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I guess we need to simultaneously and intently work on self awareness to channel it into better communication skills. If we don't understand what exactly we want and what we like, expecting someone else with their own entire world to somehow understand us is unfair and unrealistic. I suppose we've spent time growing up, outsourcing love to someone or the other, getting attached to people because society has drastically romanticised the idea of love to the point of a compulsion of a partner in everyone's lives, irrespective of if they fit in your life or not, are they good for you or not, and it has become cancerous. We need to step back, know ourselves and love ourselves and be with people that complete you or just seamlessly click with you, or just be alone, because employing someone to love and understand you is not the alternative or solution to putting in the work for yourself. That's when we can communicate better, because that's when we'd know better.

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Do you ever just have a breakdown over the fact that there are too many books to read, too many movies to see, too many poems to memorize, too many plays to watch, too many artworks to stare at and that you will never be able to consume all of it or is that just me

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I truly believe that there is a severe shortfall in development of effective communication skills with a lot of us today. We have grown up intrinsically expecting people to understand our thoughts and emotions to a great extent (because we've grown up around intimate individuals like our parents, who tend to gauge it to some degree, and because it's sooooo obvious to us in our heads that absolutely no one can or should miss the point). Additionally, we've grown up a generation used to instant gratification and with an outlet or source of instant validation of we don't find it in one place/person. Therefore, someone that doesn't immediately click with you, understand you, or seemlessly fit in, doesn't really need to have space in your life or mind, because there's your set of people and a place to get that confirmation and validation. I think adding to this the superficiality that social media brings to relationships, we're all constantly managing extremely fragile relationships, often walking on eggshells around people, with little room for maneauveur and tolerance, wondering where is it all going wrong, because everyone looks extremely happy and successful on social media, while in fact, most of us are drowning in loneliness, insecurities and social anxiety. I think there's a deep need to expand open communication with much greater tolerance than instant gratification can allow us and the superficiality engrained social anxiety has to be transitioned out of us to deal with individual problems, but also with several problems of the community at large.

Ps. Sorry for a random brainfart. There's a lot of loopholes and scope of detailed expansion on the thoughts above, but I was trying to prevent writing an essay here.

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Perfectionism is eating me from inside and making me feel incompetent and unworthy of anything. And everytime someone around me tells me otherwise, I feel even worse because I feel like they're just being polite and are pitying me and I start thinking that playing victim is not the solution, being productive and useful is.

“Perfectionism is a self destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame.”

— Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are

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He loneliest moment in someone’s life is when they are watching their whole world fall apart, and all they can do is stare blankly.

F. Scott Fitzgerald (via thoughtkick)

The modern world just seems like a façade that everyone puts up to seem happy and satisfied and absolutely alright. Social media has connected us more than ever, but only virtually so. I think real, genuine connection today is so rare that if you find it, you need to really keep it safe and cherish and preserve it before people spoil it. There seems to be more that divides us than ever and everyone seems to be lonelier than ever, but have no one to show that to because we all have to show social media highlights of how great things are and we are isolating ourselves more and more leading us to just stare at a toxic cycle blankly.

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Modern Loneliness

Realizing everyday how modern loneliness is entrenched in everyone’s lives today. We are constantly trying to fill that void in our hearts, the want for some real companionship (not just romantic), with all sorts of distractions - content, casual relations, hookups, more likes on social media, more virtual friends and followers, so we feel less lonely. But nothing works. Nothing really seems to work and you’re always left wondering why are you this way? Why are you not worthy for anyone to be real with you. But maybe it’s how traumatic everyone is. Maybe everyone feels the same way. Maybe we’re just stuck in a loop. I wish someone can find a way out soon.

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