#Just the one lone trans person with nothing to do than annoy cis people by not getting mad

[polycrews]

also (puts you in the same room as the elephants foot) itchy headcanons GO

god FINALLY getting around to this one. im ready to be normal again i think hes. god where do i start with this loser

hes annoying on purpose and i think it stems from the fact hes actually pretty lonely? he doesnt acknowledge this obviously but id say theres never really an effort from any party to converse w/ him cause he'll get bored halfway through and leave. so he ends up taking up a snappy persona that doesnt really let him get in-depth with any discussions so he can just fuck off whenever he likes without it being weird. he ignores the fact this is probably pretty sad from an external perspective i think hes also constantly on-edge and thats a big part of it. hes wound up almost as much as crowbar, always completely ready to go. never settles down in one place for more than a couple minutes. this combined with him power often ends up with him being wildly jittery, twitching at the slightest sound. he tries to hide this under a nonchalant persona and it works. sometimes definitely the type of person to brush off injuries like theyre nothing. this happens with all of the felt due to their reliance on stitch's effigies, but especially him. hes really stubborn and refuses to back down from just about anything unless hes dragged away kicking and screaming, n this ends up causing more trouble than its worth and a lot of injuries worsened by extended strain hes one hell of an adrenaline junkie, with a tendency to get into arguments with people who could snap him like a twig just for the rush. gets up to dangerous shit for the hell of it and ends up having to be bailed out of it more often than not. hes most at home (and surprisingly the calmest) in the midst of a fight where its easy to narrow in on a target and keep engaged til someone, preferably the opponent, goes down. he could never be a bystander due to a tendency to join any fight he sees /hj hes either the cisest trans guy or the transest cis guy in the world no inbetween. i hope all of that made sense i have radiation poisoning now

#asks #01 #once again. asks have been taking forever due to the mental illness #apologies for the lack of complimentary apology doodle i am currently at school. will make one... eventually. probably #yeagh. hes my skrunkle my poor little meow meow. i want to put him in the hydraulic press

[foxtriestobiteandmaimandkilland]

Ah fuck now im thinking abt how fuckin lonely it is 2 be transmasc. Bc suddenly all my girl friends see me as Something Else and a fucking Threat even tho im literally the same fucking person only happier. And like how. When i wanted to explore femininity as a girl, my friends loved to show me everything and do my makeup and whatever and like now theyre like. Are you sure ?? Dont you think that will make you uncomfortable LIKE UR THE ONE MAKING IT UNCOMFORTABLE !!!! IM THE SAME IM THE SAME IM THE SAME AS I WAS BEFORE I JUST GOT A NEW HAT AND NOW U ALL HATE ME !!!! and its not like i have boys to go to either because if anything, im now friends with LESS guys than i was before transitioning. Because before i was just a girl and like yea there were a ton of sexist guys who didnt really see me as their equal, but they saw me atleast as a Person. But now its like. Im not one of the girls they can tolerate, im claiming to be one of the boys ??? But it doesn't fucking fit for them because like. Im still at the equality level of a girl but even LESS now. Why cant i just be a Normal girl or a Normal guy. Why do i have to be a guy that also looks and acts like a girl according to the rules in their head ??? LIKE ITS SO FUCKING ANNOYING. I DONT WANT TO BE ONE OD THE GIRLS I DONT WANNA BE ONE OF THE BOYS I WANNA BE ONE OF THEM !!! JUST FUCKING ANYONE !!! BUT NOBODY SEES ME AS ON THEIR SIDE BC GIRLS WHO TRY SOOO HARD 2 BE "TRANS INCLUSIVE" ALSO CANT LET GO OF THEIR IDEAS OF "MAN = DANGEROUS AND BAD AND OTHER" SO HOW DO THEY BE INCLUSIVE OF ME ???? BY TREATING ME LIKE FUCKING SCUM !!!!! SO I CANT BE ONE OF THE GIRLS ANYMORE BECAUSE IM "DANGEROUS". BUT IM SURE AS HELL NOT PART OF THE BOYS BECAUSE IM FUCKING OPPOSITE PINOCCHIO AND NOT A REAL GODDAM BOY EVEN THO HES WOOD AND IM FUCKING FLESH AND BONE MOTHERFUCKER !!!!! AND NOW THERES SOME SECRET CODE TO BOTH SIDES I CANT SEEM TO FIGURE OUT AND IT DOESNT FUCKING HELP THAT IM AUTISTIC TOO DOES IT ????? SO LIKE. ALL I HAVE ARE OTHER TRANS PEOPLE BECAUSE EVEN MY CIS FRIENDS JUST DONT SEE ME AS EQUAL. THEY TRY SOOOOO HARD TO FIT ME IN ANY OF THEIR BOXES TO THE POINT I HAVE TO JUST TRY SOOO HARD TO ACT LIKE IM A FULLY BINARY GUY JUST SO THEY CAN STOP SEEING ME AS A FULLY BINARY GIRL. BUT IM NEITHER OF THOSE THINGS MOTHERFUCKER BUT I CAN BARELT EVEN TELL MY TRANS FRIENDS THAT BECAUSE THEYVE FUCKING INVENTED ANOTHER BOX WHERE THEY ASSUME NONBINSRY MEANS A THIRD FUCKING GENDER AND IT DOESNT !!!! WHEN I EXPLAIN MY GENDER IT DOESNR MEAN I NEED YOU TO SAY "soooooo youre genderfluid" NO IM ME IM ME IM FUCKING ME DONT YOU FUCKUNG GET IT IM DRESSING UP IN FUN CLOTHES BUT YOURE 5 AGAIN AND SAYING IM A GIRL FOR WEARING PINK AND A BOY FOR WEARING BLUE !!!!! IM WEARING A FUCKING PINK SHIRT AND BLUE SHOES WHAT DO YOU WANT MOTHERFUCKER IM EVEYTHING IM NOTHING IM JUST FUCKING ME !!!!

#day thoughts #vent #i suppose #but not in a way of like go away dont look this is a vent #in a way of im angry im pissed and i cant even scream abt it BECAUSE I HAVE FUCKING TONSILLITIS #and also in a way of #let me explain my gender to you #let me go into depth about the moment you try to fit me into a box i will try to break it #let me talk about how my gender around cis people feels like a mask #let me say how my gender is less of a Definition and more of a Description

[irisbaggins]

They closed the comments 😔

#Iris Whines #I had a PERFECT comback :( #Oh well let them stew in ther misery - no hair off of my back! #And also good way to get my Hyperfocus On Comments shut off #Like I am going to write about this and even if it’s Annoying I have to listen to these people #Can’t do a they say/I say without knowing what ‘they say’ y’know #Iris is ANNOYING and I will remain annoying!! #And if you can’t deal with a lil’ sarcasm and have it pointed out you’re uneducated about a topic and also saying transphobic shit... #Maybe log off an article about us nonbinary folk and take a stroll #’Cos you hit the hornet’s nest and here we are :) #Anyway am I tired of these cis men singling me out? YES #Like there was a wonderful guy who sourced everything and did they comment there? Nope #Just the one lone trans person with nothing to do than annoy cis people by not getting mad #Like y’all really saw me being calm and thought I’d get emotional? Me? I’ve tucked them all in my sternum and baby they will stay!! #You do not deserve my rage :) That is reserved for games and making me ragequit because one challenge in Horizon is BULLSHIT #Anyway am sleeby but also Full Of Opinions #And if any of these fucks decide to pick a fight with me by finding my number I have a nice thing called block :)

[whathappenedtoyourgender]

Hi! Do you have any tips on figuring out your gender? I don’t really feel like a girl or a boy I just kinda wanna exist as a human and not really conform to either? Idk if that made any sense but thank you!

Hot tips for advanced gender:

1. Don’t worry, it’s fake and made up. If you don’t feel like your assigned gender, or a binary gender, that’s just because they are very ill-defined societal roles that are rapidly losing relevance in the modern world. It is no longer necessary for society to sort us into a strict man-woman system, but since it’s been the norm for most of us for so long, it’s really hard to think outside of it. Even being nonbinary myself, I still look at people and pretty well the first thing my brain does is sort them into one of two categories. It’s something we all have to work on. 

2. Don’t be afraid of changing your mind. Getting set into one identity can make you feel a part of a community, but it can also make you feel stuck. IDing as one specific gender identity isn’t bad, but it’s also okay to change your mind, or go with broader terms while you’re still getting to know yourself. There’s nothing wrong with trying an identity to see if it works for you and then changing your mind. For example, I may not always identify as nonbinary or agender, and that’s okay! It’s a tricky thing, figuring out what you are in a world that says you have to be one thing, and the road may not even have an end. 

3. Focus less on your gender and more on other aspects of your personality. If you decide that a gender is not part of who you are, you need to know what is. Identifying as something you aren’t leaves you with a bit of a void, and it’s important to anchor yourself to other kinds of communities and interests. Again, as a personal example, I don’t meet up with women for the purposes of discussing women things, because I’m not a woman and I don’t want to. If I didn’t replace that kind of sorority with something, I’d be pretty lonely. So instead I do drama, and crafts, and dnd and things like that. 

4. Find IRL people to discuss the matter with. Tumblr can be a pretty intense, negative space sometimes. It’s good to find people in your community, at school, etc., where you can meet other nonbinary folks in person. Universities are generally really good for that, but I have no idea what age you are, anon, so I’m sorry if that one doesn’t work for you. 

5. Restaurants are like, the number one place where you’ll get gendered for some reason, so if you can avoid them, do it. 

6. Don’t be afraid to dress in a gendered way if it makes you happy. Sometimes I avoid looks for being too feminine, but it’s you who makes the outfit. The outfit does not make you. 

7. Go on walks? This is kind of a weird one, but the time I spend just walking around outside under trees, listening to music, is a very good time for me to just connect with myself. I feel apart from expectations of what I’m supposed to be as a girl, and I can just have fun moving. Being in nature is especially nice. It gives me that feeling like it doesn’t matter what people think I am, because it genuinely doesn’t. Your connection to yourself matters far more than how others perceive you. We’re all a part of something bigger than ourselves. 

9. Keep track of your thoughts, it will help if you want or need to explain your feelings more in-depth. Relationship to gender is complicated for a lot of us, but if you’re trying to explain that to a cis person, God help you. For people who do connect with their gender, the idea of not having one at all makes no sense. You don’t owe them an explanation, but if you want to, just know that it’s very difficult and annoying, and try to prepare for it.

10. Most importantly, stay sensible and safe. If you do decide that no gender or a nonbinary gender is for you, know that people around you in general will not see it automatically. Be rational if you are going to correct someone, and don’t feel ashamed of keeping it to yourself for any reason. Your safety is important. If you are uncomfortable disclosing your gender, then don’t. You don’t have to. You’re not letting anyone down, you’re staying safe, and that is vital. I tend to be pretty blasé about my identity, but I know how much it matters to others. Being misgendered sucks. Being cooped up into a set of gender roles sucks. Feeling like you’re in danger if you speak up SUCKS. But find those safe spaces, make friends, and you’ll find the respect and community you deserve. 

As long as you are questioning, know that you belong. Even if you decide that a binary gender is for you, that you aren’t trans or LGBT+ at all, you will learn more about yourself, and that’s a wonderful thing. I wish you the very best of experiences in this journey.

All the best,Lin. 

#agender #nonbinary #gender advice

[kelleycubes]

Why I’m annoyed at Anti-Asexuals

As much as I’d love to say it’s because “Ya’ll don’t know shit” I’d be lying if that was the case entirely. Though I suppose to some degree it’s the case for most of this website as much as we all hate to admit it. We can’t know everything. So I don’t really expect people to understand asexuality or aromanticism, though it’d help if people tried before getting all up on their asses.  “Wait.. Their asses? You aren’t ace or aro? How can you speak for them?” I can’t! Not wholly, and certainly not as someone who personally understands the depth of what it means to be aro/ace. But I’ll be damned if I’m not gonna try.  The aro/ace struggle- yep I’m stopping right here. Cause this is where I see people fucking rolling their eyes into the back of their heads. They shrug it off. “What struggle, you just don’t wanna fuck or date people! Who cares. Get out of our space”. Ok.  Let’s back up a bit. A way bit. A long fucking time. From the beginning of human history there are references to sex. Sex permeates media like water permeates an ocean. Sex is everywhere. In everything. In most walks of life it’s hard to go anywhere and not find a reference about sex at least once a day without locking yourself in your room and doing nothing, or setting yourself up so that the only input you recieve from others is from Pre-Qualified people who Do Not post sexual content or references. I’m not saying ace people need to avoid sex at all costs. Because that certainly isn’t the case, but lord if it isn’t everywhere. IMAGINE for a second. You weren’t sexual. Not hard is it. Because like any well rounded human being, you don’t spend all your time having sex, thinking about sex, or even being AROUND sex. But, sex is normal to you. I mean, as I’ve previously stated, it’s all around ya my friend. So you not noticing it, is a different story. Now for half a second imagine you said this, and (as the example always goes) anyone who heard this replied “oh you’ll grow out of it” or “you just haven’t found the right person yet!”. Sound familair? At all? Sounds a lot like the shit LGBTQ people deal with. All the time.  This leads us to the next thing. The big thing. I mean aside from everyone laughing endlessly at the (entirely subjective mind you) idea of “their weird ass shit they do, demeaning sexual figures and ruinging the lgbt community haha” and just the utter hatred I seem to see about aro/aces. No the Big Thing is why the ace community doesn’t fit into LGBTQ. I know you all seem to have a million reasons, but what does LGBTQ seek though?? What’s out goal?? I mean you’d think it’d be a safe place for all queer people. People of different sexual and gender orientation than societ would love to call “the norm” and yet here we are, face with a sexual orientation that is so different from even yours that you seem to say “what the hell”. But maybe I’m over generallizing. In fact for many I know I am. Because your argument isn’t based off of that. Not based off of a lack of understanding, but rather a lack of wanting or caring to try and understand. In my experience, the community is often judged by certain things that come from the ace community, or at least appear to. Or the ridiculous claim that sex-repulsion is homophobic. No, more often than not it’s based off a few things. Subjective instances and interactions with a community aphobes seem to have no willness to try and understand. “Wait wait wait go back... Appear to? Who would post stuff about ace stuff if they aren’t ace?” The answer is a lot of people. It often takes me two seconds to click the link back to any blog and see if the person who made the post that made you go “#fucking aces at it again#aces are a joke #ace discourse” wasn’t actually made by an ace. But even if it was? Would it matter? Or would you do what I often see. Ignore the fact that one person doing something silly or even offensive can’t represent an entire community. Just look at TERFs. None of us like them. Their opinion frankly makes jack-shit sense. And for some reason this feels similar.  (Disclaimer: In no way am I insuating that the ace struggle is comparable to the trans struggle. But equally I’m not saying that the trans struggle is comparable to the ace struggle. They’re different things. I’m just saying ya’ll seem to hold similar beliefs. There’s a difference.) “You still haven’t said why they belong in the community”. Because to me you’d think it’d be obvious? If society will look at you, and try to: A. Rationalize your orientation as just an off-shoot of being straight B. Demonize you for not being said orientation C. Unfairly, incorrectly, or not represent you at all in mainstream society or anything society would deem “normal” A.K.A cishets which leads me to D. Exlude you from society as a whole and make interacting or dating with ANYONE harder  - why wouldn’t they belong in the community? The community is a fucking refuge. A place to call your own when society says “No you don’t belong” and you’d deny large fraction of people this? Because they “aren’t struggling enough” “will steal community funds!” (which is a whole topic all on it’s own” or “beacuse of cishet aces!”. Now that last point is the one I see a lot. From people that don’t hate ace people, but can’t grasp the idea of someone who’s still attracted to the opposing gender and at said point, relating to the gender they were assigned at birth. The answer is yes- but with a massive amount of privledge. To quote my friend: “in a society that banks so hard on sex being some sort of obligatory human experience and phenomon i absolutely say they are apart of the ace community (this is a given) as well as the queer community.” Being ace is an experience LGBTQ people should relate to. It’s a lonely road of being surrounded with a world suited to, built arround, and supporting fully, people who are white, cis, hetero, sexual. The society we live in doesn’t like the LGBTQ community. And it doesn’t like the Ace/Aro community. It seems simple to me. Just.. Acknowledge. Acknowlegge differences, and priveledge. Revel in the progress we’ve made and can make. Finding a comfortable place for the people marginalized in this world until we meld a planet into being safe, is what we should all strive for. In the short term and the long term. But people seem to be so caught up in their own personal experience, that they have to shut down others. I just like to imagine that our community is as accepting as possible. I just hope you can be too. Even if you dissagree with me now. That’s what matters most. Being as good as possible to your fellow human. Now obivously this doesn’t cover everything. And as much as I would have LOVED to go out on that last note, it’s imporant to note that. Because I didn’t want to write a BOOK and this already longer than I anticipated. Thank you for reading anyways. -Joshua

#dasme #I know I didn't cover a lot here #especially with examples of aces being discriminted again't and the long history that exists of society calling it tabboo #aside from the examples of the LGBTQ community doing it right now #This is more just a list of reasons why I'm annoyed #sorry that this is meandering #or if I lose my train of thought #I think I kept it all together but regardless #sorry for not covering the aro angle as well as much as I meant to #long post