#THIS IS FUCKING MENTAL

[scretladyspider]

“If you have time to watch Netflix you have time for a side hustle” my side hustle is relaxing so that my body and brain can heal from by this nose-to-the-grindstone bullshit. I refuse to feel guilty for being a human with the need to relax sometimes. my side hustle is no.

#mental health #lgbtqia #queer #text #adhd #capitalism #side hustle #fuck off

[nando161mando]

#religion #dogma #atheist #science #bible nonsense #sun #universe #earth #ausgov #politas #auspol #tasgov #taspol #australia #fuck neoliberals #neoliberal capitalism #anthony albanese #albanese government #religion is a mental illness #religion is bullshit #religion is toxic #religion is a scam #religion is stupid #class war #bible scripture #bible quote #bible study #bible verse #bible #eat the rich

[queermasculine]

"that woman character in your art straight up looks like a dude!" hey man i don't mean to scare you but sometimes there's women who look like dudes. in real life

#fucking mental i know

[corvigae]

I keep having to tear down extremely predatory/misleading Scien.tology flyers in my school's art building. This is the third fucking time I've ripped the fuckers up and I'm getting Real Fucking Tired of it.

#they're masquerading as a mental helth help line it's disgusting #the ONLY clue that it's a fucking cult is the tiny print that says 'copyright hubbard dianetics' #personal grumblings #i'm fucking graduating i don't give a fuck abt appearing nice or accepting #i see those fuckers i shred then

[itdosentsmelllikecacatome]

YOU ALREADY KNOW WHAT TIME IT IS

More GOOD OMENS

#crowley #good omemes #ineffable divorce #ineffable husbands #good omens #aziracrow #aziraphale #good ineffable omens #mentally fucked #fuck off

[feralkitten420]

"You need to relax"

Best I can do is dissociate

#bpd problems #daddysbabybrat #bpd #bpdfeelings #bpd thoughts #dissociated #actually borderline #borderline splitting #borderline personality disorder #mentally fucked

[bunniibpd]

#bpd #bpd blog #bpd meme #bpd memes #relatable memes #bpd life #bpd mood #bpd problems #borderline memes #bpd episode #bpd stuff #bpd splitting #bpd vent #actually bpd #mentally insane #mentally unstable #mental illness memes #mental health blog #mentally fucked #mental health #actually mentally ill #trauma posting #trauma vent

[braindamaged007]

#its the most wonderful time of the year #the grinch #lmao #lmao what #dark comedy #darkhumourmemes #lol wtf #wtf lmao #memes #lol memes #dank humor #dank memes #dark memes #dark humor #meme #dank meme #mentally unstable #mentally fucked #dankmemes #lol #bad bitch #funny meme #bad boy #bad boi #goes hard #images that hit hard #hardimages #hard images #oof lmao #lmaooo

[jobackmanhorsesworld]

#bpd #bpd things #borderline personality disorder #bpd thoughts #trauma #mentally fucked

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[ahsgirlblogger]

#coquette #girlblogging #girlblogger #just girly things #natalie portman #im just a girl #lana del rey #girlhood #hell is a teenage girl #girlrotting #im literally going insane #literally me #lizzy grant #the feminine urge #mentally tired #mentally fucked #pink coquette #coquettecore #coquette aesthetic #girlcore #girl interrupted syndrome #this is what makes us girls #hyper feminine #femcel #femcore #female hysteria #female manipulator #gaslight gatekeep girlblog #gaslight gatekeep girlboss #me when

[inkskinned]

hey btw if you're in the USA at  2:20 p.m. ET on Wednesday, Oct. 4, they're testing the emergency broadcast system. your phone is probably going to make a really loud noise, even if it's on silent. there's a backup date on the 11th if they need to postpone it.

if you're not in a safe situation and have an extra phone, you should turn that phone completely off beforehand.

additionally, if you're like me, and are easily startled; i recommend treating it like a party. have a countdown or something. be surrounded by your loved ones. take the actions you personally need to take to make yourself safe.

i have already seen mockery towards any person who feels nervous about this. for the record, it completely, completely valid to have "emergency broadcast sounds" be an anxiety trigger. do not let other people make fun of you for that. emergency sounds are legitimately engineered to make us take action; those of us with high levels of anxiety and/or neurodivergence are already pre-disposed to have a Bad Time. sometimes it is best to acknowledge that the situation will be triggering for some, and to prepare for that; rather than just saying "well that's stupid, it's just a test."

"loud scary sound time" isn't like, my favorite thing, but we can at least try to prevent some additional anxiety by preparing for it. maybe get yourself a cake? noise cancelling headphones? the new hozier album? whatever helps. love u, hope you're okay. we are gonna ride it out together.

#watching ppl go from being like ''support neurodivergent ppl~~!" #to being like ''if this is going to give u a panic attack ur fuckken stupid'' #like..... gets me #yeah man. i know im going to be triggered by it . in the old fashioned term. it is GOING to give me a panic attack. it's pretty much certai #and i shouldn't have to tell u about what i have survived for you to be okay with that. #you can just trust that i ALSO don't want me to react to it. i'm not gonna be having a FUN time. #dismissing that bc you think it's stupid.... like is the whole problem. #these sounds are workshopped by entire teams of people to get you to pay attention and move quickly. #they arent meant to be fun and exciting. #OBVIOUSLY it's gonna set ppl off. #but yeah there's something so fuckken demeaning about ppl being like. well that trigger isn't valid bc u haven't undergone X #dude i have ptsd bc i was abused as a child. like plain and simple. the fact im 30 and afraid of the dark tells you how bad it was. #i shouldn't have to ask u for permission to be mentally ill. #the reason it's a fucking disorder and not a fucking choice is that I DO NOT CONTROL IT. #like how is it any different from when ppl are like ''oh public speaking isn't that scary'' like FOR YOU #for YOU this isn't scary. now if i could fucking eat my own amygdala...

[honeypleasejustkillme]

who else mourning the person they could've been if they were treated kindly as a child

#actually bpd #actually mentally ill #bpd #bpd fp #actually borderline #bpd shitposting #bpd favorite person #bpd problems #bpd vent #bpd mood #actually cptsd #childhood trauma #if only i was treated better as a child #maybe i wouldn’t be so fucked up now

[blvcksuba]

Peachy

#gayboy #gayhot #men #art #gay #lgbtq #gay art #menbody #gay kiss #gayguy #gay love #gay boys #gay men #gayman #menbutt #athletic men / teen / boy #mental health #fuck my body #great body #beautiful body #sexy peachy bum 🍑 #peachy 🍑 #peachy ass #peachy boy #big bootie #bootie peach #bootiful #gay butt

[injuredsoullessfrog]

#vent post #vent blog #ventcore #vent #mentally fucked #self h@te #s3lf hate #mentally drained #kinda depressing #tw depressing stuff #s3lf harn #self h@rm #tw depressing thoughts #tw selfhate #tw self destructive behavior #feeling sad #self destruction

[ryanjudgesthings]

There's a mistake I see a lot of people in the mental health community make and in all honesty, it's one I've made myself. But I think we should really work on it. And that's saying "if this were a physical illness, wouldn't you care?"

I've learned that no actually, people wouldn't care. Katelyn Weinstein (theADHDprincess on Twitter) is a neurodiversity acceptance activist who really put this in perspective for me. She said that it's actually more an issue of longevity than physical vs mental health.

If you're having a bad day people will generally be understanding. But when you're experiencing chronic depression and you have many bad days people lose sympathy.

In the same respect people may be understanding when you've broken a bone that will heal properly or when you have a cold that will go away soon in ways they simply won't understand when you have chronic pain or need to use a wheelchair. They may send chicken soup for a temporary situation, but when you need consistent accomodations it's an entirely different story.

I understand that from our perspective it looks like people care more about physical health than mental health, but it's good to remember that our own perspective is also limiting. Facing ableism doesn't mean you can't be ableist. And I know so many people are not ill-intentioned when they say this. I know I wasn't. But we can't discount the lived experiences of physically disabled people. If we want true equality we need to be united and we need to listen to those with physical disabilities and illnesses. And those with physical disabilities and illnesses (some of which are also invisible) have said that they are not given proper accomodations either.

So let's be united and fight for equality and accomodations for everyone, no matter what their illness or disability may be.

#fuck eugenics #ableism #ableism tw #mental health #neurodiversity #neurodivergent #actually adhd #adhd #actually ocd #ocd #mental illness #disabilty #disability rights #disabled rights #equality #allyship