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When women complain about men not taking responsibility over their kids and essentielly abandoning them to go have a new family after the relationship ends, why do men who don't do that feel the need to chime in with "Not all men do this, I didn't, actually my ex is the one who abandoned our kids" like why is he saying that as if women shouldn't talk about their experiences when men are the ones who obviously usually do that shit, why doesn't this man relate to the women who are put in the same situation he's allegedly in and support them?

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If your husband doesn't call you the most beautiful in the world, fucking leave him. I don't care if it's "technically not true", if he doesn't adore you more than anyone else then why the fuck are you with him? Leeeaaave I can't stress this enough. I don't take lightly on telling ppl to leave their relationships, like if a partner makes a mistake or hurts your feelings and stuff I won't say "red flag, leave immediately" but this is such a stupid ass thing and women should not be making tiktoks laughing where their husband tells them there's a woman they think is better than her, that should not be a thing. This man either doesn't love you or doesn't care about your feelings. It's not worth it. I look like a troll had a baby with the mayor of whoville and my boyfriend tells me I'm the hottest woman alive and that there's no one else he would ever want, that's how all husbands should act too, don't tolerate some fuckin man child

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In sweden we choose our career path at 15/16. They tell us not to worry, that choosing "wrong" won't affect us later in life, but it does. It's basically like we go to college at 15/16. I also realize that a lot of older people in sweden want the young people to start working summer jobs as early as possible so they can save up money. So basically in sweden you're supposed to become an adult at 15. A lot of us also move out and live alone at 15

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when I wake up from a really bad nightmare I have a hard time believing the real world is so calm. I'm scared

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tradwife pretending to not be an anti feminist slave like "one of the most important things about being a tradwife is having a hobby, something entirely just for you, for example sewing, baking or maybe idk painting or ice skating" ok but why not gaming? Why not hunting? Why not working on cars?

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Like I basically just had this conversation

me: I'm thinking about moving, because I can't find any jobs here and there are jobs in this other place

my mom: Oh you don't need to do that, just look for jobs where you live now.

me: It's not that easy, I don't want to work at mcdonalds

my mom: You're always so negative!! I can't even talk to you!!!

I hate talking about job search with people, they give me the dumbest advice as if I haven't already tried it, they might as well just say "Just look for a job!" like that's literally what they're saying and I have nothing to reply other than "it's not that easy" because I am looking and then they think I'm too negative for not saying "oh great idea I neeever thought about that before!!!!"

#It was a lot longer with more dumb advice sprinkled in

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I hate talking about job search with people, they give me the dumbest advice as if I haven't already tried it, they might as well just say "Just look for a job!" like that's literally what they're saying and I have nothing to reply other than "it's not that easy" because I am looking and then they think I'm too negative for not saying "oh great idea I neeever thought about that before!!!!"

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Okay the ranting is over, what I really want to tell you guys is a bit longer.

Back when I didn't know anything about plants, I was trying to learn from communities, group chats and such. But it went horribly because they were so arrogant, they could see no nuance and just thought they were right all the time. So you ask them about advice, they give you advice that's completely wrong and when you follow it your plants suffer. No worries, everyone makes mistakes sometimes (even me), so you go back to them and say hey your advice didn't work, what should I do? And they bash you for it and tell you you probably didn't follow their advice at all. When you ask for advice about one thing, you get advice about multiple other things you didn't ask about at all and still stand clueless. It's like half of the community is just a bunch of gaslighters and mansplainers who want to always be right and feel like they're the best. I had some really bad experiences, so I started learning from experience and books instead.

This is why, when you write me a message asking what's wrong with your plant I will write a very very ling answer where I explain mutliple things that could be wrong, and I will try to give you advice on how to investigate what could be wrong yourself, instead of just saying "this is whats wrong, do this" because I could be wrong and you know your plants life better than me.

I want you to know that when you ask me for advice I will never assume you're dumb and tell you the most obvious answer. I know I write very monotonely but that doesn't mean I'm in a bad mood, that's just how I type. And most of all, if I don't know what's wrong I promise you I will tell you that I don't know.

I'm not an expert on anything, and I ONLY know about house plants, I'm not good at herbs or outdoor plants at all. That's why I sometimes ask for advice myself. And what am I met with? We have a word in sweden, "dumförklara" it means "declare [someone] as stupid" or "explain as if [someone is] stupid". That's what I'm met with most of the time I ask for advice nowadays, so I imagine for someone who isn't an established plantblr blogger, it would be much worse

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I'm not saying I never overwater my plants, I'm saying that if I'm overwatering my plants I KNOW I'm overwatering my plants

Did you guys know I have way too many followers? Did you know I got these followers by posting about plants because I know some stuff about plants? Next time someone tells me I overwater my plants I'm going to spontaneously combust and it will be your fault

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Some of my posts got so big that if you googled the name of a plant my photos would show up and that was kinda scary for someone who's always been shy but also baffling to me as if I had achieved something. I know it's not like that anymore but just because I stopped posting about plants doesn't mean I forgot everything I know about them you see

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Today I realized I love having a dog that barks when someones at the door. I know there are some people who claim it's funny to bother other peoples dogs, but I know for a fact that 90% of humans become uncomfortable or feel like they're disturbing if they cause a dog to bark for too long.

I was not ready to open a door, had just woken up and was in the bathroom. Hadn't brushed my hair or teeth yet, and wasn't properly dressed. Someone knocks on the door. When someone does that I have an instinct to end whatever I'm doing asap and run to the door. But my door has a history of only being knocked on by people who have a key to all the apartments of the building and they don't hesitate to open the door if no one answers it, and they "forget" to call beforehand, so if I ran out of the bathroom they would definitely see me. I didn't know what to do. Even if it wasn't them, should I hurry to speedrun brushing my teeth and getting dressed just to open the door? I was stumped.

But my dog. My dog knew exactly what to do. You know how people knock on the door, then wait for a while and knock again? Nope. My dog barked so ferociously I'm certain this person didn't want to escalate it. They might've even left early because she just wouldn't stop barking. I know I would've

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Actually plantaffinity I have 17 plants which means my house is literally overfilled with plants so I'd think I know more about plants than you, an established plantblr that's been here for like 10 years and kept hundreds of plants, you probably overwater your plants all the time

Nice to see that the plant community still gives wrong advice and assumes everyones stupid, it's like it hasn't changed a single bit since 2016

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What do you mean, I can't read four articles and keep two plants and then assume I know everything???

Nice to see that the plant community still gives wrong advice and assumes everyones stupid, it's like it hasn't changed a single bit since 2016

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Nice to see that the plant community still gives wrong advice and assumes everyones stupid, it's like it hasn't changed a single bit since 2016

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Can y'all tell me who's the best carnivuoros plant plantblr??? I have questions I need to ask an expert

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I hope someone with plant knowledge is still following meee. I want to get a carnivorous plant to help get rid of my gnats!! But last time I got a carnicorous plant the gnats just started living in the moss substrate that I had the plant in and made the plant sick, so I kept it in water which worked for a little while but it ultimately died.

What should I do when I get this new plant to make it survive longer?

#plants #plantblr #plant help #carnivorous plant #Can someone recommend me a carnivorous plant plantblr????

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Women. Your body will change a thousand times over the course of your life. You can't look the same way forever, and you will never be able to achieve something like that even with rigorous surgery. It's just a fact of life. Your body changes all the time. But you know what doesn't change? When you look at pictures of yourself from 10 years ago and you think "I was so pretty back then, I wish I looked like that now". This will happen over and over and over and over and over. But 10 years ago you didn't think you were pretty, did you? You'll to through this cycle, thinking you're ugly, growing up a bit and looking back realizing you were beautiful and that now you're ugly, growing up a bit an realizing you were beautiful but noooow you're ugly. So stop it. Look at yourself. You're not a painting to be judged on how appealing it is. There is no artist that made mistakes when making you. You're a human. Humans grow and change all the time, that's what humans do and that's not something to hate. Things that are alive do this. Dogs don't stay puppies forever, but they also don't stay adults forever. They become old and grey, but they're still exactly as lovable and amazing. Maybe a flower that's wilting doesn't have as strong of a colour, but it's a part of the natural process that needs to happen in order for the plants life to continue. You can't stop time, because time is a concept we made up to explain why things grow and change. You will never stop changing because you are alive