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saltnpepperbunny · 1 hour
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"did you know this media that brings you joy has actually been deemed Objectively Bad and Cringe by the Twitter-and-Amateur-Youtube-Critic Council?" yeah i did i just simply don't let other people's opinions dictate my own. it's one of your mother's favorite things about me
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saltnpepperbunny · 2 hours
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y'all not to doxx myself too hard but irl i have spent some time in my life in mental health recovery, and i am here to tell anyone who needs to hear it that people with multiples & schizophrenia & psychosis & BPD are fun and interesting and lovable people and my friends
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saltnpepperbunny · 3 hours
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you ever feel like you were born with something rotten inside you and if people get close enough they’re gonna find out
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saltnpepperbunny · 2 days
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“You shouldn’t self-ID as ADHD/autistic, you’re turning a very real mental condition into a trend” Ok then stop saying delulu. Stop speculating on which cluster C personality disorder the criminals you hear about on the news have. Stop saying “schizoposting” and “acoustic” and “is it restarted?” Stop using “psycopath” and “sociopath” as catch-all ways of calling someone a bad person. Stop saying “the intrusive thoughts won” when you bleach your hair and then turn your nose up at people who suffer from very real, very scary urges of physical/sexual violence. Stop saying “I’m so OCD” as a way of calling yourself neat. Stop treating BPD/ASPD/Bipolar as inherently abusive. Stop saying “OP I am living in your walls” without tagging for unreality. Stop diagnosing complete strangers you’ve never met on r/AITA with NPD.
You first. If you don’t want our disabilities to be treated like trends then stop belittling and minimising them. I’ll NEVER judge a person for trying find labels for their symptoms when an apathetic, racist, sexist, ableist healthcare system refuses to. But I will absolutely judge a hypocrite. Which a lot of you are
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saltnpepperbunny · 3 days
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Important rules/tips I've learned as an adult that helped with anxiety
If people are mad at you, it's their responsibility to tell you, not your responsibility to guess
If they're mad at you in secret anyways, they're the ones in the wrong, not you
If people don't like what you're doing, it's their responsibility to tell you
If they say it's fine when it's really not, they're the ones in the wrong, not you
People are allowed to be wrong about you
If they are wrong about you, wait for them to bring it up, because if you try to, you will inevitably overcorrect
Some people are committed to misunderstanding you. You will not win arguments against them. Yes, even if you explain your point of view. They do not care. Drop it
The worst thing that will happen from a first-time offense is being told not to do it again. Maybe with a replacement if you broke something
You can improve relationships and gauge willingness to talk to you by giving compliments. It's like a daily log-in bonus and nobody thinks twice about it
Most things are better after you sleep on them
Most things are better after you have a meal
Most things are better after you shower
Your brain makes up consequences that are irrational. If the worst DOES come to pass and someone acts like they do in your head, they are overreacting, and you are entitled to say "what the fuck"
If your chest hurts after you feel like you've made a social error, that's called rejection-sensitive dysphoria. It means your anxiety is so bad that it's causing you physical pain, which is a good indicator that you're overreacting. Tense yourself, hold it for 20 seconds, let it go, then find a distraction
If you're suddenly angry at someone after you feel like you made a social error, that's also rejection-sensitive dysphoria. You are going to feel annoyed about it for awhile, but being genuinely pissed off is your anxiety trying to find something to blame to take the responsibility off your shoulders, and getting scared because it can't justify itself. Deep breaths, ask yourself how much you ACTUALLY want to be angry at that person, then find a distraction
"Sour grapes" is more healthy for you than stewing. Deciding you don't like someone who's perpetually annoyed with you, won't talk to you, etc. makes letting go of anxiety over them easier
If people don't like you, they will find reasons to be annoyed with you when they otherwise wouldn't. If people do like you, they will find reasons NOT to be annoyed with you when they otherwise would. People do not ping-pong between the two
You DO have to make a conscious choice not to think about something. If you're having trouble circling back to it, say out loud that you're done thinking about it and why. Then find a distraction
When you're upset, part of you is going to want to make false bids for attention (suddenly texting differently, heavy sighs, etc. but when someone asks you about it, you tell them it's nothing). Do not listen to it. You gain nothing from it except more misery
People like to help people they care about. It makes them feel good about themselves
If you think you're insufferable for needing help, see above. Yes, really. They get a serotonin kick from it
If you think you're insufferable for mannerisms you have, you either have to consciously choose not to do them, or accept that they're part of the package that comes with you. Being apologetic about existing does nothing except make you more miserable
If you do things you don't like when you feel meh about it, it makes it easier to do them when you hate it
If you avoid things you don't like when you feel meh about it, it reinforces and magnifies how bad it feels when you hate it
Seriously. Read those last two points again. If you can make yourself make a phone call when you've got nothing to lose, you will slowly lose that panic you get when you have to make a phone call you haven't prepared for. You do have to CONSCIOUSLY take that step
Hobbies that make you care for something get rid of that nagging feeling that you're not doing enough. Go grow some rosemary
If you don't engage with your hobbies regularly, you will feel miserable, and anxiety will spike
Hobbies are things that give you a bit of happiness. They do not have to be organized or named to do that. Go be creative in something. Play with coins. Make up lists. Start a new WIP
No one cares what you look like
If people point out things they don't like about how you look unprompted, they are being rude. You are entitled to say "what the fuck"
People who like you will find you pretty to some degree. Minor things about your appearance go completely unnoticed. Literally, scars and dots and blemishes do not register to someone who likes your company
You looking at yourself in the mirror is 10x more closely than anyone is going to look at you
If you're anxious about your body type, and you're creatively inclined, make/write an oc with that same shape. Give them nice things and make other characters love them. Put them on adventures. You'll start to see yourself in the mirror more kindly
You care about wording and perfect lines/colors way more than anyone who views your work ever will
Sometimes when you're upset, you're going to feel like not eating. Do not do that. Not eating makes you more miserable
Same with things you normally enjoy. Denying yourself helps no one. You are punishing yourself for being sad. Stop it
Both of these will take conscious decision to break the habit of. Make yourself do it anyways, and it will slowly get easier
And again, to reiterate: If someone is mad at you, it is THEIR responsibility to tell you, not your responsibility to guess
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saltnpepperbunny · 3 days
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taps the sign. youre allowed to have whatever sex you want and i am not here to persecute anyone but you cannot have it both ways. if you want to brag about your yucky transgressive fetish you do not get to complain when people say "well i think its yucky". if you want to get off to a sexualized form of abuse you do not get to complain when survivors of that abuse go "i dont think i want to be around you". i do not think people should be harrassed about their sex lives but i do firmly believe that INDIVIDUALS are allowed to form OPINIONS about it, even if that opinion is "its gross, i dont want to see it, and i dont want to talk to people who are into it"
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saltnpepperbunny · 3 days
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you don't have to be glad that it's not worse. that goes for everything. disability, trauma, mental illness, grades, finances, whatever. you're /allowed/ to be upset that things are the way they are. you don't have to be grateful for your situation - bad is bad. somebody else's suffering doesn't make yours less painful. it's okay to be angry
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saltnpepperbunny · 4 days
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It’s crazy how low self-worth fucks with peoples lives
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saltnpepperbunny · 4 days
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ok so you support the disabled, disordered, and mentally ill. but are you normal when someone takes long to respond to you? or if they have a hard time listening to you? when someone has a hard time giving you their attention? or when their manners aren’t perfect? or when someone makes mistakes that may be obvious or simple to you? or when someone talks loudly or “causes a scene?” are you normal when people have to think really hard to explain things? or when they have a hard time putting their thoughts into words?
are you normal when people’s hair is unkempt or oily or visibly unbrushed? or when their face might be full of acne? or when they don’t have deodorant on for one reason or another? how about if their clothes are dirty? 
are you normal about disabled/disordered/mentally ill people when they make you a little uncomfortable?
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saltnpepperbunny · 4 days
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i mean what really kills me about the "uhmm your kink is NOT special and NOT immune to critique" shit on here is that actually critiquing and thinking about kink is important to me! and it looks like looking at your desires and scenes and interactions with partners and going "is this something that's bringing me and my partners joy and pleasure? is it sustainable? have we been checking in with one another? what impact is it having on our relationship or as individuals? is it harming us in any ways that haven't been pre-negotiated and accounted for? are our prior negotiated boundaries still in a good place for us currently?" all of which are things that can't be safely encouraged and practiced if the general approach to ~weird~ kinks is "ewwwww re icky ew BAD you're BAD you're a BAD person you're playing the VILLAIN 😠" any time you see somebody having sex a different way than you do. and the reaction lately has been this self righteous over the top "how DARE you accuse me of being a Southern Baptist Republican monster for calling you a degenerate" because these people have nurtured a deep reactionary instinct and brought it into line with their queer identity by adhering to the idea that conservative politics can only ever be espoused by the ontologically monstrous figure of The Republican, and that their glorious vision of a mass return to sexual and social normativity by-force-if-necessary is hallowed and queer
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saltnpepperbunny · 4 days
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So ik this is early but just so y'all know, the current update schedule will be the same in April. I hope recent circumstances will have made it obvious why. We may start increasing the pace in May, we may (lol) not. It will go back up at some point, just a bit hard to say exactly when at the moment. Probably either May, or June at the latest. I might increase one comic back to 2x a week, and increase the other at a later point. Or not, we'll see.
Thanks for your patience and understanding, as well as all the well wishes. You people have been very kind and gracious to me, with leaving all the likes and reblogs and comments, your patience in slow times, and your earnest sympathies in this difficult period. I genuinely appreciate you all. So thanks. <3
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saltnpepperbunny · 5 days
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Sending love to anyone who feels like they don't belong anywhere. Some of the best people struggle to feel like they really belong anywhere. And a lot of people actually sacrifice their own needs and identity in order to fit in somewhere. A lot of people are deeply unsatisfied and unhappy with their communities. What we see on the outside isn't always a reflection of how things really are for people.
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saltnpepperbunny · 5 days
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Doing something bad doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. You aren’t defined by any one thing.
Beating yourself up for the bad thing won’t erase the bad thing. It’s unlikely to help. Moving on, and using your experience to do better in the future, is usually the best thing you can do. It’s more likely to do good for you and others than endlessly beating yourself up.
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saltnpepperbunny · 6 days
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Reminder that the disabled experience is not always a pleasant one. Some days you'll wake up and wish it wasn't yours. And that's OK. I'm with you.
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saltnpepperbunny · 6 days
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I think a funny thing to do would be to just have baseball in your fantasy setting. Completely unchanged if you'd like.
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saltnpepperbunny · 6 days
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the people who stick around to work things out with you are the ones worth loving
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saltnpepperbunny · 6 days
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if upon being told about someones illness/condition, your first thought is to say “have you tried X?” i want you to step back for a moment and think to yourself “if i thought of X after hearing about this condition for the very first time, the person who has this condition very likely has thought of this and possibly tried it already”
we are tired of constantly being told to try the same things by people who didnt know our condition existed five minutes ago.
you dont need to offer any solutions or try to fix us. i know it might seem like a polite thing to do or that it shows you care, there are other ways to show us you care.
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