I’m not the first or the last person to say this but I grew up in the restaurant industry (third generation restauranteur) and everything that happens in The Bear is real life. Every restaurant you eat at? That’s what’s behind the kitchen door. There’s a crazy culture of abuse (both mental and emotional) as well as rampant substance addiction that’s considered “normal”. And I’m very serious when I say TV personalities like Gordon Ramsey truly make things worse by perpetuating the idea that yelling and screaming at both coworkers and subordinates is how a restaurant “should work”. And that attitude has genuine, real world consequences. So many good chefs- and good people- have taken their own lives because it’s so taboo to ask for help, or even just that maybe being yelled at all day every day might not be good for people’s mental well being.
The kitchen is a wonderful place. People from all walks of life come together in order to make people smile, to make memories, to make food that tastes the way food SHOULD taste!! But it’s also the same place where human beings are treated like absolute garbage. It’s where people plate hundreds of wonderful meals a night, but then eat their own dinner hunched over a trash can. It’s where people escape to a cold, dark, damp walk-in freezer to cry, because that’s the only break they get from being on their feet for hours at a time. It’s the place where chefs sometimes walk out after a hard night and choose not to wake up the next day.
The restaurant industry is changing. Owners and managers say that it’s because “nobody wants to work anymore”, but the truth is that people refuse to let themselves be treated as disposable anymore.
I dunno. All this is to say- remember the human beings behind every dish you eat. The chefs who put so much of their lives into food and the emotions attached to it. Whenever possible, eat at restaurants that have designated kickback fees to the kitchen staff. And if you work in a kitchen… you’re loved. You’re valuable. Please never be afraid to reach out if you need it.
Read more on restaurant service fees here if you’re curious what they are and how they work:
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Hey, tumblr witchy ppl and fellow Cool Rock Enjoyers. I got a PSA for y’all.
Do not trust any place selling raw quartz for a two - and esp not a THREE - digit number.
Here’s why:
Bit of background, I’m a mineral and crystal fan who likes having Shiny Rocks in my crow hoard. I am also a bit cheap. I don’t get something I like if I feel the price is ridiculous, unless under very specific circumstances.
Now, most people know what quartz is. It’s extremely common compared to other crystals and relatively easy to obtain, but doing so is difficult enough that most people will just buy it from someone else. But it’s really easy to find quartz if you know where to look.
Because of that, I have a rule that any shop selling a piece of quartz smaller than my palm for more than $3-5 is not worth my time or cash. Please, do not buy a tiny bit of raw quartz for $10 from a fancy crystal shop, it’s not worth it. And if they’re charging that for quartz, everything else is probably overpriced too.
(Note that this is specifically about raw quartz - if it’s been cut or sculpted into a certain shape, I’m more willing to pay extra for the craftsmanship. That’s different.)
And for fluffs sake don’t spend a thousand dollars on Etsy quartz my god. I don’t care how big it is or what special markings it has it is not worth nearly that much.
Quick guide that I personally follow, set your own limits as you wish:
Can be carried by a few fingers: $1-3
Fits in palm: $3-7 depending on size
One-hand grip: $7-15 depending on size/shape
Two-hand grip or larger: $15+
Again, this is specific to raw quartz, quartz that was picked up off the ground and put up for sale, not anything that’s been cut or sculpted. If it’s more than $30 it better be fluffing massive. No one should fork over $15-20 for quartz that fits in your hand, that’s just not right.
If you want an alternative that’s less likely to overcharge you, the best thing I can think of rn is a natural history museum or something similar. Full disclosure, I’ve only been to a couple, but they usually have a section for small crystals and minerals that are a few bucks each. Affordable, quality, and supporting a valuable public service - I’ll take that over an overpriced shop any day.
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Hii, I saw your post about that ask who said they can’t afford groceries and honestly thank you for responding to it the way you did. I used to get sooooo much hate.
And honestly as a Palestinian it just keeps getting worse. First I lose my family, then I have people online telling me we deserve when we’ve done nothing wrong, then I have people telling me to kill myself. It does get exhausting tbh but I will never stop talking about Palestine. Anyways I just wanted to say thank you for what you’re doing.
listen I want you to know that if I could bash this person’s head into fine powder for you I would
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you haven't released new chapters for the Baji x tutor reader story in a while, if that doesn't sound rude then when are you planning on writing a story?
Not rude at all..!:)
Honestly, I’d love to write more for Baji x Tutor!Reader! However, the only WIPs I have in drafts take place after Fragility/Aftermath… and I’ve honestly been scared to continue… I’m not sure if i should finish the WIPs, or think up a confession piece first? Or what scenarios people would like to read for first… I don’t get asks like that, so I’m not sure what people would like to read outside of what I think up.
I guess I’m at a loss of imagination right now?
Simple answer, I would love to write, but I am severely depressed and worried about posting …
Feel free to reply in this post/submit an ask with what you’d like to see from the Baji x Tutor!Reader series ? Even if I don’t accept it, at least this way I have an idea where I should direct my focuses…
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existing as a queer person who isn’t exceptionally educated on politics is so funny because i’m as educated as i need to be to live sustainably but it’s not enough to justify my existence to some people. obviously i strive to be informed on things that are important but it is simply not feasible for my mental health to keep up with all of the things that these people deem me required to be an expert on.
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this is fully me being a bitch but i kinda hate the wine cellar tbr metaphor. or at least i hate the way people use it as a justification for buying copious amounts of books that they’re never gonna read. like the fact that you made a comparison doesn’t make it not consumerism. spending hundreds of dollars of things you don’t need or even particularly want that much is still bad.
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Ahhh, tumblr.
It was the same last time I was here. Every day I would rb other people’s work, but when I post my own, no one would ever reblog mine.
I know, it’s probably not your thing. It might be from another fandom. But have you thought for one moment the amount of joy that having a mutual support you in whatever you’re doing brings?
I wish I had that. I wish someone would think, ‘fuck yeah, cosmic. You go girl. Here have a reblog, you’re writing is awesome. Keep going. You’re wanted here.’
*sigh*
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I think the reason trans girl mob goes off so hard is because… the show is inherently about a kid who’s an outcast learning to be his best most happy self. Like people always say be yourself yeah but that usually doesn’t actually mean anything.
Mob psychos thesis statement is you are NOT special, and that is beautiful because it means you can be anything. Just because you’re a good artist and a shit singer doesn’t mean you should do art instead of singing, you should do what makes you happy and strive to be as good at it as you can, because mediocre is an achievement when you aren’t special, it’s about self improvement, not being the best.
And then you get a kid, who’s constantly terrified of his own emotions and how they effect others and is seen as naive, who doesn’t fit the stereotypical masculine world well (weak as hell, cares a lot about emotions, pacifist) and doesn’t fit the stereotypical feminine world well either (reserved usually, in the body improvement club, horrible fashion, not able to read a room) and you say part of being the best, happiest possible version of yourself is realizing your gender, and it’s not a sad thing, and it’s not about anyone else, it’s about being the best you possible.
I don’t think mob in show is trans or would be any better or worse at being a girl than he is at being a boy, because it isn’t about that. It’s about the idea that when people do the things that are important to them without regard for what other people might think and only focus on being who they want to be (not who they think they should be, not on who they are, who they WANT to be, who would be both a good person and make them happy) that that is the best, happiest, most successful version of them. And I think that’s beautiful.
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