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#I am still working out my type when it comes to non-men
concretepuppy · 1 month
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hope does the erectile implant work? i always thought of like... a button or smth lol.
there are three types. i have the AMS Ambicor two-piece hybrid system (the newest of three. AMS is the brand, Ambicor is the model). all options will need to be replaced eventually. *theoretically* they could last forever, but because theyre mechanical devices that are getting a lot of friction, and in the case of phallo penises supporting something relatively heavy (phallo penises are significantly heavier than natal penises bc natal penises are mostly erectile tissue, which is spongy and light, but phallo penises are mostly subcutaneous fat or muscle, which is denser) so eventually they wear out or break. luckily unless the break is the result of trauma and caused any of the stuff inside the silicone to break the silicone or the device somehow breaks through your skin, it’s not dangerous to have a non-functioning device in your body. all three options are attached to your pelvic bone using titanium sutures. the small amount of metal will not set off body scanners/meta detectors and are all safe for MRI machines, and you’re given a patient info card to show when it’s relevant.
the types are:
1. Semi-rigid rod. exactly what it says on the tin. it’s a rod of ball-and-socket joints covered in silicone. the rod is always semi-rigid and does not get more or less hard. you bend it up (at a 90° angle to your body) for sex, and bend it back down for daily use. this option lasts the longest bc there’s less mechanical parts. i know two people who have had it, and both are satisfied, though one says he sometimes has difficulty topping anally if the bottom is a virgin or rarely bottoms anally. in cis men (who are the only population who have any studies wrt erectile implants, so they’ll be the comparison i use) this typically needs replaced every 5-10 years. there are many different brand options
2. Inflatable. A hydraulic system where a “reservoir” of fluid in a bulb that is ovular like a testicle is connected to the cylinders implanted in your penis. there is a button on the reservoir you push multiple times to fill the cylinders with fluid to become erect, then press and hold the button to become flaccid. For phallo patients, the reservoir is typically placed on one side of the scrotum and the other side has a testicular implant, but the reservoir can be placed anywhere in the pelvic region, it’s just easiest to access in the scrotum. This needs replaced more often than the semi-rigid rod bc it has more moving parts, in cis men it generally needs to be replaced every 5-7 years. i’m not sure about brand options bc i never considered this option.
3. Hybrid. what I have. the only existing option afaik is the AMS Ambicor. it’s a hybrid of the other two. it is a semi-rigid device, though less rigid than the rod, so it still has a truly flaccid state. the reservoir is again typically placed in the scrotum. unlike the inflatable, there is no button on the reservoir. you squeeze the reservoir itself to fill the cylinders with fluid & become erect, then you bend your erect penis at a ~60° angle in the middle (it looks very painful but it’s not at all, it’s not even uncomfortable) to deflate it.
i had some issues with inflation/deflation when i first started cycling the device. my balls were still sore so squeezing the reservoir kind of hurt, so i wasnt inflating the device all the way, which made deflation difficult. but now that i dont have any post-op pain, the process is easy and painless and cycling the device (inflating and then deflating it right after. you have to inflate the device once a day to “keep the fluid moving” according to my surgeon, so if youre not having sex or jerking off you just do a quick cycle) takes like two minutes, if that. it typically needs replaced in cis men everg 5-7 years.
my surgeon, Dr. Geolani Dy, prefers the hybrid for phallo patients. it has less risk of erosion (the tip of the device coming out of your skin bc the skin gas eroded due to pressure/friction) than the rod bc it has a flaccid state, but it can handle more weight than the full inflatable and thus is better suited for phallo penises. with the inflatable option OHSU offers, the tip of that device is a bit more pointy than the hybrid, so it also has a higher erosion risk. not sure abt any other inflatable options. but all three options have their pros and cons! there are also external erectile devices. some DIY using two coban/vet wrap and two condoms to create rigidity (note: this is not “safe” as in “safe sex” bc the friction of two condoms means theyre likely to break, so should only be done with partners youre fluid-bonded with), but this really only works for PIV sex and personally i could never get it to work for me. there are companies that make external erectile devices, like the Elator or the Stays Hard. both were designed for natal penises so both companies recommend phallo patients email them and work with them on sizing to ensure a good fit. i never tried these options so i cant speak to how well they work.
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likehephaestionwhodied · 10 months
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Hi! I saw your comment on leatherdaddies/leather/kink at pride and you mentioned how this type of masculinity isn't meant to be performed for a het audience, and removing that framework is essentially hollowing out this type of masculinity. (?) I've been looking into modern media portrayals of non hegemonic masculinity and I was wondering if you had some good intro sources for leather culture? Based on the info in that post I'm wondering if there's some bleed through with pop culture/TV and the modern pop cowboy/space western but I could just be jumping to conclusions. At any rate would sill love and appreciate any recs you would be able to give--if not, totally understand! Either way I love the info that you added to that post a lot!!
It's like you knew I didn't want to be working on my thesis and have come to save me.
Okay so, it really depends on what you want for like "sources for leather culture" because if it's leather culture as it exists today put on your tightest Levis, and your heaviest leather boots and go to the local gay bar on leather night and make friends (easier said than done I know I've always lived in rural America, also pls don't go gawk leathermen we can tell) But if you want historic sources that I can help you with better.
The two books I cite the most in my thesis when it comes to leather masculinity are 1. Urban Aboriginals: A Celebration of Leathersexuality by Geoff Mains and 2. The Leatherman's Handbook by Larry Townsend.
The first is much easier to get your hands on than the second. You can just by Urban Aboriginals on Amazon or Thriftbooks or bookshops, probably even your local gay bookstore if you have one, it's still in print. I have the third edition I love that book SO MUCH it was originally published in the early 80s, and I use it as a reflection of the "golden" age of Leather in the 1970s.
Unfortunately, The Leatherman's Handbook and The Leatherman's Handbook II are out of print. That is not to say you can't get your hands on them. I spent an obscene amount of money to buy the pair on ebay. But also, I once found a Lesbian SM reader in my school's library, so you might beable to get it though an interlibrary loan? or maybe a pdf exists?
Another useful text that I cite quite a bit is Leather Folk: Radical Sex, People, Politics, and Practice, edited by Mark Thompson. This is an anthology of essays written by, you guessed it, leatherfolk both gay men and others. (I am assuming because of the post that you are most interested in gay leathermen)
Regarding the rest of your post on pop-culture portrayals of non-hegemonic masculinity (I am assuming you are using that term in an academic "I've read R.W. Connell" way, if not RIP, sorry again I'm working my thesis the first chapter of which is very "I'm Read R.W. Connell") I have one thing to say:
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I am 90% sure only three of these men are gay, that only three of these men are intimately aware of the costumes they are wearing. David Hodo, the construction worker, Randy Jones the Cowboy, and Glenn Hughes. I wish I could find the photo of the three of them in their costumes with one very important detail, a single button of their 501s is undone. If you are a gay man crusing in the 1970s you own a pair of levi 501s that are so tight you have to shimmy into them, and you leave one of the buttons undone to make your dick bigger. You can also just tell when they're dancing who understood the assaignment.
I give all this information because the village people have such a weird relationship with the gay community. I haven't done a lot of work with them specifically so I'm sure someone is gonna read this and know xyz. But these guys are named after the west village, where gay men lived in new york, and got their start preforming for gay men. the costumes they wear are of course different types of masculinity idealized in the gay community. Their songs (at least the first iteration of the village people) are usually about gay things. YMCA is of course about crusing, but "San Francisco" from their debut is even more overt along side "Go West," "In the Navy," and "macho man"
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I've inserted this video as a visual so when I say, "the three gay ones understand the assignment," you know what I mean, their performance is campy where, where the other two are missing that.
But deconstructing the Village people, or at least the three queerest ones takes an understanding of queer history. In the same way that the Leatherman is a "biker," the construction worker is not really a construction worker (this is not to say that Leathermen are not often bikers, they are) The construction worker is a "Clone" the promiscuous gay men of the 70s who wore Levi jeans, work boots, tight t-shirts, and flannel and solicited sex from other clones in public. Similarly, the cowboy might be a cowboy, but he might also be one of the hundreds of men who hung out at western-themed bars (closely related to leather) and are the prototype of the bear. All three of these particular queer masculinities resist the feminine archetype of queer men HOWEVER, when produced for mass conception, they are camped up.
I think that this would be an instructive place for you to start, I don't know that I can help with more modern pop-culture though.
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bringmehome888 · 5 months
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I am so disappointed to have to be writing this but here it is.
I’ve been living with the photographer Joel Jones known by his insta handle as @senojleoj and @senojleoj.studio for the past 3 months now. I am writing this because I am so sick of predatory photographers who cover themselves under the guise of feminist, sex worker supporting individuals when this is not the case at all.
We started our relationship ethically non-monogamously. Joel was an avid instagram user and would go out of his way to like models (targeting especially s@x workers) photos on his personal and photography pages. I asked him not to do so as my FY page was filled with these types of images as Joel and I spoke a lot on instagram. Being greeted with this every time I opened the app led me to develop an eating disorder. Joel told me he would stop doing so, but continued, even after telling him about my eating disorder. I then unfollowed him on his photography page as he convinced me he had to like these images for work purposes telling me “who do I photograph…no go on tell me…who do I photograph” - referring to, I guess the women whose photos he was liking. I told Joel I couldn’t do this anymore as it was really affecting my mental health. In response he broke down and told me he’d change and strangely unfollowed everyone on his photography page and proceeded to tell me he’d stop. Joel would later use this action as a way to show he’d changed and the “sacrifices” he had made for me.
Joel then continued to do this for 2 months as well as still being active on dating apps, having “feminism” as one of his interests, as well as encouraging women to not settle for less - during which time we were in a monogamous relationship and living together. I questioned Joels obsession with sex workers numerous times and was met with responses such as “I didn’t even see what was in the photo” “Men can support sex workers too you know” and claiming it wasn’t even for work purposes, he just liked the photo.
A seedier side to Joel is the way that he sources models - liking girls photos on instagram on his personal page 9-10 years younger than himself, also approaching them on dating apps - I know he has been targeting a lot of people who attend riot party uk. Another instance comes to mind where Joel screamed and shouted in my face and broke down while I was sat in tears because I wouldn’t pose out of a window for him.
What I’m trying to highlight here is the hypocrisy with male presenting photographers, ones especially that claim to support women and sex workers but simply do not give a shit about them unless they are getting something in return. Being a sexworker myself and living with Joel for the past 3 months has unfortunately led me to see that first hand.
Joel is someone who openly and ferociously claims to be a feminist, claims to support s@x workers, posting commentary on the barbie movie and sharing posts about s@x workers rights - when behind the scenes is the complete opposite. This outward and very online feminism unfortunately is a ploy used by many male photographers to gain women’s trust.
I’m sure many people have had great experiences with Joel in the past and in his personal life, as many people do when they first meet photographers, but this is what I have experienced with him. We cannot keep letting seedy male presenting photographers go un outed. This is all I gotta say.
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variousqueerthings · 4 months
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doctor who specials thoughts!
spoilers for most everything below:
obvs the plot was banging -- my partner didn't know the meep's a full-on war criminal evil emperor carnivore and I was trying not to giggle every time they called the meep so cuuuuute
the concept of transgender saved London! and donna noble's life! remember to thank a trans person in your life toay for saving people through the power of transgender!
but also specifically Donna's love for her daughter!
also Doctor preferred pronouns as any but specifically also "The Doctor" (definite article), fuckn good and correct
"you have weapons in your wheelchair!?" "of course, we all do" (from memory)
I know this is OG comic already, reallyreally enjoy the big bug beings aren't evil, and use stun guns -- an important way of gauging their character and whether the Doctor trusts them and solves the mystery. also the desiiiign of them!!!!! PRACTICAL CREATURE DESIIIIIIGN BOTH THEM AND THE MEEP!!!!!!!!!!
THE DOCTOR flopping about, RUNNING AROUND, CLIMBING UP THE WALLS, GETTING KNOCKED OUT! having just watched the entire of Eleven with all the "has a speech about how cool I am which makes the Bad Guys just give up for some reason" having this Doctor stalling for time and solving a mystery and then immediately knocked TF OUT!!!!!!!!!!
DoctorDonna BEstiESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!! they're so!!!!!!!!!!!!! they're SO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! next two episodes are gonna kill me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
still got the mystery of why the Doctor came back with this face, teaser about the Meep's "boss" (assuming Toymaker), and of course we know next to nothing about what will happen next week!
ohhhhhhh the new Tardis, she's so FLASH, she's so CLASSIC, she's so HAMSTERWHEEL!!!!!!!!!!!
I don't know why I assumed Wilfred would be dead (well, they definitely counted on us assuming it), but it makes so much sense he wouldn't be when they fucking filmed with Bernard Cribbins!! Wilf will be coming up soon!
my couple of gripes are my feelings about UNIT as "uncomplicatedly good guys." I know there's a lot of different depictions of them throughout who (I've seen Two and Three + nu!who's depictions, and I prefer early seasons making it a more tempestuous relationship, especially with Three being sort of forced to work with them but really challenging their decisions and structures), but I watched the 50th anniversary the other day and that sees Kate Stewart almost blowing up London... once a military organisation, always a military organisation, and I'd like to see some future exploration of that. not that this episode was the episode to do so necessarily, but certainly in the future...
and the "male presenting" moment -- I see where it came from, it was the one misstep in threading trans/gender political and philosophical ideas into the text, had the vibes of "women and non-binary" type gendering, and makes you (me) go "what does male presenting mean? who is male presenting to you? do you mean man? do you mean "read as man"? are you talking about non-passing tans women, non-binary people with beards, trans men? and what does that have to do with your innate self?" it's some basic gender essentialism dressed up in progressive language. I'm going deep into this Moment, but it's also the only Moment, and I feel like it's interesting to hold it to a higher standard than I have previous Who. good intentions, this one is a miss
on the whole it's fucking BACK!!! TRANSGENDERS SAVE THE WORLD AND THE DOCTOR IS A BABY LOSER WHO FEELS SO MANY FEELINGS AND IS NO LONGER AFRAID OF EXPRESSING THEM AND DONNA IS ASKING WHY THEY CAN'T JUST HANG SOMETIMES AND SPILLS COFFEE ON THE CONSOLE AND THE TARDIS IS SO FLAAAAASSHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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mrskyoraku · 1 month
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Out and About Ft: @kenpachisbrat @bleach-your-panties A/N: When they get lost from their husbands and decide to go out drinking. TW: drinking, suggestive language and themes (please excuse the non edits 💀
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The gigai’s were ready to be used for a little funny day with the three couples who resided in the seireitei. “Stop looking so grouchy it wouldn’t kill you to spend some time together like this.” Reye looked at her husband. “We could have spent time together back at home but we had to come here,” he grumbled. 
“Oh come on Kenpachi it’s not that bad besides trying something new.” Shunsui smiled.
“We plan accordingly to make sure we get to do all the things on the list of things.” A small notebook in Izuru’s hand looking at some of the events happening today.
“Babe lets just go with the flow and not to a schedule lets be real that shit don’t work.” Yasue looked at her own husband, closing the little notebook. “It doesn’t it sucks the fun out.” Valerie looked around the vicinity they were in to see where would be a good place to go first. As the couple began walking around it was pretty packed today in the little town. It was pretty easy for the girls to maneuver around but the men were a bit hard. Through the crowds they realized they were separated from the men. “1,2,3” Reye counted the three of them “well shit.” I don’t see them in the crowd.” Standing on her tippy toes. 
“Should we go look for them?” Valerie scratched her head. 
“Do you wanna go back in the crowd?!? Not me, that's dangerous as it is.” Yasue placed her hands on her hips.
“Hmmmm I mean we can go to the bar across and we can keep an eye out.” 
It didn’t take long for them to all agree to go into the bar. 
Meanwhile the men ended up in the other part of town. “Where the hell did they go?!?” Izuru looking up and down the streets. “See this is why we plan!”
“Planning doesn’t work. They either are looking for us or going to go bullshit around.” Kenpachi in an annoyed tone. Grumbling at the annoyance of all the people around. “Why the fuck are there so many people today anyways?!” 
“Beats me.” Shunsui sighed “let’s just see if we can find them” . They all looked at their phones and there was no reception. “What’s the good of these things if we can’t use them?” 
The three women order their drinks,  doing small cheers. “Where do you think they are?” Valerie asks to take a drink.
“Either one of two things.. one at a bar or two trying to look for us.” Reye leaned back against the seat. 
“Izuru losing his shits in the process.” Yasue thinks about her husband's reaction at this moment. “Well at least we can unwind a bit. It’s been a moment since we had this type is ‘girls day'’” 
“She is right. Fuck it let’s enjoy!!” Reye said, lifting her drink up.
Clinking their glasses once more the girls began drinking more. They were full of life and reminiscing on stories in the gotei 13.
“No he  didn’t really?!” Reye and Yasue looked at Valerie who was nodding.
“He did and in that moment I guess you can say was when I knew he loved me. I wouldn’t give it up until that day. Then the daily dose from then on.” 
“Now it makes sense that . Who would have guessed that prick Tokinada had a child”  Yasue looked at Valerie.
“Then that's when the romance heated up. Well when thinking about it you were more reserved in the beginning then it seemed you guys couldn’t stop touching.”
“Still can’t stop touching.” Valerie proudly smiled. “As guilty as I am about it, you two little birds ain't so innocent.” “I know I ain’t no saint.” Reye chuckled.
“Is that whole #4  this week so far?”  Yasue chuckled
“To be exact 6  on each day of the week.” “Your back ain’t out of commission I’m surprised.” Valerie jokes.
“We learned a few things to avoid but the holes still remain.” Reye smirked “about that cake you had  yesterday, Yasue.” she was referring ‘cake’
“My cake was yummy. Every single bit of it.” raising her brow up your lips pulling a grip.
“Which was your favorite part?” Valerie looked at her smirking.
“The frosting.” Yasue pronounced the frosting specifically to what it was related to. 
“THE FROSTING!” Both Reye and Valerie hacked laughing. Some of the people looked at the three girls laughing loudly at the comment frosting. As the girl continued their way through the town they hopped from bar to bar. Searching high and low for the three women. Izuru seemed more determined to find them; his blue bell was in a city thinking of a scene in his mind of a damsel in distress. In reality Captain Ikeda was having the time of her life. Going into the bar “Just sit down, have a drink then we can look for them again.” Shunsui patted Izuru’s back.
“But Taichou-.” Izuru was cut off by Kenpachi “Just sit down, we haven't found them in 3 hours, they are most likely bullshiting around at this point.”  Kenpachi spoke.
Reluctant, he took a seat and some of them ordered a drink. “Atta boy Kira. We will find them eventually and they won't get into that much trouble.” Kenpachi and Izuru looked at the scruffy  taichou. “Are we talking about the same girls?” Izuru spoke
“The same THREE women that don’t  know their personal alcohol limit.? One of them with the precise aim of throwing her shoe at someone and nailing them for a knockout.” Kenpachi said. “The other one who has no filter when she is speaking and challenges anyone.” Izuru spoke 
“Have you not forgotten who YOU married?” Kenpachi.
Shunsui stood silent taking a drink before he responded “The woman who hated my guts from the moment she set foot in squad 8 was ironically the same woman I put a ring on.” “Sure you make it all nice sounding right now but not in the beginning.”  Izuru sighed.
“Well as I see it people are put in our paths some stay and some go I think about as a cherry blossom tree. Sure many people can come into your life just like a cherry blossom tree has many flowers produced and when it's time for them to call off so do connections… There are other people who are branches that will be your support and will last a long time. They are a part of you and the strong hold they strong your guys' connections are. Fragile in the beginning then over time becomes stronger. I’ve been with many cherry blossoms and they always come and go but with her she stood and she was my branch.” Kira gave a slight pout look at the touching sentiment.  Kenpachi did understand what he was trying to say but he didn’t want to be that mushy. The simple fact  is his own wife was a pain but he loved every minute of it how she could handle herself and wasn’t afraid of him she challenged the man every moment she got.  Kira on the other hand he was a bit insecure about dating a Captain at first but he came to realize over time passing it didn’t matter the status of who was what as long as he knew they were both happy it was good enough for him. 
The sudden shriek coming from outside the three men heard the distinct voice seeing the three women passing by laughing hard there slumping walk. “Well now fellas told ya we would find them.” Shunsui smiled, chugging the rest of his drink.
“Ahhh shit we need to catch them before something happens.” Kenpachi made the chair screech as he got up. He was the first one out. “Oi Reye!” All three of them pause. They were all thinking the same thing, ‘shit they found us.’ “What do we do?!?!” Valerie said in a loud whisper to them.
“Just act normal… if all plans fail we run in different directions.” Reye. “Fuck it I’m down.” Yasue responded. 
“You all are not good whisperers. Run Reye I dare ya.” Kenpachi smirked “In our defense we did try to look for y'all.” Yasue responded, “We just ended up getting a drink.” “And another.” Valerie responded
“And another,” Reye added, “and now we are here.” “Hi zaddy.” Valerie spoke in a cute tone looking over a Shunsui.
“Mi Querida aww”  Shunsui chuckled, walking towards her his hands running through her hair, “ you are going to have the biggest hangover tomorrow.”
Kenpachi and Izuru till Kenpachi spoke “da fuck she call you?” 
“Supreme of all daddies. Zaddy” Valerie smiled, wrapping her arms around his waist her cheeks were pink hinting she was turnt
Kenpachi was trying to process the drunken wife of Shunsui “ it doesn’t make sense. Woman, don't you think about calling me that” 
Reye rolled her eyes. “Okay Zaddy.” Kenpachi gave her the side eyes ‘she is testing me....’ he said to himself.
“That looks like hole number 7 in the works.” Yasue laughed. “Hey Izuru you wouldn’t mind me calling you zaddy right?” Izuru blushing hard “Blue bell lets not do this in public”
“Why not zaddy?” Yasue chuckled.
“Now look at what you started.” Shunsui chuckled, pressing a kiss on her forehead.
“Should we get going then? It's kinda late?” Kira looked at his watch. “NO!” the three women exclaimed.
“The night is still young and if you wanna get lucky tonight we will stay out longer.” Yasue chuckled. 
“We might leave soon, you know how she can get like this.” Shunsui looked down at his wife holding onto her hands as she tried to free them and unbutton his shirt “Honey not yet.” “Yeah I think me and Reye are gonna have a little chat right now back at home on what we would do if we split up and not go drinking.”
“Joy kills.” Reye crossed her arms. Kenpachi easily picked her up, throwing her over his shoulder “ Put me down!”
“Make me.” Kepachi walked away with her.
“Fine fine let's go then.” Yasue linking her arm around Izuru dragging him off in the same direction.
“I can honestly say we made it just in time before we caught them riding any statues.” Shunsui chuckled.  
“Or them laughing so hard they were falling around.” Izuru responded 
“Or join in a bar fight. Well I joined in that too,” Kenpachi chuckled. 
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copiasghoulfriend · 1 year
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Per Aspera Ad Inferi
Here is a story that I am currently working on! It's really bad but I've been dying with these ideas ... and I'm going to produce a masterpiece. I will upload this first chapter to AO3 in the morning.. so Tumblr.. you get to see it first. PLEASE don't bully me -- it's bad. The Italian is based from the translator so I can't promise if anything is correct! PLEASE ENJOY! ❤️
TW: Mentions of Cheating, Bullying -- just please be cautious!
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Chapter One:
Copia and Terzo’s favorite thing to do besides performing was watching how beautifully the Sisters sang during their class time. They both had their favorite sisters and it was blatantly obvious. They would constantly talk in Italian so no one else knew what they were talking about. The best thing about this freshman class of Sisters - they were all diverse and no one looked the same. One sister in particular was Ellie - she was shorter than the rest of the girls. She had multi-colored hair that was short and shaggy. Her appearance was quite beautiful with her larger features that both attracted the two men.
“Cardinale, che ne dici di quella sorella Ellie (Cardinal, how about that sister Ellie). Eh?” Terzo whispered into Copia’s ear with a smug look on his face.
“È davvero stupenda. La sua voce suona come un angelo. Una delle mie sorelle preferite. (She's very gorgeous. Her voice sounds like an angel. One of my favorite Sisters.)” Copia replied with a grin on his face.
“Un adorabile Ghoul mi ha detto che quando è arrivata per la prima volta ha avuto un'avventura con il nostro caro fratello. (One lovely Ghoul told me that when she first arrived that she had a fling with our dear brother).” Terzo replied leaning back in his chair.
“Terzo, non voglio sentir parlare della tua vita sessuale. Per favore, tienilo per te. (Terzo, I don't want to hear about your sex life. Please keep it to yourself.)” Copia replied, rolling his eyes.
“Cardinale, il nostro caro fratello ha avuto una storia con la sorella. Quando lei è arrivata era in un brutto momento e hanno subito legato. Lei ha tirato fuori il meglio di lui: era finalmente avvicinabile. Detto tra noi, la prego, cardinale, non lo ripeta. Secondo l'ha tradita durante il loro ultimo ciclo di tournée.Lo scoprì da un'altra sorella e non lo perdonò mai. Sono passati alcuni mesi e lui spera ancora che lei gli conceda un po' di tempo. Si assicura costantemente che lei stia bene e che si sia sistemata. Grazie ai nostri adorabili ghoul. Sembra adorabile, forse le piacerebbe uno di noi? Eh? Forse non è il tuo tipo, ma è sicuramente il mio. (Cardinal, our dear brother had a fling with the sister. When she arrived she was in a bad place and they instantly connected. She brought out the best in him - he was finally approachable. Between us, please cardinal, don't repeat this. Secondo cheated on her during their last tour cycle. She found out from another sister and she never forgave him. It's been a few months and he still hopes that she'll give him the time of day. He constantly makes sure that she's okay and settled. Thanks to our lovely ghouls. She seems lovely, maybe she would go for one of us? Eh? She may not be your type but she's definitely mine.)” Terzo whispered, eyeing Ellie hard.
Ellie made direct eye contact with Copia and a blush filled her cheeks before she looked away. Mary, who was very popular, was constantly bullying her and today was the last straw that Terzo or Copia could handle. They both heard Mary abuse Ellie and degraded her. She grabbed her backpack that was behind the stage and ran out of the room. Copia looked at Terzo sadly and sighed.
“Mary, what the fuck are you doing? Do you want to be…eh.. Kicked out of the program? You’re so damn close. Stop being rude to Sister Ellie.” Terzo spoke loudly as he stood up from his chair.
Terzo was usually never upset about Sisters beating each other up. It was strange he seemed really interested in her life story as well. Copia was confused about his change of actions. But, Copia decided that he would worry about that later and go check out Ellie.
Copia looked high and low for her but eventually found her out in the courtyard under a tree. She looked extra beautiful in the sunlight with the wind gently toying with her hair. He watched her for a bit before slowly approaching. When finally in her space, he cleared his throat to catch her attention.
“H-hello.. E-Ellie I came to.. Eh…. make sure you’re okay? Do you mind if I sit?” He said softly implying to sit next to her.
“Of course, Cardinal. I’m okay, not doing great but thank you for checking on me. It means alot. But, confused on why I was the subject between you and Terzo?” She replied sitting up straight.
“You… u-understood our conversation? Oh goodness, I’m sorry! I didn’t know you …” He stuttered quickly.
“Secondo was teaching me until that happened. So, yes I understood every single word.” She replied with a sad tone.
Her attention was drifting towards the Emeritus balcony. Secondo was up there with a Sister. Copia could see her expression change drastically. She frantically gathered her things and shot herself up. 
“My apologies, Cardinal. Excuse me.” She said turning around quickly and disappearing back into the abbey.
He watched Secondo with the Sister for several minutes and studied their body language. The face of the sister was what shocked him the most. Whatever he felt at this point had to be buried because fighting Secondo was not an option, at least for Copia. The pair were kissing each other and that’s when Copia decided he had enough. He took a single deep breath and got himself off the ground. His mind raced as he walked helplessly down the halls in the abbey. Copia accidentally ended up at the doorstep of Secondo. His leathered fist was about to knock on the door when it suddenly opened. A small sister came rushing out with tears down her cheeks and bite marks on her neck.
“Excuse me, Mary.” Copia said, moving out of the way and catching Secondo’s gaze.
“Entra, cardinale. Ho la sensazione che parleremo di una certa Sorella. (Come on in, Cardinal. I have a feeling we're going to talk about a certain Sister.).” He harshly said, turning around to gaze out the giant window facing the courtyard.
“Non voglio invadere la tua privacy... ma perché l'hai tradita? Perché dovresti fare qualcosa di così... peccaminoso? (I don't want to invade your privacy.. but why did you cheat on her? Why would you do something so... sinful?)” Copia replied, closing the door with some force.
“Cardinale, non mi aspetto che tu capisca. Alla fine sarebbe successo. Ma non volevo che accadesse così in fretta. Che tu ci creda o no, l'amavo. Sì, eravamo fottuti amici. Ma .. questo vecchio ha coltivato sentimenti. Non si adatta bene qui come speravo. Che Suor Mary otterrà ciò che le spetta. Ellie, oh mia cara Ellie... spero che si innamori di te o di Terzo. (Cardinal, I don't expect you to understand. It was going to happen eventually. But, I didn't mean for it to happen so quickly. Believe it or not, I loved her. Yes, we were fuck buddies. But.. this old man grew feelings. She doesn't fit as well here as I hoped. That Sister Mary will get what's coming for her soon. Ellie, oh my dear Ellie... I hope she falls in love with yourself or Terzo.)” He spoke with a monotone still facing the window. “Adesso, per favore, vattene dai miei alloggi. Dì al mio stupido fratello di comportarsi bene con lei. (Now, please get the fuck out of my quarters. Tell my dumb brother to behave with her).
Copia did as he was told and closed the door slowly behind him. He took multiple deep breaths and let everything he found out sink in. The dinner bell had started ringing and he made his way to the dining hall slowly. The hall was already full with sisters and brothers with the emeritus family at the head of the room. He nodded to the sisters as he approached the long table with Primo and Terzo filling their glasses with wine. Copia had a spot next to Terzo on the end and watched all the sisters mingle with each other.
“Where’s…Ellie? Have you seen her?” Terzo asked while slowly scanning the room.
“I haven’t seen her since she ran off earlier. Secondo was being…eh…chatty with Mary on that balcony of his.” Copia replied, fixing the napkin on his lap.
The hall doors opened slowly and Ellie walked in awkwardly looking around with swollen eyes. She headed for the food trays but my eyes shot across the room to where Mary stood up with her gang of Bullies. Copia swallowed hard because he knew something was about to happen. Mary and Ellie slowly approached each other and I slowly looked at Terzo. They couldn’t hear what was being said but the loud bang of the food tray caught both of their attention. Terzo stood up immediately and saw Ellie on the ground as she wore her dinner. Mary and her friends walked away laughing and caused an uproar in the hall. The laughs echoed off the tall walls and flooring. Copia and Terzo both caught Ellie’s eyes as she slowly wiped tears and food from her face.
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fouryearsofshades · 2 years
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Hanfu movement is about MODERN ethnic clothing. What is the authentic “han” clothing? Who is going to decide for everyone? There are millions of Chinese around the world. Who could say something and everyone would follow? You? Me? The China government? Come on the moment China government said something it will be on the news that a totalitarian regime is mandating how people should dress.
Korean, Japan, Vietnam and England did not have such a tragic discontinuation of wearing their style when they all have their “modernization” period of pain. Also, have you considered the amount of Chinese involved in the situation? Also the geographical differences, the culture background and the resulted fashion preference of those people? Having only one (1) style of clothing actually is not the norm. Like the Dai people could have very different clothing depending on their villages. And the related Thai women in Thailand have at least... 7 different blouses? And those are modern invention too. Less than 100 years.
I live in a country where wearing traditional clothing, at least for women (pretty sure this is a relic from the colonialism period - men wore the European clothes while the women wore the ethnic clothes to show “fusion”, “respect” etc.), is very normal, even for work. For example, Indians. What is the traditional clothing of an Indian woman? A sari, you may say. But in my experience, most people don’t wear sari to work. I asked my teacher why. She said she did not like showing the waist. I only had one colleague who regularly wears Sari to work. But she is also a priest. Also I am quite sure that she only wears Sari when she is going to the temple on that day. What does the other wear usually?  Usually they wear a tunic plus a trousers. There are many many many different types of tunic and I did not follow them. Each type of tunic are most likely came from different region (so the bottom to match is actually slightly different, but again, I did not follow). I remember back in high school, once they showed about 20 different types of Indian clothing, each from different regions, or different kingdoms historically. And that was put together by one (1) schoolmate. I am sure there is much more variants in Indian traditional clothing.
In addition, clothing from each dynasty reflected their characteristics. And modern Chinese needs something that reflect them. So why stick to a dynasty when you have so many to chose from? Looking back at different periods of time was also what people did back in the days (Ming dynasty), but they did not have the technology nor the archeological discoveries that we can access nowadays. Also people from different regions have different needs. Certain styles would be more prominent in certain regions.  And those not suitable for people will fall into disuse.  Like, quju was rather popular a decade ago, but only a handful of people are into it now, because the construction of the clothing does not match modern needs.
So forming a modern Han clothing is still an ongoing process. It has only been, like, 20 years? It takes time to come to a conscious. Many people just started to wear hanfu recently. It takes time to build up their taste and wardrobe. Historically, it took a few decades for Ming dynasty to settle into their own style. Chill. People will come to a conclusion. Give them time. Give yourself time.
If one don’t want to sit it up one could always wear the cheongsam. Even then there are so many different cuts to choose from. XP   There is also non-cheongsam Chinese traditional clothing but people probably don’t recognize them and only really old grannies wear them nowadays. And most of them switched to buttons, at least in my region.
On the other hand, please consider cultivating your own social experience. And only hang out with friends or circles that decided on the style you also liked. I know there are people who are firmly focus on late late Ming style. There are also a lot of events and gatherings that are style-limited. YOU CAN MAKE YOUR OWN CALL. Don’t let the others decide for you. If you wear hanfu, you are one of the movement. Development your own circle if you like certain style. Consider becoming an influencer if you want people to follow your way. (Also, some people are only in for the money and know no shit about hanfu. So beware.)
Lastly, the online filter bubble is actually very strong if one picks the right people to follow. Like, a couple months ago I asked my friend what did she think about the fashion trend this year because I couldn’t see one. She said, definitely heziqun, especially for the newbies. For me, I have seen nearly zero news and updates on heziqun since Qinghuige time because I only followed a selection of people and bots on weibo. Since anyone wearing hanfu as daily wear for a few years knew heziqun is a recent invention (less than 3 years) as the whole structure is ridiculous and tedious to wear, so heziqun isn’t something those people would consider. Therefore I don’t see them on my dash. There were a couple of beidaiqun. Meh. Tang style is a wild place. Don’t go into Tang style if you want 100% historical accurate style. Or don’t even go into general hanfu fashion but only follow that handful of research and reconstruction blogs.
TLDR: There is no one that has the authenticity in Hanfu Movement to decide what specific style people should stick to. Make your own decision and hang out with people of like mind if you don’t want to see a variation of styles appearing in one place.
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what-da-doe-doin · 9 months
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ALRIGHT CREW! This is a semi-important little rant about some new things I am going to be doing. Honestly a bit scared with this but I’ll be brave!!!
Although I don’t go into any explicit detail, below the cut I talk about my feelings on NSFW and my desire and plans to be more open towards it as a whole. Adults only/18+ conversation here!!!
So over the past few days I have been working out how to tackle this… this may come as a shock to some but I have decided I feel confident enough to start posting 18+ art. In the same vein, I’ve also slowly started to get a bit more comfortable sharing art/talking about things that aren’t a kink for me personally but could be misconstrued as such (Particularly; Giant/Tiny, Transformation and Pregnancy fluff art).
I had already made a blog where I originally planned to use it to post the latter group of art but honestly… do I really need to? None of those things are kinks/sexual for me, and I feel like pushing them to a side account only stigmatizes them further. 😅 So yeah. I think I will just post that type of art if I make it here, HOWEVER reblogs of that type of content (unless OP specifically states it’s not kink/no NSFW interaction) will be reblogged to the 18+ blog.
And then there is the 18+… ACTUALLY explicit art. HOO boy has that been a fucking battle trying to figure out lol! My first biggest hurdle personally was finding a website that even was suitable to my needs.
• Twitter is a hostile place, is dying, and also my stalkers and harassers are mostly on there.
• Newgrounds… <sigh>. Ok. Newgrounds is not a bad site by any means but… I may be wrong with this but it really just does not feel like a place that would enjoy the art I make? It feels very… hetero!!! Lol. My NSFW art is just not drawn with the straight men demographic in mind and I just don’t think I would fit in there well NSFW wise (but if you’re nice and still enjoy my art anyway you’re still welcome to stay and are appreciated 🖤). I may consider it as a SFW art option one day but that isn’t needed for me atm.
• Deviantart is, ironically, probably the place I would fit in best but Eclipse is still ass and also they only allow NSFW if you make people pay for it which is cringe as fuck I’m not doing that.
• Furaffinity… Kink wise would prob enjoy what I draw but I don’t really draw furry NSFW. Also it’s hard as shit to get noticed there lol.
So that put me down to one place I am going to try out. Itaku. It is a somewhat new site that just starting getting buzz and I won’t lie the front page did not give me the best impression BUT I can’t imagine there is better options for me. 😭 My plan rn is to use that, in conjunction with a new 18+ Tumblr (Posted with censors/cropped here) to share my NSFW art. I won’t lie not really super comfortable with the fact there is no way to restrict my art to logged-in users only (I know it won’t stop tenacious people but eh… gives me more peace of mind). I will try waiting a bit to see if maybe they implement something like that but yeah.
So not we get down into… why? Some who have stuck around me for a long time may remember and many do still see me as someone who used to hate NSFW. I think something that is highly misunderstood about me is that I never did hate NSFW in itself, but rather the types of NSFW I was exposed to and the bad behaviors of the NSFW community. Both of which I still stand by. I was in the Pokémon fandom when I was mostly like this (and also a minor at the time btw. I think it’s important to stress a lot of this hatred and anger came from the fact I was a minor and was being perved on despite not drawing anything remotely sexual)… I don’t think I need to elaborate much on what it was I was so disgusted by! Lol!
But now I am no longer in a fandom with mostly non-harkness passing animals and underage kids for characters and realize... Huh! NSFW actually isn’t that bad when you’re around a community that actually has standards lol! The Objectum community in particularly has really opened me up and made me realize that sexuality can be so fun and beautiful to explore in a healthy, consensual and boundary-respecting community! I really enjoyed participating in adult spaces like this and I would like to be able to share this side of myself without shame anymore. I want to meet more likeminded people and hell, maybe my art can even open up some minds! … Or just make people go WTF and laugh which tbh is also appreciated as long as you aren’t mean about it :)
I know this may be a bit… disappointing and scary for some but rest assured my moral standards have not changed. My Pokemon OCs and basically any OC that you wouldn’t really expect to be sexual is going to stay SFW. I still care very deeply about being sexually responsible and safe and will do my best to keep things tagged and out the view of minors. I won’t fall into anything morally dubious. Just… RELAX ok. I’ll still be mostly drawing SFW art. You wont miss out on anything if you don’t want to see NSFW. I wont even bring up NSFW here again after one more post when I share the tumblr blog when I got it step up.
Phew ok. Finally got that all out my system. And uhm. If you read this far thank you!!! I’m maybe overthinking and stressing on this way too much but this is such new territory for me and I have repressed myself for far, far too long lol. 😅 Last thing I want to say is that if you’re over 18 and a mutual or friend… please don’t feel afraid to reach out to me on NSFW topics! I would really love to chat more about 18+ OC lore and about sexuality in general. You’d be surprised that it’s honestly a special interest of mines! Just as long as you don’t like try to make moves on me personally or ask me to ERP lol. I’m a taken woman!!!! >.>
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munsonsduchess · 1 year
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The Prince
summary: eddie is awake but there has been no sign of prince steve since, concern increases for the prince's safety w/c: 1,70 warnings: mentions of eddie's injuries, mentions of blood, swearing, mentions of someone being held against their will (non sexual) a/n: welcome to chapter three of shadow of the moon, now also on ao3 we're getting into the nitty gritty a little bit now since i had a bit of a breakthrough where this story was concerned earlier in the week and i'm excited to get into it with you all
if you like this please reblog so others can find it and enjoy as well, sharing is caring folks!
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A few days after Eddie had woken you'd been inundated with visitors. It seemed the Prince had been trying to hold back the horde of young adults who wanted to see their friend now he was no longer in a healing slumber. 
Nancy and Robin had come along to 'supervise' but you suspected that they were really just there to stop Dustin and Mike from causing any more harm to Eddie, 
"What happened?" 
"Did you see the guy?"
"Does Steve know who it was?"
"Is he going to kick their ass?" 
Eddie didn't seem daunted at all by the barrage of questions thrown his way and answered them with ease. No he didn't see who it was, he doesn't know what Steve knows, let's be honest Steve is more likely to get his ass kicked than anyone else. 
The last statement brought laughter flowing freely from the children and even from Nancy and Robin, apparently the Prince had a reputation for losing fights. 
You hadn't seen the Prince since Eddie had woken and you suspected he was finding it hard to leave the grounds of the castle after the stunt at the river, no doubt the young men had been more than eager to tell anyone who'd listen about their chivalrous Prince since word had even reached you by now about how the Prince had 'saved' a young woman by the river but thankfully your name had been omitted, you didn't think the people of Hawkins would be so eager to praise the Prince for his actions if they knew you were involved.
Nancy seemed to catch you deep in thought and had come to sit beside you at your work table, 
"Steve told us what happened, I didn't think Jason Carver would have been the type" 
"I don't think he had the same idea as his friends" you  answered honestly, "he seemed to have a different agenda" 
Nancy hummed in thought. Perhaps she knew something and the incident at the river was only adding fuel to a fire she'd already suspected was burning,
"He's a great follower of the Royal Advisor, Henry, practically idolises him" Nancy spoke carefully, sounding her thoughts out, "Steve has never trusted Henry. There's something about him that just doesn't sit right"
"I've never known a Prince to trust someone with their father's ear" you said, "they're too concerned with what that person might be saying about them and how it would affect their right to the throne" 
"Steve isn't like that. He doesn't care about being King"
It was true you hadn't got that impression from the Prince from the interactions you'd had with him but he was still just that. A prince. You'd really rather not get embroiled in the dramas of Royalty. 
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It turned out that Eddie was a terrible patient when he was awake, as you found out when you attempted to change his bandages,
"Ow! That hurts!" 
"If you'd stop flinching it wouldn't hurt!" you snapped back, you'd been trying to change his bandages for the last ten minutes and it was increasingly difficult and your temper was getting the best of you,
"I'm flinching because I was mauled and your bedside manner is terrible! What kind of healer are you anyway?" 
"I think you'll find I am not a healer, Master Edward. I peddle charms and potions but  your friends were desperate when they brought you to my doorstep so I offered my help" 
"Sure as a favour for the Prince" Eddie scoffed, "should have just brought me home"
"Oh yes I'm sure that would have worked out so well" you retorted, "you would have bled out if I had not been here to help"
"Ow!" Eddie was unable to think of a witty comeback when you'd touched the washcloth to one of the larger wounds on his side and he flinched away again,
"If you do not sit still and let me clean your wounds and rebandage them they will become infected and then you will be worse off than you are now, and I don't much feel like explaining to your friends how I let you get that way because you were a fussy child who refused to sit still!" 
Eddie merely pouted and did his best not  to wince the next time you pressed the washcloth to his wounds. Finally you were able to clean and redress Eddie's wounds and he lay back on your bed having been unable to get up and move around quite yet. 
You were still sleeping on your mound of blankets by the hearth and while it wasn't the most comfortable place you were sure the Prince would arrange for his friend to be moved to better lodgings now that he was awake, it was only a matter of time you supposed until you were left to your solitude again. 
The only thing was that neither you nor anyone else apparently had seen or heard from  the prince in more than a week, which was troubling Robin most of all,
"We're best friends, he's never not found some way to contact me" she'd  come by in a frantic state to see if there was anything you could do to try and reach the Prince, "I don't want to think about what might have happened to him" 
"I can try and divine something" you'd told her, "but there is no way to know for certain what is happening" 
You'd brought your cards to the table and had Robin hold them for a while to absorb her energies and her concern for her friend before handing them back. Placing the cards  out in front of you immediately began to show an unfavourable scenario, 
"What? What do they say?" 
"It would seem your prince is being held somewhere, i'm unsure where, he is being held under the instructions of a powerful man, guarded so he cannot leave, this powerful man is angry with the prince for something, he will not harm the prince but he is incredibly angry" 
Robin slammed her hands on the table and stood up in a flash, 
"You heard all that right?" she addressed Eddie as she spoke who you hadn't even realised was awake, "you know what that means"
"Yeah, his old man" Eddie agreed, "probably found out about Steve helping me, you know what happened last time" 
"I'm going to get Nancy" Robin announced as she stormed out of your cottage angrier than you'd ever seen her,
"Well, that's certainly the most emotional reaction to a reading I've had in a while" you sighed picking your cards back up, "I don't know why you're all so eager to involve yourself in the daily lives and drama of your Royals but I commend you for your loyalty" 
"It's not like that" Eddie bit out, "Steve's a good guy" 
"So I'm told. I'm certain it's a welcome change to have a kind ruler waiting in the wings"
"You don't get it" Eddie said, shaking his head, "Steve is different, why do you think he brought me here?" 
"Because I was the closest and I doubt any doctor could have helped you as I did" 
"Because the doctor in the castle would have just let me die!" he all but yelled, "people in town don't give a fuck about me and they'd be happy if I was gone, but not Steve. He dragged my ass here because he trusted you, he knew you'd help. Because he's a good person" 
You were stunned for a moment. You'd simply assumed the Prince endeared people to him by not being as iron fisted as his father clearly was. However the loyalty you'd seen from those who called him friend was different than anything you'd ever seen before where Royalty was concerned. 
Still, you couldn't afford to become attached to anyone in this town no matter how endearing they seemed. Your life was a solitary one, you were simply biding your time until the fine people of Hawkins decided they'd had enough of a witch living in their town. 
It was always the same. No matter where you went. You couldn't count on doing one favour to change the very nature of people. 
Including Princes. 
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reneestjohn · 1 month
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“Rich Girl” Aesthetics
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I am asked to write regarding how to become “rich” very frequently in my dms. I would like to be frank and honest , so I have recently blocked over 1k bloggers in this community in order to do so 💡
My goal is NOT to offend but educate .
Firstly ; all of the items posted above are very expensive.
You can NOT “manifest” , “believe in yourself” , etc etc enough in order to acquire them.
You must ALREADY have money .
Which is why I am always very sad when I observe young poor women comparing their lives to a girl of privilege born into this lifestyle ,
Aka “celebrity” families like the Kardashians , Hailey Bieber (fucking a famous person makes you famous I guess ) Belle Hadid, Lionel Richie’s daughters, etc (why are these people still relevant? ),
And “celebrities” …actors , singers , athletes , instagram influencers, etc
I would rather spend time wiping my ass ,
It would be more productive
than following them .
Tbh ; I do NOT have instagram . I will not be “influenced” by no damn body , esp idiots
The fact of the matter is you must already have money in order to make more money dear friends
That is how it goes
If you do not have money , than you must figure out fast how to acquire it
Education /Family Wealth
Going to college is the logical choice imo , but even still , you must attend an ivy league school, and earn a degree in an exclusive field of study - medicine , engineering, etc
To acquire what is in that pic
In all transparency my family is not poor and greatly assisted me in my educational journey. Still does .
My current program is too expensive, and in no way on my own , would I be able to work AND pay for the additional training I need for my specific area or f study
It would be to expensive .
Many of those guys that work in the big buildings in my city , also come from such families. They are then able to help their sons /daughters secure intern jobs in those powerful companies .
Even with family assistance, we are under EXTREME pressure to preform and achieve .
I know many people that make the money , but honestly do not have the TIME to enjoy the fruits of their labor
My point is , it is non sensical to me to see bloggers that claim they want to “secure a bag “ and be “rich” , yet their lazy asses are bullshitting on Tumblr all day , or dreaming about success
Success is an action word .
Remember that
Hustling
The only other way I know to make quick big money is by selling sex , drugs , or other illegal transactions
I will not even write on this .
Those are loser pathways , that will take your freedom away , which is more valuable than money
Marrying Rich
As mentioned ; money attracts money .
Idc ; how many facials or books you read , that is NOT enough to attract an extremely successful man to MARRY you
Most wealthy couples I know , already are in the same economic and social circle . The women are “beautiful” (surgically enhanced 🤭) , and well educated
Marrying you would be a step down 💡
The best you would be is a side chick .
Oh dear friends , those nasty ass wealthy men have those girls doing all kinds of perverse sexual things .
My friend said her wealthy boyfriend is in a club with other men of his status ; and they record the girlfriends, gays , and trans all fucking together for their pleasure
You would be a toy , nothing more or less
I have treated so many people with STDs acquired from this type of behavior. Just do not .
Also that girl who claims she is married to a millionaire is a foreigner.
Those gross rich foreign men either are involved with arranged marriages or have side wives , who are very young (15 years old is what I read on her blog )
So in order to marry rich you must be a involved with a pedo or perv ?
Which most of the super wealthy are .
Pass on it
Logical Thinking
My best advice is to think about where you are rn and improve on it.
If you work for example in a grocery store , and make $10 an hour , look for a store that pays more .My friend found one that pays $18 an hour
Always remember the goal is not to find a job you “love”, but one that pays the most money
Your inner circle should be composed of achievers as well.
Remember you can have a good comfortable life if you make smart life choices and marrying smart as well , if that is a wish of yours
Most importantly, stop elevating lifestyles and people ; and live in the moment of what you have .
Happiness comes with peace , working moderately hard to buy little joys that make you happy , good health , and having loving supportive people that have your back in your inner circle
This is the kind of wealth I wish for you , and hope you focus on
Work smarter , and thrive
Best Wishes ❤️🌸🫶🏽💫
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princessbunnib · 1 year
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Regarding Changes On The 'PrincessBunniB' Account!
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Summary: Adressing necessary information for non female/non straight supporters. And important changes for the future.
Author's Note: Negativity towards the issue at hand will be ignored and or deleted. This is just to clarify were I stand on certain topics when it comes to writing for everyone!
**Editor Bunni: This is more so targeted to gay men because of recent events.**
An Ask From A Queer Male Supporter: Here.
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|TikTok is so my supporters can get to know me. I'm active on there when it comes to interacting with you all, I like comments and reply constantly. Announcements about weather I will be taking a break or be active can also be found there.|
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|I made a Wattpad so people who don't have Tumblr can still read my work and support me. I'm familiar with the app, my writing journey started on Wattpad way back. I just moved on to Tumblr because I felt like my writing was outgrowing the app. Although in the future when I want to write books and show off my natural talent that isn't just smut, they will only be available on Wattpad.|
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It took me a while to get this in order because I want to be artic ulate truthful and accurate with my words. So I've broken down this announcement into four main talking points.
Although this post is regarding to my Bunni's (supporters) outside of me this is an issue in the fanfiction/writing community. So if this opens a door for conversation it is totally fine. Although there will be no room for yelling and arguing. Let's be mature about this.
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Reason For This Announcement
So far my content has revoled around female readers and I heavily intend to change that. Since I am gaining attention and have a following I decided to make this announcement so everyone knows that my work isn't just for female readers moving forward.
My writing is meant for everyone to enjoy. For instance, I've been getting comments on my TikTok from gay male readers wanting me to make fanfiction for them just like I do for straight women. I have no problem with doing that at all. If anything it was in my notes to add more different types of fiction for others to enjoy.
I care about representation for others even if I am a cis women. I have to read the room and know that just because of my gender, I am privileged when it comes to this type of content. Smut fics are made for us by default because that's 'the norm.'
Even though I'm a cic women, I'm also a poc. So I can understand that feeling you get when you read a fanfiction and can already tell that the 'Y/n' in the book is obviously not supposed to cater to your demographic. When reading any 'X Reader' content, it never feels like Y/n is someone you can attach yourself to and feel confident that it's actually you when there's small descriptions of them that make it clear as day that they look a certain way.
So when I see gay men or any other lgbtq+ member ask me to make 'X Reader' content for them, I completely understand and am automatically on board with it. I know what it feels to be left out. And let's face it, not everyone in this world is a straight white women/man. I am not demonizing caucasians when I say this either. It is simple facts that a lot of media caters to one type of person thus pushing the rest of us to the side.
My Pure Intentions With Male X Male Content
As stated before, I am a cis women. I only know so much about certain lgbtq+ prospectives. Because I am not a gay man that would make me 'unequipped' to write smut or the relationship of two men because I factually have no idea what that feels like.
I will do this because making everyone feel included is a big part of this whole announcement. I am taking the time to clarify that I am NOT those female writers who only write about straight fiction and act as if other groups outside of myself doesn't exist. The community space of fanfiction is already made for women by default.
So gay men, you shouldn't have to mentally change your gender to enjoy a piece of literature. Everyone should have the space to read something and not have to change themselves.
It doesn't feel as sensual and comfortable like it should. It also causes disdane for the groups you see having all the attention twenty-four seven. That's when there are certain things (Like the genre BL for example) catered to a certain group, the other people who aren't apart of that group shouldn't barge in and take it just because they feel 'left out' or have an attraction to male characters who aren't even straight to begin with.
It blurs the lines when they see those' types of relationships in real life. Just because of the material they are used to taking in, people disregard that there are actual gay men out there who aren't there to be sexual objects for the straight/bisexual women who are into the BL genre. It is called Boys Love for a reason.
I'm not doing this to pander or get brownie points. My intentions are genuine and I want to respect gay men with this topic as much as possible. Some may feel uncomfortable with a cic women writing things for them and I understand that onehundred percent.
I will touch on the X Male Reader content with care. I do not want to seem like someone I'm not. I'd rather not step on the toes of gay men when something like that isn't in my lane in the first place.
Why So Straight?
Since the beginning of my writer journey I've always wrote romance and other genres of literature that circled around a cic straight couple. Since the begining I've wanted to do more things for other people and branch out of my usual material. I would find myself getting bored with writing simular stories and lose my spark for writing. I'd try to branch out into other things, but I'd be stuck realizing that I had no idea how to write a healthy depiction of it without making it seem like I'm an (at the time) straight women writing about material I have no idea about.
In the first early ages of my account I was writing smut just because I had ideas I wanted to gst out on 'paper.' But when I began to gain a following, I knew I had to take writing seriously again and go far with this. Now that I have supporters, I see that there are more people who want writing from me so they can feel seen.
Now that I have everyone's attention. I plan on going further with this and gaining an even bigger community. I want to do more genres that aren't just smut. Due to my experience. I am skilled in more than one genre and I would like to display that kind of content in the future.
LGBTQ+
I'm apart of the lgbtq+ community myself, it wouldn't be right of me to ignore my own people. I don't want to exclude anyone. My blog isn't for negativity, hatred or any type of discrimination. We all read and write fanfiction probably for the same things. There's no point in arguing or feeling sad because you aren't included when everyone can stop being so to themselves and make everyone feel welcome.
This is an issue that is ignored heavily in the community. Just because it doesn't bother you or effect you, there shouldn't be a response to ignore it.
Making fanfiction for one type of person isn't a good thing when you scream up and down that you are for equality. Everyone deserves a chance to read a fanfiction that involves their desired fictional character. If I do not have the actual personal knowledge on the matter, I will do research and make it my goal to give the best/positive representation.
If you are a supporter of me but the idea or act of me posting for other sexualities makes you uncomfortable, simply unfollow and block me. Do whatever you have to do.
Just don't go around spreading hate because I'm a writer who cares about everyone while being a women. You all mean so much to me, I don't care what you identify as. I'm not going to lose sleep because someone wants to be something that doesn't fit in society standards. Everyone is loved here.
Wrapping Things Up!
Thank you for taking the time to read this if you did. I appreciate you for doing so.
I'll have a have a more professional approach with my blog from now on.
That means making an upload schedule and many other things.
My Masterlist updates constantly and will be a main way to see what is coming soon.
I was also thinking of starting a taglist! So don't be afraid to contact me and let me know that you want to be in it!
Thank you for your time person who is reading this. With all love to you from PrincessBunniB.♡
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genderqueerdykes · 1 year
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Hi I asked something before but here I am again. I've been wondering for a while now what to do with my curves since they give me the most dysphoria. From the front my thighs are too curvy and from the side my back and *ahem* bottom basically shape me like an S and idk how to fix it.
Is it different clothing? Should I work out? Would compression fabric work best or is T the answer? I'm (non-binary) genderfluid and uncomfortable with the idea of facial hair, bottom growth and just looking too masc so idk :(. Ty for listening
ooo i feel you, i have a very obvious hourglass figure and it gets people thinking all the wrong things at times. in the earlier stages of my transition it was even harder because i was a bit fatter so my curves were more noticeable
i would say experiment with your wardrobe first- i used to have compression shorts from underworks that i was obsessed with that helped reign in my hips a lot! you can also try men's jeans with a different cut, or by wearing them at a slightly different place on your hips. sometimes the fabric helps a ton, nothing that clings, anything that hangs loose and obscures the figure is vital. you want to try to reduce visible outlines when and where possible.
anything that hangs loosely around the waist will help as well since having a very cinched in waist is very noticeable for some people. i usually would wear several loose layers to help combat this as well as experimenting with different types of loose jackets, shirts and vests
men's shorts can also distract from curviness, but i know it's winter in the northern hemisphere right now so this may not apply for the time being. i like bulky cargo pants because there's a lot going on so it distracts from your body lol
i hope that helped. like i said, i recommend checking out underworks and other places that offer compression shorts you can wear underneath your clothes. i think that'll help you. if you get to the point where these things don't help and you're still considering taking T, feel free to come back and we'll see what we can do for you. if anyone else has recommendations for this anon feel free to chime in! take care, stay safe.
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just-antithings · 1 year
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Do I prefer media with male main characters, to the point I will actively reject media with female protagonists, because I am affected my society's misogyny and am unable to connect to non-male characters?
Or do I prefer media with pretty twinks because I am trans, but can't express my full gender identity for fear of not getting work, and media is currently the only way to safely experience the male part of my gender?
Or is it just that pretty twinkish men make my brain purr and give me the butterflies and it's not that deep?
The point is that I don't think it matters. I can want and support more women in media without necessarily experiencing it myself, and the assumption that I must be misogynistic or "an evil fujoshi" for preferring male characters is way too black and white.
It's complicated and it's not. It's good to have more diversity in media and it is okay to still prefer specific character types.
So antis, please stop wasting your time trying to shame me for not liking your favorite girl character better. Your posts only make me less interested. In fact I now stan my pretty boys more.
Sincerely someone who will now write more pretty boy fics to feel gender envy about 💖
I feel, a lot of WLW media has been coming out lately, which super congrats to my girls out there you deserve it. But as far as gender goes the only thing I am 100% sure about is that I am not a girl. So I also have a real difficulty time throwing myself in to wlw spaces, and especially wlw fandom spaces. That being said most of the time I will think a character is a wlw but I kinda just go "she likes girls" and move on with it but I get invested in "het" or MLM ships because it easier to get into something when I can vibe with the characters. Different strokes for different folks. No one should be forced to like things that they don't. Stop shaming people who don't like what you like its wack. Live your funky little life anon do your thing without shame.
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frannyzooey · 5 months
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"Something doesn't have to look a certain way to be happy" non here! I’m so glad you understood what I meant. I’m kind of obsessed in part because I think I have a weird perspective. I’ve had just two relationships in my life, and both were great guys - just one turned out to not be for me. Hubs and I have been together over 15 years and met when I was a college freshmen. There was a slight age gap (just 6 years but felt larger at 18) and we have remained happy and committed. I think we’re the weird ones 😆
Would you ever consider writing a “happily ever after” type one shot? Totally understand if that’s the most cringe awful monstrosity you could ever imagine. I kinda see it either being sweet or that 😂 I sort of feel bad asking because it could come across as such the antithesis to the intent and so disingenuous, but I know it’s a beloved fic and an AU could be fun if nothing else. By no means am I implying your ending wasn’t perfect — it was — I’m just curious and have also had some wine.
You aren't weird at all! That's exactly what happened with my husband and I at the exact same ages, and we are still going very strong ❤
Don't ever feel bad asking! I have played around with a number of things for them - in my drafts, I have: their first reunion night in England, a 🍑 drabble, a drabble about their time apart and how Ezra seeks solace in men - and I could see someday down the line adding one that gives a little more closure than the ending did? I don't know if I could ever write a truly syrupy sweet ending for them since I can't reconcile that with their paths in life in my head, but if I DID, it would look like a version of this:
Birdie comes back to NYC, she needs a place to stay so Ezra invites her to live there, Cee has long since made her peace with it since she has a new found sense of independence in the city and Ezra is beyond happy to have a little Birdie in his house every day.
Him, working in his work room and her, writing in the front room, and them, cooking dinner together every night.
Him, running his errands and her, coming back from the library and them, curled up on the couch together before they go to bed.
Him, looking over at her every so often with a small smile because she's really here, and her, looking over at him every so often because she's really here, and them, looking at each other in the dark bedroom as their bodies entwine.
Them, going to movies and parking in the back of the parking lot just so they can take in the late show and then make out in the car afterwards.
Them, merging their friend groups and finding new things to do together and them, delighting in the openness of their relationship. The affection they can show in public and at home, freely.
"I'm just curious and have also had some wine" is how I have made half my friends on here, so PLEASE, never feel bad asking me anything!
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coffeedrgn87 · 6 months
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On Gender And All Things Non-Binary
Note: Indirect mention of gender dysphoria and the struggle of living in a binary world.
During my recent (and still ongoing) recovery from gender-affirming surgery, that’s given me so much joy, and the feeling of wholeness, I’ve lived in this perfect bubble of blissful ignorance. Sorely lacking energy, I spent most of the time at home, making only small trips into the outside world. These were carefully planned trips; a coffee from the coffee place next door, Kombucha from the corner store, a few rolls of toilet paper, a sweet. None of these required much human interaction. So, for the most part my bubble of non-binary bliss stayed intact.
I devoted my recovery time to a carefully curated queer-AF TikTok feed, queer literature, art, queer movies and series, and queer fanfiction. Some five weeks into my recovery, I met a friend here and there for coffee, for brunch, for a chat. But all these friends had something very important in common. They saw me, the real me. They used my pronouns, supported my choice to have gender-affirming surgery, and were genuinely excited about all the progress I made with having my gender marker and legal name changed (by the way, that’s all done! 🥳)
So, over the past month and a half I didn’t have my normal experience. I lived in this utopia-like world where nobody misgendered me, used the wrong pronouns, or had any negative impact on my non-binary experience. Sure, I kept up-to-date on developments within the LGBTQIA+ community, especially surrounding rights, trans rights, and more. And yes, some of my favourite TikTok creators reacted to transphobic/homophobic comments, but they did so calmly and with the intention to educate. But my world still consisted of respect, for my person, for my pronouns, for me. A few weeks have passed since a friend sent me a voice message to tell me about a dream, yet I remember it as vividly as though it happened five minutes ago. Why, you wonder? Because throughout the message my friend used my pronouns, and it gave me so much joy that I’m still riding high now, several weeks later.
However, my recovery is at the stage where I am able to return to work, and this means venturing out of the house for several hours at a time. It means frequent and longer interactions with other humans, more exposure to this blasted world that still insists gender is binary, and thus too many opportunities for all those little moments where I am (unfortunately) reminded that I could have my pronouns along with the sentence: ‘I’m not a woman’ tattooed on my head, and some folx would still get it wrong.
For instance, where I live pet names for strangers are common. This means I regularly get subjected to the following: pet, babes, darling, honey, hun, love etc. While these are all cute in their own right and have a time and a place, they aren’t for strangers. They are for people you are familiar with, people who want you to use these names. I don’t want a cashier to refer to me as ‘love’ or ‘darling’. Especially, because in this world that still stupidly sees gender as a binary thing when it’s nothing more but a social construct, these types of nicknames are usually given to those people this world presumes identify as female. If I go to my local corner store to get a breakfast roll, the person behind the deli counter chooses to direct those words at me. Why? Because my features are more feminine, which I, personally, I am fine with but having a more feminine appearance doesn’t mean I identify as female. The construction worker in the queue behind me, in muddied work clothes and with a masculine appearance doesn’t get any of those nicknames. They don’t even get called ‘handsome’.
And the above is not the only example, it’s just one of many. In my personal experience, it’s generally cis men who are exceptionally thoughtless when it comes to these absolutely stupid and outdated notions that a feminine-presenting individual should be given priority swiping their public transport card, or should enter a building or a room first. And the list goes on and on. Personally, I utterly dislike it when someone opens a door for me. Mind you, if I am carrying a bunch of things, I am all for it, but otherwise, no, thank you.
I know that these gestures don’t generally come from a malicious place. They are reactions that have become innate, that folx perform without thinking too much about what they are doing. Yet, that’s exactly the problem. This outdated and not at all inclusive social construct of gender being binary has let so many people to walk through the world with blinders on. While I’m almost always happy to answer questions and to educate people (often unprompted), living in a world where I have to fight to be seen (not just once but on multiple occasions throughout a single day) is emotionally and mentally draining. It zaps my energy, forcing me to withdraw for longer periods of time just to recharge my batteries. And I shouldn’t have to do that. I shouldn’t have to come home in the evening and require a solid hour of some mindless activity or other before I am able to function on some semi-normal level.
I am lucky. People who know me through my writing and friends I’ve made online and offline respect me and my pronouns. My video blurbs on TikTok don’t get bombarded with hate. I work in a company that tries very hard to respect me and works to better itself, to improve and change. I have some family that accept me for who I am and very dear friends who support me fiercely. I have a therapist I regularly yell at (not literally!), and while I desperately want a cat in my life, I have friends who share their purring fluffballs with me. I have so many things I feared I’d never have, and I am beyond grateful, but those daily reminders that too many people are so very blind when it comes to seeing that gender is most definitely not binary hurt. I still brave this world, day in and day out, but often, it’s with a heavy sigh and with a desperate wish that things were different.
I have most definitely reached the toughest part of my recovery.
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hasellia · 9 months
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Happy non-binary awareness week everyone! Last night I revealed to my mother that I don't fully identify with being a man, and before I go into how that went, I wanted to type up how I got here.
I knew I was different to most kids growing up. When I wanted to play, they would go away, and when they wanted to play, I would go away. I was diagnosed with autism at a very young age, so any differences I saw between me and them were always blamed on that. “Oh, I like long hair and they don’t, must be because I’m autistic” “Oh they like athletics and I like drawing, must be because I’m autistic”. Any such difference. I’d come to learn such stereotypes of even cis neurotypicals aren’t true though. Eventually I found happiness by isolating myself, and my parents knowing that the usual parenting techniques wont work on me decided to lean into that. I had a very isolating childhood. My only friends being one other kid forced into the relationship and those constructed either in my head or by parasocial tactics by C list internet celebrities. Eventually though, I realised that I couldn’t spend my life solely living on someone else’s labour and decided to integrate into the community.
Then the pandemic happened. Then restrictions lifted. As I slowly teetered into the community, I noticed an uncommon reaction I was getting. People started confusing me for a woman. Not even necessarily mean spiritedly but genuinely caught off-guard when people close to me correct them “Actually, he’s a man.”. This was odd to me, after these interactions I noticed something else. “I’m not a fan of men, but you’re different.” “You’re not like the other men.” And such things were said constantly by my family. Even my 80 year old wannabe-nun grandmother said “Young men a such troublemakers, but you’re not like most men Hasselia. You’re something else.” Going into the community I could somewhat see what they were saying. I didn’t have the same attitude or likes as most of the ‘regular’ men I saw. But at those times, I just thought they were neurotypical. But then I realised even the neurodivergent men I’ve met were different. They didn’t feel the same need to be quiet or thoughtful as I did and just generally went about things a bit differently… But one person with autism is just one person with autism, right? Nonetheless I decided to ask someone about what they mean when they say, “you’re not like the other men.” “I dunno, you’re just different. You just move and speak and carry yourself differently. When women are around you, they seem to feel safer with you then the other men. You’re like a boy sometimes but you’re not immature. And sometimes you’re just… You. There’s no other way to describe it.” That was essentially what I was able to get out of them. I’m still perplexed by the movement and speech thing, but I realised I still hadn’t quite got enough of a reference to understand what they were saying. Eventually I met more nice men, bad men and those in-between and I realised even more how I’m just not like them. So, I started some soft research and a lot of internal searching. At first, I thought, “maybe I am a woman after all”. However, I found that those incidents of being believed to be one to be more distressing then I had hoped, so I stopped trying to see myself as one. Then I started being more strictly non-binary and… Ok not really. At the time I thought I’d be carrying the attitudes and beliefs instilled in me by my surrounding culture even if I transitioned. But now I realise I can’t quite fully separated my self from my assigned identity. I was confused on who exactly I was. A gender non-conforming man? A non-binary? Something in between? Maybe I really was a woman and I’m just had some unseen hidden internalised self-hate? What changed though was I saw a post on Tumblr about Therians / Otherkins.
The post went along the lines of “How cool is it that some people look inside themselves and see a black hole or wolf or something?” The way it was phrased just made somethings click in my head. I needed to look inside myself. And when I did, I didn’t quite see a man. I saw something resembling one, made from glass, housing diatomic white sand that hid a secret beauty until closely inspected. In an odd way, that was what I needed to really understand myself. I could call myself a man, as what was needed by society, the situation or just how I felt at the time. But I know that isn’t just what I am, both as a person, in society as well as in myself. And I’m not JUST gender-nonconforming, there’s more to it than that, something I still can’t quite explain. Some people look inside themselves and just see something else or a man, or a woman irrespective of their biology or assigned gender. I’m still not sure what exactly to call my degree of gender, all of this is still rather new to me and I don’t really have someone to hold my hand. Part of me feels like an uncertain fraud, because of my social isolation I never really had to deal with any dysphoria or confrontations about my presentation until recently. Some people go their whole lives struggling to define themselves, but I at least had a convenient excuse with autism. Even my birth name, although it's though it's masculine I've never met anyone else with the same name so it feels like it was almost made just for me. As an AMAB my identity may not be the most flashy or hyper-radical but they’re mine. I’m fully happy to call myself a man, non-binary and a non-binary man. My name is Hasselia, my pronouns are he/they and I'm a non binary man.
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