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positivelypositive · 14 days

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Hihihi ! First of all wanna say I love ur page sm ty for posting ur personal motivational messages!! They are always so comforting. <333

I just wanted to rant about my major, since I’m in college and that’s like my whole life right now haha.. I keep struggling with getting bad grades (not failing, but not amazing enough to go to a good graduate school in the future). Even though it’s very common since I’m a STEM major in a fairly tough school/major, it doesn’t stop me from feeling like a failure and that I’ll never get better.. I know that I need to just keep taking steps to improve myself and my grades, but it’s so especially hard when my friends in the class are really complacent, settling for the bad grades and not trying to be creative with ways to improve themselves. They choose to be lazy instead and deal with the consequences by dropping a class or a minor that isn’t easy (relatively). I have one other friend in my major who is as motivated as me to do really well, but she isn’t doing the same minor that I’m aiming to do — so we don’t have those classes in common to relate with and help/motivate each other on. So if I’m struggling in the classes for my minor, I know my friends won’t be much help because they’re probably struggling more than me ! Or if they aren’t, they just aren’t as helpful in explaining things because they don’t have an intuitive grasp on it if that makes sense, and would rather just give me their answers.

Anyways, it’s just an overall frustrating experience, but I saw that u were accepting rants hahaha and I kinda needed to get this off my chest. What would u do in my situation? Try to maybe make some new friends? It’s hard because I try to avoid people with big egos (bc they’re annoying 😭 but sometimes they end up being the smartest/most motivated…) but I could also try going out of my comfort zone to meet new ppl, but I also have social anxiety so it’s scary hahahha

Much love 💕

hey anon,

thank you for your kind words! i'm so glad you took up my offer to rant and shared freely. lastly, i'm sorry if i'm getting back to you late. i have been away from my account for a little while and only saw this today.

now, on to what you shared- i want to begin by telling you how proud i am of you. you want to do better even when those surrounding you are complacent. that takes serious motivation. you're awesome!

as for not having someone to motivate you to do even better- i'm in a field where none of my friends or family had any experience so i was a loner for most of my career. eventually, i found people to share with but i understand where you're coming from.

i think youtube used to and still helps me the most. try to look up efficient study methods for your specific subjects or course type. now, it can get overwhelming because youtubers have their on-camera, pretty lives in extreme order.

what you want to do is start small. maybe pick one idea that you see common amongst a few videos and try implementing that. see if it works and then keep adding slowly.

remember to not overdo it. perfection is overrated and for a sincere person as yourself, it can quickly turn demotivating.

take care of yourself anon. you sound like a very pleasant person. feel free to drop by for another rant, anytime. sending you warmth and positive vibes ✨

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positivelypositive · 27 days

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I'm a highly sensitive person. I have some college but no degree. I have insurance but am scared of doctors. I have free therapy though my job but no specialists to see if I have ADHD or autism. I work customer service and have been doing that for over 20 years. When I serve people all day long I don't have much left for myself. I have pmdd and had a bad episode this month that gave me so much rage and now I'm ashamed and crying and feeling overwhelmed. They are going to change the operating systems that are job so none of us will know what we are doing.

I work customer service at a library and there's a machine with a conveyor belt that runs all day that helps to check in people's books. By the end of the day most of the full-time people are extremely disgruntled just due to the ongoing sound. We aren't allowed to wear headphones because we have to answer the phones and talk to the customers.

My boss put two more jobs for me to do while I'm not on a public desk. We get 2 hours off desk and honestly those are helpful to recharge after working with the public but my boss thinks those two off desk hours should be used to do desk work and busy work.

I'm extremely overwhelmed and afraid to advocate for myself for fear I'll look defiant. Ill be there 12 years in April. I feel like I haven't been able to have a personal life since going full time. 🙁

I took two days off from work last week and didn't work the weekend I was hoping I'd be ready to go back today. So I got dressed and drove to work and thought I hit a bird and then had a complete meltdown and then look like s*** and realized I had to be on front desk to let all the customers in. So they saw my face which made me more upset and so I told my boss I couldn't do it today and I went home. I tried to go to the park but I couldn't get out of the car and I looked a mess because I had been crying a lot.

I texted my boss and apologized and told her I was overwhelmed and told her I was sorry for leaving in a hurry. She told me to just take care of myself.

I don't want to take care of myself, I'm already worn out from taking care of everybody else.

I'm sorry this is the most rambling message ever. I don't know what to do.

hey @luckycatsgirl (couldn't tag you for some reason)

i'm sorry you're going through this but please do not apologize for ranting. i want this to be a safe space for people to ramble. you helped me feel needed so thank you for that.

what you've described sounds to me like a panic attack. now, i could be wrong since i'm not a professional but i have experience with panic attacks and would very much encourage you to look into a psychologist or a trained therapist to help you out.

we all know life is tough but we bear it to the point where any and everything becomes overwhelming. it's normal and you're not alone in feeling this way. but getting help will make sure that you live more comfortably.

i know you don't want to take care of yourself because you're worn out but being worn out itself means that you need to be cared for. a therapist or psychologist can help you understand how to do that.

please look into it, dear friend. i will be cheering for you from the other side of the screen. sending you courage and positive vibes 💜✨

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positivelypositive · 27 days

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I used to study languages but over time I forgot how to speak them. Any advice on how I should practice them myself when everyone around me only speak English? Tysm <333

hey anon,

what an interesting question. thank you for sharing.

if i were you, i would look into the "advanced" or "medium" level hardness on apps like duolingo to get back to the languages.

it's best if you can find people who speak the languages so maybe look online? just be careful because the internet can be a scary place sometimes.

as someone who is fascinated by languages but is too occupied to actually learn more, i hope you can do this!

sending you love and positive vibes 💜✨

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positivelypositive · 27 days

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Hey I've been told I'm terrible at committing to people, habits, hobbies. I want to change that. I'm stressed that I used to be able to do a lot of hobbies like music, writing, learning different skills on art but over time, I stopped. I'm in need of advice on how to get back on my groove and keep up habit to ignore everyone pressuring me not to do art or music or writing etc. I wanna do me and live my own life. How do I do that without coming to being like some insensitive person to others?

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Hi this is the anon earlier. I feel pressured by my parents on what I wanna do for living but at the same time I have no idea what I wanna do now. I love my parents and family but sometimes felt like I don't understand what they want from me but neither do they. I am not sure about what I want to do next, but I want to try and change to be a better person. At the same time, I'm stressed with societal pressure myself. I also feel like I couldn't succeed like everyone else and just felt like my life is a dead end where I'm gonna be forced to live with my parents for the rest of my life. Don't get me wrong, I love them but sometimes it feels so overwhelming to be around them and their expectations yknow? And I want to try living out my life one step at a time but I'm not sure where to start and how to say 'I want to live independently from them and see where it takes me' because I don't know how to say that and I don't really think it's possible. I just felt like if I live with them, I might just live the life they dictated instead of living the life I wanted and I don't really know if it's the correct thing to say here. Thank you for having this space.

hey anon,

thank you for feeling like you could share with me. and i'm sorry that you're going through this.

if i'm honest, i am actually in quite a similar situation right now. even though i got to choose what i do for a living, i have started to find that my life has been consumed by work so much that it's all there is to my life.

i have friends and hobbies and down time but all of that feels forced. i struggle with finding the will to actually put effort into the things i used to enjoy like reading, drawing, and painting.

i'm sorry for sharing my own troubles in response to yours but what i want to say is that you're not alone. there are more like us who are struggling but i think being aware of what the problem is is a big step towards solving it so we're on the correct track.

as for a solution, i have been thinking about this a lot lately and it's usually a matter of comparison and assumption that scares me. comparing my life to others and feeling left behind. and assuming that i will remain "left behind". when in reality, i have no proof or logic to back either claim.

left behind means nothing as a human. there's one life. if you're sincere and you persevere then you're doing okay. and assuming things that you don't know about is preemptive and often unnecessary pressure we put ourselves through. and for what?

i know how this is easier said than done but i know you and i can do it. let's introspect and see where we are and where we want to go. let's build an action plan to get there. i'm taking a therapist's help along the way and maybe you can too.

as for family, i love mine to bits and also live with them. you can love someone and still not like everything they do or say. look into creating boundaries. that helped me.

hope this helps and i'm sorry for my own rant in response. sending you hugs and positive vibes 💜✨

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positivelypositive · 1 month

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'keep going'...

...does not mean that you cannot rest.

it means that even in the face of difficulties, giving up is not the answer. rest if you must, and then pick yourself up and keep going.

you have the strength in you. keep going ✨

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positivelypositive · 1 month

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can you tell a friendship is ending?

hey anon,

i believe that unless there's an event that makes either or both friends lose trust in each other, a friendship never really ends.

yes, it may slow down. yes, you may talk less. but you're still friends. different from how you'd usually be but friends nonetheless.

you can be friends with someone and not talk to them all the time or agree with everything they say and do. that's okay.

what's not okay is feeling like a friendship is draining you or making you feel bad about yourself or making you question your trust.

i've had several friendships 'slow down' over the years. i know they're not my 'be with you in a heartbeat' kind of friends anymore but they wish me well and we share a few laughs every now and then. that's enough.

i hope i was able to help you. sending you warmth and positive vibes ✨

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positivelypositive · 1 month

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here to remind you...

...that it's still progress if it's not linear.

falling back down is normal. you're making your way out of a tough situation. setbacks are to be expected.

don't let them bring you down. keep going. keep it moving ✨

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positivelypositive · 1 month

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if it seems like...

...life is a lot for you to handle right now, then please know that it WILL get better.

life has no option but to ride the sine wave of good and bad times. it may take a while sometimes but the flip side always shows up.

keep holding on. you got this ✨

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positivelypositive · 1 month

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here to remind you...

...that if things seem too stagnant right now, then maybe it's time to take a little break.

a change in routine, a little relaxation, or even a short trip can break the monotonous circle that we sometimes get stuck in.

allow yourself to switch gears. it's okay to go slow sometimes. let yourself relax ✨

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positivelypositive · 1 month

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I've got a ton of obligations, and im stressed about it, any advice

hey anon,

i'm sorry you're stressed. you're definitely not alone in this. i'm sure that most of the people reading this are stressed about their obligations too.

not to say that your worries are unfounded or not valid. they're valid and need to be addressed for sure.

what usually helps me in such situations is to make what i call a "mega list" of tasks. i don't segregate these tasks into categories. i just dump all my to-dos into one big list.

after i'm done writing every task, big or small, i start to mark things that can be done that day itself. i also mark things that need to be divided into subtasks and do that as well.

little by little, things start to make sense. the point is to take things on, one by one. everything can seem big and scary if we let our thoughts run wild. writing them down makes them finite. and more approachable.

you can do it, anon! i'm cheering for you. sending you courage and positive vibes ✨

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positivelypositive · 1 month

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send this to someone...

...who needs to know their value in your life.

the one who helps you keep going. the one you're grateful for. the one who's your unpaid therapist. their presence in your life has only made it brighter.

you're amazed by them, everyday and hope you can bring some light to them too ✨

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positivelypositive · 1 month

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Hello, I love your sharing positivities and comforts and thank you, I appreciate it. Just know that if you have a bad, hard day, I am here.

hey @yourstrulylightstar283

that's such a sweet message. i'm so comforted to know that my words are appreciated. and thank you so much for the kind assurance 🥺 i truly appreciate it.

sending you positive vibes ✨

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positivelypositive · 1 month

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I'm so glad that you're still around posting here and there 💖

hey @annunakitty,

i'm trying ☺️ life gets the best of me sometimes but i'm trying my best too. thank you for the kind message.

sending you positive vibes ✨

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positivelypositive · 1 month

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here to remind you...

...that taking it slow from time to time is not the same as making excuses or taking the easy way out.

it shows that you care about yourself and your mental health. it's actually tougher to let the control go and slow down.

appreciate yourself for being aware enough to slow down. you deserve to take it easy and rest a little every now and then ✨

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positivelypositive · 1 month

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in moments of doubt,

i hope you can remember that you are worthy of every single good thing in your life, and more.

the negative thoughts will try to make it seem otherwise but you truly are amazing and special. believe in yourself ✨

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positivelypositive · 1 month

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here to remind you...

...that starting again is a sign of strength.

a failed attempt is not a failure. every new beginning is an indication that you refuse to give up.

you're willing to start again & again. you're strong, resilient, and brave ✨

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positivelypositive · 2 months

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did you remember...

...to take it easy on yourself today?

pushing yourself doesn't have to be too forceful. you can motivate yourself without making yourself feel stressed or pressured.

add a positive sentiment to staying motivated. it doesn't have to be too hard on you. you deserve to be handled with care ✨

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