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To understand those without empathy, or to understand pwASPD or pwNPD, we need to dissect guilt vs remorse vs regret.
I can feel regret, but I cannot feel guilt, yet I have all my friends and even my therapist insisting that my regret is actually guilt, and that guilt is what makes me a “good person”.
The difference between guilt and regret are most important to this discussion.
Guilt = “a moral emotion that occurs when a person believes or realizes—accurately or not—that they have compromised their own standards of conduct or have violated universal moral standards”
Regret = Wishing you could have changed/prevented past mistakes (or perceived mistakes)
Guilt is tied closely to emotion and empathy, while regret is more focused on the self. I experience regret because when I have harmed others, I don’t feel their pain at all, and I instead feel my own pain when I face the consequences of my actions, and when I’m inconvenienced by them. Or sometimes the inconvenience is so minor that I dont feel any pain at all, and I just feel annoyance.
everyday im forced to see endos make takes ab plurality that theyre not allowed to say !!!! shut the fuck up (endos) yall r fr so annoying and im tired of yall and yr stupid ass takes !!! like >:( ur ruining my safe space plz go somewhere else >:( and like obviously i hate them bc theyre a huge problem but can yall at least just not invade ACTUAL system spaces or die idc atp — 💉
Yeah, the endo community always tries to force ways into actual system spaces even when they're unwanted. Even if someone is anti-endo, they still find some way to constantly try to interact or harass people. That's not everyone in the community but a fair bit of them.
They also want to say that systems "don't need a safe space" but we do from people like the endo community wanting to harass those that have opposing views and don't agree that plurality "can form without trauma" (which it can't).
I just wish endos would be able to leave others alone without thinking they have a right to not care for a DNI and interact with those that don't want them in their community.
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