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sk-lumen · 10 months

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Date by honoring your nervous system.

This took me a long while to realize, but once I did, it changed how I see dating and chemistry. Let me explain.

When you realize that chemistry and flying sparks have zero correlation with compatibility, you've leveled up your dating mindset.

Most often those sparks and butterflies you feel, that's your subconscious picking up on familiar toxic patterns in the other person. Patterns which remind you of past experiences or even childhood trauma. Our brains are designed to see familiarity as safe, so when toxic dynamics are all you know, this can turn against you. You have to conscious rewire your brain, and be intentional and aware of how they make you feel.

Toxicity = familiar = safe = we interpret it as attraction. If they make your nervous system go haywire, we see this as chemistry and sparks flying, but it is actually alarm bells going off to signal we are not safe.

Healthy = unfamiliar = can feel unsafe and scary. We may interpret a vanilla, calm, comfortable interaction as a lack of chemistry. But there is a difference between no physical attraction, and being attracted to someone but not feeling any sparks. The latter is normal in the beginning. If your nervous system feels calm, they make you feel comfortable and at ease, that's a good sign!

So if there's any advice I would give to my younger self, it's this: date based on how he makes your nervous system feel. Does he make you feel safe, comfortable, at ease? That's the green flag to go for.

-Lumen

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theambitiouswoman · 2 months

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💗 A Healthy Relationship Should:

Boost your confidence

Encourage you to achieve your goals

Elevate your happiness

Bring you peace

Provide stability & security

Cultivate experiences

Nurture emotional and physical intimacy

Inspire you to take care of yourself

Enhance your life

💗 A Healthy Relationship Should Not:

Undermine your self esteem

Hinder your independence

Limit your growth

Create stress

Promote jealousy

Neglect your needs

Isolate you

Manipulate or guilt you

Be overly dependent

Ignore boundaries

#relationshipgoals #relationship goals #healthy relationship #toxic relationship #sex and relationships #healthy relationships #relationship advice #relationships #high value dating #dating tips #dating advice #self help #love quote tumblr #toxic love #love yourself first #love language #love quotes

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kingess · 2 years

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How to love bomb a male

Tangible steps to manipulate men by love bombing them

Love bombing a male is nowhere near as simple as it is a girl, as women often desire an established partnership and oftentimes a family from way earlier ages than men. Men don't come with social expiration dates nor have societal pressure for love, so love bombing them requires deep drilling into their unhealed desires and actual passions. Do understand that mens first and primary goal with you will always be sex. That's the first thing in their mind even if they do want something more as well. Don't let this discourage you to manipulate them past it & override it.

Listen to his life goals and derive knowledge about what need he's trying to fill with that goal or what wound he's trying to patch.

Your job is to be a dopamine rush, learn those things that make him light up with positive emotions and talk about them in different forms.

Make him visualize those things that light him up by telling stories of what you two could do. Does he want to build a house? Talk about tasks you both could do. Does he want to travel Europe? Make up specific imageries of places you two could go to or even talk about yourself as an individual in this fantasy he's just sneakily placed into. Once you plant these images they're like short films he watched and affect him accordingly. Those imageries will activate in his brain when he faces triggers of his dreams & you're right on his mind.

Make him feel special by remembering his favorites and giving him compliments based on his insecurities. If he's been made feel stupid, compliment his intellect, if he feels less accomplished than others make sure to make him feel extraordinarily talented and adept. This will make him feel like you see and know him like no one else does, "the real him", even though it's just his delusional ego stroked through his coping mechanisms.

Try to be genuine with compliments. Identify qualities that are important to him & use them. And never forget to discard him and take it all away from him just when he's started to trust your love.

And hey, Happy hunting babes

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alwaysbewoke · 1 month

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one of the reasons (i said “one of” not “only”) young men are susceptible to this kind of foolishness is the reality that many women play games. we as men have to intreprent hints and deal with women who say “no” but mean “chase me.” who say “no” but mean “yeah.” ughh it can be ugly. the way to proceed as guys is to always (always) take “no” to mean “no.” doesn’t matter if she’s playing a game, wants to be chased, wants to see how determined you are or whatever. don’t risk your freedom. if she says “no” then it’s final answer and just move on.

#dating #relationships #communication #miscommunication #mixed signals #understanding women #dating tips #gender dynamics #relationship communication #emotional intelligence #dating etiquette #women's perspectives #clarity in relationships #navigating romance

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femmefatalevibe · 11 months

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cute-st · 2 years

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“What Daddy Never Told His Little Girl” - Tony A. Gaskins

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gent-illmatic · 8 months

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STOP BEING EMOTIONAL IN ENVIRONMENTS WHERE YOU SHOULD BE STRATEGIC!

#life lessons #real life #life quotes #level up #leveling up #dating tips #masculine tips #business tips #femininity tips #black tumblr #honestly #self improvement #mental wealth #emotional intelligence #emotions #infj #infj thoughts

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sk-lumen · 8 months

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If a guy chases you, he has an agenda. He’s not emotionally invested. Once he gets what he wants or you stop running, he will disappear. Don’t give in to these men.

If a guy pursues you, he is emotionally invested. This is the kind of man that if you run, he'll stop pursuing you. If you walk towards him, he comes towards you too. If you set boundaries, he respects then, because he genuinely cares about your wellbeing.

#dating #high value dating #dating tips #relationships #chasing #pursuing #relationship tips #writings #glow up

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theambitiouswoman · 2 months

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Scarcity Vs Abundance Mindset in Dating ❤️

How You View Relationships:

Scarcity: Staying in unhealthy or unfulfilling relationships due to your fear of being alone.

Abundance: Recognizing your worth and choosing relationships that bring fulfillment.

Dates:

Scarcity: Rushing to turn every date into a serious relationship.

Abundance: Valuing each dating experience as an opportunity to learn more about yourself and what you want in a partner.

Jealousy:

Scarcity: Being overly jealous, fearing partner's interest in others.

Abundance: Trusting in the relationship and fostering mutual respect and security.

Approaching Rejection:

Scarcity: Avoiding dating due to fear of rejection.

Abundance: Viewing rejection as a natural part of the dating process and a step closer to meeting the best person for you.

Setting Standards:

Scarcity: Lowering your standards and overlooking red flags to avoid being single.

Abundance: Holding to personal values and waiting for a compatible partner.

Effort in Dating:

Scarcity: Overcompensating to earn affection.

Abundance: Being genuine and knowing the right person will value you for you.

Relationship Independence:

Scarcity: Being clingy and scared that your partner will lose interest.

Abundance: Maintaining your independence while nurturing a balanced partnership.

Personal Growth:

Scarcity: Neglecting your own interests for the sake of dating.

Abundance: Prioritizing personal development, knowing it enhances attractiveness.

Commitment Timing:

Scarcity: Pushing for quick commitment to secure the relationship.

Abundance: Allowing relationships to naturally evolve.

Compatibility:

Scarcity: Ignoring incompatibilities for the sake of being in a relationship.

Abundance: Focusing on finding someone with shared values and lifestyle.

How You View Being Single:

Scarcity: Viewing being single as a failure.

Abundance: Embracing being single as an opportunity for adventure and self discovery.

Comparing Yourself to Others:

Scarcity: Feeling behind in relationship status compared to peers.

Abundance: Measuring happiness by your personal growth, not others accomplishments.

Self-Worth in Dating:

Scarcity: Believing you're not good enough for someone you're interested in.

Abundance: Recognizing your value and deservingness of love and happiness.

Rejection:

Scarcity: Overanalyzing and taking rejection as a personal flaw.

Abundance: Using rejection as a learning opportunity to grow.

View of the Dating Pool:

Scarcity: Believing "everyone is trash" and there are no good men/women.

Abundance: Seeing a vast pool of potential matches and knowing that not just anyone is for you.

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bootleg-nessie · 2 months

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Inviting a girl back to my place after the bars to swim in my giant vat of mixed chemicals together

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thehalfwaypost · 2 months

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kingess · 1 year

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okay so just wanted to ask how to be ready for a relationship. Like a real, healthy relationship. I thought I was prepared but when the opportunity came, I just couldn't do it. I used to think I was ready but still I would attract those very consuming and harmful situationships. But now I realize I myself wasn't ready for a proper relationship. So how can I prepare myself for one?

You heal.

You take an intentional detox period from males and go in total celibacy for at least 5 months. No talking, no flirting and no entertaining males for any purpose. You're not going to use the time to just lounge around though; you're going to want to complete 4 steps.

Trauma work. You're going to deep dive into what's happened to you and how that affects your relationships as an adult. Get the books and get the journal going. What you face can be erased.

Confidence work. You need to find yourself because after all you've accepted into your reality you're a shell of the woman you could be. Level up, refine your style and social act and get comfortable with your self-validation being your main fuel.

Be fearlessly & intentionally alone. Stop accepting "good enough"-people in your life. Stop accepting friends or family that don't align with your values or dreams. Absolutely drop people that don't respect you deep or hype you up. Set boundaries; only love should get access to you.

Learn to vet a man. Finally, to find diamonds from a sea of rocks you have to be very clear and skilled. Your standards have to be as solid as your goal. Learn to drop males from the first sign showing they're not what you're after.

In my opinion, every woman should go through this process for their clarity if they're after a commited relationship.

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culture-and-relationships · 2 months

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How to say "I love you" in your partner's language - Part 1

English: I love you

Spanish: Te quiero / Te amo

French: Je t'aime

Italian: Ti amo

German: Ich liebe dich

Portuguese: Eu te amo

Russian: Я тебя люблю (Ya tebya lyublyu)

Chinese (Mandarin): 我爱你 (Wǒ ài nǐ)

Japanese: 愛してる (Ai shiteru)

Korean: 사랑해 (Saranghae)

Arabic: أحبك (Ana bahebak)

Hindi: मैं तुमसे प्यार करता/करती हूँ (Main tumse pyaar karta/karti hoon)

Greek: Σ'αγαπώ (S'agapo)

Turkish: Seni seviyorum

Dutch: Ik hou van jou

Swedish: Jag älskar dig

Bokmål: Jeg elsker deg

Finnish: Rakastan sinua

Polish: Kocham cię

Hungarian: Szeretlek

Nynorsk: Eg elskar deg

Dangme (spoken in Ghana): I suɔ mo.

We'll add more languages in the nest posts. Ask if you want to add your own language or different phrases. We're always open to feedback!

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alwaysbewoke · 9 months

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to all the male teens/young men dealing with girls like this, good luck. 95% of us has had to deal with chicks like this and we made it, you will too. stay strong. stay sane. no is no. fuck silly games.

#dating #Relationships #Communication #Miscommunication #Mixed Signals #Understanding Women #Dating Tips #Gender Dynamics #Relationship Communication #Emotional Intelligence #Dating Etiquette #Women's Perspectives #Clarity in Relationships #Navigating Romance

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femmefatalevibe · 10 months

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Femme Fatale Playbook: Simple Tips & Tricks To Seduce A Prospective Lover

Embrace direct eye contact. Hold your gaze when either one of you is speaking. Build tension by glancing, staring away for a few seconds, then giving them a second look. Use the triangle method (look to the left eye, down to the lips, and then the right eye)

Smile, laugh, and use gentle, friendly touch (on the shoulder, arm, knee) to indicate interest.

Twirling your hair while giving an upward glance can be really hot, but this is a very direct move, lol.

Engage in conversation, and ask questions about their interests and favorite spots. Share where your mutual interests lie and places/activities you're interested in exploring sometime soon (whether that be a cool wine bar, museum, a shared love of mini golf/tennis, etc.).

Conversationally ask what the rest of their week/weekend looks like. Allow them to take the lead with making plans if they're interested and not already busy with pre-planned activities or social gatherings.

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