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#Forgetting the Memories
merverse · 2 months
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thinking about how they said grover was affected the most out of everyone bc he was alone and how nico and bianca stayed for 70 years inside that hotel and didn't forget each other bc they were always within reach and how that little detail makes their story even more devastating bc they got through it together and the moment they got out they get separated and then bianca never comes back
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soracities · 25 days
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Mahmoud Darwish, Memory for Forgetfulness: August, Beirut, 1982 (trans. Ibrahim Muhawi) [ID'd]
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thebibliosphere · 4 months
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There are a lot of things I'm sad about in my life. You don't get to go through the kind of medical trauma I've been through and come out unscathed on the other side.
But one thing I'm really bitter about is that I can't remember my wedding anymore. The pernicious anemia took it from me and wiped my brain clean. Except it's not clean, not really. I remember it in patches. Like red wine stains on a white rug that have never quite lifted out no matter how hard you try.
I look at the pictures on my bookcase, and they feel like remembering a story someone else has told me. There's a young woman in a white dress wearing my face, and she looks happy. I'm happy for her. But you can see the strain around her eyes, too. The pain she's hiding because no one with authority believes her when she says her body doesn't feel right. That something is Wrong.
They won't believe her for another decade. They won't believe her until it's almost too late, and it's that lateness that will rob her of her memories and turn them into a wavering rainbow suspended in the fine haze of watery sunlight that occasionally surfaces through the blanks.
There's one memory that's real, though. Solid. It's not my vows. It's not my father walking me down the aisle. (Though those are there, just hazy and dream-like). It's our first dance.
It's the lights dimming around the room as the staff cleared the floor, causing the fishbowls full of white roses and LED lights on the tables to wobble like pools of moonlight against dark paneled walls.
It's the band inviting us out onto the floor and us giggling because we know what's coming next, and no one else does. It's the twang of a banjo reverberating around the room through the speakers, followed by the dulcet tones of Kermit the Frog wondering why there are so many songs about rainbows.
It's us waltzing around the enclosed circle of light, singing to each other out of tune and grinning like idiots as everyone around us starts to laugh.
It's everyone joining in on the song because it's the Muppets, and everyone knows the words. It's 100+ people singing the Rainbow Connection, some laughing, some a bit tearful, because it's bringing back memories. Because it's making a new one.
It's looking up at my new husband through the brain fog and all the pain in my body and thinking, "I want to remember this moment forever."
I don't know what entity was out there listening to me at that moment and chose to grant that wish. I don't know why this is the one memory that stuck while everything else in my brain got decimated into scattered, fragmented snapshots. But I'm so, so thankful it is.
Though, I could have done without it randomly coming on my YouTube music out of nowhere to hit me in the emotions like a brick to the back of the head. Jesus Christ.
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thefloralmenace · 2 months
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I've seen people resonating with my Emergency Lab Pants project (providing a box of loaner pants for college science labs to accommodate people who forget to wear long pants) in the tags again, especially with the phrase "You can't disincentivize forgetting things."
I want to go into a bit more detail on that because I'm sure there are people who would argue harsh policies (like getting a zero for lab if you show up in shorts) do reduce overall incidences of noncompliance, even when no one would ever not comply with the policy on purpose (i.e. noncompliance only happens when people forget), but I want to explain what's happening there.
You are not disincentivizing forgetting. You are not forcing people to remember. You are forcing people with memory issues/anxiety to come up with adaptations that result in them achieving the desired result, whether they remember or not. Ex: being sure they show up to lab wearing long pants.
Prior to my box of emergency lab pants, I was so worried about accidentally forgetting that I established a lab uniform for myself. I wore the same shirt and long pants every Tuesday for lab. I laid out all my clothes a week at a time and put that outfit on every Tuesday. I was supplementing my memory with routine. No thinking, no remembering: just get dressed.
When I was a kid in elementary school, you'd get yelled at for forgetting a book you needed for next period from the cubby in your homeroom even though all the classrooms were connected so that you were always literally feet from your cubby. Like you could go back and get the book in under 60 seconds, but no: You'd get the speech on how you were irresponsible, and sometimes they'd force you to share a book with someone or work without it to "teach you a lesson." I was a sensitive child with an imperfect memory, so what did I do? I carried all my books with me all day and never used my cubby while my classmates just picked up the relevant materials between classes. That behavior lasted all through high school. Got made fun of for constantly carrying every textbook, but guess who never got in trouble for being forgetful or "unprepared"?
I never got a better memory. I just realized people didn't actually care if I remembered; they only cared if I showed up the way they wanted with the stuff they wanted, so I came up with adaptations so that I couldn't forget.
Which begs the question: Why create harsh punishments that force people with imperfect memories to invent these adaptations on a sink or swim basis rather than teaching people coping strategies for when they need to remember things? Like carry everything with you. Or if you need to bring an item you don't ususlly bring with you somewhere, shove it in the bag you always carry. Or leave yourself notes on the door knob of the door you have to exit through to go outside. Or set a reminder on your phone for one minute after your alarm, so you know you'll be holding your phone when the reminder goes off, ensuring you'll see it.
OR, as with my Emergency Lab Pants, just accommodate for when people inevitably do forget instead of riding the whole function of an event/program on a bunch of different people's memories?
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xmortyx · 1 year
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feral-ballad · 6 months
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Jihyun Yun, from Some Are Always Hungry; “Savaging”
[Text ID: “I woke up having / forgotten even your faces, / but remembered / my hunger. What if this is all / I am left with: / memories of my young body / rifling through refuse”]
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jmfenner91 · 1 year
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Inktober Day 12: Forget I have a lot of memory issues, so I tried to capture that 'spotlight searching' feeling. It sometimes feels like recalling one thing means forgetting another!
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what truly gets me with knives out and glass onion both is the use of the viewers' memories. like when harlan gives marta the instructions where to park the car, before or behind the statue. or when we see miles hand duke the whiskey glass.
like i watched those parts. i heard harlan say where to park the car. i consciously took in how miles gave duke his glass the first time. but then the characters show that twisted scene and suddenly i also don't remember. park the car before or behind the statue? did he hand duke the glass or did duke take it by mistake?
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forecast0ctopus · 6 months
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psych episode where shawn begins to have psychic premonitions (carbon monoxide poisoning)
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csuitebitches · 2 months
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Reading tip for when you’re reading something educational (self growth, skill based etc)
When you start your self development journey / want to take it even higher, most of us turn to reading books or articles. We take notes and highlight the areas that we found impactful, we remember those points for a couple of days and then boom - we forget.
books are such a wealth of information but it’s not possible to read every single book you’ve read once multiple times.
you might find it frustrating that you can’t seem to remember all that information when you need to, or you keep racking your brains trying to remember exactly where you had read that particular insight.
here’s a method to help you out.
If you have a kindle / read online, make a Word doc/ pages doc of all the things you’ve highlighted. Copy the highlighted areas, which would be areas that you found hopefully/ intriguing/ interesting, and paste them on the word doc. Use only one document for all your notes of different books and every month or so, take about 30 minutes to rapidly go through them. if you read physical books, take a photo of the sentence/ paragraph that you liked, crop it out so that the other stuff isn’t there, and put that photo in the document.
this allows for a couple of things - information isn’t lost when you finish reading the book. Sometimes we find the solution to a problem too early and when the problem crops up, we don’t remember that we had already found the answer. Two, it allows for revision and three, you may see that with time, the way you understood that particular point changes.
this is not for fictional or fantasy books - this is for books that talk about self development, marketing, sales, technical know how, etc. Stuff that you should remember and would impact your progress positively.
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poorly-drawn-mdzs · 4 months
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Bonus 7: Time moves sideways
[First] Prev <–-> Next
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yugiohz · 11 months
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brotherhood
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a-h-li · 8 months
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how cruel, how comforting
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aseaofquotes · 2 months
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Ann Patchett, Tom Lake
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lokh · 6 months
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(ch 40 spoilers) au where qifrey erases olruggios memories one too many times and he forgets qifrey and ONLY qifrey
sometimes using forbidden magic that no one really knows how to wield anymore comes with unintended consequences!
eventually qifrey comes upon a solution, but it will return ALL his memories to him. will he risk it...?
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chaoswarfare · 1 year
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dp x dc prompt #36
i’ve seen a lot of prompts about de-aged danny running around gotham from the GIW, and one of the bats find him and practically adopt him on the spot.
what i want to see is a very self sufficient four year old danny that has already been successfully escaping for a while with just some minor help from gotham, and is only found because he’s doing something stupid while running away from someone.
i want danny getting chased by the GIW through the city, and the bats only notice when he tarzan swings by them with laxer fire chasing him.
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