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“Just because you can feel another person’s emotions doesn’t make you responsible for them.”

— Sarah Brooke

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You’re lighting up  my flame  from the inside. How did you get in? I don’t even know  how to get in.

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“To have someone understand your mind is a different kind of intimacy.”

— Unknown

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“I’m not who I was one year ago and maybe, just this once, change is good.”

— E. Grin

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me staring up at my ceiling every night since i’ve graduated college: oh no the horrors

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I came across a TikTok that Limerence is in a state of low serotonin, but high dopamine...which is a state of anticipation. Which means during Limerence you are in a state of anticipation for love that you feel could heal your deepest wounds. Which is why it's so addicting.

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Limerence is a trauma response and anyone who enjoys the “attention” isn’t thinking of your best interests

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my take on the whole “is therapy speak making us selfish” thing is no, it’s not. it’s just giving people who were already selfish some extremely annoying new vocabulary

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success in dating looks like this

the women i know who are winning the dating game, getting everything they want and more all have the same qualities

great self esteem and self image, they know they’re a catch and they act like it

great inner monologue, they speak highly of themselves out loud but also in their head, they don’t compare, criticize, compete or belittle themselves

they have an abundance mindset, they’re never in a hurry to be exclusive with anyone, they know that what one guy can’t do another guy will do gladly

they have a “it’s either a a hell yes or a hell no” mindset, low effort and mixed signals are equal to disinterest, if a a guy isn’t highly enthusiastic and actively pursuing them, they don’t give them the time of day

they focus on action as opposed to words, they prioritize logic over feeling, and they look at results as opposed to promises,

they enjoy their own company aka “rather be alone than unhappy”, they don’t look at men as saviors but rather contributors, they only engage in relationships that benefit them and add to them rather than take from them

they follow their feminine intuition, if they feel bad vibes about a man they don’t wait for physical proof or for the other shoe to drop, they simply exit that relationship

they have highly interesting lives outside. of their relationships with men, they have great hobbies, friendships, they take care of their health, finances spirituality, dating is just one aspect of life out of many for them

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Your standards are there to protect you, so that you can find the right person who fits your life. They aren’t there for you to make demands and try to force people to meet you at a level you already know they are not. It’s not about anything other than your own protection and peace.

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don't be afraid of the solitude that comes with raising your standards.

-ebonee davis

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I think that to find true acceptance with being alone and being completely by yourself and/or finding wholeness within yourself, you have to learn to release your fears regarding not ever getting everything that you so deeply crave and desire. If everything that I ask for and wish for in my personal relationships is not given to me I need to learn to be okay with making sacrifices and cutting my losses instead of settling out of comfort and fear. Once you’re okay with removing things out of your orbit because they aren’t serving you or giving you what you’ve asked and what you desire, you can truly say you are secure and at peace with being alone and yourself.

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“You cannot make everyone think and feel as deeply as you do. This is your tragedy, because you understand them but they do not understand you.”

— Daniel Saint

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Trista Mateer, "Spun Sugar", from Honeybee

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"You ever been so disappointed in someone that you forgive them and don't say anything, but in your head you detach yourself from them completely."