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18 habits to lose to be sexually happy

We did the count: there are 18 habits to lose to increase desire and revive your libido. To get off, reach orgasm, find sexual pleasure and stop worrying, it is better to stop. Visit this to get more details.

Yes, the habit in bed can be fatal. Yes, it's good to know how to get out of it, let yourself be surprised, breathe in a little novelty. But without confusing routine and rituals. Just because you love making love on Sunday mornings doesn't mean you'll soon end up in “  Intimate Confessions  ”. It is not because you know what pleases you, and that you allow yourself to return there often, that your relationship is going to ruin. On the contrary.

 Only make love when you go to bed

By dint of making love after slipping under the duvet, we end up losing a little something of the beginnings: undressing the other. If you've been in a relationship for a while, ask yourself when you last undressed your sweetheart. How long has it been since you took off the buttons on a shirt one by one and raised your arms to have a T-shirt taken off? Unhooked a belt without looking and felt jeans running down your legs? Pulled down a fly and realized he still knew how to unzip your bra with just two fingers?

To do yourself good by making love is first of all to be able to be fully in the moment, without parasitic thoughts. Without asking what we risk, and what place to give to chance and fate in this pleasure. So if it hasn't already been done, we'll see a gynecologist once and for all and explain everything to him. Our love situation, our family plans or not, our little hiccups in health, our possible addiction to tobacco, our experiences in terms of contraception - "  the pill, I forget all the time  ", for example. And hop, after discussion, we leave with the prescription that is going well, and we can close the file for a few years.

You walk around naked all the time

Yes, it's trendy to go back to nature, but that's not a reason. It's a shame to show all the time what could be a nice secret. What if we considered total nudity a secret or a gift?

Simulate often

Afterwards, it should come as no surprise if after ten years of loud encouragement, your man continues to use your clitoris as a joystick.

Agreeing to make a sex tape for the sole purpose of pleasing your partner when you are not taking any is nice, but unnecessary and risky. Useless because the man is a woman like the others, and above all likes that the pleasure is shared. Risky because it is these little side roads taken by mistake that take us away from what we love and from who we are.

Wanting orgasm at all costs

Think of it as the icing on the cake: with it is even better, but without it is also good. In addition, it seems that it is like love and the bunch of keys: the less you look for it, the more you find it.

You wake up a little confused. Is that you still dreamed that you made love with six people at the same time - three of your exes and their sexes, who were autonomous members gifted of speech - yes good that's fine eh, it's a dream . But when your man asks you what you dreamed of, you answer him "of a unicorn who was scrapbooking in the setting sun". While telling her the truth, you would have given her precious information about your fantasies which, without needing to be satisfied, can give you plenty of ideas for words to whisper to each other and scenarios to imagine when the time comes ...

Come out all the time

If it was summer every day, we would like less sunbathing. It also works with cupcakes, your mother and lace bodysuits. All that is good should be consumed in moderation, at the risk of getting used to it. After that, you shouldn't be surprised the day you hear your boyfriend screaming in panic: "Aaaaah, what is this thing?" The ! In your drawer! »Cotton panties.

Refuse "on principle"

If there's one place you can send your preconceived ideas off, it's in your man's arms. Because you are not who you were at 17, and your lover is not the same as the one before. People change, so do situations, bed urges even more. Hence the importance of updating your desires often! How? 'Or' What ? By replacing your principles, which can prevent you from making nice discoveries, with your limits, which they will never deceive you.

Prohibit yourself from pleasing others

Since you know your good-looking colleague has a crush on you, you plan to flog yourself with Nabila's bio or become a vegetarian. Yet: 1) you haven't done anything wrong, 2) anything that makes you feel (even more) desirable is good for your morale and your libido .

 Believe that he doesn't know

Your boyfriend knows why when you wake up you love the position of the spoon, and why, when he asks you "Did you sleep well my love?" », You answer« hmmm », being careful not to open your mouth. Nor is he surprised if you place your kisses on his shoulder or in the crook of his neck. So let go: either by considering that a priori he is in the same situation as you and that one in the other (hum), it cancels out, or, if it really blocks you, by telling him that you come back in three minutes. No, not with the croissants, with better.

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How many times does a man think about sex a day or 'the white bear problem'

A few years ago, a hoax spread over the Internet, which still exists in some chains of mail and pages of dubious reputation, which claimed that men think about sex every seven seconds - some versions speak of six and others of ten. This would imply that, discounting the hours of sleep, men are thinking about sex 7,200 times a day. There is no doubt that he is an inventor, but even so, we continue to believe that men, hopelessly, are mulling over the same thing all day. Learn more details.

And there are scientists who have tried to study whether it is true. In 2011, a group of researchers from Ohio State University conducted a study , published in the Journal of Sex Research , which concluded that men think about questions related to sex about 19 times a day , while women do. about 10 times. 

The study participants, 283 men and women between the ages of 18 and 25, received a small counter with three buttons ("sex", "food" and "sleep") that they had to press each time they felt one of these three "instincts" The lead author of the research, psychology professor Terri Fisher , said that “between boys and girls there is not only a difference in terms of the amount of sexual thoughts, but also in relation to other physical needs, such as food or the dream ”. Something that he considered "very significant." We always think about what we shouldn't think about But is this really a meaningful study? Although the investigation had a great media coverage in its day (something that is not surprising given the theme) it is a good example of what is known in psychology as "the white bear problem." In 1987, social psychologist Daniel Wergner asked study participants to suppress any thoughts about a polar bear: the result was that they unwittingly ended up obsessing over the imaginary bear, which did not come out of their heads. 

The reality is that we still do not know a precise way to measure a person's thoughts without incurring the errors derived from this phenomenon, technically known as the “ironic process”. If you have a counter with the word "sex" on top, won't you end up thinking more about sex than you would if you didn't have the counter? It is not difficult to imagine the participants walking through the campus of the faculty of psychology with the counter in hand trying not to think about sex and at the same time, pressing the counter each time they did so. There was one participant who pressed the button 388 times in one day . Was this guy really thinking about sex every two minutes or was he just a victim of the experiment? Fisher himself recognized in his article the limitations of his method.  We also don't know if the participants followed the instructions and actually hit the counter every time they had a little thought that they had to write down ”.

 Another investigation, another result Researchers in Ohio are not the only ones who have studied this question, and the results of other investigations, carried out with other methods, show very different results. In 2012, social psychologist Wilhelm Hoffman and his colleagues at the Booth School of Business tried to find out how many times men think about sex using a mobile app that asked participants at random times of the day what their most recent thoughts were. The results of their research , published in the journal Psychological Science, were very different from those of their American colleagues. Only sexual thoughts were recorded, in the half hour before the alarm went off (once a day), 4% of the time.

 This was much less than what they thought about food, sleeping, washing, going out with friends, free time and, until five in the afternoon, having a coffee. Watching television, reading emails and other uses of new technologies also had more presence than sex. In fact, sex only became a predominant thought at the end of the day., around midnight, but even then there were more participants who were thinking of sleeping. Results equal to those obtained by Fisher. What study can we trust? 

According to the cognitive psychologist at the University of Sheffiled Tom Stafford , who has analyzed this research in an article on the BBC , this study is not exempt from the "white bear problem" either, since the participants knew that at some point of the day it would sound the alarm and they would have to answer what they were thinking. People could be embarrassed to think about sex during the day and not communicate it.

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