The final day of Asexual Awareness week is here! Thanks for taking the ride with me and sitting through all of my little headcanons. I’ve saved the best for last!
Emma Woodhouse – aro/ace
This is my favorite headcanon, partially because Emma is one of my favorite books, and also because, well, yes we do share a name! Emma exhibits a trait that I do: being fascinated and slightly obsessed with something you don’t really understand. While I’m devouring clinical and psychological texts about sex and sexuality as often as I can, Emma is consumed with romance. Her whole story is about trying to set people up based on what she perceives as indicators of love. And she’s pretty much always wrong! I would argue, because she actually has no idea what love is because he’s never felt it! So she gets all her ideas from books and second-hand gossip and that’s why she fails so spectacularly. You might argue that in the end, by marrying Knightly, she’s clearly proven that she can fall in love, but I can argue not so! I see their relationship as a very strong queer-platonic bond; she obviously does love him, he’s the most important person in her life besides her father, but she’s not in love with him. She doesn’t want him to marry anyone else because she doesn’t want another woman to take her place of importance in his life. And does Knightly love her? Sure. But in my headcanon he’s also aware of her aro/ace-ness and he doesn’t care. Because he does love her and to him the important bits aren’t whether she’ll give him her heart or her body, but that she’ll be with him in any way she can. So I see their relationship as very strong and loving and their marriage as a good thing and Emma as a wonderful aro/ace darling who marries her best friend and gets the happily ever after we’re all looking for in life.
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when i was seven, i had an emotional breakdown because i was 100% convinced that my first grade teacher had spelled “friend” like “freind”, and i insisted that i was right, even as my dad, a forty seven year old man, told me otherwise, and i kept crying, “why won’t you believe meeeeeeee? ms. meomartino told meeeeeee. she wouldn’t lie to meeeeeeee.” for like two hours.
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Happy happy birthday!! 🥳 Congrats on another rotation around the sun! I went to send a bday message and realized I hadn't responded to your last (idk what the term would be, response to my ask? correspondence? who knows) so i'm combining them like the rebel i am. How did your retreat go? I hope it wasn't too stressful and you were able to have a good/productive retreat. I'm sorry to hear you're also in a bad group project; it is such a frustrating situation when your group doesn't cooperate.
I didn't settle on being a geology major until last semester so it's a little new for me, but I like that it's a science that doesn't always *feel* like a science if that makes sense? Also a lot of our classes on climate change fall under the geology department and that's something I've always been interested/passionate about. Plus, plate tectonics is super wacky and neat! For writing I'm best with shorter, darker works (while I have plenty of longer ideas I do not have the ability to finish any of them lol) and also a little bit of poetry? But not a whole lot bc I think it's a hard line to walk btwn good poetry and sounding pretentious and I don't want to end up on the wrong side lol.
Anyways enough about me! How did you end up picking your major? Are you going to do anything for your birthday? I am sending loads of well wishes and good vibes your way and I hope you have a lovely birthday week -💙
hello love! thank you for the birthday message!
the retreat went well! we had a lot of people drop during the week leading up to it so it was a really really small retreatant pool but everyone there seemed really into it. Idk for me it was not nearly as impactful as usual, probably because I was stressed about getting everyone fed and facilitating a good retreat for my small group, but that’s okay because it seemed to be really fruitful for everyone else and the formation leading up to it was pretty good for me. as for the group project I actually got so angry about it in class today that I talked to my teacher afterwards and he’s on my side so hopefully things end up okay. I hope your group project also ends up okay!
I'm glad you’re vibing with geology! plate tectonics are super wacky and neat I agree with you there and I find it really interesting that a lot of the climate change classes fall under the geology department? I wouldn’t have expected them to be there but that’s cool that you get to study that!
I think the thing about good poetry vs pretentiousness honestly mostly has to do with the level of sincerity. pretentiousness, by definition, includes putting more importance on something than is deserved and thinking that you’re better than others for it. it’s performative. if you sincerely believe in and feel what you’re writing then it’s not pretentious. there are a lot of people out here romanticizing little things and picking apart specific, small human emotions under a magnifying glass to give them importance. that’s not pretentious, it’s actually a good skill/mindset to have in my opinion. don’t let fear of being pretentious keep you from writing whatever poetry you want to!
I picked my major because ultimately I want to be a theatre director at a high school. I started out as a music business major (which was super fascinating and I kind of wish I had stuck with it) but I would be most successful with that if I moved to New York, LA, or Chicago and I didn’t really want to do that. I went through a few other major combinations before landing on theatre for my only major and music and English lit for minors. I’ll probably end up going to grad school for theatre ed so it’ll be easier for me to get my teaching certificate. but yeah basically I chose my major because I just really want to direct high school theatre and this is what my school offers that will get me close to doing that.
I did not do anything for my birthday except open the presents my parents sent me! on Friday though I'm going to have a little lunch date/study session with a friend who’s birthday was the 12th! we typically go for walks on Fridays but tbh I'm behind in homework and upset about it so he’s going to pick up lunch for us and we’re going to just do a little special meal together while still being productive. I did also get to go to the social for our retreat today though! wasn’t sure if I'd be able to make it because I had rehearsal for theatre but I got let out early so everyone there sang happy birthday to me which was neat.
I am receiving your good vibes! holding up a mirror so some of them bounce off and go back to you, too. how has your week been so far? what are you up to?
i am a whore for the "character A shows character B the ropes to sex" trope with all the consent and new experiences and mutual respect and rookie is really hitting that spot for me
HAHAHA THATS A RLLY SPECIFIC SWEET SPOT ANON GLAD I COULD DELIVER.
maybe its just me expressing my desire for a Respectful Man Friend in a fic dkjsfnk
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full disclosure: i do use statcounters. i don’t have one on shallan (i don’t think anyway???) but i do have one on sigyn and lily. there was a messy incident back in my early days of rp that included a weirdo and her friends stalking my blog and sending shit to my friends, and stat counter was how i got them to fuck off. lily has it for the same reasons, these people were still a semi-issue when i made her. became useful when someone (who is still in the fandom) was vaguing about me non-stop and stealing my hedacanons while accusing me of doing the same. and then more recently, when some asshole threatened to dox me.
i only check my stats when i’ve been given an indication that someone shady is poking around, so i can make sure. if not, i don’t look, and have gone years between glances at stats.
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