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hydesjackiespuddinpop · 16 days

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My current feelings on the T9S ships

I made a list like a year ago but I can’t find it haha. And my opinions have changed a lot so I'm going to be doing an update. If I missed any ships, please let me know!

Jay/Leia - My favorite canon ship out of the newbies. Granted I’m not AS emotionally invested in them as Gwen/Nikki, like to the point of constantly thinking about them and writing for them (which is weird since they might be the ship I make the most edits for haha). I've written so many fucking metas on them it’s not even funny haha (check my #jl meta tag & also my #jled tag). They’re just so pure and cute together and super overhated imo. Love seeing these two young teens in love.

Gwen/Nikki - Otp of otps. They’re my Jackie/Hyde in this show. So much chemistry, enemies (well frenemies) to lovers. Even though I don’t like that the scenes with them lessened post-Step By Step, I still see signs that they’re endgame. I just hope the writers don’t queerbait me and have them be endgame haha. Also check out my #jhgn tag for parallels :)

Gwen/Leia - Even though Gwikki is my heart and soul, I love Geia too and their parallels to Formciotti (check out my #gled tag). Gwen is legit the girl next door and not to mention, besties to lovers! There’s clearly something between them. Imo, I think they’re the most queer coded dynamic on T9S. The idea of them being platonic hurts my soul.

Nikki/Leia - Even though are only a few fans, I couldn’t help but put them. They’re just very cute and I love their scenes in Summer Storm. I think they could been a really cute college romance sort of thing. Also the love triangle trope where both girls ditch the guy for each other is A+.

Jay/Ozzie - I'm putting them here because of Ozzie's reaction to Jay's flirting in the pilot 😂. Same as Nikkeia, I see them as a cute college romance but also lowkey endgame in a universe with Neia & Gwikki/Geia & Niknate as the endgames. Their energy gives me Fez/Kelso (Hannah has a post talking about it and I see tbh). Plus they were GIVING old married couple energy in Summer Storm.

Ozzie/Etienne - Perfect bbs no notes. If someone can make Ozzie smile the way he did in LS, then they’re a keeper. I hope we get to see Etienne in s2.

Jay/Nate - Also my personal Fez/Kelso. To me, they’re just as gay as Gwen/Leia and I wish that was acknowledged more. They’re just so funny and cute. Even though I ship Nate/Leia now, I wish that the triangle was Leia/Jay/Nate instead since Nate is basically in love with Jay. I mean it’s canon that Nate always lets Jay ride shotgun. Plus Nate literally ditched his girlfriend to go with Jay to see a used hot tub. Now you can see that as Nate being a good friend, I see that Nate wanting to hang out with bf and do something fun.

Nate/Leia - Talked about it here. While I still have the same issues with them (giving off plot device, screwing over Nikki, very few scenes of them alone), I realized that that’s moreso on the writing and the way it was executed. But I really love them and want to see more of them in s2.

Nate/Nikki - Had potential early on and some cute moments later, but they ended up being a mini J*lso. 1 & 2

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qpr-culture-is · 1 year

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Queer platonic culture is the song "Two best friends" by BB bean. I just discovered it and it is so queerplatonic I love it.

https://open.spotify.com/intl-nl/track/1alRJyK9TeB22nEOZQzp9A?si=9331feb19cf549a5

#qpr culture is #queer platonic attraction #queerplatonic #queer platonic love #qpr positivity #queer platonic relationship #queer platonic partner #qpr

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lilacs-stash · 10 months

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Nickloon headcanons

I like them. A little bit. Also might ship Clover with them not sure. (She's in the polycule and with BB and Suitcase. But not sure if I wanna ship her with them too. She'd be Queer platonic with Balloon if so.)

#nickloon #inanimate insanity #ii balloon #ii nickel #look i can draw! art tag #Poly grand slams #< implied #Lilac's ii designs #Object posting

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roxxeatzgravel · 11 months

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Introduction

Hey! I haven’t done a proper introduction soo here we are

Basic info

Name: Roxx

Age: 14

Gender: Genderfluid Nonbinary

Pronouns: They/it (my persona uses He/Him)

Sexuality: Butch Lesbian

Nationality (and ethnicity): Canadian, Scandinavian + Plains Cree

Realationship: QP w/@rainbowfriendsfanatic

Funfacts about me!!! I kin Roxie Richter

I kin Queen Barb

I make a lot of sex jokes (puberty is a bitch)

Please use tone tags when talking to me

I’m a Aquarius I use the term faggot and dyke a lot (I am queer)

I am Butch

Rare-pairs are my passion

I would like to go on T (Testosterone) one day

Sometimes I feel like a fem queen ❤️❤️

If ur my moot I’m gunna call u pookie

My other socials

Basic DNI:

Pro/comshippers

Facists and Homophobes

Kink blogs (y’all cool I guess but still I’m under the age of consent)

Full on porn blogs fuck off

Wallycest/Applecest

Individual DNI

18+ accs (nsfw or kink shit)

Wallaby/Barnly antis please block me so you don’t have to see my content

“Male” lesbians FUCK RIGHT OFF NOW

Transphobes feel like this one’s self explanatory

Gold star lesbians

Christans (love y’all just pls)

Asexual and Aromantic deniers

Racists.

Cishets love you guys just this blog is for the gays

Julie x Wally shippers (simply dislike the ship nothing against y’all)

Fujoshis y’all gross me out

Do interact

Lesbians pls

LGBTQ2SA+

Neurodivergent people

People underneath the Trans umbrella

Wallaby/Barnly fans

Cringe people

Other minors

Fellow Sapphics and NMLNM

Barnaby enjoyers

Poppy kissers

Jewish people y’all are safe here ♥️

Neo pronoun users

Trans trenders (people who identify with a gender under the trans umbrella but don’t feel gender dysphoria)

Neo gender users

Therians and furrys ♥️ I love you guys y’all are cool asf

Beginner artists

Two spirit lesbians

Trans woman Howdy truthers (I’ll die on this fucking hill I swear)

butch lesbian enjoyers

butch4femme enthusiasts

Huntlow enthusiasts

Roxie richter fans!!

Platonic Julie and Wally fans

Fandoms Im in

Romeo + Juliet (1996)

scott pilgrim (SPTO specifically)

Welcome home

The owl house (I’m only here for huntlow and Eda)

One piece

Strange Hill High

Tf2

DHMIS

Spiderverse

Warrior cats

RTC (Ride the cylcone)

Trolls (I am cringe but I’m free)

Music and Artists I enjoy

Rio Romeo

Cosmo sheldrake

Felix Colgrave

Sparkbird

ICP

Sodikken

sorry mom

Mitski

MSI (I don’t support the lead singer)

The crane wives

Sufjan Stevens

Megan Nash

The oozes

Hoizer

Will Wood

@winslow-arts

Myself

All of my moots

Dana Terrace

Ships I rly rly like

Wallaby (obvi)

Roxie x Kim (SPTO)

Ragatha x Pomni

Howdy x Poppy aka Powdy (trans fem howdy bb)

Frank x Eddie

Josuyasu (I love these dumbasses)

Julie x Sally

Huntlow (they have consumed my mind)

Barnaby x Wally x Frank x Eddie

Barb x Poppy (theyre so yuriful)

Tybalt x Romeo (doomed yaoi my fave)

Viva x Clay (I don’t ship broppy)

Branch x king trollex

More to come

Boundaries

I am comfortable with:

KYS jokes if we’re moots

Calling the characters I draw stinky as a joke

Suggestive and gore content of my AUs/Characters (u can tag me if u want idgaf)

NSFW content being created of the Trad Goth Wally AU same thing with the thriller AU (do not tag me)

Fics of my characters and AUs that have sexual elements (do tag me in fics but add a warning if it is suggestive or has sexual elements)

I am not comfortable with:

Being referred to w/ primarily She/Her pronouns

Calling the characters I draw sexy or sexualizing them

People DMing me (unless they are my moot or it’s for comms)

NSFW asks

Flirting w/me (unless I know you irl or we’re moots or you’re butch 😍😍)

Bye! Please be kind!

#intro post

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little-cereal-draws · 5 months

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Ok they have consumed me so here’s a short queer platonic playlist for Ballister Boldheart and Meredith Blitzmeyer

Strawberry Mentos by Leanna Firestone

Ibuprofen by Bears in Trees

Two Best Friends by BB Bean

Apple Juice by Madilyn Mei

Nothing by Bruno Major

Reverberate by Bears in Trees

Strawberry by Andrew Montana

We Are Going to be Friends by The White Stripes

Most of these also have similar vibes/storylines to my current fic, I Can Be The Friend You’re Looking For

#these are also just good queer platonic songs in general #i might add more later #i know I’m the only one who cares abt them but I needed to get this down somewhere #nimona #ballister boldheart #meredith blitzmeyer #dr blitzmeyer #qpr #queer platonic ships

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dragynkeep · 1 year

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I’ve heard so many people use the Adam: “What does she see in you?” Towards Yang line as proof as Bumbleby being possible and I would’ve believed them… if you don’t think with the shipping part of your brain, what Adam hates about Yang is simply that she’s a human- the very species that supposedly oppress him and his race… but obviously they need proof the ship exists than thinking of why he hates Yang aside from ship reasons.

The thing is that the line could've pushed for BB if it wasn't coming from Adam, who the writers and the FNDM derides for being delusional and someone who sees anyone near Blake as competition. Yang being a human just makes things worse than Sun being with her, as compared to the two scenes between the both of them.

And it's that ambiguous writing and framing that makes BB so frustrating to watch. Because they're using romantic languages and tropes, but then backpedalling by having others do the same in purely platonic ways. BB has to get around with hand holding and forehead touches, but the cishet ships like Renora and Arkos could have their big kisses and explicit talks about their love for each other.

Arkos was literally confirmed in V3, and Nora explicitly showed her attraction to Ren in V1, adding on their confirmation in V7.

We're in V9 and we're STILL stuck on the handholding and vague flirting. Adam's line about Yang while also being called delusional by Blake is just another issue in the show's handling of the main queer ship.

#rwby #rwde #adam taurus #yang xiao long #blake belladonna #anti bb #answered #luke.txt

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edgebled · 1 year

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okay i’m redoing this post so, LIKE THIS POST OR COMMENT with a 🧡 if you’re interested in developing a ship with 𝐓𝐎𝐍𝐘 𝐒𝐓𝐀𝐑𝐊 ( pls specify muse if ur a multi ). tony might be a pain in the ass to ship with and comes with endless baggage, but #dewit. liking this means you’re down to scream abt our bbs ( preferably on discord ), develop any kind of romantic and/or queer platonic dynamic. anything. ex’s, history, hook ups, fwb, lovers, a n y t h i n g our hearts desire. a thousand aus?? our own verses?? lets fucken go, time to explore! ♡♡

#𝑙𝑜𝑣𝑒 𝑔𝑢𝑛 𝑒𝑚𝑜𝑗𝑖.┆misc calls.#*

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aayo-whatt · 10 months

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💖* 💚 💕 💗 💘 💝 🦜

and if you gonna play that game with me, 🐦!

* [ only joking bc a) I think you're probably too young for me to ever consider truly crushing on lmao and b) I don't do that really, as an aroflux nightmare human sorry bb, if I wasn't like this id probably be all about it xo ]

hiiiiiiiiiii

💖- crush /j ahdnmweuifrwni <333 and dw lmao, i think of it as platonic either way, and /j just adds the comedic value to it more-

💚- queer-platonic squish awwwhhhhjdjkfekwjfwihwfnjo for me??? 🥺🥺

💕- i'd like to be closer yesss pleaseeee 🙏🙏🙏 i beg of you, please

💗- i'd kiss you, but it doesn't mean anything 😫 ty for the forehead smooch im returning it tenfold <33

💘- i need you to like me soooo bad you're in luck, i fuckin love you <3333

💝- i want to be closer with you and your friends pleasepleasepleasepleaseplease ily already and i want to get to know you as much as possible, literally ask me anything and i will answer i give no fucks and have no filter please

🦜 - gayass mutual TY FOR NOTICING!!! I AM FULFILLING MY ROLE NICELY, I SEE

🐦- WHORE !!!!!! i AM lmao, whoring myself platonically for the beloved mutuals and whoring myself slightly less platonically for certain uh people irl (/hj on that last one-)

[heart ask game]

#my question has been questioned #mutuals~#artful chaos in a bucket #the best one in the club #ask games #why did i put so many i's in hi #im so platonically gay for you and we've talked maybe four times?#i love that

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findusinaweek · 1 year

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Tagged by @brasideios and @ainulindaelynn, thanks very much!

three ships: Alexidas because it’s my current obsession. Unhinged mercenary himbo meets Spartan general, they sync in battle (and love). That’s all I need to say.

Eruri. I have a thing for commanders that die.

friendShip of Margo and Elliot in “The Magicians” because it’s the queer platonic friendship I have often wanted/needed to see.

first ship: Akigure from “Fruits Basket”. I have an ongoing interest in Bad Decision™ characters. Akito deals with upholding ridiculous family standards while being raised as a gender she is not, which does not excuse her behavior but I related to it. Made me question homophobia, then made me question if I was gay. I can’t really explain my interest in Shigure. I assume it’s the concept of someone who is willing to do terrible things in order to help the person they love fit snuggly with the trauma I had experienced and who I thought I was. They are not a healthy couple but they are canon and I was smitten.

last song: “Virtute the Cat Explains Her Departure” was playing but that’s behind glass that says “Break in Case of Fire” so now it’s Shostakovich’s Jazz Suite. Spark joy, Shosty!

last movie: Everything Everywhere All At Once. My cousin told me to watch it and she was (as always) right. Really spectacular. I cried twice!

currently reading: Spartan Reflections by Paul Cartledge

currently watching: I’m not really in a watching things mood but tumblr has me scoping out TLOU and Barbarians.

currently consuming: the tumblr scroll and levothyroxine bb

currently craving: Stability.

I also dislike tagging people and basically most of mutuals have already done/been tagged so uhm hello the whole of tumblr it’s your turn.

#tag game #I need to stop calling him Shosty #tiktok made me do it

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stregoniconiconii · 1 year

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them being in a qpr without know that that’s what it is (because it’s the 80s<3) is so funny to me. like i fully believe that they’re like holy shit we cracked some sort of code when they figure out being in love and committed doesn’t automatically have to be romantic lmao

they just be doing stuff I honestly don't think they give much of a shit about labels. they would say some shit like "we're queer and platonic and in a relationship wow I wonder if there's some sort of word for this?? no matter we're just doing our own thing"

speaking of labels I really do think that they don't care about labels, like I don't think Steve cares all that much about calling himself bisexual (unlabelled king <3) I mean I do appreciate all the fics and thoughts about Steve finding comfort in knowing that bisexuality is a thing but he is so go with the flow you know? I don't think he'd get all fussed with the details like once he knows that it's okay for him to like girls and boys and everything besides that he'd be like okay chill

and I think robin Does care about being called a lesbian like I think once she gets to meet a community of lesbians she will fully embrace her dykehood <3 but it's a journey you know besides tv being weird about saying sexualities out loud I think bb robin had trouble connecting with the term and that's why she was more comfortable being sure about liking girls rather than the label lesbian you know

and also I do believe that both of them have weird gender feelings <3 wow I just like talking about them

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icaruscreates · 2 years

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🏳️ and 🔗?

🏳️ - Favorite way you have described something in your works

Hmm let's see if I can find it actually!

The bakery did have her floral touch, of course. From the pothos, deep in color and dressed in shimmering gold —twisting and draping from the beams above — to the various sizes of pots that housed everything from little snowdrops to the beloved lily of the valley, to the endless vases of tulips on every free spot. Where there was space there was a plant. And where there was space in the flower shop, there was something sweet for patrons and passing children. - Tulips and Freshly Baked Bread

I adore putting in details that offer a deeper meaning. So to some it might just seem like I picked the flowers by random, I didn't. I never do anything by random :) Everything has a meaning and everything has a place.

🔗 - What has been your favorite dynamic to write for? (romantic or platonic)

I absolutely love Queer Platonic Soulmates/Relationships. As an aroace who would love a platonic partner one day, it's been just so special getting to write my ocs and the AUs that focus on those relationships. Branson, Kali, and Agnar are by far my favorite couples not only because of their bonds but because it's fun showing how a platonic relationship might look. Kali and Branson are romantically married while Agnar and Branson are platonic soulmates. Kali and Agnar also share a platonic bond but not as deeply as Agnar and Branson. They are my comfort bbs and I really can't wait for the day to be able to share Witches of Balmara off more <3

Did I answer that wrong? probably lol my bad it's been a long day ;w;

#ask games #writeblr #pen-of-roses

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lex-n-weegie · 2 years

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Ya know what screw it I'ma do a long ass ramble/gush post with Evie and Sunny because they're taking over my mind (especially Evelyn)

I don't mind if anyone RBs this, so feel free too if you want lol (forgive any misspellings or the occasional missed word, I think a mile a minute)

Okay starting off the ramble I wanna talk a bit about why Evelyn has quickly become very important to me.

Because she is me.

I mean ofc she is, they're my s/i, but they're like a version of me I've wanted to be for a long long time: a weird and mysterious girl who's friends with the paranormal. Also her design is heavily inspired by the Marionette and I've recently realized I kin them but shhhh. She's still a little self conscious and whatnot, but she's still social, friendly, and funny (at least to me). She's incredibly casual about the weird, but weird about the casual. Also, she's a lot more silly and chaotic then she looks. A kid told her that their older sibling was stealing their toys and being really rude? Well, her response is to dangle the bully sibling upside down and shake the absolute fuck out of them on top of a high structure. She's basically a little crazy but in a fun way.

(Anyways onto Evie and Sunny lol) I'd like to say their relationship is complicated to say the least. At least, for awhile it feels that way. They find themselves imagining more "romantic" thoughts of the other, but they don't mean that stuff in the romantic way. Like, Evie thinks about covering Sunny's face with kisses, but not in a romantic way. However, not exactly as a friend thing either. It confuses the two of them for the longest time until they actually talked it out with each other. At that point, they basically went "why don't we just...be in a relationship anyways? It doesn't have to be a romantic one or strictly friendship, it's just a relationship for us both." It's not until later they find out that they're basically queer platonic partners.

Also!! Sun absolutely loves giving Evie a bunch of nicknames. I'm just gonna list a few of them here

Sunshine

Sunflower

Dew Drop (inspired by one of Evie's drawings)

Honey pot (yes you read it right lol)

Puppet/Pup

Doll (due to Evie's intense love for them)

Evelyn doesn't have as many nicknames for them, but she does call him "Sundrop" or "Sunnydrop" after his candy, also calling him "sweetie" and "honey." She's jokes before that the honey nickname is because of his yellow/orange coloring.

Also!! Sunny likes to stim with Evie! When she first happy stimmed, he had no idea what she was doing but he found it the cutest thing in the world. Once Evie explained, he started to copy her happy stims so they could do them together! Even when she's not around he catches himself doing them when excited. Sunny also has an "odd" love for BB from Fnaf 2. He knows that they were in his arcade game, but Evie was able to draw him without even playing the game. When asked, she replied that she's seen him(BB) a lot in her dreams, and they're actually pretty close. He keeps all of the BB drawings in his room and sometimes will just stare at them.

Also, apparently Sunny is freaking 7 foot according to online math, and with Evie being 5'2, you bet he constantly talks about how small she is compared to him(even if that's not exactly how their heights are, she's always gonna be smaller than them lol). Whether when that's when they're cuddling or holding hands, he always mentions at least once how small she is compared to him, but it's all complements, he loves her small hands and head! It makes it so much easier to pick her up and twirl her around!!

Also!! Fun fact, Evelyn absolutely ADORES music boxes. After hearing this, Sun digs around storage and finds a mini Marionette music box that plays "Grandfather's Clock," which he gives it to her! It's been favorite gift and she keeps with her always. It's so calming and beautiful to her, it's her favorite song.

And before I stop talking (typing??), there is a few random ideas I've been thinking about for Evie that I kinda wanna write about! I'm listing these at the end as a sort of "gift" for anyone who's read this far :3

After the "homeless" ending of Security Breach, Gregory manges to wake up before Vanny can do anything to him and he runs, bumping into Evie. She immediately protects him and even sneaks him back into the Pizza Plex, the both of them getting up to shenanigans (along with some angst ofc :3). Gregory basically gets a weird, slightly chaotic older sister

Evelyn's "relationship" with all the robots and humans (she's surprisingly good friends with Music Man, but also doesn't get along well with Vanessa, something I'd love to go in depth on)

Possibilities for Evelyn's lore (like her death)

Evelyn at other FNAF locations and her hanging out with all the other animatronics :)

Anyways that's it lol, until next time that is

#lexi rambles(?)#lex worldbuilding #lit up my world #evelyn #sunny #sun #sundrop #sunnydrop #daycare attendant

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bequeerdodopemonkshit · 2 years

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FAQ I get asked when I tell people I'm aromantic

So coming out as Aromantic has been interesting. It’s been like seven or so months — probably more (I’m having a hard time keeping track of time right now due to trauma-brain). And other than one instance of someone unstable losing their absolute shit on me, the response from my community has been positive. It’s because I have a good community. And I do my best to keep it that way.

I don’t have anyone on my friends list or in my immediate cohort of people that has exclusionist or aphobic or transphobic views.

So my experience coming out has been as follows (condensed for the sake of brevity):

Me: “I think I might be a Bisexual Girl?, maybe?” People: “Cool.” Me: “Nope. Def gay. And def Non Binary.” People: “Cool.” Me: “So… I’m an Aromantic Non Binary Lesbian. I’m almost 80% sure this is my final Pokemon queervolution.” People: “Cool.”

I’ve been blessed with quality people.

That being said I think the most push back I’ve gotten is from a transphobic relative that I limit my interactions with as they seem to think that my identity has something to do with my politics. Yeah, because there isn’t any homophobia, transphobia, aphobia, misogyny, and racism on the Left— especially in radical spaces. Nope.

However, I do get a lot of questions. And I want to take the time to answer them according to my experience as a romance-positive/ish Aromantic person.

So what does Aromantic mean?

In short, I experience no romantic attraction.

I think in my almost four decades on this planet I have felt the warm and fuzzies for a single person who I will never ever mention by name (because she doesn’t need her ego hyped up anymore than it already is) and even then that had more to do with trauma bonding than actual romantic attraction.

Does this mean [I am] also Asexual?

No. AroAce folx exist. One of my platonic life partners is one such person. But just as there are Asexual people who experience romantic attraction, I am one such Aromantic person who experiences sexual attraction.

What is romantic attraction anyway?

My peeps, my niblings, my precious bbs— I. Have. No. Fucking idea.

From what I’ve gleaned from conversations, romantic attraction feels like— a panic attack that you really like for some fucking reason. Butterflies in the stomach. That sensation of tripping over something that moment before you catch yourself or eat shit when it can go either way. The way time stands still when you see that person. Your heart speeds up. And it almost feels like you can’t quite catch your breath (not in the unfun covid way).

So you know, like a fucking panic attack. Why would you like to have a panic attack is beyond me but hey, some people drive at unsafe speeds, or spend billions of dollars to not even go to fucking space when they could totally and completely end world hunger so, I suppose it is not beyond the realm of my understanding that there is a type of enjoyable panic attack.

I’ve felt Queer Panic™ the panic at the realization that the nebulous feelings one is having toward one or more individuals is in fact very, very fucking gay. Side effects include:

• Suddenly loss of remembering words or their function • Nervous laughter • Either “I want to hang out and do gay things with this person” or “We can never speak again.” There is no in-between. • *Flounce* • Reddening of face whenever someone even implies that you and this person could even maybe possibly gay in the future. • *Now begins a courtship ritual that resembles crows and/or penguins* (No, I will not elaborate on this point)

But none of that is exclusive to romantic attraction. It just is a part of being gay and socially inept.

I’ve just never gotten all rosy-eyed for a person, any person. I’ve loved people. But I’ve never been in love. And my life isn’t better or worse because of it.

How did [I] know [I was] aromantic?

After some very careful examination of myself, I realized that my dabbling in romance had been the same way I dabbled in cisheternomativity. I didn’t do these things because I liked performing heterosexuality or being cis, I did these things because that was expected of me. One of the marks of being a successful “complete” adult is having a “successful” romantic partnership.

The question I asked myself was “Do I like romantic relationships, or do I just hate being cold at night?”

It’s a joke and something I paraphrased from Contrapoints (yes, I know. I’m a terrible leftist but still) — when I asked myself the question: “Do I like being in romantic relationships or am I doing this because I think this is what I supposed to be doing?” I discovered the answer.

Romantic relationships set off panic alarm bells in my entire being. I can never relax in them. They make me deeply uncomfortable. When other people felt butterflies, I felt either nothing or a strong desire to run for the nearest exit.

Romance?

No, I shan't, thank you.

What kind(s) of attraction do [I] experience?

In simplest terms, I do experience a very queer sexual attraction. It’s why I still identify as a lesbian and it’s why I will not as a whole adult person in their late 30s be taking in backtalk about how I can’t call myself a lesbian. I’m currently in the midst of the second pandemic of my lifetime, I don’t think an exclusionist or a terf could even hurt my feelings at this point. (This isn’t an invitation to try. I don’t have the energy to go 20 rounds with bigots. Either accept my truth or I invite you to fuck all the way off. Thanks.)

I also feel platonic attraction. And this is where you’ll find that I am the most generous when it comes to giving love. My friends can attest I am constantly telling them that I love them because I do. I love them. I go through my day wondering how I can make theirs better. They are my people. And I would give them whatever they needed.

Lastly, and there is where it gets nebulous and this is honestly Post Grad Queer Studies/Veteran Gay stuff, I experience alterous attraction. Alterous attraction is a form of emotional attraction but it is neither necessarily platonic or romantic in nature. It can include (but is not limited to and doesn’t have to include all):

• Emotional attraction that's in between platonic and romantic attraction. • Emotional attraction that's a mix of platonic and romantic attraction. • Emotional attraction that's completely separate from platonic and romantic attraction. • Emotional attraction where you don't have a preference towards the type of relationship you're in, just as long as you're in one. • Wanting to be in a queerplatonic relationship with someone (queerplatonic attraction). • Feeling intense loyalty towards someone and wanting to exist with them in a non-platonic, non-romantic way (doraric or tutelary attraction).

I can feel intensely for people but in a way that cannot be quantified within the romantic/platonic binary. And a lot of my very close friendships and partnerships blur the line and exist in a gray area.

What are some things that have made [me] uncomfortable in past relationships?

The presumption that I’m a slow burn. That I just need to bust out of my shell and then I will become this grand romantic. I guess I have a bit of that in me. And there is a part of me that wants absolutely nothing more than to be Hades/Gomez Addams.

Both in popular culture are deeply romantic figures and all I’ve ever wanted to be is a “good boyfriend.” However, I’m discovering this has more to do with the fact that I am probably (definitely) a puppy. And again, no, I will not elaborate further on this point.

Planning for the future is another one. I don’t like this in general. But especially in partnership. It makes me feel like I’m about to pass out. Especially if there aren’t any planned time apart, doing our own things in the planning for said future. Anytime words like “always” and “forever” get tossed around my brain automatically starts rapping Outkast lyrics.

How have past partners reacted to [me] coming out as aromantic?

None of my past partners know. Part of the reason I don’t speak to them is because my past undiscovered aromanticism caused friction in our relationship. And I hurt them with my inability to engage romantically with them. And that fucking sucks.

What is a pet peeve [I] have about allonormative culture?

So many people have described romantic love as something “deeper” than other types of love. And in my experience they are implying that there’s a level of intimacy in romantic love that isn’t present in platonic love. And that, my friends, is utter fucking bullshit.

I have had friends hold me while I cried about my own mortality. I have had friends listen while I tell them my deepest, darkest fears and share the scars I keep hidden. They know every kink in my armor, they know where every body is buried, they’ve seen me at my very best, and they’ve seen me at my very worst. They know what makes me laugh, they know what pulls at my heartstrings, they know exactly which celebrity I would give my left pinkie to sleep with. And they are people I’d give my absolute everything too. So forgive me if I don’t see a romantic partnership as anything better or worse than that. If we’re striving for successful emotional intimate relationships I have several such relationships and I will continue to cultivate those partnerships, learning and growing with them and my community.

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