Something I realized (which was obvious to me subconsciously) is that... The family that vehemently didn't accept me when I first came out but now do accept me are still the same family that I am most unwilling to be open about things I feel protective over.
I remember that my dad reacted so poorly, not to my coming out, but to my transition specifically that my therapist was the one to ask if I wanted to put it on my file that I wanted nothing to ever be shared with him about my health after I broke down multiple times due to my anxiety that I would never transition. While there are and were protections for me, I was incredibly fearful at the time because I was a minor, and I was so worried that he would have prevented my transition that I couldn't have said for certain what (if any) lengths he would have gone to to prevent that.
He's grown a lot as a person, and made some commendable strides. But he didn't find out from me when I medically transitioned the second I turned eighteen, and I think that's among the things that truly made him realize the scope of the issue.
I'm not here to guilt trip parents, guardians, or other members responsible for the care of the children or teens or young adults in their care.... but this is a cautionary tale. You aren't saving the people in your care when you do this, you simply reinforce an idea that you will never care for them, never want them as they are, would rather them be shoved away.
When you give people reasons to be secretive, they will behave secretively. When you give people reasons to doubt their safety around you, they will become sneaky, defensive, and withdrawn. When you give people reasons to doubt that you value their life, they will believe that you don't care if they live or not.
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I remember an old comment on one of my old posts when Draft was first introduced so I made a few changes to his attitude and look to go with it akjsdkajs
I think I like sassy Draft
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Danny around 16 human years is working with the JL as a representative for the current King of the Infinite Realms (he’s his own representative because he wanted to meet the JL), about some Realm objects being in this world that really shouldn’t.
The JL keep making culturally disrespectful comments and unintentional insults about the Realms citizens. Eventually one of them not believing Danny is a ghost asks how he died if he’s so adamant on being dead. This results in Danny snapping at the League. Completely terrifying all of them and starts yelling about how disrespectful all of them have been the entire time, leading to a crash course in Realm decorum.
Eventually he starts explaining how asking about someone obsessions or how they died are extremely offensive and considered aggressive actions towards all types of ghosts, even realm born and halfas.
Danny realizes too late they don’t know about halfas and starts panicking over giving away his human identity. And has to come up for an explanation on what halfas and realm borns are. Danny who is blushing out of embarrassment and stuttering to find an explanation looks around, sees the bat symbol on batman. Explanation for half ghosts and born ghosts, Bat=> bird=> BIRDS AND BEES!!
Danny then spends a good 30 minutes attempting to explain how reproduction works for ghosts and between species, except Danny doesn’t know how ghosts reproduce. And health was a freshman year class, meaning he missed most of it and and also has no idea how human reproduction let alone cross species reproduction works. Danny either gives them info that makes so little sense it must be right or what sounds like a 4 year olds idea of how babies are made, but he’s the representative so he must be telling them accurate information.
Eventually the league runs into Vlad Masters and hear him talk about halfas. The league is like “we know what those are!” and Vlad thinks his identity is compromised until they start talking about something that sound like a extremist conspiracy theory. Vlads just like “how did you come up with that?!?” The league say Phantom told them that and Vlad realizes that Danny has no idea how any species reproduce.
Then Danny refuses to listen to Vlad try to explain ghost and human reproduction to him, because ‘Vlads just a Froot Loop’.
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I made a fan art for you ✨
I was gonna color self-insert to grey but in tags say you imagine them to be blue skin and white hair and I was like oh let’s do that :D
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Oh my gosh it took me randomly checking my inbox to see this, I can't believe I missed this 😭 this is so cute, I love it, thank you!!🥰
yeah I like to play around with different Sinner Y/N concepts all the time and I love the colors and accessories you picked here, very aesthetic, VERY feeding into my love of "Valentino becomes obsessed with a Reader who isn't conventionally his type". You think he's bullying you because he's an asshole but really he's just embarrassed he's SO Down Bad For You and he's like, worried he'll be judged for it or some weak or something, and he's just, tsundere and bad at flirting. Valentino chasing butch girl Y/N. Valentino chasing punk and goth and rebel Y/N. Valentino chasing Y/N regardless because he's just s big mean slut 🥰
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