#YMMV

[guardian-of-soho]

The next time Crowley takes off his glasses in front of Aziraphale will kill me instantly.

#and I will die happily #I love moments in fic where Aziraphale takes them off #ymmv #but onscreen I wanna see him do it #I wanna see the luminosity of his emotions unexpectedly exposed #I wanna see Aziraphale go toward the light #and I need Crowley to be the one to offer it to him #good omens #ineffable husbands #a/c

[hexblading]

Nanami Kento is absolutely a guy that bites.

Like, randomly bites you. You guys could be lying on the couch, a movie on while your minds are miles away, enjoying comfortable silence together as you unwind from the fatigues of adulthood together.

Then he looks at you, eyes empty at the screen, knowing you're not paying attention— just relaxing. It's dark, the TV lights up you both, he's memorizing the curves of your nose, noting how the little differences in light makes you look somehow more beautiful than the last.

Then your eyes meet. A smile, which is returned. And then he leans down, your eyes locked the entire time.

He then fucking bites you like this

#ymmv #nanami kento x reader #nanami kento #idk he absolutely strikes me as that gif

[artemis-prime-g1]

"Blister in the Sun", digital illustration, 2024.

#valveplug #transformers #maccadam #suggestive themes #starscream #skyfire #jetfire #ymmv #suggestive

[dailywincestspam]

“people on the outside of the Wincest/ Wincest adjacent bubble are like “so you think Sam and Dean want to have sex?”

and honestly I’m here like no, you absolute pedestrian. They want to crawl up inside each other and and occupy the same skin and exist away from the whisper of threat of feeling they ever have to compete with anyone or anything for one another’s devotion. And only one of them even realizes how fucked up that is.

If they wanted to have sex it would literally be more normal. That’s how insane they are”

- saint-wincest [x]

#lost post T^T #ish #wincest salt #wincest #or #gencest #gencest salt #ymmv #it's true and you should say it 😌 #weirdos (affectionate) #personal space? never heard of her #psychotically irrationally erotically codependent on each other #dean the first apostle and priest to the sam religion #sam the first apostle and priest to the dean religion

[quinnthebard]

As I’m seeing a lot of people returning to Tumblr (like I had about 8 months ago or something), I thought I’d put some of my thoughts down on how Tumblr differentiates culture-wise in comparison to Twitter. This isn’t going to be a “How-to” in order to functionally use the space. This isn’t another warning post about how to not be considered a bot by other users. This is simply going to be what one can and will expect to see while using this website, however temporary, while Twitter is Twitter-ing. Tumblr interactions are different than Twitter interactions. Twitter is like snappy and quick. It moves along, people just say whatever comes to their head and then move onto the next post. Tumblr is a long-form media. People don’t necessarily comment unless prompted? Don’t expect people to react beyond a like and reblog unless they have something that adds substance (most times) to the conversation. That’s just the nature of the beast.  If you’re moving from Twitter to Tumblr and you expect it to be a seamless transition to the same amount of interaction that you received on the other platform, you won’t get it. Not unless you put in work. People are more hesitant to interact. They want a deeper relationship than a quick quip. They want people to show they care to a degree. I’m not saying parasocial relationships as friends or something but any amount of proper investment in the other’s thoughts / feelings is generally a thing I’ve seen between users who do interact. BNFs are less common here. Sure there are art blogs that are generally well-followed and so on, but don’t expect your hot take to blast off into the stratosphere. People here don’t really like drama. They just like their special interest at the moment, want to talk to like-minded people, and move on.  There is no algorithm! Honestly, I love that. It removes that pressure to get likes and reblogs for me. I just shout into the void and if someone responds, great! Posts get traction primarily through followers and tagging. If someone follows a tag, it’ll appear for them in order among the other tags, that’s just how it be. Everyone is on an equal playing ground. No one gets priority because an algorithm decided that they have “better content” than others. Want to make friends? [fucking hell I pushed enter too early lmao] Be friendly. Interact. Have fun. That’s what we’re all here for.  I might have more to say but I’ll just reblog and add later but I thought it was important to share this stuff because I see a few misconceptions about the culture and wanted to help others adjust <3 Source? I guess? I was here a lot too much from 2010 to 2013

#twitter #new to tumblr #just casual advice #YMMV #best wishes to all the new users!

[threebea]

I suddenly had thoughts about Luke.

Owen and Beru were in contact with Obi-Wan, but didn't let him near Luke, at least not for the first ten years of Luke's life.

But also they're raising a baby Force Sensitive. Luke has an extra sense that they don't have a grasp of and they're looking for it.

So Beru comes to Obi-Wan one day. She says Luke is antsy and distractable. He has a hard time focusing.

And Obi-Wan wonders if that's Force senstivity or if it's just an active mind, but he teaches Beru moving meditation. Both Force Sensitives and non-Force sensitives can do it.

She goes back and has Luke bake bread with her to help him focus.

And Owen comes one day and says that Luke is overly sensitive. Sometimes he gets picked on and he has a hard time holding in his anger.

And Obi-Wan tries not to think of Anakin, but of course he does. And it may be a normal child having struggles regulating emotions, or it might be Luke picking up on the heightened emotions of the other children and an echo chamber moving through him.

So he teaches Owen to have Luke sit with him. Tells Owen to focus on his love for Luke and calmly talk Luke through what he's feeling. Naming emotions working through them, learning to identify what he's feeling and what he's reacting to. Because that can help force sensitives and non-force sensitives.

And Beru comes later and says that Luke gets bouts of anxiety. And Obi-Wan says that their bread making might help, or trying to get him to focus on the here and now. The present moment. And if that doesn't work have him do exersizes and he thinks about how Master Qui-Gon had him run laps to clear his head and he always felt better after running. It could be Luke having spikes of foresight, or it could just be the boy has natural anxiety.

And when Owen comes to him in the middle of the night about bad dreams, dreams that could be visions, Obi-Wan tells Owen that the future is always in motion, sometimes dreams are dreams, but to write them down just in case, and to hold Luke and reassure him.

And Owen sees how Obi-Wan was probably raised and feels pity for him. Owen didn't understand that the Jedi were family, but he sees it now. This was how Anakin was raised, and maybe his childhood wasn't as cold and loveless as he imagined. He doesn't tell Obi-Wan that.

And when Luke finally meets Old Ben Kenobi and Obi-Wan walks him through how to use the Force, it comes naturally. Not because he's super powerful (although he his), but because his parents prepared him, and helped him learn how to process the extra sense that he had grown up with even if he didn't know that.

#uncle owen #aunt beru #owen lars #beru whitesun #luke skywalker #star wars #obi-wan kenobi #I like the idea that although Luke DOES learn how to use the Force more quickly than the average Force User #he did have some basis #If I wrote a story it would probably be more of a happy ending where they all move in together but anywho #ymmv #headcanons

[avrelia]

Zuko, Mai, and their love

I adore Mai and Zuko romantic relationship on avatar the Last Airbender. Not because they have a perfect relationship, or perfectly healthy one, but because that relationship is a realistic hot mess that is true to their characters, the world they live in, and the story.

And being realistic means I see similar people with similar problems in real life, in various combinations even if they cannot bend elements and don’t stand in line to inherit a throne.

At the same time Mai and Zuko are unique in fiction and make a total sense inside their story, narrative sense and symbolic one.

We see two kids who grew up in privileged, but toxic environment, steeped in propaganda and manipulation. We don’t know much about their relationship before Zuko was banished, and it is not necessary. They meet after three years, now 15 and 16 years old, and soon they are together, and here their love story starts. It is an inversion of a familiar trope, or most tropes popular these days that emphasize slow burn and feelings developing over time, in the right order and on as steep a scale as it can be. That’s one of the reasons why enemies to lovers is so popular – it makes for a better contrast and longer road. The characters are supposed to learn about themselves and the other, to become better people, to experience all that delicious unresolved sexual tension, and then to start good and wholesome relationship that make the world a better place.

Mai and Zuko don’t do that.

They skip all the steps and start the relationship. And only then they have to deal with the problem that they don’t know each other and hardly know themselves.

Is it GOOD? no. I wouldn’t advise anyone to try that. But is it believable? Absolutely. Mai and Zuko are two traumatized teenagers who really have no idea how healthy relationships should work. They barely function as is, and not good about connecting to people beyond their immediate circle. Which is why they have easier time connecting with each other.

There are many examples of Zuko’s people skills throughout the show, but Mai hardly fares better. She can pretend she is fine, but that’s because she was trained to stand pretty and be polite to people at the parties. She can appear aloof and bored, which is way more socially acceptable than whatever Zuko (and Azula) do at parties, but she can’t really connect to people, either.

With each other, they don’t make that effort, they get together, and it is a relief and solace for both of them at that moment, even though it brings problems in the future.

And they share a lot in common – it is ridiculous to downplay those similarities or pretend that they don’t matter. They have a similar upbringing, and while similar upbringing is never a guarantee of having a good relationship, it makes many things easier at the time.

Another thing I see in their on screen interactions and the one people tend to discard – The physicality of their relationship. Mai and Zuko seem to be genuinely attracted to each other and very comfortable being physically close with each other. No speculation on how close they got, just what we see on screen – they keep touching each other, they kiss, they keep close unless they are arguing (in the Beach and the Boiling Rock). But as soon they are back together, we see them embracing. And looking rather happy while embracing each other.

Both are touch starved and have spikey demeanor with the rest of the world, both desiring contact and shying away from it at the same time, Mai plainly saying to her best friend Ty Lee that she doesn’t like hugs and showing her reluctance to return Ty Lee’s hugs. But Mai is different with Zuko, and Zuko is different with Mai than with the rest of the world. And it is not bad, it is human.

Mai and Zuko love each other, but they also prove that the famous quote “all you need is love” is not quite right. Love is there, but it doesn’t work, and these two won’t stop trying to make it work.

We are seeing them in the very beginning of their journey. Book 3 lasts three months, and half of that time they were not together. And they managed a fine progress over that time. They talk, they learn about each other, they are being stupid and awkward and wrong, but they try to understand and support each other as much as they can. They learn to trust each other. And their confrontation at the Boiling rock is all about trust.

Mai is feeling betrayed and confronts Zuko. Zuko tries to explain his reasons – and maybe it is all shocking and uncomfortable for Mai, but she trusts Zuko at the end. Even if she is not ready to join his cause, she knows him enough to trust him again. To trust his reasons and his actions to disregard her own life (and social position) in order to save his. And that’s more than love.

What about symbolism? I talked about characters, but what about overall place in the story for Mai and Zuko’s relationship? When we talk about narrative and symbolism in any story, it is important to note that there no single understanding of which symbol must mean for everyone. Not for creators, not for viewers. There no agreement even in the simple question what narrative is there. And some fans, sure, see the narrative where Mai is an evil ex or symbolizes the past one has to move on from. But I see a narrative of kids growing up in oppressive state, under propaganda, struggling to find themselves and express themselves. And it is a difficult road to walk on, so they stumble a lot but they keep going.

Another possible aspect is the one where we see Mai as the Fire Nation. The marriage between a ruler and a country is one of the oldest myths, existing across different cultures, so the relationship between Mai and Zuko get that powerful mythic aspect as well. We know that Zuko is leaving Fire Nation and is coming back to it. Of course, as any symbol, it does not fit precisely, but the parallel is there, and it is fun to think about it.

But what does that relationship give Zuko? What does it give Mai? Except for some make-out sessions? Well, a bit of refuge and solace is not that little and useless benefit. Those were teenagers who were fighting in war, on the villainous side, sure, but still Mai’s previous months were unhappy, and Zuko’s previous years were filled with anguish and trauma. Right now they can be comfortable with each other, and it’s a lot. They also help each other to change for the better. It is not a huge and sweeping change, but Mai becomes more willing to talk about feelings, her own and Zuko’s, and for Zuko his experience of Mai’s love and support gives him respite and helps to realize the truth about himself – that he has to join the Avatar and help to end the war. He knows he is not alone in the Fire Nation, that even if Mai doesn’t see that the Fire Nation is in the wrong yet, she agrees that something is wrong with the world.

Mai and Zuko’s relationship works, and not because it is perfect, wholesome and unproblematic, but because it is believable that these particular people would have this particular relationship, and at the same time it shows new, unexpected sides of the characters and highlights their problems and, provides refuge, challenges and makes them change for the better.

#atla #atla mai #zuko #avatar the last airbender #atla maiko #mai #atla meta #my posts #YMMV

[djeterg19]

Ok I keep trying to move on but...I could not imagine loving someone and breaking up with them after one fight(that wasn't cheating or violence) and then immediately blocking them on all avenues and never once in three years thinking I wonder if they are ok? I wonder if they miss me? I wonder if they are happy? Not once? You loved them but didn't want to reach out once? To talk? To check in? But I'm supposed to believe you love them?

#last twilight #last twlight the series #it could never be me #i would worry and need to know they were ok #ymmv

[britcision]

So lemme tell you a secret

Most people you meet in a day are at least a little conflict averse. Most people do not want to make a scene

People who know this and are not averse to making a scene can become fucking unstoppable, and many of them use this power for evil

You can stop them in their goddamn tracks about 55% of the time by doing your best impression of someone who is not conflict averse

If someone comes up to you and you have any feeling they wanna give you a bad time, do not greet them quietly

Greet them loudly, as loudly as they greet you if not a little louder

This tells them they can’t make you back down or give in on the threat of drawing attention; a good chunk of the time, they will not want attention themselves if you’re the one drawing it

You don’t need to be confrontational or aggressive; just turn, greet them as normal, and up the volume just enough to show you’re not hiding or scared of loud noises

(This does not need to be true so long as you fake it well)

Note: this is not a guarantee, but honestly if they were gonna give you a hard time and draw attention they were probably gonna do that anyway

Stay cool, stay polite, and don’t let them intimidate you into whispering to avoid creating a scene. If they wanna make a scene, let them play the villain

#social hacks #conflict avoidance #it solves so much if you just. don’t whisper #makes you seem much more powerful than you might be #ymmv #as always #but it works for me real good #the kind of person who starts an interaction thinking they can step on you tend to shut right up if you aren’t quiet #it’s like fake confidence #i’m like moderate conflict averse (never trouble for the service folks) but all my friends are SUPER conflict averse #so i have been dragooned into it #and yeah this saves a lot of time #just keep in your heart that if they say ‘or what’ or ‘what’ll you do about it’ #the correct answer is a blank look like they’re fucking insane and a gentle ‘judge you along with everyone else in this room’ #even if they misbehave 10/10 you are automatically the adult

[indelibleevidence]

Since a friend has just been given a suspected ME/CFS diagnosis, I'm going to try to list the most useful things I've learned about coping with the disease. If it helps other people too, then yay! I assume long COVID sufferers will also be able to apply a lot of it.

Feel free to save/reblog/tattoo on your arms/whatever. :)

Keep baths/showers closer to lukewarm than hot. It sucks, but keeping your body temperature from spiking helps lessen the inevitable post-bathing crash.

Shower chairs. Kitchen chairs. Garden chairs. Chairs, chairs, chairs.

Electric toothbrushes = less arm movement when brushing your teeth.

Don't lift your arms over your head unless absolutely necessary. Even when shampooing your hair, it's better to lower your head to your hands (keeping your elbows down) than the other way around. If you want to stretch your arms over your head as a gentle exercise to help your mobility, do it when you're lying down flat.

Baby wipes and dry shampoo are good for hygiene when showers are a nope.

Food packages you can eat in bed are important to have around for crash days. Croissants, pain au chocolat, crackers, corn/ricecakes, etc.

Sugar and music will get you through the exhausting stuff that you can't cancel or delegate (please disregard this advice if you're diabetic/have hearing issues or noise sensitivity).

YMMV, but sometimes you will have more mental fatigue than physical, but you might mistake it for physical if you're not thinking about it. Those days are good for getting brainless tasks within your energy envelope done (like the dishes).

Leave a task half-finished and come back to it after resting, if you're finding yourself overreaching. (This is the advice I absolutely can not make myself take, because 'I've started, so I might as well finish' is seductive. But it IS good advice.)

My personal stop sign for 'lie down before you fall down' is tingling pinkie fingers, for some reason. Figure out what yours is, and listen to it.

Resting feels like a waste of time, especially if it's done all the damn time... but it's not a waste, it's necessary. Forgiving yourself for having to do it will make things more mentally tolerable.

There will always be people you interact with who insinuate that if you just tried harder...(insert toxic positivity here). They will seem like they have a point, because your inner ableist guilt-tripper will agree with them, but they don't know what it's like to have your symptoms. Screw what they think.

I could probably add more, but my brain is tired, and there are a lot of words for brain fog sufferers already. But I hope this can help a few people. 🙂

#me/cfs #long covid #disability #ymmv

[juiceboxscans]

Happy Monday!

Raise wa Tanin ga Ii Chapter 38: 18 Years Old is up. Spanish is in approval.

TW for SA and dub con.

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Have a great rest of the week!

#raise wa tanin ga ii #rwtgi #yakuza fiance #scanlation #mangadex link #manga #we love you #YMMV

[kkglinka]

Gotta be honest, the way Yang's romantic and sexual experience is described doesn't just sound like comphet, but specifically demisexual. Someone who's never really experienced of those impulses (but gotta act normal! But don't fuckin' touch me in an intimate manner (her hair). Why is that mean girl talking that way about my body??).

Who gradually does develop romantic and sexual desire out of proximity to an ideal match. Who cannot quickly and easily identify those feelings because they are brand new. (Holding hand? Funny feeling??) Just that they're intense and painful and that's confusing. Not I know I love you but...I think?

#fandom #rwby #yang xiao long #bumbleby #asexual problems #while some remnant cultures #obv have transphobia #homophobia doesn't seem #to exist #there's no impetus #for repression via internalized phobia #dismissing or ignoring #to prioritize familial duties? #sure! #but that complete unawareness #nah #as always #ymmv

[chainsawmascara]

Things I've found out through the unlimited romance mod: lae'zel is cool with you dating halsin, karlach is allegedly cool with you dating halsin.

#i only asked one #ymmv #bg3 #karlach #lae'zel #halsin

[capricorn-0mnikorn]

I love my disabled body ...

In the same way I'd love a family member

As by the old Norse/Anglo-Saxon (Viking Age) principle of friþ*: unconditionally, pledging to protect and defend, and avenge, no matter what.

I also get angry and frustrated by my disabled body

In the same way I'd get angry and frustrated by a family member

As in: "Give me a Break!" and "Why does that old habit of yours pop up now, when I am trying to do [_X_]?" and "Can you not?"

I rejoice in the company of my disabled body

In the same way I rejoice in the company of a beloved family member

Every sensual pleasure and every emotional high is something we've shared together. And I wouldn't trade my memories with my body for anything.

So any suggestion (even hypothetical) that

I (or worse, Society™) would be better off if I traded my body for a different one

Just awakens my inner avenger. You have been warned.

*That's a "Thorn," not a "Pee"

#life with a disability #ymmv #old Norse words #Wikipedia link #no friþ for fascists BTW #body autonomy #body acceptance

[iplaywithstring]

Things I need to do regularly to take care of myself

Create - just a little bit can help, long term projects and quick things both make me feel productive

Move - this is hard with chronic illness, but also important because of chronic pain. Sometimes it means bed yoga, sometimes it means dancing while making supper, sometimes it means a walk. Whatever feels good and possible that day.

Chores - taking 10 minutes to tackle things that need done feels good. Yes, my husband will take care of it when I can't, but contributing to the household important.

Connecting - Online and in person - relying on work and home for my face to face interactions isn't enough, sometimes I just need to be in the same place as a friend. Calls and messages are good when I can't get out.

Journaling - especially important when my thoughts are distracting or I'm stuck on something. Can give me clarity or help me recognize when I need feedback from others. Great for remembering the good things in life.

None of these need to happen every day, but they all need to happen regularly to avoid mental crashes. Keeping track of them helps me see when I'm isolating or otherwise not taking care of myself and gives me a clear step to take to make things better.

#this is my life #ymmv #but I think these are pretty common for people #self-care is more than rest #pro-active activities keep me going #I hope this will be a good reminder for someone else too

[threebea]

Leia and Obi-Wan both being survivors of a genocide of their people suddenly hit me.

The diaspora of both Alderaanians and the Jedi. I wonder if Leia thought about the stories of General Kenobi and her days with Ben. How this person she later names her son after who she knows is strong crumpled after his loss, but how she gets to see some of him heal standing beside her. And her comforting Luke on the day when Ben dies, her father and mother die, and her planet is destroyed because she remembers that it was compassion that healed Ben. Both receiving it and giving it.

#kenobi #obi-wan kenobi #leia Organa #star wars #ymmv #kenobi spoilers #probably