#Biphobia

[aromanticbuck]

I just think it's funny that...

the loudest part of this fandom has been begging for queer!Buck for years. but, the second they actually give the fandom what they want, and Buck has a canon boyfriend, a date he is taking to his sister's wedding, someone he can't stop thinking about, that's... wrong?

you got the rep you were begging for. we have the actor and the rest of the cast openly saying a character is bisexual. we are getting exactly what we asked for.

but now it's not good enough because it's not exactly who you want him to be with?

the definition of bisexuality is not I love every single woman in the world and that one guy. there are a million essays on this very site that go into exactly how biphobic that mindset actually is. it perpetuates the finer details of the patriarchy that everyone hates until it serves their purpose.

you're allowed to not ship something, but to say it's not canon or block a wiki page from being edited to state their relationship is actually extremely biphobic. you got what you want and now you're attacking it. I think that says a lot more about you than it says about the writers who are denying you something they never promised in the first place.

#alex says things #911 #911 fandom #911 fandom discourse #fandom discourse #biphobia #never thought i'd see BUDDIE SHIPPERS being this fucking biphobic #with their whole chests even #evan buckley #buck buckley #evan buck buckley #also to emphasize: the fan wiki that can be edited so freely #and be blocked from edits that would simply state CANON DEVELOPMENTS #is not a reliable source for any information unless you can find the episode/scene/interview/article it is from

[tr1ppykay]

self-flagellating transandrophobic trans men 🤝 self-flagellating biphobic bi women:

acting like hatred of men is Peak Activism and not just internalized bigotry

#transandrophobia #transmisandry #anti transmasculinity #biphobia #transmasc #bisexual #trip talks #in your effort to be 'one of the good ones' you have shot yourself in the foot.

[womenaremypriority]

Things that are normal for bisexual women:

-Being unsure if you’re gay, straight, or bisexual

-Experiencing homophobia

-Wishing you could be a man to date women

-Breathing fire

-Not wanting to date or have sex until you’re ready

-Not wanting to ever date men and choose exclusively women

-Experiencing attraction to men and women differently

-Having a fat juicy pussy

-Feeling alienated from both straight and gay culture

-Being upset over stigma against bisexuals

-Fitting some stereotypes and not others

-Being able to fly

-Worrying over whether or not you’re objectifying other women

-Wanting to dress and be seen as more masculine

-Ability to raise the dead

-Being the smartest person around

-Occasionally freezing time by accident

#my post #Bi women #bisexuality #bisexual #bi positivity #biphobia #wlw #radblr #female solidarity

[linuxbian]

There these seemingly contradictory societal double binds that are used to enforce conformity.

Example: A Lesbian is told that "everyone is actually bi" while a bisexual woman is told to "pick a side". Seems contradictory but really they just want us to be straight lmao.

Another one: A woman who does not perform womanhood to society's standard is not a real woman vs. You can never change the gender you were born with. One is butchphobic/anti gnc women, the other is transphobic. Clearly both enforce transmisogyny.

The insidious thing is that these double binds also foster inter community division. Its easy to hear one side of these, for example: "everyone is a little bi" and assume that means bisexuality is more accepted. But on the other side bisexual people are getting the same shit.

None of these are contradictory when you realize that bigots simply don't want lgbtq+ to exist at all.

#Lesbophobia #transphobia #transmisogyny #Biphobia

[prokopetz]

The evil opposite of folks bending over backwards to declare that Taylor Swift is secretly gay or an "honorary lesbian" or whatever in order to justify enjoying her music is folks expressing amazement that this or that obviously straight musical artist could produce work that's so resonant with the LGBT experience, and then you look up the "obviously straight" artist in question and they're openly bisexual.

#media #music #lgbtqia+ #biphobia

[transvarmint]

"No guys I swear this time it's reasonable to deny language to marginalized people! It's not at all like those other times when we excluded and downplayed the oppression of a certain group of people! This time it's definitely justified to tell people their oppression isn't real! And that they need to shut up and listen to the real oppressed people. We are definitely in the right on this one."

#transandrophobia #aphobia #biphobia

[silver-horse]

it's fascinating that those biphobes compare women liking astarion to women liking legolas and they mention a popular post that says "I never understood why so many straight women are into legolas. what do you think he is going to do? top you?" they bring this post up like some sort of proof "haha. so right. so true."

EXCEPT the notes on that popular post are filled with THOUSANDS of women commenting "no. I am gonna top him" and "bold of you to assume women can't top" and a lot of them are bisexual women commenting "I am bi and I only like men who look like a girl lol" honestly relatable Lmao

they act like that shitpost is pointing out some truth about how those women are silly. but the replies on that post show the stupidity of that assumption. people really don't get that feminine looking women don't just want to be rough handled by some masculine dude. and people have varied tastes and sexual desires. there is so much misogyny all tangled up in the biphobia. but it's subtle in a way that they don't notice their views on these matters are flawed because even when we point out what's wrong with these gender essentialist stereotypes, they ignore it and treat it as a joke "haha you all act like we wanted to behead bisexuals"

#my thoughts #I say this as someone who doesn't give a fuck about legolas #but acting like that post is so true is dumb #like those women don't know what they chose to like... #or like a man with pretty long hair and clean shaven face cannot possibly like women... laughing my ass off #my post #my posts #biphobia #text post #textposts #bg3 mine #misogyny #tumblr bullshit #2k #1k #lgbtq #baldur's gate 3 #astarion #legolas #the lord of the rings

[hneycmb]

It's so fucking evil how common the stereotype of "bi woman with homophobic straight boyfriend" is and how often it's used to portray bisexual women as reckless and dangerous to our own community when we face the highest rates of intimate partner violence within the entire community. Genuinely fuck you guys for pushing the narrative that we get the privilege of ignoring homophobia if it suits us when in reality we are often the first targets of this behavior.

#talking #biphobia

[faggy--butch]

Controversal opinion, I don't think it's really ever appropriate for people to theorize about groups they're not apart of.

That's how you get things like "non binary people aren't oppressed" and "trans men are exactly like cis men in every way and therefore have male privilege" and "asexuals aren't LGBT" and "bisexuals have straight privilege" like maybe like, include the group you're theorizing about to talk about their experiences because it always ends up exclusionary otherwise.

#transandrophobia #acephobia #exorsexism #biphobia

[revawake]

no really. what happened to some good old fashioned hoping jakey dies. did we really have to start joking about killing bisexual women ourselves. look at all the good that has done 😐

yeah everyone who said you're gonna kill bi women or bi women should be euthanized or be wiped from the face of the earth in a plague or whatever i'm leaving your url in. sorry. (also i get the association with the golden retriever bf's meme or whatever but really? euthanasia?)

^^these comments also got to me.

you can't just raise your standards out of experiencing misogyny sorry! it's so crazy the way bi women's experience of misogyny in relationships can get flipped around to make bi women the responsible party like huh?? girls make sure not to be "capable of having" a boyfriend who mistreats you 🙄

yeah and lots of these people just straight up hate bisexual women nothing else to it. this used to be the male tears and feminism website what happened. is this the best we can do.

#misogyny #biphobia #bimisogyny #barbie #barbie 2023 #barbenheimer #shaunofthedead #chai-spiciest #dykecotomia #gnarlybite #familysickness #elementoflove #<- ironic url in this case lmfao #aaaaaaaand post

[eeldritchblast]

They’re Not “Playersexual”, You’re Just Biphobic

(I was going to save this until September 23 because I thought that would be an appropriate date, but the Ask I got included in this essay just put me over the edge. So, here it is now. Buckle up.)

Bisexuality/Pansexuality is the attraction to people regardless of gender. About 4% of the USA alone (over 13.6 million people) openly identify as bisexual, according to Gallup’s latest polling. But unfortunately, bi/pan identities are so scary to some folks that they need to make up terms to avoid calling their favourite characters such. Thus, the term “playersexual” was born: a term to describe a game character who is attracted to the player character... regardless of gender.

If that sounds like it’s just a circuitous way of describing a bi/pan character, it’s because it is.

I first heard of the term “playersexual” almost a decade ago, from a Dragon Age fan complaining that Dorian was gay and thus it was “unfair” that she couldn’t romance him as female character. This fan said they wished BioWare would go back to Dragon Age II’s model of everyone being “playersexual” for “equality”.

Now, if you’ve actually played DA:2 and you’re not a bigot, you’re probably rolling your eyes just as hard as I did when I first read such a ridiculous statement. Well, prepare for this next one:

“When you make a male Hawke, Anders and Fenris are gay and Merrill is straight. Opposite is true if you make a female Hawke.”

These people are so afraid of bisexuality that they cannot even fathom its existence. They can believe in dragons and magic, but they cannot believe that a character is simply bi/pan. I find this especially hilarious for Anders, considering he had a canonical boyfriend, as confirmed both in-game and in The World of Thedas: Vol. 2 book.

I truly thought we were past this nonsense in 2023. I really, truly thought that. But then Baldur’s Gate 3 was released in full, and suddenly these same fuckers came out of the woodwork to bend over backwards avoiding calling these characters anything except bi/pan.

Note how in the above Ask, the anonymous questioner actually doubles down on avoiding addressing these two characters in particular as bi/pan!

“Playersexual” doesn’t even truly work for the characters of Baldur’s Gate 3 regardless, because the definition is oriented around attraction to the player character… which these characters are not exclusively attracted to. Here are some examples that prove otherwise:

If neither Lae’zel nor Astarion/Gale/Wyll are in a romance with the PC, Lae’zel will say she plans on propositioning one of the men for sex at the night of the tiefling party. She also flirts with Karlach in party banter.

Shadowheart expresses interest in Karlach, (“I like her. She looks like she could throw me over her shoulder and carry me to safety, should the need arise”) as well as Halsin if he leaves the party, (“he may have been misguided, but I liked looking at him.”)

Astarion flirts with nearly everyone in the party, but to just pick two examples: he mentions Wyll is the type of princely figure he used to dream about marrying, and says to Shadowheart “such a grim name for such a beautiful flower”.

Gale used to date Mystra. He also debatably flirts with Astarion by offering him some blood, after Cazador’s battle.

Wyll flirts with Lae’zel in party banter, and also refers to Halsin as a “delight” and “hunk”.

Karlach seems to have a little crush on Jaheira by the way she reacts to meeting her. She also says of Halsin, “everyone in this camp wants to climb that oak”.

Please keep in mind these are just a few examples I’ve picked out from screening through the dialogue, and there’s even more that prove the attraction to different genders these characters have is not related solely to the player. It’s just part of their identities.

In the Ask sent to me above, the anonymous questioner said they “cannot see Karlach as anything except lesbian and Astarion as gay.” This is just as bad as saying they are “playersexual” in my opinion, because yet again it’s erasing their bisexuality/pansexuality. Worse yet, it’s doing it because of the way the characters act. You cannot measure queerness based on actions and appearances being in line or not with queer stereotypes—it’s not a scale! And bi/pan folks are just as queer as lesbian and gay men, by virtue of simply being bi/pan!

All in all, I think this entire “playersexual” debate boils down to the fact that some people still refuse to see bi/pan identities as anything but “discount straight”. And that’s why people are rightfully angry when folks try to further this myth by pretending bi/pan characters don’t actually exist.

#bg3 #baldur's gate 3 #meta #queerphobia #biphobia #panphobia

[biphobia-archive]

An influencer recently realised that she's actually bi, not a lesbian and got awful responses, lost all the support she had, got accused of being a straight woman who lied and got told she was queerbaiting and doing it all for attention and views

Here are some of the comments:

#biphobia #bisexual #bi #bisexuality #bisexual visibility

[strangestcase]

“Portraying bi characters as being attracted to people of the ‘opposite’ gender is biphobic because it makes them look straight” what if I put you in a comically large cannon and then fired the cannon and you impacted on the moon

#doc talks #biphobia #bi #bisexual

[gayvampyr]

“are bisexuals allowed to do this” “can bisexuals reclaim/say this” bisexuals are permitted to claim your life if they want to

#biphobia #bisexual #sincerely a lesbian who’s sick of ppl acting like bi ppl don’t have a place in gay culture or history #text post #top posts #5k #10k