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at 12 Bones South https://www.instagram.com/p/CPtR1YKLjwh/?utm_medium=tumblr

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at The Deli Korner https://www.instagram.com/p/CPTismxrUhD/?utm_medium=tumblr

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Sorry, I could never be a capitalist, I suffer from “wanting humans to have their basic needs met” disorder, where I care about people who aren’t me.

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You have a lot of potential - but I want to remind you that you are worthy and valuable as you are right now, even if you have yet to get in touch with said potential.

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angelica pickles deserved better. her parents failed her so bad to where her only true friend had to help her grow as a person. i used to hate her, know i realize she’s just a sad girl. it’s tragic.

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Remember that most people recover from mental illness and that most of them were once convinced that they'd never recover. Being mentally ill fucks with your perspective, but if you look at the facts, most people do recover eventually no matter how hopeless their situation looked while they were really sick. Hold onto that and don't stop fighting.

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The creator of what was probably *the* Mary Sue Litmus Test back in the day has disavowed the term/test and doesn’t mince words about why.

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The postwoman was telling me this morning that our little ritual of morning coffee & gossip might come to an end next year because of new regulations for rural post offices—postmen and women in the countryside are ‘less efficient’ than their colleagues in cities, so they will now have a tracking app on their phone monitoring their whereabouts and how long they spend in each house, and will be penalised (more postboxes added to their shift) if they spend more than X minutes per postbox, because if you have time to chat for 5 minutes you have time to deliver more post, which means employing less people and saving money. The postwoman said “The guidelines only talk in terms of postboxes, 800 postboxes per day, delivering post to postboxes—this whole time I thought I was delivering post to people!… A lot of people are waiting for me outside their door when they hear me arrive, am I supposed to throw the letters at them from behind the wheel and not even leave the car to kiss them hello and ask how they are? It’s not like I stay for an hour.” 

She will also no longer be allowed to do any favours—there are elderly people living in isolated farms around here, and she (and other postmen) often offer to bring some groceries to them (which they don’t buy during their shift) in winter when the roads are bad, or meds from the pharmacy, and starting next year there will be inspectors doing surprise inspections of postmen’s cars to check for anything that is not post, with penalties if they find groceries or other stuff. I couldn’t think of why so she explained gloomily that the post company started a (paid) service to provide this kind of assistance so it is now wrong to offer the same help for free. 

We joked about having secret subversive chats over coffee next year but yeah this is all pretty depressing. She said doing people little favours (like when she offered to ask around in farms to find me some kittens to adopt, and deliver the kittens to me) and exchanging a few words to check on people and their little stories every day is what she loves about her job, and these new rules seem to have been invented specifically to make her hate her job. Capitalism makes for a really joyless, loveless society.

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Can’t wait for Americans to think Europeans stole Eurovision from them

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You're passionate You're fierce about the things you care about. Whether it's something you love or hate, you have an opinion and you're not afraid to share it. You dive head-first on projects and work until you're happy with it.

I jumped on the uquiz train! 🌈💕🎉

💕Build a care package and I’ll tell you something people love about you ✨

#positivity

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Stuff kids on tumblr better relearn

1. You are responsible for your own media experience. 

2. There is such a thing as a healthy level of avoidance towards topics that make you feel unwell or even (in a real-life clinical definition of the term) trigger you - but you are the one to actively take care of what you view.

3. Avoiding does not mean policing others.

4. You have no right to tell artists to censor themselves - you may criticize what others do, you may dislike it, that’s fine - but actively asking for censorship when you could easily unfollow or block a person just makes you look incompetent in your use of the internet.

5. Do not give people on tumblr or /any/ website the responsibility for your emotional well-being. Because these people do not even know you so no, you have no right to ask them to take care of you.

#THIS #Lately I'm mentally wishing all these teens can go back to being seen but not heard #ala old fashioned dinner party lol #you don't know who's already hurting

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also actually to make another point: get a real life outside of this website. the way this website encourages you to constantly seek out problems with everything and to be in a constant state of wearing yourself down trying to appear as a perfect progressive activist all the time so people don’t “cancel” you isn’t healthy. a lot of the discourse people get into on this website does not exist in the real world. your friends and family are not going to “cancel” you if you don’t parrot back everyone else’s opinions perfectly. you are not obligated to put every single thing you enjoy under a microscope. 

this website really encourages black and white thinking in terms of other people, ourselves, and the things we enjoy, and it’s not healthy. it’s good to be critical and conscious, but not so much so that you tear yourself down for not being perfect and can’t let yourself just have fun and enjoy stuff. 

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People often mistake “your feelings are valid” with “your reaction based on your feelings is ok”

Which isn’t the same thing

You’re entitled to how you feel. You’re not entitled to behave however you want based off of those feelings

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#anyone want to make wearing a mask and just use the religious reasons excuse #regardless of actual religious beliefs #because yeah

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Someone told me about the cognitive bias form called “curse of knowledge” the other day and I’m obsessed w/ thinking about it.

The basic premise is that it is “when an individual, communicating with other individuals, unknowingly assumes that the others have the background to understand.” Or in other words, once you learn something, you can’t at all remember what it was like to not have that knowledge or context anymore. It creates gulfs between people who have different knowledge bases who are communicating.

This has come up for me in life SO MUCH around topics of abuse, boundaries, consent, and relationship dynamics. (All types of relationships, not just romantic.) I’ve read about and studied and dissected these things to death so it’s second nature for me to talk about it. Then, I will think that a friend and I have the same values of what’s abusive or acceptable.......but then later I learn that what they meant is totallyyyyy different than me.

Or when I bump into people who truly think that thin = healthy or who don’t understand what being trans is at even the most basic level. I’m like “Jesus this asshole is hopeless” and I no longer remember what it was like back when I very FIRST learned these concepts.

It’s one thing if someone is willfully ignorant or a proud bigot. But if someone is TRULY learning something new, they need the super super basics patiently available to them so they can get the knowledge you have...and then THAT could become a bridge between you.

This “curse” feels important for me to just bear in mind before I write people off. And to just not assume that someone else and I are talking about the same thing. Maybe it’s a case where they have knowledge I don’t.

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how to train your dragon (2010) is a perfect film