recoverywithanasterisk

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Something I’m learning is that you’ll never change the minds of people who are committed to misunderstanding you. And it isn’t worth my energy.

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it's not overreacting, we all have different levels of sensitivity. if it hurts, it hurts. no explanation needed

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reminder that there is no shame in going back to therapy. difficult situations, feelings and thoughts come up in life. you deserve help to process them.

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Please hold out for a healthy and fulfilling relationship and don’t settle for less.

After years of being ridiculed or yelled at by those close to me when I suddenly could not speak out loud, I am accepted and encouraged by my partner.

Because not only does he accept when I suddenly can’t communicate by speaking out loud, he actually encourages it when he can tell I’m getting overwhelmed. “Hey, I can see this is a lot for you right now. Do you need to not talk?” Which is huge because of the way I was treated, I’ve constantly pushed myself beyond points of comfort to appease others. It led to me pushing beyond points when it would have been better for me to not talk out loud so when he suggests it, it’s a reminder that it’s okay to need to take a break. We now use a text to speech app when I’m unable to speak out loud and he’s so patient and kind. Sometimes he has to rely on trying to communicate with me without the app because I can’t even manage that at that moment in time. And he does. He adapts. He’s learned to communicate with me in different ways.

Sorry for the ramble. I just want you all to know you deserve to be accepted and embraced as you are.

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I’m not sure who needs to hear this but it’s normal and okay to be DISABLED by your DISABILITY.

Sometimes it is going to stop you from doing things, and that’s okay. Sometimes it’s going to get in your way or make you struggle or cause problems in your life. But that’s okay, that’s why it’s called a disability.

You don’t need to fight yourself or “not let it hold you back” because a lot of times it will, but that’s the point.

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Reminder

Your pain (physical/mental/emotional) is valid even if nobody can see it

Your pain is valid even if you have no physical symptoms

Your pain is valid even if there is no physical injury

Your pain is valid even if others tell you it's not

Your pain is valid even if you do not have a life threatening disease

Your pain is valid even if you don't have a diagnosis

Your pain is valid even if you do have a diagnosis

Your pain is still valid even if nobody believes you

Your pain is still valid even if you are too "young" for the problem/issue

Your pain is valid even if the health care advisor/anybody tells you that it's in your head

Your pain is valid no matter what the conditions are

Your pain is valid.

Pain does not discriminate between age, gender, race, nationality etc. Just because you can't see pain, doesn't mean it's not there.

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If therapy did not help you at all, you’re valid.

If therapy made your situation worse, you’re valid.

If you have therapy trauma, you’re valid.

Therapy is often shown as this great thing, and it can be, but please don’t feel invalidated if your therapy experience wasn’t great.

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hey if you ever feel like you're faking your pain/mental illness/any symptoms, or if you feel like no one understands or believes you. i do. i believe you. i love you and i hope you do what you can to take care of yourself <3

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Something we say for comfort is that “it’ll be okay” and that’s valid. I say it, too.

But sometimes what we need to hear is “it’s okay if it’s not okay right now. You’re allowed to feel what you feel. And even if the feelings are uncomfortable, you can get through this”.

So, that’s what I’m saying to you.

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Just because you could be doing better doesn’t mean that you aren’t doing good already.

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Your trauma is valid, even if you reacted in "bad" ways to the things they did to you. You did these things while you were being abused and backed into a corner. Reacting, even in "bad" ways does not make your trauma invalid, or make you deserving of it. You could never deserve it.

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Your trauma is valid even if it came from something people don't typically think of as traumatic.

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If they refuse to see your worth, it doesn’t mean it isn’t there. You are worthy as you are, and their opinions don’t change that.

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Please, don’t settle for a surface level of connection when you know you’re craving depth.