#I did it a lot when I was younger

[uncanny-tranny]

Little things adults and older people can do to help younger people and children feel included, safe, and respected as an equal individual:

Ask before touching the young person - even for hugs. Ask before you take pictures of them, and let them see photographs of them before they are printed or sent to others (even family).

Apologize when you are wrong

Ask for a young persons thoughts on a subject, then engage with them after they have spoken

Demonstrate behaviour you want to see from them (see: apologizing). Say "excuse me," say "thank you," say "please" to them

Validate their feelings, even if they don't know how to express them just yet

Remember that this is the first time they've been alive, and that you've had way longer to "figure it out"

These are some things I wish other adults remembered when engaging with young folks. We so often forget what childhood felt like and how unfair it all was because we were often awarded freedoms as adults that we never had as children. These kids are equal to adults, and they deserve the same courtesy, respect, kindness, and understanding we give to other adults.

#youth liberation #the first point was something i had SO many struggles with #i would have breakdowns because i was scared my picture would be taken without my consent then shared to others #i took a picture of my younger brother with his permission and i let him decide if i could send it to our dad... #...because it felt so scary when people did that without my consent and i would NEVER want him to ever EVER feel that because of ME... #...and it turned out that we had a really positive engagement and he was happy and excited with the picture! because he was informed! #and i think that made him really happy and brought us closer because he felt safe because he knew he was respected as a human being #that stays in my head a lot. i want him to never ever feel how i did as a child. he is such a cool kid :)

[gottagobackintime]

Trent being startled/frightened

#trent crimm #ted lasso #ted lasso spoilers #james lance #I hope I didn't miss any if I did let me know and I'll add it #gottagobackintime gifs #don't think about why he startles when people raise their voices suddenly and when he hears loud noises DON'T think about it! #James why have you put these ideas of Trent having a bad dad in my mind #I had a good life before you talked about that #like I'm not saying that Trent was physically abused by his dad but he might have raised his voice in anger a lot #and I wouldn't be surprised if Trent was bullied when he was younger and that's why he's so easily startled #god I really made this gifset because I think he's cute when he's startled but I do really think that there is a reason for it #and the reason is him having been bullied and yelled at a lot

[riveluart]

Happy Mother’s Day!

I thought it’d be fitting to do Summer this year

#ally cat doodles #my digital art #fan art #rwby #ruby rose #yang xiao long #summer rose #my younger brother and I used to wear our blankets as capes a lot when we were little so I thought it’d be cute if Ruby and yang did too

[liesmyth]

I think about Roy's tabloid fodder days all the time... his attention whore days. No man who is THAT annoyed he didn't make it into his girlfriend's photoshoot is as disdainful of public attention as he claims to be now that he's a grouch. Before it was a yellow card offence, Roy 100% took off his shirt every time he scored a goal. He did the cringe charity single and a cringe music video to go with it. He's done beer ads and watch campaigns and photoshoots wearing ridiculously expensive menswear. He's been on trains and street corners and billboards looking rugged and manly and hot. Whatever the fuck went on with Gina Gershon was probably very public. The rolex stealing girlfriend, also public. THE SEX RUMOURS. There are extremely compromising pictures of Roy out there in various states of drunkenness and/or public groping that will one day become weapons in Phoebe's arsenal when she's a teenager protesting her curfew. He's lucky youtube wasn't much of a thing because he probably had some truly cringeworthy interview fragments. We've seen Jamie's “I'm the island's top scorer.... sexually :)” clip but I guarantee... whatever is out there of Roy is WORSE

#always thinking about how Roy said he was like Jamie when he was 23 #except it was the 00s he was a lot more successful at a younger age and didn't have the fall from grace arc that Jamie did #I guarantee. that man was A LOT #ted lasso #roy kent

[crimeronan]

the more loved i am and the more i love people on purpose, the more comfortable i get with who i am. i think this is a natural product of getting older as well, you kinda settle into your skin and figure out what you want and how to go after it. the funny part about doing this for me is that like.... i don't feel things like other people do. i just don't. i have a pathological need for attention and i don't form attachments the same way that others do and i break connections very easily and i don't feel guilty about stuff. i do recognize when i'm WRONG and i change my behavior and/or my viewpoints when they're harmful and i actively work to combat my most maladaptive bullshit, so sometimes it's like.

i dunno. the whole stereotype of the self-aggrandizing sociopath who thinks they're above everything is boring, but sometimes it feels like there's something to it. like i'll see sensationalized explanations of 'narcissism' and 'sociopathy' that are like "these people can just choose not to care about stuff," and i'm like....

....yeah??

So The Fuck Can You.

in fact, you do. CONSTANTLY. by telling yourself that the real life living breathing human being asking for change on the street is a scammer, or a predator, or unpleasant, or too sick, or too strung-out, or otherwise too Other and inhuman to help. you only reserve your so-called "intrinsic empathy" for people that you relate to, and you turn it off when it gets uncomfortable.

i know exactly where i'm spending my emotional energy and who i'm spending it on. when i don't spend my emotional energy on someone, it's not because they're an unperson to me. it's because i simply don't wanna put my emotional energy there.

you guys could learn a thing or two about doing this. like. i know why i am how i am. what the fuck is YOUR excuse????

#i had a Debilitating dissociative disorder when i was younger bc i'd partitioned off the defensive me with no empathy versus #the Good (TM) me who Cares #and the older i get the more i'm like. i don't actually need to overextend myself and pretend i feel things i dont to be a good person. #in fact i hurt a LOT of people by pretending to have more energy than i did and then letting them down when they depended upon me #i'm largely very friendly and open and excited and accommodating and that's not a LIE that really is my personality #but it's also a performance to a point. this is closer to what i sound like when i'm not trying to be likable. #idk what to tag this. low empathy people are literally fine actually.

[speciouspessimism]

around the ages of 3-5 i threw repeat tantrums where i sobbed about wanting to go home while in the house and my mom would tell me that we were at home but i would say “no my real home” i don’t know what that was about but i guess our problems never really change

#for context #i lived in the same house with the same people until i was 10 yrs old #my parents have told me this as a #‘creepy thing you did’ story #there are a lot of these #i was so badly tormented when i was younger #with no reason #anyways #longing #home #belonging #txt #tidbits

[jemmo]

i finally got the time to watch love is better the second time around and im not at all shocked that im obsessed with the adult second chance at love jbl - have you met me.

but it also needs to be known that shiraishi is my beloved, the actor plays this role so perfectly and i want my bitchy sad gay to find true love

#love is better the second time around #also i adore the mains a whole fucking lot #iwagawa is the perfect mix of pathetic and desperate veiled in cocky and sophisticated #and miyata’s character is just a gem like the way he has transformed from his younger self is so refreshing to see #like this is a kid that was so pure and sweet and open and when he believed that all got trampled on he didn’t let it go to the extreme of #becoming hard and emotionless instead he really has just matured into an adult that actually cares for and values himself #like that hurt made him feel worthless but now he knows he isn’t worthless #like he internalised it through the way he protects himself from others but he does it both to not feel that hurt again but also bc he #thinks well of himself and i just adore the fact we get to see a timid kid grow into someone with self-respect it’s so cool and refreshing #and even when it comes at his detriment bc he won’t let himself believe iwagawa is being honest or that he’s ever been - that it’s all just #a joke or teasing or whatever it’s not frustrating bc you both get where it comes from but also feel like you can support him pushing him #away bc he does it for himself and for the person he’s become #so like… to watch a show where you’re both deeply rooting for the couple but also support when they push each other away… idk how they did #it but they did. the premise is simple and the show is simple but every moment and interaction is electric and thrilling and that’s the kind #of show i love. one that can convey how seemingly interactions are full of tension and stakes for these people. it’s so hard to convey that #but this show nails it and i just can’t get enough now.

[yardsards]

going to other people's houses for dinner is wild because it's such a crapshoot on what kind of culinary experience you're about to have. some places it's just delightful and you feel like you're in that one scene in ratatouille where it's all colourful when he tastes the ingredients. other places it feels like whatever the fuck is on your plate is a close cousin of the pulp they use in paper manufacturing and you wish you had pulled a hillary clinton and smuggled some hot sauce in your bag

#eliot posts #like my friend john's house is great to visit for dinner bc his dad is an amazing cook #i will often leave that place with a recipe in my pocket #my friend jeffrey's house... that guy's family seem like they could be murdered by a single flake of parsley #he's an excellent friend and i love visiting him but i will sprinkle so much black pepper on my food at the dinner table #that if i did that in public i would probably get funny looks #my big sister is surprisingly good at cooking nowadays #she used to suck at it when we were younger #that time when she was like 16 and wanted us to do a few hannukah traditions to get in touch w our ashkenazim ancestors #and she made latkes so bad that it felt like a time-bending hate crime against our dead great grandparents #a lot of the cooking fell on my shoulders back when we both lived w our parents lol

[thelien-art]

Ulmo is the Vala who looks the most human because of his presence and observations towards the elvers and men thought-out the ages (naked version)

Uinen - Osse

#silmarillion #jrr tolkien #tolkien #ulmo #mermaid #mermaid art #merfolk #merman #me screaming while trying to draw muscular legs #ulmo is the selfproclaimed grandfather once captain who has the wildest stories you'll find at your local harbor #yeah this design is based on an old captain that lived close to my grandad #and we would eat there a lot as he owned a little restaurant and he had the wildest stories and everyone called him grandad #even my grandad #and he had a lot of tattoos and cursed a lot and either he walked in old baggy clothes with holes or stereotypical old sailor clothes #he also had the wildest beard and hair ever and claimed to never cut it #the only different is i tried to make ulmo look a bit less skandinavien and younger while still having the old captains look over him #i think i did that best with the patterns on the clothes and the first outfit and the not beer stomach #vala #valar #the first is when he meets people and dont want to be nakkede which he usual is #also when meeting people #and the second is when hes at a meeting in valinor

[youngyoo-apologist]

OG Choi Han they could never make me hate you cause if some random rich boy was yelling at me and telling me my family deserved to die like a day after it happened and all I wanted was to know how I could get help I’d beat him up too

This plus the added fact that the Harris Village people were the first people to take Choi Han in and take care of him after years and years in the dark forest. Like he’s obviously not going to be mentally stable after all that, and he was so young when everything happened to him like I cannot blame him at all. I don’t think I can ever hate OG Choi Han like ever, he’s flawed, he has problems, but I love him dearly. He deserves the world. This kid who had to fight for his life, was taken away from his family, and in the process had to give up parts of his own humanity to survive, and like went to war two years later, they could never make me hate u OG Choi Han…

Like yeah violence is bad I guess but OG Cale had it coming(saying this as an OG Cale fan, I love him, but he was mean as hell when he was younger!)

If I’m honest, I think they were both in the wrong to an extent. Like OG Cale shouldn’t have said all that no matter the circumstances, and OG Choi Han shouldn’t have beaten him up so much. But u say mean shit and you get hit, that is how it will work when you’re talking to the guy who just saw his entire village get murdered like idkkkk man

I understand where OG Cale was coming from, but he had many issues and while he wasn’t an awful person, he was capable of doing bad things because of his own internalized pain and emotions that he never got to properly process because of his emotionally distant childhood and relationship with his father who should have been there for him more when he was younger.

Okay speaking of his childhood, Deruth isn’t the WORST father in the world but there are a lot of things he could have done better. I think a lot of Deruth’s flaws come from his fear of failure and messing up. He’s scared of doing the wrong thing, and so he sticks to doing what he knows and using what he knows best. That’s why he uses his money, that’s why gift giving is his way of showing affection, he knows that it is one thing he cannot mess up.

The problem is that money and gifts is NOT what OG Cale needed. I think what that guy needed the most was a parent who wasn’t afraid to talk to him, to ask him questions. Not to say that Deruth gave up on OG Cale, but I think in a way he gave up on OG Cale by giving up on himself. Deruth didn’t trust himself to have the capabilities to talk to OG Cale, which is why he never did. It’s because that Deruth was scared, and didn’t trust himself, that he could never face OG Cale

If Deruth was able to trust himself a little more, and pull himself together, I don’t think OG Cale would have turned out the way he did. As a kid, he probably thought the only way he could help his family without relying on anyone(no doubt this whole ‘I have to do it myself’ thing came from the fact that he couldn’t rely on his father when his mom died, and instead was acting as a pillar of support for his father when it should have been the other way around) was to sabotage himself, the only heir. If he was shown to be unfit to be heir, then everyone else would have no choice but to direct their hatred towards him instead of his family.

If Deruth had talked to his son at least ONCE when he was a kid, asking him why he was upset or why he did the things he did, I think OG Cale would have told him. Why? Because he’s a kid!! A kid will obviously want to rely on his father, if he just had one sign telling him that he didn’t have to do it alone I’m 90% sure OG Cale would have said something.

Basically, while Deruth isn’t the worst father, he’s not really a great father either. I think he does do his best, but he has issues with communication lol

OG Cale and OG Choi Han are both complex characters and had their own reasons to behave the way they did. The thing is with people is that they’re complicated and have layers, so the situation with them would have layers behind it as well with multiple co-existing truths and stuff

#guys I’m a big fan of Choi Han #and I get sad when people bring up this scene and all the blame is on him #like okay he was wrong but if YOU saw your entire family dead and some random rich boy started yelling abt how their lives were worthless #you’d be mad too no? #like his feelinsg were totally justified cause OG Cale was REALLY mean in that scene #‘their lives are worth less than the bottle in my hand’ OHHHHH OKAY OG CALE THATS ENOUGH THATS ENOUGHHHH #I love OG Cale but u have to admit he wasn’t very nice when he was younger #like the statements ‘he had his reasons’ ‘being trash was an act’ ‘he wasn’t a bad person’ ‘but he did say bad things’ can co exist #yes being trash was an act but he is ALSO capable of saying mean things and things that are wrong #LIKE TELLING THE GUY WHO JUST GOT HIS FAMILY MURDERED THAT THEIR LIVES WERE WORTHLESS #HE WAS NOT INNOCENT FOR THAT #Younger OG Cale is not a black and white character #and neither is older OG Cale but this post isn’t abt him #okay I’m gonna bring up someone who isn’t from TCF #but take Eunyung Baek from no home as an example okay #eunyung did bad things and was a bad person because of his childhood right #the reasons to being a bad person do not take away the bad things he did #but just cause he did bad things and was capable of them did not mean he could not change #I love OG Cale a LOT and I just think that his character has a lot behind it #Older OG Cale is obviously very different from his younger self #years and years of war and tragedy have matured him and like he’s not the same person he was anymore #okay back to Choi Han I love that guy I will defend him with my life #beating up people is wrong yeah but with the circumstances I’d say OG Cale had it coming #like okay it would be different if it was unprovoked but it was very much provoked #I swear I love OG Cale I just think he was very wrong for that #not to say he can’t change or isn’t capable of change he definitely is #idk I guess my point is that OG Cale was wrong but he changed as a person #and OG Choi Han was wrong for beating him up so much but it wasn’t unjustifiable #tcf #lcf

[cherriiramen]

You aren’t a true MLP fan if you haven’t watched MLP Gore Speedpaints, Pinkamena Speedpaints, Elements of Insanity Speedpaints, or next Gen Speedpaints in your childhood 🫵

#I USED TO WATCH SO MANY OF THESE?? #with the crazy music in the background and the MLP bases #i was so obsessed with MLP gore because of this when I was younger 😭😭 #ngl they did keep me up at night sometimes but #i thought they were pretty cool #i loved drawing pinkamena too #and the elements of insanity #i loved their designs sm #SAME WITH THE NEXT GEN DESIGNS #i had no idea what ships were #and who’s kids these belonged to #but I drew them a lot anyway #I LITERALLY JUST RAN INTO THE SAME OLD SPEEDPAINTS VIDEOS #THE NOSTALGIAAA #MLP #my little pony #cherrii.txt

[ryssbelle]

My cousins made their own troll Ocs and I drew them in my style.

They were very excited about it

#my art #not my art #both #trolls #dreamworks trolls #they had a lot of fun making these #i actually really love the color palette for princess i think my cpusin did a very good job on that #claw is something else #he is a unicorn troll #neon green was an interesting choice but hey claw is an interesting guy #is it obvious idk how to draw country trolls lmao #ever since i told them i also liked trolls we have had our own little club #im their person who they can talk to about it #they will also just sit and ask me to draw tiny diamond and guy diamond over and over and over and over and over again #they really like tiny diamond #but hey i love those little guys so i draw the trolls they demand of me #they also asked me to draw poppy and branch so they could color them #i still have to finish my viva coloring page for them #the younger of the two who made princess is really good at color picking and color matching #she colored poppy without a ref and its p accurate to her colors #the older one who made claw used the ref for every color but he got pretty close when he tried to guess #the older one also misunderstood me when i said id been practicing art since i was 5 and thought i was this good since i was 5 #he was very depressed for about 15 minutes #it was really funny but dw i assured him that was not the case #but like for those 15 min he did not believe me #even his sister was like 'nono you didnt hear it right' but he was already in the emo zone #he was fine later tho and continued on making his troll #and also proud teacher moment but i had taught princesses creator some art techniques off handedly #not expecting her to remember any of it but then she did and apparent shes been using it ever since #im like omg i actually taught another human bsing something its insane

[topnotchquark]

Vale talking about Cele.

#I'm sorry the academy and it's success is actually kinda baffling to me #a lot of players launch academies to train younger folks #and it almost never works #but it did for him #training and taking care of young sportspersons is surprisingly difficult #and yet #imo academy is in some ways even more impressive than the world titles #especially when young vale had his silly little wild child past with no care in the world no gods no masters no prisoners #and then maturing into a mentor #yeah no I need to shut up about Vale #vr46 riders academy #vr46 boys #celestino vietti #valentino rossi #cele #vale #motogp

[welcome-to-green-hills]

Consider: The Wachowski’s have a family dinner at Olive Garden. 🍝

Tails gets a kid’s menu with crayons and a maze. Sonic and Knuckles try to pretend they’re too old for such things, but eventually they can’t help themselves and ask for them too and soon they’re all coloring and doing mazes together. 🖍️

Knuckles accidentally breaks all the silverware because his hands are so powerful, so they just let him eat the pasta with his hands and it makes an adorable mess. He and Sonic have such huge athletic appetites that they finish the biggest pasta bowl in seconds and Tom is already thinking he’s gonna have to take out a second mortgage to pay the restaurant bill.

And of course, Maddie takes all the pictures! 📸

Awwww❤️✨

#This is very very cute! I love this idea very much! #Did anyone else do the parent or guardian/child dates when they were younger? My mom and I did these a lot! That’s what this reminds me of! #mystery anon #off topic

[taradactylus]

So uh.... are we just going to ignore the fact that the Astral Bodies are reincarnated??? Like... Castor said (I think in the Lunar gets flustered episode...) that they indeed can die, and they are reincarnated, they just dont talk about their previous deaths at all. So... THEORETICALLY, they were most likely born with powers like Lunar, and they had to get training like Lunar... which means they had some sort of ATLA vibe reveal at a reasonable age they are a reincarnation of xy Astral Body, and from that moment on there is no going back.... And now I'm wondering, if Gemini having technically two separate person in one mind, and not in a Sun and Moon sense, and Castor answering with "You could say that..." when asked if Pollux is his sister leaves me with a million questions.

Sibling dynamic logically shouldn't be only an earthly thing, so THEORETICALLY, Castor knows whats a sibling. And also Castor and Pollux's dynamic, with Castor being silent, monotone and wise like an overly traumatized-but-got-used-to-it grown up, and Pollux being loud and quirky and child-like... I might read too much into it and jumping to conclusions (but I can at least headcanon), but Im having a feeling Castor went through shit before they officially became Astrals which Pollux might not even know of. Also the fact we get a kind of boy-coded and girl-coded (idk if they have actual genders tbh) characters in one, seemingly also girl-coded body raises further questions

#Im holding my nonbinary ass back to slap a trans-masc hc upon Castor #the lunar and earth show #lunar and earth show #tlaes #laes #tlaes astral bodies #tlaes gemini #tlaes lunar #astral bodies #astral #Dont mind me my brain is just so stuck on Gemini as a character because I love it #and maybe its self instert a lot #But imagine #Castor went through shit #that resulted in a short of split in their head #but in order to not let his previous or younger self or however he views Pollux #getting hurt #he takes all the memory and trauma on his shoulders #not letting Pollux know it #and he treats her and protects her as much as he can #because when they were one #nobody did it for them #but again #Im just having fun thinking about this

[sylphwing]

hm. i do not like chilshi 🤔

#sylph.txt #everyone likes to joke abt how much of an epic divorce man chilchuck is #but i dont think he ever even refers to her as his ex-wife. i could b wrong bc it's been a while since i read it tho #idk a lot of his arc is him learning to b more open w others (which is essentially what ended his relationship) #and u can see how much he's grown in the chapter where senshi goes into his past #to me it would b a lot sweeter for him to take on these lessons and go back to her and make things work #it's been 4 years but he's remained loyal to her depite their issues. idk to me it rlly does feel like he still loves her he's just a fool #it's made p clear that he's a coward and that he's quick to run away so actually committing to her would b a nice way to wrap things up #we don't get to see much of his wife so i get y ppl r quick to put him w the only other man in the party #but like senshi knows abt his wife too like i do not think he's gnna b making any moves here bc he has morals lmao #(*only other older man in the party. laios doesn't qualify for old man yaoi to most chilshi likers) #(even tho chilchuck isn't old either but shh they don't care abt that) #when it comes to senshi the changeling chapter def helped him w understanding how old the rest of the party is #but he clearly still views them as significantly younger than him #i don't think he views chil as a child anymore but for the majority of their time together he did #and so going from that to in a relationship is uhh rlly weird to me! #senshi has always taken a sort of parental role upon himself #w him romance is no where as interesting as the platonic bonds he has w the rest of the party #similar to how romance is entirely unimportant to izutsumi in the succubus chapter #idk i def don't hate the pairing and there r some takes on it that i find funny #but for me i just don't see anything between them i think ppl just want an m/m ship to play with #that ao3 gap is only gnna get bigger lmao