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mujimilk · 4 months
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Pearls of wisdom from journaling & therapy
chasing people who ghost you, mistreat you, ignore you, is a trauma response. you're re-enacting a similar dynamic from your childhood in hopes that you can change the outcome and feel "fixed" or "worthy" of good treatment finally
you go for emotionally unavailable partners for one of 2 reasons: either your self esteem is too low and you think you don't deserve a healthy and reciprocal relationship; or you are protecting your heart by intentionally choosing someone you can't truly connect/resonate with, nor have to fully open up or get attached to
we are attracted to partners that in some way recreate the dynamic we had with our primary caregivers. ie. an emotionally unavailable parent can lead people to chase partners with avoidant attachment styles and/or emotionally unavailable
being obsessed or holding on to an ex, a situationship or unrequitted love of some kind is not always because you were "so in love with them". it's not about emotional attachment. it's about the mental attachment: to what they meant to you, how they made you feel, or a (often toxic) belief you associated with them, and by letting them go you feel you will lose some essential part of yourself (or self concept)
there is no wrong or right choice, it's about creating a foundation for yourself where you feel safe and strong enough to handle the consequences of either action. create a strong foundation within yourself, and you will achieve a newfound confidence and boldness in living the life you've always wanted, because you won't be afraid/anxious anymore of every little decision
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mujimilk · 4 months
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Removing toxic habits and refocusing your energy can be so so powerful. We are so used to indulging in unhealthy habits that drain our energy that we forget what it's like to be in tune with our creativity & inspiration. No wonder you don't feel motivated when your entire energy is wasted on doomscrolling or consuming media that is concerned with drama, comparison, and insecurities. Stop, redirect, and focus. Your energy and time is one of the most valuable things at your disposal.
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mujimilk · 4 months
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HAVING AN INTENTIONAL ROOM
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Your room is the most important place in your life. You sleep, wake up, heal and experience many emotions just in your room. You have to take care of your room, so it is spiritually the ideal place to grow into the best version of yourself. 
KEEPING YOUR ROOM CLEAN 
Keeping your room free of mess is an act of mindfulness and self-discipline that supports your overall journey and connects you with your higher self. It helps with promoting clarity, and cultivating inner balance and is an everyday self-care ritual. 
Make your bed every day. You have to respect the place in which you sleep and heal.
Hang up clean clothes after the day or put any dirty clothes in your laundry hamper, avoid tossing them on the floor. 
Find a place for everything, and know where everything is. If you do not know where each thing in your room is located, you either have too much clutter or you’re disorganised. 
Tidy up your room daily, neatly putting everything away in its place. If needed, buy a few organisers. 
Don’t leave rubbish for extended periods. Treat your room like a temple, don’t disrespect it, and pick up after yourself. 
Try to avoid eating meals in your bedroom. We forget the dirty dishes over time, and it stinks and attracts unwanted bugs. 
Change bed sheets regularly. Once a week at the most, for more hygienic reasons though. 
Remove unwanted items on your bedside table. Keep it minimal and intentional with anything you want to place on it.
Regularly clean up the dust in your room, using a duster or a damp microfiber cloth on all of the surfaces. 
ENCOURAGING GROWTH IN YOUR LIFE
A room designed to encourage inner growth serves as a physical reminder of your commitment to self-improvement, personal development, and overall well-being. It creates an environment helpful to improvement, self-reflection, and positive change.
Keep specific areas of your room designated to one task in your life. For me, my desk is for productivity, my bed is for resting or relaxing and my bedroom floor is for mindful activities. 
Throw away any items that do not serve a purpose to you anymore. Avoid keeping items that bring you painful or harmful memories.
Minimise the presence of technology in your room. I suggest having zones in your room which is device-free or having a time of day in which devices are not allowed in your room. 
Create a vision board poster in your room that you can see every day, which helps to visualise and motivate you to create your dream life. 
Place meaningful quotes, affirmations, mantras or prayers as reminders of the values, mindsets or intentions you wish to cultivate in your life.
Display personal achievements. If you won any awards or certificates, place them in a way in which you can view them every day. If you have done something in your life that you think is an achievement but have no award to display, just simply create your own. Buy some balsawood and glue it together to create your own medal. 
Place items that align with the habits or routines you want to cultivate in your life so that they are easily accessible. Put a workout mat in the corner, always have your journal on your desk or have a cold water bottle ready to go when you wake up. 
3. DECORATING YOUR ROOM TO REFLECT YOU
Decorating your room in a way that reflects your true self brings a sense of authenticity and comfort. It creates a nurturing environment that allows for self-expression, reflection, and personal growth which ultimately contributes to your journey of inner development.
Make a mood board or vision board of how you would want your room to look, how it supports you and how it makes you feel. Choose a colour scheme in this process as well.
Add candles or incense that you think embodies who you are, or who you want to be. For example, if I want to be a cleaner person, I would choose a candle that smells like fresh linen. 
Put up posters of things that you like, people who you look up to or anything that expresses who you are.
Add a canopy to your bed while you sleep. So cute, and I believe it helps protect you from any unwanted energy entering through you while you sleep. 
Add a rug, even if you already have carpet, to enhance the cozy ambience of the room. 
An ottoman at the end of the bed can elevate your room to look more expensive, if needed, it can also be an organiser for your extra things. 
Put life in your room, adding low-maintenance plants or flowers can liven it up. A little extra, research some plants or flowers meaning’s and pick one that resonates with you. 
Display any of your favourite jewellery, bags, clothing pieces, or make-up around your room. A nice way to appreciate what you have, without actually using them. 
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mujimilk · 4 months
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things to do before 2024
digital declutter: unfollow people I don't interact with and follow people and follow people who inspire me
environment declutter: clean bedroom/bathroom/kitchen and throw out what I don't need
finances: start being financially literate and use my income and expense tracker
reflection of 2023: what went well? what didn't?
create daily and weekly systems to implement next year to achieve my goals (using cue, response, reward system)
vision board for 2024: what do I hope to achieve and how will I do that?
what are my energy givers and energy takers? what can I do next year to decrease energy takers and focus on my energy givers?
set goals and take steps to schedule time to achieve that
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mujimilk · 5 months
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Quck list of soft productivity tips
Hello girlies, welcome to another blog! On this one I will write down quickly all the productivity tips that have helped me to have an consistent lifestyle in a soft and more femenine focused way.
We are femenine beings, our energy levels aren't like the ones of men, so we have to stop managing our life like them (same energy everyday, be quick, focus on achieving, etc..) and do it in a way that let's us do our tasks based on our necesities and letting our energy be free!
My tips
Plan your day according to your energy levels
Prioritize the hardest tasks + Use the Eisenhower matrix
Make a to-do list, focused on 3 mainly tasks
Reward yourself
Positive and clean environment
Get rid of distractions
Take breaks
2 minute rule - It takes less than 2 minutes? Do it
5 minute rule - Apply a timer and do that task for 5 minutes
Apply deadlines for yourself
Create systems to keep track
Already working on something? Try to do something else (for future ease and saving time)
Extras
Switch mindset: Discipline < Devotion
Good mood changes everything. Things will be easier and faster and you'll be more focused.
Good health transforms you. Without it, there's nothing
Focus on the positive to attract good things
Focus on what causes and impact in your life
Let yourself prioritize time to have fun and rest
Take things easy and slowly
Live in the present moment
Let's be succesful by grace! See you in my next blog 𑄽𑄺ྀ
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mujimilk · 5 months
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Takeaways from my mentor 
I meet with my mentor as and when he’s available. He manages my family’s money and he’s very good at what he does - his firm manages about $5 billion, and I have great conversations with him. 
I don’t want to talk too much about him, but he came from a lower middle class background and today is wealthy beyond comprehension. He could buy a plane or two in the middle of the night if he wanted. 
Today we focused a lot of personal growth in my career. 
He gave me two books - The Inheritors by Sonu Bhasin and Fortune’s Children by Arthur Vanderbilt.
 
Here are some brief takeaways: 
Work backwards from the outcome you want. 
Define the outcome of where you want to be and plan it backwards to your current position. 
2. Eliminate, eliminate, eliminate. 
Life is all about elimination. Don’t focus  on your weaknesses, focus on your strengths. Eliminate all the things you know you’re not good at, you have no interest in and that make you depressed. 
3. Intellectual honesty. 
Be honest with yourself about things you are good at and are not.  The easiest person to fool is yourself. 
4. Read one business biography a week. 
Everything you’re going in life, there’s a 99% chance someone else has gone through it and come out of it victorious. He also mentioned this article.
5. Outline 3 strengths and 3 weaknesses.
 
6. (In business/ corporate careers) You’re either primarily an investor (you’d rather fund companies and start ups than start them), an operator (you’d rather build something hands on), or a manager (you’d rather periodically manage something hands off. Like for instance you could have your own franchise bakery chain where you don’t need to exercise minute control over every franchise but you still ensure that there’s some managing done from your part). 
7. Do not have extreme ideologies at this age. 
Not when it comes to religion, politics, etc. 
8. Emotions, money and your time are something you need to be ruthless about. Absolutely ruthless. 
Be careful about the friends you have and the influence they have on you. 
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mujimilk · 5 months
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How to Wake Up Early
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I always wanted to be one of those girls who would wake up early, go for a run and be super productive with their mornings. The issue is - i really love sleep. Every time i would start a routine, i would eventually fail. I would wake up to turn the alarm off, think to myself “5 mins more” and boom- it’s suddenly 8:30 am and i need to leave for work in less than 1 hour.
Two videos on YouTube really changed my mind. One was Andrew Huberman’s, and the other was Jihyo, a k-pop star.
I came across Andrew Huberman’s video about dopamine, and somehow, it helped me to understand why the difficulty waking up early is so important. Now I’m no expert of neuroscience, but let me explain to the best of my abilities.
Dopamine is essentially the build up to the reward; it is not the reward. It is the satisfaction and happiness you feel (when your body releases), after you have achieved something that was painful/ required you to struggle a bit. In order to receive this reward, you have to feel pain, because pain and satisfaction are directly related to each other. Satisfaction without pain is useless and does nothing for you essentially.
That got me wondering: for me, waking up early is difficult. It’s painful. I dont want to do it. But if I do it, its my first win of the day. It’s the first challenge I have overcome of that day, and I always do feel amazing after. The dopamine release after the struggle of waking up and winning the battle of not going back to sleep is definitely there. I feel more confident because a) I have done the “right” thing b) selfishly, i can do something so simple that a lot of people struggle with c) it weirdly makes me feel more confident and like I’m doing the first step of being an adult right.
Jihyo’s video was quite random - she did some show where it shows her daily life when she’s not working. Parts of it made me feel like she’s unable to just relax with herself (probably because her body and mind are so used to chaos, performing, her girl group living together for so many years) so she busies herself a lot. I took the positives from the video; she’s extremely disciplined which I admired, she gets her chores done, she’s good at ensuring that her space is truly her space.
So I decided to build a relatively foolproof routine; but mind you, it does require quite a bit of willpower.
I’ve developed a habit of waking of waking up at 5 am. I head straight for a 30-45 minute meditation and then at least an hour long workout. I stack my habits that way; right after meditation, I put on my running shoes. I used to really struggle with waking up, even if I had to wake up late. This is the strategy that worked me, see if it works for you.
1. Reset your space the night before
This makes you feel less stressed in the morning and also genuinely makes you feel like you have your shit together. Put your clothes away, keep your bag in its place, clean up your desk, reorganise your make up and skin care products. You’re going to go to sleep and wake up to a clean space.
Make sure you define both your bedtime and wake up time. My bedtime is 9:30 pm - so i manage my chores, reading, dinner, everything around that.
2. Early dinner
I’ve noticed that early dinners help me sleep better. I’ve built the habit of casually walking for 25-30 minutes post dinner (not right after eating, after about 15 mins). I’m not walking fast to a point where I’m sweating and puffing, I’m casually strolling outside. During this time, I don’t listen to music, interact with anyone or my phone. I use this time to connect with myself and think about whatever I feel like.
3. No devices before sleeping
I don’t want to stimulate myself before sleeping, so I prefer reading before bed. If you don’t like reading, you can instead do your skincare, maybe revise some physical study notes, etc.
4. Using Alarmy app
This app is torture and I swear by it. This little thing makes you a solve a challenge of your choice in order to make the alarm stop, like math problems, puzzles, etc. I chose 5 math problems.
5. Keep your phone across the room
Don’t charge it near your reach. Keep it as away from you as possible.
6. Stand for two minutes after shutting off the alarm
Don’t allow yourself to snooze, or go back to bed. This is the part that really requires you to tell yourself: “i am not going back to sleep. I’m going to wake up and do the things I have to do for my own benefit.” Remember - the states of heaven and hell are not outside of you, they’re inside you. They are mental states. You have to fight with your lazy demon and tell him/her/whoever that NO; we are NOT going back to bed.
I charge my phone across the room so that forces me to walk first thing in the morning. To stop myself from going back to sleep, after i have shut the alarm off, i just stand for 2 minutes. I dont sit, or go back to bed. I stand and tell myself, we’re doing this. We’re going to wake up and have an amazing day.
Your mind is like a child with tantrums and mood swings. Your rational self has to discipline your mind the way a parent would to a child.
7. Turn a small light on
Not something that is jarring or overwhelming, but enough to help you start waking up. I turn my phone’s flashlight on and keep it on my desk.
8. Be consistent, even on weekends
The biggest mistake you can make is not being consistent. Your body doesnt recognise weekends, your mind does. Your body doesn’t know that tomorrow is Monday, so its time to wake up early. By staying consistent (yes, I wake up at 5 am on weekends too), it allows my body to develop its own body clock and not wrecking the system I’ve kept in place.
What do I do if I have a late night?
It really depends. Let’s say I come home relatively early (+2 hours around my bedtime) around 11 pm, and im in bed by 11:30. I’ll wake up somewhere close to 5 am, like 6 am instead. The next day I ensure I’m in bed by the bedtime I’ve kept for myself and wake up at 5 am again.
If I come home really late, like 3 am - i keep my alarm exactly 8 hours from that time. I need to get sleep, but oversleeping is an issue and that wont allow me to wake up early the next day. I want to get enough sleep where im rested for the day, but not excessively. Unfortunately, sleeping so late would definitely mean that i wont be able to fall asleep at my dot 9:30 pm bedtime, but i turn the lights off and get ready to sleep by then anyway, and mentally prepare for my 5 am wake up call.
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mujimilk · 5 months
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during october, i got a new phone, got into a relationship, and now a new macbook. this doesn't help fill the void of the feeling that i'm not doing enough or that i haven't accomplished enough. when i enjoy something, i throw myself into that thing without a care of anything else and right now that's my relationship and it's still new! i must take it slowly and not rush through anything. i will make time for myself and continue to do things on my own :)
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mujimilk · 6 months
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Prior to going on my healing journey, I was advised by people I respect to do certain things.. and I thought "absolutely not". I was very against a lot of the suggestions. Thought they were things I would never do and absolutely did not interest me.
There were a few reasons why I began my healing journey, and if you have been following me for a while, you know that it is something I wished I would have focused on before I even started my career and became something I now recommended to others.
Now, not only do I naturally want to do those things, or even have incorporated the things I was advised to do into my life. But I can not believe I did not do them, or had an interest before. Now, I am very aligned with that reality and it just makes sense.
Those things were not me before. But I was also not happy with me. And not the person I wanted to be either.
Things in life make sense when we are ready for them to make sense. We can't force it. It has to align naturally with the person we are for it to "work". It did not work before because it was not natural. All of the things I needed to do, the person I needed to become, it was all part of a larger plan that I was not ready to to see until I gave myself the opportunity to see it.
If i did not take the time to work on myself, if would not have opened up my mind. I would not have been ready as the person I needed to be, to accomplish the things I wanted to accomplish.
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mujimilk · 6 months
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Having a stu-pen-dous time studying.
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mujimilk · 6 months
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I went on my first solo date yesterday!! I was really nervous (and also lost out on some money because I couldn't get a refund for my friend who wasn't going). I went to the theaters to watch one of my favorite movies Howl's Moving Castle and got to see all of my favorite scenes except BIG and it was a lot of fun and then I got mcd's afterward :")
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mujimilk · 6 months
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social media has really warped our perception of creativity and hobbies. Stop doing things to post them. Just write. Just journal. Just sketch. Just read. Just annotate. Just sing. Just crochet. Just do the thing you’re going to do with the assumption no one will ever see or know you did it. Stop performing. Just enjoy it.
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mujimilk · 6 months
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Put your intention out there, and continue on with your life. Don’t obsess over what you want. Don’t worry about how it’s going to arrive. Don’t cling to the outcome. Assume it’s on the way, and move on.
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mujimilk · 6 months
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I don’t do revenge, but i can ignore your entire existence
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mujimilk · 6 months
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