looking into a mirror...
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... and yes, we may think we are looking in a mirror, but this time, we have the chance to make a change.
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Against all types of oppression, the resistance rises and gains its freedom
People rise against racism.
People rise against sexism.
People rise against homophobia.
People rise against transphobia.
People rise against ablesim.
People rise against ethnic cleansing.
People rise against genocide.
People rise against the occupation of their land.
People rose and rise and will rise again and again against oppression
Palestinians rise against their oppressors, and we are a part of the resistance.
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Keep sharing, keep talking, apply pressure on the governments, defund the occupation, and boycott the ones to blame.
Speak up.
❤️
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tash-in-situ · 7 months
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Big Fat Fear
When I was 17, I lost 17kgs in a 3-month span by consuming only 800 calories a day and striving to keeping my body in ketosis.
Going over old photos filled me with horror. I would use them for comparison making sure I was smaller than before. Every morning I would step on the scales and if the numbers hadn't dropped I was filled with disappointment. The compliments I received only made me want to become smaller and smaller, as it was obvious to me that being tiny meant I was worthy of praise and of love.
As a child, I was constantly reminded of my weight, teased at school and forced into exercise by family all while being fed the extra’s from their plates. Recently when I called my grandparents, my grandpa asked me if I had done anything to slim down, I felt he believed being overweight to be a flaw and a failure to my family.
I should be able to enjoy my body in any shape or size, however, the difficulty is how I am seen because of my body. As a fat person I am considered maternal, cuddly and a source of comfort (I never linked myself to the concept of youth) or I'm seen as a fetish and asked to smother guys on tinder.
By changing my diet and finding delight in physical activities to improve my health, I am scared that the result might be weight loss, which will start a cycle of self-dislike. I am aware that my insecurities will wane, yet the fact is that these insecurities only exist because I have been taught to be insecure about them.
My double chin, back rolls, wide thighs and tummy - I cherish and appreciate them as part of myself and equally wish they didn’t exist. I'm trying to be kind to the part of me that believes I should shed the extra weight to be deemed more attractive. This has been a struggle for me for over 18 years.
Throughout this period, my body has been through many stages all the while my main fear being that I wouldn’t be loved. If I could have a fresh start I would erase the idea that thinness equates, respect and good health, and that to be deemed unhealthy is sinful and amoral.
My aim is to prosper. I desire vitality. I want to be kind to myself. I don't want an external standard to determine my self-image or how I live my life. I want to be liberated from fear.I want to keep looking in the reflection and behold all of my Self, not only my physical form. Because I and all people are much more than just our bodies, more than flesh and muscle wrapped around bone.
Of course don't have to be constantly in love with your body, all the time. I find the Body Positive movement has become superficial and generic, pushing a message of 'You can also be attractive!' (As if beauty somehow makes you more of a valid human, rightful in your existence) when it's not even about that. Fat Liberationist theory states 'I deserve to be treated with respect, I EXIST, I am worthy of proper medical care, I am meaningful a part of society’
Instead of attempting to overlook and push away my insecure parts, I am now endeavoring to be kind to them and explore the reasons why they exist and why they cause me so much suffering. Most of the time, these insecurities are the result of a system that seeks to marginalize, degrade, and shame EVERY body. In doing this I can recognise my own programming and comprehend that I have been conforming to an ideal which is incompatible with my own values.
I try self care. caring for the injured parts, understanding the ache. Reassuring my inner child who is beginning to hate their ever changing body, becoming my own advocate. Recalling all the times I opted not to do something due to being embarrassed of myself, not wanting to be seen; and now running into those opportunities, smiling wide in photos, not caring because fuck’em I’m going to take up space and I AM going to have fun.
Love & Power,
Tash
Resources:
https://msmagazine.com/2019/10/18/the-feminist-history-of-fat-liberation/
https://www.dazeddigital.com/beauty/article/56384/1/the-radical-history-of-the-queer-fat-liberation-movement
https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/wellness/healthy-bmi-obesity-race-/2021/05/04/655390f0-ad0d-11eb-acd3-24b44a57093a_story.html
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rivertalesien · 8 months
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Saw this on Bluesky:
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I can understand if you're an artist and it might be confusing as to why offering the courtesy of a little text description to low-vision/blind users is a nice thing. Maybe it is too much work, giving a brief explanation of your sophisticated doodles. After all, as the man says above, if you can't see it, you obviously can't understand it anyway, so, you know, get lost.
It's not like art classes and art books that give lengthy descriptions and explanations of art, you know, to help people understand it, has ever been a thing.
That isn't ableism. That's reality.
Actually, it's being an absolute asshole too arrogant to give one of the most basic kindnesses we can offer one another.
Here's a a freebie: low-vision and blind users scroll through these sites. They use something called a "screen reader" that can't interpret an image unless there is text telling it what it is. Even if you can only muster up a "THIS IS AN IMAGE KEEP SCROLLING" in the alt-text box (because your art is so complex it can't be described in words), that's better than nothing.
It's a FUCKING COURTESY.
PS: if no one is buying your work it might be because you're a dick
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mostly-mortal · 6 months
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Do terfs realize their being able list when they fear monger about autistic people transitioning?
"ah yes let's deprive this marginalized group of their right to bodily autonomy nothing can go wrong"
It's midnight I don't know if this makes sense but it is amazing how much people think they can get away with when they pretend their being feminist.
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anacecherry · 6 months
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"Narcissist are people too! We should treat them with respect!"
"Well this person who treated me badly was a narcissist so that means all narcissist deserve to be dehumanized by society and treated like monsters forever"
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hazelbutterflies · 1 year
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kosmicpowers · 6 months
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A little sudden and serious, but a PSA:
Before you judge a random fucking person for being a bad parent because their kid threw a "tantrum", remember that kid might be autistic and having a meltdown because they're overstimulated from all the chaos going on around them. They could be in pain, you don't know. And it's not like they can control it either. So if you don't know the full story, stop you shitheads.
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theturningsystem · 1 year
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Sinistergender: A Neurogender that is heavily influenced by ones trauma/PTSD, their mental disorder(s)/Neurodivecy, and their ableist ab//ser; being forced to be silenced about their ableism and mistreatment but refuses to a hostage and controlled, taking one's own power back and striking right back such harder, standing up for themselves as an act of Recovery and Healing.
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Color meanings:
🖤 black: Hiding in the black mist, creeping around on all fours, silently, hunting, ready attack your enemies who have harmed you in the past as they are now your prey and you're the hunter, other than the other way around.
💜Dark purple: the side of you that screaming for you to hide and protect yourself, begging you not to attack, due to the fear of being hurt again.
💚Dark Green: the side of you telling you should stand up for yourself and that you deserve better and be treated with respect.
Glowing purple within the eye of the cat: The sinister side of you that had enough, that will be taking revenge, cold as ice, raging with blood-boiling rage, ready to attack at any minute if your ableist dares to come back and won't stop til they begging for mercy, even then, you won't stop attacking, won't stop standing up for yourself as you know you deserve to be treated better and will remain to stand up for yourself as a way to heal from your trauma and take back your own power and heal.
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enbean-rock · 7 months
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left can’t watch movie try to rest but can hear roommates still laughing commenting loud loud loud loud loud
know they will talk talk talk about it later talk talk talk and i won’t know
want to watch funny movie too not fair not fair not fair not fair not fair
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aintgonnatakethis · 1 year
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doctor said to my face “i think you’re exaggerating your symptoms because of your anxiety”. fucking die
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highestpriestess · 2 years
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Producers: "so we want it to be dark and edgy, lots of struggle with identification and belonging"
Writers: "got it. We'll give everyone a disability millions of people live with everyday but have zero personal experience with."
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yeeiguess · 2 years
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You know what I want to see ? Denki standing up for himself and not accepting being called stupid by people (read : mostly Jirō and Katsuki) anymore. Setting boundaries and sticking to it. Not laughing anymore when someone says something along the line of ‘Of course Kaminari does X he’s stupid’. Asking them why exactly they said that. Making them explain themselves. Putting all his strength in not letting himself get walked on anymore, in stopping people pleasing that hurts him.
Telling Katsuki clearly that he will not answer to Dunce Face anymore, and sticking with it and ignoring him when he calls him that. Staying serious and letting himself show it hurts, and looking at all the people around who are laughing until they stop because it’s not funny.
I had a lot of thoughts about him confronting people and a whole thing with like- being called stupid is justified by his actions unless he tells them he has adhd, in which case suddenly he has a ‘reason’ to act ‘dumb’. And why would you apologise for comments only because you know there’s a disorder involved, and how does that work for people who are neurotypicals but it’s just their personality ?
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obsidiancreates · 2 years
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Okay hold up, rant about Allison and people's reactions to her in Season 3 below the cut (it is not in her favor)
Yes, Allison being angry is understandable and deserved, and her difficulty navigating her trauma is valid. She went through horrible things, a lot of things that no-one else in her family can relate to or are equipped to help her handle.
But that doesn't excuse her knowingly trying to rape her brother or committing a fucking hate crime against an autistic person.
And yes, her murdering Harlan was a fucking hate crime, because prior to that she was pretty explicitly despising him for his Autism. Everything she said she hated about him or found unpleasant about him was symptoms of Autism. His killing the mothers by accident was brought on by a sensory overload and emotional overload linked to his powers he was not equipped to fully handle or control and all of this was related to his Autism. She could have murdered Viktor for it, but no! She literally just murdered Harlan because he was Autistic! It was a fucking hate crime!
Also she tried to rape her brother! Like it's not new, she did that to her first husband, but clearly with him she thought it was different. "I heard a rumor that you love me," reflects a mentality of "Oh I just want us to be a family and want him to return my affections." "I heard a rumor that you want me," is pretty clearly her thinking "I don't care that you don't want to have sex with me, I want you to so you will and I'll force you into it."
Her trauma and anger and grief are not a fucking excuse for ablest hate crimes and attempted rape. Those are inexcusable actions, you fucking scumbags who think rape is a #girlboss thing to do.
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adisastrousmortal · 1 year
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I have been noticing a weird influx in "I hate my disabled sibling 😭" stories for some reason, and most of them sound fake anyways but damn they really are the open door for some people to be ableist. I have literally seen people talk about how they are jealous of their dead sibling for getting more care from Their parents.
Here is the thing, feeling neglected by your parents is valid and all, but your situation will never be worse than your disabled sibling, for example you can actually escape your said household, your sibling doesn't (with most of the stories the sibling in question has a disability that requires caregivers).
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vicktoryscreech · 1 year
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so yesterday i had my first day of work in 2 years. today i found out i passed all my classes and i’m graduating this saturday. i’m happy and proud of myself but i also feel kind of disappointed in myself for how embarrassed i was of only just now achieving these things. i felt really bad for being unemployed and not having a bachelor’s degree exactly four years after graduating high school. which is dumb internalized ableist bullshit. i would never want someone else to feel bad for not being employed or not having a college degree but i really struggled with those feelings about myself. i feel like i should really deal with this so these feeling don’t continue to come up in the future. i’m sure i’ll have more goals that take me longer to achieve than i originally hope for and i don’t want to beat myself up about that
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