right now if my life were a movie it would be an ironic but inspiring hallmark inspired movie about an autistic girl moving back to her hometown and figuring out adulthood. here's how it'd go:
background: years ago she moved to the city for college in hope of leaving small minded people behind and finding people who really got her. she does find a welcoming community and "great" friends, but only to sadly lose them over a depressive episode where she gets diagnosed as autistic.
here's where the story picks up: now finishing college, she's trying to figure out how to adult with the added pressure of being autistic and her newfound identity and support systems that came with her diagnosis. she's looking for jobs in her area of study that she could actually tolerate with limited success and even smaller prospective paychecks. then, to her surprise, she finally gets a good job offer, but it comes with a downside: it's not remote as she'd expected, but in her hometown, so she must move back.
so now she has to figure out how to adult and build a life for herself in a new environment set somewhere she ran away from, all while learning to navigate her autistic identity. will she find a healthy lifestyle, a career she likes, friends, or love amongst bitter old memories? watch and find out
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me, starting my thesis on design applied to organisational systems for autistic adults, right on autism awareness week?? more likely than you'd think
****pls if you're autistic and have found a tip or planning thing or something thta has helped you, let me know!!!!****
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not binary or nonbinary but a secret third thing
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Can I just quickly take the time to talk about how much I love Quinn from Heartbreak High as an autistic person. FINALLY an autistic character who loves fashion, makeup, and partying and is really intelligent WHILE at the same time having real autism struggles and problems
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srry for the rant but i’ve gotta defend jane and julio for a bit
seeing heartstopper fans calling jane and julio bad parents is making me so sad. like i know that most heartstopper fans probably are teenagers so they haven’t realized yet how parents are just human too, how growing up and having kids doesn’t make you feel like you’re good at adulting or good at parenting, that they too probably feel out of depth often and just learn how to do things by doing them most of the time, which includes parenting (ik that’s not ideal and starting to change but their generation is like that). (ok yeah, jane and julio remind me of my parents)
the thing is, parents not getting their kids and the kids not coming to their parents for support is extremely common, especially with reactionary punitive parenting (aka what most parents automatically do) such as jane and julio’s, and when their kids are mentally ill, like charlie, that’s likely to create a bigger distance between them and their kids before they learn how to best deal with it, which Takes Time. yeah that’s not ideal, but that’s reality, and i really think they will try their best to become better for their kids. jane and julio aren’t bad parents, they’re just humans making mistakes and learning from them.
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the queer experience of only having someone you’re into like you too already as an adult but not knowing how to act because you’ve never gotten this far before
but x100000 cause you’re also autistic
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Janet Fish (American, b. 1938), Five Bertolli Bottles, 1971. Oil on canvas, 48 x 72 in.
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not to be a nerd but it’s so crazy how he (Bernini) really did that from cold hard stone……. truly a spectacle, truly breathtaking, an honor to behold
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I wish people would quit the “no one can love you if you don’t love yourself” when facts are that we learn how to love ourselves through being loved by other people. Being loved is an integral part of loving yourself and there’s nothing shameful about needing it.
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I hate that the stock response for "I'm lonely/I feel undervalued by my loved ones/I want a romantic partner" is "well do you value YOURSELF? You need to learn to enjoy being alone!" as if lonely people aren't very intimately familiar with being alone. Self esteem and love are important but they're not substitutes for companionship or friendship or romance and pretending that loneliness is a personal failure that can be fixed by self-improvement feels not only delusional but pretty cruel
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Source: Lesbian; Sacred Sexuality- by Diane Mariechild & Marcelina Martin
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i just had my second and final assessment appointment and I’M AUTISTIC and adhd and ocd (i definitely didn’t see that last one coming), on top of my anxiety and depression, ofc. tbh i really hadn’t expected to have 5 diagnosis, but i guess that’s still better than if it turned out i wasn’t autistic or didn’t have adhd like i’d feared cause either of these outcomes would have made me feel like i was losing my mind. now wish me luck cause i’m gonna need treatment from a neurologist, a psychiatrist AND a therapist all specialized in autism and that sounds both expensive and hard to find, yikes
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Normal People, Jane Austen, and the Romance of Walking Around by @snoopysfriendwoodstock
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completely unprompted reminder that most countries with great healthcare either do not allow disabled immigrants or purposely make it extremely difficult for disabled immigrants to become citizens
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i forgot a fucking JOB INTERVIEW today. like i woke up and was like “ok gotta remember that and set an alarm for a few minutes before” and then promptly forgot and took a too long nap even though i’d woken up at 2 pm. my focus and sleep schedule have been extra bad since i went to a party last saturday, and i tell myself everyday today will be different but still can’t focus and end up going to bed way too late. and i’d just gotten into a good sleeping schedule, ugh. like, i’d stay out late often before the pandemic and it would barely affect me, but since the pandemic it feels like everything takes more effort and little things hit me harder.
fuck the pandemic for completely changing my life and making me isolate for 2 years, now it’s like i unlearned all the progress i felt i’d made coping with being autistic and i’m as lost as i was back in high school, except now i’m bad at uni cause i can’t focus on shit instead of hyperfocusing on school and being a star student. i just want to get diagnosed so that i can start treatment and feel like i can do ok at uni again and get and be good at a job instead of feeling useless and unhepful to society. btw also fuck medical misogyny cause maybe if they’d paid attention earlier to how autism manifests in girls and women i’d gotten diagnosed earlier and wouldn’t have fucked up my executive function so much
good news is i scheduled an appointment for the end of the month with a neuropsychologist that’s specialised in autistic women (!!!! finally found one, only took me 7 months lol) to get a diagnosis, AND my parents now actually believe i’m autistic (they read an article about asperger’s syndrome and thought i had it, then i explained that’s autism lol)
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