#‘im me and im me regardless of what i wear and my gender feels the way it did a year ago except now there are some days i want a binder’

[theygender]

Idk how many of y'all watch Good Mythical Morning but I just want to say that as a gnc person it makes me so happy to see Chase get to dress however he wants and have it just be normal. The crop top he always wears during international food taste tests isn't treated as weird, that's just his cartographer shirt, and it's become such a signature look that other people have to wear it while filling in for him. He plays a few female characters that wear dresses, but the fact that he's playing a woman or wearing a dress is never treated like a joke. The actual joke is that the character he's playing is a fancy dancing cow or an alternate universe version of Little Debbie named Giant Deborah who can teleport across dimensions if you chant for her. The dress is just part of the character, and Chase just happens to be comfortable wearing dresses and really good at playing funny characters. Idk, it just makes me feel really happy to see another gnc person out there thriving and living their best life. I've always been hesitant about being out as nonbinary at work bc I didn't think it would be possible for people to just treat it like a normal thing, and recently I've been worried that once I graduate college and go on to more "professional" work my future employers may see my gender nonconformity as unprofessional, which scares me bc it's not even possible for me to conform to any gender expectations anymore. But. Here on one of my favorite YouTube channels there's a gnc person who gets to dress however they want for their job, even having roles where their gender nonconformity is important to the videos, and it's just treated like the most normal thing in the world. If that's possible then maybe the idea of finding a research job that will respect me isn't so far fetched

#good mythical morning #rambling #idk i just get emotional sometimes #as someone whos worried that even gender nonconformity would be viewed as unprofessional in my future field and frowned upon #regardless of whether i would be interacting with the public #seeing someone whos able to be as gnc as they want at a job where theyre being FILMED for the public and posted to an audience #really does kinda give me hope that i can find acceptance one day #its really cool that stevie presents in a gnc way too sometimes but shes not on camera as much #but idk. it just makes me feel happy #im watching the international foods taste test they posted today and chase is wearing an even shorter crop top under his cartographer shirt #and i was just like HELL yeah you GO king!! #as someone whos been watching the show for a long time and has also seen a lot of old episodes from before i started watching #i like seeing how much more confident chase is now that he dresses how he wants to as well #in a lot of the old videos he dressed very much like a stereotypical straight boy and he seemed a lot more shy and timid back then #now you can just tell how happy he is. he seems so confident in himself and he contributes so much to the show now #idk. i want that one day. i hope i can find a stable career where I'll be accepted for who i am #instead of having to pretend to be something else or worry about what people are thinking of me if i dont #my job now is definitely better than some of my old ones but i still dont really know what people think of me now that im somewhat out #and spending 40 hours a week walking on egg shells with your own damn existence isnt fun :( but. maybe its not forever. i hope

[orkbutch]

my b if this comes off weird but you’re a cool butch so i thought maybe you’d have some insightful thoughts about what to say to a baby butch who isn’t confident they’ll ever look like anything more than a baby faced twink.

You're gonna get a kind of delirious ramble for this one sorry bud. idk if you're talking about yourself or someone else you want to support, but ... the idea of a "baby faced twink" butch isn't really rooted in what butches look like imo! Older butches tend to be everyone's icons, and age weathers your face; a lot of the handsome older butches we look up to were "baby faced". They were still cool butches when they were young. When I shave my beard I look babyfaced. If you want a beard, get on the T and see what happens I guess, but that isn't what makes a butch at all. Lots of butches have soft/round faces, small or delicate features, ect. I'm gonna be talking very much from my own view and experience here, but for me my butchness is about attitude. That has to do with how you dress, how you treat people and your own confidence. Dress cool, feel cool. Clothing and presentation is a big part of butch identity because it gives a powerful kick of confidence that underlies a lot of butch attitude. The confidence to wear whatever you want, regardless of how that makes you look in wider society. The confidence to take masculinity and make it your own, and disregard the hang ups men have about their height or strength or how chiseled their features are. Thats man shit. Don't let yourself buy into it too much. I know it feels like everyone else is so you kinda have to, but there's gonna be plenty of people that recognize your butchness without that shit. I think, truly, confidence and trusting yourself are huge parts of being butch. FEELING yourself. Every butch I've seen that people find particularly sexy/admireable are kinda smug. That's butch swagger, an underlying self-assurance, leaning into your own coolness and masculinity. Not to an off putting level, just a little. There are lots of ways to build your confidence! Focus on the responsibilities you have that you handle. Do shit that makes you feel good. Admire parts of your body that you enjoy. I like weight lifting for that - its helpful that it happens to give you muscles eventually, but even just the act of doing it fills me with a cocky confidence that feeds my butch masculinity. It makes me feel masc and hot. Same with cooking a beautiful meal for a date, or putting together a great outfit.

When I'm on my leathers, I feel peak butch. I feel hot, I feel strong, its like armour. I put it on and I become a certain version of myself. I look cool, I feel cool. It genuinely changes how I think. For me, butchness is both my identity and a form of gender play. Its something I can suit up for it, and when I take the suit off im still A Butch, but I'm not Doing Butchness. Doing Butchness is vital for feeling grounded and connected to being butch, though. Even though they're different, they're interconnected and important.

anyway. thats my butch ramble (i had a red bull and am on 0 meds so its very chaotic)

#ask

[niqaboy]

a long list of reasons i love my niqab and abaya

first and foremost, it is what makes me feel closest to Allah. i am in a constant state of worship when i am wearing my veil. i even wear it in the house.

i feel so incredibly protected. i know i sometimes am actually putting myself at risk wearing my abaya and veil, but regardless, there is such a safe feeling when i wear it

nobody! knows! the! shape! or! size! of! my! body!

the genderfuckery of it all. im a boy in a girl way and a girl in a boy way and my gender and faith are so incredibly intertwined.

its fun to play around with different color combinations and styles! i genuinely find it to be like. a fun little challenge to see how i can style something different about my look every day. like an online dress up game where you drag and drop the clothes onto a static doll. yes i am autistic why do you ask

on the note of gender again, it really helps me connect with the girl part(s) of my identity, something i had suppressed for a long time in trying to fit in with other trans men (a note here: don't really consider myself a trans man anymore. only label im using is boydyke currently. it fits like nothing else ever has)

i won't lie! i feel really beautiful! and i like feeling beautiful!

warmb. roast me like a chicken i love the heat. you can catch me wearing layers in the summer. yes i am anemic why do you ask

this is very specific but babies and little kids LOVE IT. especially when i'm wearing jersey fabric. so many are very curious and like to play with the fabric! have gotten slobbered on plenty of times. this is okay. they are children

sensory heaven. i am in my own little bubble and most people dont even look at me let alone speak to me. those who do are usually muslim themselves and will greet me warmly, because like, that's what we do!

#thought bubble #this is perfectly fine to rb but also i can not imagine either of my two (2) current followers want to dahjahfdg

[genderqueerdykes]

Was hoping for a bit of advice. i have this neighbor in my building who is a 9 (?) yr old girl and shes been oddly transphobic to me ever since i corrected her about my pronouns once. Now she always asks me 'Are you a girl?' whenever she sees me and has starting suggesting im lying about being a guy and 'maybe im really a girl after all!' and her mom does nothing to correct her despite using the proper pronouns for me herself. im pretty androgynous presenting when i dont wear makeup, but i dont want to change how i present just cause this kid cant mind her own business, but i dont wanna be a dick to her either. what should i do? its pretty much impossible to avoid her completely :<

Hello there. Sorry you're being randomly interrogated by your neighbor, I understand that must feel weird.

Sometimes kids have insatiable curiosity. They may feel like they need an answer- a lot of the time kids really do not like being left without a concrete answer. If you haven't told the kid what your gender is, they may be confused or just feel like they need to know what's going on

It doesn't feel good either way, regardless of whether or not the kid is being malicious or just curious. If you ever happen to notice their parent or guardian it would be worth pulling them aside to let them know. If you can't do that I would encourage you to tell them to stop asking you, and that it's not polite and that it makes you uncomfortable. You can also tell them that you will not answer that question/those questions if they ask them again, you have the right to just not answer or to double down and give them the same answer as you did before

You can also choose to be honest how you identify, I would recommend doing anything that involves telling the truth. I can't really encourage lying to a kid in this instance. I would honestly go with telling them that t makes you uncomfortable, it could potentially help them realize to not ask other people that kind of question as well. Good luck, hope things improve. Stay safe -K

#asks #answers

[understandingbimbos]

years later (and it hurts me to say this, but it has been years) i think one of the things that annoyed me the most about bimbotok (besides the blatant spread of misinformation, making a joke of feminism, and spreading harmful ideas+content to minors...) was the flattening of the bimbo aesthetic to a bad ariana grande impression and a poor implementation (and misunderstanding) of y2k fashion.

you see it in spades on tumblr now, even with the blocked tags. "female manipulator," "coquette aesthetic," "dollete core," "girl interrupted syndrome," lana del rey, it's all nonsense that for some reason has gotten wrapped up with and conflated with bimboism.

i read a not terrible article on bimbo-couture about bimbotok and gatekeeping. it deals with the irl bimbo community which, as i've been saying, is not my forte but it bleeds over and in our failure to gatekeep bimbofication (and bimbos) we've just let it be pigenholed in a different ways by others. bimbofication is not more diverse or varied now its just a vague mess of gender essentialism and like, eating disorder chic. all these girls talk about how they're porcelain dolls and soft little fertile white lambs. they listen to lana del rey and glamorize abusive relationships, mindlessly buying into consumerism as their birthright. it's garbage.

im not saying the kink community as is was alright but at least it was catering to adult women about adult things, and "bimbo" meant "bimbo". now "bimbo" means "hot girl" and all girls are "hot" because all girls are beautiful. to be a girl is to be beautiful, and if you're not beautiful you're not a girl. this is where we're at. this is what it's come down to. "on wednesdays we wear pink," because that's what girls do. that's bimbo. because bimbo = girl.

its seriously infuriating. at least when bimbo was being used as a pejorative or just completely fully associated with fetishism there was a distinction, there was an understanding that's been obscured now. for those of us this matters to, you could name a character or person who wasn't blonde and never wore pink and had the smallest tits in the world as an example of a bimbo and this would be ubiquitously understood. because we knew it wasnt just blonde and pink. or blonde and tits. or "girl". we understood bimbo to mean stupid, sexual, playful -- regardless of what form it took, a bimbo by any other name. not just "hot" but flirty. not just dumb but fun, frivolous, the party girl.

it feels like that's been lost now and the result hasn't been more bimbos in more styles doing more things but less bimbos in less styles doing less things. and its been like that for 5 years now. here's to 2025.

#understandingbimbos #bimbotxt #bimb0fication #bimboization #b1mbo #bimb0 #bimboism #bimbohood #bimboification #bimbification #bimboz #bimbocore #bimbo tf #transformation #bimbo theory

[cock-holliday]

hey! genuine question, ive only seen the flag you have in your icon called the “butch lesbian flag” and i see that you say in your bio

do you also consider yourself lesbian? or are non-lesbians allowed to use the flag?

i ask because im butch but not lesbian and idk if i can use that flag

So, I for years would put the bi flag behind a character, as a headcanon or they WERE bi or because I just felt like it. I changed my icon to Van from Yellowjackets and, confident she would NOT ID as bi, it felt odd to put the flag behind her even if it was MY identity. So I put a shared one: butch.

Now, there’s lots of lesbian flags, trans inclusive or exclusive, there is the labrys, with all its complicated history and imagery. And there’s two butch flags. This one, which stresses butch lesbian:

And this one, which tends to either say butch lesbian or butch on its own:

I liked it, for its similarity to the Bear Flag, another group of shunned and complicated queer mascs.

Do I identify with the term lesbian?

Yes and no. I identify with it for the fact that many people have used it how I use bisexual throughout history, as for many it was more adjacent to “sapphic” or “likes women in a gay way.” There are male lesbians and bi lesbians and nb lesbians and lots of ways to be a lesbian. Some used the label AS a gender.

In many ways I identify with it, in others, the label makes me feel distant from another part of myself. My attraction to men would often be assumed absent if I used lesbian INSTEAD of bisexual, regardless of it I or others used it that way. So I hover on the cusp of the term lesbian and reach for bisexual first, sometimes only.

Now, words like dyke? I get told you cannot reclaim it if you aren’t a capital L Lesbian. But I’ve been called it. Plenty. I would attend dyke marches. The Boston Dyke March explicitly included bi dykes in their definition. Frankly, they said anyone who identifies with being a dyke is welcome to call themselves one.

So what about butch? I tell people to read it all the time but I went and copied the full opening essay of Butch Is A Noun titled “I Know What Butch Is” and will add it under the cut.

But long story (essay) short, if you identify with butchness, congrats, you’re a butch, and can use the butch flag.

I know what butch is. I know, and I’m going to tell you, so listen up and take notes. First of all, butch is a noun. And an adjective. And a verb.

Butches only ever wear jeans and boots, except if they’re wearing suits, and they keep their hair clipped down to a flattop you could putt off. Except if they have to for work. Or if they want to for sex. Or if they want to for some other reason. But otherwise it’s denim and leather and butch wax, kid, and don’t you forget it. Unless you’re vegan.

Toughness, even at the expense of gentleness, is a butch trait. Butches are outlaws. Also gentlemen. Gentlemen who open doors and pick up checks and say “after you” and hold your umbrella over you in the rain while the water drips down their sleeves. But butches not gentlemen if being a gentleman means imposing on the unsuspecting their sexist modes of acting out the cultural paradigm of the helplessness of women. Except if the unsuspecting are crying and need a handkerchief, or elderly and need a seat to sit down in, then it’s all right. Probably. But butches should never wait for a femme to tell them specifically that it is all right to behave in a gentlemanly fashion, they should just go ahead and do it because femmes like a butch with confidence, unless it turns out that she finds it offensive and feels as though you have imposed your gender fetish on her, you arrogant bastard.

And butches are monosyllabic, until you get to know them, which they will not allow but want, or will allow and want, or will allow but don’t want, or won’t allow and don’t want, so you may or may not get to know them, but you should try, or not. But butches are monosyllabic because all that talking is girl stuff, you know? Butches grunt in answer to questions; they speak sharply and emphatically. They do not share, process, or explain because these are activities that bring nothing but trouble, unless they are bringing relief to the troubled heart of a butch carrying around too much hurt or pain, though butches do not actually feel pain; they’re tough enough to either slough it off like dead skin or deal with all of that themselves. Unless someone wants for them to be emotionally available, in which case they can feel their feelings even though the presence of feelings is suspect in the first place, but they must stop immediately as soon as someone else is having a tough time so that all their resources can be directed to soothing that person.

I know what butch is. Butches are not beginner FTMs, except that sometimes they are, but it’s not a continuum except when it is. Butch is not a trans identity unless the butch in questions says it is, in which case it is, unless the tranny in question says it isn’t, in which case it’s not. There is no such thing as butch flight, no matter what the femmes or elders say, unless saying that invalidates the opinions of femmes in a sexist fashion or the opinions of elders in an ageist fashion. Or if they’re right. But they are not, because butch and transgender are the same thing with different names, except that butch is not a trans identity, unless it is; see above.

Butches are always tops. They always fuck the girls, and, for that matter, their partners are always girls; there is no such thing as a butch who is attracted to men. Well, transmen, but that’s just butch-on-butch repackaged as faggotry. But no non-trans-men. Unless the butch in question is a non-trans-man, then it’s okay. Except that non-trans-men cannot be butches, because butch is a queering of gender that assigned-male people cannot embody, unless they occasionally can, in which case they have to be gay men. Or the partners of femmes. Or not. But no one with an assigned-female body can be a butch and do it with assigned-male men. Unless they’re femmes. Or butches. I’m really putting my foot down on this one.

I know what butch is, and butches definitely, absolutely, do not get fucked, even if it feels so good to have someone slide in sweet and hard and rock them just right. They might eat pussy but they never suck cock, because licking pussy is chivalry without pants, and, of course, any butch would want to do anything to please the femme in hir life, if there is a femme. Which there has to be, in order to be a true butch, except if there does not have to be, but you cannot be a misogynist about it either, which a lack of interest in femmes and their attendant delights may be read as—if there is a lack, which there shouldn’t be. But anyway, cocksucking is about ownership and dominance, so butches must always be the ones having their cocks sucked, unless the owner of the cock being sucked by a butch is tied to something, but if a butch were tying down someone with a cock of some variety then the above rule would quite likely be violated, and I think I’ve been very clear about that, so never mind.

Butch has a lot of privilege because butches pass as men a lot, and butches also have a lot of privilege in the queer community because butch reads as queer and femme doesn’t always, and being able to pass to keep one’s self safe isn’t privilege if you’re a femme but it is if you’re a butch. Unless this is a butch who can pass as a heteronormative woman, in which case ze’s not really a butch anyway because no butch could do such a thing. Except that some of them can and also having kids really helps, even though no butch could have kids because of the rule about not getting fucked and also because that’s a femme’s job, but not everyone really understood their butchness all the way along and also sometimes there are fertility issues and also sometimes there’s not a femme so we’ll grandfather in some children but we’ll be suspicious of those butches. Unless they’re really great butch dads of whatever sex, in which case we’ll think it’s the damn cutest thing in the world and punch them on the arm, or if they’re awesome butch moms we’ll make approving comments about their ability to raise feminist men, but otherwise no children and no heteronormativity for sure, except for assigned male butches who do not exist.

Besides all of that, the butch pays. If there’s only one butch on the date. Unless the femme wants to. If there’s a femme present. If there’s a femme present, the butch pays unless hir paying would upset the femme or unless it creates class issues for the butch or patriarchy issues for the femme. Or if it’s two butches on a date, which they shouldn’t be. Or they should. In any case, they arm-wrestle for it. Except in such situations in which a public display of aggression on the part of butches, or an interaction which may be read as such, could potentially be detrimental to the community, to the mental health of those witnessing the act, to the butches themselves for feeling compelled to act out normative masculine-gendered conflict-resolution tactics, or to the glassware of the dining establishment, which so often gets broken. But otherwise, the butch always pays, and there’s just no getting around that.

I know what butch is. Butches are a brotherhood, or possibly a sisterhood, which would be a marvelous way to reclaim butch’s roots in the lesbian community except some butches were never part of the lesbian community and some were but aren’t any more, but placing masculine identities on butches is disrespectful, except when it’s desirable, but anyway, butches are a tribe, a tribe of people who have been maligned endlessly for, and in fact forged an identity in part out of, not fitting the gendered expectations of the culture in which they exist (until or unless they work to pass as men, which always or never or sometimes happens and is absolutely a great or problematic thing), so butches are very open to gendered variations in others and would never, ever try to make another butch feel like shit for having displayed a behavior which does not fit the microculture’s standard of what it means to be a butch, which is a useful or idealized or ridiculous or just plain complicated standard, so it should be adhered to, or critiqued, or aspired to, or not. Butches would also certainly never try to school younger butches in ways that are angry and dangerous because they feel like the process of toughening has disappeared from modern culture and butches need to be tough, dammit. Butches who do those sorts of things either are Real Butches or are Not Real Butches, depending who you ask.

There, that should be perfectly clear.

#ask #anon ask #butch #butch is a noun #I know what butch is

[royalsealy]

Hi! I just wanted to say I'm really appreciative of you posting. I've loved lolita fashion for years, and I've started actually buying pieces recently, but I'm frankly intimidated to wear them outside. I'm a big guy with facial hair and I really don't fit the dainty ideal, but I love the frills regardless. How do you work up the courage to go out in a dress with facial hair? Do you have any tips for masculine presenting people who want to safely and confidently wear lolita outside and find community?

Hi! Thank you for reaching out and glad to hear that you're taking the first steps into wearing lolita fashion. As a guy/person with facial hair I understand the complicated feelings that can come along with wearing a more feminine fashion while having body hair.

The biggest tips I would have would be doing what makes you feel the most confident and comfortable, especially in the beginning as youre gaining footing into the style. Over time the more you wear/do something, the more your comfort and confidence grows as well as your knowledge in that area, and you may feel more comfortable in messing around with things like presentation as time goes on.

For some people that's shaving in the beginning and then working their way up to keeping their facial or body hair, for other people that's wearing a fashion mask.

Recognizing that facial/body hair is genetic and not tied to sex/gender also helps a lot! I come from a family of fairly hairy people, we naturally have dark hair so it was not unusual for me growing up to see the women in my life with body hair at one point or another (and unfortunately all the wild hair removal products of the 90s-00s - some scents still trigger my fight or flight response lol).

I think this is also why from my perspective, body hair is not inherently masculine or feminine, just like someone's height or hair color it is an attribute of someone but not defining.

Here are the things I do personally:

face/fashion masks in public always help. Especially if I need to use a restroom for whatever reason, or if im unfamiliar with how these areas interact with gender non conforming people. On that note general safety applies. Be mindful of using alleyways or small offbeat street paths. If I'm going somewhere new and I don't know how the area treats visibly gender non comforming people I tend to be more cautious. Picking a less busy time of day can also be beneficial, my first time wearing lolita fashion in public I went to a cafe at around 6-7 am on a weekend so I came across relatively few people. I also had my partner with me as a support person, which I highly recommend if possible.

Keeping things well groomed. I love my mustache, so for this I tend to trim any flyaways, any pieces that would normally hang over my lip or on the sides that would go below the top lip I trim. In terms of beards the same applies, trimming things to be more uniform or tight fits more with my personal aesthetics, removing any stray/random hairs will do a lot to make a coord feel more polished.

safety in numbers. If I'm going out in lolita especially in the beginning I would have my partner go out with me, or meet up with others in my community, which ties into your last question.

When it comes to community this one can be more tricky and it really is a gamble. I'm really lucky, the communities I'm a part of have people in them that identify and present in a variety of ways, so I feel safe and comfortable around them. Having gnc people there also does a lot to make others feel more comfortable, some people will define femininity very strictly to the point where it can suffocate others, by having others nearby messing with these boundaries it can allow those to experiment with less fear, it also wards off anyone that isn't accepting that people will naturally look and wear the fashion differently.

I'll say when entering a community, it is always helpful to have an open mind and be open to conversation even if it's awkward. General conversation skills help- asking questions, listening with genuine curiousity/interest to get to know those in your community does a lot to build safety and trust on all sides.

The nice thing about lolita fashion is it has a history that we can look back on - men have always been a part of the fashion, going through old archives and looking through GLBs, it's not uncommon to find people who identify/identified as men or were more ambiguous in identity. Pretending otherwise is just factually incorrect, and watching old footage of meets especially older Lovely Lor videos where she interacts with and showcases members in her old California community we can see lolita fashion enthusiasts across various identities and expressions.

TLDR; take comfort in knowing that regardless of gender identity, there are people who will share similar attributes and characteristics like size or body hair and that doesn't make them (or you!) any less welcome! Having someone to go out with or going to less traveled areas in the beginning can help grow confidence, and as far as communities go just do your best, sometimes we get lucky with our local communities and other times we have to seek people out whether it's using online forums or discord

I hope this was able to help with any questions or worries you may have had, let me know if something is unclear!

#i hope this helps! i tried to be really thoughtful in my response so hopefully my thoughts come through clearly #also thank you for asking/reading! #egl community #lolita community #egl comm #fallen petals #lolita fashion #egl #asks

[someone1348]

forgive me if I'm doing this wrong lol but could I request the rottmnt brothers tickling the reader after they realize the reader has been dropping hints that they want to be tickled?? love you fam 💜💜💜

HIII! I'm so sorry this is so late but I hope you enjoy regardless my friend!

I think im running out of gifs so if we get repeats I apologize lol!

Anyways!

The people in this: Lee!Reader, Ler!Turtles (Sepreate! And Established relationship!)

G/N (gender neutral) reader as always! :]

(N/n)= Nickname

Tw: wearing a crop top, other than that none but this is a tickle fic so if you don't like it, don't read it! :] /pos

With all of that being said Enjoyy!

-K :]

____________~☆°♡°☆°♡°☆~_____________

Leo!:

It started with some light poking. When he didn't budge to that, you stepped it up a bit to little scribbles and when THAT didn't work you decided to lay across him and see what happens.

"Clingy day, huh? Well, lucky for you! Leon's a huge cuddle monster!" He wrapped you up into a beautiful hug, which if you weren't in this situation would have felt like heaven, but it really made it worse. His hands were so close to your tickle spots, but so far!

You let out a sigh as he tilted his head when looking at you in question

"What's up baby?"

"Nohothingg"

It finally clicked, after all of that time! How did he not see it before! That confused face turned into a smirk quickly as he started to lightly trace your sides "Lee mood?"

"Leheo!"

"I've got you giggles~" he began to skitter his tickly fingers all over your tickle spots, satisfying what you've hinted at all day!

"Im gonna getcha'!~" He giggled along with you as he moved to your worst spot

"LEHEHEOHOHO!"

"Hehey! You asked for this!" He smirked blowing a quick raspberry to your tickle spot, continuing until he's seen you've had enough, rubbing the ghost tickles away "How are you feeling now giggles?~"

"Behehetter"

"I'm always happy to help" he smiled and pulled you in for another Leo hug.

All you've wanted all day was to get wrecked. You woke up, and it started, that all to well known feeling spread across your body as you sighed. 'What to do?' You thought to yourself as you weighed your options.

You choose your loving boyfriend as your target. He was easy to crack, just mess with his stuff and bam! Tickle city here you come!

You smiled walking into his lab to pay him a nice vist "Heyy D!"

"Afternoon Dove, what a treat, you stopping by" he smiled putting his goggles back on and went back to work "Unfortunately I am busy though dove if you don't mind waiting I will be with you in a moment"

You nodded before smirking 'no way! It's go time!' You quietly waddled over to your boyfriend starting with easy pokes

"Dove" he warned you as you continued moving on to gentle scribbles

"Ihi am very busy dove! What has gotten into yo-" it clicked as he smirked, what gave it away was you picking up a peice of tech off of his desk

"If you wanted tickles dove, you could've just asked" His smirk grew as he used the two robot hands to place you onto his lap as he began to scribble all over your tickle spots

"You're lucky im such a nice boyfriend, I could've made you ask but I didn't~" he continued moving to your worst spot "Tickletickletickletickle~"

"DOHOHONNIEHEHE!"

"Satisfied?"

"YEHEHES!"

"Excellent" he smiled rubbing the ghost tickles away "Now if you would patiently wait over there giggles I will be with you in just a moment"

"Wihill doho!"

This lee mood was extreme. And desperate times calls for desperate measures! You threw on a cool looking, loose crop top and went over to your boyfriends house.

It was a beautiful day in New York so if anyone else asks about the crop top it was the perfect excuse. Having some of your tickle spots exposed though did not help the situation.

You announced your presence as you entered, and your teddy bear of a boyfriend came running!

"(Y/N)!!- wOahh!" He looked at what you were wearing, and his smile got even bigger "YOU LOOK INCREDIBLE!" He pulled you into a spinning bear hug before putting you down gently

"Thank you Raph!" You gave him a gentle poke to his side but nothing worked. He just giggled and asked if you wanted to watch a movie.

Halfway through the movie you ended up letting out a sigh. He caught it fast and paused the movie. "Are you okay (n/n)?"

You nodded as a blush spread to your face it finally clicked "Oohhhhh!" He smirked as he looked at you again "I should've known from the minute you walked in here!" He giggled before scribbling all over your tickle spots

"RAHaHapHie!"

"Tickletickletickletickle Dawwww the tickle monsters got you now giggles!" He smiled moving to your worst spot

"RAHAHAPH!"

He giggled along with you "You're too cute (y/n)" he stopped once he saw you've had enough. Rubbing the ghost tickles away he held you close,

"Ihim sorry I didn't see it sooner"

"Yohou're all good Honey, I'll try to ask next time, key word, Try!"

'Video games! It was the perfect plan!' You thought to yourself as you challenged Mikey to a Mario kart race.

You had woken up in a lee mood, and it only got worse by the minute! You set everything up perfectly, poking him to throw him off, several rounds and nothing worked even when he lost he was so supportive.

Eventually, you sighed, giving up the sharade. He caught on fast, his confusion turning into a smirk "Does someone want ticklesss?"

His comment did not help, your face got red as you giggled out his name "Mihikey!"

"Come here giggles!-" He wasted no time wrapping you up in a tickle hug, scribbling all over your tickle spots on the now shared bean bag chair "Tickletickletickletickle"

"MIhiKEHeY!"

Mikey giggled "You're so cute! Ah! You make my heart soar (n/n)!" He was being genuine before moving to your worst spot

"MIHIHIKEHEHEY!"

"Dawww my little giggle bug!" He continued until he saw you've had enough "Okahay okay, feeling any better cutie?" He rubbed away the ghost tickles and held you close

"Yehes, thahank you Mihikey"

"Anytime my muse Anytime!" He turned the game off and cuddled you the rest of the night until you had to unfortunately go home.

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I absolutely loved writing this! I hope you all enjoyed it too!

You are loved, you are valued, you are important and you will always be more than good enough! Have a great day everyone you truly deserve it! /p /gen /pos

-K :]

#k writes tk things #rottmnt tickle #rottmnt tickle fic #ler!leo #ler!leonardo #ler!donnie #ler!donatello #ler!raph #ler!raphael #ler!mikey #ler!michaelangelo #lee!reader #rottmnt x reader

[pansyfemme]

hey i just found your blog and wanted to let you know that your gender expression is exactly what i want for myself, but i'm so afraid of getting there.

I identified as nonbinary for four years before I started T and soon after that realized I was just a binary trans man. I used to dress pretty feminine a lot of the time, I used to wear a lot of makeup, jewelry, skirts and dresses, etc and I wasn't ashamed of it. I even would dress up in drag sometimes, and I still have all of that stuff. but I also had really severe dysphoria that was so debilitating. when I started T and first began to pass, I gained a bunch of weight and no longer fit a lot of my feminine clothes. And I stopped dressing feminine at all.

For months I was soaking up the euphoria of now passing as male, it was so amazing and such a huge relief. I liked being masculine a lot of the time, I gradually ended up turning into a bear, and I loved that. But eventually I started to miss my old style, I missed wearing makeup and I missed it all. I started wearing earrings again to work, my boss always comments on them that she loves them, and it makes me happy. But it's not enough.

I have really deeply ingrained internalized homophobia, it's probably something I need to work on but right now I have a lot else on my plate. I live in a blue state, in a progressive city, I've never experienced any LGBT hate personally directed at me, but the fear is still there. I'm also terrified of people assuming I'm nonbinary again, because I know with my heart that isn't me. I'm a man, there is no question to my maleness at all to me. It took me a long time to realize that. Even now that I pass, my dysphoria fears are still there, and I fear that dressing how I want to would cause people to misgender me again, but this time as nonbinary instead of female.

I have a bunch of money in gift cards at this one costume/vintage store I got most of my old stuff at, I want to go and revamp my closet with stuff that fits me now, but I'm so afraid now that I pass as male. I'm afraid of the judgmenet, trying to be a feminine man when I am neither skinny nor hairless.

Do you have any words of advice at all? Looking at the photos in your pinned post, you give me so much gender envy. And we're the same age. I wish I could get to where you are but I have so much fear preventing me. Thank you for your time, hope you are having a wonderful day <3

First of all, thank you for such a sweet honest message. It means a lot that I could be someone you think of to seek advice from.

Given your concerns, i cannot tell you that it's going to be easy. I'm also from a progressive city in a blue state, but even there, i get a lot of rude words shouted from cars, laughs at me, and a lot of hurtful statements pretty reguarly. I also have that issue of people assuming im detranstioning or nonbinary. I'm not saying these things to caution you against it, because I continue to dress the way I do regardless of these things, but I want to be fully honest about how I experience going out in public the way I do. I'm lucky enough to have very supportive friends, teachers and classmates, that are both positive towards, and downright thrilled about the way I present.

I feel very similarly towards my maleness. I identified with various labels in middle and highschool, but remained he/him pronouns and leaned masculine until i realized that perhaps I was just a man who enjoyed presenting femininly. The original transition back to dressing feminine happened while i was still identifying as nonbinary, but already on hrt. For a period of time, i decided to present very differently. I was on hrt, but i shaved all my body hair, wore heavy makeup, and i still had my chest at the time, so i essentially presented as what most would percieve as a cis female but continued to use he/him. This wasn't an act of detransiton, it was actually based on consistant bodyshaming i recieved from another trans person in my life. I'm just spelling this out because at different times in my transiton, i have presented as masculine, feminine, androgynous and something in between both before and after medical transiton. I still have days I choose to take on a more masculine apperance in public for various reasons, though I no longer have the ability to pass as a cis woman. I believe that gender presentation is fully fluid, and I've become pretty comfortable moving between different states of being even when my idenity remains static. What you are percieved as externally has very little to do with your internal idenity, and being fluid in presentation doesn't mean your personal identity is fluid.

For me, the best ways I could manage presenting the way I do is the fact that I have a personal network of people who are very confidently supportive of my choices, as well as seeing a regular therapist who encouraged my crossdressing after seeing how happy it made me. You have to be aware that even if you are already visably queer, this will increase it signifigantly. Queer visability can be good, and theres no way to entirely turn off your visability, but understanding that dressing like this can become stressful or anxiety inducing is a big factor. I, for example, never use gendered public restrooms unless i am presenting masculinely. The main positives of dressing this way is that it can feel really genuine. I don't feel like a girl in makeup and skirts, I feel and look like how I am. You'll also notice a decline in people gendering you specifically transmasculinly. Yes, people will assume you're trans, but you will be left to tell people your actual identity. While having they/them used on you can be an issue, I find people ask your pronouns a lot more often when they can't directly assume he/him or she/her. This has led to me gaining a lot of control over my own coming out, and me being able to tell someone my idenity in my words because they can't fit into boxes immediatly. So yes, people may assume you are nonbinary. However, this can manifest in different ways, including people being less likely to assume things as all, if that makes sense.

The issue with being fat and hairy and presenting femininly can manifest in a lot of ways. It's just an assumption that people make that a man who presents femininly must be skinny, hairless, and submissive. The power we have is being able to show people that that isn't reflective of our community. As a guy on here who's gained a lot of following specifically for being a feminine man who is not what people may expect by that description has lead to a lot of people telling me they've experimented a lot more with gender presentation, and that means a lot. I cannot tell you that people will be polite about it. However, I have experienced a lot of love towards me because of those aspects of me as well, and that's really exciting.

I appriciate the ask. sorry it took a few days.

[ellevandersneed]

i have a dress hanging on the back of my door that i havent worn in a while. its a grey plaid pinafore with big black buttons and i like to look at it from time to time. its also been a while since i've shaved my legs, and that's ok. owning and doing do not define being, i simply am. i live as a boy but i also dont. "boy" was given to me and taught to me and for a long time i wasnt happy with it and there are times where i become aware of it and feel terrible dread.

i read in a book recently from an unreliable narrator that what we become depends on what our fathers teach us when they aren't trying to teach us. thats mostly a direct quote, you can look it up. recently ive started questioning the boy thing in me. i am not specifically doing this through transition, which is a different discussion and will happen regardless, but on a sort of deeper level that i have a hard time explaining. it slips into arguments, delcarations, lingering thoughts, bad memories. transition wont fix it but transition isnt meant to fix it its meant to make me feel good, which it will. there is no fixing, just identifying and talking to it, because it is me. i am not broken, im hurt. even now it tells me to take it back, that i can never reveal that im hurt, that i'm breaking the illusion. this is what i mean when i say i live as a boy. the clothes i wear do not define this, the way i treat my body does not define this, the words you may call me do not define this. i define this.

as i work back the layers of this boy thing in me, i find something else. within me lies a deep ocean. there's a song i like that talks about it. i dont think the boy thing in me was put there to hide this ocean. sometimes people do things to you with intent but unaware of the deeper meaning behind their action. anyway, the ocean. it doesn't have a gender. it is not my gender. the ocean is simply there, and i am simply a vessel grand enough to hold it. i am still discovering what it means, and i think i will always be discovering what it means. as i come back to the present, i look at my grey plaid pinafore dress with big black buttons and wonder when i will wear it again. on the beach, maybe, by the ocean. the water will lap at my ankles, and it will feel like home

#some thoughts #trans

[gadunkie]

spiderverse 2 sucked shit and was performative twitter.com fuckery. hi reddit in this rant Im going to talk about why I think the second spiderverse movie gave me a queasy uneasy feeling after I left the theater. spoiler warning and all that.

Ive been seeing a lot of praise for this movie lately and a lot of fan stuff and while that is cool I think spiderverse 2 really doesnt deserve it. to me it feels like baffling performative bullshit where they checked off certain "woke" categories and forgot about everything else. Im bad at formulating rant posts so Im just gonna randomly bring up my feelings on certain things.

ok so first of all the number one thing that pissed me off was the in-movie dialogue of people telling miles, the first black spider-man, that he was never supposed to be spider-man in the first place. that is incredibly tone deaf, especially when the first movie's message was that anyone could be a hero, regardless of who you are. you could argue that this story beat is used to reinforce that message being that miles' reaction to that line is rejection and finding his own way to become spider-man after all. but thats stupid because, again, anyone could be a hero no matter what, even if theyre not supposed to be 'canonically' a spider-man. what this tells me is that theyre going for the same fucking message, again, but this time its padded out in 2 movies rather than the one that weve already seen.

second, and this one was much more brief, there was a disabled spider-man amidst the roster of the multiverse spider-mans whose only line of dialogue was making fun of their own disability. thats some travis mcelroy bullshit, I thought we were past the point of making disabled character's only personality being their disability. to me that was also incredibly tone deaf and just completely unneeded.

third, there was an Indian spider-man by the name Pavitr Prabhakar whose only personality was that he was Indian. of course theres nothing wrong with Indian culture or just being an Indian person, but to me its like if they had a Japanese spider-man and made them only talk about katanas and sushi. theres no way that indian people act like that and constantly boost about their own nation, it just rubs me the wrong way and makes them feel less human.

fourth, that "gwen is trans" shit is utter queerbait, I cant believe anyone is fucking falling for this shit. it literally infuriates me that I see fellow queer people look at the most basic off to the side decoration in a room / police officer's uniform and jump to the conclusion that what we are seeing is trans representation. like sure she could be trans! but it can also be read as her just being an ally, same with her father. "what ally has a trans flag in there room?" are you fucking kidding me? like are you being serious? hey heres famous content creator Ludwig, who is cis and has a trans flag in his room:

fucking anyone, literally anyone could have trans iconography anywhere in their house regardless of their gender. side bonus, heres how you can have a real confirmed trans character in your art without it being bait! - have them taking transition medication in a scene - have them wear gender affirming clothing, like chest binders - have them tell another character that theyre trans - have them literally look into the camera and say "Im trans." crazy how easy it is to do all of these things and yet gwen did none of it! dont fucking search for crumbs and pretend that its a feast.

fifth, theres a character called spider-punk who goes by Hobie and his entire character is being a punk and making fun of The Establishment™ and Capitalism™. I thought he was dumb because it just reminded me that anti-capitalism is just a form of entertainment now and not a real message to start a change.

sixth, there was so much fucking nostalgia pandering and repetitive dialogue. there were many scenes showing footage of older movies, cartoons, or real life actors that were only there to be pointed at the screen by audiences. next, the dialogue was so expository that any time miles' parents were on screen they would only talk about miles and how worried they were about him. I swear to god that 70% of spider-man 2099s dialogue was about his disturbed past and wanting to capture miles. at several times throughout the movie I thought "ok I get it" and hoped that were was something new to be seen in the next 5 minutes, which wasnt the case most of the time.

seventh, evil miles was fucking stupid. you cant just reveal such an easy counterpart villain and expect me to believe that he has any bearing on the story whatsoever. that shit was so laughably bad that I can easily imagine him getting defeated in the same old hero vs villain shit in the next movie. here let me have some fun and say that miles is going to do the most predictable "Im going to fix you to become good" trope only for evil miles to deny it and fuck off forever in some weird way.

anyway this post is already too fucking long so Im just gonna add personal peeves onto it because Im on a roll. I had a hard time paying attention to several fight scenes because they were mixing with too many visual styles, like the vulture scene at the beginning of the movie was too disorienting for me. I think there shouldve been subtitles, sometimes characters were inaudible for me and the audio mixing during some scenes didnt help either, unless there was a slow moment in the film I just couldnt understand what the characters were saying.

I thought the movie sucked so bad that what they got right in certain aspects (cast diversity, parent and child struggles, etc.) felt like nothing to me after how they treated the parts that Ive listed. its like they fucking checked off a Progressive Bingo Sheet and left everything else in the dust.

I left the theater disappointed and feeling worthless because all I felt was that these movies were just trying to sell me something and didnt push for a change like the first one did. what a fucking shit show.

conclusions. if you liked the movie, awesome Im glad, and you should decide for yourself how you feel about it and what it means to you. Im simply just putting my frustrations into a little text post because that is how I feel. Im not in charge of your enjoyment and you should decide that on your own regardless of my opinions. be responsible with your enjoyment.

but I wont, if you try to argue with me on any of these topics then Im blocking you forever and if you dare type "let people enjoy things" on my post then Im killing you,

#gadunka is fucking pissed

[bluravenite]

So i hadn't seen the original post since I try not to be too active here but... Im going to list off references just as a reminder 🫶 !!

A tumblr user in the ghost fandom posted about their opinion that people shouldn't write or draw dewdrop and copia as trans or emotionally complex characters. Their reasoning being:

Here's the link to the og post as well as a great reply from media nocte, which i think VERY well sums up the general argument here. "Get fucked OP."

Also this wonderful response by leafy, my love...

As well as syringe's post which even lists Tobias Forge's opinions, which OP said the papas were 'his super secret fight club level identity' which if it were true, he wouldn't be accepting Ghost band awards as himself nor with his family, nor openly interviewing about it... If it was so secret...

Tobias has even been open about other characters of his (such as Mary Goore, as mentioned per an interview) used they/them pronouns even if not INHERENTLY trans or non-binary.

He's always been openly accepting of people regardless of their gender or sexuality (this isn't to idolize him, just stating my knowledge of his values.)

My last point to op?? Here's what those "trans" people think about mine and other works.

I know i have more personal conversations with people where we have discussed how validating it can be for trans and non-binary people to write, read, explore these characters.

A reminder. Tags exist. Read the fucking tags on a fic, chances are the author wrote trans!dewdrop or "usage of cunt" in the tags or notes, and if they didn't?? It takes 3 seconds to comment "could you please add a trans character content tag please?"

As an artist myself, who originally stuck to the "stage representations of the characters" i the slowly started exploring the way i perceive their stories, how i can make MY OWN ART out of these characters that relates TO ME and MY FEELINGS and likes and opinions and such because THAT is what creativity is about. Taking what the world gives you and making it your own.

I am not trans, i am barely even nonbinary... Labels are scary, half the time i don't know who i am okay? I don't always feel like a girl, i don't always hate my body, sometimes i feel like if i live in this body for just a second longer I'll have to scratch all the skin off and crawl out of it myself... Sometimes i wish i could bind, be flat, have a deeper voice, be more masculine, sometimes i want to wear skirts that are way too short and the pretty corset from renfaire that makes my chest look so puffy and pretty... Sometimes it's nobody's fucking business... And sometimes my characters reflect what i am, what i wanna be, what i am not, and what i may never be. And just like my gender and my body?? It's nobody's fucking business.

In all my niceness and honesty. (Which are starting to run lower every time people say stupid shit in this fandom...)

Get. Fucked. OP.

Now let me get a bit more personal for a moment op... I've the posts saying you "went to a Catholic school"

As someone who grew up going to an All-girls Catholic private school, as my whole family before me had done, here's a little bit of insight.

All the shit they told you?? Yeah it causes trauma, it causes resentment and repression. Feeling disgusted and surprised when this "male character" has "female" genitals? Please ask yourself how you feel about your body first. Your mind. Why do you want to read "gay/bi men doing those activities" but not a trans man enjoying himself just as much? Would it be different if if were a ghoulette? Would it be different if the ghoulettes were the ones doing it?

OP please evaluate yourself before you OPENLY SPEAK for a community that you are not a part of, and if you ever do decide to explore your own repression, sexuality, and gender? Know that you deserve a chance at fucking up and learning about yourself. I say this from personal experiences. Making catholic school your whole personality internalizes that "sinful" feeling. That's probably why you enjoy ghost too... Not to psychoanalyze a random person on the internet but...

Get help.

Thank you.

#raven rants #this sat half finished in my drafts for 3 days bc i didn't have the energy to actually finish it #anyway...

[adhbabey]

Trans stories are cute and sweet but I feel like someone plucked me from a gay little indie horror game and put me in the real world. Because I feel like someone headcannoned me with 15 different genders and put it in a me sandwich.

Like. Trans people experienc tumultuous and hard stories, often with nice endings. It's simple. It's real. A lot of trans people don't think twice about it.

But me? It still doesn't feel real. I don't want to transition, so I don't see myself as trans. But oh, god. My gender sometimes feels like a survival horror game.

Im not cis, I'm not trans, I'm something else. And sometimes it's really easy to be a girl, but sometimes I look in the mirror and just hate what I'm wearing and hate that I have to go out to be someone else.

Im perpetually not here. If it was simple, I'd get to call myself trans and be done with an ordeal of my identity. But I can't view myself that way. It doesn't work like that. It's not a choice to be so complicated.

Im not saying being trans is easy. I'm just in envy of a life where you can face the world knowing who you are, regardless of your struggles and situation.

I just can't be pink, blue and white. I'm the whole goddamn rainbow, and when all those colours become one, it turns black. I wish it was white. The stripe to represent me.

#babey posts #gender #nonbinary #im a girl. but just not all the time. and not in its singularity. #its overwhelming. i don't feel like the white stripe. it's not simple or clean cut. #being nonbinary makes me isolated from being both cis and trans #i just feel different. i don't want to transition. i just want to be me.

[strikersexhaver]

Can I have a male Baldur’s gate 3 matchup plz (ik ur bio says you haven’t gotten far in the game I’m willing to wait till you know the characters better if that helps)

Gender: cis female

Pronouns: she/her

Sexuality: heterosexual ally

Zodiac: Capricorn

Appearance: 5’2 African American hourglass body (although I’m more top heavy if you know what i mean) black curly wavy hair blackish brown eyes chubby cheeks wears glasses sometimes (im far sighted so it’s usually when driving in class or at the theater)

Mbti: infj

Enneagram: 2w1

Personality: kind smart funny motherly responsible empathetic anxious emotional moody perfectionist helpful people pleaser caring compassionate nerdy curious protective polite respectful indecisive fearful nervous introvert shy awkward clumsy low self esteem low confidence (more pertaining to my talents or personality then my looks) sassy sarcastic (I’m mainly these things with people i feel comfortable with like friends or family) soft spoken cute (my friends think im cute because i can be pretty innocent plus I’m small physically)

Likes: animals books reading writing fantasy magic sci fi anime music video games friends alone time learning personality quizzes sweets and bread helping being a part of something bigger than myself

Dislikes: spiders loud sounds people who harm others people who don’t take others into consideration (like make insensitive jokes or don’t consider the comfort of others or are mean just cause they can) people i care about not caring for themselves (im a hypocrite on this i take care of everyone else but not me) not being listened to weird holes and patterns math and tests (I’m being tested for a math disability and i have test anxiety)

Love language:

Giving: acts of service gift giving and physical affection (if they’re ok with it)

Receiving: words of affirmation and physical affection (although i can be shy about it)

Extra: i pace a lot i sing when im alone i talk to myself im a picky eater (mainly with textures) i have a cat i have minor ehlers danalos (a hyper mobility disorder) but it doesn’t hurt me like it does my sisters i get abdominal migraines which is basically like a migraine but instead of headaches it’s nausea

Thank you

I match you with…

Master Halsin 🐻

Like you, he is very against the idea or prospect harming of others in any way. Physical, mental, or even ignoring someone.

That goes for animals as well!

Anyone who respects nature or animals is a friend in his book.

Oh and he won’t force you to ‘face your fear’ of spiders. They’re not for everyone and he knows that. (Me too, I got ops with them things)

He’ll gently guide them out your way though if any pass by.

Especially those who take time out of their day to be nice to others, regardless of what they look like.

Albeit, even if he is the First Druid, he can always understand shyness. You’re not the first person he’s met to be introverted or shy- so he knows how to approach you.

Also as a healer, he can probably assist you with the nausea in some regards.

Via healing spells mostly, and if that doesn’t work there can be more realistic ways to help.

He’d also appreciate having someone who can take care of others while he’s away, someone to hold down the fort.

Granted, he doesn’t expect you to one up people like Kagha. No- he means just to assist those in need.

He’s more than willing to help you out in any way possible.

He’d also be reminding you to take care of yourself, in and out of battle.

You’d be apart of his nature, he’d make sure you’re growing instead of wilting.

(A/N) might be OOC, I’ve only ever had villainous runs. Blame Astarion, Lae’zel and my Durge😭 hope you like it tho!

#master halsin #halsin #halsin bg3 #halsin baldur's gate 3 #baldurs gate #baldurs gate fanfic #baldurs gate iii #bg3 #bg3 x reader #bg3 x you #bg3 x tav #halsin x tav #halsin x reader #master halsin x reader #fanfic #fanfic blog #druid halsin

[soymikki]

i think your reigen in a wedding dress is rly cute, but im just curious why you specified that he is transmasc in the drawing? wouldnt that be a little,,, idk invalidating? for him? i rly hope im not coming off as weird i just want to know! thank you <3

On one hand I didn't expect an ask like this, on the other I probably should have in hindsight. Either way, I'll do my best to inform since you're asking out of genuine curiosity rather than Malice.

Short Answer: I am a transmasc dude with boobs who doesn't take testosterone. And I project on Reigen. A lot.

Long Answer: I headcanon Reigen as transmasc for a variety of reasons outside of him being my favorite guy. He's someone who lies and tries to hide his true self bc he feels like if people find out who he really is, they'll hate him. This is Very Relatable to many trans folks, which is why transmasc Reigen is fairly popular from my understanding.

It is to be noted though that Reigen will wear women's clothing if the need rises for it, and not only does he do it without a hint of discomfort, he almost seems to revel in it. It's casual to him. It's another performance, sure, but it's one he's not afraid of.

The wedding dress art I made is specifically for a fic I'm writing, where Reigen and Serizawa have to hold a fake wedding to draw out an evil bride spirit and exorcise her. Reigen is also transmasc in this, and I've made it so he hasn't had top surgery, instead binding, though he does take Testosterone.

It's another thing Reigen feels like he has to hide about himself, but that's not actually true. He's surrounded by people who respect his identity, even decked out in Bridal wear he's still Reigen. Unless he says otherwise, he's still a man, and the people around him understand that.

Now, this kind of thing isn't for everyone, and that's okay. I don't want it to be for everyone. I made this art and am writing that fic because I want to.

I don't mean to get serious about the "Reigen Wedding Dress" ask, but like...It's hard being trans on any part in or outside of the gender spectrum. So if I can find joy in what I make and put what makes me happy in it, I'm going to do it. Because I made it for me first over anyone else.

Reigen in the wedding dress is my gender euphoria, okay? This is my ideal. It is validating specifically to ME, the guy who is projecting his genderisms onto Reigen Arataka, internet sex symbol and number 3 Tumblr Sexyman. That I could go out and still be seen as the gender I want to be seen as regardless of how I look, without having to get top surgery or be on testosterone. And that isn't for everybody! Not even for all transmascs! But it is for me, and for people who are like me and feel that way too. And that's all I need it to be for.

I hope that explained things? In any case I hope you now know trans folks don't all medically transition for a variety of reasons and are fine and even happy that way. Its been that way for millenia, though the trans folks that find joy in medical transition are just as valid and deserving of the gender euphoria they feel as the ones happy with their bodies as is.

Okay I'll end this before it gets any longer. Thanks for the ask anon, hope that cleared things up.

#mikki replies #mikki answers #anon #trans stuff #i stg if i get any tr.nsmeds in my inbox for this i may lose it a little

[transmascore]

hiyo

i wanted to ask if you have any advice for overcoming the thought that i cant be a gay trans man because "what makes gay men gay is the fact that they only like dick and not female parts"

(im sorry if thats rather graphic but this is literally the thing stopping me from acceoting myself or transitioning socially or physically)

Something to keep in mind is that orientation is people-based. The reason gay men date other men is because they're attracted to men themselves - the way they present outwardly, the way they speak, the way they wear their hair. Genitals aren't the only or even the main part of the equation (although they can factor in). There's every other aspect about a person to consider.

I'm T4T (trans for trans) so my attraction to men is framed by that lens. I find I'm attracted to patchy facial hair and androgynous voices - things that signal transmasculinity to me. And, for me, it's because I know I will have things in common with these men. We have shared community, shared experiences. I know I can open up to another trans man and that he will understand me. And, aside from that, I do legitimately feel a strong sense of desire and romantic love when I encounter other trans men. It isn't just safety, but a genuine want to be with them.

And gay men, regardless of AGAB, feel pretty much the same way across the board. It's attraction to little details here and there, as well as the entire person, and it's also that sense of relating to one another on the basis of queerness. Knowing that you can be yourself around this person.

Now, sure, men looking for a quick hookup on Grindr aren't in the same headspace as someone looking for an actual relationship. So it's important to keep that in mind. People on hookup apps tend to be rude or chasers (a cis person that fetishizes trans people). But there are also genuine men you'll encounter (regardless of AGAB) that are totally cool with hooking up with a trans guy and aren't weird about it. Everybody's different.

And while some sections of the gay male community can come across as very phallocentric, we (transmascs) have been in those spaces the entire time.

I'll share some gay trans men now.

Billy Lane, who in 1998, WON the Mr. Leather competition:

Lou Sullivan, an activist and author who fought for gay trans men to be recognized by the medical field so we could receive gender affirming care:

Rupert Raj (pansexual rather than gay), who did so many things it's easier for me to just show you than to recap.

Dr. James Berry, an extremely talented surgeon who fought in two wars, was a duelist, and slept with men.

We have always been here, we will always be here, and we are here right now! Even though a lot of our history has been overshadowed and lost to time. 

Also, something I tell every transmasc, especially gay transmascs, is this: When we first come out, first realize who we are, we feel very vulnerable. We want to be seen as people. We want to be validated and comforted. Like Pinnochio, we want someone to tell us "you're a real boy." And, often times, trans men will seek out that validation from cis men, because they view them as some higher authority - a gatekeeper of masculinity that will confirm your identity and metaphorically hand you a Man Card. And a lot of trans men get hurt, have their hearts broken, because they're putting all of their stock into this.

But I'm here to deliver you good news: Transness stands on its own, it doesn't require cis men to prop up the pillars. You are just as much of a man as cis guys are, and their opinion of you is irrelevant. It may not sound true right now - we all go through this initial stage, especially if our dysphoria is bad. But you'll get through it - and once you make it out the other side it is incredible. To expedite the process, best thing you can do is surround yourself with trans art and videos and books and friends.

The other thing, too, is that fear of not being loved. Society can have us believe cruel things about ourselves. That we, transmascs, are not worthy of love. That we're somehow inferior. And that just isn't true - there so many happy, partnered trans men out there. Many of them married! Many of them polyamorous with multiple partners! Many of them who have started families, are fathers!

Don't delay your transition - or call off your transition entirely - because you are afraid of what a future partner might think. People date each other for a reason: because they love each other. You want to find someone who will love you for you, unconditionally. And those people ARE out there. A real partner will be supportive of your endeavors, will be happy to see you comfortable in your own skin. Take care of yourself first, and the rest will come. The pieces will fall into place.

In the meantime, to be kind to yourself. Know that you are enough. Know that you are loveable. Know that you are desirable. Know that you have a future. Know that you don't need permission from anyone to be who you are. And know that you belong! Know that you're gay and you're a man and you're trans and that none of these things contradict one another. They weave together like beautiful threads to form the person that is you. And that there are many people like you - always have been. And if anyone is an asshole about it, ignore them. 

#asks #anonymous