#Counselling conversations

[introspectivememories]

mister lewis hamilton, sir, how are you gonna go on live television and talk about about how your karting days were the best times of your career and still never say nico's name? not once but multiple times??? oh you mean the karting your did with your childhood best friend nico rosberg? that karting? the karting where you met him? the karting where your families became friends? the karting where you spent months in italy together? the pizza eating contests and torn up hotel rooms? the frosties? the unicycling? that karting???? "i'm over the divorce," says man who is soo not over the divorce.

#he's sooo not over it #say what you want about him but at least nico can talk about it #the lengths lewis goes to avoid nico's name is genuinely sooo funny #babe who are you fooling? you can't even say his name #you ran away during that interview in spain #he was still speaking!!! and you heard one conversation ender and bounced #lewis hamilton sir you are soo funny #can the both of you go to couples counseling so the rest of us don't have to take psychic damage every time you two interact? #lewis hamilton #nico rosberg #brocedes #f1 #ok obligatory disclaimer for the anon: i do not think that lewis' fond memories of karting come solely from doing it with nico #i do think that he enjoyed it for reasons outside of being friends with nico (bonding with his dad/smth he enjoyed/etc) #but this is a brocedes post. i am going to make it about brocedes. hope this helps

[aro-throughyourchest]

I actually love the fact that c!tommy is a little bastard but that doesn’t make him a bad person he needs to learn and grow but also he’s seventeen and kinda fucked

#does he need to apologize to a lot of people #yeah. do a lot of people need to apologize to him? #yes!!! #the list of a small conversation to deep counseling to restraining order is staggering #c!tommy #tommyinnit #dsmp #dream smp

[jaggedwolf]

big fan of apollo telling prosecutor guy that he's the one going to hell

#i kind of love when apollo and athena are co-counsels because they both would like to inflict violence on their opponents and bad witnesses #this is good enabling #phoenix is unhinged but not in a violent threats sort of way you know #ace attorney #jaggedwolf plays aa6 #apollo and trucy have a very cute conversation at the end of the case but i keep thinking TELL THEM THEY'RE SIBLINGS WHY DON'T THEY KNOW #WHILE HAVING THIS CUTE CONVO #apollo justice

[tennessoui]

I reread your holiday chapter fic from the Couples Counseling au, and what I want to know is what went down in the Jedi Council chamber when Sheari called in to ask for their written permission for Obikin to go away together for the holidays. As their therapist. Did she SAY couples therapist??? Does the Jedi Council now actually believe that they're romantically involved? (Did they before? They probably did before...)

lol this is such a good question - DOES the Jedi council know that Jedi master Obi-Wan Kenobi and Jedi Knight Anakin Skywalker are currently in couples counseling ??? They absolutely know they’re in therapy together to do some mind-healing and they support it - obi-wan was pretty clear that they would be doing this and it was non negotiable

But the Jedi council didn’t choose Sheari for them lol they probably think that anakin and obi-wan found like. A regular therapist/counselor.

I bet master fisto space googles the name of their counselor and finds out she’s a couples counselor who specializes in couples because he has good reading comprehension and it’s like. Right there on the front page of her holo site.

but he probably keeps it to himself—either he thinks they’re a couple and he thinks he’s doing them a solid by keeping quiet about their relationship. Or he realizes they’re not a couple and thinks it’s funny as hell that they’re in couples counseling

#asks #obikin #couples counseling au #honestly the conversation between Sheari and the council probably goes like #Sheari: i can take them off your hands for a week if you want #the council: and put them in your hands? idk ms counselor you seem very nice but they’re quite a heavy burden #Sheari: no worries I would put them in each others hands #the council: omg how come we haven’t thought of that

[handweavers]

when reading scripture or religious texts in my studies from a variety of religions (a not-insignificant part of my education has been religious studies) i can appreciate and understand the beauty and appeal of it and make sense of its internal logic system and worldview and feel that i'm picking up what it's putting down even if i don't necessarily identify with it on a personal level, but i gotta be honest i always feel like i'm missing something or losing my mind when i read christian texts like i don't get it and it doesn't make sense to me and nothing about the trinity makes sense to me and the entire worldview feels so harsh and terrifying and bleak for no reason and every time i've asked anyone in my family (on the christian side) to explain any of it to me like sincerely i just feel more baffled and whenever i've had to read passages of the new testament i dont get it at all like even abstractly i don't understand and it makes me feel crazy like what i'm looking at has to be completely different from what other people are seeing and i don't mean it in a reddit atheist smug asshole way like it's genuinely beyond my comprehension I Don't Get It and i don't think i ever will

#and this is solely looking at texts/scripture/writings like i understand its historical and material context and aesthetics #i appreciate the way thay different ethnic groups have adapted xtianity to their culture and find it fascinating when it is syncretic #with ancient traditions and respect peoples right to practice and understand many xtian minorities have faced persecution etc #but every time i read something from the new testament im like is this really...??? uhhhh #and i dont feel that way at all w any other religions texts i can vibe with it i see what its doing and understand it and appreciate it #i find it so deeply unappealing in every possible way . truly just not for me sorry #it doesnt help the sheer amnt of bad experiences ive had with xtians targeting me for conversion #explicitly even after being told that i am sikh and not interested and continued to be harassed #and a genuinely traumatic incident w christian family counselling ive blocked out lol

[yj-98]

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#it is repeatedly soulbreaking that without fail i will - every late fall + into winter - just become So Much Worse #every spring + summer ill be marginally better and ill make friends and feel social and like i can DO things #and then without fail i will recede and let people down and its just. i am tired. literally so tired of the cycle #i dont want to sound dramatic and call it ''letting people down'' and ''being a disappointment'' but its so. like i can barely feel human #i do Not have the ability to upkeep social connection and friendships half the year its so fucking pathetic. frankly. #but i like making friends i LIKE people. girl someone get me some counseling and SSRIs or something #ptsd and depression and lack of vitamin D gang. i guess. #because the feeling that im alone and hurting others by isolating against my own better judgment is soooo inescapable. yearly. #like whats the point. im tired of conversations having to start with ''hey sorry i was busy and my brain wants me dead'' #rook.log

[khlur]

every time i talk w my parents i have to remind myself not to get swayed by their doting affectionate act.

#i mean see #becoming older has made me recognize and appreciate them for a lot of what they did #but to say that i am doing anything except lip service to them rn would be an exaggeration #our relationship has improved but i have made it clear that i never intend to live with them ever again #that the honeymoon period will last 2 days max #they'll cry their crocodile tears #and the emotional abuse will restart like it never stopped #that the physical abuse would have continued if i didn't threaten them by throwing chairs and a knife #like....these past few months have given me such fucking WHIPLASH #it almost makes me forget just how dysfunctional our dynamic has been #how i got away relatively well adjusted because i psychologied myself through clinical and counselling psych classes #how they refuse to take the blame absolutely for my brother's issues surfacing now in his adulthood #ever so often something so viscerally twisted will happen on a call or on the group chat which makes me want to hurt myself #and that serves as a wake up call abt how bad shit used to be #and how glad i am to be away from it all #but every few weeks i will be lulled back into thinking that maybe things weren't so bad #i'm also swayed so much by the people around me rn who hesitate so much to talk about anything that isn't small talk #either that or they're people who really love their parents and enjoy spending time with them #and i'm like....respectfully i cannot relate and neither can the bamboo rod that once broke in two bcs of how hard my parents wielded it <3 #and ofc when families come up in conversation everyone acts like it's a normal thing for there to be ups and downs #w so much unsaid and implied about how i'm actually an ungrateful POS who can't appreciate their parents sacrificing so much for me #hehe. no thanks. keep ur judgement to urself

[itspileofgoodthings]

the thing about romantic love is that it is such a powerful catalyst for personal change

#it COULD be #it COULD BE YOU #if you choose it #it could transform #the feeling of romantic love and desire provides the fuel/spark/grist/WHATEVER that is inherently necessary for the conversion experience #and the general tendency of romantic love is the good!!!!!!! #you want the good when you feel it!!! you’re drawn towards it!!!!! #this is why it’s almost impossible for me to root against a love story while it’s ongoing #like. there is so much potential #and whatever people say romantic love is one of the most powerful forces needed for this kind of redemption arc #other things can jumpstart it too #but that one is just …. baked into nature. into the essence of femininity and masculinity #and love as a generative source!!!! #I have a counseling appointment I need to stop making this text post and go in #I’m sure many thoughts and phrases here need fine-tuning #but yeah

[pepprs]

hm. i think i am going to stop going to counseling. he does not understand me. he pathologizes things that are not pathological.

#purrs #the premises of counseling / therapy are that you need to have boundaries and be self sufficient and fully healed. FUCK THAT! relationships #are not transactions. we are allowed to need each other. we are allowed to blur lines. we are human and messy. our thoughts and feelings are #PRECIOUS. im not letting go of my thoughts they mean EVERYTHING to me they are the key to the WORLD. im not letting go of redacted why on #EARTH would i stop redacteding to redacted that is HELPFUL for me. i don’t CARE about the roots. who the fuck is it hurting????? NO ONE!!!!! #the way he flat out told me he agrees with my mom. bitch im done forever. im done literaly forever. i don’t know how to tell him but im done #forever. maybe it’s just my id which is what he said to me LMFAO and like maybe i just don’t like being uncomfortable or facing hard truths. #but i don’t fucking think it’s TRUE!!!!!!!!!! yeah i need to grow yeah i have unhealthy behaviors. but i don’t need to let go of the whole #THING bc of some arbitrary transactional concept of what relationships are supposed to be / mean. ive NEVER had a counselor try to uproot th #the whole damn thing like omg what is WRONG with you. i #im paying this man $25 a week to UNDERSTAND me and not ONCE have i felt understood by him. counselors can disagree with me but i literally #never feel like he is on my side. he’s adhering to conventional ideas about what parents are supposed to be and friends are supposed to be a #and work is supposed to be etc etc. and so patronizingly said just enjoy being 23 you don’t wanna waste your 20s! FUCK YOU. i will not #regret anything even if it’s unusual. FUCK YOU!!!!!!!!!!! #and also i know he probably watches back thru the recordings and has like his supervisor and professors watch them too which means that #there is a whole team of scientists + my family studying me in a lab and thinking im insane and finding ways to tell me. but fucking bold of #him to assume he can give me any meaningful valuable insight when he is actively checking his laptop / phone during our sessions and rarely #if eve gives me a chance to drive MY OWN CONVERSATION THAT IM PAYING FOR and is so phony abt being on the recording. like Omg. maybe im just #grown out of it. it fucking SUCKS bc i actually have things i am not normal about and really need help with and i can’t actually get help fr #from ppl whose job it is to fucking help me bc they think im not normal about things i PROMISEEEE i am normal about. and the way i effective #effectively told him that and he responded that he can’t take that credibly bc there’s no action behind it BY WHICH HE MEANS I HAVENT #STOPPED REDACTEDING TO ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT REDACTED IN MY WHOLE LIFE? THAT I HAVENT DECIDED IM DONE LEARNING SND GROWING AND CUT IT #OFF?????? DO YOU FUCKING HEAR YOURSELF. INSANE. the ANTITHESIS of human. we are MEANT TO BE CONNECTED. FUCK!!!!!!!!! #delete later #my old counselors challenged me and disagreed with me b it i never felt like they flat out were unwilling to meet me where i am and #compromise with me. is that not what counselors are supposed to do???? or have i just had bad counselors until now??? because im NORMAL. i #swear to fucking god. im normal. im literally normal and it is not doing ANYONE harm. what is wrong with you. GOD

[pocketgalaxies]

hello everyone today i rewatched marisha's between the sheets interview and also watched ashly burch's for the first time and just doing a lot of thinking about how much of a privilege it is to get to watch extended conversations with these intelligent incredible people about their experiences and to learn from them

#legitimately learned more about addiction from ashly and brian than i did from my medical school's session on addiction counseling #so i'd say this was a better use of my time than studying #so amazing of CR (and marisha as creative director) to put out these long conversations for people to watch for free on the internet #text #nova shh #critical role #cr extras #between the sheets #ashly burch #marisha ray #brian wayne foster #cr cast #marisha ray supremacy

[florelia12]

HAPPY PRIDE MONTH💖

#i think this is the first time im openly celebrating it and being open about this with friends and so this is a special year #the place i live in is slowly getting more and more open to these conversations #it still has a long way to go #we have one ‘pride parade’ if you can call it that #but its more of like a gathering at a park #my friends and i have always wanted to go but we were scared after an incident at our secondary school #im from a catholic girls school and some of our friends who did go for the parade and a teacher who went as well posted it on social media #it somehow got back to school #like the teachers’ or some students or parents reported it to the school i cant really remember #and they were all given a warning and sent for counselling #it was a veryyyyyy upsetting incident that really made me lose a lot of respect for some teachers #although it brought to light who was trustworthy and not #but now its different because we’ve been out of that school for years not but thanks to covid there was no parade #howeverrr i cant make it on the day of the parade so hopefully next year ill actually get to go and be more involved with the community

[ghostlyheart]

I'm feeling very conflicted about what the nadja/laszlo reunion might be like because on the one hand I want drama i want conflict I DO want a divorce arc (not permanently ofc) but on the other hand if they don't get back together immediately I will spontaneously combust

#i know when the combustion is going to happen so i guess it's more of a scheduled combustion #but yeah im feeling super normal about them on this night :) #i love them so much but like i cant imagine everything going back to normal without like Some sort of conversation at least #you know what i mean?? they adore each other but it feels like there are communication issues i just want their relationship to be Examined #like i want some vampire marriage counseling aksjsk #but also this is a silly show and if they don't spend a lot of time on their reconciliation that's okay #it's just on my wish list #wwdits spoilers #wwdits s4 spoilers

[opens-up-4-nobody]

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#christ. i feel like this is gonna b where i end up for school #it just seems like a really good place and i think it could help me be less intense lmao #more close access to the wilderness and all that. the ice driving is gonna stress me the fuck out but maybe not more than city driving woul #and i mean who wouldn't wanna live in a place with with moose and bears and mountains and snow #assuming they give me an offer. but the guy said it would prob b an easy conversation so im hopeful #sigh. ive done so much interacting this weekend. i fucking hate house parties. im so awkward #i mean most ppl r a bit but i tend to b the person sitting alone in the corner not quite knowing what to do. like we were xc skiining and #after the group was all huddled up talking and i was climbing around in the snow by myself trying to decide if it would b super weird for #me to roll around in it. i didnt bc i was abt to get in thr car but i shoudl have. whatever. i hopefully didnt leave too terrible an #impression. also everyone i meet with adhd @ me: ur problems sound like adhd. me: ok i hear u but also i refuse to listen until i have a #diagnosis lol. i think im just gonna white knuckle it until i start my program so i can use uni counseling bc im abt to get off my parents #insurance 😭 so just a few more miserable months. or like idk the timeline. hhhh let me leave the southwest. lol there were 3 fucking ohio #ppl on this recruitment weekend. were everywhere. everywhere but ohio rip #unrelated

[theres-whump-in-that-nebula]

Reading over a talk script and realizing the structure is so clunky that there’s absolutely nothing to sink your teeth into

[sad amateur actor sounds]

#For some reason my dad made it a point to say that my mom and I were very quiet and shy to the school conductor #And for the past three years my mom hasn’t gotten any parts at all and I’ve only ever been a householder #Like??? I’m not fucking shy. And mom wants to participate. #exjw #RIP elementary school me; your parts were fire (my mom wrote my talks at that age and she’s good at scripts) #(and they allowed more artistic freedom in those days) #I remember my mom using Rolo candies for an illustration in the back school (remember going to the back school for parts?) #It seems like the JWs have sterilized what little humanity they used to have and now everything is just blah #No one puts any creativity or brainpower into the parts anymore and instead directly quotes the examples #which USED to be something they would counsel you for (for a lack of warmth and empathy) #but now it’s encouraged?!?! #huh #I feel old #What use is practicing public speaking and conversational skills if you never actually CONVERSE with anyone? #They’re recycling the same ten talks over and over again and frankly I’m sick of it #Actually? I want no part of this new school. It can fuck off #I think the reason I always end up stealing the show is because I went inactive and stopped giving parts at age eleven #Which was about when they started changing everything #When I came back at fifteen it was a completely new world and I still wasn’t being used; I wasn’t a householder again until seventeen #I only remember the information in the reference book because I never bothered to read the new brochure (whatever it’s called) #I’m running on old hardware and it’s better than what they tell us to do now

[tennessoui]

I think the therapy questions at the end of the chapters are what really twist the knife for me. Their feelings are so close but their reactions are so differentand they are blind to the other and themselves. Are we going to see Sheari's reaction to the question packet or have her bring up their answers in a session, might be a good way to shake out some rational thought from The Team

the questions at the end are probably like one of my favorite formatting/storytelling decisions i've ever made for a fic ever, so im glad that people are really enjoying them too -- they're a great way to cut through the bullshit of what obi-wan and anakin are saying to each other or those around them (even when they're trying to be honest) and get right down to the very, very, vulnerable truth of the matter that they would never actually say aloud

(from a writing perspective, sure, they could say it out loud - after all, there have been moments of pure honesty between obi-wan and anakin already during fights or during reconciliations, but even that honesty pales in comparison to what the questionnaire says. the answers to the questionnaire are like. unspeakable levels of honesty. you write that shit in a diary levels of honesty. having one of them try to share it in a conversation out loud would, imo, sound clunky and overly dramatic like grandiose declarations that don't fit into natural dialogue......but adding them at the end of each chapter forces the reader into the pov of the counselor for a few paragraphs, reading it for the first time and getting only the absolute, vulnerable truth from the two clients and going damn these guys are sorta insane)

i'm not sure yet what role i want their answers to have in the actual sessions they attend - i don't know how i'd write obi-wan or anakin really actually sitting through and allowing sheari to read their answers out loud in a room that contains the guy they were thinking about. i think it would feel like some sort of betrayal at first. but maybe after they've had many sessions? or maybe if she only read out a bit or asked them to expand on a few points they made?

i'm torn because you're right it would be a good way to cut through their bullshit and show them both that 'hey, this is how he feels about you when he's just alone with his thoughts and being completely honest. how does that make you feel?'

but at the same time would that burn more bridges than it built?

i imagine sheari asked for a second copy from each of them with more detail because she wanted to read through and take notes on 'problem areas' that she could then bring up separately (ie, they have problems in their sex life, let's have a whole session revolving around sexual and romantic intimacy)

but then she probably just highlighted like. every question lol good luck sheari my beloved

#asks #couples counseling au #obikin #this turned into more of a 'about the questionnaire' than i intended #but i do love that choice i made #to include them at the end #and how it creates three separate levels of honesty/deception in the fic #what they say in conversation (could be lying could be avoiding the topic could be using weaponized honesty) #what they say to each other when they're really being honest (a la anakin in chapter 4 'what if i'm not fine') #& what they put in their questionnaire that no one but the paper they wrote it on the counselor who reads it and the reader of the fic know

[theatreofthelivingmind]

20 year old me is upset for not taking off work to see love and rockets in Oakland.

40 year old me is saying, hey you already paid your dmv registrations and toll evasions today. Go work your shift, and take it easy on your self.

#because when the goth punk reggae elders are in town emmas ready to throw down #emma is a goth punk elder with a true admiration and appreciation for all things reggae dub ska #love and rockets #40 year old me counseling a younger self #ongoing conversations with a holy guardian angel #california