renukawrites

[renukawrites]

it's natural to want to save something that you've spent so long building. but darling, it wasn't build on the right things. first ask yourself, is it even worth saving? - renuka i. what are you saving? why are you saving it? who benefits from the saving? who suffers from it? make sure you're asking the right questions. follow for more inspirational quotes @renukawrites shop my motivational books and products here your support means so much to me! xo

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[renukawrites]

before you get mad at a loved one for giving you advice, I want you to remember - when someone loves you, they're going to find ways to help you. now, it may not be the best advice, and you certainly don't have to take it. but if they have nothing to say about your life - that's not a parent, a sibling, a cousin, a friend, a significant other. that's a spectator. - renuka i. if I love you, I'm going to care about what happens to you. anyone following you along, and never calling you out on bad decisions, never checking up on whether or not you're reaching your goals, never asking if you're okay - does not care about you. you may think this is the ideal situation - they don't question me, they always agree with me, they never challenge me - but it's not ideal. how can that be true? think about it for a second. follow for more inspirational quotes @renukawrites shop my motivational books and products here your support means so much to me! xo

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[renukawrites]

it doesn't matter how good of a person you are, there are some people who just won't know what to do with it. it doesn't mean they don't recognize it or cherish it (though sometimes that is the case). it just means they're in search of something different than what you're offering. and sometimes it's because they're not ready for it. because they're not done paying their dues in unhealthy patterns. it doesn't have to do with you, it has to do with where they're at in their own healing journey. -renuka i. *does not apply to abusive relationships* remember, we should always hold ourselves accountable for our part in relationships. also, you never want to make excuses for your mistakes or theirs by believing they just weren't ready for you. but in specific cases, this is true. someone who isn't interested in your goodness, is in search of a different kind, or have more work to do in understanding themselves and their role in a connection. follow for more inspirational quotes @renukawrites shop my motivational books and products here. your support means so much! xo

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[renukawrites]

I'm just over here trying to live a peaceful life. and when people disrupt that with drama, I now have two choices: invite the chaos in, then spend my life complaining about it or - not entertain it. sometimes that looks like shutting it down before it has a chance to erupt. sometimes that means not getting involved. no matter the route, YOU set the example for how things unfold. - renuka i. it doesn't have to be a runaway freight train or a snowball that keeps rolling and getting bigger. you have control over it. either you stop the train/the snow ball or you move out of the way and allow it to roll on. protect your peace. follow for more inspirational quotes @renukawrites shop my motivational books and products here your support means so much to me! xo

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[renukawrites]

it's not your job to guide those who aren't interested in being guided. I know, we want to help people, especially our loved ones, be their best version, and/or save them from their circumstances. but if they're in a period of resistance or unwillingness, then they're not ready for what you have to offer them. - renuka i. if they're wallowing, blaming others for their own circumstances, refusing to take responsibility, think their actions aren't problematic - then nothing changes, no matter how hard you try. as much as it hurts to leave them there for now, this is not your battle to fight. follow for more inspirational quotes @renukawrites shop inspirational books and products here. your support means so much to me! xo

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[renukawrites]

what are you waiting for? - renuka i. it's easy to get caught up in the waiting game. we tell ourselves that we'll take action when things aren't so scary or when we're more prepared. but then we get comfortable in this in between state and make more and more excuses to stay here. so ask yourself: what am I waiting for? because sometimes we forget why we're waiting. or sometimes, the point of waiting no longer matters. take action. follow for more inspirational quotes @renukawrites shop my inspirational products and books here. your support means so much to me xo!

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you want to have a conversation? let's have it. but I'm going to need a level of honesty from you that's deeper than the one you were about to come forward with. I don't need to hear what you think I want to hear. what you think sounds good. what you think you should say in a situation like this. I want the truth. unfiltered, raw. it should make you feel things. maybe regret, maybe shame, maybe deep sadness. I want you to talk about the feelings that maybe you shouldn't have felt. but you felt them, and you're owning it. let's have this conversation. because that fear you're having right now... about saying the wrong thing, about screwing this up - it's not going to happen when you speak from a place that's real. - renuka i. if you're overthinking about what to say, worried about how it's going to be received - the best advice is to push the pleasantries aside and be vulnerable. it may not come out right, you may use all the wrong words but the intentions are there. being authentic is always the right path. happy new year, beautiful people! follow for more inspirational quotes @renukawrites shop my inspirational books and products here your support means so much to me! xo

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[renukawrites]

oh, the things I would've done for you. that's how important you were. now I'm doing them for me. that's how important I've become to myself. -renuka i. you don't realize how one-sided a relationship is, how much of your identity you've lost until you leave behind an unhealthy connection. a reminder that you don't need someone else to give you the love and attention that you desire. give it to yourself! what you receive from others becomes a bonus. follow for more inspirational quotes @renukawrites shop my inspirational books and products here your support means so much to me xo

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[renukawrites]

keep going. don't wait. while you forge ahead, those meant for you will either keep up at your pace or meet up with you again somewhere along your path, when they're in alignment. - renuka i. you do not have to wait for people to approve of your life before you're allowed to live it. you do not have to wait for people to want the same things as you before you pursue it. do not put your life on hold for anyone. it'll work out exactly how it needs to with the people who are meant to be there. follow for more inspirational quotes @renukawrites shop my inspirational books and products here. your support means so much to me! xo

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[renukawrites]

the road to destruction will always exist. even good people will have access to this path. but every day, we make the choice not to take it. just because it's available, doesn't mean it should be an option. when you deliberately hurt people, make their lives more difficult, you're making a choice to head down this very path. and if you're not careful, this will become the road most traveled. this is not the person you want to be. - renuka i. sometimes, we make mistakes. but any time you consciously choose to hurt someone, to punish them, to feel satisfaction at the expense of another human being - you've lost sight of what it means to be a good person. is this what you want to be known for? is this the life you want to lead? follow for more inspirational quotes @renukawrites shop my inspirational books and products here your support means so much to me! xo

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relationships require participation. one person can't be doing all the work to compensate for the uneven weight. if you're not contributing equally, you're not in a relationship - you just have someone doing too much for you. does this sound fair? - renuka i. someone is checking up on you, taking care of you, making sure your life is a little easier - and you're taking it and giving them something much less in return. that's not a relationship. and you shouldn't be in it, because you don't value it the same way the other person does. what are you going to do about your treatment of others? follow for more inspirational quotes @renukawrites shop my inspirational books and products here your support means so much to me! xo

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they're okay with losing a spot in you life, but you're still making space for them. this is an imbalance that needs addressing. having your attention is an honour. direct it towards the people in your life who are grateful for it. - renuka i. this isn't the time for unconditional love. by that I mean, you don't have to strip your love for someone, but you certainly don't have to actively give with no reciprocity. change the focus of your time and energy. spend it with people who are seeking to hold a spot in your life. follow for more inspirational quotes @renukawrites shop my inspirational books and products here.

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[renukawrites]

it's okay to be afraid before taking a leap of faith. in this case, fear isn't a bad thing. it means you want something badly enough. but what if you don't get it? as long as it stays a dream, it'll never be crushed. but dreams are meant to be fulfilled. not to float slightly ahead of you for the rest of life. you've got to try. - renuka i. what's the worst that can happen? failure. but failure is nothing but a lesson. you can try again, you can modify your approach or it may be the stepping stone to realizing that there's a whole other dream that you want to invest in instead. take the risk. follow for more inspirational quotes @renukawrites shop my inspirational books and products here.

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[renukawrites]

you're missing something in your life. you can feel it. you owe it to yourself to figure out what it is, who it is, and then find it. because this feeling isn't going to go away. if anything, as time goes on, it'll only build in intensity. until you do something. do not waste your years living a life that's parallel to a better one. living a life that's filled with yearning. that's no way to live. - renuka i. nothing wrong with making choices that worked at the time, but don't work anymore. you don't have to continue living with them though. a fulfilling life is worth making changes for. follow for more inspirational quotes @renukawrites shop my inspirational books and products here.

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[renukawrites]

How much of thinking is overthinking?

great question! I'm not sure if I know the answer, but I'll say this: when we start trying to control the outcome - then perhaps we've gone into "overthinking territory". there's nothing wrong with mulling over a specific situation, and feeling what you need to feel about it. but then catch yourself. allow it to unfold without you trying to manipulate the path. hope this helps! :)

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[renukawrites]

you felt a sense of entitlement, and you took it too far. you thought, this is who I am, people will deal with it. until they stopped dealing with it. they stopped putting up with you altogether. if you're losing people in your life, it's for one of two reasons: you're growing or you're regressing. but if you were surrounded by good people to begin with, chances are - you're the latter. - renuka i. let this be a wake up call to get yourself back on track. your loved ones are going to try with you until they're tired. this is where self preservation should kick in. it's time to get your life back. follow for more inspirational quotes @renukawrites shop my inspirational books and products here.

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[renukawrites]

in a relationship, you should be able to say, "this is the healthiest love I've ever experienced." if you can't say this, keep looking. - renuka i. chemistry is great, compatibility is great, love is great, but what we're looking for now is a relationship that nourishes your soul. one that makes you want to be the best version of you - for this person, and for yourself. do not settle. follow for more inspirational quotes @renukawrites

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