#'hey so are you cool with dating someone who's gender is basically a blind box

[mybrainproblems]

So yesterday my friend and I went on a day trip and we meant to go to this nature preserve but wildly overshot the exit so we ended up in New Hampshire and went to this random beach and it was amazing to get out of the house and just drive for two hours before wandering around a beach in below freezing weather and getting lobster rolls before driving home again.

It was great because we got to just chat while not being stuck at home and there’s a kind of freedom and joy to watching scenery whip past while you go 80mph on a lightly trafficked highway.

And to me it’s fascinating to talk to someone who actually wants to date and have a relationship when I have minimal interest in dating. I don’t feel a need for sexual intimacy and the theoretical idea of a relationship is nice. But when it comes to the cost/benefit analysis, my mild interest in being romantically/sexually involved with someone is totally outweighed by my apathy about putting in the effort to meet someone.

However! There is a part of me that wants an honest to god meet-cute. As in fucking fanfic levels of meet-cute. There is a basically zero chance of it happening and therefore I will likely remain single forever. (Also open to friend of a friend introductions but holy hell do I hate dating apps and I refuse to use them. I’d rather use a matchmaker than a dating app.)

#dream meet cute is that i go to a cafe for coffee most days and my order keeps getting mixed up with someone who has the same name #and we start talking bc we keep grabbing the wrong order #but have very different orders like i'm a black coffee person and they're a mocha person but we get the same size hence the mix up #i am actually a very not-romantic person except that i want a meet-cute #like i hate special occasion stuff and i will forget every important date but i will make sure we always have your favorite mustard #it doesn't help that i feel like i should get gender identity stuff sorted out before i even consider dating again #i've seen multiple relationships break up bc someone realizes they now identify as a different gender #and it's nobody's fault but one or both realize that this 'new' gender is no longer compatible with the gender(s) they are attracted to #'hey so are you cool with dating someone who's gender is basically a blind box?' #just some overshare word vomit as i try to process shit out