#Socialising

[csuitebitches]

Traits I’ve Noticed in Confident People 

Disciplined - if a target is set, it is achieved 

Speaking - Can speak multiple languages. Can express thoughts clearly even if vocabulary is limited. The listener understands their point. 

Strong extroversion socially - can approach and talk to new people with ease, but also make them feel comfortable. Good at following up, asking questions and inserting little stories about themselves without exposing too much 

Strong general knowledge / industry knowledge. They know what they’re talking about 

Hard to please but not arrogant about it. They won’t readily accept a fact or opinion, even if the majority agrees - they’ll debate with it, think over it, play the devil’s advocate

Good posture

Strong set of principles and self control. There’s no shame in wanting to say, help someone, choose not to drink socially, buy a coffee for a poor person on the street; they don’t hesitate to do good deeds 

Hygienic. Clean, groomed, well dressed, well maintained. 

Observant and proactive at the same time. Can pick up on body language relatively easily - can sense discomfort or unease in someone and do something about it. 

Have a strong sense of self identity. Can be opinionated but open to challenges. 

#c suite #powerful woman #strong women #ceo aesthetic #personal growth #that girl #productivity #getting your life together #balance #Confidence #confident traits #how to be confident #How to be yourself #being social #socialising #stand out #glow up

[gwydion-aacblog]

like intellectual disability much more than just social but social is impact even without autism because … have problems learn things and problems understand and problems follow . of course that will make social hard .

even autism people always always always expect for gwydion learn social rules - even if different autism rules and not " normal " ones - but still could not do that !

look . when gwydion brain focus on something and want talk about that , there is , nothing else can say . not something that can try harder to be polite . not something that choose do because self obsess and hate listen .

brain get on one track , and , that is only track want ride until brain choose is done now . can do best listen and have conversation with people , but , sometimes can not help if brain do not stop talk talk talk about same thing about self . and need for others know that is not try be rude thing , that if try interrupt and make listen , that just make for sure will not be able follow . need let brain follow path until tired , so that can able listen back .

and even after brain done focus on own stuff , still have really hard time change topic and say lots , answers often short , like exclamations and smile faces . not mean not interest , but , take time for brain understand and process new topic , figure out how feel and what want say . sometimes person say something , and only have " real answer " 10 minutes or 30 minutes or even hours after say .

these , is things people not want understand . decide these make rude and weird and should go away never have any friends . people always say break social rules make people uncomfortable but never never never explain why . hurt until meltdown then say is rude for tell to go away shut up .

and know . yes sometimes really done things wrong . but many more times , is people not understand these important things , pretend to self that rude on purpose . and in all all all case not help to just say done something wrong and never say what !!!

1. this is not about autism sometimes this is intellectual disability all times . can have sometimes struggle like this with autism , but feel silence when tag this autism autism autism and ignore that talk about intellectual disability , and how people with autism sometimes even more awful about social problems .

2. this is not self diagnose intellectual disability post . is not is not is not is not . do not do that , is so much more complicate than self diagnose mental health . intellectual disability come from things like early brain damage and can bring lots other problems so really , really need be careful not just look and think intellectual disability because relate with 1 post .

#actuallyautistic #intellectual disability #communication #socialising

[gravestoneghost]

I realised that I'm more awkward with socialising online than in person and I wanted to do a little poll about this so:

reblog for reach, pretty please

#poll #polls #tumblr users #my polls #random polls #tumblr polls #questions #socialising

[skullchicken]

Most of my friends and I are adults around 30 and as such we find out that meeting up on the weekends tends to get harder because everything you can't get done during the work week gets shuffled in there. But also we're too dang tired to do a proper meet-up during a workday evening/need the time to decompress. Our solution?

Eat and Yeet!

You meet up at one person's or couple's house, you might prep the food together, or not, you eat dinner together and after 2 h at the latest, the guests yeet themselves or are being yeeted out the door.

The important part about the "Eat and Yeet" is that it's supposed to be very casual and low effort. You might arrive in your work clothes. The food isn't anything special or fancy (or at least none more fancy than what you would usually get). The 2 h timespan is agreed upon and honoured by the participants. You arrive, eat, hang out in the process, leave.

For us, this has lead to being able to hang out more in a way that's fun and takes almost no extra effort.

Try "Eat and Yeet" and find out of it is right for you today*

(*= or, y'know, whenever it's convenient for you)

#Adulting #Adulthood #Socialising #Friendship #Life Tips

[mothlagoon]

It's true!

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#glowjuice #relatable #tired #sleepy #lol #funny art #dark art #artists on tumblr #artist #illustrator #spoonie #chronic pain #chronic illness #spoon theory #socialising #disability #social #party #introvert #extrovert

[brittasfan]

My Autistic ass thinking of an excuse to not go out and socialise.

#autism memes #socialising #gordon brittas #laura lancing #the brittas empire #series 5 #the old old story

[yourlocalquestionmark]

Who else relates to Leo Valdez in The Lost Hero. The whole “organic life forms” thing is just so accurate. Like no, I don’t wanna spend my time trying to decipher the ways of the human mind, I’ll just go whisper to the walls thanks. Socialising? Hmm I’m afraid that’s not part of my vocabulary, please don’t make me stand around being an awkward muffin head anymore.

OVER THINKERS!! ASSEMBLE!!

#leo valdez #Hoo #over thinkers #heroes of olympus funny #heroes of olympus #organic life forms #sOcIaLiSiNg #festus the dragon #Hoo funny #Leo Valdez funny

[lostandoverwhelmed]

EVERY TIME I MEET NEW PEOPLE I TRY TO MAINTAIN A MYSTERIOUS AND INTRIGUING AURA BUT I ALWAYS JUST END UP REVERTING BACK TO BEING loud and prone to oversharing😮‍💨

#spilled thoughts #thoughts #quoteoftheday #life quotes #socialising #socialising is hard

[shirozen]

Eating awkwardness away

#abunaday #daily #bun #bunny #doodle #social gathering #socialising #awkward #snacking #一日一兔 #吃零嘴 #尷尬 #聚會

[0ffbeatqueer]

Random Story Time!

My friend has been having some trouble making friends at college. One of her biggest issues is basically being too nervous to say hi back to people, so I jokingly said that she should make business cards. We laughed about it and such and I'm sure she thought I was mostly joking (if you're my friend, you know that there's always a slight chance of me being 100% serious), but I have a deep dedication to committing to the bit.

Which brings us to the image above. Obviously I had to censor her information but the message is still there :)

I thought it was hilarious and was fully prepared for her to just keep laughing but she's printed and cut a bunch of them out and we went over plans on how to give them to people without causing her more anxiety and now I guess she has business cards for when people say hi to her in the halls and she panics? Which is honestly such a vibe to think of someone receiving one of these and I hope she follows through

TLDR: if you're too anxious to say hello in the halls, a simple business card stating you have anxiety might do the trick!

#friendship #lmao #school #college #anxiety #social anxiety #making friends #tips and tricks #mental health #business cards #never challenge or encourage me to do anything i WILL do it out of dedication to the bit #story time #weirdly long post #vibes #funny #love #friends #how to make friends #socialising #social skills

[csuitebitches]

How do I present myself to be more mysterious? I have a very bad habit of oversharing and I KNOW ITS BAD and I have been working on it but tips to quit it would be really helpful. But how do you achieve that aura?

<3

Knowing what to say and what not to.

Edit: please don’t get caught up in trying to be mysterious. It’s so boring trying to be a persona you’re not and you’re just going to feel shitty about yourself. What happens in Wattpad stories doesn’t necessarily equate to real life. Whilst I do agree with setting boundaries and not over sharing, don’t try to be the whole “femme fatale dark mysterious vibe” and remove the personality you’re naturally born with.

Here’s a brief plan I made for you - obviously you don’t have to stick fully to it, but it gives you an idea on where to draw the line. Depending on the culture you’re surrounded by, you might have to make a few changes here and there.

Excuse my atrocious handwriting, writing on the iPad is a task and half.

How the chart works:

New people = stick to the blue circle

Acquaintances = blue + green

Friends = blue + green + purple

Inner circle = blue + green + purple + pink

Definitions:

New people - people you’ve just met, you don’t know them at all

Acquaintances - classmates, colleagues you’ve only ever said hi-hello to, social media mutuals

Friends - people you like and enjoy spending time with, but are not particularly close to, and you wouldn’t share things happening in your life on a day to day basis

Inner circle - people you really do give an F about, and are pretty much family to you

#Q/a #small talk #c suite #powerful woman #strong women #ceo aesthetic #personal growth #that girl #c suite aesthetic #working woman #empire #conversations #art of talking #conversing #new people #making friends #how to #socialising #social #events #mysterious #wattpad #persona #femme fatale

[gwydion-aacblog]

on topic of autism as excuse for bad behaviour , and what excuse look like : 

as teen , among other social problems with both autism and intellectual disability , did not really understand when appropriate or not appropriate say sexual things . not as in direct harrassment and advances to anyone , but just did not see problem in start talk about sex and porn and fantasies whenever and wherever . people did not like this , of course - sexual talk still very much have time and place even when very good friends who can talk about anything . 

really did need for someone to pull aside and explain , well no , not everyone want talk about those things all time . but instead , people assume that fully understand what do , that want make uncomfortable , and really only learn once turn 18 and people far less kind in how accuse . 

but why did people assume that way ? 

because unfortunately ... some people do use autism as shield when hurt others . not mention autism to say , " sorry for misunderstand , for communicate wrong , for hurt " but instead say " no one allow to complain or be hurt " . when people used to that , of course will be wary . 

just really wish not like that - even now still have some problems with say sexual things at bad time , just follow impulse , but really try best . person who really use as excuse do not care for try best . 

when people use as excuse , say that make offensive jokes and tell people to die or mistreat others all because autism make hard , that only make life harder for everyone . that include other people with autism who really do need lessons like that , who now others see as enemy that just try to get under skin , that fully understand and choose not care .

( this about specific post and specific person who say " kill yourself " many times to people , have nerve to say this is because autism , before just say again and again . not someone who say , learn not to , and apologise . just want give clear context for why say this . )

#actuallyautistic #communication #socialising

[aroflux-transmasc]

Social rules are so annoying. If you're withdrawn, that's weird. But if you're enthusiastic, well that's off-putting! Like GIRL fuck you youre being difficult on purpose.

#social issues #socialising #autism #neurodivergence

[deanwax]

Social Cycle (Whoopsie)

I reach out with warmth and curiousity (it goes well) Everything is so fun! I will bring joy to everyone! (you joke too much) My irreverence hurts someone so they hurt me back (you stupid bitch) I will be silent and distant forever (the pain fades) [return to first line]

#poem #poetry #writing #socialising #neurodivergent #just fucking up immensely on distinct occasions

[jules-in-a-bin]

do you ever like have a conversation with someone and realise that there's so many parts of their face you can look at to the pointt that you have no idea where to look and spend the entire conversation wondering if people look at people's lips cause that's what's moving or their eyes and then if so what eye do you look at because by this point you can no longer look at one eye and have completely lost the thread of the conversation and have no idea what anyone is saying cause you're far too distressed over where you're supposed to be looking?

#distracted #conversations #socialising #/genq

[greetings-inferiors]

I love my family but being around people all day every day is EXHAUSTING.

At uni I can go a whole day without any social interaction if I so desire. If I feel like I’m overwhelmed or socially drained I can just take a break.

But at home my break is lying in bed or going on a walk, which are both things I’m fine doing but they’re on opposite ends of the “doing things” spectrum, so if I want to socially recharge while being in the middle of the doing thing spectrum I’m out of luck. If I were to pace around my room someone’s going to walk in. If I play video games someone’s going to watch or strike up a conversation. This is fine, but when you don’t have the option to turn it off, it can get overwhelming. When I was in high school I had my own room so I could choose when I interacted, but when I’m visiting home I don’t have that anymore

Anyway just introvert things, I love being home but am looking forward to getting back to uni.

#text post #randyposting #introvert #social #socialising #uni #student #tired #mentally tired #vent